Teach Me How To Adult

Between the holiday parties, family dinners, office events, and end-of-year gatherings... the holiday season can be a lot. (Even for extroverts like me.) If you’ve ever felt socially drained, awkward, anxious, or stuck in mind-numbing small talk during the holidays, I gotchu. This episode will hook you up with powerful conversation starters and questions you can keep in your back pocket to help you navigate social situations with confidence, steer conversations away from awkward topics and political landmines, and actually feel connected to the people around you.Whether you’re an introvert, extrovert, cutting back from relying on drinking at parties, or just tired of endless small talk, learning how to ask better questions is one of the most underrated communication skills you can have.Research shows that the best communicators ask up to 20 times more questions than the average person... and that people consistently underestimate how much others crave meaningful conversation. So don't worry about making it weird... thoughtful questions aren't awkward, they're impactful. ✨Tune in to hear about:The most interesting and fun conversation starters Why asking good questions releases oxytocin and builds closenessQuestions to avoid small talk, create real connection, and bond the roomReflection questions to spark meaningful year-end conversationsForward-looking questions for intentions, growth, and the new yearHow to redirect uncomfortable topics with boundaries and graceWhy curiosity is the ultimate hack for social confidence and overcoming social anxietyFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Spending can be hella stressful heading into the holiday season, and if you're struggling with debt or with setting up realistic financial goals for the coming year, this is a must-listen reminder for overcoming financial stress and toxic money patterns.A healthy money mindset is the missing ingredient for a lot of people's financial security. So we’re throwing it back to this sustainable financial advice from finance coach Nicole Stanley on dealing with debt, setting realistic money goals, and her own journey to get debt-free. Nicole Stanley is the Founder & Head Financial Coach of Arise Financial Coaching. After battling crippling financial anxiety in her early twenties, Nicole enrolled in her first personal finance course and made changes to go from 30K in debt to building over a quarter-million in net worth for her family at age  27. Arise Financial Coaching has now served over 600 clients and has been featured in TIME, Yahoo Finance, & CNET.Listen to our full episode with Nicole here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Nicole:On Instagram: @arise.financial.coachingArise Financial Coaching Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Sober-curious? You don’t need a “drinking problem” for alcohol to quietly hold you back and sabotage your potential.I’ve come a long way from my party days, and it’s clear to me now how much self-abandonment, anxiety, and numbness I was employing to uphold the drinking culture around me. Since l’ve switched to a limited drinking lifestyle, I’ve never felt more myself.In this episode, we’re joined by Amanda Kuda, alcohol-free life coach, speaker, and author of Unbottled Potential: Break Up With Alcohol and Break Through to Your Best Life. Amanda teaches a modern, empowering approach to personal development and self-actualization through the lens of elective sobriety—no rock bottom necessary.Whether you’re looking to cut back, reassess your relationship with drinking, or explore what an alcohol-free lifestyle could do for your energy, confidence, dating life, and emotional wellbeing, this conversation is packed with vulnerability and insight.We cover the psychology, emotional triggers, and identity shifts behind mindful drinking, and tools to live alcohol-free without relying on unreliable willpower.Tune in to hear:Amanda’s story of becoming alcohol-free without being an alcoholicModerators vs. Abstainers: Which archetype are you?How alcohol impacts your energy, intuition & personal growthWhy even “light” drinking affects confidence, emotional regulation, creativity, hobbies, and connectionHow alcohol gets in the way of real connectionDating without alcohol: Building confidence without liquid courageWhat we’re trying to numb when we drinkWhy willpower isn’t enough—and what actually worksThe need for nervous system regulation, habit replacement, and a realistic timelineHow to start your alcohol-free journey in a way that sticksFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Trigger warning: Binge-eating and purging. Are you tuned into the difference between physical and emotional hunger? We're throwing it back to this helpful advice from Amber Romaniuk on how to identify emotional eating triggers, and tools to combat cravings that are rooted in emotional soothing. Amber is an Emotional Eating, Digestive and Hormone Expert, with 10 years experience helping women create body confidence, intuition and optimal health through mindset healing, self-care and overcoming self-sabotage with food. Her podcast “The No Sugarcoating Podcast” has over a million downloads. Amber overcame her own emotional eating journey after gaining and losing more than 1000 lbs combined and spending 5 years balancing her hormones and digestion. Now she helps others achieve Body Freedom so they can experience true confidence and health.Listen to our full episode with Amber here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Amber:https://amberapproved.cahttps://instagram.com/amberromaniukhttps://amberapproved.ca/podcast/https://www.youtube.com/@amberromaniukFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

If you want to start 2026 off strong, it's all about ending 2025 with intention. We’re rapidly approaching the end of the year (HOW DID THIS HAPPEN?), and I have a rigorous reflection process for tracking the highs, lows, and lessons of the last 12 months.You need to understand where you’ve been to plan where you’re going, so in today’s episode, we’re breaking down how to do a powerful year-end audit, reflect on your biggest lessons, and “soft launch” your New Year goals so you have real momentum heading into 2026. I’m walking you through my full reflection process, including the journaling prompts, assessments, goal-setting exercises, and year-in-review questions I use to evaluate what worked this year… and what absolutely did not.This episode is for anyone craving clarity, direction, and a more aligned year ahead.You’ll learn how to map your biggest wins, your patterns, your energy drains, and your most valuable lessons, and then turn all of that insight into actionable goals you can start testing before January 1st.As a bonus, I created a free Year-End Audit & Goal-Setting Guide, which you can download here to accompany this episode!Tune in to hear more about:Leveraging the holiday slowdown to get ahead and test-drive new goals/habitsWhy we should give our new goals a trial run before January startsThe journaling prompts I use to reflect on the year’s biggest lessons and takeawaysMeasuring your satisfaction using the Life Balance WheelA game-changing exercise for auditing your time and how you spent your energy this yearHoning in on areas for improvement, and setting SMART goals for each categoryThe power of a guiding quote or mantraEverything we cover in today’s episode is available to download in our free year-end audit, get your guide today and get a head start on your new year planning. You’ve got this.Resources mentioned:End Of Year AuditHow to set SMART goalsHow To Design A Life Of Purpose, Using IkigaiFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from past episodes that you might have missed. If you’re feeling stuck, super down, or struggling with seasonal depression, this throwback advice for boosting your mental health and pulling yourself out of a spiral is exactly what you need right now. We cover how mindfulness, breathwork, and cold therapy can rewire your mood, because sometimes you need to make self-care and wellness your entire personality to help get you out of your head and into your body.Listen to our full episode here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Struggling with relationship anxiety and fear of intimacy or rejection? This episode will guide you through anxious and avoidant attachment patterns, to the core healing that can help us find confidence and security in relationships.I’m joined by Trevor Hanson, a marriage and family therapist who has helped thousands of individuals and couples heal attachment wounds and build secure, connected, confident relationships. His work has been featured by the Gottman Institute, and he’s the founder of The Art of Healing, where he teaches frameworks for transforming insecurity into emotional safety.We break down the real reasons we often feel insecure, anxious, avoidant, or fearful in relationships… and how to finally feel secure, grounded, and confident in love. You’ll learn the tools, communication shifts, and emotional skills that create safe + connected relationships.In this episode, we cover:How to build real confidence in relationships (and the cost of not working on your confidence)Why insecurity, fear, and jealousy appear — even in good relationshipsPractical tools for anxious attachment self-soothingWhy fear is the #1 killer of relationships and how to move through itHow avoidant partners can build emotional intimacy without feeling overwhelmedFear-based motivation vs love-based motivationHow to navigate communication “landmines’How to support a partner who feels fear or anxiety in the relationshipThe TEMPO framework and how it interrupts anxious spiralsFollow Trevor on InstagramTrevor's website: https://theartofhealingbytrevor.com  Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Have you been debating whether to quit your job or stick it out? In this uncertain job market and economic volatility, it's hard to know what to do, so we're throwing it back to this helpful advice from Emily The Recruiter, plus her insights on how to handle back-to-office mandates if you've been working remote.Emily Durham—aka Emily the Recruiter—is a career coach, content creator, and host of the Clock In Podcast. With millions of views across TikTok, Instagram, and YouTube, Emily is known for her no-BS advice on how to land your dream job and deal with workplace dynamics like a boss.Listen to the full episode with Emily The Recruiter here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Check out our first episode with Emily here.Follow Emily on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube.  Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Somewhere along the way, we stopped having hobbies… and honestly, it’s making us depressed. Between burnout, money-making, doom-scrolling, and constantly trying to be “productive,” most people don’t do anything just for joy anymore. We’re disconnected from ourselves, our creativity, and from each other.It’s time to rekindle our sense of play and curiosity. So in today’s episode, we’re breaking down why hobbies are essential for your happiness, confidence, and emotional well-being, and how finding a hobby you love can reduce loneliness, boost your mood, increase creativity, and bring FUN back into your life. Because your whole personality shouldn’t be work and TikTok.If you’ve been feeling disconnected, bored, or stuck in autopilot, tune in to learn how hobbies can help energize you and break up the monotony of adulthood.In this episode, we cover:• Why adults have lost the joy of hobbies • The science: how hobbies act as a natural antidepressant and reduce anxiety, burnout & loneliness• Why hobbies boost self-esteem and confidence• The link between popular hobbies and nervous system regulation• Why “wasting time” is actually good for your brain• How to choose a hobby based on what you loved as a kid• The ultimate list of hobbies for every style of activity• The difference between Type 1 fun vs. Type 2 fun• How hobbies help you connect with friends & build communityHobby Ideas Mentioned in This Episode:Tennis, pickleball, hiking, gardening, rock climbing, weightlifting, walking clubs, horseback riding, volunteering with animals.Pottery, calligraphy, painting/drawing, photography, crocheting, collaging, baking, singing and choirs, learning an instrument.Cold plunging, meditation, yoga, reading + book clubs, puzzles, Mahjong, chess, learning a new language, deep-diving a niche interest for fun.For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed.Flu season is upon us, so we're throwing it back to this helpful advice from Abbey Sharp on boosting your metabolism, and restoring your gut health after dysbiosis from antibiotics. Did you know 70% of our immune system is housed in our gut? We cover the surprising link between your gut microbiome and your immune system, mental health, skin, hormones, and more, and why fibre is the unsung hero of gut health and immunity.Abbey is a Registered Dietitian (RD), a cookbook author, a TV nutrition expert, a YouTuber, host of the podcast Bite Back, and the founder of Abbey’s Kitchen. She dismantles diet culture with science and sass, and her core philosophy is that a pleasurable relationship with food, your body and your self is the fundamental secret to good health.Listen to our full episode with Abbey. Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Abbey:Abbey's KitchenAbbey's Podcast: Bite BackOn IG: @abbeyskitchen/ Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Good listening is an underrated superpower… it makes you more magnetic, trustworthy, liked, and connected.Most people think they’re good listeners — but the truth is, a lot of us are just out here waiting for our turn to talk. So in today’s episode, we’re breaking down 8 key steps to become a better listener, so you can improve your communication skills, strengthen your relationships, and make people actually feel heard.It’s like that Maya Angelou quote: “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” And a huge part of how we make people feel is based on how we listen to them.Want to transform the way you connect? Learn how to master active listening, build trust, lead with curiosity, and become the person everyone feels safe opening up to.Tune in to hear more about:How to master active listening and emotional attunementThe #1 thing people actually mean when they say they “don’t feel heard”Why deep listening makes you more attractive, trustworthy, and influentialHow to listen with sincerity instead of “performing” empathyRemoving distractions and meeting people where they are in a convoThe art of a good follow-upWhy questions and curiosity are the key to deeper connectionNonverbal cues to show that you’re listeningEye contact 101Why nonverbal cues can be challenging for neurodivergent peopleThe surprising way of interacting that makes people open up moreWhether you want to communicate better at work, deepen intimacy with your partner, or just sharpen your conversational skills, I hope this helps you unlock the gift of deep listening.For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. If you find yourself comparing your life to everyone else’s highlight reel… this throwback is for you.It’s easy to spiral into self-doubt, jealousy, or the feeling that you’re “falling behind.” But what if healthy envy isn’t the enemy… what if it’s your compass pointing you toward what you actually want? Tune in to learn the difference between motivating envy vs. toxic jealousy and comparison, and how to shift from “why not me?” to “what is this showing me about my desires?”Remember, The grass isn’t greener on the other side. The grass is greener where you water it. Listen to the full episode here. Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Too tired or busy for sex? You’re not alone. Today’s expert explains why it’s not about libido — and how to rebuild desire, compatibility, and orgasmic intimacy in bed again.If you’re wondering why you don’t orgasm more, or if you and your partner are actually sexually compatible, you’re in for a juicy and legitimately helpful deep dive with TikTok’s #1 sex educator, Dr. Tara.Dr. Tara is a certified sexologist, award-winning researcher, tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, TV host, radio host, a coach and the Internet’s Resident Sex Expert. She’s the host of Luvbites Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration, and she just released her new book, How Do You Like It? A Guide for Getting What You Want (in Bed).In this episode, we talk about why your sex life might feel “off” (hint: it’s not just about libido), how to stay present during intimacy, and the science behind different types of orgasms — plus Dr. Tara’s practical advice for rebuilding desire and navigating the performance anxiety and everyday stress that can get in the way of sex.Tune in to learn about:✅ How to figure out your “Sexual Profile” and what it reveals about compatibility✅ What to do when your libido or sex drive doesn’t match your partner’s✅ How stress, hormones, and mental health impact desire✅ Ways to initiate intimacy when you’re both exhausted✅ How to stay present during sex and overcome performance anxiety✅ The different types of orgasms — and how to know if you’ve had one✅ Go-to sex positions and erogenous zones for better pleasure✅ How to keep long-term sex and desire excitingTake the Sexual Profile Quiz: https://www.luvbites.co/quizzes/whats-your-sexual-profileFollow Dr. Tara on TikTok and InstagramGet Dr. Tara’s new book, How Do You Like ItRelated sex episodes:Teach Me How To Spice Up My Sex Life, with Dr. Jess O’ReillySex Q&A: How Do I Dirty Talk? Does Size Matter? Best Toys For Orgasm?How To Expand Your Sex life, Try Alternative Relationship Styles, And Practice Ethical Non-MonogamyNo Dumb Questions: Should I use toys in the bedroom? Why is my partner never in the mood? Best sex positions? Tips for threesomes?Teach Me How To Own My Orgasms and Pleasure, with Sex Coach Portia BrownFor advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Does it ever feel like time is speeding up the older we get? You’re not imagining it... there's real science behind the phenomenon. So we're throwing it back to this tip on unpacking the neuroscience of time perception — and how to actually retain more memories and slow down your life using novelty and dopamine, inspired by Liz Moody’s “Novelty Rule”.You'll learn how shared new experiences can deepen relationships and why novelty is the secret to keeping the spark alive in love and life.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

What if your chaos, sensitivity, overwhelm, and anxiety aren’t personality flaws, but ADHD? ADHD in adults is often missed or misdiagnosed... especially in women. So today, we're deep-diving how to get a proper diagnosis, regulate emotions, and build ADHD-friendly systems that actually stick with expert coach Shanna Pearson.Learning how my brain works has personally given me so much more self-compassion and self-understanding, and now I'm excited to implement practices and systems to make my life a little easier.If you’ve ever struggled with time blindness, decision paralysis, emotional rollercoasters, or overthinking that never seems to shut off, this episode will help you navigate undiagnosed ADHD and understand your brain, so you can work with your mind — not against it.Shanna Pearson is the founder of the world’s largest one-on-one ADHD coaching company, working with thousands of adults with ADHD every year, and the bestselling author of Invisible ADHD.If you've ever Googled “Do I have ADHD?” this one's for you. Tune in to learn about:✅ The science and brain chemistry behind ADHD — and how dopamine plays a role in focus and motivation✅ The three types of ADHD and how symptoms differ across gender✅ Why so many women are misdiagnosed with anxiety or depression before discovering ADHD✅ The truth about masking, over-functioning, and burnout in high-achieving adults✅ Emotional regulation and our inability to compartmentalize the chaos ✅ Navigating executive dysfunction, time blindness, and disorganization✅ How to create ADHD-friendly systems that actually work: mood-based scheduling, one focus at a time, & action-first behaviour changes✅ How to feed your brain’s need for dopamine in healthy, sustainable ways✅ What to do if you suspect ADHD but don’t want medication (everyday changes that make a difference)Follow Shannon and check out her book:https://www.adhdcoaching.com/ https://www.invisibleadhd.com/ For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Feeling stuck, overthinking every decision, or questioning your next move? I've been there. So we're throwing it back to this potent advice from my friend and coach, Sasha Patpatia.We cover Sasha’s decision-making framework to help you move forward with clarity, how to overcome analysis paralysis and fear of making the “wrong” choice, and redefining success to align with your values.Sasha is a multidisciplinary artist, writer, and board-certified career and mindset coach for creatives. Sasha has helped me navigate some of my biggest pivots — from career shifts to creative roadblocks.In Sasha's words: “Our definition of success is doing what I said I would do, with clarity, focus, ease & grace.”Listen to our full episode here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Sasha: https://www.sashapatpatia.com/ Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Are you a night owl, early bird, or something in between? The key to better sleep, more energy, and improved wellness might be in understanding your chronotype — your body’s natural biological clock.We’re diving into the science of chronotypes and how understanding yours can help you optimize your sleep schedule, energy, focus, and mood, without forcing yourself into a routine that leads to “social jet lag”. (For night owls who struggle with early mornings, this is the validating episode you deserve!)Whether you’re a Bear, Lion, Wolf, or Dolphin (based on Dr. Michael Breus’ sleep research), your chronotype determines when you’re wired to wake up, feel alert, and perform at your best. But most of us are living out of sync with our internal clock. So how do we hack it?It’s time to stop fighting your biology and learn how to work with your natural rhythms. Tune in to learn about:🌙 What your chronotype says about your sleep patterns, focus, and productivity☀️ The best time to sleep, eat, and work for each archetype (Bear, Lion, Wolf, and Dolphin)🧠 How to optimize your circadian rhythm for better sleep and energy⚡ How to reduce “social jet lag” and feel more aligned with your internal clock💡 Lifestyle tips for improving sleep hygiene, light exposure, and reduced screen timeIf you want to figure out how to wake up with energy, fix your sleep schedule, or get more productive during peak energy windows, this Quickie is for you.Take the Sleep Doctor Chronotype Quiz here. For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Are you dressing for the life you have — or the one you think you should have?We’re throwing it back to this key advice from Conni Jespersen, educational wardrobe stylist and founder of Art in the Find, to help you redefine your style identity and build a wardrobe that actually feels like you. Through her Signature Style Method Course, she helps clients edit their closets and uncover their unique style.We cover the 5 key elements of personal style — personality, lifestyle, preferences, environment, and influences — to help you uncover your unique signature look with confidence.Conni has kindly given Teach Me How To Adult listeners a discount on her Signature Style Method Course (which has helped me SO much in understanding the elements of my personal style), so if you’re ready to revamp your wardrobe, check it out here and use the discount code style10 for 10% off. Listen to our full episode with Conni here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Are you exhausted from constantly trying to make everyone else happy, and losing yourself in the process? Today, we’re talking about breaking free from the burnout of people-pleasing, perfectionism, and emotional outsourcing, and how to regulate your nervous system, trust yourself, and stop abandoning your own needs for the comfort of others.We’re joined by Beatriz Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, SEP, a Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing and Breathwork Practitioner, and Master Certified Somatic Life Coach. Bea unpacks the hidden cost of emotional outsourcing™, AKA the survival habit of looking to others for validation, self-worth, and emotional regulation, instead of tuning into yourself.We dive into polyvagal theory, recognizing when you’re in functional freeze, and using somatic tools and nervous system mapping to heal the patterns of codependency, self-abandonment, and avoidance that keep you stuck.If you’ve ever Googled “how to stop people-pleasing,” “why do I care so much what people think,” “how to heal my nervous system,” or “how to set boundaries without guilt,” this episode is for you.Tune in to learn about:What Emotional Outsourcing really means — and why it’s a nervous system response, not a personality flawHow people-pleasing, perfectionism, and codependence develop from early survival patternsPolyvagal theory 101: how understanding your vagus nerve can help you stop self-abandoningAre you in a state of functional freeze? How to recognize and heal from itUnderstanding social hypervigilence (and the empath paradox)How to set boundaries and make decisions without guilt or second-guessingNervous system mapping and somatic tools to interrupt your automatic responsesHow to find balance between flexibility and authenticityHow to stop “performing” to earn love and acceptancePractical tools for reclaiming your identity, rebuilding self-trust, and honouring your own needs without fear of conflictFollow Bea's Instagram and podcast. Buy Bea's book End Emotional Outsourcing! For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Have you ever stayed in a job, relationship, or situation that’s making you unhappy just because you’ve already invested so much time, money or effort into it? GIRL, SAME. And that’s on sunk cost fallacy, one of the most common (and costly) psychological biases that can keep us trapped following paths that no longer serve us.Being able to change your mind and make better decisions is a major key to adulting, so in this episode, we’re unpacking the psychology of sunk cost fallacy and how to finally stop letting past investments dictate your future decisions. I dive into how this bias impacts your career, relationships, and mindset, and the powerful mental shifts you can make to start choosing based on alignment — not avoidance.Just because you’ve spent a long time making a mistake doesn’t mean you need to keep making it….  sometimes, cutting your losses can be an investment in your future self.Tune in for:🧠 The psychology behind why we stay stuck (loss aversion, identity, fear of failure, and more)💔 How sunk cost bias shows up in relationships, career, and big life decisions💸 How to know when to walk away vs when to stay committed💡 3 steps to challenging these thinking patterns and attuning to what you really want✏️ 4 powerful reflection questions to break free from sunk cost thinking✨ Why walking away isn’t quitting — it’s evolving and growingWhatever big decisions or questions you’re navigating, this episode will help you make smarter, more self-aware decisions so you can let go of what’s no longer working.For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube