Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50

In Part 2 of my conversation with Ally Iseman, (ICF certified  relationship coach and erotic event producer) we dive deeper into the real work behind healthy, ethical nonmonogamy. Alley shares personal stories that reveal the emotional intelligence, honesty, and respect it takes to navigate multiple relationships — from processing breakups to setting boundaries and supporting each other through vulnerability.We also bust common myths about open relationships, explaining how communication and consent are key whether you’re monogamous, polyamorous, or somewhere in between. Then, we take you inside the world of kink and play parties, exploring what really happens, how to approach these spaces safely, and why curiosity (not pressure) is the foundation of all exploration.This episode is as much about self-awareness and personal growth as it is about relationships — proving that being “open” starts with how we communicate, not who we sleep with.If you haven't listened to Part 1, go back and start there, because you will want the full story!Timestamps:00:00 – Intro: Beyond the Myths of Open Relationships02:10 – Communication, Boundaries & Mutual Respect05:20 – Processing Emotions and Breakups in Open Relationships08:00 – Monogamy vs. Ownership: Redefining Partnership10:40 – Kink, Curiosity & What Really Happens at Play Parties13:50 – Finding Community and Safer Spaces16:30 – How to Start Exploring (Responsibly)18:50 – Final Thoughts: Openness Starts With Conversation19:51 – Final wordsWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the guest: Ally Iseman is a writer, consultant, ICF Certified Relationship Coach, NCSF-registered Kink Aware Professional (KAP), and the Founder of the inclusive relationship resource platform Passport2Pleasure.com. ​Sitting on numerous advisory boards in NED roles for brands in the sex tech and relational wellness spaces, she has been a speaker, erotic event producer, and non-monogamy educator and practitioner since 2016. A sought after...

In this episode, I sit down with ICF certified relationship coach, erotic event producer and founder of Passport to Pleasure Ally Iseman to explore what consensual non-monogamy can look like in real life—beyond headlines and hot takes. Ally shares her evolution from serial monogamist to multi-partner relationships, she defines compersion and erotic jealousy (zelophilia), and explains how clarity, agreements, and tolerating discomfort are the real “muscles” of any sustainable relationship—monogamous or not. You’ll hear practical frameworks for opening up, the difference between romantic and sexual needs, and how multiple relationships can highlight different authentic versions of yourself.Timestamps:0:00 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth: sex & midlife reset0:35 – Meet Ally Iseman: the Non-Monogamy Nerd1:18 – From serial monogamy to self-study: changing the variables3:05 – The first “green light” story—and an unexpected reaction5:12 – Compersion vs jealousy vs erotic jealousy (zelophilia)7:08 – When “we thought we were okay” meets reality8:23 – Agreements, definitions, and why discomfort is data10:15 – Cheating vs ENM: clarity beats assumptions11:36 – Romantic needs vs sexual needs: orientation or lifestyle?13:10 – Multiple partners, multiple selves: time, priority, authenticity15:05 – Karen’s reflections: bi-coastal love & new relationship energy16:32 – Making it work: communication, calendars, and compassion17:26 – What’s next + Part 2 coming nextWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the guest: Ally Iseman is a writer, consultant, ICF Certified Relationship Coach, NCSF-registered Kink Aware Professional (KAP), and the Founder of the inclusive relationship resource platform Passport2Pleasure.com. ​Sitting on numerous advisory boards in NED roles for brands in the sex tech and relational wellness spaces, she has been a speaker, erotic event producer,...

In this episode of Taboo to Truth, I break down one of the biggest misconceptions in sexual health: that size matters most. From understanding real female anatomy to addressing midlife changes, we explore why pleasure, comfort, and communication matter far more than length or depth. With candid examples and practical advice, I challenge outdated ideas, tackle the myths created by porn, and encourage curiosity, consent, and conversation as the true keys to sexual connection — especially for women over 50.Timestamps:0:00 – Intro: Why this conversation matters0:22 – The truth about vaginal depth0:55 – Why bigger isn’t always better1:32 – Pain vs. pleasure in midlife2:05 – What really drives female pleasure (clitoris & more)2:44 – Porn myths vs. reality3:05 – Communication, curiosity & consent3:20 – Outro + Pleasure Playbook inviteWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help...

In this powerful and eye-opening episode, I sit down with journalist, performer, and intimacy coordinator Laura Desiree to break down misconceptions around sex work, intimacy on stage and screen, and the importance of authentic storytelling. Laura shares her journey from burlesque to content creation, discusses the realities and stigmas sex workers face, and explains how intimacy coordination is reshaping the entertainment industry. From personal safety to sexual healing, this conversation explores the courage, creativity, and empowerment found under the “red umbrella” of sex work—and why listening to sex workers is essential for modern sex education.Timestamps:00:00 – Welcome to Taboo to Truth: Karen introduces the show and today’s guest, Laura Desiree.02:30 – Defining Sex Work Today: What sex work means in modern society and the many professions under the “red umbrella.”06:45 – Laura’s Journey into Sex Work: From burlesque beginnings to content creation and erotic performance.11:25 – Breaking Misconceptions: Does sex work come from trauma? Debunking stereotypes and addressing stigma.16:10 – Love, Safety & Relationships: How sex workers navigate intimacy, clients, and personal relationships.20:40 – Intimacy Coordination Explained: Laura’s work creating safe environments for actors and performers on stage and screen.26:15 – Eros Unbound: Erotic Storytelling: Laura’s live show blending confession, creativity, and sexual empowerment.30:00 – Final 3 Questions: Laura shares her definition of sex, her best orgasm story, and her unfulfilled fantasy.31:30 – Where to Find Laura Desiree: Resources, upcoming shows, and closing thoughts.Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Laura Desiree is a dominant figure in erotic entertainment, celebrated for her work as a live-sex Intimacy Coordinator, journalist, adult industry consultant, and sought-after podcast commentator. She spent seven years as the host and producer of the groundbreaking web series Naked News, and now helms Eros Unbound, a confessional erotic reading event spotlighting sensual storytelling and creative expression. With over a decade of experience across broadcasting, adult media, and live performance, Laura is a trusted voice shaping the future of sex, art, and culture.p...

Why do so many women struggle to orgasm — and what can couples do about it? In this episode, I break down seven real, practical, and sex-positive truths about female pleasure. From communication to clitoral focus, safety to novelty, and why toys are tools. I share how orgasm is less about performance and more about connection and collaboration. If you want to upgrade intimacy and remove shame from the bedroom, this one’s for you.👉 Download my free guide: 10 Things Every Man Needs to Know for more insights.Timestamps:00:00 – Intro: Why female orgasm is misunderstood00:45 – Truth #1: Communication is foreplay01:40 – Truth #2: Arousal takes 20–40 minutes02:20 – Truth #3: It’s all about the clitoris03:00 – Truth #4: The importance of safety03:45 – Truth #5: Embrace novelty in the bedroom04:25 – Truth #6: Toys are tools, not threats05:05 – Truth #7: Let go of the goal06:00 – Key takeaway: Orgasm is collaboration, not performance06:30 – Outro + Free guide invitationWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastTake

Dating after divorce can feel intimidating, overwhelming, and even hopeless — but it doesn’t have to be. In this episode, I sit down with Andrea McGinty, America’s top midlife dating expert and author of Second Acts: Winning Strategies for Dating Over 50. From founding It’s Just Lunch Matchmaking to facilitating over 33,000 dates and 10,000 marriages, Andrea has seen it all. She shares no-nonsense strategies for navigating the modern dating world, choosing the right apps, spotting red flags, and building a game plan for your love life. Whether you’re newly single or simply curious about what’s possible, this episode proves it’s never too late for a second act in love.Timestamps:00:00 – Welcome & Show Intro00:35 – Today’s Topic & Guest Setup “Is online dating after divorce a nightmare…?"02:35 – Why Dating After Divorce Feels Harder04:45 – The Ocean, Not a Pool: Why Apps Matter08:05 – Right App for Your City & Stage of Life09:30 – Biggest Mistake: Quitting After Two Weeks11:40 – Build a Dating “Business Plan”13:45 – Values, Communication & Chemistry (The 3 C’s)16:00 – First Relationship Post-Divorce: Are You Ready?18:20 – Red Flags on Profiles20:40 – Stop Texting Forever: Set the Date23:00 – The Sex-on-First-Date Question24:50 – Matchmakers vs Apps (Costs & Reality)28:50 – Paid vs Free App Features31:30 – Hope, Resilience & Process35:10 – Phone Call or Not? Expectations & Boundaries38:00 – First-Date Formats39:30 – Who Pays? Regional Norms & Chivalry40:20 – Where to Find Andrea + OutroWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest: As seen on Oprah, WSJ, People, and CNN, Andrea McGinty is a professional dating coach, author, and entrepreneur with more than 25 years of experience. Having set up over 33,000 successful dates, she is the founder of two dating companies--It's Just Lunch and 33k Dates--as well as several other ventures, including BabyDagny and Pilatesworks.Connect with Andrea McGinty:Website:

In this episode, I unpacks the truths about oral sex that most men have never been taught. From understanding the female body to slowing down, asking the right questions, and focusing on connection instead of performance, this episode reveals how to move from being a good partner to a great one. Men who listen and apply this will transform not just their partner’s experience, but their entire relationship dynamic.Timestamps:00:00 – Stop Guessing, Start Connecting00:42 – Why Penetration Alone Isn’t Enough01:15 – Understanding Her Anatomy (Clitoris & Vulva)02:00 – The #1 Mistake Men Make03:05 – How to Communicate About Intimacy04:00 – Worship vs. Performance in Connection05:00 – Final Tips: Why Presence Beats PerfectionWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.Follow Karen Bigman:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@taboototruthFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61551130276567LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenbigmanWebsite: http://taboototruth.comSubscribe to Taboo To Truth: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast?sub_confirmation=1—Listen to The Taboo To Truth Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Tuesday & Saturday!Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2OHcG2UAb2l7FJp48jc0f9Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/taboo-to-truth-life-sex-after-50/id1769391023This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Take...

In this episode, I dive into the world of male enhancement with William Moore, founder of PhalloFILL. We discuss the cultural silence around penis size, why girth is often more important for pleasure than length, and how fillers are changing the game. William explains the science behind hyaluronic acid injections, how long results last, and why more men are secretly seeking these treatments. We also address risks, myths, and the emotional weight tied to masculinity and size. By bringing this hidden conversation to light, the episode encourages openness, education, and self-confidence for men everywhere.Timestamps:0:00 – Introduction & Breaking the Taboo1:12 – Meet William Moore & PhalloFILL2:45 – Does Size Really Matter? (Girth vs Length)5:10 – Why Men Stay Silent About Enhancement7:05 – How the PhalloFILL Procedure Works9:00 – Risks, Safety, and Real Results11:20 – Erectile Function, Confidence & Performance13:15 – Stigma, Masculinity & The Future of Enhancement14:30 – Closing Thoughts & Extended Cut InfoWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:William Moore is the founder of PhalloFILL, a leading protocol for non-surgical penile girth enhancement using hyaluronic acid. He helped expand the procedure across North America and developed the PhalloSleeve®, a patented post-care device.Connect with William Moore:Website: https://phallofill.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/phallofill/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PhalloFILL/Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause,...

Midlife women aren’t avoiding sex—they’re avoiding pain, boredom, and frustration. In this episode, I unpack the real reasons intimacy fades during midlife and what couples can do to reconnect. From hormone shifts and low libido to communication struggles and painful sex, Karen provides practical solutions and compassionate insights to help couples reignite intimacy.If you’ve ever wondered why your partner seems to avoid the bedroom, this episode gives you the tools to start the right conversation and explore solutions—from medical options like hormone therapy to introducing new ways of creating pleasure.Timestamps:00:00 – Why midlife women avoid sex00:35 – Hormones, menopause & low libido01:25 – Emotional struggles & stress02:05 – Boring or painful sex: the silent killers03:15 – The power of communication04:10 – Possible solutions: hormones, therapy & vibrators05:05 – Final advice: reconnecting with loveWatch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Follow Karen Bigman:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@taboototruthFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61551130276567LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karenbigmanWebsite: http://taboototruth.comSubscribe to Taboo To Truth on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast?sub_confirmation=1—Listen to The Taboo To Truth Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Tuesday & Saturday!Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2OHcG2UAb2l7FJp48jc0f9Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/taboo-to-truth-life-sex-after-50/id1769391023Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at a...

Menopause is no longer a silent struggle. From “millennipause” to cutting-edge treatments like GLP-1s, today’s conversation with Jackie Giannelli, a board-certified family nurse practitioner specializing in women's health with extensive expertise in hormonal health, menopause, women's sexual health, and urogynecology, dives into the evolving landscape of perimenopause and menopause care.We explore the shifting attitudes around hormone replacement therapy, the rise of millennials entering perimenopause, and why lifestyle, supplements, and community matter just as much as medical interventions. Jackie also breaks down how GLP-1 medications may become a new arm of menopause treatment — while highlighting their potential impact on sexual health.Whether you’re curious about natural options, considering hormone therapy, or just beginning your perimenopause journey, this episode offers clarity, science-backed insights, and compassion for women navigating this complex phase of life.Timestamps:0:00 – Welcome & Introduction to Jackie Giannelli1:15 – What is “Millennipause”?4:12 – How millennials are approaching perimenopause differently6:45 – Hormone hesitancy is fading: why women want bioidenticals now9:50 – Non-hormonal treatments: supplements that actually work13:30 – Lifestyle shifts that make a difference in perimenopause16:45 – GLP-1 medications and their surprising potential in menopause care21:05 – The hidden side effects of GLP-1s on sexual health23:18 – The power of community and women supporting women25:10 – Jackie’s definition of sex & closing thoughtsWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email:

In this episode, I share what I’ve learned after coaching women through menopause and living it myself. Through my own journey and countless conversations, I’ve identified what I call the five emotional stages of menopause: What the F**, Confusion, I Need Help, Acceptance,* and Empowerment. I walk you through each stage, the struggles and frustrations, and the hope that comes when you realize you’re not alone. Menopause isn’t a disease—it’s a natural phase of life that can actually lead you to strength, freedom, and empowerment.Timestamps:00:00 – Introduction: My Menopause Journey00:35 – Stage 1: WTF?! The Strange Symptoms I Didn’t Recognize01:50 – Stage 2: Confusion – When I Thought Something Was Seriously Wrong02:50 – Stage 3: I Need Help – Admitting I Couldn’t Do It Alone03:50 – Stage 4: Acceptance – Finally Understanding Menopause04:40 – Stage 5: Empowerment – How I Found Strength and Freedom05:50 – Final Thoughts: Why Menopause Wasn’t the End for Me06:20 – OutroKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy.

In this episode of Taboo to Truth, I sit down with Keeley Shoup — co-owner of CuddleList, director of CuddleXPro, and a certified Wheel of Consent facilitator — to explore the groundbreaking world of professional cuddle therapy. Keeley explains how platonic touch, rooted in boundaries and consent, can promote healing, reduce anxiety, ease grief, and improve relationships. Together, we break down the science behind oxytocin, discuss how intimacy isn’t always sexual, and share powerful stories of transformation through touch. Whether you’ve never heard of cuddle therapy or are curious about its impact, this conversation will shift how you think about connection, healing, and intimacy.Timestamps:0:00 – Introduction Introducing Keeley Shoup and sets the stage for today’s taboo topic.1:15 – What Is Cuddle Therapy? Keeley explains the origins, purpose, and misconceptions about cuddle therapy.3:40 – The Science of Touch How oxytocin, nervous system regulation, and platonic connection improve mental health.6:05 – Virtual Cuddle Therapy How sessions adapted during COVID and what “online cuddling” really looks like.7:40 – Intimacy Beyond Sex Redefining intimacy: emotional, romantic, platonic 10:00 – Cuddle Therapy in Practice Keeley shares stories of healing, from grief support to boundary setting.12:50 – Couples, Polyamory & Touch How cuddle therapy applies to couples, throuples, and polyamorous groups.14:20 – A Powerful Client Breakthrough The story of emotional release leading to unexpected physical healing.16:00 – Closing & Extended Cut InfoFinal thoughtsWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKeeley has practiced as a full time Cuddle Therapist since 2015, supporting clients in both individual and group settings. She is a certified Cuddle Party facilitator and has taken every training program that exists for professional cuddlers. She continues her education in IFS, EFT, somatic experiencing, embodiment practices, the wheel of consent, and racial equity. In 2017, she became the Director of CuddleXpo, the first ever professional cuddlers convention. The 3 day educational event hosted over 100 professionals and...

What if everything you thought about porn was wrong?In this episode let’s dive into the world of ethical porn—porn made with consent, transparency, fair pay, and respect for all performers. Unlike mainstream porn, ethical porn focuses on real people, real pleasure, and real connection.👉 What you’ll learn in this episode:What ethical porn is and how it’s madeWhy mainstream porn sets dangerous, unrealistic expectationsThe importance of consent, safety, and fair pay in adult contentHow to find ethical platforms you can feel good supportingWhy ethical porn can help reframe intimacy in healthy, realistic ways💡 If you’ve ever searched for “real porn” or “ethical porn” and weren’t sure where to start, this episode is for you.Linkshttps://makelovenotporn.tv/videoshttps://watch.erikalust.comhttps://www.bellesa.coTimestamps:00:00 – Introduction: What if everything you knew about porn was wrong?00:25 – What is ethical porn? Consent, communication & fair pay01:25 – How mainstream porn exploits performers and misleads viewers02:15 – Why ethical porn shows real connection, real pleasure03:10 – How to find ethical platforms & support creators03:45 – Final thoughts: Pleasure, consent, and respect matterWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: a...

In this episode, I sit down with Niki Davis-Fainbloom (aka Miss Bloom), a non-monogamy pleasure and fetish coach, to explore the world of fetishes, kinks, and how our culture shapes desire. Nikki shares her research from hundreds of interviews with people who hold “uncommon” desires, and breaks down the difference between kinks and fetishes, the origins of certain turn-ons, and how to talk about these vulnerable topics with a partner. From the neuroscience of foot fetishes to the playful roleplay of vor (the desire to be “swallowed”), this conversation is packed with insights, humor, and permission to embrace who you truly are in the bedroom.Whether you’re curious about your own desires, wanting to spark intimacy with a long-term partner, or simply fascinated by human sexuality, this episode will leave you with tools to open conversations and normalize what society often stigmatizes.Timestamps:00:00 – Welcome & Introduction to Miss Bloom01:05 – What is a fetish? Defining desires beyond the norm03:10 – Fetish vs. kink: How they differ and overlap05:05 – How culture shapes our desires (the quicksand example)07:00 – Shame, secrecy, and impact on relationships09:05 – Coaching example: Roleplay for vor fetish11:10 – The neuroscience of foot fetishes13:00 – Tips for sharing fetishes with a partner14:20 – Consent, communication & closing thoughts✨ If you’ve ever felt “different” in your desires, this episode is here to remind you: You are not alone.👀Want a visual experience? Watch all episodes on YouTube—search Taboo To Truth.Use code TRUTH15 for 15% off at https://www.arya.fyiAbout the Guest:Niki Davis-Fainbloom is a Canadian-born, New York-based sex educator, writer, researcher, and coach. Since receiving her Master’s degree studying the psychology of sexual dysfunction from NYU, she has facilitated hundreds of sexual education workshops at locations including Planned Parenthood, New York University, and The United Nations. After studying Sex Therapy at Guelph University, she has also built up her coaching practice, specializing in working with kinks & fetishes, ethical non-monogamy, and most importantly, pleasure. Her work uses up-to-date research, humor, and practical advice to help people develop the skills to have healthier and more satisfying romantic and sexual relationships. Connect with Niki Davis-Fainbloom (aka Miss Bloom):Website: https://www.nikidavisf.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/missbloomsexeducatorKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastp...

Cheating isn’t the biggest relationship killer—money is. I reveal the hidden financial red flags that can quietly destroy trust and security, and how to protect yourself before it’s too late.I share my own experience of ignoring the warning signs and what it cost me, plus the subtle clues you might be missing: lavish spending on a modest income, secretive money habits, repeated requests for “loans,” inconsistent stories about debt, and more.You’ll learn:How to spot financial instability earlyWhy joint expenses should never mean giving up controlHow to protect yourself with solid planning and prenupsWhy honest money talks are as vital as conversations about intimacyWhether you’re dating, remarried, or in a long-term relationship—especially in midlife—this conversation will help you protect both your heart and your wallet.Because healthy money habits aren’t just smart… They're sexy.Timestamps:00:00 – Why financial red flags matter more than you think 00:25 – Money & sex: the two hardest conversations 00:55 – My personal story of ignoring the signs 01:35 – Lavish spending vs. real income 02:05 – Secretive behavior & repeated requests for money 02:40 – Why you should talk about credit scores 03:05 – Inconsistent debt stories & hidden bankruptcies 03:35 – The danger of “my money, your money” control 04:00 – Protect yourself with planning & prenups 04:40 – The importance of professional financial advice 05:05 – “Open books, open hearts”: building transparency 05:40 – Keep money talks going for a healthier relationship 06:10 – Final takeaway: healthy money habits are sexyKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Follow Karen Bigman:Instagram:...

In this episode, I had the absolute pleasure of speaking with Ariela Salinas Fiora. She’s an actor, writer, director, sex educator, and fierce advocate for fat, queer, and Latinx representation. But what really struck me was her deeply personal journey into ethical non-monogamy—especially within a decades-long marriage, while raising kids, and embracing her full identity as a woman over 50.We talked about everything: how she and her husband first explored the “seven-year itch,” how their kids found out about their open marriage, what it means to be oriented toward multiple partners, and how she’s dealt with jealousy (hint: it’s not what you’d expect).Ariela shares what it’s like to be affectionate, honest, and deeply committed in more than one relationship—and why she had to “come out” about it dramatically… onstage.This episode is about expanding our definitions of love, sex, parenting, and what it means to live authentically in our relationships—at any size, at any age, and on our own terms.Timestamps:00:00 – Welcome + Meet Ariela Salinas Fiora01:12 – How we met: SAR and sexual attitude reassessment02:00 – Marrying young & the start of non-monogamy03:28 – The “Seven-Year Itch” conversation in the car05:05 – When kissing isn’t just kissing06:32 – Realizing she’s always been non-monogamous07:55 – Fat, queer, and rewriting representation09:20 – Telling the kids about their open marriage10:47 – Bringing partners home: How it works in real life12:10 – Polycules, partners, and blended connections13:40 – Boundaries, intimacy, and making it work15:00 – Jealousy, priorities, and staying grounded16:25 – Final thoughts on love, honesty, and self-trust17:55 – Outro + Where to listen for moreWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Ariella Salinas Fiore is an actress, creator, director, death doula, and intimacy professional from Los Angeles. She was lucky enough to be born into a family of fierce and talented female artists who supported her by putting her on stage at every opportunity.  A first generation Nicaraguan/Panamanian American , she is passionate about increasing inclusivity for both Latinx and plus sized folks in entertainment.  Her first solo show, The Fat Girl's Guide To Life, Sex, and...

Porn: educational tool or relationship wrecker? This week, I’m  breaking down the truth behind adult content—how it impacts solo and partnered intimacy, when it becomes problematic, and how it can actually support a healthier relationship and better sex. We will also explore the world of ethical porn, real-life arousal, and how fantasy on-screen isn't always what it seems in real life.If you’ve ever wondered whether porn is hurting or helping your connection, this episode is a must-listen.Timestamps:00:00 – Intro: Is Porn Really Bad for You?01:42 – When Porn Becomes a Problem03:20 – Solo vs. Partnered Play: The Role of Porn04:55 – Fantasy vs. Reality in Adult Content06:40 – What is Ethical Porn? (+ Sites to Know)09:35 – Real People, Real Pleasure: Homemade Porn Explained11:20 – Porn and ED: A Surprising Use Case13:10 – Relationship Conflict Over Porn15:05 – When to Seek a Sex Therapist17:00 – Using Porn to Reignite Intimacy18:25 – Porn as Entertainment, Not EducationKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled...

In this unfiltered conversation, I sit down with renowned sex and relationship coach Caitlin V. to explore the truths about male performance anxiety, orgasms, slowing down intimacy, and why men might be misunderstanding their own desires — and women’s. We discuss how societal pressures create performance myths, the importance of pacing and communication in the bedroom, why curiosity beats confidence, and the misconceptions around anal play, identity, and masculinity. Plus, Caitlin shares her wildest orgasm story and the fantasy she hasn’t tried… yet.👉 This episode is a masterclass in rewriting the rules of connection, pleasure, and redefining masculinity — with humor, honesty, and heart.Timestamps:00:00 – Introduction02:20 – Meet Caitlin V.: Sex Coach & Performance Expert04:10 – Why Men Burn Out in Bed (And How to Fix It)07:45 – The Art of Titration & Variation in Intimacy11:30 – Slowing Down & Setting Playful Boundaries16:00 – How to Regulate Your Nervous System Together19:45 – The Biggest Mistakes Men Make with Women25:30 – Delayed Ejaculation & Overstimulation Explained33:50 – Porn, Edging & Why It Can Backfire38:40 – Anal Play, Masculinity & The Butt Taboo47:00 – Caitlin’s Definition of Sex49:20 – The Best Orgasm Story (Yes, It’s That Good)54:00 – The Fantasy She Still Wants to TryKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastCaitlin V is a renowned sex and relationship coach specializing in helping men overcome erectile dysfunction, performance anxiety, and premature ejaculation. A former sexual health researcher and policy analyst, she skyrocketed to internet fame after a viral video on female pleasure. Today, she works with clients worldwide to resolve mismatched libidos, enhance sexual confidence, and create more satisfying intimate experiences. Blending personal experience with evidence-based science, Caitlin is on a mission to foster a sex-positive world where pleasure is prioritized. With millions of views on YouTube and nearly a million subscribers, she has become a leading voice in the field. Her expertise is now reaching an even wider audience with her upcoming TV show, Good Sex, premiering on Discovery+ and Max.​​Come As You Want online course:https://caitlinvneal.com/come-when-you-want-2/Connect with Caitlin V:Website: https://caitlinvneal.comInstagram:a...

In this honest and empowering episode, I break down the stigma around erectile issues and the myth that a hard penis is the only key to great intimacy. Whether you or your partner struggles with maintaining an erection, this episode offers a fresh perspective on redefining intimacy, practical tips to keep the connection hot, and how to explore pleasure beyond penetration. From medical insights to creative intimacy tips, Karen shares how couples can stay connected — soft or hard.Ready to feel Hotter, Wiser, and Wilder?Join my brand-new Hotter, Wiser, Wilder Masterclass — real talk, real tools, and real strategies to help you feel empowered in midlife intimacy.Special offer: Get 30% off with code BIRTHDAY30 until July 31 at taboototruth.com/registration💖 Don’t wait — your pleasure and confidence are worth it.Timestamps:00:00 – The Truth About Erectile Challenges in Midlife02:15 – Why Soft Doesn’t Mean the End of Your Intimate Life04:45 – Medical Causes: When to See a Doctor07:10 – The Testosterone Factor + Heart Health Connection09:40 – How Performance Anxiety Can Make It Worse12:00 – Redefining Intimacy: It’s Not All About Penetration14:20 – Erotic Massage, Touch, and Non-Penetrative Play Ideas17:30 – Using Toys, Hands, and Connection to Stay Close19:50 – How the Hotter, Wiser, Wilder Masterclass Helps Couples Reignite Desire22:00 – Final Thoughts: Expand Your Menu of PleasureMaster The Art of Lingam Massage with Caitlin V: https://caitlinvneal.samcart.com/referral/jzbrlA1B/zMGEmkSP4M9DevJnMaster The Art of Yoni Massage with Caitlin V:https://caitlinvneal.samcart.com/referral/sbDgtRCV/zMGEmkSP4M9DevJnWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical...

In this episode I’m joined by Dr. Maria Sophocles to break the silence around painful sex, vaginal atrophy, menopause, and the damaging scripts of ‘duty sex’. Dr. Sophocles shares:Why so many women endure painful sex silentlyThe difference between vaginal atrophy, vulvodynia, and other causes of painHow treatments like vaginal estrogen, lubricants, and dilators can helpWhy sexual pain should never define your worth as a partnerThe importance of communication with doctors and partnersHer upcoming documentary HOT! exploring midlife women’s sexualityHer personal definition of sex: joy, curiosity, and humorThis episode is a must-listen for any woman wanting to understand her body, break free from shame, and embrace a sex life defined by her own needs and desires.Timestamps:00:00 – Intro & Guest Welcome02:10 – The Reality of Painful Sex Globally05:50 – Dr. Maria Sophocles’ Work & TED Talk Impact09:20 – Mercy Sex, Duty Sex, and The Bedroom Gap14:00 – Why Women Feel Obliged to Endure Pain17:50 – Common Causes of Painful Sex in Midlife21:40 – Treatments: Vaginal Estrogen, Lubricants, Dilators26:10 – How To Talk To Your Doctor About Sex31:30 – Communicating With Your Partner About Pain & Pleasure38:00 – The Importance of Sexual Check-Ins43:20 – Dr. Sophocles’ Upcoming Documentary HOT!47:10 – Her Personal Definition of Sex49:00 – Closing Thoughts & Next StepsKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Dr. Maria Sophocles has been a leader in women's healthcare for nearly 30 years, specializing in menopause management and female sexual health. She founded Women’s Healthcare of Princeton, a progressive gynecology practice, and has been a visiting professor and NIH researcher in Switzerland. A board-certified ob/gyn and Menopause Society Certified Practitioner, she has pioneered innovative treatments, including CO2 laser therapy for vaginal atrophy. She serves as CMO of EMBR Labs, Director of Women’s Health Services for Curia Health, and is an advocate for women’s health policy. Dr. Sophocles is also an author, TEDWomen2023 speaker, and frequent media contributor on women's health topics.Connect with Dr. Maria Sophocles:Website: https://mariasophoclesmd.comInstagram: