In this episode, my wife and I dive deep into the topic of masturbation and tackle some of the questions a lot of people are scared to ask. We talk about whether masturbation is actually good or bad, and if there’s a way to use it in relationships without it hurting intimacy. We also break down how to quit the habit when it’s become unhealthy and how to approach it without shame. If you’re curious about learning more or want to walk through this with us in a supportive program, DM us at @_hun...
In this episode of Sunlight me and my wife dive into the 5 biggest mistakes guys make when trying to quit porn. I share some hard truths from my own journey like why counting your days clean doesn’t actually mean you’re healed and tell a story from a BYU event that totally changed how I thought about freedom from porn. We keep it real, spicy, and full of wisdom for anyone trying to actually move past old habits without feeling trapped.
In this episode I talk about how to harness sexual energy in a way that actually moves your life forward. You can use it to create deeper connection with your wife or to build your mission and the life you want. I also dive into AI pornography, what it means for men, how to handle it, and where our world might be heading with this new technology. This one is a mix of the personal and the futuristic and it will get you thinking about how you want to use your energy going forward.
Porn is everywhere and quitting feels impossible, right? In this episode, I break down 5 fundamentals that actually work to overcome lust and porn in 2025. I share what’s really going on, why shame is holding you back, and the last one might surprise you.
In this episode, I share how I naturally raised my testosterone from 280 to 650—and it’s not what you think. We dive into the fundamentals of testosterone, the hidden impact of emotional stress, and how doing deep inner work—not just lifting weights or taking supplements played a massive role. If you’ve been grinding in the gym but still feel off, this one’s for you.
In this episode, Sarah and I dive into what it actually looks like to work as a team when overcoming bad habits. We’ve both seen how challenging it can be for couples dealing with this kind of struggle—often, communication falls short, and it’s hard to show up for each other in the right way. Through our own trial and error, we've learned a lot, and we’re sharing those lessons with you today. Whether it’s building trust, setting boundaries, or simply being there for each other when things get...
In this episode, I get real about what sacred sex really means. I talk about why sex before marriage is something I’ve thought deeply about, and how it’s not just about the physical act but the deep connection that happens between two people. I also dive into why hookup culture and porn are messing up that sacred connection, turning something meant to bond us at the soul level into something shallow. If you’ve ever wondered why intimacy feels empty or disconnected, this episode is for you. Le...
In this episode, we dive deep into the real meaning of intimacy. It's not just about sex, as we once thought. We break down how intimacy goes far beyond physical connection, exploring how shared laughs, heartfelt conversations, and emotional vulnerability with anyone, partner or friend are all forms of true intimacy. We also talk about how hiding things blocks real connection. Listen in as we dive into the true essence of intimacy and how it can transform your relationships on a deeper level.
In this episode of Spouse Talk, we talk about why it's important to teach healthy sexuality instead of ignoring it. We share ideas on how the LDS Church could make their programs like the 12-step program, better for helping people with pornography. We believe that healing in addiction to being more spiritual its about understanding and taking care of our whole selves. From what we've learned from personal experience we think these changes could really help. We love the church, and we be...
In today’s episode, we’re diving into 3 simple yet game-changing hacks that have genuinely transformed my life. This isn’t the usual fluff or gimmicks you hear about, these are real, practical strategies you can start applying today. No bs, just stuff that actually works.
In today’s episode, we answered questions from our Instagram, and wow—we got some really interesting ones! We talked about things like: What do we think about a spouse masturbating?How can you support a spouse who watches porn?Is there such a thing as ethical porn?What to do when you are bored of sex with your partner? How do we feel about posting pictures of our daughter online, especially when we’re talking about something as sensitive as pornography?We’re not experts—just sharing from...
In this episode, we dive into how pregnancy transformed Sarah’s mental health, our intimacy, and my entire perspective on attraction. We talk about how sex changed during and after pregnancy, whether masturbation is okay when intimacy slows down, and the advice we wish we had before this journey. It’s raw, real, and the conversation no one prepares you for.
In this episode, we dive into The Drop, Breath Method—the most effective, research-backed way to quit any unwanted habit, whether it’s porn, overeating, or anything else that feels out of control. I break down exactly how it works, why it’s different from willpower-based approaches, and how it rewires your brain to make quitting feel much easier. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a cycle of trying and failing, this episode will change everything for you.
n this episode, we talk about how true freedom comes from being able to say both yes and no to whatever habit you want to quit. That’s right—fully allowing yourself can actually help you stop. I also share how I couldn’t quit porn for my wife or the church—it had to be for me. And once I made that shift, everything got so much easier. We also dive into the real benefits I’ve seen since quitting—like a confidence boost, more energy and motivation, and greater satisfaction in my marriage and se...
In this episode, we explore the topic of attraction and how acknowledging it has actually brought us closer, making us even more drawn to each other. We also tackle the dreaded "D-word"... divorce. While Sarah and I are in a great place in our marriage, discussing divorce actually strengthened our relationship. It shifted our mindset from feeling obligated to stay together to consciously choosing each other every day.
This episode is a game-changer. We dive into three eye-opening studies that could completely change the way you think about porn recovery—not just for yourself, but for future generations too. It’s not about white-knuckling your way through with suppression, avoidance, or sheer discipline anymore. We break down why that old model fails and explore how a more mindful, accepting approach can actually set you free. If you’re ready to stop fighting against yourself and start building real freedom...
In this episode, we talk about the wild back-and-forth of the TikTok ban and how it's back on now. We also dive into why banning porn sites or OnlyFans would never really work. Instead, we explain why the real work should focus on the demand—helping people change what they want, not just blocking the supply. Plus, we share how meditation has played a big role in both of our journeys and how it’s helped us grow. It’s a fun and honest conversation.
Today, we’re talking about how Utah and several other states have effectively shut down one of the largest porn sites on the internet.... or... was it Pornhub that left Utah? We dive into the details, breaking down the pros and cons of this decision. While it might sound like a win at first, we talk about why it might not be as beneficial as you think.
In this episode, my wife and I talk about how we handle feeling attracted to other people while being married. Nobody ever told us this was something we’d deal with, we thought once we got married, those feelings would just go away. Guess what... they didn’t. After lots of trying and learning, we found a way to make it work—and even have fun with it. The big secret? Learning to feel confident in ourselves and not trying to control each other. We’re also watching Love Island Australia right no...
Today, we dive into a fun conversation with one of my good friends, Conner Howell. We met as college roommates at BYU-I and opened up to each other about our struggles with pornography. It's been interesting to see each other grow and get married. We share funny stories about early pornography exposure and discuss how to navigate unwanted porn use in marriage. Conner recently went through my program and learned some valuable lessons that shifted his relationship with pornography, which in tur...