#StopDevaluation Podcast

Andrea Hinson shares the identity battle she faced living with prejudice from two very different worlds. She learned to show up differently trying to fit in until an educator saw and affirmed her potential.  This powerful story is filled with so many poignant stories of the those treated as insignificant, bringing them into a validating community.

Gang raped at eight years old and years of blocked memories left Joy Renee Arnold angry, depressed, and suicidal. This along with 20 years of 15 pills a day, being institutionalized, and living in self-hatred screams a destroyed life; but Joy shares how she got to the other side and how her life is one of loving people authentically and genuinely. Powerful and poignant story!

As Karley shares her story she says, "You have to come to peace with your broken pieces." The majority of Karley's childhood was filled with the broken pieces of abandonment, neglect, and abuse.  How could she come to peace and wholeness?

Emotional manipulation along with verbal and  physical abuse has the power to scar the soul and render one powerless. The crippling fear to reach out for help silences the voice as confidence is lost in the sea of shame. Ahelya Vargas' moving story will touch your heart and reveal the power that unconditional love and safety carries the ability to rescue the broken.   Ahelya Vargas has written a beautiful book entitled, "Restoring The Waters."

Denise DeCou shares her story of growing up multiracial and multicultural. This presented her with unique challenges, which she calls a “bag of burdens.” She also learned many life lessons positioning her to be a voice championing diversity, equality, and inclusion.

It is so easy to judge a person’s actions when you are unaware of their suffering. Donna Scott shares the hidden pain of sexual, physical, and verbal abuse from the age of two through fifteen-years old. These and other events immersed her into the lies of shame and a self-destructive lifestyle. Hear how the hidden things were brought to the light and how a  healing journey began for this woman who has become a powerful generator of hope.

Niquio Benjo Valcobero shares his childhood hurts, disappointments, and fears but also the power of the one who saw his worth and his potential. This mentor placed a demand on the amazing gift he held and Niquio is now impacting and mentoring people globally.

Known as the Mender of Hearts, Dr. Sam Kojoglanian is an interventional cardiologist.  Dr. Sam earned his Medical Doctor degree at the University of Southern California and inspires his patients to live healthier and fulfilled lives. To date, he’s had the distinction of being recognized as a five-year honoree of the Patients’ Choice Award and Most Compassionate Award — a recognition granted to only 1% of the 900,000 active physicians in America. He’s also been awarded the position of "Top 1%” of professionals in his line of work in the USA and was named “Ultimate Cardiologist” by the state assembly of California.  While in the office Dr. Sam is known for healing and rehabilitating those with serious heart conditions, his reputation outside the office has become that of mending the soul.  Traveling to nations he provides medical care to the indigent, food and shelter to orphans, and cares for the brokenhearted. Thousands of lives have been touched both physically and spiritually through his life.

What story line are you going to be a part of? Will Ford’s powerful and poignant life story will astound you. Will  has traveled  the nation for twenty years  with a  kettle pot owned by his ancestors. This treasure was passed down to him along with the horror stories of slavery and his family’s suffering at the hands of their slave owners. Yet, this amazing man focuses on racial reconciliation and challenges all of humanity to bring  healing to  the divides for the sake of future generations. Get out the tissues, this is a story you must hear!

Growing up in North Carolina in the 60's and 70's, Annette shares her story of traumatizing racial prejudice. Can you imagine waking up to a burnt KKK cross with cards covering your lawn saying the "'KKK was out to get you?" 

Back by popular demand: Fadzi Whande, Global Diversity and Inclusion Strategist, shares her story of abuse of power and her process to discover the value she holds.  I, Melodye Hilton, first met Fadzi when she was a champion for many in her nation of Perth, Australia.   Listen also to her TEDxPerth to hear more of her story:   https://www.ted.com/talks/fadzi_whande_how_diversity_heaven_can_be_inclusion_hell Note: She now works for the United Nations in Switzerland.

Do you realize that society needs the treasured contribution you carry? Dr. Melodye Hilton is a Master Trainer/Executive Coach in the Core Value Index.  You will hear why this has make a huge impact in her life as well as see a brief overview of the four core values.  With her passion to generate value in lives and culture, she has discovered and utilizes the CVI as one of the most value-generating tools as individuals discover how they can generate value in their family and organizations.    The Core Values Index™ (CVI) is the only human assessment using strategic and tactical values in a word-choice format. It reveals the innate nature of a person and their core motivational drivers. As a coaching tool, The CVI™ delivers a values-based human nature profile. With it, we see how a person views the world from their unique perspective and how they will respond to life’s challenges with predictable strategies and tactics.  Working with core values nature provides a springboard for understanding motivation for action, sense of personal mission, and the interpretation of individual work and life activity as meaningful.   Website: DrMelodye.com to find out how you can take your free CVI.  The Core Values Index™ (CVI™)

Jerome Joseph, Cognitive Therapist, shares how childhood perceptions that remain unchallenged can cause problems later in life.

Most every person on the planet has experienced rejection, manipulation, and betrayal.  Dr. Melodye Hilton, leadership consultant and founder of the #StopDevaluation movement shares ten things she learned from betrayal. These lessons will be a great support to you as you navigate these emotional stormy waters. May you learn and gain encouragement from Melodye's journey.

The more self-aware we are, the better self-leadership decisions we make.  This is a portion of an exhaustive training by Dr. Melodye Hilton in relationship to adaptation and innate; between personality and core values, and how our core self can be freed from the proverbial box.

This interview is loaded with powerful truths shared by Vonnetta West on how we can change our internal culture in order to bring external change.  No matter what level of leadership influence you hold - from the family unit to business, government, or the educational system - you can apply principles that will empower you to love life and generate value in your world.  Vonnetta is a visionary, community-oriented communicator and influencer with over 20 years of experience and success in program, leadership and content development for diverse environments. She is a dedicated, highly effective trainer with a passion for creating humane cultures, eradicating injustice, thought leadership, writing, youth engagement, service programs, interfaith initiatives, and building resilient communities.   Go West Consulting LLC facilitates experiences and produces content, inclusive of social media, podcasts, website, trainings, and speech content, purposed to connect, transform and engage people for good. She provides trainings on Eradicating Racism, The Bias Challenge, Leadership That Grows, The Language of the Beloved Community, Inside/Out: Internal Adjustments for External Change, and other sessions aimed at building and sustaining community. She is also a Certified Nonviolence365® Instructor for the Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.'s nonviolent philosophy and methodology.

As leaders we have the honor to serve others empowering them to achieve their highest and best.  Leadership is not position, platform, or title but using these things for the good of others.  Leadership is a journey throughout our lifetime as we grow in competencies step-by-step in both skills and character.  What does this journey look like?     "In psychology, the four stages of competence, or the "conscious competence" learning model, relates to the psychological states involved in the process of progressing from incompetence to competence in a skill." When we understand the process we will have the courage to through and not stop short in order to obtain the conscious awareness of the value of our competencies.     Dr. Melodye Hilton is the founder and owner of Hilton Consulting LLC with a vision to make a sustainable positive impact within the lives of leaders, organizations, and people groups.  Melodye is a leadership consultant, behavioral analyst, CVI master trainer, executive coach, and author.  She also is the founder of Voice of Justice Foundation to confront human trafficking and the #StopDevaluation movement - a movement of courageous voices that will confront prejudice and cross the divides through validation.

As a certified master trainer of the Core Values Index™ (CVI™) I, Dr. Melodye Hilton, have helped emerging and established leaders through coaching as well as corporate leadership training and consulting. As a leader in your organization you can provide the power of opportunity for your team to discover their highest and best contribution. Want more info? www.DrMelodye.com/cvi

Each person holds the power of influence for good or harm.  Intentionally guarding our influence will empower us to be a part of the solution. This compelling interview with Desiree Fox will bring courage to your heart as you use your power for the good of others.

If you let others write your story then you will never be the author of it. Outpatient Psychotherapist Rhonda Dickens, shares how to look into the mirror to discover your self worth.