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That Hoarder: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding
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Hoarding disorder is stigmatised and people who hoard feel vast amounts of shame. This podcast began life as an audio diary, an anonymous outlet for somebody with this weird condition. That Hoarder speaks about her experiences living with compulsive hoarding, she interviews therapists, academics, researchers, children of hoarders, professional organisers and influencers, and she shares insight and tips for others with the problem. Listened to by people who hoard as well as those who love them and those who work with them, Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder aims to shatter the stigma, share the truth and speak openly and honestly to improve lives.
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On this episode, I share my experience from being a guest on Death, Sex & Money with Anna Sale. Then I dig into the idea of wanting things but still choosing not to have them and how it applies to various aspects of life, especially for those of us dealing with hoarding disorder. I’ll discuss how the disorder can distort our perception of items, leading to irrational attachments. I look at how desires often change over time, the unhealthy attachments formed for identity, comfort, or security, and how fear of regret can hinder the decluttering process.
Choosing Not to Have Desired Items
Distortion of item perception in hoarding disorder
Temporary nature of desires
Safety and clutter concerns
Emotional and Irrational Attachments
Understanding and challenging emotional attachments
Exploring reasons for keeping or acquiring items
Addressing “irrational” beliefs
Dealing with fear of regret
Joy from finding things often surpasses regret (Jasmine Sleigh's insight)
Managing regret is possible
Decision-making with clutter in mind
Not Retaining Items for Others
It's not our responsibility to keep items for others
Prioritising personal and familial well-being
Setting boundaries regarding others' potential desires
Feeling loss, fear, sadness, and nostalgia
Acknowledgment and validation of these feelings
Communicating fears and emotions
Recognising and challenging irrational thoughts and feelings
Celebrating small victories without adding more clutter
Liberation and freedom from letting go
Misinterpreting laziness as anxiety
Anxious sloth and decreased productivity
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In today’s episode, I’m chatting with Dr. Jan Eppingstall, a Melbourne-based counsellor, about what it means to take a trauma-informed approach to hoarding disorder. Stick around as we break down why understanding trauma is crucial for effective support and treatment.
Trauma-informed approaches to understanding and treating hoarding
Importance of understanding trauma's impact
Concerns about wellbeing inquiries without adequate support preparation
Collaboration in Trauma-Informed Care
Practical Implementation for Non-Therapy Roles**
Incorporate trauma-informed principles
Sensitivity to potential triggers
Misconceptions and Communication
Fear factor surrounding trauma and its treatment
Detailed trauma disclosure unnecessary for effective support
Client Autonomy and Professional Boundaries
Respecting clients' communication preferences
Retraumatisation in Hoarding
Harm of forced clearances and strangers touching possessions
Negative impact of language and actions on hoarders
Respectful Support Practices
Building Trust
Importance of building trust before intervening in a hoarder's space
Ensuring professionals genuinely practice trauma-informed care
Over-explaining as a stress response
Broad approach of trauma-informed care
Factors influencing trauma perception
Trauma Definition
Trauma and Hoarding
Commonality of trauma in hoarding histories
A supportive framework rather than a treatment model
Five Pillars of Trauma-Informed Care
Assuming trauma backgrounds in hoarding behaviour clients
Loss of Control in Trauma
Trauma involves loss of control; care pillars help restore it
Tracking and managing nervous system responses
Importance of recognising client-specific signs
Term misuse by minimally trauma-informed trained professionals
Dangers of Misleading Trauma Informed Claims
Proper understanding of trauma to avoid harm
Non-therapists adopting trauma-informed principles
Importance of feeling present and calm during therapy
Teaching clients to feel safe and grounded
Clear Boundaries in Therapy
Trauma Types and Responses**
Variability of trauma
Explanation of retraumatisation
Managing Retraumatisation
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In this episode, I look at two major – and opposing – strategies for dehoarding: "swallow the frog," where you handle the toughest task first, and "save the worst till last," which focuses on building confidence with easier tasks. I'll discuss the benefits and drawbacks of each approach and offer tips for blending them to fit your unique needs. Join to learn how to break down the overwhelming task of dehoarding into manageable steps.
Swallowing the Frog
Best when preventing access to essential areas (e.g., cooker, bath).
Tackling tough tasks first can improve home functionality and reduce stress.
Saving the Worst Till the Last
Building confidence in dehoarding.
Tasks that are emotionally charged but less visibly impactful (e.g., old photos).
Utilising both approaches based on emotional resilience and situational needs.
Experimentation with both strategies.
Reflect on personality and typical approaches to difficult tasks.
Planning strategies based on task suitability and personal motivation.
Curiosity and trying different methods.
Observing outcomes and refining methods.
Balancing approaches for optimal dehoarding progress.
Embracing flexible planning and adjusting as needed.
Breaking Down Tasks
Breaking tasks into smaller, manageable steps.
Working for shorter, focused periods with breaks to prevent burnout.
Building Confidence
Addressing easier tasks first to build capability for more challenging tasks.
Sorting manageable items before tackling emotionally difficult possessions.
Mixing both "Swallow the Frog" and "Save the Worst Till Last" strategies.
Examination of the psychological impact of task management.
Discussing mental barriers, procrastination, and overwhelm.
Emphasis on efficiency and making progress to avoid demoralisation.
Strategies to manage overwhelming dehoarding tasks
Identifying the "frog."
Two opposite strategies for handling hard tasks.
Resolve tasks early to minimise stress and discomfort.
Breaking tasks into smaller chunks mitigates overwhelming discouragement.
Starting with easier tasks provides steady motivation.
Procrastination perpetuates stress from avoiding major tasks.
Ease into dehoarding with manageable tasks first.
Try both approaches, observe, adapt, and refine.
Examining two strategies for tackling hard tasks in the context of dehoarding: "swallow the frog" (address tough tasks first) vs. saving the worst for last, focusing on their psychological impact on barriers, procrastination, and efficiency.
Completing tasks alleviates stress and builds momentum for future tasks.
Swallowing the frog can be discouraging if tasks are tougher than expected. Break tasks into smaller chunks to avoid demoralisation. Identify and prioritise your most challenging tasks, such as urgent issues or emotionally taxing items.
Starting with smaller tasks provides steady motivation and achievement, offering quick wins that boost morale and maintain long-term productivity.
Procrastination on the most urgent task causes continuous stress and anxiety, overshadowing achievement of smaller tasks.
Start with moderately hard tasks, gradually advancing to harder tasks over time. Adapt approaches based on task suitability.
Start with easier tasks to build confidence when dehoarding, and save emotionally challenging items for later. Use both approaches as needed based on your situation.
Try both approaches and observe which helps you make the most progress. Keep adapting and refining based on your observations.
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In today's episode, I’ll help you identify the triggers that make us want to acquire stuff and how to use that knowledge to combat the urges to buy impulsively. We’ll explore practical strategies like observing urges, delaying reactions, and using distractions to curb impulsive buying. Plus, we’ll uncover the deeper emotional and environmental triggers that drive compulsive shopping and how to address them.
Emotional Triggers
Identifying emotional triggers like stress, sadness, boredom, and anxiety.
Understanding the role of dopamine in shopping behaviours.
Recognising the temporary distraction of shopping from negative emotions.
Environmental Triggers
Discussing how shopping environments stimulate purchases through strategic design.
Marketing tactics designed to exploit spending prompts.
Ecommerce Optimisation
Strategies ecommerce websites use to maximise purchases.
Seamless and tempting buying experiences.
Ease of Access
The convenience and immediacy of online shopping.
Encouraging impulsive purchases through immediate gratification.
Social Triggers
The influence of peer pressure, FOMO, and social validation.
Buying to fit in or earn social approval.
Self-Reflection and Values
Evaluating whether purchases align with personal values.
Seeking meaningful praise beyond materialistic validation.
Journaling as a Tool
Identifying and understanding personal triggers through journaling.
Noting emotions, activities, and feelings before and after purchases.
Pattern Identification
Analysing journal entries to identify shopping patterns and triggers.
Behaviour Change and Avoidance
Adjusting behaviour to avoid known triggers.
Implementing stress management techniques to handle stress-induced shopping.
Mindfulness for Identifying Triggers
Encouraging presence and consciousness in the moment.
Observing sensations, thoughts, and feelings without judgment.
Enhancing self-awareness for deliberate actions.
Observing Urges
Acknowledgment of the urge to buy and sitting with it.
Comparing urges to waves – they rise and fall.
Practicing distress tolerance during unpleasant urges.
Delayed Reaction Technique
Delaying purchase decisions to avoid impulsive buys.
Starting with short delays (e.g. 1 minute) and extending them.
Developing longer periods without giving in to urges over time.
Distraction as a Tool
Engaging in alternative activities.
Contacting friends and talking through the urge.
Reducing immediate impulses through distraction.
Addressing the Root Causes
Focusing on underlying issues (anxiety, depression, boredom).
Pursuing therapy, self-help resources, lifestyle changes, or medical treatment.
Avoiding Triggers
Avoiding people or environments that encourage unnecessary shopping.
Finding alternatives to shopping activities.
Shopping in places that minimise impulse-buying triggers.
Complexity and Difficulty
Acknowledging the multifaceted nature of combating buying urges.
Recognising triggers and managing urges requires effort and practice.
Host’s personal experiences with guilt and shame from compulsive buying.
Discussing the financial strain and relationship stress caused by impulsive purchases.
Emphasising the mental and emotional health impacts.
Impulsive shopping causes financial and relationship stress.
Emotional triggers can lead to impulsive shopping.
Awareness of emotions can reduce impulsive shopping.
External triggers and dopamine drive impulsive buying.
Question purchases' true value.
Praise for values is deeper than material praise.
Mindfulness helps identify triggers by observing sensations.
Address anxiety holistically, considering therapy and lifestyle.
Avoid triggers to reduce compulsive buying impulses.
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Impulsive shopping causes financial and relationship stress, guilt, and clutter. Today's episode explores triggers to address and mitigate these issues.
Emotional triggers like stress, boredom, sadness, and anxiety can lead to impulse shopping as a temporary escape, though this often results in further stress due to added clutter and financial strain.
Awareness of evening fatigue helped me stop shopping out of boredom or anxiety. Recognising emotional triggers can prevent impulsive purchases.
Marketing and environmental triggers compel people to buy impulsively for dopamine hits, involving extensive research.
It feels great to get social validation from buying items, but it's worth questioning if possessions define our identity and relationships.
Identify triggers for impulsive buying through self-reflection and journaling to align purchases with personal values.
Mindfulness helps identify triggers by being present, aware of feelings, sensations, and thoughts, leading to greater self-awareness and deliberate actions.
Address anxiety and depression through therapy, lifestyle changes, and avoiding triggers, rather than impulsive shopping.
Avoid environments that trigger unnecessary shopping to break the habit. Find alternatives like meeting friends in different places or shopping online.
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In this episode, Dr. Jan Eppingstall and I are exploring the impact of self-stigma and societal responsibility in hoarding. We look in depth at stigma and how it affects individuals with mental health conditions, especially hoarding disorder, and how self-stigma can damage us and prevent us from seeking help. Plus, we introduce a new segment — "permission slip". Stay tuned for some outtakes at the end!
Impact of Public Stigma and Self-Stigma
Dr. Jan Eppingstall explains public stigma, including stereotypes, prejudice, and discrimination
Key facets of public stigma: difference, disdain, and blame
Understanding Self-Stigma and Public Stigma
How stereotypes can affect self-stigma, using people's reactions to TV shows as an example
The implications of self-stigma, including low self-esteem, hopelessness, and reluctance to seek treatment
The interlinking of public stigma, self-stigma, shame, and self-consciousness, as well as self-blame and the impact of self-stigma on seeking help
Variation in mental illness stereotypes by disorder
Introduction of the "permission slip" segment
Discussion on the compulsion to keep things and the completionist mindset
Influence of Socioeconomic Status on Mental Illness Stigma
Conversation about the perception of hoarding based on socioeconomic status and the value of items being kept
Comparison of hoarding in different contexts: ample space and financial means versus living in a cramped environment
Impact of space and wealth on hoarding, highlighted through a documentary about Celine Dion and her extensive costume collection
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) in Addressing Self-Stigma
Dr. Eppingstall outlines the ACT approach, focusing on personal values and psychoeducation on relational frame theory to address self-stigma
Cognitive behavioural therapy techniques like reframing and peer support groups to combat self-stigma, as well as radical acceptance through a 10-step process
Influence of Cultural Beliefs and Social Factors on Stigma
Discussion of the influence of cultural beliefs on mental illness stigma, including the impact of social factors on self-stigmatisation
Protective factors against self-stigmatisation: quality of life, social relationships, and cultural acceptance of mental illness
The impact of societal influences on self-stigma and the importance of understanding one's thought patterns without trying to banish them
External stigma's potential influence on self-stigma, with a suggestion that marginalised individuals facing more external stigma might be more susceptible to self-stigmatisation
Internalised social stigma leads to negative self-concept.
Self-stigma affects help-seeking behaviours negatively.
Questioning stigmatisation and hoarding in media.
Cultural stigma influences self-stigmatisation of mental illness.
Communities’ response to mental illness.
Self-stigma's impact varies based on individual factors.
Internalised stigma is the acceptance of negative societal stereotypes.
Self-stigma creates harm, deters seeking help.
Reflection on hoarding stigma and societal perceptions.
Public stigma in different cultures affects self-stigmatisation and attitudes toward mental illness and treatment.
Reflecting on community's approach to mental illness and its impact on self-stigma.
Practicing radical acceptance, using self-acceptance talk and behaviour changes to move forward.
Self-stigma affects people differently based on various factors such as personality, upbringing, and society. Different societies can influence how people perceive and react to self-stigma.
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Today, I explore the reality of dehoarding. From the thrilling sense of accomplishment to the mundane, hard, and sometimes emotionally difficult aspects, I cover it all. Join me as I discuss the ups and downs of the journey and why loving the process isn't a requirement - getting it done is what counts.
The Importance of Persistence and Commitment in Dehoarding
The need to keep going even when it's not thrilling or empowering
Embracing the mundane and boring aspects of dehoarding
Understanding that progress is more important than loving every moment of the process
Recognising that dehoarding can include both rewarding and difficult experiences
Using reminders of the end goal to cope with the challenging days
Compassion and Self-Care in the Dehoarding Process
Embracing self-compassion during difficult dehoarding days
Utilising self-care practices as a way to cope with the process
Understanding the importance of acknowledging and validating difficult experiences
Acknowledging the necessity of perseverance and consistent effort in dehoarding
Coping with Mundane and Monotonous Aspects of Dehoarding
Recognising the importance of routine in the dehoarding process
Strategies and techniques to cope with monotony and boring tasks
Understanding the difference between emotional highs and lows, and coping with routine tasks
Utilising rewards and mindful strategies to cope with tedious dehoarding tasks
Redefining Success in Dehoarding
Understanding that success is measured by effort, home improvement, and personal pride
Acknowledging that dehoarding progress is not always thrilling or enjoyable
Embracing that progress is still progress, regardless of its size or level of excitement
Challenging unrealistic expectations set by influencers and social media about dehoarding
Action and Commitment Despite Feelings Towards Dehoarding
Encouragement to take at least one step in the right direction, regardless of loving the process
Embracing the idea that it's okay not to love dehoarding every minute
Recognising that commitment to dehoarding is a significant achievement in itself
Affirming the capability to create a space one feels at home in, despite the ups and downs of the journey
Dehoarding doesn't have to feel thrilling.
Difficulties come, but remember your purpose.
Feeling overwhelmed is normal during the decluttering process, but progress matters more than celebrating every step.
Self-care involves activities like hot baths, TV time, and walks, paired with self-compassion to be effective.
Reward self, be mindful, focus on present, seek support, value effort over success.
Embrace the journey, take steps forward.
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In today's episode, I look at how the Pareto Principle, also known as the 80/20 rule, can revolutionise our approach to decluttering. I discuss how focusing on the 20% of our possessions that cause 80% of our problems can lead to more impactful change with less effort, and how identifying the 20% of tasks that show the biggest results can help us to manage our energy and make visible progress. Join me as I break down this principle and explore how it can transform our mindset and approach to dehoarding.
Introduction to the Pareto Principle
Explanation of the Pareto Principle or the 80/20 rule
Relevance of the Pareto Principle to hoarding and home management
Impact of focusing on the 20% causing the most problems
Identifying Impactful Tasks and Items
The impact of expending energy on low-level tasks
Importance of prioritising impactful tasks for noticeable change
Making a dent in belongings by focusing on impactful items
Brief history of Vilfredo Pareto and his observation
Various contexts where the Pareto Principle is seen to apply
Validation of the principle in different areas
Applying the Pareto Principle to Your Home
Strategic thinking in identifying items causing disruption
Identifying 20% of belongings used most often
Energy expenditure and impact of dehoarding actions
Emotional Attachment & Rational Decision Making
Emotional connection to belongings
Encouraging rational assessment of belongings' value
The role of emotions in retaining or discarding items
Reassessing and Ongoing Vigilance
Need for ongoing reassessment as space is cleared
Importance of reassessing the 20% causing problems
Frequency of reassessment and calibrating belongings
Reflecting on the impact of the 80/20 rule in home management
Pareto principle for hoarders.
Pareto principle: 20% effort, 80% results.
Reframe, prioritise, and declutter for efficient living.
Identify essential items, discard unnecessary possessions strategically.
Identify unnecessary items to make life easier.
Reevaluate possessions and focus energy efficiently.
Use the Pareto principle to focus on tasks with high impact.
Identify and declutter items for a noticeable ease in daily life; use the 80/20 rule for organising and resolving space issues.
Reassess belongings, focus on what matters.
I look at an old fable from when I was little and how I’ve changed my view on it completely. And, of course, how it relates to hoarding – and dehoarding.
Acknowledging reaching 250,000 downloads for the podcast
Dehoarding fast vs. slow and steady approach
The benefits of dehoarding fast
Getting a lot done in a short time
Responding to emergency situations
Harnessing sudden bursts of motivation
The risks of dehoarding fast
Burnout
Impracticality of sustaining a fast pace in the long term
Emphasising the importance of finding a balance between fast and slow dehoarding
Acknowledging the benefits and drawbacks of both approaches
The significance of Aesop's fable "The Hare and the Tortoise"
Initial scepticism about the fable
Understanding the importance of perseverance and consistency over speed
Drawing parallels between the fable and dehoarding
Primary Topic: Slow and steady work for dehoarding
Sustained approach for dehoarding the entire home
Making habits or new behaviours stick and become habitual
Enhancing slow progress with focus and documentation
Achieving objective progress through slow and steady work
Suitability for long-term planning and sustainable change in behaviours and beliefs
Riding the wave when the urge to throw into action arises
Recognising when to work fast
Potential drawbacks leading to complacency or exhaustion
Balancing fast and slow dehoarding approaches
Finding a balance for effective and sustainable progress
Avoiding the pitfalls of extremes in dehoarding approaches
Fast action can be encouraging and valuable.
Sustainable pace fosters effective dehoarding.
Slow, steady progress towards a liveable home.
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Dr Jan Eppingstall has had an idea, and it is as revolutionary as it is terrifying. We talk about it!
Shifting focus from individual items to the bigger picture
Creating a guilt-free zone for a limited time to honour values and experience more joy and fun in the future
Putting aside certain values temporarily to create better conditions for the future
Introduction of the concept of "household equilibrium"
Understanding the emotional attachment to possessions based on lived experiences
Behavioural and Emotional Aspects of Discarding Items
Reluctance to discard out-of-date food due to guilt and fear of waste
Emotional connection to possessions and the importance of using them
Encouraging the usage and enjoyment of possessions
Trauma-focused approach to discarding clutter
Coping with the guilt and shame around wastefulness
Making difficult decisions about discarding items
Exposure to letting go and small, less risky decluttering tasks
Letting go of controlling outcomes and focusing on wellbeing over perfect disposal
Starting with low-risk categories when decluttering, such as wrapping paper
Prove that terrible things do not happen when decluttering
The importance of proportionality in the decluttering process
Children's Belongings and Autonomy in Decluttering
Clear guidelines for disposing of belongings that are not yours
Contacting owners to collect items, especially for children's belongings
Revisiting keepsakes periodically to reassess their importance
Respecting children's decisions about their belongings
Navigating the decluttering process with understanding and sensitivity
Creating a Safe and Comfortable Living Environment
Implementing an amnesty on existing rules and guidelines
Suspending the acquisition of new items to keep the space in equilibrium
Allowing space for new interests and hobbies to enter one's life without guilt
Desire for perfection leads to unnecessary clutter.
Temporary pause for a more balanced life.
Stay safe and open to new experiences.
Encouraging use of gorgeous clothes in daily life.
Helping people cope with guilt and clutter to prioritise their well-being.
Desire for perfection in decision making and finding balance.
Some people value frugality but need to let go sometimes.
Focus on physical safety, declutter for new hobbies, no guilt.
Facing fears leads to growth and relief from guilt.
Recommendation to limit exposure to items and practice letting go to avoid regret.
Encourage using and enjoying clothes, shoes.
Expressing love for a cherished mug.
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It’s the 150th episode, and I’ve got a special one for you. I’m tackling the 13 pieces of hoarding advice that you're really tired of hearing, and I’m hitting them head on! We've all been on the receiving end of well-meaning but utterly unhelpful advice when it comes to hoarding. From "just get rid of it" to "you're being lazy"… the list goes on. They may seem harmless, but they often overlook the emotional complexities and serious mental health challenges faced by people who hoard. Most importantly, I explain why these pieces of advice do more harm than good. Oversimplified solutions just won't cut it when it comes to overcoming hoarding disorder.
Terrible Hoarding Advice
"Just get rid of it" underestimates the emotional attachment
Emotional attachment to possessions
Overwhelming nature of such advice
"It's just stuff" overlooks the significance of possessions
The significance of possessions to hoarders
Dismissal of the emotional connection to items
"Get rid of things that don't spark joy" oversimplified and doesn't consider complexities
Oversimplification of the decluttering process
Failure to recognise the complexities of hoarding disorder
Blaming hoarders for being lazy, weak, or selfish is not helpful
Stress and shame reinforcement
The impact of negative reinforcement on mental health
Telling hoarders to be embarrassed or ashamed is counterproductive
Exacerbation of hoarding tendencies
Implications for mental health and stigma
"Just get a skip" advice may create time pressure, anxiety, and public display
Pressure and anxiety for hoarders
Public display of possessions and potential distress
Cleaning up a hoarder's space without consent creates mistrust and anxiety
Impact on trust and mental well-being
Reinforcement of trauma responses
Suggesting to sell or have a yard/car boot sale oversimplifies things
Complexity of hoarding disorder
Dismissal of mental health issues
Decluttering advice of doing one room a day or week underestimates the difficulty
Emotional challenges of decision-making
Complexity of hoarding disorder
Three piles for keep, give away, and throw away is not effective as stand-alone advice
Emotional attachment and decision-making
Complexity of decluttering for hoarders
Telling someone to try harder and give 100% effort at all times is unrealistic
Unrealistic expectations and burnout
Impact on mental health and sustainability
Long-term and complex nature of decluttering
Understanding the complexity of the process
Mental and emotional focus of decluttering
Hoarding as a Complex Process
Comparison of decluttering to a marathon
The endurance required for decluttering
Criticism of advice containing the word "just"
Casual dismissal of hoarding tendencies
Encouragement to reconsider using "hoarder" casually
Impact on stigma and understanding
Consider emotional attachment in addressing hoarding issues.
Hoarding disorder is complex and deeply personal.
Blaming hoarders reinforces shame and hinder recovery.
Skips can be a stressful solution.
Car boot sale: a communal yard sale.
Oversimplifying, dismissing mental health issues - not helpful.
Avoid burnout by pacing and considering emotions.
Simplify, declutter, and be mindful of health.
Reconsider comparing mild mess to hoarding.
Advice to declutter doesn't consider emotional attachment; drastic approach may cause fear and anxiety.
Hoarding disorder is complex, possessions hold deep meaning, and one-size-fits-all approaches don't work.
Blaming hoarding on laziness is unhelpful and untrue.
Using skips as a solution for decluttering can create anxiety for some as it puts their possessions on public display.
Car boot sales are similar to yard sales, with people selling items from their car boots in a car park on Sundays. Sellers might not get much for their cherished items.
Avoid burnout by pacing efforts for long-term decluttering, including handling emotionally charged items with care.
Casual use of mental health terms.
Hoarding is not just about having too much stuff; it affects emotions and living conditions.
Avoid comparing mild mess to hoarding.
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Susie Boutal is a qualified ADHD coach and decluttering expert. She joins me to talk about the intersection of ADHD, hoarding, and clutter. Susie shares valuable insights for anyone dealing with ADHD and hoarding. We cover the myth of laziness, the importance of open communication in relationships, managing hoarding behaviour, the impact of self-talk, and the influence of past experiences on self-perception and the responsibility to yourself and others in managing living spaces. Join us as we navigate the complexities of decluttering and hoarding with compassion and empathy, and gain valuable advice from Susie on nurturing a kinder inner dialogue.
Negotiations and Agreements in Relationships
Compassionate Expression of Needs
Impact of Self-Talk and Past Experiences on Self-Perception
Nurturing a Kinder Inner Dialogue
Offering Yourself Compassion and Empathy
ADHD and Clutter
Impulsivity
Compassionate Approach to Motivate Decluttering
Guilt and Shame
Breaking Tasks into Microtasks
Tips for People Dealing with ADHD and Hoarding
Self-Compassion
Establishing Daily Non-negotiable Routines
Breaking Down Tasks into Small Goals
Approaching Uncertainty as a Space of Possibilities
Overcoming Procrastination
Identifying Procrastination Triggers
Breaking Tasks into Achievable Goals
Maximise Productivity and Time Management
Reassessing Productivity in Small Time Periods
Using Small Time Intervals for Decluttering
Addressing Impulsivity in Acquiring Items
Finding Long-Term Purpose
Managing Living Spaces in Relationships
Open Communication
Setting Non-Negotiable Priorities
Overcoming decluttering barriers with 5-minute tasks.
Find purpose by identifying goals, prioritise passions.
Setting rules, responsibility, and personal growth awareness.
Establishing boundaries and agreements in relationships.
Recognising patterns
Impact of words can last a lifetime.
Establish routines, question resistance, break tasks down.
Embrace uncertainty as a challenge, not a threat.
Clutter linked to ADHD, trauma, mental health, impulsivity, and seeking new things.
Focusing on microtasks for motivation and habit building.
Decluttering seems overwhelming, but starting with small tasks can be motivating
Find purpose, set long-term goals, prioritise over short-term impulses.
Setting rules and responsibility to overcome impulses and seek long-term goals.
Open communication and defining nonnegotiables is crucial in living together respectfully.
Negotiating boundaries and agreements in all relationships, including regarding space and activities.
Recognising negative patterns, understanding origins, finding benefits in change, and being kinder to yourself.
The lasting impact of hurtful words.
Routines, self-reflection, and breaking tasks down.
Embracing uncertainty leads to growth, while fear of uncertainty causes paralysis.
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Today, I talk about a woman who sold every single thing in her wardrobe and explore the lessons that can be learned from this drastic approach, discussing both the positive and less than ideal aspects of the woman's actions. Highlighting the importance of taking small actions and steering away from all-or-nothing thinking, I look at what we who have difficult home surroundings can learn from this
Acknowledging annoyance and taking action against it.
Overcoming scarcity mindset and emotional attachments to possessions.
Liberating to sell clothes, or all-or-nothing thinking?
Gradual progress leads to lasting change and adaptation.
Exploring actions and habits to address annoyances.
Don't have to do extreme decluttering.
Small actions are valuable.
Incorporate new behaviours consistently.
Slow progress is more effective than dramatic change for long-term success.
Accepting and embracing feelings as a human reaction.
Taking Action on Annoyances
Acknowledging ongoing annoyances
Taking decisive action to address the problem
Decisiveness
Being inspired by the woman's decisiveness
Overcoming overthinking and indecisiveness
Finding fulfillment and reward in making a dramatic change
Feeling liberated by having considerably less stuff
Living with Considerably Less
Realising that living with less is not a threat
The protective nature of hoarding behaviour
Less Ideal Aspects of Extreme Action
All-or-Nothing Thinking
Recognising the danger of extremes in decision making
Embracing the value of moderation and balanced action
Small Actions versus Grand Gestures
The importance of small, consistent actions over grand gestures
Building lasting change through gradual progress
Overcompensating
The dangers of drastically clearing out possessions
Gradual adaptation and adjustment to change
Accepting Feelings and Reactions
Understanding that feelings of overwhelm are a normal human experience
No Secondary Shame
Rejecting the idea that feeling hard emotions is a source of shame
Overcoming internalised beliefs about the negativity of emotions
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With Dr Jan Eppingstall, today I delve into the fascinating world of habituation – which you might be familiar with as clutter blindness, but it’s so much more than that! – and its impact on our daily lives. We look at the role of habituation in hoarding, and offer practical techniques to revitalise our perspectives. Join us as we unravel the complexity of habituation and its relationship to hoarding, with valuable insights into improving our quality of life.
Habituation and its Impact
Definition of habituation
Evolutionary and innate nature of habituation
Habituation as a form of non-associative learning
Role of habituation in daily life
Individual experiences with habituation
Positive, neutral, and negative aspects of habituation
Habituation in hoarding behaviour
Habituation and autistic people
Effects of habituation on daily tasks and decision-making
Habituation in relation to clutter blindness and hoarding
Overcoming Habituation
Techniques for combatting habituation
Changing daily routines and habits
Using different modes of transport
Performing everyday tasks in different ways
Looking at space through a different perspective
The need for a variety of approaches to combat habituation
Techniques to break habitual patterns
The importance of stepping out of your comfort zone
The importance of mixing up approaches and embracing what works
Habituation in Mental Health and Therapy
Deliberate use of habituation in mental health treatment
Exposure therapy and fear ladder approach in treating fears and phobias
Gradual exposure therapy for specific fears
Maintenance of progress in overcoming fears and phobias
Implications of habituation for individuals with autism spectrum disorders in relation to hoarding
Insight into habituation and its impact on hoarding behaviour
Techniques and advice for combating habituation
Examples of habituation in daily life
Experience of habituation in hoarding behaviour and clutter blindness
The impact of habituation on decision-making and compensating for clutter
Connection between habituation, working memory, and people-pleasing behaviour
Understanding the impact of habituation on decision-making and perceptions
Strategies for breaking habitual patterns and experiencing joy
Mindfulness and gratitude in daily life
Rekindling appreciation for familiar places and seeing them through fresh eyes
Encouragement to find joy in life and invest in experiences over material possessions
Non-associative learning: Becoming accustomed to stimuli.
Habituation serves necessary and neutral purposes.
Skipping stages and creating fear ladder for hoarding.
Clutter organization leads to joy, not regret.
Habituation in hoarding leads to inaction.
Removing obstacles can make daily tasks easier.
Visual cues and externalising tasks aid memory.
Self-sufficiency
Observing and changing habits leads to improvement.
Experiences linger longer than material possessions.
Habituation is normal and can be positive.
Habituation is the process of becoming less responsive to repeated stimuli.
Habituation serves purposes: prevent overwhelm, allow focus, survival. Good, neutral, negative aspects.
Overstimulation and stimming behaviors.
Reliance on visuals becomes less effective.
Visual reminders and working memory limitations prompt use of external systems to record and remember tasks.
Some people have a mindset of overcoming odds and finding resourceful solutions.
Changing habits and mindset is key for improvement.
Observing and reflecting on how things are done can lead to finding better, more efficient ways.
The key is to have a mix of approaches for habit change.
Variety is essential and embrace what works, even if just for a bit.
The mind values experiences over possessions for lasting impact.
Habituation is normal, can be positive, neutral, or negative, and can be used to reduce distress.
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Incredible conversation with the ever-insightful KC Davis of Struggle Care. From discussing the impact of accumulating unused items to exploring the mental and emotional barriers people face in decluttering and tidying up, this episode covers a wide range of strategies and insights to help you on your dehoarding journey. We look at the shame and stigma associated with struggling with care tasks, including dehoarding, and the impact on individuals' self-worth and ability to seek help, and replace the shame with an approach rooted in self-compassion and moral neutrality towards care tasks. So if you're looking for practical tips, empathy, and support on your dehoarding journey, you won't want to miss this episode!
Understanding Care Tasks and Struggles
Definition of "care tasks"
Stigma and shame surrounding struggles with care tasks
Impact on self-worth and ability to seek help
Overcoming Shame and Stigma
Fear and self-criticism
Importance of self-compassion and supportive community
Motivation and the limitations of shame
Individualised solutions rooted in self-compassion
Thriftiness and environmental concerns
Strategies for Task Initiation and Motivation
Challenges for hoarders and those with ADHD
Differentiating motivation and task initiation
Small steps, transitions, and tools for task initiation
Starting the Decluttering Process
No one right way to start
Making small decisions and using timers
Involving friends in parting with items
Overcoming Emotional Barriers to Decluttering
Impact of accumulated items and their eventual outcome
"5 things theory" to overcome resistance
Adjusting the tidying process and taking small steps consistently
Strategies for Organising and Tidying Up
Breaking tasks into smaller steps
Visual storage ideas and creating rituals
Setting priorities and challenging societal norms
Judgments based on work, race, and appearance
Many people feel therapy isn't addressing their needs.
Shame doesn't lead to lasting behaviour change.
Self-help methods are not one-size-fits-all.
Permission to accommodate leads to lasting change.
Challenges of ADHD and executive functioning explained.
Declutter by what I need, love, keep.
Motivation leads to easier hard work and decluttering.
Take small steps and make decisions.
Break tasks into small steps.
Community support for navigating vulnerability.
Many people find online content more helpful than traditional therapy, reflecting societal attitudes towards seeking help.
Shame and social pressure don't guarantee change.
Self-help space lacks personalised solutions for diverse challenges. Universal methods don't address individual barriers and needs.
People give themselves permission to accommodate and it leads to curiosity, not necessarily a finish line.
Challenges with executive functioning and organisation due to ADHD, struggling with clutter and distractions.
Sort items by frequency of use, happiness, and necessity. Prioritise what to keep, rather than what to discard.
Motivation leads to easier wins, declutter by discussing meaningful items with friends.
Taking small steps without pressure, performing tasks with enjoyable activities.
Breaking tasks into smaller steps and utilising a simple action to initiate it.
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I watched a film, "Where Dragons Live," which struck a chord with themes of belongings, families, the meaning of our stuff, and the complexities of dealing with a loved one's stuff after they pass away. I talk about the deeper implications of what we leave behind. Join me as I reflect on the emotional impact of material possessions and the significance of our connections with others.
Film Review: Where Dragons Live
Review and discussion of the film "Where Dragons Live"
Exploration of themes relevant to hoarding, family dynamics and privilege
Reflection on the concept of treasuring and maintaining possessions
Analysis of the film’s portrayal of mixed, nuanced emotions and reactions
Examination of the anxiety surrounding what we leave behind for others
Emphasis on the impact of hoarding on one's own life and grieving process
Personal reflection on the burden and worry of leaving behind a hoarding home
Consideration of the challenges faced by those sorting through a hoarded space
Insight into the complexities of emotions and decision-making related to hoarding
Impact Beyond Possessions
Reflection on the value of relationships and connections beyond physical possessions
Examination of the meaningful impact individuals can leave on others
Emphasis on the significance of emotional and personal legacies
Discussion of minimising physical clutter to alleviate stress for others
Personal experiences related to friendships and legacies
Reflection on the meaningful contributions individuals can make in others’ lives
Recommendations for listeners to consider the impact they leave on others
Encouragement to prioritise meaningful connections over material possessions
Mixed emotions lead to decision-making challenges.
Grieving and hoarding
Overwhelm
Leave behind meaningful and powerful positive impact.
Film subjects reflect on sentimental items.
Grief and clearing out a hoarded home, finding value in the midst of overwhelming belongings.
Leaving meaningful impact beyond material possessions.
The film's focus on balancing material possessions with emotional value
Minimising belongings for others' sake.
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Dr. Jennifer Krafft, director of the Mindfulness and Acceptance Lab at Mississippi State University and her expertise in hoarding disorder, OCD, anxiety, and mindfulness and acceptance processes for treatment brings a fresh perspective to the prevalent issues surrounding hoarding. We’re talking particularly about stigma and hoarding disorder, the impact of cultural and societal attitudes, and the potential for self-help interventions to reduce stigma. We look at the roles of psychological flexibility, self-compassion, and the need for societal change in addressing hoarding stigma.
Stigma and Misconceptions Surrounding Hoarding Disorder
Lack of public awareness and understanding
Sensationalism in reality TV shows and its impact on stigmatisation
Impact of hoarding stigma on seeking help and social lives
Mindfulness and Acceptance in Managing Hoarding Disorder
Dr. Jennifer Krafft's personal experiences and curiosity leading to interest in hoarding disorder
Lack of effective treatments and trained providers for hoarding disorder
Study on self-help interventions reducing stigmatisation for people with hoarding disorder
Combating perfectionism through flexibility and managing cognitive reactions
Seeking Help and Self-Stigma
Dr. Jennifer Krafft's study on individuals' preferences for seeking help for mental health problems
Public stigma and self-stigma, leading to shame, embarrassment, and hiding behaviour
Psychological inflexibility linked to stigma and rigid behaviour patterns
Acceptance and commitment therapy promoting psychological flexibility
Addressing Stigma and Shame
Impact of intersecting stigmas on individuals, such as hoarding and racism
Addressing self-criticism, shame, and seeking support
Mindfulness exercises and self-compassion in managing stigma and shame
Cultural and Identity Perspectives in Hoarding Disorder
Lack of research on culture, identity, and hoarding, particularly in diverse populations
Additional challenges faced by individuals with multiple forms of discrimination
Acknowledging the impact of intersecting stigmas on individuals
Evolutionary Perspective of Hoarding Behaviour
Dr. Jennifer Krafft discussing hoarding behaviour in the context of human evolution
Mismatch between human adaptation and the current society's abundance of material possessions
Promoting Awareness and Education
Dr. Jennifer Krafft's advocacy for societal change in addressing hoarding stigma
Necessity for professional education and awareness about hoarding disorder
Lack of research on culture, identity, and hoarding, particularly in diverse populations
Each of these topics delves into the complexities and implications of hoarding disorder, shedding light on the need for compassion, understanding, and effective interventions.
Reality TV impacts public perception of hoarding.
Insufficient research on hoarding and identity discrimination.
Negative thoughts and emotions control behaviour; impacts stigma.
Identifying and challenging perfectionism in daily life.
Seeking support, not meant to be isolated.
Consider the adaptive nature of hoarding behaviour.
Dehoarding Zoom sessions help with self-judgment.
Acceptance and commitment therapy promotes psychological flexibility to navigate stigma effectively.
Insufficient research on hoarding and identity, leading to potential discrimination.
Psychological inflexibility leads to stigma. Acceptance and commitment therapy can help.
Researcher discusses unexpected study findings, biases
Intrinsic motivation in decluttering.
Seek support from others, fight hoarding stigma.
Evolutionary perspective on hoarding behaviour and the potential benefits of hoarding in certain contexts
Zoom accountability sessions for decluttering, self-judgment comparison.
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Today, I focus on the dreaded "analysis paralysis" and how it affects individuals with hoarding disorder. I discuss practical strategies for making decisions easier and breaking through the overwhelming feeling of being stuck in the decision-making process. From setting time limits to reframing fear, I will talk you through the steps to overcoming paralysis and perfectionism.
Analysis Paralysis and Hoarding Disorder
Definition of analysis paralysis
Overwhelmed by options and freezing due to overanalysing
Negative impact of perfectionism and fear of uncertainty on decision-making
Feeling overwhelmed by choices
Getting stuck in overanalysing
Impact of perfectionism on decision-making
Fear of uncertainty hindering progress
Strategies to Overcome Analysis Paralysis
Using systems or rules to make decisions easier
Setting time limits to create focus and reduce overwhelm
Practicing with small decisions to build confidence
Grounding oneself in the present and breaking tasks into smaller chunks
Having a decision-making framework or process to aid in breaking through analysis paralysis
Techniques such as pros and cons lists, cost benefit analysis, and setting rules to make decisions easier
Importance of setting criteria to aid decision-making
Making use of time limits to create focus
Building confidence through practicing with small decisions
Breaking tasks into smaller, more manageable chunks
Prioritising Progress Over Perfection
Encouragement to start small, even if something seems impossible or too difficult
Strategic questions, setting a timer, joining an accountability group, and focusing on the present moment to overcome paralysis and perfectionism
Emphasising the importance of progress over perfection
Starting with small, achievable goals
Using strategic questions and setting timers for focus
Utilising support systems like accountability groups
The emphasis on progress over perfection
Overcoming analysis paralysis through implementing systems.
Overcome perfectionism and fear by taking action.
Refocus on positive possibilities to overcome fear.
Focus on 20-minute tasks to avoid overwhelm.
Start with small decisions to build confidence.
Focus on the present, break tasks down.
Focusing on first step, making decisions easier.
Simplify decision-making process to ease overthinking.
Overcome perfectionism and fear of uncertainty by taking action and learning as you go.
Changing mindset from fear to possibility, reframing challenges and gaining perspective.
Focusing on 20-minute tasks helps with overwhelm and promotes action.
Start small, build confidence to overcome hoarding.
Focus on the present, break tasks into smaller chunks.
Start with first step, use decision making framework to break through analysis paralysis.
Tips for overcoming paralysis and overthinking: use pros and cons lists, cost benefit analysis, and practice to build confidence.
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I have a bit of an emotional moment in this one! In this episode, I talk about how we can spot those things that may have been useful at one point but are limiting us now. And look at how we can start to even entertain the idea of moving away from them without getting overwhelmed by the things that we're running away from in the first place.
Identifying coping mechanisms that have become detrimental
How once-helpful behaviours or thoughts can now cause stress, annoyance, or interfere with work and relationships
Acknowledging the negative impact of these coping mechanisms
Letting Go of Detrimental Coping Mechanisms
Symbolism of finding freedom after letting go of detrimental habits
Thanking coping mechanisms for past usefulness while acknowledging their current negative impact
The process of letting go described as taking small steps
Emphasising gradual change rather than extreme transformation
My experience of letting go of self-harm as a coping mechanism
Therapist's advice to apply the same principle to hoarding
Reflecting on past coping mechanisms and their evolution
Reassessing the need for detailed to-do lists as a coping mechanism for insecurity and fear
Overcoming Adversity and Achieving Small Victories
The power of achieving small victories
Using every bit of progress to fuel the next step, even if it feels impossible
Identifying the benefits derived from hoarding and finding alternative positive coping mechanisms
Adopting Positive Behaviours and Embracing Change
Importance of trial and error and gradual change in adopting positive behaviours
Encouraging curiosity and open-mindedness
Acknowledging that change doesn't have to happen all at once
Our lives can be better without the distress-causing coping mechanisms
Support and Community
Invitation to hoarders for an event for support and discussion
Acknowledging past coping mechanisms, embracing self-acceptance.
Struggling with past coping mechanisms; learning to let go.
Identify harmful coping mechanisms to improve well-being.
Understanding underlying emotional needs.
Reflect on coping mechanisms, assess their effectiveness.
Identify and let go of problematic coping mechanisms, consider letting go of hoarding behaviours.
Reflect on positive moments, gently acknowledge the problems.
Find positive coping mechanisms, assess their effectiveness, and make gradual changes.
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We need to talk about hoarding and physical disabilities, chronic illness, and chronic pain. With the inimitable Dr. Jan Eppingstall, I look at the unique challenges faced by individuals with disabilities, chronic health conditions who hoard. From the impact of aging on hoarding tendencies to the struggles of navigating a hoarded space while managing chronic pain, we offer insights and practical strategies for those dealing with hoarding and physical limitations. Join us as we delve into the complexities of hoarding and its intersection with physical health challenges in a compassionate and informative discussion.
The Impact of Disabilities on Hoarding Behaviours
Complex relationship between hoarding and disabilities
Chronic pain, mental health issues, and aging
The prevalence and severity of hoarding in correlation with aging and physical limitations
The challenges of categorising people and their impairments
Gender Disparities and Disabilities in Hoarding research
The association between physical disabilities, chronic illness, and chronic pain with hoarding, particularly among women
The link between autoimmune diseases, common in women, and hoarding
The impact of poverty on disabilities and hoarding
Advocacy challenges for women with disabilities and hoarding behaviours
The need for women to better acknowledge their achievements without feeling like boasting
The significance of functional impairment in the discussion
The importance of persistently seeking medical help despite the gender pain gap and lack of specificity in symptoms
Strategies for individuals to lead a more independent and fulfilling life despite chronic issues
The effects of giving up on seeking medical help on documenting conditions and receiving appropriate care
Managing Hoarding and Disabilities
Balancing function over appearance for hoarders with chronic health problems
The individuals' strong attachment to certain aesthetics and struggles in decluttering due to sentimental attachment
Practical ways to seek help and simplify tasks for people with hoarding tendencies, particularly for those living alone
Strategies for managing household tasks despite limited mobility
The importance of pacing oneself and not pushing beyond physical limits
The impact of spending time outdoors on mental and physical health
Challenges of Aging and Hoarding
Accumulation of belongings over a lifetime, particularly among older generations
Reluctance to part with items due to sentimental attachment and difficulty decluttering with physical limitations
The isolation and loneliness experienced by older individuals in decluttering and organising tasks
Addressing the challenges faced by hoarders with physical limitations, including lifting, fine motor skills, and brain fog
The impact of limited energy and the need for careful prioritisation of tasks
Living with Physical Health Problems in a Hoarded Environment
The physical and emotional challenges of living with physical health problems
Managing disabilities and planning, scheduling appointments, and attending to physical needs in a hoarded space
The increased energy consumption living in a hoarded space
Navigating chronic pain and strategies to manage dehoarding tasks even on bad pain days
Differentiating between tasks that move the needle and those that simply paper over the cracks
Hoarding research shows self-selection bias towards females.
Hoarding increases with age, affecting functionality.
Disability requires more planning and preparation.
Living with physical limitations is never straightforward.
Self-compassion improved my situation.
Avoid pushing too hard, limit activities to 3 hours.
Hoarding and function over appearance for health.
Assessing and adjusting belongings to create harmony.
Study on disability assessments, measuring functional impairment in 6 areas.
Moving away from cause and effect to individual change and vulnerability.
More planning for disability due to brain fog.
People underestimate complexity of physical disabilities.
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Today, I look at the impact of micro trends on our lives and how they are contributing to clutter and excessive consumption and the additional challenges hoarders face in this ever-evolving landscape of trends. I look at identifying our true style beyond societal pressures and resisting the temptation of constantly changing trendy items. Join me to explore the consequences of indulging in micro trends, the environmental impact of fast fashion, and strategies to make mindful purchasing decisions in a world dominated by fleeting trends.
Impact of Microtrends on Hoarding Behaviour
Hoarders facing unique challenges with microtrends
Consequences of indulging in microtrends such as financial strain and accumulation of belongings
Resisting the Temptation of Microtrends
Avoiding constantly changing trendy items
Thought exercise to identify personal style beyond external influences
Understanding individual style versus succumbing to marketing influences
Questioning motivations behind purchasing new trends
Mindful Purchasing and Consumption
"One in, one out" approach to purchases
Delaying purchases to assess genuine interest
Identifying if existing items can serve the same purpose
Evolution of Trends and Impact of Social Media
Trends in fashion and design propelled by personal expression and corporate marketing
Acceleration of trends through social media platforms
Accumulation of items due to shorter trend cycles and excessive consumption
Environmental and Social Impact
Production and consumption of fast, low-quality products contributing to waste
Struggle of charity shops to sell items from past micro trends
Encouraging individuals to opt out of supporting fleeting trends
By addressing these topics, the podcast provides a comprehensive exploration of how microtrends impact hoarding behaviour, strategies for resisting trends, and insights into the broader societal and environmental implications of excessive consumption.
FOMO in micro trends: dopamine, immediate reward.
Consider the real reasons for wanting something.
Consider delaying purchases to avoid micro trends.
Hoarders face challenges with microtrends, self-control.
Desire for personalization and expression; trends and fashions driven by corporations to fuel spending.
Accumulation of unused items, struggle to declutter.
FOMO in micro trends leads to regretful charity shop donations.
Questioning motives, mindful consumption.
Consider delaying purchases to assess true desire and value. Immediate craving may indicate fleeting trend.
Microtrends are a challenge for hoarders, leading to more stuff, less money, and self-doubt.
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Wow! This one really got me. I am a child of an alcholic hoarder and I am still broken, even though I am in my late 50's. I have started looking at therapy and this has made me think it is time to delve a little deeper. I know my parent was ill but can still remember being told that no-one could take me out if that situation because they would kill themselves if I went away. As an adult now I can see that this was a cruel thing to say to a child. Thank you for talking about this. I have some hoarding tendencies, though I am not hoarded, and am constantly struggling to keep my home OK. I had thought it was because I never learnt the right way!
This was such a wonderful episode, I thoroughly enjoyed it! Dr. Jan's insights were eye-opening and got to the core and the why's of hoarding, in an articulate and compassionate way. These are very helpful tidbits of information, and I will try to implement them. Truly loving this podcast!!