We thrive in community. Barry welcomes back Pastor Kelly Rhodes for an in-depth conversation on resilience in fatherhood. They discuss the pros and cons of radical self-reliance and adaptability, the importance of responding rather than reacting, and how to maintain balanced, healthy relationships.Get some discipline! Join the FS100 Challenge by signing up today!FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Got a question? Need some discipline? Email Barry at barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 Introduction to Resilience01:50 Radical Self-Reliance and Adaptability03:17 Balancing Self-Reliance and Community06:33 The Importance of Healthy Relationships12:01 Deep Empathy and Protective Instincts19:46 Relentless Commitment to Growth20:34 Finding Satisfaction in God21:18 Understanding Relentlessness and Hunger22:02 Cease Striving and Know God22:36 Fatherhood and Healing the Fatherless Heart27:41 The Role of the Church and Community30:37 Persistent Optimism and Faith31:20 Authenticity in Faith36:27 Dive Deeper with FatherSeekers--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website
What happens when emotional scars dictate your life? In this episode, Barry and guest Pastor Kelly Rhodes dive deep into emotional scars and the transformative power of the Gospel in healing fatherhood. They discuss feelings of inadequacy, unresolved grief, and chronic emotional pain, offering practical advice on overcoming these challenges. Tune in to learn how to redefine your self-worth and identity as a son and a father!Learn more about Pastor Rhoades and LifePoint Church: https://lifepointlebanon.com/Get some discipline! Join the FS100 Challenge by signing up today!FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Got a question? Need some discipline? Email Barry at barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 Emotional Scars00:34 Continued Convo w/ Pastor Kelly Rhodes01:23 The Entrepreneurial Spirit04:59 Fatherhood as an Entrepreneurial Endeavor06:29 Understanding Low Self-Worth08:01 Healthy Self-Worth vs. Narcissism09:10 Finding Identity in Christ13:45 Unresolved Grief14:38 The Value of Grief17:59 Practical Steps to Healing21:28 Emotional Regulation and Anger23:41 Logically Managing Emotions24:35 Addressing Lust and Escapism26:37 Trust Issues and Secure Attachments29:39 Breaking Unhealthy Attachments34:22 Persistent Shame and Fear of Rejection40:56 Embracing Grace and Overcoming Shame42:11 Final Thoughts and Resources--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website
What happens when a man strives to be the father he never had? Barry delves into emotional scars, resilience, and fatherhood challenges with Pastor Kelly Rhodes. They discuss identity, role confusion, seeking spiritual fathers, and the silent battles of fatherless fathers. Discover how to humbly pursue mentorship, build genuine friendships, and redefine success in fatherhood.Learn more about Pastor Rhoades and LifePoint Church: https://lifepointlebanon.com/Get some discipline! Join the FS100 Challenge by signing up today!FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Got a question? Need some discipline? Email Barry at barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 Introduction: The Silent Battles of Fatherhood00:38 Meet Pastor Kelly Rhodes01:27 A Legacy of Ministry04:10 Kelly and Bridget's Love Story06:59 Journey into Counseling10:58 The Importance of Spiritual Fathers21:07 The Importance of Humility and Submission22:57 Expressing Emotions and Building Intimacy25:48 Identity and Role Confusion31:57 Fear of Repeating the Cycle36:36 Loneliness and Lack of Support41:30 Conclusion and Resources--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website
What happens when a fatherless boy refuses to repeat his father's mistakes? Join Barry as he explores the concept of reactive fathering, the dangers of counter identification, and practical steps for becoming a better dad by embodying God’s design for fatherhood.Get some discipline! Join the FS100 Challenge by signing up today!FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Got a question? Need some discipline? Email Barry at barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 Deal With It00:53 Understanding Reactive Fathering01:24 Personal Story and Realizations02:26 The Concept of Counter Identification04:46 The Effects of Reactive Fathering06:30 Causes of Reactive Fathering15:36 Breaking the Cycle: Proper Fathering Leadership16:53 The Importance of Mentorship and Coaching18:23 Conclusion and Call to Action--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website
What if our struggles with faith and trust are rooted in our childhood experiences? Join Barry as he explores the deep impact of father wounds on our perception of God and how to rebuild that broken connection.Get some discipline! Join the FS100 Challenge by signing up today!FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Got a question? Need some discipline? Email Barry at barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 Your Childhood Shaped You01:05 Wounded Sons04:57 Understanding Father Hunger05:38 Original Design and Fatherhood07:26 Scriptural Insights12:51 Psychological Disruption15:08 Spiritual Distortion17:53 Emotional Suppression20:43 Behavioral Compensation25:35 Character Formation and Integrity27:39 Relational Disruption and Trust31:36 Parenting Challenges and Legacy34:15 Break the Cycle, Seek God--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website
What defines true masculinity? Join Barry as he explores the profound effects of fatherlessness on manhood, viewed through the lens of biblical principles. Can the example of Jesus redefine our understanding of being a real man?Get some discipline! Join the FS100 Challenge by signing up today!FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Got a question? Need some discipline? Email Barry at barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 The Ultimate Man00:45 The Impact of Fatherlessness on Manhood02:25 The Quest for Definition04:31 Pain Propellant05:42 The Importance of Legacy07:26 The Need for Initiation10:21 The Battle for Masculine Energy11:29 The Noise of Silence12:29 The Addiction to Affirmation14:01 The Mask of Control16:11 Proving Strength18:00 Unfinished Stories19:01 Success vs. Significance22:13 Restoration to Original Design25:26 Answer the Call!--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website
What constitutes a father's heart? Join Barry as he explores the profound characteristics of a father's heart from scripture. Discover how God's fatherhood was demonstrated to Adam and intended to pass through generations, offering insights into fatherhood skills, moral guidance, and eternal purpose. Get some discipline! Join the FS100 Challenge by signing up today!FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Got a question? Need some discipline? Email Barry at barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 Intro: What's In a Heart?00:40 Biblical Definition of the Heart01:57 The Oldest Story Ever Told: Father and Son04:20 God's Fatherhood and Adam's Role06:56 Characteristics of Fatherhood08:07 God's Creative Authority and Adam's Dominion11:49 God's Nurturing and Sustaining Role14:08 Moral and Spiritual Guidance17:22 The Eternal Purpose and Redemption21:43 Practical Application for Modern Fathers33:13 Invitation to Join the Father Seekers Community--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website
Why do fathers matter? Barry addresses the critical importance of fatherhood through biblical insights and personal reflections. Discover how turning fathers' hearts to their children can lead to the healing of families, communities, and even nations. Ready to be part of the change? It starts right here.Get some discipline! Join the FS100 Challenge by signing up today!FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Got a question? Need some discipline? Email Barry at barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 Introduction: The Importance of Fathers00:44 Biblical Perspective on Fatherhood01:53 The Cultural Collapse and Fatherhood03:12 The Role of Fathers in Healing a Nation03:46 The Hope and Call to Action04:23 The Impact of Fatherlessness05:52 Fatherhood Beyond Politics10:48 Identity Crisis and Fatherlessness13:18 A Distorted View of God19:24 Generational Sin and Repetition23:10 Emotional and Psychological Damage27:19 Counteracting Fatherlessness32:04 The Call to Revival--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website
We’ve all heard that experience is the best teacher—but what if I told you that’s only half the story? What if the real power isn’t just in what you go through, but in how you look back and learn from it? Today, Barry dives into why experience alone isn’t enough—and how evaluating your experiences is the secret sauce to real growth. Stick around, because if you’re not reflecting on your journey, you might just be repeating the same mistakes over and over again!Get some discipline! Join the FS100 Challenge by signing up today!FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Got a question? Need some discipline? Email Barry at barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 Experience Alone...00:43 The Key to True Learning04:17 The Importance of Mentorship07:13 Evaluating Fatherhood Experience12:47 Healing and Overcoming Scars23:20 Reflection, Wisdom, and Guidance26:25 Fatherseekers.org/FatherFuel--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website
When was the last time you truly prayed? Barry unravels the essence of prayer, exploring Christ's exemplary prayer life, the types of prayer, and the optimal mindset for connecting with God. Learning to pray with intentionality and intimacy.Get some discipline! Join the FS100 Challenge by signing up today!FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Got a question? Need some discipline? Email Barry at barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 The Importance of Prayer00:40 Exploring Jesus' Prayer Life08:50 Types of Prayers17:25 Positions of Prayer29:02 Encouragement to Pray--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website
Do you know what you are in pursuit of? Barry petitions you to focus your pursuits, offering five key areas: wisdom, discipleship, leadership, theology, and fatherhood. Get some discipline! Join the FS100 Challenge by signing up today!FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Got a question? Need some discipline? Email Barry at barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 What Are You Pursuing?01:27 Clarifying Your Pursuits03:15 So What is It Really?06:46 Healthy Pursuits for a Fulfilling Life10:11 The Five Key Pursuits21:20 Practical Steps For Change24:13 The Time is NOW26:06 Fatherseekers.org/FatherFuel--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website
What does it really take? Barry unwraps an old saying "Put Your Hand to the Plow" and how focus can radically change your fathering and the legacy you will leave for your family.Get some discipline! Join the FS100 Challenge by signing up today!FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Got a question? Need some discipline? Email Barry at barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 Put Your Hand to the Plow03:42 Focus on What's in Front of You14:07 Embrace Failure, Overcome Fear17:51 Final Encouragement19:00 Fatherseekers.org/FatherFuel--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website
Want a life hack for being a dad? Barry teaches how to bear spiritual fruit as a father and how to bridge the gap from inexperience to positively impacting their families.Get some discipline! Join the FS100 Challenge by signing up today!FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Got a question? Need some discipline? Email Barry at barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 Not a Fan of Life Hacks?01:01 Bearing Fruit05:13 The Fig Tree Parable09:29 The Fruit of the Spirit18:37 How to Use the Fruit21:06 Fatherseekers.org/FatherFuel--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website
Why do men think they don't need a circle of friends? In this dynamic episode, Barry drills into the transformative power of male camaraderie, guiding you through the essential elements and steps to create a tight-knit group of like-minded men. Discover how having a circle of trusted friends can elevate your life, foster growth, and keep you accountable.Get some discipline! Join the FS100 Challenge by signing up today!FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Got a question? Need some discipline? Email Barry at barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 Why Men Need Circles01:49 The Power of Fellowship02:35 The Mistake of Going Alone03:18 Give and Receive05:54 Five Benefits of a Circle06:59 Comradery09:46 Confidants11:58 Bible Based Truthful Men14:13 Men of Integrity16:01 Settled, Secure, and Squared Away21:49 How to Build Your Circle26:34 Find Your Circle--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website
Happy Father's Day! Today we talk with a primce example of a dad: Russ has fathered three children (with nine grandchildren now!) and is the other half to Mary from our Mother's Day episode. Barry interview Russ about his own upbringing and how it affected his own children. Russ offers advice every young father should tatoo on their arm and never forget it!Get some discipline! Join the FS100 Challenge by signing up today!FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Got a question? Need some discipline? Email Barry at barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 What is a Good Father?01:14 Introducing Our Guest: Russ Headberg01:54 Russ's Childhood05:49 Growing Up with Limited Affection09:02 Realizing Normal, Wasn't Normal12:16 When Everything Changed15:37 Opposite Still Attract 49 Years Later17:56 Three Kids, Nine Grands19:21 THE Fishing Trip22:26 Fatherhood Self Reflection27:54 Advice for Fathers Without Role Models38:04 Happy Father's Day!--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website
Men face many complexities in relationships between masculinity and taking responsibility. In today’s culture, many men instinctively resist accountability, preferring:Control over vulnerabilityPower over transparencyDefensiveness over growthThis resistance isn’t just personal—it’s deeply rooted in societal expectations and learned behaviors that can be changed. Barry coaches you through seven steps for effective accountability.Get some discipline! Join the FS100 Challenge by signing up today!FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Got a question? Need some discipline? Email Barry at barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE00:00 The Complexities of Masculinity and Accountability01:14 Why Men Resist Accountability03:02 The Power of Accountability07:14 Seven Steps to Effective Accountability17:57 Building a Brotherhood for Accountability19:31 TAKE ACTION! --FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website
Are you tired of feeling held back by fear and self-doubt as a father? What if embracing vulnerability and courage could transform your relationships and unlock your true potential? Join me today as we explore what it means to live fearlessly and how it can revolutionize your role as a father.Get some discipline! Join the FS100 Challenge by signing up today!FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Got a question? Need some discipline? Email Barry at barry@fatherseekers.org--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website
What are your greatest fears? What freezes you in place, keeps you awake at night, or creates chaos and anxiety in your life and family? Here are seven things men fear most. Bring it into the light and it doesn't look so scary.Get some discipline! Join the FS100 Challenge by signing up today!FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Got a question? Need some discipline? Email Barry at barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE:00:00 Introduction: Understanding Fear01:10 The Many Faces of Fear01:34 Biblical Definitions of Fear04:35 Seven Things Men Fear Most05:34 Fear of Man06:54 Fear of the Unknown08:20 Fear of Loss08:56 Fear of Failure10:15 Fear of Lack11:35 Fear of Intimacy12:59 Fear of Being Found Out14:42 Paralyzed by Fear17:35 Overcoming Fear18:35 Conclusion and Resources--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website
What's the difference between perception and perspective? Most often it's our position. Barry looks at the Green Bay Packers to help you see three essentials for gaining perspective as a father.Get some discipline! Join the FS100 Challenge by signing up today!FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Got a question? Need some discipline? Email Barry at barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE:00:00 Perception vs. Perspective01:02 Green Bay Packers, Coach Matt LaFleur03:29 On Field Perception06:25 Perspective from the Booth08:23 Applying Perception and Perspective in Life12:15 The Importance of Having a 'Man in the Booth'15:14 The Holy Spirit16:38 Conclusion: Who's in Your Booth?--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website
How does the bond with a mother shape a child's future? Join Barry for a heartfelt Mother's Day edition with special guests Mary (married 49 years) and her adult daughter Leah. Discover the importance of emotional support, strong family bonds, and the impact of a father's love. Listen with your wife. It might be the best gift she recieves this year.Get some discipline! Join the FS100 Challenge by signing up today!FS Facebook FS Instagram FS YouTube Got a question? Need some discipline? Email Barry at barry@fatherseekers.orgTIMELINE:00:00 The Unwavering Strength of Mothers02:13 Mary's Story06:39 Leah's Story10:17 Reflections on Parenting and Family Values14:45 Leah's Perspective on Family Legacy20:29 Celebrating Marriage and Family Milestones24:03 Understanding Different Communication Styles26:47 Reflections on Parental Disagreements29:00 The Role of a Good Husband and Father31:00 The Impact of a Father's Love35:14 Advice for Moms on Maintaining a Healthy Family38:45 Encouragement for Women Without Strong Maternal Figures42:37 Wisdom for Husbands and Fathers46:43 Final Thoughts and Encouragement for Dad's--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website