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You know how every day someone asks "how are you?" And even if you’re totally dying inside, you just say "fine," so everyone can go about their day? This show is the opposite of that. Hosted by author and notable widow (her words) Nora McInerny, this is a funny/sad/uncomfortable podcast about talking honestly about our pain, our awkwardness, and our humanness, which is not an actual word. From American Public Media.
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Happyish Holidays 2020

Happyish Holidays 2020

2020-11-2455:045

This episode features conversations with people doing the best they can in difficult circumstances. Like Dr. Lucy Kalanithi, whose husband Dr. Paul Kalanithi was a notable and rising brain surgeon who wrote When Breath Becomes Air, a bestselling memoir about his fatal battle with cancer. And comedian Amber Tozer, who tells a funny and poignant story about walking in on her mother’s wedding… on Christmas Day. We will also talk with some of the women of the Hot Young Widows Club on their hopes and dreams for the upcoming year. Plus, stories of people’s worst Holidays ever. This year, we’re bringing our Happyish Holidays episode to you in a new way...a live video stream brought to you by our sponsor Shutterfly. RSVP at HappyishHolidays.comOur twice-monthly newsletter features behind-the-scenes content, previews of upcoming episodes and more. Sign up.When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here.Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.comRead the transcript for this episode here. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donateGo to HappyishHolidays.com to RSVP to the livestream event! And check out our sponsors this week:Shutterfly: shutterfly.comHelp A Human Out: helpahumanout.coStill Kickin’: stillkickin.co
Sanctuary

Sanctuary

2020-11-1750:407

We all have to find our way to our adult selves. As an author, filmmaker and co-founder of a mass movement --  the Women’s March -- Paola’s adult self is … very impressive! But even the most impressive among us can struggle with belonging, especially in the systems that are set up to reject us.  Our twice-monthly newsletter features behind-the-scenes content, previews of upcoming episodes and more. Sign up.When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here.Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at ttfamerch.comRead the transcript for this episode here. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate Go to HappyishHolidays.com to RSVP to the livestream event! And check out our sponsors this week:Rothy's: rothys.com/terribleBrooklinen: brooklinen.com with code TERRIBLETalkspace: talkspace.com with code TTFAYarlap: yarlap.com promo code TTFAShutterfly: shutterfly.com
Rebecca Black is Back

Rebecca Black is Back

2020-11-1046:438

Ten years ago, Rebecca Black was a 13-year-old who made a music video. It… wasn’t great. But it also wasn’t great that it went viral on YouTube, and being mean about a teenage girl became a national sport.Our twice-monthly newsletter features behind-the-scenes content, previews of upcoming episodes and more. Sign up.When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here.Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at ttfamerch.comRead the transcript for this episode here. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate And check out our sponsors this week:ThirdLove: thirdlove.com/terribleCalm: calm.com/thanksBombas: bombas.com/thanksHoney: joinhoney.com/thanks
Deep Dive w/ Kate Kennedy

Deep Dive w/ Kate Kennedy

2020-11-0302:08:468

Something to get your mind off of the craziness of this 2020 Election Day! Our twice-monthly newsletter features behind-the-scenes content, previews of upcoming episodes and more. Sign up.When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here.Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at ttfamerch.comRead the transcript for this episode here. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate And check out our sponsors this week:Ritual: ritual.com/thanksTalkspace: talkspace.com with code TTFAYarlap: yarlap.com promo code TTFAKiwiCo: kiwico.com promo code THANKS
Miss North Dakota

Miss North Dakota

2020-10-2758:516

In 2012. Rosie became the first Black woman to win the Miss North Dakota pageant. Here’s what it’s like being a Black pageant queen in a state that is 90% White. Our twice-monthly newsletter features behind-the-scenes content, previews of upcoming episodes and more. Sign up.When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here.Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at ttfamerch.comRead the transcript for this episode here. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate And check out our sponsors this week:Brooklinen: brooklinen.com with code TERRIBLEYarlap: yarlap.com promo code TTFATheragun: theragun.com/thanks
What About Your Friends?

What About Your Friends?

2020-10-2047:599

We know that romantic and familial relationships are work -- and we tend to respect the time it takes to maintain healthy relationships with our partners and our siblings and our parents. But...what about your friends? Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman *literally* wrote the book about friendship. Lucky us.Our twice-monthly newsletter features behind-the-scenes content, previews of upcoming episodes and more. Sign up.When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here.Read the transcript for this episode here. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate And check out our sponsors this week:ThirdLove: thirdlove.com/terribleCalm: calm.com/thanksRothy's: rothys.com/terribleCove: withcove.com/thanks
How do we talk about addiction in more productive ways? How do we hold empathy and boundaries together? What does it mean to recover? I have no idea, so Dr. Nzinga Harrison is here to educate, comfort and reassure all of us. Our twice-monthly newsletter features behind-the-scenes content, previews of upcoming episodes and more. Sign up.When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here.Read the transcript for this episode here. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate And check out our sponsors this week:Rothy's: rothys.com/terribleYarlap: yarlap.com promo code TTFAHoney: joinhoney.com/thanks
Fine, I Guess?

Fine, I Guess?

2020-10-0651:0511

Sam Irby has been pretty terrible, but she’s okayish now! She’s also the funniest person in the world, and this episode will make you laugh.Our twice-monthly newsletter features behind-the-scenes content, previews of upcoming episodes and more. Sign up.When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here.Read the transcript for this episode here. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate And check out our sponsors this week:Ritual: ritual.com/thanksBrooklinen: brooklinen.com with code TERRIBLETalkspace: talkspace.com with code TTFABombas: bombas.com/thanks
Team Top Figure

Team Top Figure

2020-09-2946:191

In May, a viral video filmed by two young men pushed them to the top of everyone’s news feed. We tracked them down (it wasn’t hard, they’re on Instagram) to get past the story of what happened to them and into the bigger story: who they are. Correction: In the episode, we refer to Firefox as being made by Microsoft. Firefox is a product of Mozilla, not Microsoft.Our twice-monthly newsletter features behind-the-scenes content, previews of upcoming episodes and more. Sign up. When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here. Read the transcript for this episode here. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate And check out our sponsors this week: Still Kickin’: stillkickin.coRothy's: rothys.com/terribleCalm: calm.com/thanksStoryWorth: storyworth.com/ttfaThirdLove: thirdlove.com/terrible
Jenell

Jenell

2020-09-2201:03:218

What happens when the place that feels like home...decides that you don’t belong anymore? When the person you trust to be a safe place for you violates that trust? Heads up: suicide, sexual trauma and eating disorders are a part of this episode. Our twice-monthly newsletter features behind-the-scenes content, previews of upcoming episodes and more. Sign up. When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here. Read the transcript for this episode here. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate And check out our sponsors this week: Yarlap: yarlap.com promo code TTFAPurple: purple.com promo code thanks10PayPal: paypal.com
Black Widow

Black Widow

2020-09-1543:309

Leslie Gray Streeter is...well, look at the title of this episode. Her very, very good book is available here.Our twice-monthly newsletter features behind-the-scenes content, previews of upcoming episodes and more. Sign up.When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here.Read the transcript for this episode here. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate And check out our sponsors this week: Brooklinen: brooklinen.com with code TERRIBLETalkspace: talkspace.com with code TTFARothy's: rothys.com/terribleYes Theory
Come Meet Drayden

Come Meet Drayden

2020-09-0845:0410

Drayden is a solid, good human. He doesn’t lie. He tells it like it is. He is a Black boy with Autism Spectrum Disorder, and his mother Dana has been fighting to get him the diagnosis and services he deserves since he was just a few months old. Dana and her children wrote a book about what it’s like to have a sibling who has autism. You can purchase “Come Meet Drayden” here. Our twice-monthly newsletter features behind-the-scenes content, previews of upcoming episodes and more. Sign up. When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here. Read the transcript for this episode here. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate And check out our sponsors this week: Rothy's: rothys.com/terrible Ritual: ritual.com/thanks Calm: calm.com/thanks
Ride Through It

Ride Through It

2020-09-0140:493

Every subculture believes that they are truly unique in their wild, passionate love for whatever it is they love. But honestly? Horse people win, hands down, and this episode proves it.  Our twice-monthly newsletter features behind-the-scenes content, previews of upcoming episodes and more. Sign up. When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here. Read the transcript for this episode here. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate And check out our sponsors this week: Thirdlove: thirdlove.com/terrible  Bombas: bombas.com/thanks 
We have always told you that we will not call grief a journey. But David Garcia’s story involves grief… and a physical, literal trip. So maybe it is a Grief Journey?Read the transcript for this episode here. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate And check out our sponsors this week:Rothy's: rothys.com/terribleBrooklinen: brooklinen.com with code TERRIBLETalkspace: talkspace.com promo code TTFACalm: calm.com/thanks
This episode is the second in a 2-part series. Before you listen to it, listen to the previous episode, Untying Knots. Brittany is raising money to provide free therapy for black men. Support her fundraiser here. Learn more about Britt at brittanyjeanlouis.com. Read the transcript for this episode here. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate And check out our sponsors this week: Yarlap: yarlap.com promo code TTFA Purple: purple.com promo code thanks10
Untying Knots

Untying Knots

2020-06-2354:5316

Sometimes, our parental relationships are a little… tangly. We’re wrapped up in big, old knots from strings that were tangled up before we were even born. This is a story about the knotted threads of one family.  Brittany is raising money to provide free therapy for black men. Support her fundraiser here. Learn more about Britt at brittanyjeanlouis.com. Read the transcript for this episode here. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate And check out our sponsors this week: Brooklinen: brooklinen.com promo code terribleDaily Harvest: dailyharvest.com promo code thanksYarlap: yarlap.com promo code TTFA
Salome's Choice

Salome's Choice

2020-06-1645:467

There are certain parts of motherhood that you can count on: sleepless nights, self-doubt, unpredictable emotions, complete and total heartbreak. And you know what? You’d do it all again. To learn more about Impact Missions: http://imworldwide.org Read the transcript for this episode here. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donate And check out our sponsors this week: Yarlap: yarlap.com promo code TTFATalkspace: talkspace.com promo code TTFA
For many people, the killing of George Floyd in Minneapolis was the latest graphic instance of a Black American being killed by the police -- and his homicide the most recent national example of historic, institutional discrimination against people of color and indigenous groups. Our colleagues at Call to Mind -- an APM / MPR initiative to inform and mobilize new conversations about mental health -- recently put a spotlight on the trauma of Black Americans and how it intersects with policing. Today, we're sharing the panelists' important conversations with you. Thank you to: - Angela Davis, host of MPR News with Angela Davis on Minnesota Public Radio. Find Angela on Twitter: @AngelaDavisMPR - Resmaa Menakem, founder of Justice Leadership Solutions in Minneapolis and author of "My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies." Find Resmaa on Twitter: @ResmaaMenakem - Justin Terrell, executive director of Council for Minnesotans of African Heritage. Find Justin on Twitter: @JTerrell41 - Brittany Lewis, founder and CEO of Research in Action and University of Minnesota researcher at the Center for Urban and Regional Affairs. Find Brittany on Twitter: @Brit_Lewis
There are lots of rules, all around us. They tell us who is in, and who is out. They tell us who belongs, and who does not. What does it feel like to cross that line...and what is on the other side? What happens when an insider becomes an outsider?You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donateThe Terrible Writing Club is back, baby! Sign up today and join the club: ttfa.org/writingclub Read the transcript for this episode here. And check out our sponsors this week:Daily Harvest: dailyharvest.com with code THANKS Brooklinen: brooklinen.com with code TERRIBLE
Unemployed

Unemployed

2020-05-1951:2414

Layoffs. Redundancies. Furloughs. Right-sizing. There are so many ways to say “you don’t have a job here anymore,” and Sarah has already lived through a few of them. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at ttfa.org/donateThe Terrible Writing Club is back, baby! Sign up today and join the club: ttfa.org/writingclub Read the transcript for this episode here. And check out our sponsors this week:Talkspace: talkspace.com with code TTFA Sakara: sakara.com
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ABR

Let's not ignore the imbalanced power-dynamics in this messed up relationship. She was a sheltered, emotionally immature 19-year-old with mental health issues and an abusive home life. He was a married father in his mid-30s who held a position of authority over her in their church. To imply she seduced him is so wrong-headed. The way his wife behaved toward her was also inappropriate... why would you burden a near-child (the development of the pre-frontal cortex doesn't finish developing until the mid-20s) with your insecurities and marriage troubles? Not okay. This couple and the church victimized Jenell, not the other way around. We can pick apart the way she survived and dealt with the situation, but at the end of the day she had less capacity to understand what was happening and less responsibility to end the inappropriate relationship.

Nov 24th
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Courtney Hamilton

Love the episode -glad you mentioned the impact of autonomy when making the dementia / addiction comparison. The ability for those experiencing addiction to retain their autonomy limits the ability of loved ones positive actions.

Nov 19th
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Casey Stein

My daughter died of DIPG two years ago. Her death was painful. If I could have helped her died a day or two earlier so she would not have had the pain; I would have. She didn't deserve to die in that painful way.

Nov 19th
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Lisa Bannon

I remember me and my classmates all had this idea that she was actually a really amazing singer but the studio butchered her with auto tune. that was what we believe was the case and I have these oddly vivid memories of us ironic/non ironically blasting that song in our little trash cars. sending love to you Rebecca, no one deserved what you got and you had some fans in a bunch of high school kids who love a good "bad" song

Nov 11th
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JuicyBoi

No need to be ashamed for liking Daniel Tosh. That being said at least you didn't say Dane Cook.

Nov 10th
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Brandy E

What a strong, amazing, talented woman! The music in this one was wonderful. Did Rosie play the music for the episode?

Nov 3rd
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Julie Shivek Madeira

Am I the only one who sees Janell as a master manipulator?

Oct 30th
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Casey Stein

it is the most gut wrenching feeling holding your child as they take their last breath

Oct 12th
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mel

I can't tell if this family is Dumb, Crazy or Passionate.

Sep 26th
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BC

Holy shit this was so manipulative

Sep 23rd
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Felicia DeLappi

I don't think you're bad, I think you're lucky. You're my hero. ♥️

Sep 15th
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trei sprezece

laughing at everything you say doesn't make it funny in any way.

Jul 6th
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ID13844084

I can relate to ALL of this! One day knowing who I was and then realizing how much being one of Jehovah’s Witnesses was part of my being, my fiber that when I left, I didn’t know who I was anymore! Also, it almost happened in 1 day! I woke up a JW and ended the day as just a person who used to be!

Jul 1st
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ID13844084

Holy crap! I was one of Jehovah’s Witnesses too!!!! Just started listening to this podcast & I can’t wait to hear all of it!!!!

Jul 1st
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Althea Washington

Such a beautiful episode- heartbreakingly beautiful. Love to that generous family.

Jun 19th
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ID13844084

This episode. Crying my eyes out.

Jun 18th
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Sara Peterson

thank you, Nora! I learned so much.

Jun 10th
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ID13844084

Amazing podcast! I’m learning so much about my childhood and it’s effects on my adult life!

Jun 1st
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June Zandona

I love many of your podcasts but this one, wow, Kate Bowler hanging out with Nora are the pithy empathic friends I don't know but somehow miss during the pandemic . The exchange about trying so hard and still feeling like a failure ... "I'm from Winnepeg, I sled on garbage..." howling. Her calling out of the competitive culture of *positive* woman is spot on also. Tears of laughter and deep sadness for the fragility of life and empathy for this cool ass lady.

May 30th
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BC

this company sounds toxic.

May 27th
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