Sincerely Black Love

Black Love is going to heal the world. There will be a shift of consciousness that will occur due to Black love. Black love changes everything and opens all doors for us as a people and as individuals. We have been deprived from it, we have been told lies about it, we have been brainwashed from it! The future of all people has been hindered because of this. Black love is the only thing that will heal all wounds. Black love is the only true healer! A lot of us have not experienced real black love or are trying to find it in all the wrong places, with non-black people, etc… We are being lead down a path of destruction because we do not understand our own power. And without understanding your own power you can't help others who need help as well! We have no self-love and little self-esteem which affects everything else around us including relationships with ourselves and people close to us. Some may know how to survive but we cannot live life fully without loving ourselves first! When we don't even love ourselves what makes us think others will love us? Black Love heals it creates healthy relationships. We have been taught to believe lies about love and how it should be shared with a partner. The whole point of the Black Love movement is for YOU TO LOVE YOU FIRST! We can not prosper coming from a place of self-lacks or being replete of self-love, so, it's time for us to do some soul searching and get back to the basics…PLEASE!! We have to recreate better and allow real black love to flow through healing and overcoming trauma because it's time we learn how to really live free of what's keeping us below average. You can always find me on Facebook, TikTok & IG as @HakeemAndrsn I also have a website www.bathobatsho.com with holistic therapy packages for you to start your self-mastery & healing journey.

Healing ourselves for better relationships is important for our communities, nation and continent. Many of us were taught to live out of fear, which leads to emotional unavailability. This leads to silent, manipulative abuses because we quietly and unknowingly consent to or teach people how to treat us by carrying our fear, hurt and lack patterns and habits into relationships. We're not speaking about walking around with black eyes, but walking around emotionally battered with our heads down, shoulders slumped and speechless. Our silence is deafening; it screams that this is normal behavior for men/women who are behaving badly toward us. This is what the podcast will start covering in detail. I promise to empower you in a new way in 2021 going forward. I will be doing a lot of introspective work personally, so that it can translate into my content and help others heal themselves for better relationships. The podcast is coming out on Saturdays (starting Oct 2nd), but for now I wanted to introduce you to the title and lay the foundation: We're back! Stay tuned! "Many of us were taught to live out of fear, which leads to emotional unavailability." This is important because we must realize how our thoughts and behaviors inform and affect one another. The author points out how this has led us to silently consent or teach people how

Most of us still haven't healed from our previous relationships and we're too rushed in being with other people. Please seek therapy because PTRS is real and unless sorted through, you will suffer your next best your past worst... Posttraumatic Relationship Syndrome can be defined as an anxiety disorder that occurs subsequent to the experience of physical, sexual or severe emotional abuse in the context of an emotionally intimate relationship.

The BecauseBlack Co. PTY LTD — Hakeem Anderson-Lesolang's take on relationships, mindfulness, wellness, healthy partnerships, wealth creation in a family setting and parenting as a black father. I've done my worst to myself, my relationships, and black love and burnt enough times to know it's not worth it being your base self and I have taken leave to change it around and have helped others do the same. This podcast is about impacting you, your lover and letting your relationship thrive so you can do love instead of ruining it. Whether you're single, dating, married, separated or divorced & a parent, I want to help mend what we break & what others broke in us. Sincerely Black Love is my ode to what carries me through life in the most beautiful way I've ever known. I know you'll love it and love yourself from it. Subscribe • Listen • Do The Inner Work • Put The Worth To Work • Teach It — h.a-l | @HakeemAndrsn

In & with love; Know your hand in how things stand and how they turn out. In life, at work, at home and in relationships. You are not the victim you've always assumed yourself to be and you're not as helpless as you'd like those who pity your position to think. Own your hand. Know its ends. Enjoy The Love You Do... ••••••••••••••••••••••"If it's love, make it black, make it work"•••••••••••••••••••••••••• Subscribe To My Channel: Care to share The Episode & Spread the love. FF: @HakeemAndrsn (YouTube / Twitter / FaceBook & IG) #TheSBLPodcast #HakeemAndersonLesolang #BlackLoveYoda #Refinement #Affirmations #SelfImprovement

Episode 020 is my heart to heart to you concerning us and our attitudes towards love, loving and being loved. Yes we've all been hurt and disappointed but damn fam, are we that eager to stay broken that the only thing we feel about love is damage? We all need to do better. Please hear me out? With love. A king. Enjoy The Love You Do... ••••••••••••••••••••••"If it's love, make it black, make it work"•••••••••••••••••••••••••• Subscribe To My Channel: Care to share The Episode & Spread the love. FF: @HakeemAndrsn (YouTube / Twitter / FaceBook & IG) #TheSBLPodcast #HakeemAndersonLesolang #BlackLoveYoda #Refinement #Affirmations #SelfImprovement

Wishing relationships become healthy, more warm, worth your while, incredible and delicious is going to ruin them if you just stand on the wayside & cringe at the idea of working on them. Love is serious work and it seriously starts serving you when you decide to serve it. In this episode we tackle three key value adds you should work on on a daily in order to improve your loving. This seriously improves your character and person and sets you up for grand reciprocity. There's obviously more ways we can add value but I picked these three because of how crucial they are in any relationship. Heck, they could even be applied to your work life. Be of value. It's hard to get rid of you when you come correct like that. Enjoy The Love You Do... ••••••••••••••••••••••"If it's love, make it black, make it work"•••••••••••••••••••••••••• Subscribe To My Channel: Care to share The Episode & Spread the love. FF: @HakeemAndrsn (YouTube / Twitter / FaceBook & IG) #TheSBLPodcast #HakeemAndersonLesolang #BlackLoveYoda #Refinement #Affirmations #SelfImprovement

Welcome to the truth you’d hate to hear about the way you love. Challenge this all you want but you know what I’m saying is real and true. If not you, then your girls are creating broken men by being emotional bullies in relationships they’re passing time with. Men feel too but do you care? #DoLoveBetter - Enjoy Love. ••••••••••••••••••••••"If it's love, make it black, make it work"•••••••••••••••••••••••••• Subscribe To My Channel: Care to share The Episode & Spread the love. FF: @HakeemAndrsn (YouTube / Twitter / FaceBook & IG) #TheSBLPodcast #HakeemAndersonLesolang #BlackLoveYoda #Refinement #Affirmations #SelfImprovement

We all hit the never late snags and stress piles up on us like a ton of bricks that renders you helpless and communication + the flow of your relationship suffers. We know all too well what toll this can take on your partner and your unionship and that can always ring alarms for us. Since we don't want that anywhere near us, I thought it best to compile a list of tasks & methods one can employ in working against the stress tides and lead you to a more functional way of dealing with the stress when it comes. There's a lot in the near 50 minutes of this podcast that you can use personally and with your partner (forgive the sniffles and coughs). Love will always work when you work love into it. Enjoy Love. ••••••••••••••••••••••"If it's love, make it black, make it work"•••••••••••••••••••••••••• Subscribe To My Channel: Care to share The Episode & Spread the love. FF: @HakeemAndrsn (YouTube / Twitter / FaceBook & IG) #TheSBLPodcast #HakeemAndersonLesolang #BlackLoveYoda #Refinement #Affirmations #SelfImprovement

In this week's episode, I wanted to delve into what steps one can take to forgive oneself for dropping the ball and hurting themselves and others. We're human and, to be human is to err so, since I love solutions more than fixating on problems, I'd like to focus on what one can do to step back into action more resolute and ready to face life. I also tackle monotasking cause in a time where we need to be more present and seek wholeness in our experiences, having a split focus on the things you love and seek to build better with and for, we need to zone in and get things done. So we unitask now. Multitasking is a lie. Enjoy love ••••••••••••••••••••••"If it's love, make it black, make it work"•••••••••••••••••••••••••• Subscribe To My Channel: Care to share The Episode & Spread the love. FF: @HakeemAndrsn (YouTube / Twitter / FaceBook & IG) #TheSBLPodcast #HakeemAndersonLesolang #BlackLoveYoda #Refinement #Affirmations #SelfImprovement

After a month-long hiatus, I return to you refreshed from a self-introspection period where I had to let a lot of things go in order to let God God better for me. I've gained so much perspective on what the goals and plans for the podcast are and I want nothing more but to share this clarity of purpose with you guys. These 12 steps I've adopted have helped me on my journey to self-improvement and episode 015 is where I get to share my thoughts on a human to human level with you as a person who's embraced with flawed ways and loves it completely knowing there is only better from here on out. I love black love enough to only want to serve it as an exceptional individual. This is how I've been learning to show up better, for myself first. Enjoy love. Always ••••••••••••••••••••••"If it's love, make it black, make it work"•••••••••••••••••••••••••• Subscribe To My Channel: Care to share The Episode & Spread the love. FF: @HakeemAndrsn (YouTube / Twitter / FaceBook & IG) #TheSBLPodcast #HakeemAndersonLesolang #BlackLoveYoda #Refinement #Affirmations #SelfImprovement

Red flags are such a constant focus in how we love and how we allow others to love us that we haven't really looked into what the opposite positive of that is. Green flags are what I've been teaching my clients and friends to focus 95% of their energies on and to be proactive in ensuring they use those as fertile ground to grow their relationships from. Learn what you're doing right and how you can improve in this week's episode and when you're done with the listening pleasure, let us know what you identified as your top ten relationship qualities. Enjoy love. Always ••••••••••••••••••••••"If it's love, make it black, make it work"•••••••••••••••••••••••••• Subscribe To My Channel: Care to share The Episode & Spread the love. FF: @HakeemAndrsn (YouTube / Twitter / FaceBook & IG) #TheSBLPodcast #HakeemAndersonLesolang #BlackLoveYoda #Refinement #Affirmations #SelfImprovement

We mostly know about love languages but what is your specific love style? What love style does your partner use to communicate their love to you. We all obsess too about the honeymoon phase of the relationship and most of us give up and run from relationships that dwindle out of that fiery passion and we are all wrong for doing that. In this week's episode I talk about our different love styles and how you can master them all and saunter into how that mastery can help you build a successful relationship when the honeymoon phase does dwindle. I tell you how not to fixate on what's supposed to die and how to relish the decline of surface love into pragmatic and deep love for your partner and spouse. There is a list but more than anything, there is an incredible love-hack for you and yours this week. Enjoy love ••••••••••••••••••••••"If it's love, make it black, make it work"•••••••••••••••••••••••••• Subscribe To My Channel: Care to share The Episode & Spread the love. FF: @HakeemAndrsn (YouTube / Twitter / FaceBook & IG) #TheSBLPodcast #HakeemAndersonLesolang #BlackLoveYoda #Refinement #Affirmations #SelfImprovement

So you're here now huh? Asking whether you're ready for a relationship and not sure what it is you need to be checking for to measure whethere you're good to put yourself out there or nah? Well, fret not. A new list was created by yours truly for you to check yourself before you wreck all the hard work you been putting into building yourself up. I sought to give you relationship hacks before and even after you decide to jump into what looks great and to equip you with what makes relationships successful and I do hope you enjoy this episode and internalize all I've put together for you in your daring to be enjoyed. Bonus: I included more songs for you and will credit artists moving forward. 1. Tay Iwar - 2. BJ The Chicago Kid - Perfect 3. Lorine Chia - Black Girl Magic 4. Marcellus Juvan - Ready For Love 5. Che Lingo - Black Girl Magic A big shout out and respect to "Mr Henchard & Mrs Lungi Mashigo + Ms Pula Simango" for sending me the #LoveGuidanceVNs. I wanna include these in every episode now and hope you guys enjoy them as much as I do. Enjoy, Love. ••••••••••••••••••••••"If it's love, make it black, make it work"•••••••••••••••••••••••••• Subscribe To My Channel: Care to share The Episode & Spread the love. FF: @HakeemAndrsn (YouTube / Twitter / FaceBook & IG) #TheSBLPodcast #HakeemAndersonLesolang #BlackLoveYoda #Refinement #Affirmations #SelfImprovement

We've all been with someone who exhibits the symptoms and even are and have been one of them. A narcissist. This episode highlights clinically-proven character traits you might be dealing with or having that classify you or your partner as one and it's important for us to know what we're dealing with and what we've become of ourselves and still allow in order for us to reach that healing we all chase in order to be deserving of black love and what we need in our today and tomorrow love lives. I'm glad we're here too because, once you name it, you know its power and once you know how that power used, you know where you must change and change for good. Also: IT'S IN A LIST. I MADE A LIST. Hahahahahahahaha. Enjoy, Love. ••••••••••••••••••••••"If it's love, make it black, make it work"•••••••••••••••••••••••••• Subscribe To My Channel: Care to share The Episode & Spread the love. FF: @HakeemAndrsn (YouTube / Twitter / FaceBook & IG) #TheSBLPodcast #HakeemAndersonLesolang #BlackLoveYoda #Refinement #Affirmations #SelfImprovement

We all go through it. The muck and dirt of having to rebuild ourselves from breakups that tear us apart and change us. We go through it and end up on the other side still fixating on how hard-done we were and how badly we were treated with our ex's names foul in our mouths. In this episode, (I made another list) I pour through six things you should implement in Rebuilding + Reclaiming Self-Worth After A Breakup. We must stop being performative in how we heal and actually make it out okay if love is what we seek to be, give and impart in this world with great impact on those we take into our lives. Let love win. Enjoy -- Subscribe To My Channel: Care to share The Episode & Spread the love. FF: @HakeemAndrsn (YouTube / Twitter / FaceBook & IG) #TheSBLPodcast #HakeemAndersonLesolang #BlackLoveYoda #Refinement #Affirmations #SelfImprovement

Self-Love isn't romantic. It's hard work in overalls and arduous and you should be going through the tasking practice of getting over and going through what's holding back from performing at your 100. Self-Love is necessary but we must, we must rush nothing of it but fall in love with being places of discomfort because that's where we grow the most and where we change and morph and better ourselves. This week we outline how to self-love. Fun part, there's a list. Hahahahaha. Enjoy -- Subscribe To My Channel: Care to share The Episode & Spread the love. FF: @HakeemAndrsn (YouTube / Twitter / FaceBook & IG) #TheSBLPodcast #HakeemAndersonLesolang #BlackLoveYoda #Refinement #Affirmations #SelfImprovement

In our need to be accepted by the people and world around us we need to learn to accept ourselves first and that can only come with the rigorous work of pushing to own our very selves. It's an undertaking and a half understanding, accepting, valuing and loving yourself. It's an arduous journey but I came up with 12 simple day to day pointers for self-improvement that will prove helpful for you to employ and grow beautifully from. You are deserving and because of that, you must be the hero of your own story and you are in the perfect seat of control to write it and edit it as you please. Happy Listening. -- Subscribe To My Channel: Care to share The Episode & Spread the love. FF: @HakeemAndrsn (YouTube / Twitter / FaceBook & IG) #TheSBLPodcast #HakeemAndersonLesolang #BlackLoveYoda #Refinement #Affirmations

You go there. A place where you hate the idea of being known by someone else and having them know you because you're afraid they're just passer by's and you look for the glitch in how they are. We all do. Today's podcast is about how to curb that yet still be careful with giving your heart out. You are worthy of the love you're constantly working on to give to yourself and you are worthy of the goodness you believe love to be and to get there sometimes, you have to get out of your own way to enjoy it. The idea is to manage our reactions and to master our responses to life. The idea is to nurture our interest in people and get to know what we need to deduce if the soil is good enough for us to seed our hearts in and I wish you the best of love to come after. We faith it till we make it. Everyday. Listen. Subscribe To My Channel: Care to share The Episode & Spread the love. FF: @HakeemAndrsn (YouTube / Twitter / FaceBook & IG) #SincerelyBlackLove #SBL #HakeemAndersonLesolang #BlackLoveYoda

A lot of us lie to ourselves because it's a pretty position to occupy and point at the world as our oppressor when we are the ones that okay bullshit to permeate in our lives. The day I started admitting to myself that I was the one fucking up by allowing life to happen to me instead of taking charge and handling my responsibilities to myself is the day I set the greatest course of my life. ACTUALISATION. Listen. Subscribe To My Channel: Care to share The Episode & Spread the love. FF: @HakeemAndrsn (YouTube / Twitter / FaceBook & IG) #SincerelyBlackLove #SBL #HakeemAndersonLesolang #BlackLoveYoda