Often, we discover our desire to be submissive or kinky when we are already in a relationship and are not sure really how to proceed with that. Let’s cover what you should do to prepare to talk to your partner about your newfound interest, how you can encourage a submissive mindset on your own, and how you can slowly bring kink into the bedroom. Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/making-him-the-dom-of-your-dreams-working-with-the-man-you-have Initiatin...
Receiving your collar is a special occasion for many submissives and slaves. When a collar comes into view, some people want to commemorate that with a ceremony. Let’s discuss collars, their symbolism in D/s and M/s relationships, and how you can build a formal ceremony around declaring your commitment to each other.Article: https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/how-to-plan-a-formal-collaring-ceremony Resources: Expectations of a Collar: How Ready Are You to Accept On...
Let’s break down what topping from the bottom is, why it’s so bad, how it can be good, and learn some tricks to stop the poor behavior in its tracks that leads to it.Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/why-you-should-know-the-truth-about-topping-from-the-bottomChat with the Discord community! https://subgui.de/chatResources:Arcane Advice article on Topping from the Bottom: https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/topping-from-the-bottom-why-its-bad-and-wh...
Communication is a key topic to developing and maintaining healthy, open relationships. But many of us need to learn what good communication looks like and have problems with at least one part of good communication techniques.Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/communication/articles/every-good-conversation-starts-with-good-listeningBecome a member and get more from Submissive Guide today.►http://subgui.de/societyA very special thank you to all who have joined the Submissive Society...
One of the best skills a submissive can learn is observation. Observation can also be neglected in your daily and work life, so learning requires you to reteach your mind, eyes, focus, and attention. It's so worth it.Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/skills/articles/learning-good-observation-skillsFurther Reading:Anticipatory ServicePersonality and Behavior Tests:Meyers-Briggs Type IndicatorThe Big FivePredictive IndexStrengths FinderBecome a member and get more from Submissive Gu...
Your limits are unique to you and may change over time as you gain experience and self-awareness. Embrace the opportunity for self-discovery and pleasure as you unlock the secrets to understanding and embracing your BDSM limits.Read the Article: https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/what-everyone-ought-to-know-about-finding-and-managing-limits Further Reading:BDSM Limits ExplainedUsing Checklists to Figure Out Your Kinky LimitsEstablishing Boundaries & Limits in BDSMNovices an...
Explore the journey of embracing dirty talk. With practical tips, personal stories, and valuable resources, readers are encouraged to break free from inhibitions and discover the liberating potential of vocalizing desires and fantasies.Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/how-to-talk-dirtyFurther Reading:How to Be Responsive During PlayExhibitionism for the Shy: Show Off, Dress Up and Talk Hot! by Carol QueenSex Talk: Uncensored Exercises for Exploring What Real...
A beginner's guide that explores the practice of orgasm control and its potential for enhancing pleasure. The first in the series, this article covers the first steps to exploring orgasm control in your play.Resources on Orgasm Control Mechanics:Orgasm Control by RoverOrgasm Control Conditioning of Females on FetLifeTrain Your Body to Orgasm on CommandOrgasm Control Training: They Can’t ResistOrgasm Control by ginaStudy: Women's Attributions Regarding Why They Have Difficulty Reaching OrgasmB...
In D/s (Dominant/submissive) relationships, rules are often used to provide structure and establish boundaries within the power exchange dynamic. These rules serve as a guide for submissives to follow, which allows us to focus on our submission and the expectations of our Dominant partner.Read the Article: https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/structure-rulesBecome a member and get more from Submissive Guide today.►http://subgui.de/societyA very special thank you to all who hav...
Being asked to beg for something is one of the simplest forms of erotic humiliation within a BDSM scenario. It’s also one that can be quite difficult for people to learn.Read the article on Submissive Guide: https://submissiveguide.com/skills/articles/how-to-beg-when-asked Submissive Guide FetLife Group: http://subgui.de/fetlifeOther people's thoughts on begging:Begging In BDSM by Raven ShadowborneA Kinkster’s Guide to Begging on A Kinkster’s GuideHow Do I Beg/Plead Better? on BDSM Trai...
Wearing a Dominant’s collar is often a goal of any submissive in a D/s relationship. However, defining what a collar is and how you prepare to accept it can be daunting. Let’s tackle the important points about collars and if you are prepared for what a collar may mean for you and your relationship.Read the Article: https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/expectations-of-a-collar-how-ready-are-you-to-accept-oneHere are a few more posts on collars you might find interesting:A Compl...
I’ve gathered seven of the best books to help you get started on your exploration of BDSM and the submissive role. Read the Article: https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/recommended-reading-submissivesAll links to the book reviews, GoodReads, and Amazon are linked in the above article.Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today.►http://subgui.de/societyA very special thank you to all who have joined the Submissive Society on Patreon. You have helped transform Su...
Relationships, even ones with power exchange, are built the old-fashioned way; dating, mutual compatibility, and communication. We all have a common ground to start from, even if we don't realize it. Unlike what many forums may say about D/s relationships and how they start, knowing the terms to use for your desires and being able to voice them to others does not produce an instant connection and a relationship. It's work from the start and continues to need nurturing for as long as you want ...
Submissives all over seem to know what they want out of a relationship; it's always on their minds: the play, the sex, love, or the strictness of dominance. Wants are very valid to the happiness in your life, but more important are the needs. When you think of needs, the list seems to become harder, and people struggle more with defining what they really need.Read the Article: https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/know-what-you-want-learn-what-you-needBecome a member and get mo...
A Submissive’s primary focus should be taking care of the property. There are common ways we are not adhering to the prime directive, and there are ways we can make it more of a foundation for our lives. Read the Article: https://submissiveguide.com/personalgrowth/articles/take-care-of-the-propertyBecome a member and get more from Submissive Guide today.►http://subgui.de/societyA very special thank you to all who have joined the Submissive Society on Patreon. You have helped transform Submiss...
When people ask me what a D/s relationship is like, my first response is 'it looks like any other relationship,' but that's not entirely accurate. All relationships are unique and personal to the people in them, making a sound basis for any D/s relationship. In this article, I’ll cover a few common misconceptions of D/s dynamics, what a D/s relationship is not, and some core traits you can use to identify a healthy dynamic. You may be surprised to learn that they aren't as foreign as you thin...
Negotiation and consent are the primary ways BDSM is distinguished from abuse - they are essential parts of kinky play. But far too many people gloss over how important it is to be really good at negotiating so that you can have great kinky fun. And you want to have kinky fun, right?Read the Article: [link]The Submissive Society gets early access to this video, the companion article, the podcast on this topic, and select tiers get exclusive bonuses and a monthly live stream. Become a me...
Anyone can learn to be a good service submissive, even if you don't feel you are a people pleaser, because the key traits are all ones that can be learned and refined. When you take steps to improve yourself now, you'll be able to tackle a variety of service challenges and refine the services you wish to provide for your Dominant.Read the Article: https://www.submissiveguide.com/skills/articles/the-key-traits-of-a-service-submissive---theyThe Submissive Society gets early access to this video...
We need to make sure we take an active role in submission to help open up the dynamic and not wait for our Dominant to come up with a command to give us. By taking on an active role in our submission, we not only have more opportunities to be submissive, but we build a dynamic that provides an open exchange of power.Read the Article: https://www.submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/active-submission---make-yourself-available-tThe Submissive Society gets early access to this video, the...
Using my experience as a service submissive, I'd like to share what non-sexual service is and help you figure out if service is something you want to explore. I'll talk about a few different styles of service you could learn. Then we'll cover how you can start adding aspects of service into your relationship. Read the Article: https://www.submissiveguide.com/skills/articles/non-sexual-service-and-how-to-add-it-to-yourThe Submissive Society gets early access to this video, the companion articl...