Welcome to season 5! Today we're talking about "accidental activists" and "sex work influencers". What is the cost of speaking about the industry under your work persona? We also answer a question about transitioning from a client/provider relationship to a friendship, and Holly delivers a "won't someone think of the men???" style Shit People Say. Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: ht...
It’s a big fat Holly & Jenna recap episode! What did we get up to this year? What games, movies, and tv shows did we love? What new sexual experiences did we encounter? And what is coming up for us in 2025?? Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.y...
NSWP (Global Network of Sex Work Projects): https://www.nswp.org/members APNSW (Asia Pacific Network of Sex Workers): https://apnswnew.wordpress.com/membership/members/ Sources: https://soundcloud.com/socialismconf/behind-the-rescue-sex-work-migration-and-the-anti-trafficking-industry https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-CfYvmGIzRE https://www.theatlantic.com/international/archive/2012/03/the-white-savior-industrial-complex/254843/ https://www.artofcitizenry.com/podcast/episode-15-rescue-in...
Well, the time has come. We are finally doing a deep dive on the Nordic Model! End Demand, Swedish Model, Equality Model... whatever you want to call it, it sucks. Sources: Sex in the New Europe: The Criminalization of Clients and Swedish Fear of Penetration, Kulick, 2003Twenty Years of Failing Sex Workers: A community report on the impact of the 1999 Swedish Sex Purchase Act, Fuckforbundet, 2019 Sex Work and the Nordic Model (w/ Freja and Elizabeth), The Importance of Being ...
The film The Best Little Whorehouse in Texas was released in 1982, based on the 1978 musical, based loosely on a true story. The movie stars Dolly Parton and Burt Reynolds and this week Holly and Jenna are sharing their thoughts on it! Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/someb...
Combining 15 years as a professional undresser, award-winning stripper, pole dancer, & 🌽 star with an international research portfolio spanning SWer activism, LGBTQ+ health, sexual rights and sextech, it’s Zahra Stardust! Order Indie Porn: Revolution, Regulation, and Resistance: https://avidreader.com.au/p/indie-porn-revolution-regulation-and-resistance Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagr...
Pomma Granet, also known as Blair Bishop, also known as OnlyPomma, Juicy Pomma, Succubus Slut, and a host of other usernames given how many times they’ve had accounts deleted, is a New York-based full service sex worker, adult content creator, BDSM & fetish provider, cammer, and much more. Blair describes themselves as a bit of a nerd - they love video games, cosplay, anime, crafting, and alternative fashion and they are often traveling the country for anime conventions. They also s...
CW: Stalking, harassment, sexual assault Welcome to part 2, and apologies for the darkness of these episodes! This time Holly & Jenna each share another story of stalking/harassment, as well as talk about the red flags they’ve learnt to watch out for, parasocial relationships, hitting on people at work, and female perpetrators. Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.insta...
CW: Stalking, harassment, sexual assault, animal death. We use the term “grandfathered” in this episode. We understand this term has very racist origins, and we apologise for the mistake. A better term would have been “legacy rates” While we are not more likely to be victims of violence because we sell sex, we are more likely to be victims of violence because people think the fact that we sell sex makes us less than human. Which is the whole reason this podcast exists. Today Holly & Jenna...
Holly finally convinced Jenna to watch Pretty Woman and here we are! Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/ NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.or...
Note: we had some technical issues when recording this episode, so unfortunately the audio isn’t at the level we usually like to deliver! Buy SLUTDOM: https://www.uqp.com.au/books/slutdom-reclaiming-shame-free-sexuality Dr Hilary Caldwell has been a sex worker for over 20 years and decided to come out of hiding to publish her first book. She is an academic with a Masters in Health Science and Applied Science. Her doctorate, ‘Women Who Buy Sex in Australia’ was the first study in the w...
How do I ask how recently they were tested for STIs? How do I ask for us to do something different this time? What if I get down there and it smells really bad? Holly & Jenna give you tips on how to tackle tricky topics and sticky subjects. They also answer the listener question “Is there room for older ladies to succeed in SW?” Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod MERCH: http://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod ...
In part three of this series (make sure you’ve listened to parts 1 & 2 if you’re new or thinking about joining the industry!), we’re talking about the actual booking - how do you keep time, how to set up for and run a booking, how to do health checks, tips for building assertiveness, and what mental self care is necessary in this job. Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com...
In part two of this series, we are moving more into the logistics of the job itself. Holly and Jenna talk about advertising & advertising platforms, dealing with time wasters, screening, getting deposits, and supplying invoices. Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod Somebody You Love is sponsored by Assembly ...
Michael (he/him), and Louise (she/her) both lost their “virginity” to sex workers and they’ve both agreed to share their stories on the show! *Virginity is a social construct, but we talk about that more in the episode. Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out...
Yep, this week we are mining reddit for content. We read out the SW-related stories of contributors to /r/AITA and decide if we think: NTA (not the arsehole)YTA (you are the arsehole)NAH (no arseholes here)ESH (everyone sucks here) Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod For more info on sex work in Australia, please...
Get your jazz hands ready, we’re doing musicals! Spotify playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/41U6nuxshQciTYfLLnIsfb?si=a50dc606af40463e Songlist: 1. I Dreamed a Dream (Les Miserables, 1980) 2. Lovely Ladies (Les Miserables, 1980) 3. The Movie in my Mind (Miss Saigon, 1989) 4. The Transaction (Miss Saigon, 1989) 5. No One Knows Who I Am (Jekyll & Hyde, 1990) 6. Bring on the Men (Jekyll & Hyde, 1990) 7. Someone Like You (Jekyll & Hyde, 1990) 8. Out Tonigh...
Spotify playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/41U6nuxshQciTYfLLnIsfb?si=a50dc606af40463e Mandatory article: https://www.mandatory.com/culture/1066689-the-10-best-songs-about-prostitutes Song list: 1. Call Me (Blondie, 1980) 2. What Would You Do (City High, 1999) 3. Sweetest Girl (Wyclef Jean, 2007) 4. Slut Money (ZAND, 2020) 5. The A Team (Ed Sheeran, 2011) 6. None of Your Business (Salt-N-Pepa, 1993) 7. Sugar Daddy (Qveen Herby, 2020) 8. Lady Marmalade (Labelle,...
TW: Shit People Say mentions sexual assault Meet Charlie Bear, a trans, non-binary sex worker based in Melbourne, on Wurundjeri land. They were assigned female at birth, but currently live in a body that falls between female and male, and use they/them pronouns. They see clients of all genders, and are on the show today to talk about the gender binary, the SWERF 'n' TERF lunch special, and both the privileges and pressures that come with being an 'out' non-binary sex worker. Charlie’s w...
Holly spreads the festive fun while Jenna tries to maintain her strong boundaries around frivolity. CHAPTERS 04:32: Sexy Gift Giving Guide 2023 20:50: Porno or not-porno? 26:30: Holiday traditions 50:17: New Years Booking Wishlists LINKS Pipedream Fantasy for her – Her ultimate pleasure: https://www.randyfox.com.au/fantasy-for-her-her-ultimate-pleasure-licking-sucking-pleasure-pump.html Alliance Ultra Plush MIcrofibre Pillow: https://www.mydeal.com.au/alliance-ultra-plush-microfibre-p...