Sexology

Welcome to Episode 456 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Allana Pratt, Annette Benedetti, Caitlin V, Dr. Margaret Cochran, Rob Kancler, Susan Bratton, and Sylvia Solit who help me answer one powerful question: What’s one thing women wish men knew about sex, but almost never say out loud?Across this conversation, our guests share profound insights into how women truly experience desire and intimacy. You’ll hear why slowing down, building safety, and creating emotional connection are essential foundations for passion. We discuss the hidden fantasies and longings that many women never voice, the importance of curiosity and play, and how sex is far more than just physical technique, it’s a whole-body, mind, and spirit experience. Our guests also emphasize how communication itself can be deeply erotic, and that balancing sensitivity with power opens the door to deeper intimacy.In this episode, you will hear:·      Allana Pratt On Safety And Slow Build-Up·      Annette Benedetti On Hidden Desires·      Caitlin V On Whole-Body Sex·      Dr. Margaret Cochran On Why Talk Is Sexy·      Rob Kancler On Sensitivity And Power·      Susan Bratton On Seduction And Play·      Sylvia Solit On Sex As A Continuum·      Women’s Bodies And Arousal Timing·      Overcoming Shame And Cultural Scripts·      Integrating Emotional And Spiritual ConnectionTake My Optimal Performance Course and Say Goodbye to Erectile Unpredictability and Unlock Endless Potential in the Bedroom! Thank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 455 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Dr. Elisabeth Sheff who speaks to me about consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, and soloamory.In this episode, Dr. Eli shares her personal journey navigating relationships with both monogamous and polyamorous partners, and how those experiences shaped her professional research. We talk in-depth about "soloamory" which refers to prioritizing one's relationship with themselves, often in the form of self-love. It is a form of autosexuality/autoromance and a conscious choice to live a single life, valuing autonomy and personal growth over traditional relationship milestones like marriage or cohabitation. Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff is a researcher, expert witness, coach, speaker, and educational consultant. With a PhD in Sociology and certification as a Sexuality Educator from AASECT, Dr. Eli specializes in gender and sexual minority families, consensual non-monogamy, and kink/BDSM. Sheff is the foremost academic expert on polyamorous families with children, and her 25+ year Polyamorous Family Study is the only longitudinal study of poly families with children to date. In this episode, you will hear:·      Defining Consensual Non-Monogamy·      Understanding Polyamory And Soloamory·      How Early Relationships Shape Our Beliefs·      Mono-Poly Relationship Dynamics·      Distinguishing Between Jealousy And Insecurity·      Why Some People Are Wired For Multiplicity·      The Role Of Autonomy In Healthy Relationships·      Healing Through Solo Amory And Self-Love·      The Importance Of Therapy And The Right Therapist Fit·      Resources And Tools From Dr. Elizabeth SheffThank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 454 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I’m excited to be joined by Sam L. Feldman, who speaks to me about ethical non-monogamy, swinging, and the evolution of sexual liberation across the decades.In this episode, Sam shares insights from his book Hookups, Hiccups and Happenstances, which reflects on the changing landscape of sexuality from the 1960s and 70s through to today. We discuss the social shifts that empowered women during this period, the origins of swinging, and how personal boundaries and communication have shaped Sam’s own 62-year marriage.Married for 61 years and counting, Sam is an excellent spokesperson on love and the many ways it can be explored. A number of the “hookups” he writes about in his book come from his real experiences of being in “the right place at the right time” during the Sexual Revolution. He also says he invented a sex position in this era. The position he's dubbed "the corkscrew” takes three people, unlike his other favorite position: 69.In this episode, you will hear:·      Evolution Of Sexual Liberation In The 60s And 70s·      Origins Of Swinging And Key Clubs·      Women’s Empowerment And Reproductive Rights·      Sam’s 62-Year Marriage And Communication Pact·      Seven Rules For Navigating Non-Monogamy·      Boundaries Between Love And Sex·      Transparency And Openness In Long-Term Relationships·      How Date Nights Strengthen Connection·      Addressing Jealousy In Non-Monogamy·      Swinging Culture And Common MisconceptionsThank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 453 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I’m excited to be joined by Serenity Cox and partner Timothy of WIFEY, who speak with me about their journey into the hotwifing lifestyle and how it has shaped their relationship.In this episode, Serenity and Timothy share how their interest in hotwifing began as fantasy and roleplay, before eventually evolving into real-life exploration. We discuss the turning point in their relationship during the pandemic, how they navigated their first experiences, and the emotional challenges and growth that came with moving from imagination into reality.Serenity Cox is a Canadian adult performer and content creator who transitioned from a successful career as an ER nurse to becoming one of the industry’s most sought-after stars. Since starting her career, she has gained massive popularity through independent content creation and collaborations with major studios, earning multiple awards, including the 2024 xHamster Creator of the Year and the 2025 XBIZ XMA Fan Award for ‘Favorite MILF Performer’.In this episode, you will hear:·      Defining Hotwifing·      Fantasy vs. Reality in Relationships·      The Pandemic as a Turning Point·      Emotional Challenges and Surprises·      Importance of Reconnection Rituals·      Navigating Jealousy in Non-Monogamy·      Safety Practices and STI Testing·      Communicating Fantasies with a Partner·      Managing Cultural Stigma Around CNM·      Resources for Exploring HotwifingThank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 452 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Roy Graff who speaks to me about relationship anarchy, consensual non-monogamy, and the importance of communication in alternative relationship structures.In this episode, Roy shares his deeply personal journey from decades of serial monogamy to embracing polyamory as an orientation and ultimately finding resonance in the philosophy of relationship anarchy. We explore the difference between open relationships and ethical non-monogamy, the role of emotional maturity, and how boundaries and communication can transform romantic connections. Roy Graff is a Psychosynthesis Relationship Counsellor based in London, UK. Drawing on his training and over nine years of experience facilitating workshops and group work, Roy supports clients in exploring the full spectrum of their physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual dimensions. His practice is inclusive and affirming of Gender, Sex, and Relationship Diversity (GSRD), welcoming LGBTQ+ individuals and those in non-monogamous relationships. In addition to his counselling work, Roy is a relationship coach specializing in alternative and non-traditional relationship dynamics, helping individuals and partners build resilience, improve communication, manage conflict, and deepen empathetic, conscious connections.In this episode, you will hear:·      Roy’s Journey From Serial Monogamy To Polyamory·      How Relationship Anarchy Challenges Social Norms·      The Difference Between Ethical And Unethical Non-Monogamy·      Why Communication Is The Foundation Of Alternative Relationships·      Navigating Jealousy And Emotional Triggers·      The Role Of Boundaries In Polyamorous Dynamics·      Strategies For Sharing Information About Other Partners·      Understanding The “Relationship Escalator”·      How Solo Polyamory Works In PracticeThank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 451 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Dr. Joli Hamilton who speaks to me about navigating non-monogamy, jealousy, and building healthy polyamorous relationships.In this conversation, I invite Joli to share the very human, very messy path she took from a long-term monogamous marriage into consensual non-monogamy. We talk about how a simple crush, paired with new language for polyamory, sparked courageous but complicated conversations, the pitfalls of working with clinicians who default to monogamy, and the painful social narratives that cast open-relationship exploration as “cheating” even when no boundaries are crossed. Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines & founder of The Year of Opening. She is a depth psychologist, TEDx speaker, best-selling author, and AASECT (pronounced ay-sect) certified sex educator. Joli co-hosts the Playing with Fire podcast. Joli’s been featured in The New York Times, CNN, Vogue, Cosmo, and NPR. She’s spent the past two decades studying and reimagining what love can be if we open our imaginations to possibility. Joli helps people create non-monogamous partnerships that are custom-built for their authentic selves, no more shrinking, pretending, or hiding required.In this episode, you will hear:·      From Monogamy To Non-Monogamy: A Real-Life Origin Story·      Why Honesty Without Skills Still Hurts·      The Therapist Fit Problem In CNM·      Naming Feelings vs. Trying To Erase Them·      Jealousy Happens - Bans Make It Worse·      Agreements, Not Assumptions·      Breakup And Aftercare In Polyamory·      Parenting And Cohabitation Considerations·      Nervous System Tools For Regulation·      Defining Your Own CNM Script Over Time Thank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 450 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Carrie Jeroslow who speaks to me about exploring monogamish relationships, communication, and relationship diversity.In this conversation, Carrie unpacks the term “Monogamish,” originally coined to describe a space between strict monogamy and fully open relationships, and shares how transparency, not secrecy, became the cornerstone of her own early experiences with non‑monogamy. We talk through the realities behind the “ish”: clunky starts, learning curves, aftercare, and the deep inner work that jealousy often invites.International Best-Selling Author and Relationship Diversity Advocate, Carrie Jeroslow, is passionate about bringing intentionality into intimate relationships by releasing the programming of what we’re taught relationships SHOULD be and shifting to what we really WANT them to be. This highly personal process requires getting to know one's ever-evolving self as intimately as possible. She believes that when we learn and accept who we truly are, we can be more authentic in our relationships with others, which brings an unparalleled sense of joyfulness and fulfillment to our lives as a whole.In this episode, you will hear:·      Defining Monogamish·      Honesty Over Secrecy·      Aftercare And Debriefs·      Becoming Intimate With Jealousy·      Updating Inherited Beliefs·      Boundaries You Can Revisit·      Move At The Slowest Partner’s Pace·      Culture, Labels, And Flexibility·      Communication As A Core Skill Thank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex.Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 449 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I’m excited to be joined by Jackie Goldschneiderwho speaks to me about eating disorders, body image, recovery, and how all of this intersects with sexuality and pleasure.In this conversation, Jackie shares the raw, unglamorized realities of living with anorexia for two decades, much of it while in the public eye. We explore her “inherited food trauma,” the cultural pressure of the 90s, and how secrecy, rules, and constant tracking kept her illness alive. Jackie opens up about the pivotal moment at 45 when health scares and a second rock bottom pushed her to choose recovery, tell her husband, and assemble a true treatment team to address the mental, physical, and emotional layers of healing.Jackie Goldschneider is an author, activist, speaker and a longtime cast member of The Real Housewives of New Jersey.  Before joining the show, Jackie was an attorney and freelance journalist, and has contributed extensively to publications including Good Housekeeping, HuffPost and Scary Mommy, and wrote a weekly parenting column for New Jersey's The Record newspaper for several years. Her debut memoir, The Weight of Beautiful, was published by ‎Simon and Schuster in September 2023. Since then, Jackie has been a nationally recognized advocate for eating disorder recovery.In this episode, you will hear:·      Inherited Food Trauma And Early Body Shame·      Fifteen Years Of Anorexia Hidden In Plain Sight·      Strategic Eating To Outsmart Cameras And Castmates·      Recovery As A Lifelong, Nonlinear Commitment·      Malnutrition’s Toll On Hormones, Estrogen, And Libido·      Therapy, Dietitian, And MD: A Three-Person Care Team·      Boundaries Around Body And Food Comments Are Essential·      Reclaiming Pleasure, Playfulness, And Nakedness In Sex·      Breaking Secrecy By Confiding In A Loved One Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 448 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Dr. Kate Balestrieri, who speaks to me about navigating low desire and reigniting intimacy in long‑term relationships.In this conversation, Kate and I normalize the reality that everyone, including sex therapists, experiences fluctuations in sexual desire. She shares the multifaceted story behind her own temporary drop in libido, touching on burnout, perimenopause, pandemic stress, and relationship “growing pains.” Dr. Kate Balestrieri, Psy.D is a Licensed Psychologist (Clinical and Forensic) in CA, FL, NY and IL. She is a Certified Sex Therapist, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist – Supervisor, and PACT III trained couples’ therapist. The Founder of Modern Intimacy, a nationwide therapy practice, Dr. Balestrieri is a passionate advocate for mental, relational and sexual health. Throughout her work, Dr. Balestrieri focuses on helping people build resilience and recovery from what ails them to move from a position of pain or discomfort to one of thriving, holistically in their lives. Dr. Balestrieri is the author of What Happened to My Sex Life? A Sex Therapist’s Guide to Reclaiming Lost Desire, Connection and Pleasure, and is the host of the Get Naked with Dr. Kate podcast.In this episode, you will hear:·      Normalizing Fluctuating Desire·      Multifaceted Roots Of Low Libido·      Love–Lust Divide In Long‑Term Bonds·      Stress And Burnout As Desire Dampeners·      Role Of Novelty And Mystery·      Dangers Of Obligatory Or “Pity” Sex·      The 30% Orgasm Gap Explained·      Embodiment And Pleasure Practices·      Rekindling Passion With Intentional Effort It’s back, our L.A. Love Lab – Matchmaking Event! Happening Saturday, October 4, 2025 in Manhatten Beach, California with Dr. Moali and Dr. E…we hope you can join us and let us work our matchmaking magic on you! Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 447 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Dr. Patti Britton, who speaks to me about her new memoir Chasing Sex, the life events that shaped her as a pioneer in sex coaching, and how we can all cultivate pleasure and transcendent intimacy at any age.In this heartfelt conversation, Patti traces the winding path from her “little girl named Patti” to the globally known “Dr. Patti.” She opens up about the matriarchs who modeled sexual confidence, the traumas she survived, and the counter-culture influences that called her to sexology. You’ll hear how writing her memoir became a race against time to preserve her stories, and why she now gifts readers “52 Lessons for Life” drawn from those pages.Dr. Patti Britton is a nationally board-certified, world recognized Clinical Sexologist, known as the “Mother of Sex Coaching”. She’s the author of hundreds of articles, book chapters, forewords, and five major books in sexology. She is a proud member of the LA writers’ community, having studied Method Writing for over 20 years. She is published in several anthologies with a variety of her stories. Her memoir, Chasing Sex, Wanting Love, Finding Myself was released in 2024 from Balboa Press.In this episode, you will hear:·      Dr. Patti Britton’s Matriarchal Role Models·      From Trauma to Thriving: Finding an Authentic Sexual Voice·      Why She Wrote Chasing Sex in Her Seventies·      Pleasure Framed as a Fundamental Human Right·      The Five-Level Touch Continuum Explained·      Transcendent Sex vs. “Good Enough” Sex·      Aging, Orgasm, and Embracing New Erotic Scripts·      Tips for Men: Shift From Performance to Sensation·      Keeping Desire Alive Through Novelty and Play·      Patti’s Free “52 Lessons for Life” and Ongoing Legacy It’s back, our L.A. Love Lab – Matchmaking Event! Happening Saturday, October 4, 2025 in Manhatten Beach, California with Dr. Moali and Dr. E…we hope you can join us and let us work our matchmaking magic on you! Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on InstagramPodcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 446 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I’m excited to be joined by Inka Winter, who speaks to me about her journey from surviving a sex cult to pioneering feminist, female-gaze erotica that centers women’s pleasure and authentic consent.Inka Winter is an erotic filmmaker and founder of ForPlay Films, an independent, all-woman porn production company. Spending her formative years living in an alternative artist commune in Austria gave Inka a critical eye for what constitutes sexy, consensual female pleasure and set the foundation for her creative endeavors in erotic filmmaking. Her background in costume design and styling informs her aesthetic and translates to the editorial feel of her films.In our conversation, Inka opens up about growing up in an Austrian commune that devolved into an authoritarian sex cult. She describes the rigid hierarchy, the separation of children from parents, and the constant pressure to conform to cult-mandated ideas of “free love.” We discuss the lingering impact of early exposure to sexual activity, the leader’s eventual arrest, and the complex process of unraveling trauma, reclaiming agency, and seeking reparations decades later.In this episode, you will hear:·      Childhood In Authoritarian Sex Cult·      Leader’s Arrest & Commune Collapse·      Processing Trauma Through Therapy·      Documentary Mirror Of Lived Reality·      From Fashion Design To Erotic Filmmaking·      Defining The Female Gaze On Screen·      Consent-Driven, Performer-Led Scenes·      Holistic Porn As Sex Education·      Debunking Porn “Addiction” Myths·      Empowering Women’s Pleasure & Fantasy Free Resources for Your Erotic Awakening: If you are searching for Dr. Moali’s recommendations for steamy reads, erotic audio, and ethical porn that will help you feel sexually energized, this is for you.Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 445 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I'm excited to be joined by Darshana Avila, who speaks to me about mindful masturbation as a form of self-care and erotic exploration. In this conversation, Darshana and I dive into why so many of us default to the same quick, goal-oriented masturbation routine and how that habit is wired into our neural pathways. We explore the power of slowing down, setting an intention, and treating solo pleasure as a ritual, complete with an opening, body-centered exploration, and a conscious closing.Best known for her contributions to Netflix's Sex, Love & goop, trauma informed,pleasure centric, culturally relevant erotic education is Darshana's sweet spot. Supporting women & queer community, individually or alongside their partners, is her deepest passion She's a certified Somatic Experiencing Practitioner & Sexological Bodyworker, guiding & serving through her private practice, public speaking & online offerings.In this episode, you will hear:·      Defining Mindful Masturbation·      Neural Pathways And Habit Loops·      Intentional Rituals For Solo Sex·      Full-Body Touch Before Genitals·      Navigating Boredom And Plateaus·      Sensate Focus Vs. Visual Stimulation·      Fantasy As A Creative Arousal Tool·      Scheduling Familiar And New Practices·      Challenging Inner Critic Narratives·      Pleasure As Personal And Collective Liberation Check out our YouTube for new videos dropping twice a weekBook an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 444 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I'm excited to be joined by Lisa Schaefer VP of Marketing at Promescent, who speaks to me about the biggest trends reshaping sexual-health products and sex-tech innovation. In the first half of the episode, I dive into three listener questions and unpack why fantasy is perfectly healthy, offer concrete scripts for sharing kinks without shame, and celebrate self-pleasure as a lifelong birth-right, while sprinkling in resources, exercises, and confidence-building tips you can try tonight. Then, Lisa joins me to map out the fast-evolving landscape of pleasure products, from wearable vibrating rings that turn penis-owners into “hands-free” vibrators, to blood-flow-boosting arousal gels that help close the orgasm gap, to tech-driven “pleasure-mapping” apps and menopause-friendly solutions. In this episode, you will hear:·      Listener Q&A On Fantasy & Orgasm·      Talking Cross-Dressing With Your Partner·      Celebrating A High Midlife Libido·      Why Fantasy Is Totally Normal·      Scripts To Share Your Kink Shame-Free·      Rise Of Wearable Male Vibrators·      Arousal Gels That Boost Blood Flow·      Pleasure-Mapping Apps & Sex Tech·      Menopause-Focused Products On The Horizon·      Communication As The Ultimate Toy Tell Us Your Bedroom Secret (Anonymously) + Win a Sexy Prize! 1)    Record a short audio clip (no need to include your name—we’ll keep it completely anonymous) 2)    Answer this question: What’s something you secretly wish your partner would do in bed...but have never told them?3)    Email it to us at by July 15th: help@oasis2care.com We’ll be selecting a few submissions to anonymously feature in an upcoming episode of the podcast. And yes—you’ll be entered to win a pleasure-boosting gift box from our friends at Promescent!Thanks to our sponsor Promescent! Enhance your confidence and elevate your partner's pleasure. Go HERE to save 15% off your first order. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 443 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Epiphany Jordan who speaks to me about  the essential role of nonsexual, nurturing touch in our lives and how it intersects with wellness, relationships, and even trauma recovery. In this rich and deeply personal conversation, Epiphany shares her journey from studying sacred sexuality to creating structured touch experiences aimed at fostering connection and healing. We explore the cultural, religious, and psychological factors that shape how we experience touch, especially in societies where physical affection is often conflated with sexuality. Epiphany Jordan, MPH, CPH, is on a mission to rebrand human touch. From 2013-2020, she provided platonic touch therapy in a ritualized setting with her business, the Austin-based Karuna Sessions. She is also the author of Somebody Hold Me: The Single Person's Guide to Nurturing Human Touch. Somebody Hold Me addresses the touch deficit singles face, and offers multiple solutions. She has appeared on several podcasts discussing human touch, and spoke about solving loneliness with human touch at Austin’s SXSW Interactive Festival in 2019. In 2023, she completed her Master of Public Health with a concentration in Social Marketing from the University of South Florida, and researched rebranding human touch as part of her program.In this episode, you will hear:·      Why Touch Is A Mammalian And Biological Need·      How Nonsexual Touch Can Heal Emotional Wounds·      Cultural And Religious Impacts On How We View Touch·      The Problem With Conflating Touch And Sex·      The “Branding Problem” Of Physical Touch In Society·      Four Reimagined Touch Archetypes For Modern Relationships·      How Touch Supports Trauma Healing And Psychedelic Integration·      Structured Ways To Practice Safe, Intentional Touch·      The Four S’s Framework: Safe, Slow, Specific, Structured·      Why Asking For Touch Can Be A Radical Act Of Vulnerability Thanks to our sponsor Promescent! Enhance your confidence and elevate your partner's pleasure. Go HERE to save 15% off your first order. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 442 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Eleanor O’Brien who speaks to me about exploring erotic fantasies through creativity, theater, and self-expression. In this conversation, Eleanor shares how her personal journey with fantasy evolved from taboo-fueled curiosity to embodied empowerment. We explore the fascinating world of erotic storytelling, from her theater adaptations of fantasy monologues to the value of devising your own erotic scenes through selfies, writing prompts, and roleplay. Eleanor O’Brien is the artistic director of Dance Naked Creative, a sex-positive theater and event company. She is a writer, performer and facilitator. She is the creator of solo shows Plan V, How to Really, Really? Really! Love a woman, GGG: Dominatrix for Dummies and Lust & Marriage. She directed and starred in the Inviting Desire series, ensemble productions that include A Theatrical Aphrodisiac, Lubricate Your Libido, Pleasure, Permission, Possibility...and The Dawn of Sex. She has produced & directed the community cabarets What Is Erotic?, Revelations, and Sex We Can! and is the founder of the biennial sex and culture theater festival Come Inside. She hosts the monthly erotic open mic Stand Up Smut, and teaches workshops exploring the intersection between sexuality and creativity. She is the captain of the Erotic Creators Club on Patreon.In this episode, you will hear:·      Erotic Fantasy As A Tool For Self-Discovery·      How Nancy Friday’s Work Sparked A Creative Revolution·      The Healing Power Of Erotic Theater·      Ways To Cultivate An Erotic Inner Life·      How To Use Fantasy As Connection, Not Escape·      Role Of Taboo And Power Dynamics In Desire·      Creating Erotic Rituals With A Partner·      Why Investment Behaviors Are Arousing·      Moving Beyond Porn To Create Personal Erotica·      How Set And Setting Can Enhance Arousal Thanks to our sponsor Promescent! Enhance your confidence and elevate your partner's pleasure. Go HERE to save 15% off your first order. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 441 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell who speaks to me about cultivating intimacy in long-term relationships, navigating sexless marriages, and reigniting erotic connection between partners. In this episode, we explore what truly keeps the spark alive in long-term relationships and why the common advice of compromise may actually undermine deep connection. Dr. Stockwell introduces her approach of Uncompromising Intimacy, which champions full self-expression over self-suppression in partnerships. Alexandra Stockwell, MD, aka “The Intimacy Doctor,” is widely known for her ability to catalyze immediate and profound shifts in high achieving couples who want it all–genuine emotional connection, sensual passion, and erotic intimacy. A physician coach and Intimate Marriage Expert, Dr. Alexandra is the best-selling author of “Uncompromising Intimacy,” creator of the Aligned & Hot Marriage program,  host of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, a wife of 28 years and a mother of 4. Couples who work with her discover the key to passion, fulfillment, intimacy, and success isn’t compromise–it’s being unwilling to compromise--because when both people feel free to be themselves, the relationship is juicy, erotically alive, and deeply nourishing.In this episode, you will hear:·      Understanding The Concept Of Uncompromising Intimacy·      Why Compromise May Hinder Erotic Connection·      Recognizing Early Signs Of A Sexless Marriage·      Emotional Safety As A Foundation For Sexual Intimacy·      How Curiosity Revives Connection Outside—and Inside—the Bedroom·      Practical Tips For Couples Who Feel Like Roommates Or Siblings·      The Power Of Slowing Down And Tuning Into Arousal·      How To Rebuild Sexual Connection After Years Of Disconnection·      Navigating Past Hurts, Affairs, And Emotional Wounds In Intimacy Work·      Why Ongoing Communication About Sex Is Essential For Lasting Passion Thanks to our sponsor Promescent! Enhance your confidence and elevate your partner's pleasure. Go HERE to save 15% off your first order. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo Productions Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 440 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I'm excited to be joined by Jeff Abraham, CEO of Absorption Pharmaceuticals, whose lead product is Promescent. Jeff speaks to me about the deeply misunderstood topic of premature ejaculation (PE) and the emotional, relational, and physiological dimensions behind it.In this enlightening conversation, Jeff and I unpack the complex web of stigma, shame, and misinformation that surrounds early ejaculation. We discuss the difference between perceived and clinically defined PE, the real physiological roots beyond just anxiety or lack of willpower, and the often-overlooked arousal gap between partners.Once retired, Jeff found his encore career in the sexual wellness space, bringing sharp business instincts, integrity, and a bold sense of mission to Promescent.Originally from a struggling town in Pennsylvania, Jeff built a successful recruiting career in Silicon Valley, placing top engineers at tech giants like AMD, Motorola, and Lam Research. During his career, he was instructed by a major car manufacturer to discriminate against women and people of color in the hiring process, an order he refused to follow. Instead, Jeff took a stand and filed an anti-discrimination lawsuit against the company. Against the odds, he won, driven by a core belief in doing the right thing.In this episode, you will hear:·      Understanding The Root Causes Of Premature Ejaculation·      Why Most PE Cases Are Physiological, Not Psychological·      How Porn Skews Our Expectations Of Sexual Performance·      Defining PE: Clinical Criteria Vs. Subjective Experience·      Closing The Arousal Gap For Mutual Satisfaction·      Why Communication Is Crucial For Sexual Confidence·      How Promescent’s Patented Formula Avoids Numbing Your Partner·      Tips For Introducing Delay Sprays Without Hurting Feelings·      The Psychological Boost Of Feeling In Control During Intimacy·      Why Quality Sex Toys And Lubes Are Investments In Your Wellbeing Thanks to our sponsor Promescent! Enhance your confidence and elevate your partner's pleasure. Go HERE to save 15% off your first order. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 439 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I'm thrilled to have a panel of leading sex therapists and relationship and intimacy experts from around the world. They’ll discuss the most common mistakes people make in the bedroom and how to address them. A big thank you to Dr. Emily Jamea, Ariel Anderssen, Dr. Lori Bisbey, Catherine Auman, Candia Raquel, Dr. Stephanie Bathurst, Dr. Avrum Weiss, and Elliot Katz.In this episode, we explore the habits that often go unnoticed but can have a lasting impact on sexual satisfaction and emotional connection. You'll hear a variety of insights, from the importance of non-verbal communication and slowing down intimacy, to the roles of sensuality, presence, and emotional security. Each expert brings their unique lens, offering practical tips and surprising truths drawn from decades of experience.Whether you're in a long-term relationship or just looking to deepen your sexual self-awareness, this episode offers honest, shame-free advice. From addressing awkward moments with humor to reframing masculinity and creating space for meaningful conversation, this is an invitation to rethink how we approach pleasure, intimacy, and connection.In this episode, you will hear:·      Importance Of Reading Non-Verbal Cues·      How Sincere Appreciation Boosts Intimacy·      The Need To Prioritize Presence Over Performance·      Why Slowing Down Can Deepen Pleasure·      Connection Between Excitement And Blocked Orgasms·      How Playfulness Can Ease Bedroom Awkwardness·      The Role Of Masculinity In Creating Safety·      Why Scheduling A Sexy Talk Matters·      How Porn Has Shaped Misleading Expectations·      Using Sensuality To Awaken The Body’s Reflexes Thanks to our sponsor Promescent! Enhance your confidence and elevate your partner's pleasure. Go HERE to save 15% off your first order. Free Erotica Checklist Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 438 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, who speak to me about emotional regulation, co-regulation, and their transformative journey in creating a stronger sexual connection through emotional attunement.In this heartfelt episode, Glenn and Phyllis share their personal story of early sexual struggles and emotional disconnect in their marriage, which eventually led them on a lifelong quest for answers. Married since 1982, they recount decades of feeling lost and misunderstood, highlighting how a lack of emotional education contributed to sexual dissatisfaction and relational distance.Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill spent the first 30 years of their marriage living in disconnect. Their first sexual experience sent them into years of avoidance and pain. Dr Glenn was so determined to find out what went wrong that he went back to school & became a Marriage & Family Therapist and a Clinical Sexologist. But, it wasn't until he dug deep into emotional regulation that he discovered the source of all of their disconnect. From there, Dr Glenn & Phyllis created The Connection Codes- a framework to help couples connect emotionally and physically using their 4-minute exercise. In this episode, you will hear:·      The Hills’ Personal Journey·      Why Emotional Education is Critical for a Healthy Sex Life·      The Impact of Emotional Wounding on Physical Intimacy·      How Emotional Dysregulation Disrupts Sexual Desire and Connection·      The “Four-Minute Tool” for Tuning Into Core Emotions·      Co-Regulation and Building Emotional Safety With Your Partner·      The Power of Naming Emotions Like Sadness, Hurt, and Joy·      How Sexual Banter Can Foster Intimacy Outside the Bedroom·      Practical Advice for Communicating Emotional Overwhelm Thanks to our sponsor Promescent! Enhance your confidence and elevate your partner's pleasure. Go HERE to save 15% off your first order.Free Erotica ChecklistBook an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Connection CodesUpgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on InstagramPodcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 437 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Brittany Steffen, LMFT, who speaks to me about how couples can navigate and deepen their sexual communication. In this episode, Brittany and I discuss the kinds of conversations couples should be having but often aren’t, especially when it comes to sex. We talk about the importance of discussing how and when to initiate sex, redefining what “counts” as sex, and how understanding each other’s intentions can greatly enhance intimacy. Brittany Steffen is the owner and founder of Steffen Counseling Services. She earned her graduate degree in marriage and family therapy from Seattle Pacific University in 2012 and has worked as a therapist in the Seattle area for over a decade. In 2018, she began the process of becoming an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist to meet the growing demand for specialized sex therapy services.In this episode, you will hear:·      Top Three Conversations Every Couple Should Have About Sex·      How To Navigate Desire Discrepancy Without Blame·      Shifting From Yes/No Sex to a Menu of Possibilities·      Why Defining “Sex” Broadly Can Improve Intimacy·      Understanding the Emotional Weight of Sexual Rejection·      How To Talk About Fantasies Without Pressure or Shame·      Requests vs. Demands: A Key Distinction in Sexual Communication·      Common Traps That Lead to Sexual Conflict in Long-Term Relationships·      How Self-Reflection Can Improve Your Sex Life Thanks to our sponsor Promescent! Enhance your confidence and elevate your partner's pleasure. Go HERE to save 15% off your first order.Free Erotica ChecklistUpgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy