The traditional surrogacy match system isn’t working. Whether you’re with an agency or searching independently, most intended parents are unknowingly set up to fail—or settle.From long waitlists and lack of transparency to mismatches and hidden costs, Alyssa breaks down the outdated dynamics inside both agency and independent paths. She shares why how you find a surrogate matters just as much as who you match with—and introduces a better way forward through the BloomBridge platform.What You’ll Learn:00:00 — Why online matching groups can be risky01:46 — The two ways to find a surrogate (agency vs independent)03:29 — Why agencies feel “safe” but aren’t always regulated05:20 — Alyssa’s personal journey comparing 20+ agencies06:02 — The tool she created to simplify agency research07:41 — What really happens when agencies “match” you09:18 — What independent matching is (and isn’t)11:11 — How Alyssa matched in 8 weeks vs a 2-year agency quote12:06 — The truth about disqualified surrogates in online spaces13:55 — The emotional cost of the traditional match process15:20 — Why most intended parents are worn down before they match16:14 — What BloomBridge is doing differently to fix the system17:46 — What “the right match” really means for your journey18:23 — Recap of key takeaways and tools you can use right nowResources Mentioned:BloomBridge Surrogacy AppSurrogacy SmartSheet Key Takeaways:The match process is outdated, slow, and often lacks transparencyAgencies vary wildly—there’s no regulation and little accountabilityIndependent matching can work—but only with strategy and vetting toolsMost intended parents are stuck in a system that drains their energyBloomBridge makes surrogates visible, organized, and accessible—finallyIf you’ve been spinning your wheels with agencies or burned out by online matching groups, it’s time to take control. ✨ Download the BloomBridge app to start seeing real surrogate options and make informed, empowered decisions from day one.“The system isn’t broken—it’s just outdated. You deserve more than hoping and waiting. You deserve to choose.”
Surrogacy is an exciting and emotional journey—but it’s also complex and full of potential pitfalls. From choosing the cheapest option to rushing into the first match, there are mistakes that could cost you more than just money—they could cost you time, peace of mind, and years of waiting.In this episode, Dr. Alyssa Small Layne breaks down 5 common surrogacy mistakes that can derail your plans. She shares insights from her own surrogacy journey and practical advice for avoiding these mistakes, ensuring your journey stays smooth, supported, and on track.🎧 If you’re feeling overwhelmed by surrogacy options or unsure how to start, this episode is your guide to avoiding the biggest missteps.What You’ll Learn:01:40 — The hidden dangers of choosing the cheapest surrogacy option03:12 — Why all surrogacy agencies are NOT the same05:10 — How to ensure your surrogate shares your core values (and why this matters)07:14 — Why rushing to match can hurt you more than help you09:00 — The real cost of relying on online forums instead of expert advice11:24 — How to assess agencies and surrogates with a clear, informed mindset13:30 — How doing it right the first time saves you stress, time, and money15:02 — The personal story behind Alyssa’s own mistake and what she learnedResources Mentioned:Surrogate vetting essentials (surrogacy first 6 included) Bloombridge Sign upKey Takeaways:Cutting corners on surrogacy can cost you years of time and emotional energyAgencies are not one-size-fits-all—invest time to find the right fitClear communication, matched values, and solid preparation can save you moneyDon’t rely on online forums or incomplete advice—use expert support for peace of mindAlready feeling like you’ve made some of these mistakes? It’s not too late to course-correct! Download our Surrogate Vetting Essentials Guide and get expert tools to set yourself up for a smoother, less stressful surrogacy journey.“Surrogacy doesn’t have to be a maze. The more informed you are, the smoother your journey will be.”
Ever wonder what your fertility clinic is really using to determine if a surrogate is a “yes” or a “no”?In this essential episode, Dr. Alyssa Small Layne breaks down the official ASRM guidelines—the very framework most U.S. fertility clinics use to decide what’s acceptable, what’s risky, and what’s required in surrogacy. These aren’t laws, but they shape everything from who qualifies as a surrogate to how many embryos can be transferred.This episode will help you understand red flags, ask smarter questions, and save yourself time, money, and heartbreak—especially if you're going independent or have already matched.What You’ll Learn:03:15 — What the ASRM guidelines are (and why they matter)04:50 — How understanding them can protect you from losing tens of thousands of dollars06:32 — Who qualifies as an intended parent (it’s more inclusive than you think)09:48 — Who can be a surrogate and which health guidelines are non-negotiable12:35 — Medical tests surrogates must pass before approval14:37 — Why vaccination status matters in contract agreements15:16 — The emotional side of surrogacy: what ASRM says about mental health support18:14 — Legal must-haves before embryo transfer can begin20:14 — Embryo transfer guidelines (spoiler: single embryo is strongly recommended)21:57 — When two embryos might be considered and why nuance mattersResources Mentioned:BloomBridgeSurrogacy BluePrint CourseSurrogacy Starter KitKey Takeaways:The ASRM guidelines aren’t laws, but they shape most clinical and agency decisionsNot every disqualified surrogate is a “bad match”—context mattersYou don’t need to be infertile to qualify for surrogacy, just have a documented medical needContracts, mental health screening, and single embryo transfer are all non-optional stepsFeeling overwhelmed or unsure where to begin? Download the BloomBridge app and grab the Surrogate Vetting Essentials Guide to get clarity before matching or submitting records to a clinic.“Surrogacy isn’t simple—but with the ASRM guidelines in your back pocket, you’re not walking in blind.”
This episode is your all-access pass to the real surrogacy questions people are too afraid to ask—or don’t know they should.From choosing a clinic and evaluating surrogates to understanding rematch policies, legal logistics, and even inducing lactation—Dr. Alyssa Small Layne brings her unique perspective as both an OB/GYN and a two-time intended parent through surrogacy. You’ll hear real questions from the community, broken down with clarity, honesty, and lived experience.If you’ve ever wondered “is this normal?” or “what should I be doing differently?”—this conversation is for you.What You’ll Learn:01:38 — How to start the surrogacy process if you're using your own eggs04:57 — What to ask during your very first agency consult07:03 — The six non-negotiable values you and your surrogate must align on11:49 — Why red flags aren’t just about medical history, but values too12:26 — How to evaluate surrogate profiles (real examples included!)16:32 — What to do if your surrogate backs out and you haven’t been rematched19:24 — Why FDA testing requirements confuse international intended parents23:09 — How carrier screening works—and when it should happen24:54 — Can you do a DNA test after birth if you have doubts?28:17 — Is it possible to induce lactation without medication?31:10 — Can your surrogate deliver in a different city or state?Resources Mentioned:Free Surrogacy Starter KitASRM guidelines: Recommendations for practices using gestational carriers: A committee opinionSurrogate vetting essentialsBloomBridge Surrogacy App: https://gojunie.com/solutions/bloombridgeKey Takeaways:You deserve better than agencies showing unqualified surrogatesRematch policies matter—ask before you signInternational parents face extra testing rules, but there are workaroundsEarly planning prevents delivery chaos—especially across state linesYour questions are valid, and asking them protects your baby and your peace of mindLoved this Q&A format? Let us know your surrogacy questions for future episodes or explore the BloomBridge app for vetted tools, agency lists, and insider insights to guide every step of your journey.“You’re not fumbling in the dark. You’re not at the mercy of the system. You’re the parent building your family—and you're going to get there.”
Ever wonder what your fertility clinic is really using to determine if a surrogate is a “yes” or a “no”?In this essential episode, Dr. Alyssa Small Layne breaks down the official ASRM guidelines—the very framework most U.S. fertility clinics use to decide what’s acceptable, what’s risky, and what’s required in surrogacy. These aren’t laws, but they shape everything from who qualifies as a surrogate to how many embryos can be transferred.This episode will help you understand red flags, ask smarter questions, and save yourself time, money, and heartbreak—especially if you're going independent or have already matched.What You’ll Learn:03:15 — What the ASRM guidelines are (and why they matter)04:50 — How understanding them can protect you from losing tens of thousands of dollars06:32 — Who qualifies as an intended parent (it’s more inclusive than you think)09:48 — Who can be a surrogate and which health guidelines are non-negotiable12:35 — Medical tests surrogates must pass before approval14:37 — Why vaccination status matters in contract agreements15:16 — The emotional side of surrogacy: what ASRM says about mental health support18:14 — Legal must-haves before embryo transfer can begin20:14 — Embryo transfer guidelines (spoiler: single embryo is strongly recommended)21:57 — When two embryos might be considered and why nuance mattersResources Mentioned:Surrogate vetting essentialsBloomBridge Surrogacy AppASRM GuidelinesKey Takeaways:The ASRM guidelines aren’t laws, but they shape most clinical and agency decisionsNot every disqualified surrogate is a “bad match”—context mattersYou don’t need to be infertile to qualify for surrogacy, just have a documented medical needContracts, mental health screening, and single embryo transfer are all non-optional stepsFeeling overwhelmed or unsure where to begin?Download the BloomBridge app and grab the Surrogate Vetting Essentials Guide to get clarity before matching or submitting records to a clinic.“Surrogacy isn’t simple—but with the ASRM guidelines in your back pocket, you’re not walking in blind.”
When is the “right time” to tell your child they were donor conceived? And how do you talk about it in a way that builds connection—not confusion?In this powerful follow-up to Episode 53, Dr. Alyssa Small Layne speaks with Wendy Kramer, co-founder of the Donor Sibling Registry and parent of a donor-conceived son. Together, they tackle the big questions: how early to start the conversation, what language to use with toddlers and teens, and how to support your child emotionally when their donor or half-siblings don’t respond.Whether you’re still expecting or already parenting a donor-conceived child, this episode will give you real-world tools, language, and compassion to lead your family forward.What You’ll Learn:01:01 — Why waiting to tell your child can lead to deep regret02:06 — How to raise donor-conceived kids with realistic expectations03:19 — Why donors (and half-siblings) sometimes say no06:00 — Tips for reaching out to a donor or relative respectfully08:17 — How to start the conversation with toddlers and young children09:19 — The children’s book Wendy wrote to guide these conversations11:08 — Why kids deserve to grow up knowing their donor family13:30 — When to start searching for half-siblings (hint: before birth!)15:08 — How the DSR protects your privacy during early contact17:06 — Why the industry resists openness—and who profits from it20:24 — What Wendy wishes the donor conception industry would change21:38 — The most powerful thing she’s learned from thousands of families22:13 — The #1 message Wendy wants all intended parents to rememberResources Mentioned:SMS #26 - The Man with 1000 Kids - Safety Precautions for SurrogacySMS #54 - Why Biology Matters: How to Find Donor Siblings and Families for Your Child - Wendy KramerDonor Sibling RegistryBook Your family - a donor kids story: https://www.amazon.com/Your-Family-Donor-Kids-Story/dp/0692106936BloomBridge Surrogacy appKey Takeaways:Don’t wait for your child to ask—start the donor conversation earlyIf a donor says “no,” it’s often about fear or timing—not rejectionEarly openness prevents identity confusion and builds trustYou can build relationships with donor relatives without losing your parental roleReady to start the conversation—or deepen it—with your child? Explore BloomBridge’s donor conception resources or connect with Wendy and the DSR to join thousands of families leading with love and openness.“You don’t wait for kids to discover their cousins—so why would you wait for them to find their half-siblings?”
What happens when your child starts asking about their biological roots—and you realize you don’t have all the answers?In Part 1 of this thoughtful two-part series, Dr. Alyssa Small Layne explores why donor-conceived children often seek connection to their genetic identity, how families can prepare for these questions, and the pros and cons of platforms like the Donor Sibling Registry (DSR). Whether you're using an egg, sperm, or embryo donor, this episode will help you navigate the emotional, ethical, and practical sides of sharing your child’s origin story.What You’ll Learn:Why biology matters to donor-conceived kids—even if you’re the full-time parentHow early conversations about origin shape identity and trustThe difference between anonymous vs. known donorsWhat the Donor Sibling Registry is and how it worksThe emotional weight of “finding out” vs. “growing up knowing”Why openness now avoids difficult surprises laterWhat to expect when connecting with donor siblings or half-sibling familiesLegal limitations around donor trackingHow to emotionally prepare before searchingWhy this isn’t about replacing you—it’s about completing a part of themResources Mentioned:SMS #26- The Man with 1000 Kids - Safety Precautions for SurrogacyDonor Sibling RegistryBook Your family - a donor kids story: https://www.amazon.com/Your-Family-Donor-Kids-Story/dp/0692106936BloomBridge Surrogacy appKey Takeaways:Children often care about their genetic identity more than we expectEarly openness creates stronger family bondsDSR is one of the few platforms that allows intentional, mutual contactParents should emotionally prepare before connecting with donor-linked families
What happens when a baby born via surrogacy in the U.S. is suddenly left in legal limbo—unable to get a passport, unable to go home?In this urgent and eye-opening conversation, Dr. Alyssa Small Layne sits down with attorney and former intended parent Lesa Slaughter to explain the fast-changing legal landscape around birthright citizenship. They unpack what the Trump-era executive order could mean for international intended parents, the risks of stateless children, and what you must do now to protect your baby’s legal status.Even if you’re U.S.-based, this conversation touches on surrogacy agency ethics, escrow fraud, and how to choose the right legal support. If you're planning a surrogacy journey or already matched with a surrogate, this is essential listening.What You’ll Learn:01:18 — Why the executive order threatens birthright citizenship03:00 — What the courts have said so far (and what’s next)06:50 — How international parents usually secure a U.S. passport08:00 — Why dual citizenship may not protect you10:00 — Why international parents need three lawyers, not two12:14 — What happens if the order takes effect (hint: you don’t want to be the test case)16:35 — How babies born via surrogacy can become stateless20:00 — Why manipulating birth certificates could be considered fraud23:55 — Should you still pursue U.S. surrogacy? Lesa’s honest advice26:30 — What to ask your agency about post-birth support28:00 — Why surrogacy agencies are largely unregulated30:00 — State-specific laws around attorneys and escrow35:00 — Final advice: build a team, expect the unexpected, and prepareResources Mentioned:BloomBridge App Surrogacy Starter KitLesa Slaughter WebsiteSMS#9 Steal my process to picking a great agency - insider tips you don't want to missSMS#42 Questions to ask a Surrogacy Agency: First-Time Intended Parent AdviceSMS#51 How to Pick a Fertility Clinic for Surrogacy (Without Regret)Matched already? Planning your journey? Don’t wait—consult with an experienced U.S. reproductive attorney AND an immigration lawyer from your home country. Then download the BloomBridge app to map your legal prep step-by-step.“You vetted your surrogate, picked the perfect clinic—now make sure your baby has a way home.”
When you're searching for a surrogate, it’s easy to focus on personality, values, or past experience—but there’s one key factor many intended parents overlook: BMI.In this episode, Dr. Alyssa Small Layne shares what BMI really means for surrogacy, why fertility clinics and agencies have strict BMI cutoffs, and how to approach the topic with compassion and clarity. This is the conversation Alyssa wishes she could have with every intended parent before they fall in love with a surrogate match that doesn’t meet medical screening.🎧 If you’re unsure what “too high” or “too low” really means—or what the risks are to your surrogate, baby, and budget—this episode is your roadmap.What You’ll Learn:01:44 — The BMI red flag in a forum post that sparked this conversation02:23 — Why a surrogate’s OB clearance doesn’t mean clinic approval03:44 — The medical risks of high BMI for surrogate and baby06:52 — How high BMI affects embryo transfer success and miscarriage risk08:27 — Real-world costs of BMI-related complications09:32 — What are the actual BMI cutoffs (and who sets them)?11:14 — The “double standard” debate: IVF for self vs. IVF for surrogacy13:20 — Why BMI is more than a number—and when to make exceptions17:09 — OB clearance vs. final clinic approval18:05 — Why independent surrogacy doesn’t mean cutting corners21:40 — How to talk about BMI respectfully with your surrogate23:26 — Ethical concerns when agencies push surrogates outside guidelines25:26 — 5 steps to protect your journey and future babyResources Mentioned:Free Surrogacy Starter KitASRM guidelines: Recommendations for practices using gestational carriers: A committee opinionSurrogate vetting essentialsBloomBridge Surrogacy App: https://gojunie.com/solutions/bloombridgeCase management“It's not about judgment—it’s about lowering risks and giving your baby the healthiest start possible.”
When it comes to IVF for surrogacy, not all fertility clinics are created equal. And the wrong choice can lead to delays, surprise restrictions, and missed chances at parenthood.In this episode, Dr. Alyssa Small Layne shares four often-overlooked—but crucial—factors to consider when selecting a fertility clinic. From restrictive agency requirements to embryo thawing policies, this honest conversation is a must-listen before you commit to any clinic.🎧 Whether you’ve already created embryos or are still exploring, this guide will help you avoid common mistakes and choose a clinic that truly supports your journey.What You’ll Learn:02:28 — The surprising shift in support when you switch from IVF to surrogacy04:06 — Why exclusivity deals with lawyers or therapists can be a red flag08:17 — How independent surrogacy is treated differently by some clinics10:54 — The surrogate vetting mistake that changed everything for Alyssa13:18 — How to work around clinic pushback when going independent14:30 — Real stories of communication delays that stalled surrogacy journeys16:18 — What to ask about portal access, turnaround times, and surrogate updates18:09 — The embryo transfer dealbreaker no one tells you about20:21 — Why freeze/thaw protocols matter when changing clinics22:11 — A 4-part checklist for choosing the right clinicResources Mentioned:SMS #39: 4 Crucial Tips for Choosing a Great Surrogacy ClinicASRM guidelines: Recommendations for practices using gestational carriers: A committee opinionSurrogate vetting essentialsSMS #11 Should you risk shipping embryos for surrogacy to a new clinic?BloomBridge Surrogacy App“You’ve already waited long enough—don’t let the wrong clinic make you wait even longer.”
Should you work with two surrogates at once? What does it take—mentally, emotionally, and logistically—to grow your family through a dual surrogacy path?In this vulnerable and empowering episode, Dr. Alyssa Small Layne speaks with Carly Joseph, a mom of two babies born via two separate surrogates just months apart. Carly shares what led her to pursue surrogacy after eight IVF cycles and six pregnancy losses, what it was like to walk two paths simultaneously, and how she now supports others as a surrogacy concierge.🎧 Whether you're an intended parent exploring your options or just want to hear what resilience really looks like—this one will move you.What You’ll Learn:03:12 — Why Carly turned to surrogacy after years of IVF and loss06:28 — What fertility clinics don’t tell you about the process09:28 — What happened after her first surrogate’s pregnancy ended in loss14:43 — Matching with a second surrogate while grieving and hoping16:51 — The emotional weight of transferring embryos to two surrogates18:55 — One surrogate pregnant, another on deck—when the timeline overlaps23:30 — NICU stays, caregiving logistics, and becoming a parent to two babies27:50 — The practical and emotional challenges of dual surrogacy35:51 — What Carly wishes she had known before startingResources Mentioned:Surrogacy Step-By-Step Guide ASRM Guidelines on 2 surrogatesSurrogacy Made Simple #9 Carly Joseph
What if your insurance actually helped you build your family?In this conversation, surrogacy attorney and longtime advocate Ryan Ferrante joins Dr. Alyssa Small Layne to break down how Illinois is setting a national standard for inclusive, patient-centered fertility coverage.They discuss how advocacy, state legislation, and redefined infertility standards are expanding access for LGBTQ+ families, single parents, and anyone needing third-party reproduction—including surrogacy. Whether you're facing frustrating denials, unclear mandates, or sky-high costs, this episode will leave you feeling empowered to ask better questions, get involved, and know your rights.🎧 Press play to learn why what’s happening in Illinois could be a blueprint for the rest of the country.What You’ll Learn:02:33 — How Ryan’s surrogacy journey led him to legal advocacy07:47 — Why Illinois is considered the gold standard in fertility access10:46 — The major shift in how infertility is now defined—and why it matters16:34 — What “surrogacy-friendly insurance” really means22:48 — Could embryo transfer and screening be covered in Illinois? It’s possible.24:52 — The non-binding referendum that 72% of Illinois voters supported30:45 — What’s now covered under Illinois fertility mandates (hint: PGT, IVF, and more)34:23 — IVF and abortion rights: why they’re more connected than people think38:30 — How to advocate for change in just two questions: why am I here, and how can you help?Resources Mentioned:🧭 Resolve: The National Infertility Association📝 Federal Advocacy Day📘 American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM)🧡 BloomBridge App — includes the Surrogacy Step-by-Step Guide & Cost Calculator“Advocacy isn’t just for lawmakers—it starts with a story. And that story might be yours.”
PGT-A testing has been promoted as a breakthrough—promising fewer miscarriages, faster time to pregnancy, and better IVF outcomes. But what if those claims aren’t fully backed by science?In this follow-up conversation, fertility attorney and IVF mom Allison Freeman returns to discuss the pending class-action lawsuits filed against embryo testing labs. She and Alyssa break down what patients are being told, why those promises may be misleading, and the real risks for anyone making decisions based on PGT-A results.🎧 If you're facing embryo decisions, surrogacy timelines, or wondering whether testing is really worth the cost—this episode is for you.What You’ll Learn:01:52 — Why the lawsuits target labs (not clinics) and what’s being claimed02:10 — The bold promises made by PGT-A labs—and why they raise red flags05:36 — Could lawsuits increase IVF costs or hurt innovation?08:17 — The real financial burden of testing (and its ripple effects)10:00 — How PGT-A took off in the U.S. despite early skepticism12:10 — When PGT-A might be helpful—and when it’s overused14:56 — Why Allison chose to keep her mosaic embryos in storage16:43 — IVF “add-ons”: what they are and how to question them21:12 — What to ask your clinic before agreeing to any test or protocolResources Mentioned:Surrogacy Step-By-Step Guide https://gojunie.com/surrogacy-starter-kitTime Article: IVF Patients Say a Test Caused Them to Discard Embryos. Now They’re SuingSMS - Hidden Risks of PGT-A Testing in IVF and Surrogacy - Allison Freeman (Part 1)BloomBridge Surrogacy App: https://gojunie.com/solutions/bloombridge
PGT-A testing is marketed as a smart, science-backed way to improve your chances of a healthy baby. But what if it’s not giving you the full story?In this eye-opening conversation, fertility attorney and IVF mom Allison Freeman joins Alyssa to unpack the science, marketing, and legal implications behind preimplantation genetic testing for aneuploidy (PGT-A). From personal IVF loss to class-action lawsuits, Allison shares why more patients are questioning the test—and why some may be discarding embryos based on misleading or unvalidated results.🎧 If you’re considering embryo testing—or already making transfer decisions—this episode is a must-listen.What You’ll Learn:02:16 — Allison’s IVF journey and two very different paths to motherhood09:08 — How a personal red flag during IUI launched her legal advocacy16:24 — What PGT-A testing is, and how it’s commonly presented to patients19:04 — The rise in “zero embryos” after testing—and what that might mean21:55 — Why PGT-A biopsies aren’t as definitive as many think26:27 — The risks of relying on embryo testing to avoid miscarriage29:46 — How PGT-A impacts surrogacy matching and timeline delays34:54 — What ASRM’s new guidance really says—and what patients often missResources Mentioned:Surrogacy Step-By-Step Guide https://gojunie.com/surrogacy-starter-kitTime Article: IVF Patients Say a Test Caused Them to Discard Embryos. Now They’re SuingAllison Freeman (IG) - @ivf_advocatem, theivfadvocate.comKey Takeaways:PGT-A is widely used—but hasn’t been validated the way most patients expectThe test analyzes placental (not fetal) tissue, which can cause discrepanciesSurrogates and agencies often require PGT-A without understanding its limitationsPatients should ask: what am I being promised, and is there data to back it up?🎧 Considering embryo testing? With ASRM’s most recent guidance, and the BloomBridge surrogacy app you'll be prepared for tough decisions.
Wondering why surrogacy agency fees are so expensive—and what they actually include? You’re not alone. When you're already spending six figures to grow your family, a $40,000+ agency fee can feel impossible to justify—especially when you’re not sure what’s really included. In this conversation, we unpack the real value of agency support, what services the fee does (and doesn’t) cover, and how to evaluate if it’s worth it—or if independent surrogacy might be the smarter path. 🎧 Press play to gain clarity, compare options, and protect your budget before you commit.What You’ll Learn:03:47 — What an agency really does for intended parents (beyond matching)10:18 — Why surrogate screening is so crucial—and time-consuming14:22 — Different fee structures: upfront, phased, and deferred17:40 — The part most intended parents miss: refund policies20:32 — What’s not included in your agency fee (and what to budget for separately)24:56 — Why a higher fee doesn’t always mean better serviceResources Mentioned:Insider Tips for Picking a Surrogacy Agency - Surrogacy Playbook (inside BloomBridge)Surrogacy SmartSheet - Stay organized with your agency interviewsBloomBridge Surrogacy AppSMS #9 - Steal my process to picking a great agency - insider tips you don't want to missSMS #33 - Premium Surrogates for Extra Bucks? The Truth About Two-Tier Surrogacy SystemsSurrogacy Cost Calculator - Free on Web and BloomBridgeKey Takeaways:Most agency fees range from $20,000 to $50,000+Matching, screening, and coordination are covered—surrogate comp, legal, and medical are notFee structures and refund policies vary—read the fine printGoing independent is an option, but it’s a full-time job without support🎧 Getting serious about your surrogacy journey? Use the BloomBridge App to compare agency costs and uncover what you’re really paying for—before you sign anything.“Agency support can be priceless—but only if you know what you’re getting for your money.”
Wondering how much surrogacy actually costs these days? Prepare yourself for sticker shock. In this conversation, we break down why prices are rising faster than inflation—and what’s changed since 2020. From agency fees and surrogate pay to IVF and insurance costs, we walk through where your money really goes and how you can plan ahead without feeling blindsided. Whether you're just starting or already building your budget, you’ll walk away with real numbers, smart insights, and a few hope-restoring strategies. 🎧 Press play to cut through the confusion and get clear on what surrogacy really costs in 2025.What You’ll Learn:03:38 — What surrogacy really costs in 2025 (and how it compares to 2020)09:18 — Why costs have exploded: supply, demand, and industry behavior13:36 — The 4 biggest expenses: where 85% of your money is going16:10 — Sneaky extras to budget for (beyond just compensation and IVF)20:26 — What lien policies are—and how they can add $30K24:25 — Why some people pay $80K and others $300K for the same goal25:16 — What independent surrogacy really costs without an agency27:37 — How many transfers = more cost (unless you use guarantee programs)Resources Mentioned:2025 Ultimate Surrogacy Cost Guide & Calculator (Free on BloomBridge)Surrogacy Step-By-Step Guide (Free Starter Kit) SMS #4: The High Cost of Hope: Tackling the financial burden of surrogacy with Alexandra FrenchBloomBridge Surrogacy AppKey Takeaways:A typical journey in 2025 ranges from $160K–$200K+Four expenses alone make up over 85% of your total costLien policies, agency markups, and rising surrogate comp are driving costs higherIndependent surrogacy can lower the price—but comes with tradeoffs🎧 Feeling overwhelmed by the cost? Download our free 2025 Surrogacy Cost Guide and run your numbers using the BloomBridge calculator—so you can plan with clarity, not guesswork.
Navigating surrogacy can feel like chasing breadcrumbs across the internet—time-consuming, frustrating, and overwhelming. You’ve waited long enough to grow your family. That’s why Surrogacy Made Simple exists. Hosted by Dr. Alyssa Small Layne, a board-certified OB-GYN and mom through surrogacy, this podcast has become the go-to resource for unbiased, practical advice. And after 42 episodes, we’re celebrating an incredible first year with a special look back at 2024. This episode is packed with lessons, expert insights, and hidden gems that will save you time, money, and stress. Whether you’re just starting out or already deep in your surrogacy journey, these highlights will empower you to take the next step with confidence. [06:04] Financial hurdles: Why meaningful surrogacy financial support is hard to find—and what to do. [13:06] Screening matters: The rigorous physical and mental evaluations required for surrogates. [17:40] Shocking setbacks: How an escrow scandal exposed vulnerabilities in surrogacy protections. [21:21] Call for change: Real stories underline the need for better industry regulations. [26:48] Storytelling that works: Share your story intentionally to attract the right surrogate. [30:55] Overcoming fear with gratitude: How gratitude can ease the anxiety of parenthood. [32:51] The finish line: Parenting choices, like embryo donation, and tips for traveling home with your baby. 🎧 Stop hunting for answers. Listen to the full episode now to take control of your surrogacy journey! Subscribe today to stay updated on new episodes and exciting resources, including the upcoming launch of BloomBridge Plus in 2025! Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts “I love Alyssa and Surrogacy Made Simple.” <– If that sounds like you, please do me a favor by rating and reviewing the show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to have a great experience with surrogacy. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then let me know what you loved most about the episode! Links mentioned in the episode Surrogacy Starter Kit BloomBridge Surrogacy App #3 The Surprising Hidden Fees of All-Inclusive Surrogacy #4 The High Cost of Hope: Tackling the financial burden of surrogacy #5 Your First Meeting with a Surrogate: 6 Key Topics You Must Cover to Prevent a Broken Match (tied for most listened) #25 Understanding Surrogacy Timelines: What to Expect and How to Prepare (tied for most listened) #7/#8 13 Surprising truths about surrogacy that may be holding you back #19/#20 From Picture Perfect To The ICU – One Surrogate’s Story SEAM Escrow Scandal #18 Surrogacy Nightmare: Find Out if Your Money is at Risk! #21/#22 When good surrogacy money advice goes wrong – Arielle Mitton Safe Surrogacy: 6 Insider Tips to Avoid Scams and Pitfalls Premium Video Training #16/#17 Viral Social Media Insider Tips For the Best Surrogacy Matches- with Baden Colt #28 How to Bond with Baby During and After Surrogacy #34 The best way to bring baby home after surrogacy #37/#38 Is embryo donation right for you? an IVF mom’s unique choice – Ashley Herring #12/#13 Surprising Secrets Of Inducing Lactation For Surrogacy
Need to pack your hospital bag for your surrogacy journey without losing your mind? Let’s face it—packing for the hospital as an intended parent is not quite like other parents. There’s so much to think about when you’re expecting a baby in this way. Plus, hospital stays can be longer and more unpredictable than expected, leaving you drained if you’re unprepared. But here’s the good news: you don’t have to figure it out alone or spend hours stressing over what to pack. In this episode of Surrogacy Made Simple, we’re breaking down everything you need to pack your hospital bag with confidence. You’ll learn exactly what you need (and what you don’t), so you can focus on what really matters—welcoming your baby into the world. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: 04:06: The ultimate checklist for packing like a pro as an intended parent. 07:54: Why hospitals prioritize patients—and what that means for your planning. 12:33: How setting realistic expectations makes all the difference. 16:09: The essentials: comfy clothes, snacks, entertainment, and more. 21:59: Don’t forget a car seat—and why pacifiers might be worth packing. 29:33: Important documents and the “comfort extras” that make a big impact. 34:08: How to get your free downloadable checklist and pack with ease. Imagine this: no last-minute scrambling, no overpacking or forgetting crucial items—just calm confidence as you head to the hospital, ready to meet your baby. Click play now to take the stress out of packing and step into parenthood prepared.And don’t forget to download the checklist on the Bloombridge Surrogacy app for even more peace of mind. 🎧 This episode is your essential guide to stress-free packing. Tune in today! Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts “I love Alyssa and Surrogacy Made Simple.” <– If that sounds like you, please do me a favor by rating and reviewing the show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to have a great experience with surrogacy. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then let me know what you loved most about the episode! Links mentioned in the episode Surrogacy Starter Kit BloomBridge Surrogacy App Surrogacy Made Simple #34 The best way to bring baby home after surrogacy
Choosing a surrogacy agency is one of the most critical decisions you'll make on your journey to parenthood. With so many options out there, how do you narrow them down? How do you avoid the delays, unexpected costs, and stress that can come from picking the wrong agency?**Keep all your questions together with the Surrogacy Smartsheet In this episode of Surrogacy Made Simple, we dive into the essential questions to ask a surrogacy agency to help you make the best choice for your unique journey. Whether you're a first-time intended parent or re-evaluating your options, this episode is packed with practical advice to ensure you're confident in your decision.What you'll learn in this episode:[00:03:33] How to investigate agency recommendations and their true motivations.[00:06:13] The must-ask questions to evaluate an agency’s screening process.[00:07:58] How agency size impacts personalized attention and resources.[00:09:10] Why some agencies fail to screen surrogates properly—and the costly consequences.[00:12:10] What support and communication you should expect as an intended parent.[00:15:07] Understanding agency fees: What’s included and hidden costs to watch for.[00:17:46] Critical questions about surrogate matching timelines and processes.Why this episode matters:Not all surrogacy agencies are created equal, and the wrong choice could lead to delays, skyrocketing costs, or an unsupported journey. By asking the right questions, you can avoid these pitfalls and feel confident in your decision.Resources mentioned in this episode:Bloombridge Surrogacy App – A free tool to organize your journey and simplify surrogacy decisions.Surrogate Vetting Essentials Guide – Your step-by-step guide to understanding screening and finding a match.Episode 5: Your First Meeting with a surrogate: 6 key topics you must cover to prevent a broken match5 Little Known Secrets to a Quick Match - That agencies don’t tell youIf you're ready to take control of your surrogacy experience, tune in now to learn the questions to ask a surrogacy agency and start your journey with clarity and confidence.👉 Listen now!
What if you could save $50,000 on surrogacy while still having a safe, successful journey? Choosing independent surrogacy might just be the answer. But is it the right fit for you? In this episode, we’ll explore the pros and cons of independent surrogacy, helping you decide if it’s the path to making your dreams of parenthood a reality. You’ll hear: The major benefits of independent surrogacy, including cost savings and control. The challenges you might face, like finding a surrogate and managing all the details. My personal story of why I chose independent surrogacy and how it worked for my family. 00:55 Why Independent Surrogacy Feels Scary 02:02 The Truth Agencies Don’t Want You to Know 03:56 What Is Independent Surrogacy? 09:53 Why We Chose Independent Surrogacy 17:20 The Biggest Pro: Saving Money 24:06 The Hard Truths: Independent Surrogacy Challenges 28:35 Junie’s Digital Surrogacy Toolkit - Resources designed to make independent surrogacy easier, safer, and faster. Think agencies are the only way to surrogacy? Turns out, it's not always the right choice! Discover why. Take the first step toward your surrogacy journey. Hit play and discover how you can make your dream of parenthood a reality, on your own terms. Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts “I love Alyssa and Surrogacy Made Simple.” <– If that sounds like you, please do me a favor by rating and reviewing the show! This helps me support more people — just like you — to have a great experience with surrogacy. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then let me know what you loved most about the episode! Links mentioned in the episode Junie’s Digital Surrogacy Toolkit: BloomBridge Surrogacy App The Surrogacy Blueprint Course Surrogacy Vetting Essentials Guide 5 Little Known Secrets to a Quick Match - That agencies don’t tell you Safe Surrogacy 6 Insider Tips to Avoid Scams and Pitfalls (video training) One on One Surrogacy Intro Session (Free) Other links: SMS #14 Independent Surrogacy Steps: How to Save $50,000 and Take Control of Your Dream Surrogate Identity Quiz - Your unique surrogate personality Surrogacy Starter Kit
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We worked with https://adonis-international.com/ for our surrogacy journey. The staff was knowledgeable and handled most of the logistics well, but there were a few bumps along the way. We had some communication delays at times, which was frustrating. However, our surrogate was incredible, and the agency did provide support when it mattered most. Overall, it was a stressful but rewarding experience, and we're thrilled to have our baby.