THE RHETORACLE

On the show today is Nathan Seaward, a native New Zealander, former commercial pilot, turned life and business coach. After more than 15 years flying for some of the biggest airlines in the world he realised he had an unlived life of potential and now coaches a community of High performers, game-changers and rule breakers looking to create an extraordinary life for themselves and their families. Nathan is also host of the Nathan Seaward podcast about the struggles in life we all share and reaching our full potential. Key Info:-What is it that gets you up in the morning-Giving up what is a highly successful life for the unknown, to discover new potential-Bringing adventure to people’s lives - what does that mean? -Connection - being present-Closing the gap between where you are now and where or who you want to be-Growth instead of goals“It occurred to me that if you focus on goals, you may hit your goals—but that doesn’t always guarantee growth. If you focus on growth, you will grow and always hit your goals.” - John Maxwell-Fear. What is fear."It’s not confidence we need its courage"How we get more courage “Courage is rightly esteemed the finest of human qualities because it is the quality which guarantees all the others.”WINSTON CHURCHILL-Loneliness. Sit with the feeling-Benefits of a MasterMind group - Nathan calls it a Community-What book has had the biggest impact on you in the last month-What are you most grateful for?-What is a successful day for you before you go to bed - Making a Difference Links:Book Mentioned: Russel Brand: Recovery: Freedom From Our AddictionsNathan Seaward.comInstagram

Episode 23 – With Jamie Catto Jamie Catto, producer, director, musician, author & creator as well as well a coach and mentor. From his manifesto: We need to collectively admit that we’re not fine, we’re not confident and balanced and good. We turn up to work every day pretending we’re not neurotic and obsessed and insatiable and full of doubt, and we waste so much energy keeping up this mutual pretense for each other because we think if people saw the truth, if people really knew what was going on in our heads, all the crazy truth of our dark appetites and self loathing, then we’d get rejected. But in fact, the opposite is true. It’s when we dare to reveal the truth that we unwittingly give everyone else permission to do the same. To stop holding their breathe for a moment and actually come into the room. Be here, present, vulnerable and authentic. Jamie is the author of Insanely Gifted – Turn Your Demons into Creative Rocket Fuel Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom – Victor Frankl In this episode: -What inspired you to write this book -Reactive / non-reactive – creating space -Self-care -Be willing to feel uncomfortable feelings The hard times, dark nights of the soul they show us who we are -Forgiveness & Compassion -Being loving with ourselves -Having to always be in control Every time we try to avoid our feelings we are abandoning ourselves -Really Get to Know Yourself – Noticing. Allowing space -Hiding parts of ourselves. Editing ourselves to fit in We are all on a journey towards the darkness AND the light -We can unedited ourselves back to us -How do we learn unconditional love. You can be unconditionally loving and still realise that guy is a twat When reactive – be sweet to yourself, be loving. “The I, the one you are when you’re not loving yourself isn’t you” -The bodyguard that jumps in to protect you, to stay safe -How old maps of behaviours of when we were a child are not helping us anymore now we are adults -Being brave in turning towards the pain or discomfort There’s huge amount of treasure waiting for you and me behind all these doors I promise you -Take off the masks – Being real -Feeling edgy together is oxygen -Being judgemental – “Just like me” -Not everyone will like you – let people not like you -We’re ashamed of our own narcissism You don’t need to find it, it arises by itself. If you weed the garden, the flower pops up, you don’t need to invent the flower -We don’t want to take the risk -Steps to being vulnerable -The 70% rule -Treat people as people. Slow down -Everyone is creative Links: Jamie Catto: Insanely Gifted: Turn Your Demons into Creative Rocket Fuel Pete Walker: Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving Russel Brand:

Anna Feggari is a on her way to becoming a Life Coach and brings such a sense of warmth and joy every where she goes. She is a successful conference co-ordinator and life-long learner. Skilled in langauges and the attitude of you make the life you want to live. After a divorce she built herself back up to be fully independent and really getting everything life has to offer.  We discuss topics such as; Adversity The victim mentality Loneliness Life-long Learning Getting up early! Love Divorce Work hard and go after what you want Living authentically to who you are Living without regrets

On todays episode we do away with the 10000 hour rule to mastery and talk with adventurer, original thinker, travel writer, micromaster and author of the book MicroMastery, Robert Twigger. Robert has trained to black belt in Japan with the Tokyo Riot Police. Has written and presented a documentary Big Snake, which depicted the capture of the world’s longest snake and he has led an expedition that was the first to cross the 700 km Great Sand Sea of the Egyptian Sahara solely on foot.  We discuss his book MicroMastery. Leatning skills and talents in short bursts of creativity; What is Micromastery? What mindset should people have to approach new things? Flow state Solitude/lonliness Is broad knowledge and skill better than specialisation? Polymathy How do we know we are not wasting our time on something?   Find out more about Robert at his website, RobertTwigger.com Your excerpt goes in here!

On todays episode of the RhetOracle I have Sarah Jones of Introverted Alpha.com Sarah coaches introverted men to become their authentic best in their approach to women and dating, no tricks, no gimmicks, no routines or manipulation. She says “I want to love men into their greatness.”   We discuss; Take charge of your life. No-one has an amazing life by accident No excuses Baby steps to dating Why Introverted Men What is great about Introverted Men? Being Authentic Everyone’s story is uniquely beautful The media and how it portrays men Having confidence Tips Introverted Men   Find out more from Sarah Jones at introvertedalpha.com   Some blog posts here; Meeting women as an Introverted Man 5 Natural Places to Meet Women as an Introverted Man   Defining the Introverted Man Introverted Alpha Male: How to tell if that’s you – Introverted Alpha   Conveying Attraction How to Convey Attraction to a Woman: 4 Relaxed Ways

Welcome to The RhetOracle. On today’s episode I have author, Speaker, documentary film-maker and enlightened hooligan Philip McKernan 10 years ago he was an entrepreneur running a very successful coffee business. He decided to make a change and walk away from that life. He states he has spent most of his life pretending to be someone else; his journey over recent years is to take the masks off, stop acting, and get back to who I am at the core. “His mission for the rest of his life is to take anyone who is willing and pull, kick, drag, coerce, hug the shit of them if needs be, to bring their gift out because by god do we all have gifts!” We Discuss; Becoming Congruent Limiting beliefs. What blocks and limits are we putting in place Discovering our gifts Mindset Passion or purposeHow does someone know when they find that. How does someone know if they are putting their energy into the right thing? Opportunities Coping with failure and adversity https://philipmckernan.com/ Check out Philip’s Documentary for free; Home

On todays show I have social anxiety and confidence expert and coach Dr Aziz Gazipura. He is the author of, The Solution to Social Anxiety and also The Art of Extraordinary confidence – your ultimate path to Love, Wealth and Freedom He has been coaching men for more than a decade on facing fears, overcoming rejection in all aspects of life and removing the inner critic to help you live the life you deserve. We discuss; What is Social Anxiety Opportunities – do we have to take them all People pleasing & What others think Fears Comparing ourselves to others Cultivate a Sense of self Focus on our strengths  Compliments. How to acknowledge these What are 3 habits people with social anxiety of lacking on confidence need to immediately stop doing  3 to start doing The Center For Social Confidence

When is the last time you spent time with men you trust in a deep way? Sure you watch football together or play a round of golf together. You may even bond. But when was the last time you were real with each other for more than 30 seconds? Maybe it was in school or the military. If you are like most of us, it wasn’t any time recent. You are the norm. We all default to the superficial conversations. That’s how we were trained. This is what Owen is about, from his website. He is about men, brotherhood and men connecting, bonding. Being Real. Being Remarkable. On this episode of The RhetOracle I have Owen Marcus. Owen is a men’s coach and mentor. He dug himself out of the box of being someone else’s man to discover the power of masculine intelligence. For more than 20 years he has been working on his own path of Masculine Emotional Intelligence and coaching other men to become the man they were truly born to be. Owen is also the author of Grow Up: A Man’s Guide to Masculine Emotional Intelligence. His work to enable men to remove traumas and become ‘Remarkable Men’ is groundbreaking and inspiring and very much needed. It was a pleasure to connect with him. We discuss; Emotions & Emotional Masculine Intelligence Traumas Brotherhood Men’s Groups Being a Boy in a Man’s Body Vitality Reflection and Slowing Down Check out Owen here; www.owenmarcus.com

On todays episode I have Rowan Andrews Rowan runs a business coaching and training company. He has been coaching individuals for 18 years and businesses and organisations for the past ten years. He is also a mens coach and runs No More Mr Nice Guy coaching groups for men. We discuss men and vulnerabilty. No more Mr Nice Guy by Dr Robert Glover The “Nice Guy Syndrome” People pleasing

I am so excited today to have Dan Griffin on my show. Dan is an author, father, husband and man in long term recovery. He leads men’s retreats and runs treatment programs in the twelve step community. He has over 20 years working in mental health and helping men overcome addiction and work through trauma. He hosts the podcast The Man Rules, discussing on these topics of addiction and trauma, helping men to break out of societies ‘man rules’ “We can’t just change what men think, we have to change what we think about men.” We discucss; Trauma-“Big T” Trauma and ‘”small t” Trauma, the tiny cracks that stay with us Anger & the Anger Funnel Men & Vulnerability So much more! Please leave a review on iTunes and spread the word. By sharing you really help get the message out to those who need it.

My guest today on The RhetOracle is Amrit Sandhu. He lives in Melbourne Australia and is a Structural Engineer, a PhD Researcher, meditation teacher, Mindvalley Master and he is the creator of podcast Inspired Evolution – The mission of his podcast is to “inspire humanity to: live a life, that is empowered with: the love for life!”  Amrit is such a wonderful soul and brings so much wisdom and joy to the world. He combines his eastern and western cultures as well as structural enginerring world and his meditation spritual side to want to create green spaces in cities. We discuss his several years of depression and how a simple breathing technique changed his life. Also; Giving up alcohol and creating “Mandala Moments” Chai, Chat and Community, a spirituality, philosophy and personal growth movement

My guest today is Peter Sage a serial entrepreneur, author, personal development coach, Ted speaker and teacher. In more than 25 years he has created over 25 companies including Space Energy Inc and the Energy Fitness group. He has shared the stage with Sir Richard Branson, Kofi Anan and former US President Bill Clinton amongst others and he is an Honorary Life Member of the London Yes Group- the UK’s leading Personal Development Community This year he served 6 months of a 12 month sentence in Pentonville prison as a civil prisoner for contempt of court and has journaled the high and lows of that experience he’s called The Inside Track. We discuss his journey as he reflects on: The last year, through his high & lows of prison Victim Mentality Mindset Depression Walking his talk Losing everything Being a ‘Secret Agent of Positive Change’ How the experience has changed him

My guest today is Kenny Mammarella D’Cruz a personal development consultant.Kenny’s early beginnings were traumatic to say the least : death threats, refugee camps, paternal abandonment, maternal enmeshment and racism. Kenny developed several mental health issues, including OCD, Tourette's syndrome, body dysmorphia and depressionWhen he moved to London he became a high-flying adrenaline junkie to distract from the pain and emptiness deep within.Having released himself from this trauma and way of life, Kenny affectionately known as ‘the man whisperer’ helps men, break through old scripts, trauma, mental health and relationship issues, helping them move through past wounds to find their passion and purpose. He has also been running men’s groups for nearly 15 years.In this episode we discuss:Survival modeTraumaBeing an outsiderDepression & Mental HealthMentorsLoveBreaking through and waking up to life

On today’s episode I have creator of podcast Rise of Humanity Chris Karamyar. He’s on a spiritual warriors journey to uncover the inner workings of the universe and bring this to the world. He aims to start his own life coaching business and make a major impact on others. In this episode we discuss: What is a Spiritual Warriors journey? The power of the Universe Overcome adversity Pushing through Fear Plus more..Also listen for incredible life loving tips from Chris. A true inspiration!

Dr Kathrine Bejanyan is a relationship therapist and dating consultant, originally from America she has spent more than 10 years studying and working with couples and individuals to breakthrough relationship challenges and help them create deeper intimacy and connection within their relationships. What she doesn’t know about dating and relationships is not worth knowing.   We discuss; Problems people have in relationships Dating differences How Men & Women approach relationships differently   Find out more about Kathrine here; www.kathrinebejanyan.com kathrine@kathrinebejanyan.com

Vincent Leleux is a self described holistic healer, and intuitive coach. 20 years ago doctors told him he had to be operated on or he could die at any moment. Rejecting the advice of his doctors he turned to holistic healing and made a full recovery. This year he has also overcome homelessness, and through his experience and healing work helps thousands of people all around the world to overcome adversity, release their blocks and create abundance in both their personal and professional lives

Four years ago after 12 years in a successful career in television and broadcast graphic design, James Williams made the brave decision to leave it all behind and enter the world of coaching, becoming one one of only 300 high performance coaches in the world. He uses is training and experience to guide clients to higher levels of success in their career, their health and their relationships focussing on discovering identity, cultivating passion and ensuring they reach their full potential.

My name is Ian Geddes. This is episode 1 of The RhetOracle. A small introduction as to who I am and what it is about as well as where it is going.   My name is Ian Geddes, 35. Broadcasting from SW London. I’ve lived in London 10 years now. A couple of years ago I began to wake up. I knew something was off. I knew I had so much to give, so much to achieve and I was treading water. My life to this point had been massive debt, partying lifestyle, and avoidance and failed unfulfilling relationships and I was left with a sense of ‘is this it?’ Is this all there is? The 2008 recession left me redundant and astronomical debt. I played it safe and did the 9-5. I had to. It was the only way to survive as well clear the debt. Except now I’ve played it safe too long. It took 6 grilling years to clear but finally free of debt, I kept making the same mistakes. I had still continued to work on the external. Not the inner me. The last few years has led me to question everything, my past, my childhood, my parents, who am I, what kind of man am I, what kind of man do I want to be, where am I heading. I used to be creative as a child and I used to dream big. I haven’t dreamed for a long time. I am at the very start of my journey. Learning what it means to be a man in today’s age. Where I fit and what I’m really capable of.