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Parent-teen researcher Andy Earle talks with various experts about the art and science of parenting teenagers. Find more at www.talkingtoteens.com
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Jonathan Cristall, author of What They Don’t Teach Teens and a career prosecutor, gives Andy the insider scoop on what teens should know to stay calm and collected during any police or criminal encounter. Does your teen know their rights?
Megan Maas, PhD, award-winning researcher at Michigan State University, leads us through the latest reports on pornography use among adolescents. Andy learns only 7% of parents have talked to their teens about porn.
Ep 106: Teen Brain Hacks

Ep 106: Teen Brain Hacks

2020-10-0421:391

Malin Gutestam, author of Brain Tools for Teens, shares what she has learned from decades of working in education. There are a few simple tactics that every teen can employ to make their brain work for them--and Malin tells us what parents can do to help.
Dr. Larry J. Young, author of The Chemistry Between Us and researcher at Emory, joins Andy to discuss the hormones that drive humans (and animals!) to form deep bonds with each other. Plus, how increasing your teen’s oxytocin could be the key to creating a sociable adult.
Dr. Richard Lerner, author of The Good Teen and academic at Tufts University, shares his research on “good” teens and “bad” teens. The key to raising a good one? Strong, nurturing, and trusting relationships. Richard shows us how!
Barbara Natterson-Horowitz and Kathryn Bowers, authors of the new book Wildhood (and bestseller Zoobiquity), explain the four needs of every adolescent as they transition to healthy adults. Plus, the surprising biology behind teen risk-taking behavior, particularly in groups!
Dr. Shimi Kang, author of The Tech Solution and Dolphin Parenting, spreads the word on the three types of tech use (toxic, junk, & healthy) and the consequences of each. Plus how to manage any new apps that teens might get into.
Kari Kampakis, author of Love Her Well, joins Andy for a heartfelt discussion on parenting mistakes and repairing hurt relationships with our teens. Cat’s out of the bag: out teens know we’re not perfect!
Bill Deresiewicz, bestselling author and our first ever guest on the show, re-joins us for our 100th episode to talk about his latest book The Death of the Artist. We discuss if art is even a worthy pursuit for young people today and if so, what can young people expect.
Chris Farrell, co-author of ReThink Money for Children and Teens and co-founder of FUNancial Freedom, shares his passion for teaching teens money management. Say goodbye to the days of allowance and hello to a future with a financially independent teen!
Shanterra McBride, author of Love Your Jiggle and founder of Marvelous University, joins Andy for a talk on how to help our teens through their most awkward years and what to do to prepare them for the big world ahead.
Brooklyn Raney, author of One Trusted Adult, shares with Andy what she’s seen works with teens as a mentor, high school dean, camp director, and parent herself. Having support at home is important for teens, but having just one trusted adult outside the home can be even more impactful.
Cindy Pierce, author of Sexplotation and Sex, College, and Social Media, brings her immense knowledge and humorous vibes to this week’s episode. Porn is wreaking havoc on our teens’ sexual development, but, fortunately, Cindy has ways parents can help undo the deleterious effects.
Annie Grace, author of This Naked Mind and The Alcohol Experiment, dispels myths around alcohol with Andy and reveals her number one method for talking to teens about drinking.
Dr. Jess Shatkin, author of Born to be Wild and expert in the field of child and adolescent psychiatry, clues us into why teens run wild and how we can help keep them safe. A still-developing brain and high levels of hormones mean parents have their work cut out for them!
Lauren Muhlheim, author of When Your Teen Has an Eating Disorder and clinical psychologist, speaks with Andy on spotting and treating eating disorders in teens. Eating disorders are scary, but Lauren tells us that together, families can reduce the dangers and stress eating disorders cause.
Esther Wojcicki, author of How to Raise Successful People, shares her insights into what we can give teens in the home and the classroom to set them up for ultimate success later in life. As the mother of 3 highly successful daughters in Silicon Valley and founder of the Media Arts Program at Palo Alto High School, Esther not only talks the talk but walks the walk.
Amy Schalet, author of Not Under My Roof reveals the cultural underpinnings of teen sexual development. Amy and I discuss how a focus on achievement may leave teens feeling unsuccessful in intimate relationships later in life--and also what parents might try to better prepare their teens for connection.
Tanith Carey, prolific author and journalist, joins us to talk about all the knowledge packed into her latest book, What’s My Teenager Thinking?. Tanith takes us behind “whatever” and “I’m bored” and even “You can’t make me” to discover what the heck is going through a teen’s brain when those classic one liners come out of their mouths!
What does behavioral economics and finance have to do with understanding teens’ decision-making? More than you’d think. Michelle Baddeley’s research in Copycats and Contrarians: Why We Follow Others...and When We Don’t, helps explain why people copy each other and why they rebel: a common focal point in parent/teen conversations. With the best of intentions, parents often struggle to help their teen develop a critical perspective when navigating mature decisions. But by considering the various internal and external forces at play in their teens’ experience, parents can better guide their teens to making healthier decisions. Much of what we know about decision making pivots on social learning, or the theory that new behaviors are acquired through observation and imitation. Anyone in a new situation is susceptible to this: the less we know about a topic, or the less social cues we have in a given setting, the more apt we are to copy those around us. And the most vulnerable group to this influence is first-year high school/university students. When I asked what wisdom Dr. Baddeley could offer parents who want to help their teens critically combat this influence, Dr. Baddeley focused on the importance of shared trust, communication, and anecdotes. By illuminating the consequences of a misguided decision more tangibly, Dr. Baddely noted, parents can help their teen better consider the outcomes without eroding trust. Such illustrations are reinforced in economics: when the implications are imagined more immediately, we can make stronger decisions. Another important topic covered was fruits of contrarians’ labor, and how dissent is actually quite essential to functional families. By striking the balance between unity and rebellion whilst acknowledging their teens’ voice, parents will have an easier time navigating conflict. This too is supported in her research. While contrarians may simply enjoy the risk of being different, they do push the copycats to reconsider their position. The same can be said about rebellious teens. Most of the time, they may be wrong. But sometimes, they’re right. And by squashing their perspective immediately by pulling rank, parents can do more harm than good. Ultimately, though, sometimes the decision is entirely in the teens’ hands. Once they leave the house to go to college, they will have the final say. And the best way Dr Baddely believes parents can support their teens without eroding their trust is to engage them in system 2 levels of thinking. Simply put, we have two main systems of thought: system 1 being the instinctive side and system 2 being more rational and controlled. Dr. Baddeley explains that while system 1 was more useful for early humans in hunter-gather settings, system 2 is more fruitful for today’s circumstances. And teens, often quick to engage system 1 in their decision-making, can be redirected into system 2 through parental encouragement. This is best exemplified when parents ask their teen to consider making the decision over a longer period of time. Having the teen make a comprehensive case for the decision also works in accomplishing this task. Rich with more multidisciplinary insights, my podcast with Dr. Baddeley can help you enrich your relationship with your teen whilst learning a thing or two about yourself in the process.
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Sandra Langstaff

Finding the first 5 mins tedious - why the book was written - instead of diving right into the content of the book.

Oct 15th
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Patrick's Mom

Does she really think her children hearing her scream into the toilet or talk 💩 to it, depending on how they see it, WON'T scare them? I can't think of anything much scarier than an angry parent yelling at the toilet, flushing, and then emerging from the bathroom chill AF!!!!

Jul 19th
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