So What Now? with Carla and Dex

In this week’s episode of So What Now?, we dive into parenting highs, lows, and the unexpected in-betweens. Dex kicks things off by sharing her experience at a frat party with Mikaela – the drinks, the vibes, the "what am I doing here?" moments. Meanwhile, Carla continues her fight with the public school system to get the proper support Psalm needs — it’s real, it's frustrating, and she doesn’t hold back. The convo then takes a sharp (and fuzzy?) turn to Kim Kardashian’s latest business move: faux-fur thong panties. Yes, you read that right. They’re sold out, and we’re asking: What is going on out here?! Wild or genius? Maybe both. We also unpack Kim's recent interview on the Call Her Daddy podcast, where she gets vulnerable about co-parenting with Kanye and reflects on choosing a partner who didn’t live up to the legacy her own father left. This hit Carla hard, she opens up about the deep guilt she’s carrying around the choices she made in her own relationships — especially when it comes to her kids’ fathers. It’s raw, real, and a reminder that healing isn’t linear. The episode closes with a reflective but practical list: 13 decisions to make by 45 so you don’t have regrets at 70. From finances to friendships to finally putting yourself first, we break them down and share where we’re at on the list. Tune in, laugh, cry, and say “So what now?” with us. Raising Kids Who Love God - JJ and Liz Vasquez - Journey Church   CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesowhatnowpod 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US: https://www.sowhatnowpod.com/   Rate, Review & Follow UsIf you laughed, felt seen, or screamed "same," take 30 seconds to rate and review the show. ⭐ Scroll to the bottom of our Apple Podcasts page ⭐ Tap to rate 5 stars ⭐ Hit “Write a Review” and tell us what you loved most Your support keeps this going—and we read every word. Ready to Start Your Podcast? Let Carla help you launch your podcast in just 30 days. → Take the course now → Book a clarity call and get personal strategy support Need Advice? Want to Sound Off? Send your questions, hot takes, or real-life mess to: 📧 thesowhatnowpod@gmail.com We might read your letter on the next episode—anonymously, of course.  

This week, we dove into the mystical world of life path numbers said to reveal the road you're meant to walk in life. Carla walks us through how to calculate yours (warning: it’s not as easy as it sounds!) and shares her eerily accurate reading as a Life Path 8. Then, things take a turn when we read a heavy listener letter from a woman dealing with the fallout of her husband’s affair—and the unexpected arrival of his baby with the other woman. With no warning and no say, she’s suddenly playing mom to a child she didn’t ask for. We unpack her heartbreak, her anger, and the impossible position she’s been put in. Can love survive this level of betrayal—or is walking away the only way forward? Grab a drink and your calculator and tune in! CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesowhatnowpod 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US: https://www.sowhatnowpod.com/   Rate, Review & Follow UsIf you laughed, felt seen, or screamed "same," take 30 seconds to rate and review the show. ⭐ Scroll to the bottom of our Apple Podcasts page ⭐ Tap to rate 5 stars ⭐ Hit “Write a Review” and tell us what you loved most Your support keeps this going—and we read every word. Our Sponsors This episode is powered by our partners at Hi Hello Labs and Idea to Launch Productions. Looking to level up your podcast or bring your show to life? These are the teams making it happen. Ready to Start Your Podcast? Let Carla help you launch your podcast in just 30 days. → Take the course now → Book a clarity call and get personal strategy support Need Advice? Want to Sound Off? Send your questions, hot takes, or real-life mess to: 📧 thesowhatnowpod@gmail.com We might read your letter on the next episode—anonymously, of course.  

This week on So What Now we are back with all the chaos, wisdom, and side-eyes you’ve come to love. Dex kicks things off with a hilarious (and low-key insightful?) update on dinner with her dad — who came with unexpected dating advice on where to find eligible bachelors. Spoiler: Dex is not taking him up on this advice. Then, Carla introduces the viral “golden retriever vs. black cat” dating theory — and it’s clear Dex is a full black cat. We break down what your relationship energy says about you and how it shapes your dating patterns. The convo takes a turn as we unpack Young Thug’s controversial appearance on The Pivot Podcast. His comments about therapy, masculinity, and feeling judged hit a nerve — but what really stood out was how the Pivot hosts held space for him while still challenging him to grow. Could the Pivot host be enough to make Dex rethink her hard stance on men? 👀 In listener letters: A romantic soul wonders if her jaded friend is dragging her out of her soft girl era. Is it time to protect her peace and walk away from the group chat? And… a messy mystery unfolds when a listener suspects her brother is having an affair with their pastor’s wife. Carla and Dex both said: unless you’ve got proof, mind your business. As always, we want to hear from you — especially about that last letter. Would you get involved?   CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesowhatnowpod 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US: https://www.sowhatnowpod.com/   Rate, Review & Follow UsIf you laughed, felt seen, or screamed "same," take 30 seconds to rate and review the show. ⭐ Scroll to the bottom of our Apple Podcasts page ⭐ Tap to rate 5 stars ⭐ Hit “Write a Review” and tell us what you loved most Your support keeps this going—and we read every word. Our Sponsors This episode is powered by Idea to Launch Productions. Looking to level up your podcast or bring your show to life? These are the teams making it happen. Ready to Start Your Podcast? Let Carla help you launch your podcast in just 30 days. → Take the course now → Book a clarity call and get personal strategy support Need Advice? Want to Sound Off? Send your questions, hot takes, or real-life mess to: 📧 thesowhatnowpod@gmail.com We might read your letter on the next episode—anonymously, of course.  

Welcome back to So What Now, where the convos are chaotic and the wine is always flowing 🍷 In this episode, we’re diving deep (and maybe too far 😭) into everything from Rapture Talk 2025 to Cardi B’s new album, revenge baby, and messy baby daddy drama. We’re asking the real questions like: – Did the Rapture already happen and we got left behind? 👀 – Can you repent on your way out and still make it to heaven? – Are all sins really the same, or are some just low-heat sins? 🔥 – And what’s the meal prep plan before… b*** stuff? (Asking for a friend 💀) Plus, we break down: ✨ Why we might just marry each other for free health insurance (no co-pay, no problem) ✨ Parenting moments that humbled us — like when your kid tells a stranger they’re fat 🫠 ✨ Cardi B’s “Am I The Drama?” era and whether revenge pregnancies count as healing It’s faith, foolishness, and friendship all in one episode — and yes, it’s unfiltered. 💅 🎧 Tune in for laughs, lessons, and a little repentance — because life’s wild, and we’re just trying to figure out… So What Now?   CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesowhatnowpod 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US: https://www.sowhatnowpod.com/   Rate, Review & Follow UsIf you laughed, felt seen, or screamed "same," take 30 seconds to rate and review the show. ⭐ Scroll to the bottom of our Apple Podcasts page ⭐ Tap to rate 5 stars ⭐ Hit “Write a Review” and tell us what you loved most Your support keeps this going—and we read every word. Our Sponsors This episode is powered by our partners at Idea to Launch Productions. Looking to level up your podcast or bring your show to life? These are the teams making it happen. Ready to Start Your Podcast? Let Carla help you launch your podcast in just 30 days. → Take the course now → Book a clarity call and get personal strategy support Need Advice? Want to Sound Off? Send your questions, hot takes, or real-life mess to: 📧 thesowhatnowpod@gmail.com We might read your letter on the next episode—anonymously, of course.  

It’s football season, y’all! And guess what? Carla and I are finally ready to dive in. We’re trying to understand the hype, the rules, and maybe even pick a team (no promises though). From touchdowns to tight ends, we’re figuring it out one game at a time. Then we pivot to pop culture, because of course we do and whew, let’s talk about Dame Dash on The Breakfast Club. When are folks gonna stop trying to match energy with Charlamagne? That man lives for chaos! Carla and I revisit our favorite moments. Now buckle up, because the vibes shift fast. I’m officially obsessed with the latest legal circus: the Michaela case an OnlyFans model and a 55-year-old man who paid her $11K to perform extreme kink acts, including gluing his eyes shut and walking on him with boots. It was all supposedly consensual, and filmed, but things went sideways. Carla and I were wondering how she still ended up facing serious charges… ChatGPT actually broke it down for us. The legal tea is wild. We also get into Cardi B’s pregnancy announcement, congrats to her! Even though Alexa lied to us about how many kids her new man has (we’ll forgive her… maybe). We talk about how women, especially in the spotlight, are expected to do it all. Carla drops some real talk on what it takes to not fall into the superwoman trap. And finally, let’s talk about Ray Daniels hot take- Women Love Criminals  Why do so many women — even ones from seemingly stable backgrounds like Mariah the Scientist — end up in relationships with men who come with a rap sheet? Carla and I get honest about the psychology, the patterns, and yes, the red flags we’ve all ignored at some point. It’s a mix of chaos, culture, and curiosity this week. Tune in, because you already know we’re asking the real questions.   CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesowhatnowpod  

We kick off this weeks episode with a motherhood update. Carla opens up about new and uncharted challenges of motherhood this week. Her little one just started Pre-K. It's been a rough ride, and Carla’s not sugarcoating it. The struggle bus is real, and Carla’s driving it with no GPS. Then things take a sharp (and hilarious) left turn into pop culture: we dive into the Cardi B trial — yes, the $24 million lawsuit from a security guard that somehow made it to court. The drama! The absurdity! The joy! Carla turned to her bestie ChatGPT for a breakdown of how this could even happen. While we’re talking Cardi, we go full conspiracy mode trying to guess who her new baby daddy is — and why she’s being so secretive about the pregnancy. We have thoughts. Carla’s also still deep in her docuseries era, and this week she’s all about Beytral: The Podcast (Session Three) on Hulu. She gives a full (spoilery) breakdown of the chaos, the drama, and the absolute insanity of it all. We close out the show with Southwest Airlines’ new controversial policy: plus-size passengers now required to purchase two seats. Dex isn’t convinced it’ll be enforceable, and we break down what this means for travel, equity, and common sense. Tune in for laughs, hot takes, and a lot of “what is even happening right now?” CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesowhatnowpod

This week, we’re diving deep into the future of dating — and it's getting a high-tech upgrade. Bumble founder Whitney Wolfe Herd says AI could soon help you navigate dating anxiety, improve your communication, and even “date” other AIs to find your perfect match. Helpful or horrifying? We weigh in. Then, tennis pro Sachia Vickery has gone viral after revealing she requires a $1,000 deposit before any date. Is this setting boundaries or setting a new trend? And what does that conversation actually sound like? Also, are we okay with step-parents adopting kids when the biological parent is still involved? The internet is buzzing with rumors about Russell Wilson and Ciara’s son with rapper Future. We unpack the debate. Over in the UK, families are now eligible for 30 hours of free childcare per week — a major win for working parents. So why is Florida trying to eliminate all vaccine requirements for kids? We discuss the contrast. Tune in for the hot takes, the real talk, and the questions nobody else is asking. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesowhatnowpod  

Hey Friends it's Carla! Welcome back to another episode of So What Now?  Let's get right into this week's wild ride! So Bella Thorne hopped on IG sharing that she proposed to her fiancé… after he already did it first. I’m sorry, what?? Nah. Ya’ll know I have thoughts (spoiler: I am not out here getting on one knee, let’s be so serious). And of course, Dex went off on one of her classic rants. This time about how some things are strictly “for men.” Like proposing. Like budgeting. Like… anything that feels like work. According to her, we deserve to live soft, fun, budget-free lives and honestly? She might be onto something. Then we slid into the listener letters, and babyyyy  it got spicy. We heard from a teacher who’s also on OF. She’s tryna decide if she should quit her 9-to-5 and go full-time as a spicy girl. You know we had to weigh in. But somehow that convo took a sharp left turn into us telling our embarrassing secrets  and yes, both of ours happened on cruise ships. Don’t ask, just press play. Grab your drink, your headphones, and your nosiest friend — this one's a wild ride!   CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesowhatnowpod

In this episode, we kick things off with the hidden cost of friendship — turns out, staying social could be costing you over $250 a month in brunches, happy hours, and birthday dinners. Then we get into dating finances, where new data shows men are spending $15,000 more per year in relationships, largely driven by lingering provider expectations. How much is your man spending on you?  Dex brings us a shocking story out of Brooklyn: a man lost his fully paid-off $800K home over a $5K water bill. She also shares a personal horror story about the hidden traps and predatory fines cities can hit you with as a property owner. Carla wraps things up with the story of Khloé Kardashian stepping in as primary caregiver for Tristan Thompson’s younger brother, Amari. While Carla sees it as a generous act of love, Dex questions whether it’s just another chapter in Khloé’s inability to let go of Tristan. Whether you’re here for the facts, the feels, or the side-eye — we’ve got you covered. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesowhatnowpod

This week on So What Now?, I kicked things off with a few thoughts on all the buzz surrounding the Woman Evolve conference and shared a little bit about what the experience was like for me personally. We also wanted to catch up with y’all, so we took some time to dig into a couple of listener letters because let’s be honest, our inbox is overflowing and these topics deserved some attention. One letter came from someone feeling the heat from her mom to get married ASAP, and we talked about how to honor your own timeline without blowing up the family cookout. The other came from a woman who’s thriving solo, but keeps getting told she’s “too independent” to be dateable. We unpacked the difference between being self-sufficient and emotionally unavailable, and how to leave room for love without shrinking yourself. And then we heard from someone whose ex just won’t let go still liking her posts, sending memes, and dropping “I miss us” texts every week. We got into why men do this, how to set real boundaries, and why sometimes, hitting that block button isn’t petty it’s necessary. As always, we kept it real, gave our best advice and honestly, who needs a therapist when you’ve got me and Dex? LOL.   CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesowhatnowpod

This week, Dex came in hot with the age-old(and honestly, exhausting) question: Are you wife material? We broke down a xoNecole article where 10 men shared what makes a woman “wife” vs. “girlfriend” material and whew, some of these takes had me raising eyebrows and clenching my pearls. From emotional maturity to splitting bills to being “referred” like a LinkedIn job post, we had plenty to say. Spoiler alert: Dex absolutely flunked the wifey quiz. 😂 Then we had to pivot to check in with my mommas, because back-to-school season is no joke. We discussed another article that reminded me how vital it is for Black women to prioritize ourselves especially when we’re constantly expected to carry everyone else. Trusting others, knowing your limits, setting boundaries, and redefining self-care as non-negotiable? We’re leaning into all of that. This episode is part therapy, part side-eye, and 100% necessary.   CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesowhatnowpod

This week, me, and Carla are comparing social media timelines and realizing just how differently our algorithms are built. Mine? Full of the usual celeb mess. Carla’s? Somehow led us into a convo about butt sniffers. I’m still recovering. We get into the age-gap dating buzz between Karrueche Tran (37) and Deion Sanders (57)—is there a cutoff age where nobody cares anymore, or are we still side-eyeing big gaps? Then we talk about Kamala Harris—she's not running for California Governor, which has me wondering: is she over America or early 2028 presidential plotting? And per usual Carla and I have a heated disagreement: Traci Ellis Ross said she’s traveling without underwear to save space. What?? Panties take up no room. Carla’s out here defending it, talking about washing them in the sink. I said what I said: the math ain't mathing. Tune in for timeline chaos, political tea, and way too much talk about butts.    CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesowhatnowpod

This week on So What Now, we unpack a viral TikTok that challenges the usual checklist for choosing a partner. Sure, faith, finances, and fitness are great—but what about the ability to suffer well? Life will get messy, and having someone who doesn’t fall apart in the chaos might just be the most underrated trait of all. Dex keeps it real and admits she’s not built for bedside caregiving—she’ll cut the check, but don’t look for soup and soft words. And if she ever becomes the one in need? Her motto is simple: just take her out! Things take a turn when we discuss the woman who found out her husband’s ex hacked their home security system and watched over 44,000 minutes of footage. Dex is baffled at how anyone has that kind of time, while Carla confesses she might’ve been one click away from doing the same. We also tap into the rising trend of “poly-working”—people holding down two full-time jobs, often powered by AI. Carla’s here for it (shoutout to her ADHD superpowers), but Dex is barely making it through one job. Speaking of jobs, Carla shares a little about her short-lived corporate career and the moment it ended with a good ol’ fashioned workplace fight. Yes, hands were thrown. You definitely want to hear this one. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesowhatnowpod

Whew—y’all, we’re back! After dodging studio bookings like TSA lines, we finally made it back to High Hello Labs, and babyyy... we’ve got a lot to catch up on. Dex is officially 41 (but giving 25), and Carla shares how TSA Cares and Psalm’s amazing therapy team helped him prep for his big NYC takeover. 💪🏾 We’re talking legacy—but not the money kind—getting older (and finer), and how one Coldplay kiss cam moment exposed way more than expected. 👀 Oh, and yes, we go there: abortion debates, Shannon Sharpe’s hush-hush settlement, and what happens when a CEO gets caught up on camera... with someone who ain’t his wife. Plus, Barack and Michelle tap in with some parenting wisdom (we know they be listening 👋🏾).   In This Episode: Dexty’s birthday, surprise cake, and getting emotionally wrecked in the Delta lounge 🍰 Psalm’s flying glow-up and why TSA Cares is that girl ✈️ Why posting content could be your ticket to Bali (or at least brunch) The Coldplay concert scandal that cost a CEO his job 👔 Carla vs. the Internet: abortion takes, Twitter fingers, and curly-haired chaos 🥴 Shannon Sharpe’s “retirement plan” for his OnlyFans accuser 💰 Barack + Michelle’s parenting gems and why boys need more than one male role model   Keep Up With Us: 🗣️ Join the convo @sowhatnowpod 🎥 Watch the full episode on YouTube 🎧 Subscribe, rate, and review on your favorite podcast app 📩 Got a messy work story or a petty win? Slide in our DMs or email us!  

Hey Besties We’re back! and it’s giving unfiltered chaos (per usual). 😅 This week’s episode is straight from the living room while Carla gets her hair done and Dex debates washing hers (it’s been 16 days, send help). The kids are in the background, the vibes are real, and the convos? Whew. We’re talking: The Bali Challenge: Carla told Dex if she posts 31 Reels in August, she’s going to Bali for free. Now she’s on the gram like her life depends on it. Plastic surgery for men?! Abs, arms, hairlines, do what you want… just don’t tell us about it. Do you really tell your friends when their weight is getting outta hand? Or mind your business? Ashanti and Nelly’s show has us stressed. Is she a married single mom now?! Listener Letter: She’s married with a “good man”… but can’t stop thinking about the one that got away. What should she do? And a DM asking for dating advice after loss—Dex gives the play-by-play on building a roster safely while healing. It’s raw. It’s ridiculous. It’s us. Press play, laugh with us, and maybe send this to a friend who needs to stop replying to “Hey stranger” texts. 😩 xx - Carla   CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL: 📱 IG: @thesowhatnowpodcast 📱 TikTok: @thesowhatnowpod 🎙 Wanna advertise with us? Click here

Hey Bestie, We’re back! Listen… jetlag and schedule conflics are real. This week’s episode is a catch-up at the house. I just got back from Bali, had a full-blown spiritual awakening (yes, there were tears in the ocean), and maybe met the love of my life… but he said he’s not coming back to America soooo that’s that. 😅 Dex has been going through it too. When it rains, it pours, okay? She took a little break from social because the doom scroll had her in a chokehold. She opens up about that, plus her quick lil’ Miami trip where she gave out her number… but did anything come of it? 👀 We also read a letter from a listener who feels stuck in a “content” life. Not bad, not great—just… meh. She wants more but feels guilty for wanting it. We unpack that, too. It’s raw, it’s real, it’s us. We missed y’all. Hit play. xx Carla Wilmaris   CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesowhatnowpod 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US: https://www.sowhatnowpod.com/   Rate, Review & Follow UsIf you laughed, felt seen, or screamed "same," take 30 seconds to rate and review the show. ⭐ Scroll to the bottom of our Apple Podcasts page ⭐ Tap to rate 5 stars ⭐ Hit “Write a Review” and tell us what you loved most Your support keeps this going—and we read every word. Our Sponsors This episode is powered by our partners at Hi Hello Labs and Idea to Launch Productions. Looking to level up your podcast or bring your show to life? These are the teams making it happen. Ready to Start Your Podcast? Let Carla help you launch your podcast in just 30 days. → Take the course now → Book a clarity call and get personal strategy support Need Advice? Want to Sound Off? Send your questions, hot takes, or real-life mess to: 📧 thesowhatnowpod@gmail.com We might read your letter on the next episode—anonymously, of course.  

On this juicy episode of So What Now, Carla kicks things off by sharing her prep for Bali — a water fast that helped her shed six pounds (and gain three right back 😅). Still, she’s feeling herself and ready for the beach! Meanwhile, Dex crowns the Woman of the Week: a queen who ghosted her man right after he handed her a winning lotto ticket. City girls up by a million 💅🏾💸 Then it’s a hard pivot to politics as we unpack Trump’s headline-grabbing pardons, including Todd & Julie Chrisley (fraud squad!), NBA YoungBoy, Kodak Black, and Lil Wayne. Carla shares what her presidential platform would be — starting with a strict no deadbeat baby daddies policy. We get real with Ileana Gracia, founder of Latinas for Trump, who’s suddenly shocked by Trump’s immigration policies. Carla gives her a reality check she won’t forget. Plus, we offer survival tips for navigating Trump’s presidency (again): Set media boundaries 🧠 Make space for joy 🪩 Rest is resistance 🛌 Finally, we dive into a heartfelt listener letter from an entrepreneur juggling business dreams and bestie FOMO. 💌 You’re not alone, sis. Keep building. The trips (and the tribe that gets it) will come. We wanna see y’all IRL. We’re planning some in-person events, just for the ladies. Click the link and let’s get out of the group chat.  Outside the Group Chat: Women’s Meetups CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesowhatnowpod

Whew! Y’all… I’m out here trying to date and let me just say: it’s terrible. This week I went on two dates — yes, two. One man is ready for a monogamous relationship immediately… and has absolutely no friends (red flag?). The other sends me unsolicited prayer voice notes every single morning and follows up with "send me a pic" all day long. I’m exhausted, and it’s only Monday. 🙃 Meanwhile, Dex is convinced the internet is for girls only — specifically saying men should not be in The Shade Room comments. Honestly? I don’t disagree. Go build a house or something, sir. We also got into the wildest things we’ve done for love. Let’s just say, Dex shared a story that had my jaw on the floor. You ever stay with someone who cheated… and had two kids on you while y’all were still together? She did. And sis really said "crazy for love." Then, we got into a listener letter: “Do you have to pick a side when two close friends fall out?” Mmm… we had thoughts. Lots of thoughts. In our motherhood segment, we reviewed that new Tyler Perry movie Straw (spoiler alert if you haven’t watched yet!). Of course, we couldn’t agree on anything. I loved it — it spoke to me on such a deep, spiritual level. Dex? She’s over it. Said it’s just more Black trauma on display. Classic us. So what now? Click play and find out. We wanna see y’all IRL. We’re planning some in-person events, just for the ladies. Click the link and let’s get out the group chat.  Outside the Group Chat: Women’s Meetups — Carla 💛 CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesowhatnowpod

Alright y’all, in this week’s episode we got real about body language in dating—yes, sis, that closed-off vibe might be why no one’s stepping to you! A new study says most women think we look approachable, but we really out here serving “don’t talk to me” energy. I put some of those body language tips to the test and let’s just say... results were mixed. Meanwhile, Carla is back in these dating streets and using ChatGPT to help cut through all the awkward small talk on Hinge and honestly, it’s working! you’ll have to hear it to believe it. What are ya’ll thoughts on romantic relationships being transactional?  Now me? I stand ten toes down in the belief that all relationships are a give-and-take. Know your value, know what you want, and stop wasting time. Carla had a moment too—realizing that what she brings to a relationship is more than money, and honestly, that shift is powerful. But we had to ask—since women are out here buying homes, getting degrees, leveling up in every way—should we lower our standards when it comes to men? Whew, child.  We closed it out with a pivot to motherhood and policy—talking about Trump’s “big beautiful bill” and how it’s gonna make SNAP benefits harder to get for single moms. Work requirements, marital status hoops... it’s a lot, and it’s giving struggle for too many women. Tap in, y’all. This one’s layered. We wanna see y’all IRL. We’re planning some in-person events, just for the ladies. Click the link and let’s get out the group chat.  Outside the Group Chat: Women’s Meetups — Dex 💛 CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesowhatnowpod

Hey friends—Carla here! This week on So What Now?, Dex and I sat down with the fierce and inspiring Jena Mehlberg—entrepreneur, mama, survivor, and all-around powerhouse in the beauty world. Jena took us on a real ride through some of the toughest chapters of her life—becoming a single mom in her teens, losing a parent, navigating an emotionally abusive relationship, and the ups and downs of running her own business. And y’all, the way she speaks about resilience and faith? You feel it in your bones. She talks about the importance of existing outside yourself and not letting isolation pull you under, especially in the hardest seasons. One thing that really stuck with me—Jena opened up about her mom, a woman who moved through the world like rules just didn’t apply to her. That “ask forgiveness later” attitude? It gave Jena permission to live boldly and never wait for someone else to give her the green light. Then we shifted gears and got real about raising boys. As two single moms of sons, Jena and I got into it: How do we raise emotionally healthy men in a world that often doesn’t teach them how to feel? What message are we sending if we keep choosing partners who don’t show up emotionally? Dex jumped in too, and we unpacked the tension between wanting to protect our kids from life’s mistakes… and knowing we can’t. Y’all, if you’ve ever wondered whether you’re doing enough—or how to keep going when life knocks you down—this one’s for you. 💬 Come join the conversation and lets figuring it out together. We wanna see y’all IRL. We’re planning some in-person events, just for the ladies. Click the link and let’s get out the group chat.  Outside the Group Chat: Women’s Meetups — Carla 💛 CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: CARLA WILMARIS | DEX 📱INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesowhatnowpodcast/ 📱TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesowhatnowpod 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US: https://www.sowhatnowpod.com/