Take a break with Isabel

Do you find yourself in the early stages of dating someone right now and getting increasingly frustrated or even anxious that they’re not texting you or calling you as much as you wanted? And you find yourself wondering, "is this person just bad at texting or are they really just not that into me?", and probably you thought to yourself, "in which case I am going to get hurt here." You have to tell yourself.. Whatever you do, you need to feel the connection to someone, if not, you have to move on. The feeling of closeness to someone will define if you are ready and you reach a certain amount of texting to finally say… I am ready for the next page, the momentum has build enough, and we can meet now.

Have you been in a situation of too much options and so much choices?  This normally occur in our life, in many different scenarios. In the dating world, it is very obvious that there are so many online dating  sites available for you, that are just luring all of us singles or not singles to indulge and find our connection in the cyber world. Unknowing of the out come  or , rather the predicament that are waiting for us, either we get caught up in the frustrating world or exciting one.

After ending a relationship, especially a long-term one, it’s so important to take time to heal and reconnect with yourself again before venturing back out there. You don’t want to do it too soon, but you also don’t want to wait forever and miss out on some valuable possible connections. It begs the question: how long should you wait after breaking up before you start to date again? It is a question of many and that is, including myself. When Is It Okay To Date Again After Breaking Up With Someone? It is true that when you love someone, you don’t see the flaws, and you always give reasons to not entertain any mistakes, wrong things, and you ended up giving to many reasons to ignore the red flags. Then time flies,where did the time go, its been 4 years…this time I celebrated, because, inside me, I feel im ready, im capable, im stronger… to date again!

Love and dating are two important aspects of human relationships that can bring joy, fulfillment, and challenges. In the modern world, finding Love is unbelievably difficult and yet exciting.

When there is lack of motivations, you dread yourself doing anything, doing even the simplest thing. Why dont you look for things that you think and you feel like you doing it or attracted to do it. In our busy life we tend to forget how important we have alittle things of diversions. When you finally found the thing you like to do and make you happy, you will alwys say , JUST DO IT!

Change is scary.  We all fear the unknown. But, change is one of the only things in life that can be sure of. If you want a better life, if you want to make you "someday" plans a reality, there's only one thing for it: Make a CHANGE!

Don’t put the negativity in a closet for another time – deal with resistance as it shows up or you’ll never know your self-worth. You’ll never let anyone down pursing what you love. The saddest story is one that ends with an unfulfilled dream. So for the sake of your soul and the other people counting on you – let go and follow your happiness today. The Bottom Line If you want to know your value and start feeling good, you have to start creating the life you were meant to live. If you’re unhappy with a job, unable to open yourself up to new relationships, or leaving your hobbies by the wayside, you need to examine what you can do to change things. Once you’re able to do what brings meaning to your life, you’ll know your value and your worth.

Episode 3 Procastinating You have a deadline looming. However, instead of doing your work, you are fiddling with miscellaneous things like checking email, social media, watching videos, surfing blogs and forums. You know you should be working, but you just don’t feel like doing anything. We are all familiar with the procrastination phenomenon. When we procrastinate, we squander away our free time and put off important tasks we should be doing them till it’s too late. And when it is indeed too late, we panic and wish we got started earlier. The chronic procrastinators I know have spent years of their life looped in this cycle. Delaying, putting off things, slacking, hiding from work, facing work only when it’s unavoidable, then repeating this loop all over again. It’s a bad habit that eats us away and prevents us from achieving greater results in life. Don’t let procrastination take over your life. 

Have you heard of the phrase “Reality bite!”…. The truth about that phrase goes to everybody, and wether we like or not , it is everyday thing we have to face… How about you “Bite your Reality?!?!?!?” How to Accept Yourself, Your Life, and Your Reality. You'll never be able to create the right reality if you aren't willing to let the wrong reality go. Accepting the reality of your life sounds like it should be easy enough. But many, many people hold to their own version of reality. It may be based on regret, disappointment, denial, or just waiting for something better--a promotion, for the kids to be grown, retirement, whatever. Failing to connect with reality is why some of us have pants in the closet that haven't fit in years. More significantly, it keeps people in unfulfilling jobs or even in the wrong profession entirely. I am guilty of keeping clothes in my closet, which I knew it will never flatter me anymore in anyway… I just linger in the UN-REALITY of myself that it's still gonna fit me one day.. Big Joke!!! There are few better things I do than giving up the fictional version of my life and learning to accept myself…, my life, and my reality. Even if my situation is terrible, the very first thing I do in improving my situation by acknowledging it for what it is. This may sound so simple… but, I know it’s gonna be a very challenging one… but, there’s no harm in trying.

How many times have you wanted to say "NO"... either from something you like to get, or buy, and not realy wanting it... essentially, not you needed.  JUST BECAUSE... How many times have you thought of saying "NO!" to someone and you are afraid to say it, because, you dont wanted to hurt someones feelings, or you are the type of person who just can't say "NO!". How hard do you think saying "NO" will make you guilty, thinking , why i said "NO". Listen and enjoy the thought of saying "NO" is ok.

Thank you for listening for my first season of podcast. This time, i feel it is more fun and engaging. So, May is around the corner and i hope you listen again and follow my new season.

A is for Accept… Accepting the situation, that, things happened for a reason. No one likes it, just that, we need to understand and we need to be positive looking forward why this happened in the first place. I understand how most people may not be accepting… they have their own reasons… mine, I just Accepted it, period! B is for Bad mood… Bad mood, is the very first reaction most of the passengers have, unfortunately, no matter how frustrating the situation is, No matter what you do out of your anger, the flight is already cancelled… NOTHING ELSE TO DO! You can be a baby doing your tantrums and let other people, feast on your drama like a TV show. WEll, if your like an instant famosity… go ahead and Merry inside you that all the people are on look at you! And with their phones pointed towards you, like having a live telecast in the national TV. C is for Calm… you are in your element, you finally realized that the next best thing to do is to stay calm, and think your next step. Your next step to get you thru todays mishaps. Thinking all the reasons why this happened, and you very well know there is a good reason why it happened. You rebooked your flight, smiled and settled yourself in a place where you can reconfigure your delayed flight will affect the future plans and if Not, you’re lucky just to wait and probably go online and do more of your work while waiting.

When I was starting my photography career, as a photographer, I remember couple of incidents how I was so outcasted or feeling I don’t belong in my first few Fashion shows in the Bay Area… San Francisco to be precise. My very first fashion show, I remembered, it was in San Jose… I never expected that I will be the main photographer of the show, then.  I was with the all-male dominated group that night, well, honestly, I don’t see any other photographer that night in that event other than male…  I would hear all of them talking about their gears, their works… and all about them Bragging to each other… In every fashion show, there’s a rehearsal, where they would let the model struts their way on the runway with the music accompanying them… little did I know, that event has something featured on a big screen showcasing designers and the main photographer. To keep me grounded … I follow certain rules which I think is very effective for me…not to Brag.  Keep it to yourself unless asked: Don’t offer your good news unless you’re asked how you are or there is a relevant opening.  In other words, don’t crow about just how well you’re doing and don’t share with people who might not be happy about your success.  If someone asks about how you’re doing and seems to genuinely care about you and your professional or life journey, feel free to share your good news.  If you feel like someone is just humoring you though, feel free to steer the conversation in a different direction.

When I was growing up in the Philippines, I always hear my mom saying, "be happy with what you have"...and boy! i am happy...then coming to the US, makes me feel I missed a lot...because there are so much around here that is easy to get, to have and to own. But, reality is, does that makes you happy? having more? and you cannot seem to enjoy it all?  Something I find myself saying time and time again is when people have a problem, they think the answer is to add something when usually the answer is to take away something.  I’m not saying absolutely zero products is the answer or that it should even be considered for people suffering with skin problems.  I think it’s a case of trying different approaches and finding what works for you.

Instead of always chasing the rainbow, start focusing on the small details of your life. I remember when i was a child, my dad would work so late, and when he gets home, me and my brother are both asleep, he would placed a bag of goodies besides us. And when we wake up, we would ran to my parents room and start opening the bag of goodies, from food to small toys. Which bring us joy, then and now.

Whether the one WHO is there, either helping you or discouraging you...both are essential factor in achieving your goal. You take all the discouraging words...put them together and make them your fire...fire to burn so much passion inside you in molding yourself to get to the point that  you only see yourself going forward. And the people who are there helping you, even the smallest gesture of pushing you to do it, never ignore...rather, gather them all and roll them to your mind to make a good weaving of different plans to create the ultimate success of your dreams.

This is the part 2 of my GHOSTING episode. Have you been ghosted by a friend? how did you feel and how did you cope up? In this podcast i share with you how i experienced the ghosting scenario of a friend and how i cope up with it. The impossible ways, i never thought i can do for myself to ease my feelings after my friend ghosted me.

According to Psychology Today Ghosting is abruptly ending communication with someone without explanation. The concept most often refers to romantic relationships but can also describe disappearances from friendships and the workplace. People respond to being ghosted in many ways, from feeling indifferent to deeply betrayed. Lets discover why people Ghost, and what do we need to do when we get Ghosted. This topic will be a two part episode.  First will be Ghosting a date. Second will be friends who ghost.

We all have stress in our lives. Stress has many forms, but, they serve the same way. No matter how much stress you feel, there's always a way to destress. Sometime, revisiting how you get stressed in the first place is the best way to find an answer.

In my podcast i will be sharing and talking about my experiences, thoughts, views like a diary. I will have some friends are my guest to talk about their own experiences and expertise. Having to take a break in life is like a struggle in this country, people tend to work more and forget to relax and enjoy life. I will be discussing the life i have since i moved to California.