So Shameless

The So Shameless crew is back, and we’re starting this episode in HOMIE COURT! 😂 Who is Yesssterday mad at this time?! After a few people show up late, we have to figure out why Yesssterday has an attitude — and who deserves the blame. Then we get into a viral couple who records their arguments and posts them online so the internet can decide who’s wrong. Is bringing social media into your relationship ever a good idea? That leads us into a HEATED conversation when Reg explains the things he will and won’t accept from his woman, his rules about leadership in a relationship, and why he believes his lady should allow him to lead. Tasia thinks some of it sounds misogynistic and controlling. Can a man be the leader of a relationship without controlling his woman? And should there even be a hierarchy between men and women in relationships? Tahoe also tells the crew about an altercation he almost had at a gas station before we get into a wild money dilemma: If someone you know loses $3,000 and YOU find it, are you entitled to take a finder’s fee before giving their money back? 👀 That question leads Tahoe to tell the story of finding $8,500 during one of the lowest moments of his life. Plus, why are people building robots that can actually fight?! Are we moving too fast with AI, and at what point should we start worrying about where all of this technology is headed? Reg also questions why a man would “allow” his woman to take a trip without him — because according to Reg, his lady could NEVER. 😂 And finally, Savannah James says that if she and a friend are traveling together, she isn’t necessarily upgrading her friend to first class just because she can afford to upgrade herself. Her friend says she wouldn’t expect her to — but Tahoe says he would definitely feel a way about it. Would YOU upgrade your friend, or are they meeting you in baggage claim? 😂 Tap in with the So Shameless crew and tell us who you agree with in the comments. Socials:Reg@LTLEng on Instagram

Part Two of So Shameless featuring Kizzle of @expressyourselfblackman and life coach Coach Bellamy (@mrsbellamy.callmecoach) gets personal as we talk about insecurity, fatherhood, relationships, responsibility and some uncomfortable truths about ourselves. We start with something almost everybody experiences but doesn’t always admit: feelings of inadequacy. What do you do when you don’t feel like you’re enough? And how much of overcoming those feelings comes from changing your circumstances versus changing the way you see yourself? Then we get into fatherhood and discipline. What happens when Dad constantly feels like the bad guy because he’s the parent enforcing the rules? Are fathers sometimes sacrificing their relationship with their children in order to prepare them for the real world? From there, Tahoe asks a question that’s guaranteed to start an argument: When your woman is pregnant, should she still have to work — or is it a man’s responsibility to put himself in a position where she doesn’t HAVE to? And does providing that option make it her choice, or should that simply be the expectation? Then things get even more complicated. Does being in a relationship mean you belong to your partner in some way? Are you your partner’s “possession,” or does that language cross a line between commitment and control? We also talk about preparing your children for what happens after you’re gone. Should your kids know what they’re inheriting while you’re still alive, or should they find out when the will is read? And can knowing what’s coming change the way family members behave? Finally, we ask one of the most uncomfortable relationship questions of the episode: Can you be partially responsible for your partner cheating on you? The person who cheats is responsible for the decision they make — but can problems inside a relationship help create the circumstances that lead someone to step outside of it? And is understanding what went wrong the same thing as excusing the betrayal? Insecurity. Fatherhood. Pregnancy. Providing. Possession. Inheritance. Infidelity. Yeah…Part Two went there. Welcome back to So Shameless.SocialsMrs Bellamy @MrsBellamy.CallMeCoach on InstagramKizzle@ExpressYourselfBlackMan on Instagram

This week on So Shameless, we’re joined by Kizzle of @expressyourselfblackman and life coach Coach Bellamy (@mrsbellamy.callmecoach) for a conversation that goes from astrology and self-awareness to war, politics, the media and how we talk about the Black community. First, we have to figure out why so many of us believe our zodiac signs explain the way we move through life. How much of our personality is really connected to our sign — and how much are we just using astrology to explain behavior we already wanted to justify? 😂 Then the conversation gets much more serious as we discuss the war involving the United States, why America is involved, what Americans are being told about it, and whether the upcoming midterm elections can meaningfully affect the direction of the country. We also get into the growing fight over press access and freedom of the press. With journalists facing new restrictions on access to government institutions, what does limiting the media’s ability to question and observe those in power remind us of — and how concerned should Americans be about the precedent it creates? Finally, we bring the conversation home with a phrase we’ve all heard: “Black people don’t support Black people.” Is there truth behind that criticism, or has repeating it become harmful rhetoric that ignores all of the ways Black people DO support one another? And when we constantly tell ourselves that our own community won’t show up for us, are we identifying a real problem — or helping perpetuate the very perception we’re complaining about? Kizzle (Express Yourself Black Man) and Coach Bellamy join us for a conversation about identity, accountability, politics, community and the stories we tell ourselves about who we are. Welcome back to So Shameless.Socials;Coach [email protected] on InstagramKizzle@ExpressYourselfBlackMan on Instagram and Youtube

Part Two of So Shameless gets into the battle between the male and female experience — and whether we’re so busy proving who has it harder that we’ve stopped actually listening to each other. We start with men living in survival mode and whether conversations about men’s struggles are too often dismissed by immediately comparing them to what women experience. Are men genuinely not being heard — or do men sometimes do the exact same thing when women talk about their problems? Then we take that argument to social media. Do some women go online specifically looking for opportunities to tear men down? Do men do the same thing to women? And how much of what we believe about the opposite sex is actually OUR opinion versus us falling victim to internet mob mentality? From there, we get into the mental load at home. Women often describe feeling like their brains NEVER get to turn off — remembering what needs to be bought, cleaned, scheduled, handled and taken care of. Are men contributing enough inside the home? And even when women say they’re overwhelmed, is it sometimes difficult for them to actually relinquish control and allow someone else to handle things? Then comes the money conversation: Should men ALWAYS pay for everything? Who actually benefits from that arrangement? Does paying make a man a provider, or can traditional financial expectations create unhealthy dynamics for BOTH people in a relationship? Speaking of financial trauma, Tahoe made the mistake of taking his daughter to Sephora and discovered that apparently looking pretty costs approximately the same amount as a small mortgage. 😂 We also ask why sleeping with someone else after being cheated on is sometimes treated like a flex. If somebody hurt you by cheating, does revenge sex actually make YOU feel better — or are you still allowing their actions to dictate yours? And finally, we get into emotional intelligence, adversity and what happens when men allow hurt, ego and emotion to control how they respond when life doesn’t go their way. Men vs. women. Money. Relationships. Household responsibilities. Revenge sex. Social media. …and Tahoe discovering the price of makeup. SocialsChrys Childs@ChrysChilds on InstagramVisit NewMusicWednesdaysLive.comPreme@PremeDaPrez on InstagramFollow @RichFlex for more info about Rich Flex weekendWelcome back to So Shameless.

This week on So Shameless, Tahoe tries to do a good deed by buying a stranger some food — only to realize afterward that what HE thought was kindness might have made another man feel emasculated. Can helping somebody cross the line into disrespecting their pride? Then we get into Lil Durk being found NOT GUILTY in his federal murder-for-hire trial and a much bigger conversation about Black culture, street life and accountability. Regardless of the verdict, should we be more critical of the way we celebrate rappers, drug dealers, scammers and other people associated with street culture? And why do we continue glorifying lifestyles when we’ve seen how often they end? On a completely different note, we introduce something we’re extremely proud of: the new So Shameless Scholarship Fund, created to help young people pursue a college education. Then Tahoe brings the problems back home. 😂 His fiancée requires her daughter, who’s a freshman in college, to call when she goes out and text when she makes it safely back to her dorm. Is that responsible parenting when your child is away from home for the first time — or is Mom having trouble letting an adult daughter grow up? We also get into Papoose and “Jezebel,” and debate whether publicly addressing alleged infidelity through music is fair game. Is expressing your pain through a record different from publicly embarrassing your partner? Finally, we discuss Macklemore being removed from the U.S. leg of Ed Sheeran’s tour following his pro-Palestinian remarks. Was a shared concert stage an appropriate place for Macklemore to advocate for Palestinians? What responsibility does an artist have when they’re performing on someone else’s tour — and where is the line between respecting someone else’s platform and using your own voice? Accountability, parenting, hip-hop, relationships, politics, charity and one good deed that somehow turned into an argument about masculinity. SocialsChrys Childs@ChrysChilds on InstagramVisit NewMusicWednesdaysLive.comPreme@PremeDaPrez on InstagramFollow @RichFlex for more info about Rich Flex weekendWelcome back to So Shameless.