Speaking to Shame

Joan Gardner used muck to describe her experience with starting over after divorce. As a coach for women in the same spot, she wants you to know that your life is not over, and you aren’t aloneAs you navigate the loss, you’re also learning how to rebuild a life that looks different than before. In that space, it’s easy to feel like an island. An island of muck, perhaps?Joan shares how she navigated all of that, as well as how she can help you do the same. She ends it all with the promise that...

What if it had a name?The knowledge you can't pretend everything is okay anymore with small talk.The mid-life crisis that has you wondering what it's all been for.The realization that you can't ignore the dysfunction around you.Like waking up and not being able to go back to sleep again.It does have a name, and you're not alone. The Dark Night of the Soul is the "wait a minute" to your life, and comes with a whole new reality. It calls for your removal from autopilot and asks you to heal alon...

What would it be like to not hate your body? ⚠️TW: Eating disorders ⚠️Cara Cifelli, a food and body image coach, wants you to know that there is peace in rejecting diet culture's rules for you, including the idea that you are the problem.In this episode, Cara discusses the ways she supports her clients in their inner knowing, and shares ways you can reject other people's rules for your body. She tells her story of battling an eating disorder, and gives us living proof that healing and body co...

Erika speaks EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and what it can do for our healing.We know and love Erika, our in house Shame Slayer! She’s a:Licensed clinical professional counselor of nearly 10 yearsCEO of Greenstone CounselingEMDR Trained TherapistPUBLISHED AUTHOR (this is big, fam. HERE’S HER DAMN BOOK)Human being dedicated to helping you ✨healurshit✨Find Erika on Instagram, and again, BUY HER BOOK!My TikTok and InstaEmail me: em@helloemilystearman.comBecome a STS donor!...

From me and my amygdala to you and yours 🧡WOW. Speaking to Shame has GROWN! I am floored and humbled and weepy. What a journey this has been! As the podcast grows, so too do my abilities to share incredible stories and people with you. As my time investments increase, so does my need for support. If Speaking to Shame has ever helped you feel seen, I’d be honored if you donated ANY amount to the show. Here’s to continued healing. 🧡 DONATE HERE 🧡My TikTok and InstagramEmail me: em@helloemilyste...

When Kobe Campbell set out on her healing journey, it was truly to stay alive. Now, years later, she has much to say on healing, connection, and the divine purpose of her life. This interview is for anyone seeking a reminder that they're not alone. It's for the person seeking answers on what healing can look like for them. And it is, especially, for the person questioning if the hard work to heal is worth the energy it takes. You can find Kobe on Instagram and TikTok Follow along on The...

What does an engineer-pastry chef-Thrive Coach-entrepreneur have to say about shame? Listen to find out. 🙌Lisa Hansen can design an airplane, whip up a tart, teach you about thriving, and help you find your business niche. It's all in a days work for the woman who has made it her goal to support women. Join me as I discuss thriving, shame, and knowing yourself with Lisa. ✨Grab your ticket for Thriving Women's Conference and find it on Instagram 🧡 (I'll be speaking!)Find her on InstagramEm's I...

WOW. Speaking to Shame is here for season two and it has GROWN! I am floored and humbled and weepy. What a journey this has been! As the podcast grows, so too do my abilities to share incredible stories and people with you. As my time investments increase, so does my need for support. If Speaking to Shame has ever helped you feel seen, I’d be honored if you donated ANY amount to the show. Here’s to continued healing. 🧡DONATE HEREHere is another tool for you in your shame resilience work! A ch...

Season two of Speaking to Shame is less than a month away! Here's a glimpse of what to look forward to. More experts, more helpers and healers, more human beings just like you and me, ready to remind you that you are not alone.With much love and less shame,Em 🧡P.S. If Speaking to Shame has impacted you, I'd love a review 🧡 Review on Apple or Audible.Find me on InstagramFind me on TikTokLOOK AT YOU, HEALING YOUR SHIT! ✨🧡If you've found support or connection through STS, you can show your thank...

I know it’s heavy and heartbreaking to think about children being harmed. It sucks. Deeply. 💔 But we will not protect them by ignoring the problem. If Uvalde is teaching us anything, it’s that children will continue to pay for things first; they will be on the front line until we, the adults, the parents, take educated, informed, and assertive action. ⚠️TW: explanation of childhood sexual abuse.⚠️Join me and my husband, Nathan, as we share tools and practices on protecting children from sexua...

The fight to feel valid, supported, and seen is one the queer community knows well. I sat down with Cameron Stearman for a vulnerable, authentic conversation about his experience with that fight. Cameron shares his story of growing up gay, his fight for validity, love, and acceptance, and the shame that lived with him in that place. ⚠️TW: discussion of suicidal thoughts/ideation, self-harm, and coming out to parents/family. If any of these themes are difficult for you to sit through, please g...

No, you read that right. The Vagus Nerve is a big old chunk, in charge of things like:-digestion-heart rate-respiration-activation of your parasympathetic nervous systemAKA it is IMPORTANT. AND YOU HAVE ONE!Tuning into vagus nerve stimulation can help reduce the sympathetic stress response! Meaning, learning about this awesome part of your anatomy is an additional, shameless tool in your mental health tool box.Join me on today’s Speaking to Shame episode, where we’ll talk about the...

What got you through the hardships of your childhood?When Tammica Dowd was young and living in a group home, at times she’d be locked in a closet by a counselor. In order to keep her mind strong and pass time, she envisioned what she wanted for her future.-Graduate high school.-Marry her dream guy.-Have five children who’d never go through what she went through.-Go to Maui.-Win a Grammy.All her goals but one were achieved! (But don’t count her out for that Grammy.)She did not see divorce comi...

GUESS WHO’S BACK?Erika Nordfelt, our in-house shame slayer, is back for a conversation on shame! Erika, an LCPC with almost nine years of experience, is the CEO of Greenstone Counseling in Rexburg Idaho. She loves shame in the same way we all do; the unpacking of it and speaking to it way.Get a comfy seat and a tasty snack and join us for an easy conversation on shame, worth, and healing.🧡Find Erika on InstagramORVisit her websiteConnect with me on Instagram or TikTok or email me em@hell...

⚠️TRIGGER WARNING: Childhood sexual abuse disclosures and descriptions⚠️Dear Survivors.You are brave, but I'm sorry you've had to be. I believe you. You're safe to share your story here.There is no more shame in surviving.Love, EmP.S. For those who listen to this who are not survivors, thank you for sitting with us. Remember that survivors are people you know and love. InstagramTikTokem@helloemilystearman.comAdded August of 2022: WOW. Speaking to Shame has GROWN! I am floored and humbled and ...