Spilled Coffee

Say Hello to Jessica and Amy and learn what the channel is going to be about. We are excited to have you join us!

Hey everyone! Listen here to get to know a little more about your hosts Jessica Darin and Amy Williams. In today's episode we talk about our family, a little background of how we grew up and we touch on a little bit of our experiences with grief. We are excited to share with you our family members, too. Jessica is married to Angelo and they have their one year old Weston. Amy is married to Shannon and they have 3 kids, Amara, Elijah, and Sarai. Jessica talks about losing her dad and Amy talks about losing both her parents. Listen to learn more!

Jess and Amy talk about dating, marriage and what to do if you are in a relationship that might not be good for you. We ask questions like; Are you lifting each other up? What age do you allow your children to start dating? When did you start dating? How dating has changed from before social media and now? We also touch on the subject of couples counseling and how it's helped in both of our marriages. Laugh with us about silly quirks of which direction to put the toilet paper roll, leaving cupboard doors open and all the little things that make a relationship work or fail.

Today Jess and Amy talk about friendships. They talk about their ride or die friends, what has made a friendship last or not. What makes a good friend? Are you being fake? HONESTY is key in any relationship, but how honest are you? Amy gives a few examples of when her friends really showed up and showed their love in a time of need. You don't want to miss this one!

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This episode is all about Dominic Mason and her fight for her life. She shares with us her story of being in a domestic violence relationship and how she got the help she needed to get out. Need help or know someone that needs help? Here are the two links we mentioned in the show: The YWCA West Central Michigan: www.ywcawcmi.org The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 or www.thehotline.org

Jessica is back from Florida just in time to talk with our friend Alexis Bates. We got to learn from her what it was like growing up biracial. The conversation flows from her childhood experiences to current racial tensions and issues that we deal with as adults. Amy compares her interracial marriage and raising biracial children with Alexis and how some things are similar and others completely different. We talk about White privilege and what box to check on forms for college applications and doctors offices. Do you wash your chicken before you cook it? We talk about different stereotypes and genetic differences between races. This conversation is honest, light hearted with lots of giggles in the mix.

In this episode Jessica and Amy talk about the lovely topic of grief. Anyone ever tell you to "just get over it" or did you have a support system surrounding you helping you during your grief journey? BONUS in this episode we included the comments, advice, and questions from our facebook fans. Thank you Angelo, Angela, Quiana, Jen, and many more who participated with our social media platforms to help us on this episode. We discuss the 7 stages to grief, how we both show our grief and handle it completely differently, how to help someone around you, and ways we received advice and help too. No grief is the same and you are not alone! Hope you hang on to the end for those amazing bloopers as always. ;)

In this episode we had the honor to interview Heather Toonstra. She shares her story all about her battle with depression. She talks about different treatments that she's tried including TMS treatment. We navigate how to support someone with depression, the differences between Post Partum Depression and severe depression. Jessica and Amy talk about their experiences with depression and open up about struggles they've had. Included in the episode are ways to support someone with depression, what triggers are, and how much support from friends and family has helped in their hardest times. Join us as we dive in to learn more about this mental health disorder and discover that even if you are depressed, you are not crazy. As always, stay for the blooper reel at the end of the episode. References: National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255 Suicidepreventionlifeline.org "The lifeline provides 24/7 free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals." TMS- Neurostar.com *Find a Dr. near you by entering your zip code **please note that these are personal experiences and if you think you need help, please first contact your Doctor for more information. If you are having suicidal thoughts please call the hotline immediately**

Are you looking to better understand depression and how to help the ones you love that are suffering from depression? In this episode we had the pleasure of talking with Zach Toonstra. Husband of Heather Toonstra and father of two kids. Heather was our guest on Episode 7! Not only does he talk about growing up with a parent who suffered from depression, but how that experience helped him understand what Heather and their family needed. He talks about his military background, work/life balance, taking time off, and the relationship he has with his coworkers and how much they helped, too. "Teamwork" is a major word used in their marriage and it shows! Depression is a mental health illness and it doesn't look or act the same in everyone and we know that support doesn't always look the same either. We also cover what to say and what to avoid saying to someone struggling with depression. As always, there's a blooper reel at the end! References: National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255 Suicidepreventionlifeline.org "The lifeline provides 24/7 free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals" **please note that these are personal experiences and if you think you need help, please first contact your Doctor for more information. If you are having suicidal thoughts please call the hotline immediately**

In this episode, we had the privilege of speaking with Carla Hardy. She talks about her 6 year struggle with infertility and her success story! We enjoyed the conversation so much, we dived in to the emotions, let downs, disappointments, hormone treatments, cleansing, weight loss, self care, and so much more. 1 in 6 women struggle with infertility, it's time we talk about how to support someone, what to say, what NOT to say and that you are not alone in your struggle. We hope you enjoy this conversation as much as we did! If you know someone struggling with infertility give this a listen and know you probably shouldn't ask them "Are you pregnant yet?!"

Ever wonder what the life of a navy wife might be like? We had the privilege of interviewing Danielle Knapp in this episode and she shared her experience with us! We talked about military basics of re-inlistment, deployment, being stationed, and retirement. Danielle does an amazing job opening up about her struggles raising their new baby and moving from the east coast surrounded by family to now being on the west coast! We talk about support, advice, and much more! We hope you enjoy this discussion as much as we did! To all the men and women serving in the US military we thank you for your service. To the families and spouses of those in the military, we thank you for the sacrifices you make daily, too!

Episode 11 is with special guest; Kenzie Darin! We got to know her life story as far as her relationship with her 8 year old daughter Laylah, and the relationship with Laylah's father. We dive into the struggles of being a single mom. The time that Laylah gets with her Dad has been pretty inconsistent over her 8 years of life and we talk about what type of long term effect that might have and how to keep positive role models in her life. Being a single mom isn't always easy so we asked a few of these questions; Do you struggle financially? Do you get child support? How do you answer Dad questions from Laylah? Do people have misconceptions of what your life looks like? Do you have that "village" surrounding you to help out when needed? What do people say that bothers you as a single mom? If you are a single momma and can relate make sure you tune in to this episode, know a single momma, but it's not you? Make sure you share this with them! Hang on for the end of the episode where Laylah makes a special appearance and as always the blooper reel will add some extra giggles.

You get to meet our husbands! This episode you are introduced to Amy's husband, Shannon Williams. We talked about all sorts of fun and interesting things to get to know him better. What his life was like growing up, his huge growth spurt that led him into basketball, and the tragic knee injury. We had fun talking about his new business venture with Jessica's husband, Angelo (listen for the plug!). We talked about the hard parts of life including being color blind, the loss of loved ones, friendships, marriage, parenting, interracial marriage, and we even learn some bonus random things about him, too! We hope you enjoy getting to know the other half of Amy Williams! We talked about motivation and mentioned this video: https://youtu.be/az6NibAUf7Y about the lion and the gazelle. Which one are you?! Business Plug: Find their business and show your support on facebook! Black Diamond Detailing @blkdiamonddetail DO NOT MISS THE BLOOPERS ON THIS ONE! We promise it will give you some much needed giggles- as always!