Speaking With Confidence

What if you could make people say “yes” more often—ethically? On today's episode of Speaking with Confidence, we dive deep into the science and art of ethical persuasion. Many of us have wondered, “How do I convince people without feeling pushy or manipulative?” Today, we’re answering that, exploring how understanding human decision-making can massively improve your influence—at work, at home, or on stage. I had the pleasure of sitting down with Patrick Van Der Burght, a founding member of the Cialdini Institute, licensed trainer, and business partner of Dr. Robert Cialdini—the author of the legendary book Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion. If you’re in the communication or leadership space, you already know Cialdini’s name—so having Patrick Van Der Burght join us is a real treat. Not only does he co-host the podcast Ethical Persuasion Unlocked, but he’s been teaching ethical influence to professionals for over two decades, helping them accelerate toward their personal and professional goals using behavioral science. Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode: Why “no” usually just means “I don’t know yet”—not outright rejection How most decisions are made unconsciously, and what that means for communication today The difference between being liked and being similar, and how to use both Why giving value first (reciprocity) increases compliance and loyalty How to use testimonials and social proof for maximum impact Ways authority can be established ethically on stage or in business, without losing credibility The surprising power of scarcity and loss framing (“What will it cost you if you don’t act?”) How getting someone to take a small, public action makes them much more likely to follow through Why surveys and focus groups can so badly miss the mark on what truly influences behavior How these principles work not just professionally but in everyday relationships—persuading your kids, family, and friends This conversation is loaded with actionable insight, memorable stories, and some eye-opening science. Patrick is offering a free ebook and other resources—don’t miss those in the show notes. And if you found this episode valuable, please drop me a comment or review—Patrick and I would love to know your feedback. Tune in to discover how you can start hearing “yes” more often—without ever sacrificing your ethics! Connect with Patrick: Website: https://ethicalpersuasion.com.au/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ethicalpersuasionLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/patrick-van-der-burght/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ethicalpersuasion/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ethical_persuasion/Twitter: https://x.com/yesmoreoftenTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ethicalpersuasionBook: https://yesmoreoften.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered what really goes on behind the scenes of a high-pressure, time-limited public speaking presentation—and how a communication coach turns even his own missteps into teachable moments? In this special episode of Speaking with Confidence, I pull back the curtain on my recent experience presenting a Pecha Kucha at PodFest 2026, while offering you practical coaching advice you can apply to your own speaking journey. As we celebrate the podcast’s two-year anniversary (with a special giveaway—don't miss the details!), I reflect on what it means to embrace confidence, resilience, and the power of vulnerability on stage. This episode is a bit different: using my own Pecha Kucha talk as a case study, I break down the presentation, highlight what worked, where I stumbled, and how you can learn from real-life examples. If you’ve ever let fear hold you back from speaking up, stepping onto a stage, or pressing “record” on a podcast, this one’s for you. I’m joined at the top of the show by Roddy Galbra, who introduces me before I launch into my presentation breakdown. From that point, I take you step-by-step through everything: prepping the talk and building slides under a deadline, battling nerves, and the moment-by-moment coaching insights I’ve gained both from experience and good old-fashioned trial and error. Along the way, I share how tools like ChatGPT can be a feedback partner (and sometimes a brutal truth-teller!) when preparing for big moments. Here’s what you’ll get in this episode: The inside story of my Pecha Kucha experience with only five minutes and 20 auto-advancing slides Candid reflections on starting too fast, handling nerves, embracing pauses, and managing mistakes as they happen Why humor, humility, and authenticity work better than perfection on stage Recognizing the importance of connecting your story to a clear call to action The value of critiquing your own performances—and the difference between authority and arrogance in public speaking Insights into how your fears might be tied up with your identity, and how to use that to fuel growth instead of hesitation Why your audience doesn’t connect with perfect—they connect with “messy,” real stories Actionable advice on what to improve in any talk: punching up your openings and closings, planting your feet, letting silence do the heavy lifting, and giving your audience a repeatable mental model they’ll remember Encouragement to step up, take action, and use your unique voice, regardless of nerves or previous stumbles If you’re ready to move past fear and into progress—not perfection—this episode will encourage and challenge you to take your next speaking risk. Don’t forget, I’m running a special giveaway: leave a review for Speaking with Confidence, share it on social media and tag me, and you could win a free three-hour coaching package with me focused on communication and leadership skills. Tune in, learn from my journey, and remember—your voice has the power to change your world. Talk soon,Tim Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How prepared are today’s students for the realities of the workforce, and what can we do to close the career readiness gap? That’s the big question we tackle in this episode of Speaking with Confidence. This week, I’m joined by Mike Wysocki, an award-winning author of Careers by the People and a seasoned veteran with over 30 years in tech sales. Mike’s journey is both cautionary and inspiring. After launching a successful career without the tools or guidance he needed, Mike has dedicated his life to helping the next generation develop the soft and professional skills they need to succeed. We dive deep into the hard truths and realities of career preparation, from what’s missing in both higher education and K12 settings, to the vital importance of communication and other soft skills. We talk about why so many students—especially those who are first-generation and come from working-class backgrounds—are being left behind in a system that focuses more on education as an end in itself, and less on real-world outcomes. You’ll also hear: The story behind Careers by the People and why Mike felt compelled to write it How he gathered authentic stories—from CEOs to actuaries to accountants—to help other students avoid the same pitfalls he encountered Why soft skills (or what some call “power skills”) like public speaking, communication, teamwork, and writing are more important than ever—and actionable ways for students to develop them, whether through Toastmasters, acting classes, or even stand-up comedy Practical strategies for career exploration, including talking to those inside—and outside—the industries you’re considering, seeking out summer jobs, volunteering, and joining professional associations The difference real-world experience makes, and why getting out of your hometown for a first job can open up your world The importance of follow-up and adding value in networking, not just collecting contacts Why students need trusted advisors from a range of ages and backgrounds, and why advice from peers isn’t enough What gives us hope about the next generation, and what still keeps us up at night You’ll also catch us going back and forth on what colleges and employers could be doing differently, how parents and students can ask the right questions during the college decision process, and what we as educators and mentors can do to make the biggest difference. Whether you’re a student, a parent, an educator, or someone thinking about your next step, this episode gives you the tools and real talk you need to move forward with clarity, courage, and confidence. Tune in to hear the full conversation with Mike Wysocki—and stay with us till the end for his tips on making the most of every career opportunity and how to get in touch with him for more insights. Connect with Mike: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mike-wysocki/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@careersbythepeople    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever found yourself stuck in a conversation with a complicated coworker, wondering, “How do I actually communicate with this person to get things moving forward?” In today’s episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dive right into the core question: How can you effectively communicate with complicated people—especially when, let’s be honest, we’re all complicated in our own unique ways? Hi, I’m Tim Newman, a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and I’m excited to guide you through practical strategies for navigating communication challenges at work. In today’s episode, I reference Ryan Leak’s insightful book, How to Work with Complicated People, which inspired much of the approach I share. We kick things off with an all-too-familiar workplace scenario: a colleague agrees to a deadline with smiles and nods, only to send a passive aggressive note a few days later that derails the project. Your instinct may be to fire back or just give up, but I explain why that reaction rarely solves the underlying problem—because the real issue is how complicated humans communicate with each other. Here’s what we covered: Why communicating with complicated people is a universal challenge The importance of translating your message for different audiences How workplace communication direction changes your approach (up, across, and down) Strategies for communicating up: focusing on outcomes and impact with leadership How to handle peer-to-peer conflict through respect, questions, and common ground Four keys for giving clear, motivating direction to your team The difference between tactical fixes and building a true communication system The foundational skill of knowing your audience and message, and why it’s essential for every workplace conversation Whether you’re reporting to a boss, negotiating with coworkers, or leading a team, you’ll leave this episode with actionable techniques to stop the cycle of miscommunication and start showing up—every single time—with clarity and confidence. Remember, the goal isn’t perfection—it’s consistent progress. Before I sign off, don’t forget to grab your free eBook, “The Top 21 Challenges for Public Speakers and How to Overcome Them,” at speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com, and check out our Formula for Public Speaking course. Thanks for listening and always remember: your voice has the power to change the world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Have you ever wondered why taking action beats raw talent every single time, or how you can leverage new technology like AI without losing the heart and soul of your message? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we’re getting to the root of what it means to communicate with clarity, build your confidence as a storyteller, and stand out in our fast-changing world. I’m Tim Newman, your host, a recovering college professor turned communication coach, and today I’m joined by the incredible Jim Edwards. Jim’s a true legend in the world of online business and communication, with almost three decades of experience helping entrepreneurs, coaches, speakers, and professionals get their messages heard. Not only is he a bestselling author of over three dozen books, but he’s also helped countless people find their voice and capitalize on their knowledge. Listeners will also hear actionable advice on: Finding and sharing your own stories (even if you think you don’t have any) Developing patience and delayed gratification for long-term success Building confidence as a speaker through preparation and practice Using writing as a tool for clarifying your thoughts and improving your communication Harnessing AI as a creative accelerant, not a replacement for your ideas Understanding the new role of creators and curators in a world awash with content How to recognize and communicate your true value as a coach, speaker, or business owner Whether you’re trying to write your first book, become a more compelling speaker, or navigate the digital landscape with authenticity, this episode offers real, practical steps and mindset shifts that will help you take your message and your confidence to the next level. I’m so grateful to Jim Edwards for joining me and sharing his wisdom (and contagious enthusiasm). If you’re looking for even more confidence-building resources, don’t forget to visit speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com for your free eBook and more tools to help you unleash your voice! Connect with Jim: Website: https://jimedwards.com     LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thejimedwardsmethod/    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejimedwards    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JimEdwardsFan X: https://x.com/RealJimEdwards YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@jimEdwards TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thejimedwards Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Have you ever wondered why some leaders inspire trust and action while others leave their audience confused or disengaged? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dig into a hard-earned lesson from early in my own teaching journey: the dangers of overcomplicating communication. Back when I started out as a teacher, my eagerness to impress led me to present high-level material to high school freshmen and sophomores only to realize that complexity wasn’t a sign of intelligence but a barrier to understanding. That moment of frustration, both for me and my students, revealed something powerful: people can’t appreciate your knowledge if you can’t explain it in a way they can grasp. In this episode, I walk you through transforming the way you communicate, whether you're presenting to a boardroom, pitching a client, or simply leading a team. I draw on insights from leadership expert John Maxwell to introduce the law of simplicity, clarity, brevity, and focus on three mandates that can take your influence to the next level. Here’s what you’ll hear in today’s episode: Why complexity pushes people away and can be a career killer How trying to “sound smart” with jargon or convoluted terminology signals insecurity, not expertise What actually builds trust and gets you noticed in leadership roles The 8th grader test: why your message must be clear enough for a middle schooler to understand John Maxwell’s three mandates for powerful communication clarity, brevity, and focus and how to apply them to all your messages Simple steps you can use to audit and improve your own communication before any meeting or presentation The real mindset shift: moving from ego-driven to audience-first How these principles not only change how others perceive you, but directly impact your career progress By the end of this episode, you’ll be equipped with a practical framework to strip away confusion, communicate with true confidence, and make sure your message always lands. Remember, leadership starts with the ability to make the complex clear. I hope you enjoy the episode and start putting these mandates into practice right away because your voice really does have the power to change you. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text What separates a good communicator from a truly exceptional one and how can you ensure you’re not holding yourself back from the career you want? On this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we’re diving into the core of leadership communication, self-awareness, and the ever-changing landscape of workplace communication especially as technology like AI becomes more prominent. I’m Tim Newman, your host and a recovering college professor turned communication coach. Today, I’m joined by leadership consultant, seasoned executive educator, and author, Michael de Lisser. With over 25 years of experience creating customized leadership development programs, coaching 500+ executives, and shaping the next generation of leaders at the University of Utah, Michael de Lisser brings wisdom, practical insights, and real stories to every answer. Here’s what we cover in this jam-packed episode: The pivotal reasons leaders get fired and how communication is often at the root Michael de Lisser’s go-to method for transforming communication habits, from videofeedback to new behaviors The power of self-awareness and catching your “blind spots” early Recording yourself: why it's uncomfortable, but vital for growth Filler words, over-explaining, and other common bad habits and how to fix them Why trying to be “perfect” or someone else sabotages both your executive presence and credibility The unique challenges (and strengths) of younger generations in communication How AI is reshaping workplace communication, and why delivery still matters most The case for always customizing your message to your audience (with real boardroom examples) Building relationships to increase your influence and message “stickiness” Developing a pre-presentation ritual to manage nerves and “get in the zone” What executive presence really means and why authenticity wins over style every time How to use your strengths and shore up weaknesses to captivate any room Tips for practicing under pressure, bouncing back from mistakes, and celebrating wins on your communication journey By the end of this episode, you'll have a toolkit of actionable steps to raise your self-awareness, break through old communication patterns, and show up with confidence no matter the audience or setting. If you’re ready to take your communication skills from good to great (and beyond), this one’s packed with insights you’ll want to revisit again and again. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Have you ever left a presentation struggling to remember the speaker’s name, or worse, realized you might be that forgettable speaker yourself? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I tackle the real root of feeling like an imposter on stage and share practical steps to help you transform into the kind of communicator people truly remember. Today, I’m guiding you through a topic that undermines so many presenters, yet rarely gets the attention it deserves: building your speaker identity. We often chase technique, obsessing over posture, gestures, and slide design, but we forget the foundation that makes those techniques powerful—who we are as communicators and what unique perspective we bring. So, what exactly makes up your speaker identity? I outline the three pillars: Your Unique Value Proposition—what only you can say about your topic based on your expertise, experience, and angle. Your Authentic Communication Style—how you naturally connect, whether it’s humor, data, stories, or questions. Your Signature Stories—the pivotal experiences that shaped your understanding and give emotional weight to your message. You’ll walk away from this episode with: A new understanding of why identity—not just technique—makes speakers memorable Real-world examples of transformation through authenticity The three key pillars of speaker identity and how they work together A step-by-step exercise to claim your own speaker identity Immediate actions to align your presentations with your authentic strengths Insights for tackling imposter syndrome at its root I close by reminding you—progress, not perfection, is our goal. If you want extra support, check out our free eBook or my full Formula for Public Speaking course at speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com. Remember, your voice has the power to change; all you need to do is bring your true self to every conversation that matters. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Have you ever wondered what it really takes to become a confident communicator across cultures, generations, and languages? In this episode, I talk with Maria Rincon, a multilingual public speaking coach with roots in Colombia and China, a background in TV hosting, and experience as a communications consultant for the United Nations. We kick things off exploring Maria’s journey—how she transitioned from television to her meaningful work with the UN, and what it’s actually like inside such a global, multicultural organization. Maria shares stories of teamwork across continents, adapting to cultural diversity, and the powerful lessons she learned navigating different communication styles, both professionally and personally. Maria opens up about her move to public speaking coaching, detailing what she’s learned in her first year as an entrepreneur, including marketing challenges, building confidence, overcoming imposter syndrome, and establishing her unique approach. We discuss working with technical professionals worldwide and dig into foreign language speech anxiety—how it manifests and the practical techniques Maria uses to help clients overcome it, like embracing your accent and slowing down your speech. We also dive into generational communication differences, debunking stereotypes about Gen Z and Millennials, and discussing the importance of empathy and building bridges across age groups. Maria provides a look at how work-life balance differs globally, especially after experiencing the Nordic approach firsthand. Finally, we talk about the power of storytelling for leaders and professionals. Maria provides actionable tips on developing a story “bank,” the importance of practicing stories in different formats, and how to make stories resonate authentically in any setting. In this episode, you’ll hear about: What it’s really like in the UN’s multicultural environment Navigating direct and indirect communication across cultures The ups and downs of starting a coaching business—and lessons in marketing and self-confidence Common obstacles like imposter syndrome and foreign language speech anxiety (with tips to overcome them) Generational communication differences and how to bridge the gaps Cultivating work-life balance across cultures The crucial role of storytelling in leadership and communication You don’t have to be perfect to be an impactful communicator. From personal stories to practical advice, this episode is packed with insights to help you find your unique voice and show up with confidence, no matter the audience. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Are you struggling to truly connect with Gen Z team members at work—or maybe you’re a Gen Z professional frustrated by colleagues who don’t seem to get where you’re coming from? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I tackle a challenge that’s becoming more important every day: How can we break down the generational communication barriers at work to build authentic relationships and boost performance for everyone? I’m Tim Newman, a former college professor turned communication coach, and as your host, I’ve spent years watching the dynamics between Boomers, Gen Xers, Millennials, and Gen Z play out both in classrooms and boardrooms. Today, I unpack what really prevents us from connecting and share practical, powerful strategies you can use to start bridging the gap now—no matter which generation you’re in. In this episode, I share plenty of real-world stories from my own career and consulting experience, plus research insights from leadership expert Dr. Tim Elmore. We dive into why the old “positional authority” model just doesn’t work with Gen Z, who grew up with access to unlimited information and have learned to question everything—including your title! Instead, we explore how building trust and authentic connection is the key to motivating and retaining Gen Z employees, and how these skills make us stronger communicators with everybody. Here’s what we cover in this episode: How making people truly feel heard (not just tolerated) leads to better motivation and results The single biggest communication mistake managers make with Gen Z—and how to fix it Why authority means nothing if it isn’t backed by trust and demonstrative competence Three essential pillars for rebuilding your communication style: listening like you could be wrong, radical authenticity, and co-creating clarity with your team Step-by-step ways to transform feedback meetings from judgmental monologues into collaborative, solution-focused dialogues Simple, actionable tactics for onboarding new hires so they feel like they belong from day one—starting with relationship building over rules and policies Real case studies showing how these changes boost performance, deepen psychological safety, and drastically improve retention The difference between high accountability and strong connection—and why you don’t have to choose between the two A practical behavior change you can implement this week: brief, consistent, agenda-free check-ins that help you solve problems before they become resignations Whether you’re a manager trying to motivate your Gen Z talent or a Gen Z professional craving genuine dialogue, this episode will arm you with strategies that work. Join me as we move beyond outdated authority models and start building the trust, clarity, and connection our workplaces—and our world—sorely need. Thanks for listening and don’t forget to check out the free resources and courses at speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com. Let's make your voice—and your conversations—powerful enough to change your world. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Have you ever wondered if it’s truly possible to rewire your brain for confidence—and finally break free from fears that hold you back? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dive into the powerful world of hypnosis with certified hypnotherapist, speaker, and bestselling author Amy Koford. Together, we unravel what hypnosis really is, how it works, and ways it can transform not only our communication with others, but also the way we talk to ourselves. We explore what led Amy Koford to hypnosis, including the pivotal moments and the “inner voice” that told her she was meant to help others in this way. Amy discusses how hypnosis goes far beyond the stereotypical portrayals in movies and television. She unpacks the science of trance states, theta brain waves, and how the subconscious mind can be retrained for breakthrough results. Whether it’s breaking a bad habit, boosting performance as an athlete, or conquering the fear of public speaking, Amy’s method emphasizes releasing limiting beliefs and replacing them with empowering ones. I ask Amy about how hypnosis applies to speakers, communicators, and leaders. She draws a direct line between optimal athletic performance and high-impact communication, illustrating how both require clearing out fear, rewriting mental scripts, and visualizing success. We also touch on the challenges faced by self-proclaimed “control freaks” and how hypnosis can help uncover and heal the root causes of that need for control. Here’s what we covered in our conversation: Amy’s path from personal struggles with depression to becoming a hypnotherapist What hypnosis actually is (and isn’t), debunking myths from pop culture How theta brainwaves allow for direct subconscious reprogramming The role of hypnosis in changing habits (like quitting sugar or smoking) How Amy helps athletes “clear the garbage” of past mistakes and perform with confidence—and how this same approach empowers public speakers and communicators The release-and-replace method for eliminating internal blocks and installing new, confidence-boosting beliefs Why we care what others think and strategies to overcome insecurity in high-stakes moments The importance of self-talk and the transformative power of the words “I am” A behind-the-scenes look at Amy’s bestselling book, Hardwired to Rise, and why tackling fear is at the core of healing and communication Practical exercises for taking out the “mental trash” and refocusing on what you truly want Whether you’re looking to overcome stage fright, let go of self-doubt, or simply get out of your own way, this episode is packed with wisdom, real-world examples, and actionable steps you can use to build rock-solid confidence. If you’re ready to take that next step, check out Amy’s resources at amykofoard.com and don’t miss her book, Hardwired to Rise, for deeper strategies on tackling fear and unlocking your most confident self. And as always, visit speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com for your free eBook and more resources to help your voice make an impact. Your confidence is closer than you think—sometimes, it just takes the right mindset shift. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Have you ever wondered what it actually takes to grow as a speaker—beyond just practicing your presentation in front of the mirror? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dive deep into the lessons I've learned on my own personal journey, including some pretty humbling moments and a behind-the-scenes look at how coaching and mentorship can truly elevate your skills. This week, I’m sharing the story of how I went from a nervous college student—literally the guy who puked in speech class—to a certified, confident speaker and coach. It’s not just about getting over nerves; it’s about shifting your mindset, investing in lifelong learning, and realizing that vulnerability (not perfection) is what really connects us with our audience. I also introduce Roddy Galbraith, John Maxwell’s own speaking coach, who played a pivotal role in helping me shape my story for the International Maxwell Conference’s three-minute speech contest. Roddy’s feedback pushed me to dig deeper, refine my delivery, and focus the message for real impact. If you’ve ever questioned whether coaching is worth the investment, wait until you hear the difference it made—and the advice Roddy gives. Here’s what we cover in this episode: How joining the Maxwell Leadership Certified Team revolutionized my approach to speaking and coaching others What it’s like to compete in a high-stakes, three-minute speech contest—including the importance of timing and preparation, whether you’re speaking to 3,000 or just five people Why I believe coaching is essential for everyone (even John Maxwell gets coached!) A raw story from my past: the first time I had to speak in public—and why it ended with me throwing up in class The critical shift from perfectionism to authenticity, and the power of making your message about serving others Roddy’s actionable feedback: how to tighten your speech, amp up your delivery, and draw out the message that matters A side-by-side comparison of my first version and my final speech—showing exactly how much a story and performance can evolve with the right support My reminders about progress over perfection and the importance of chasing your potential, not letting self-doubt or others keep you from taking the next step If you’re looking for inspiration, practical takeaways, and an honest look behind the curtain, this episode is for you. Plus, I’ll tell you how to grab your free ebook and register for upcoming speaking courses. Your voice truly has the power to change the world—but only if you use it. Thanks for listening and for being part of this journey with me! Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text What does it really take to lead and communicate with Generation Z in today’s workplace? On this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I sit down with Dr. Tim Elmore, founder of Growing Leaders, bestselling author, and expert in multi-generational leadership. Dr. Elmore has spent decades developing emerging leaders—including an impressive 20 years by the side of John C. Maxwell—and he’s written extensively on what makes great leadership tick, especially in our rapidly evolving culture. If you’ve ever struggled to connect with Gen Z professionals or wondered why their anxiety levels seem so high, this is an episode you don’t want to miss. I’ve long believed that Gen Z is smarter and more entrepreneurial than previous generations, and finally, Dr. Elmore’s new book, The Future Begins with Z, delivers the data to back it up. In our conversation, we explore the shifts in social and technological dynamics that have shaped Gen Z, especially how anxiety (now at levels comparable to psychiatric patients in the 1950s) has become a natural outgrowth of the overwhelming flood of information they face daily. We dig into the critical distinction between post-traumatic stress and post-traumatic growth—how leaders and educators can help foster resilience instead of victimhood. Here’s what we cover in the episode: The roots of Gen Z’s high anxiety and how social media amplifies it Coaching young professionals through stress and building grit with empathy and compassion Key differences between post-traumatic growth and stress, and how to foster resilience How educators and employers can prepare Gen Z for professional success—through realistic expectations and reframing self-talk The “Stockdale Paradox” and the difference between hope and optimism in leadership The misconception that Gen Z doesn’t want to work, and data from real-world focus groups that prove otherwise The necessity of building trust and relationships before offering feedback or correction (“Connect before you correct”), and the ALEG feedback process Teaching and modeling soft skills that Gen Z may be missing due to pandemic-era screen life Why authentic, frequent, and brief communication trumps lengthy, infrequent updates—and why daily check-ins matter How leaders can admit mistakes openly to build trust and model real communication The velvet-covered brick as a metaphor for leadership: balancing empathy with accountability Recognizing and responding appropriately to practical, social, and emotional conversations—especially when leading younger team members We wrap up with actionable steps for leading Gen Z better, starting right now—not tomorrow. If you want practical strategies, stories, and a hopeful look at how Gen Z can make us stronger leaders when we rise to the occasion, you’ll find gold in this episode. I’m grateful to Dr. Tim Elmore for joining the conversation and sharing his wisdom. For everyone ready to adapt, lead, and have more confident conversations with the next generation, this episode is for you. Connect with Tim: Website: https://growingleaders.comWebsite: https://www.timelmore.com LinkedIn: Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Are your words truly building the influence you want, or is there a hidden gap between what you say and how you act that's silently killing your credibility? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dive deep into the powerful truth that your real message isn’t just what comes out of your mouth—it’s what people see in your behavior, especially when no one’s watching. I open with a personal story about a tough leadership lesson: the painful disconnect between preaching innovation and risk-taking, and then acting in a way that totally undermined those values. Admitting that I was the one who once made this mistake sets the tone for radical authenticity and accountability—qualities I argue are essential if you want genuine influence. Drawing on insights from John Maxwell's Everyone Communicates, Few Connect, I explain why your PowerPoint slides and pitch-perfect scripts are just window dressing. The heart of true connection and lasting influence is living out what you communicate. I tackle the myth that communication is all about how you craft your message and show why, instead, behavior is your primary message. Your team and clients have real-time “credibility audits” running in their heads, always weighing your actions far more than your words. Here’s what I cover in this episode: The invisible gap between values and behavior that sabotages your influence A personal leadership mistake that taught me hard lessons about credibility Why your behavior communicates more than your words, especially under scrutiny How accountability—not perfection—accelerates trust and strengthens connections The step-by-step formula for owning and fixing mistakes with clients and teams A fresh take on vulnerability: how sharing learned wisdom (not present weakness) wins hearts and minds How to shift from a transactional to a partnership dynamic in any relationship The power of doing a quick “alignment audit” before key meetings to instantly increase impact Whether you’re a leader, communicator, or entrepreneur, this episode arms you with actionable tools to make your influence grow—by living your message with confidence, accountability, and authentic vulnerability. And remember, we’re always chasing progress, not perfection! As a quick update, next week’s schedule features a special guest and a holiday replay, so stay tuned. Don’t forget to grab your free eBook and check out my new book for even deeper strategies on turning your connections into true career growth. Thanks for joining me—your voice really can change your world. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text What if there was a proven way to help kids with dyslexia leap multiple grade levels in reading and writing—using strategies most schools never teach? On this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dig deep into this question and reveal practical answers with the help of a truly inspiring guest. Today, we’re diving headfirst into the realities of dyslexia—a condition that affects as many as 15 to 20% of learners, yet is still too often met with “let’s wait and see” in schools and by professionals. I have a personal connection to this topic, both as an educator and as someone with ADHD who faced my own hurdles in the traditional education system. Joining me for this conversation is Russel Van Brocklen, known as the “dyslexia professor.” Russel Van Brocklen didn’t just study dyslexia—he lived it, spending his early years reading and writing at a first-grade level, even into college, before finally learning to read fluently in law school. He’s devoted decades to translating structured literacy research into practical, bite-sized strategies families can use at home. His story, and the successes he’s helped engineer for countless kids, provide a roadmap out of what can feel like an endless educational maze. We explored Russel’s personal journey—from academic struggle and institutional roadblocks to academic success and expert status. We talk about the specific-to-general approach that flips how most of us were taught, and why it’s the leverage point for learners with dyslexia, ADHD, and other neurodiverse backgrounds. Russel shares real-life case studies, like Casey, a highly motivated fifth-grader who jumped eight grade levels in reading in just six months by leveraging her passion for Theodore Roosevelt. Here’s what you’ll take away from this conversation: The unique brain-based challenges and strengths of learners with dyslexia and ADHD Why most accommodations don’t go far enough—and what actually works How to use a student’s “speciality” or passion as the engine for dramatic growth in reading and writing The “specific to general” teaching method and why it works where traditional methods fail Simple, research-backed home strategies that parents can use tonight The critical role of writing in organizing thoughts and boosting reading levels Why early intervention is key—and how to advocate for your child in a system that may be resistant to change How the right support can transform not just academic skills, but confidence and mental health Free and affordable resources for families (like dyslexiaclasses.com) and how to access expert help You’ll also hear about Russel Van Brocklen’s experience working within state governments, pushing for policy change, and training both teachers and parents to make a measurable impact—sometimes in as little as just three hours of training! By the end of this episode, you’ll have concrete steps for helping the neurodiverse students in your life succeed, and a new understanding of just how much potential every struggling reader really has. If you’ve ever felt like the system is stacked against kids who learn differently, this conversation will give you hope, strategies, and a path forward. To dig deeper, get your free guide, or connect directly with Russel Van Brocklen, Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Have you ever wondered why so many presentations lose the audience within the first thirty seconds? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I tackle the critical question: How do you earn an audience’s attention right from the start and keep it? I’m Tim Newman, your host—a recovering college professor who’s now dedicated to helping others become powerful communicators. This week, we’re diving deep into one of the most fundamental but overlooked aspects of public speaking: the opening. Specifically, I reveal why the majority of speakers fail almost immediately by focusing on themselves, their credentials, or their agenda, instead of the needs and interests of their listeners. In today’s episode, I’m walking you step-by-step through a transformative approach to strong openings. I break down the psychology behind audience attention, explaining that your listeners aren’t evaluating you at first; they’re evaluating whether what you’re saying is worth their time. Your goal in those first crucial seconds is not to impress, but to serve, to name a problem your audience is facing, and to offer a quick glimpse of a solution. I outline my favorite tool for this: the pattern interrupt hook. Here’s what you’ll take away from today’s episode: Why focusing on yourself at the start of a talk is a guaranteed way to be ignored. How to use a pattern interrupt hook to break through audience filters and make them want to listen. The specific three-part opening formula: problem statement, immediate consequence, and solution promise. How to structure those opening thirty seconds to create curiosity and relevance. Examples of both weak and strong openings in meetings, networking, and public speaking. Tips on making the formula your own, reading the room, and communicating authentic urgency. The vital mindset shift from seeking validation to serving the audience’s needs. Remember: credibility in communication comes not from listing your achievements, but from immediately solving the audience’s problem. By the end of this show, you’ll know how to grab attention with purpose, set the right tone, and provide value from the very first words. If you want to grab your audience and guarantee your message lands, this episode will give you the tools and confidence to start every conversation strong. Don’t forget to visit speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com to download your free eBook and learn about upcoming courses. As always, your voice has the power to change—let’s make sure people are listening. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Have you ever wondered why so many presentations and conversations end up sounding boring, or why teaching communication skills seems stuck in outdated paradigms? On this episode of Speaking with Confidence, we dive into exactly that—and explore what it takes not only to end boring communication, but to build genuine connection in every interaction. This week, I'm excited to introduce my guest, Ivan Wanis-Ruiz. Ivan is on a mission to rid the world of boring, whether it's in public speaking, storytelling, or everyday conversations. He's a professional speaker, educator, emcee, and yes—salsa dancer—with a knack for bringing energy and engagement to any room. Ivan brings unique insights from his experience in dance, improv, and hosting live events, showing us how these seemingly unrelated disciplines offer strategies and inspiration for great communication. We kicked off the episode swapping stories about Ivan’s journey from a bored newcomer taking dance classes to becoming a full-on salsa teacher, and how dance became his live laboratory for educational techniques. We explored the key elements of truly effective communication training—getting people actively involved, letting students speak in every session, and making exercises practical and applicable. Ivan described the importance of aligning teaching approach with the skills being taught, urging educators to break free from the “lecture then speak once at the end” model. Here’s what we covered in this episode: How Ivan’s dance teaching doubled as a testing ground for interactive communication techniques The impact of engaging introductions and ditching the boring bio in speaking and events Why emotion in storytelling doesn’t have to mean trauma—how humor and uncertainty are just as powerful Overcoming awkward networking through strategic self-disclosure and volunteering Strategies for introverts to connect without burnout Why communication skills are now the real competitive advantage in a world of abundant knowledge Sugata Mitra’s revolutionary approach to education and learning through challenges and collaboration How to create engaging workshops with open-ended tasks, timed constraints, and group deliverables Why storytelling works best when it’s focused on problems, uncertainty, and emotional ups and downs How to leverage AI for brainstorming and developing memorable personal pitches using literary devices like tricolon and anaphora If you’re ready to break old habits, boost your confidence, and make sure you’re truly engaging your audience—whether it’s on stage, at work, or in any conversation—this episode is packed with practical advice, stories, and straight talk you can use right now. Thanks for listening. Don't forget to check out the free ebook and course at speakwithconfidencepodcast.com, and let us know how these strategies help you show up with confidence wherever you speak. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text How do truly powerful speakers command authority without relying on sheer volume or aggressive body language? That’s the question we’re answering on today’s episode of Speaking with Confidence. In this episode, I dive deep into the art and science of authentic authority in communication. As someone who’s coached hundreds of professionals—and as a recovering college professor myself—I’ve seen firsthand that the most influential communicators aren’t the ones who try to dominate the room; they’re the ones who remain poised and structured, even under pressure. There’s no guest on this episode; it’s just me, Tim Newman, guiding you through the exact three-step formula I teach my clients to help them show up with quiet confidence rather than performative bravado. We unpack the misconception that authority is about sounding loud or forceful, and replace it with a new paradigm built on control, clarity, and composure. Here’s what we explored together: Why real authority can’t be faked and why it collapses under tough questions if it’s only an act. The first pillar: Structure. Most speakers fail before they begin because they don’t have a clear framework. You’ll learn how the “scaffolding principle” and the rule of three—simplifying your main points—help you build clarity, respect, and influence. The second pillar: Strategic pause. I share why silence is the most powerful tool for authoritative delivery. You’ll discover how replacing commas and periods in your mental script with intentional pauses instantly commands a room, eliminates filler words, and projects composure. Stories from my coaching experiences, including how a client turned a tense Q&A into a moment of control and how Steve Jobs used silence to demonstrate real thinking. The third pillar: The unavoidable verdict. We go beyond just informing audiences to inspiring action, guiding them to a single, compelling conclusion by engineering every aspect of your communication for clarity and impact. A step-by-step example of structuring a pitch and how to use the three pillars to build a winning case. Common pitfalls—like rambling or flooding people with data—and how to avoid them by focusing on simplification, strategic silence, and clarity of purpose. Practical takeaways for you to start practicing right away: from structuring your next team update, to slowing your speech with pauses, or defining your key verdict before preparing a presentation. By the end of the episode, you’ll know how to stop chasing authority and start embodying it—naturally and consistently. If you’re ready to transform the way you communicate, visit speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com for your free eBook, Top 21 Challenges for Public Speakers and How to Overcome Them, and consider registering for the Foreman for Public Speaking. Remember, your voice has the power to change. Progress, not perfection—let’s step confidently into every conversation that counts! Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Ever wondered why so many high-achieving leaders and communicators struggle to recognize their own value? In our 100th episode of Speaking with Confidence, we tackle this powerful question and much more with a very special guest who’s played a major role in my own podcasting journey—Alex Sanfilippo. I kicked off this milestone episode reflecting on the journey so far and the importance of crafting your communication skills. From day one, Speaking with Confidence has been about helping you show up as your most authentic, impactful self—whether it's in storytelling, leadership, podcasting, or daily conversations. To celebrate our 100th episode, I invited Alex Sanfilippo, founder of PodMatch.com and the host of Podcasting Made Simple, to join me. If you’re not familiar, PodMatch is a brilliant platform that automatically matches podcast hosts and guests, a true game changer for podcasters looking to deliver more value and connect with new audiences. We dove deep into topics that every communicator and leader will relate to—especially if you’ve ever doubted the impact you make. Alex Sanfilippo shared honestly about his own struggle with imposter syndrome, the challenge of recognizing the ripple effects of our work, and why surrounding yourself with the right people is so critical—not only for accountability but for remembering your successes and celebrating your growth. We reminisced about some of Alex’s earliest lessons as a 10-year-old entrepreneur selling golf balls, and how those negotiations with adults laid the foundation for his confidence and communication today. Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode: Why so many high achievers underestimate their own value and impact How imposter syndrome shows up (even for seasoned leaders and creators) The importance of community—having people who’ll tell you when you’re doing great and when you need to grow How laughter, play, and fun can transform not just your mood, but your effectiveness as a communicator Lessons from childhood entrepreneurship that still apply to adult leadership and negotiations How to reflect on your day and extract lessons that drive growth The difference between representing yourself as a brand and representing a company—and why authenticity matters more than ever A powerful story about vulnerability on stage, and how genuine emotion connects more deeply than perfection ever could Tips for managing nerves before speaking, including “mindset hacks” to recast anxiety as excitement Why storytelling, not just well-organized points, is at the heart of powerful communication How to use your walk-up song or other rituals to channel energy and confidence before you speak Whether you’re a podcaster, leader, or someone simply looking to speak up with more confidence, this 100th episode is packed with honest insights, practical strategies, a few laughs, and plenty of encouragement about the unique value only you can offer. Thank you for being part of this incredible journey to 100 episodes. Tune in to hear my conversation with Alex Sanfilippo—I promise you’ll walk away ready to communicate (and live!) with more confidence. Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text Have you ever wondered if your phone habits are actually rewiring your brain—and what you can do to reclaim truly meaningful conversations? In today’s episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dive deep into the reality of digital overwhelm, exploring how our constant connectivity shapes not only our attention spans, but also our ability to build real, lasting connections. I’m Tim Newman, your host and a “recovering college professor” turned communication coach. If you caught my earlier conversation with Craig Mattson about digital overwhelm (and if not, be sure to listen!), today I’m taking our discussion one step further. This episode is packed with practical tips to help you break out of the screen-time spiral and nurture richer, more present communication—at work, at home, and everywhere it matters. I unpack just how our devices—and the behaviors they encourage—impact our brains, our relationships, and our emotional well-being. Did you know that our attention span has dropped to less than a goldfish’s, or that checking your phone mid-conversation can physically hurt your relationships? I detail the science behind these findings, walking you through what’s really happening in your brain when you’re glued to your screen. Here’s a sneak peek of what we cover in this episode: How excessive screen time quite literally changes the physical structure of your brain, especially the areas that keep your empathy and emotional processing sharp The eye-opening comparison between our attention span today and that of a goldfish (spoiler: the fish is winning) Why multitasking is just rapid attention switching, and how every notification derails your focus for as much as 25 minutes How checking your phone—even for a split second—during meetings or conversations triggers feelings of rejection and erodes trust The surprising emotional gap in text-based communication vs. phone calls or in-person chats, including why arguments take longer to resolve over text and why emojis don’t always help The neuroscience behind why social media may be numbing our real-world empathy, and how dopamine-driven interactions make it harder to form deep, lasting bonds Simple, science-backed strategies to repair your attention span—like the 90/20 rule, tech-free meal times, and delaying morning phone use—and the powerful results you can expect to see The truth about “multitasking” in virtual meetings and the dramatic drop in information retention when devices are present Why creating analog space and reducing digital distractions leads not only to better memory and increased empathy, but more rewarding, memorable conversations Throughout the episode, I share practical experiments, easy habits, and real-world stories—along with the latest research—to help you make progress, not seek perfection. You’ll discover small changes that restore focus and connection, proving you don’t have to renounce technology to build your confidence as a communicator. Start with just one device-free meal a day and see just how much deeper your conversations can go. Don’t forget to check out speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com for your free eBook and details on my public speaking course. Your voice matters—and with a bit of intentionality, you can ensure it’s heard, felt, and Support the show Want to be a guest on Speaking With Confidence? Send Tim Newman a message on PodMatchSpeaking With ConfidenceFormula for Public SpeakingFacebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices