The Addicted Mind Podcast

In this episode, we talk about sacrificial helpers’ syndrome, great for people who are in the helper profession or volunteer helpers. Sacrificial help syndrome can be defined as people giving more than they have for the people they serve.Our guest today is Katie Vernoy. A licensed family therapist, a coach, and consultant with helpers based in Torrance, California. As she says, she helps helpers to help better.Most people who’ve had traumatic experiences that completely changed their lives can end up with this syndrome because they just want others to get through it better than they did and in between that they don't think of taking care of themselves.For therapists, they put their own needs at bay and focus on what other people need and how they can help them. Working past normal working hours, neglecting own self-care practices, scheduling in clients during personal time, foregoing meals just to help someone out are mostly signs that you're sacrificing yourself too much.Katie’s experience came about when she was working in public mental health. She worked extra hours, focused more on her staff and clients, and she burned out because she was so passionate about what she was doing to the point of neglecting self-care. After going out solo, she realized it was important for helpers to take care of themselves because if not, eventually, the help they offer won't be available.Within the profession, it’s often expected of you to be overly benevolent out of the goodness of your heart, so when you ask for money, or set limits and say no sometimes there can be a backlash from the society. It's expected of you to do this. However, part of your helping has to have some limits because you need to empower people to start their recovery on their own. Access if the client’s emergency call is a crisis or if it's possible for them to problem-solve on their own and practice self-soothing techniques. Yes, it’s hard to say no to a client at a critical moment, but learning to set limits helps tremendously in improving your service.Most often than not, when you started feeling as though your clients should cancel on appointments or grumpy, or you feel fatigued and burned out, it's a sign that you’ve started or are giving too much already. At this point, you can't care much anymore, and it's a clear sign that you should take some time off and do some consultation. Never risk your recovery for someone else’s.The first recovery of the syndrome is recognizing you’ve got a problem. You should then address it efficiently and start making time for yourself. Set aside some time to do some mandatory extracurricular activities, e.g., meeting up a friend, shopping, surfing, etc. Make sure you hold yourself accountable or find an accountability partner. Accountability will help you make better choices and get some well-deserved rest. You're valuable, take care of yourself.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Download: FIRST-ORDER CHANGE VS. SECOND-ORDER CHANGEAre you making changes but feeling stuck in your recovery journey? It could be because you're focusing on first-order changes. These are the surface-level adjustments we make – quitting a substance, changing routines – but they don't address the root of the problem.That's where second-order change comes in. This is about digging deeper into your anxieties, past traumas, and the underlying beliefs that drive addictive behaviors. It's a transformation, not just a tweak.Think of it like this: first-order change is running on a treadmill – you're moving, but not getting anywhere. Second-order change is taking the exit ramp and finding a new path.  Second-order change is the key to lasting recovery. So how do you get there? This episode breaks it down and helps you figure out where you might need extra support along the way.  Key TopicsWhat first-order change is and why it's important early onSecond-order change and how it leads to lasting recoveryExamples of each type of changeHow to start that deeper, second-order workThe value of therapy or coaching for this transformationKey Moments[00:01:00] – The treadmill trap: Why some changes feel pointless[00:03:00] – Beyond willpower: What if just stopping isn't enough?[00:05:00] – Real-world examples to help you identify your type of change[00:08:00] –  When is enough, enough? How to recognize you need deeper work[00:10:00] –  The scary (but worthwhile) path to second-order change[00:14:00] –  "I can see it in them": Signs you've done the deeper work[00:17:00] –  Your action plan: Next steps for leveling up your recoverySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Scott Teitelbaum's world came crashing down when his addictions to marijuana, alcohol, cocaine, and gambling threatened not only his medical career but also his family life. As a former pediatrician who found himself battling these demons, Scott's story is one of hitting rock bottom before finding the strength to climb back up. Hear how the loss of his medical license and the dissolution of his marriage became the catalysts for a transformative journey into addiction medicine and child psychiatry. His candid reflection on overcoming denial and embracing teachability offers invaluable insights into the challenges and triumphs of recovery.Scott's path to redemption wasn't traveled alone. With the unwavering support of mentors who saw potential in him, he embarked on a journey marked by humility and gratitude. These mentors believed in his ability to rebuild his life even when he couldn't see it himself. As Scott recounts the steps he took to regain his medical license and rebuild his career, he emphasizes the importance of maintaining sobriety and helping others in their recovery journeys. A touching story about a gift from a mentor serves as a poignant reminder of the impact that support can have on one's journey to recovery.In this episode, you will hear:Dr. Scott Teitelbaum's personal journey from pediatrician to addiction medicine expert after battling his own addictions.The role of denial and teachability in Dr. Teitelbaum's initial struggles with recovery and eventual transformation.The importance of mentorship and support systems in Dr. Teitelbaum's path to regaining his medical license and rebuilding his life.Establishment and impact of the Florida Recovery Center, a top facility in Gainesville, Florida, for addiction recovery.The emotional and professional challenges faced by Dr. Teitelbaum, including the loss of his medical license and family, and his subsequent recovery.The power of resilience, gratitude, and humility in overcoming addiction and helping others on their recovery journeys.Follow and Review:We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.Supporting Resources:NovusMindfulLife.comhttps://www.theaddictedmind.com/community Episode CreditsIf you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode of TAM+, hosts Duane and Eric delve into the concept of rumination, shedding light on its impact and providing practical strategies to navigate it. They define rumination as repetitive thought patterns, often negative, that loop incessantly in our minds. Through insightful conversation, they dissect different types of rumination, such as brooding, intrusive, reflective, and deliberate, each with its own nuances and effects. They discuss how rumination can lead to anxiety and depression and offer actionable advice on breaking free from its grip. By embracing mindfulness, welcoming intrusive thoughts, and engaging in activities that demand full attention, listeners can begin to mitigate the effects of rumination and regain mental clarity.Are you enjoying The Addicted Mind + podcast? Show your support and purchase the $7 eBook “I Can’t Get This Thought Out Of My Head: 5 Ways To Conquer Rumination” – Click Here  Key Topics Bullet Points:– Defining rumination and its impact on mental health– The difference between rumination and reflection– Types of rumination: brooding, intrusive, and deliberate– Strategies to manage and overcome rumination– The importance of mindfulness and physical activity in breaking the rumination cycle Timestamps of Key Moments:– [00:00] Introduction to rumination with Duane and Eric Osterlind– [01:10] Personal experiences with rumination– [03:09] Understanding the negative impact of rumination– [07:20] Different types of rumination explained– [11:17] Strategies to manage rumination effectively– [15:15] Combining mindfulness with cognitive and physical strategies– [18:07] Resources and final thoughts on managing ruminationSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Gary Mitrevolis, a seasoned expert in addiction medicine, joins us for a critical conversation on cannabis and THC addiction, especially as we face the rising tide of high-potency THC products. With cannabis legalization expanding and THC concentrations soaring to unprecedented levels, Dr. Mitrevolis shares his extensive insights into the mental and physical health risks this trend poses. We discuss why understanding these impacts is vital for effectively addressing the evolving challenges in addiction treatment, particularly in states like California where exposure to high-THC products is more prevalent.Our exploration takes a closer look at the adolescent brain, where we uncover the troubling effects of THC on dopamine production and motivation. Chronic cannabis use during these formative years can lead to devastating consequences, including an alarming drop in IQ and an increased risk of psychosis, especially for those with a family history of mental health disorders. Dr. Mitrevolis highlights that while current data might not differentiate between THC potency levels or consumption methods, ongoing research promises deeper insights that will guide future prevention and treatment strategies.In this episode, you will hear:Exploration of rising THC potency and its implications for addiction and health.Insights from Dr. Gary Mitrevolis on the mental and physical risks of high-THC cannabis.Discussion on cannabis' impact on adolescent brain development, motivation, and IQ.Examination of cannabis legalization and potential reclassification to a Schedule III substance.Debunking myths about the safety of natural substances, highlighting cardiovascular risks.Challenges and strategies for managing cannabis withdrawal and recovery.Follow and Review:We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.Supporting Resources:Dr. Mitrevolis NovusMindfulLife.comhttps://www.theaddictedmind.com/community Episode CreditsIf you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Worksheet: Your PERMA RecoveryWhat if recovery isn't just about stopping the bad stuff, but actually building something incredible?For too long, we've thought of recovery as simply not using. We white-knuckle our way through each day, fighting urges and saying no to everything that once brought us pleasure. But what happens when you've been sober for months or even years, and you're left thinking, "Is this it? Is this what recovery looks like?"In this powerful episode, hosts Duane and Eric challenge the traditional view of recovery and introduce you to something revolutionary: the science of thriving. They explore how recovery can transform from a grim process of enduring abstinence into an exciting journey of building the life you genuinely want to live.The hosts dive deep into positive psychology – the scientific study of what makes life worth living. Instead of just focusing on what's wrong with us, positive psychology asks a game-changing question: What makes a life flourishing and meaningful?You'll discover the PERMA model, developed by Dr. Martin Seligman, the father of positive psychology. This roadmap breaks down thriving into five key elements: Positive emotions (joy, gratitude, hope), Engagement (finding your flow), Relationships (authentic connections), Meaning (serving something bigger than yourself), and Accomplishment (achieving goals that matter to you).But here's what makes this episode special – it's not just theory. Duane and Eric show you exactly how to take these big concepts and break them down into tiny, manageable steps. You don't need to transform your entire life overnight. You just need to pick one element that resonates with you and take one small step this week.The episode also explores the concept of post-traumatic growth – the idea that hitting rock bottom can actually become the foundation for building something stronger. Like SpaceX learning from rocket explosions to build better spacecraft, your struggles with addiction can teach you lessons that help you create an even more meaningful life.This isn't about ignoring the hard work of staying sober. It's about shifting your focus from just running away from addiction to actively running toward a beautiful vision of your future. The hosts share insights from successful guests who have appeared on The Addicted Mind Podcast – people who don't just avoid their old destructive behaviors, but have built lives so fulfilling that those behaviors have lost their appeal entirely.Whether you're in early recovery feeling like you're just surviving, or you've been sober for years but feel stuck in a rut, this episode offers hope and practical tools. You'll learn how to identify what's missing in your recovery and take concrete steps to build it.Recovery doesn't have to be about deprivation – it can be about inspiration. Your journey isn't just about what you're leaving behind; it's about the incredible life you're building ahead.Key TopicsThe "Dry Drunk" Problem: Why stopping isn't enough and how to move beyond just surviving The PERMA Model: Five building blocks of a thriving life (Positive emotions, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning, Accomplishment) Post-Traumatic Growth: How hitting rock bottom can become your foundation for building something stronger From Deprivation to Inspiration: Shifting recovery from enduring abstinence to exciting life-building Micro-Steps Strategy: How to break down big goals into tiny, manageable actions you can't fail at Beyond Traditional Recovery: Moving from fixing what's broken to building what's strongTimestamp[00:01:30] - The dangerous trap of thinking recovery is just about stopping [00:03:00] - What is the "dry drunk" phenomenon and why it happens [00:07:00] - Introduction to positive psychology and the paradigm shift [00:08:30] - Breaking down the PERMA model for thriving in recovery [00:10:30] - Understanding post-traumatic growth and learning from rock bottom [00:13:00] - Practical action steps: How to choose your focus area [00:16:30] - The mindset shift: Running toward something beautiful instead of away from addictionSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Art Dielhenn's journey from directing beloved TV classics like Sister Sister and Punky Brewster to becoming an author and career coach is nothing short of remarkable. Facing his own struggles with addiction, Art found recovery and shared his insights through two humorous and insightful books, "Get Out of Your Head, It's a Mess in There" and "Addiction is a Family Disease." Join Art as he discusses how the pandemic spurred his writing endeavors, weaving humor with heavy topics to make them more approachable. With artist Clemmy McWilliam-Le Busque's lively cartoons, Art's books illustrate the chaotic yet relatable inner workings of our minds, making recovery both accessible and entertaining.Art's personal stories add depth and authenticity to the conversation, especially as he navigates the profound grief of losing a child to addiction during the pandemic. He opens up about how he found comfort and creativity through writing, illustrating how humor and shared wisdom can coexist with sorrow to aid healing. By exploring internal reconciliation and the liberation found in truth, Art underscores the universal nature of recovery, emphasizing resilience and the relentless drive to rebuild after life's challenges. In this episode, you will hear:Art Dielhenn's transformation from TV director to author and career coach, using humor to tackle recovery topics.The impact of the pandemic as a catalyst for Art's writing journey and creative expression.Art's personal experiences with grief and addiction, illustrating the healing power of humor and community.Exploration of the universal nature of recovery, focusing on resilience and rebuilding after adversity.Collaboration with artist Clemmy McWilliam-Le Busque to bring Art's vision to life through lively, humorous illustrations.The role of humor in recovery, making heavy topics more approachable and emphasizing the joy found in shared recovery experiences.Follow and Review:We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.Supporting Resources:NovusMindfulLife.comhttps://www.theaddictedmind.com/community Episode CreditsIf you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you.We want to hear from you. Leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmindDisclaimerSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Worksheet: Uncovering Your SuperpowersWhat if you had superpowers you didn't even know existed? What if the very qualities that could transform your recovery have been hiding inside you all along?In this powerful episode, hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind flip the script on traditional recovery thinking. Instead of endlessly focusing on what's broken, they show you how to uncover what's strong. Using tools from positive psychology, they guide you through a process of discovering your hidden character strengths – those amazing qualities that addiction and trauma may have buried but never destroyed.If you've ever looked in the mirror and only seen an addict, a failure, or someone who's fundamentally flawed, this episode is for you. The hosts understand that feeling of being defined entirely by your struggles. They know what it's like when your identity feels completely wrapped up in setbacks and mistakes.But here's the truth they want you to know: You are not broken. You have incredible strengths that are just waiting to be rediscovered.The episode introduces you to groundbreaking research by Dr. Martin Seligman and Dr. Christopher Peterson, who identified 24 character strengths that every person possesses. These aren't made-up feel-good concepts – they're scientifically proven traits like bravery, creativity, kindness, perseverance, and hope that exist in all of us to varying degrees.The research is clear: when people identify their top strengths and find new ways to use them daily, they experience lasting increases in happiness and decreases in depression. This isn't just positive thinking – it's an evidence-based path to wellness.During the episode, you'll participate in a real-time exercise to identify one of your own strengths. The hosts walk you through remembering a time when you overcame a challenge, then help you pinpoint the inner quality that made it possible. Was it courage? Creativity? Persistence? Kindness?But identifying your strength is just the beginning. The real magic happens when you consciously use these strengths in new ways. The hosts provide concrete examples: if your strength is curiosity, spend 15 minutes learning something new. If it's kindness, buy coffee for the person behind you in line. If it's bravery, speak up in that meeting where you usually stay quiet.This approach fundamentally changes how you see yourself. Instead of being someone who needs to fix all their broken parts, you become someone who can build on their existing strengths. You shift from asking "What's wrong with me?" to "What's strong with me?"The hosts are careful to point out this isn't about ignoring challenges or pretending weaknesses don't exist. It's about building up your strengths so you have a solid foundation from which to face difficulties. Both sides of the coin are true – you have challenges AND you have incredible strengths.People in long-term recovery who tap into their strengths become amazingly creative, strong, and resilient. When they start relying on these positive characteristics, transformation happens.This episode includes practical action steps you can take right now, plus access to a free worksheet that guides you through identifying your strengths and planning specific ways to use them. It's designed to help you live the life you want to live in recovery.If you're tired of focusing only on what's wrong and ready to start building on what's right, this episode offers a powerful new perspective. Your strengths have been there all along – it's time to uncover them and put them to work.Key TopicsThe problem with deficit-focused thinking – why constantly focusing on flaws keeps you stuckIntroduction to positive psychology – the science of what makes life worth livingThe 24 universal character strengths – research-backed traits everyone possessesReal-time strength identification exercise – discovering your own superpowers through reflectionPractical implementation strategies – specific ways to use your strengths in daily lifeShifting self-perception – moving from "what's wrong with me" to "what's strong with me"Building on strengths vs. fixing weaknesses – a balanced approach to personal growthStep 4: Timestamp List (7 Key Moments)[00:01:00] - The hidden superpower thought experiment and why we focus on defects instead of strengths[00:03:00] - The narrative of deficits: how seeing yourself as fundamentally flawed keeps you stuck[00:05:00] - Introduction to positive psychology and the 24 universal character strengths research[00:07:00] - Real-life examples of people in recovery tapping into their strengths[00:08:00] - Interactive exercise: identifying your own strength through proud moment reflection[00:09:00] - Taking action: specific ways to use your identified strength this week[00:11:00] - How focusing on strengths fundamentally changes your self-perceptionSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this compelling episode, host Duane Osterlind sits down with Mo Edjlali, founder of The Mindful Leader and author of the groundbreaking book "Open MBSR: Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction - Reimagining the Future of Mindfulness." Mo sounds an important alarm about a rarely discussed topic in the wellness world: how guided meditations, when overused or misapplied, can actually cause harm.This conversation dives deep into Mo's personal transformation from a high-pressure tech entrepreneur to a mindfulness advocate, and his critical examination of the modern mindfulness movement. Mo doesn't shy away from controversial topics, exploring issues like power dynamics, Buddhist entanglements, rigid frameworks, spiritual materialism, and the commoditization of ancient practices.Drawing on 15 years of experience in the field, Mo offers a transformative framework rooted in open collaboration, collective wisdom, and genuine secular integrity. This is a nuanced conversation that challenges listeners to think critically about mindfulness while honoring its profound potential for healing and growth.Key TakeawaysMindfulness requires balance: The nine attitudes of mindfulness can become harmful when taken to extremes without dialectical thinkingCommunity is essential: Practicing mindfulness in isolation misses the powerful healing potential of collective practiceTransparency matters: The field needs honest conversations about Buddhist influences and commercial interestsCritical thinking strengthens practice: Questioning and debate enhance rather than diminish the mindfulness movementSmall steps create change: Even in dark moments, simple actions like making your bed can be the foundation for healingAbout Mo EdjlaliMo Edjlali is the founder of The Mindful Leader and author of "Open MBSR: Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction - Reimagining the Future of Mindfulness." With a background in computer engineering and entrepreneurship, Mo discovered mindfulness during a personal crisis in 2008-2009. He has since become a leading voice for ethical, community-based approaches to mindfulness practice.Mo's organization is the largest provider of MBSR (Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction) training internationally, with 550 alumni from organizations like Headspace, Hilton, Starbucks, and Navy Federal. He pioneered online mindfulness training and created the world's first global mindfulness community center through the Meditate Together platform.ResourcesMo's Website: mindfulleader.orgBook Landing Page: openmbsr.comConnect on LinkedIn: Mo EdjlaliBook: "Open MBSR: Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction - Reimagining the Future of Mindfulness" (Available on Amazon and local bookstores)Connect with The Addicted Mind PodcastWebsite: theaddictivemind.comSocial Media: Facebook, Instagram, Blue Sky, and ThreadsIf this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might benefit and consider leaving a rating and review to help us reach more people who need these conversations.This episode offers a rare, honest examination of both the profound benefits and potential pitfalls of mindfulness practice. Mo's willingness to challenge the status quo while maintaining deep respect for the transformative power of these ancient practices makes this a must-listen for anyone interested in authentic spiritual growth and mental health.If you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery CenterNovusMindfulLife.comWe want to hear from you. Leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmindDisclaimerSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Worksheet: Stages of ChangeThis episode dives into the Stages of Change Model, a powerful tool for understanding and navigating personal growth. Hosts Duane and Eric explore the six stages: pre-contemplation, contemplation, preparation, action, maintenance, and relapse. They emphasize the model's humanistic approach, acknowledging that change is a non-linear journey with room for setbacks and restarts. Learn how to identify your current stage, overcome obstacles, and move towards lasting positive change.Key Topics:The six stages of the Stages of Change ModelRecognizing your current stage of changeOvercoming challenges in each stageMoving from contemplation to actionThe role of relapse in the change processApplying the model to personal growth and addiction recoveryTimestamps:Introduction (00:00-01:00)Overview of the Stages of Change Model (01:00-03:32)Deep Dive into the Six Stages (03:32-10:47)Addressing Criticisms and Benefits of the Model (10:47-12:26)Practical Applications and Resources (12:26-15:39)See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When Lisa Smith's family was gripped by the terror of her son's addiction, they felt like mere spectators to a relentless storm. But through her groundbreaking concept of parallel recovery, they began to reclaim their roles as active participants in the healing process. In this compelling episode, we sit down with Lisa, a TEDx speaker and author, who shares her family's transformative journey. She illuminates how families can support their loved ones suffering from addiction and mental health challenges by first addressing their own fears and recovery needs. Her insights shed light on addiction as a family disease and underscore the importance of structured recovery to create a more supportive environment.Our conversation with Lisa also navigates the vital principles of radical acceptance and compassionate boundaries in the recovery journey. She delves into the layered challenges families face, including confronting generational trauma and the systemic issues making family recovery services less accessible. We explore how stepping back from fear-driven responses can foster healthier interactions, and how setting boundaries, rather than being acts of harshness, can be deeply compassionate. Lisa’s message is clear: when families engage in recovery, they not only aid their loved ones but enrich their own lives and relationships, crafting a nurturing space for healing amidst adversity.In this episode, you will hear:The concept of parallel recovery and its impact on family dynamics in addictionLisa Smith's personal journey with her son's addiction and mental health challengesImportance of addressing addiction as a family disease and involving families in the recovery processExploration of radical acceptance and compassionate boundaries in healingChallenges families face, including generational trauma and systemic barriers to recovery servicesFollow and Review:We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.Supporting Resources:TedTalk: The Power of Parallel Recovery | Lisa SmithLisa's WebsiteParallel Recovery: A Guide for Those Who Love Someone with Substance Use Disorder, TAMNovusMindfulLife.comhttps://www.theaddictedmind.com/community Episode CreditsIf you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Worksheet: Your Relapse Prevention BlueprintWhat if you could stop living in constant fear of relapse and start building real confidence in your recovery?In this powerful episode of The Addicted Mind Podcast Plus, hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind reveal how to create a practical relapse prevention blueprint that transforms your recovery from a terrifying tightrope walk into a journey of empowerment and self-trust.Too many people in recovery live with that constant, low-level hum of anxiety asking "What if I mess up?" This fear doesn't protect you—it actually makes you more vulnerable by keeping you rigid, stressed, and unable to think clearly when challenges arise.The Osterlinds share a game-changing approach rooted in cognitive behavioral therapy that shifts you from reactive fear to proactive planning. Instead of hoping you'll stay strong in difficult moments, you'll have a written plan for exactly what to do when you feel most vulnerable.This episode breaks down the dangerous "all or nothing" thinking that turns a momentary slip into a complete relapse. You'll learn why the National Institute of Drug Abuse defines addiction as a "chronic relapsing disorder"—not to discourage you, but to remove the crushing shame that keeps people stuck and help you plan skillfully for real-life challenges.The hosts walk you through creating your own personalized coping cards for high-risk situations, whether that's the excited energy you feel on Friday afternoons or the moment an old friend calls to invite you out. You'll discover how to identify your unique internal and external triggers and develop specific, actionable responses for each one.Most importantly, this episode reframes relapse from a moral failure to valuable data that makes your blueprint stronger. When you approach recovery this way, you're not just surviving—you're actively managing your healing journey with compassion, wisdom, and strategic planning.Your recovery is worth planning for, and this episode gives you the tools to do exactly that.Key Topics• Creating a proactive relapse prevention blueprint instead of living in fear • Identifying your personal high-risk situations and unique triggers • Building specific coping cards with actionable strategies • Overcoming "all or nothing" thinking that turns slips into full relapses • Using your brain when it's "online" to prepare for when it's "offline" • Reframing relapse as learning data rather than moral failure • Moving from passive victim of triggers to active manager of recoveryTimestamps[00:01:00] - Introduction: The tightrope analogy and why fear-based recovery doesn't work [00:03:00] - The crushing weight of "all or nothing" thinking after a slip [00:06:00] - The proactive prevention model: Using your brain when it's online [00:09:00] - Getting practical: How to build your first blueprint component [00:12:00] - Eric's personal example: Friday afternoon triggers and planning ahead [00:15:00] - The power of grace: Why slips don't have to become full relapses [00:16:00] - Action steps and accessing the free worksheetSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you found out earlier on in your youth that you actually have a genetic propensity toward addiction, would you have made decisions a lot differently? Addiction is a bio-psycho-social model, but we don’t really look at the biology part of it. Sometimes, we have to look at the physiology of things to understand addiction better. And there has to be a paradigm shift in thinking about how we operate and exist in this world. On today’s episode, Duane speaks with Dr. Evelyn Higgins about genes and biomarkers, how they influence our behavior, how they play out in addiction, and why knowing about this part of ourselves is an important step in addiction treatment and recovery. Dr. Evelyn Higgins is the founder and CEO of Wired For Addiction and a recognized international expert in the epidemiology of addiction. With 34 years in clinical practice, Dr. Higgins has spent over 16 years dedicated to research and development in the science of addiction recovery, and she finds herself at the nexus of epigenetics, neuroscience, and addiction. In this episode, you will hear:What it means to look at errors in genetic codingEpigenetics and aberrant behaviorsWhy addiction is not a moral flaw, but a diseaseThe first step is getting objective information.The common genetic markers of addictionHow seeing addiction from a biological perspective impacts the familiesFollow and Review:We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.Supporting Resources:Wired For AddictionDr. Higgins’ TEDTalk: NovusMindfulLife.comhttps://www.theaddictedmind.com/community Follow and Review: We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast. If you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery CenterNovusMindfulLife.comWe want to hear from you. Leave us a message or ask us a question: https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmindDisclaimerSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Worksheet: Riding the Wave with TIPPPicture this: Your heart is pounding so hard you can hear it in your ears. Your vision starts to tunnel. A wave of pure panic or white-hot anger is washing over every nerve in your body, and all you can think about is doing something—anything—to make it stop.We've all been there. That moment where one decision could change everything. Maybe it's reaching for that drink, lashing out at someone you love, or spiraling into a shame cycle that feels impossible to escape.What if there was a way to survive these moments without making them worse? What if you could actually hack your own nervous system to ride out the storm?In this episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind break down TIPP—four powerful crisis survival skills from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) that can literally save your life in these overwhelming moments.These aren't feel-good techniques designed to make you happy. They're emergency tools designed to help you survive a crisis without acting on destructive urges. Each skill works by targeting your body's nervous system in a specific way, giving you concrete actions to take when your emotions feel completely out of control.From the mammalian dive reflex that instantly slows your racing heart, to the surprising power of 60-second intense exercise that burns off adrenaline, you'll learn exactly how to use your body's own wiring to calm yourself down. The brothers also dive into the science behind why longer exhales activate your "rest and digest" system, and how paired muscle relaxation can release stored tension in minutes.But here's the real power: every single time you choose these skills instead of your old destructive behaviors, you're rewiring your brain. You're proving to yourself that you can feel intense pain and survive it without escaping into substances or harmful actions.Whether you're in recovery from addiction, dealing with trauma, or just tired of making decisions in emotional moments that you later regret, these four simple techniques could be game-changers. The best part? You can start using them today.Don't miss the free worksheet download that breaks down each skill with step-by-step instructions you can use in your next crisis moment.Worksheet: Riding the Wave with TIPPKey TopicsThe TIPP Crisis Survival Method - Four science-backed techniques to survive overwhelming emotionsTemperature Technique - Using cold water and ice to activate your mammalian dive reflexIntense Exercise - How 60 seconds of movement burns off dangerous adrenaline surgesPaced Breathing - The nervous system hack that only requires controlling your lungsPaired Muscle Relaxation - Releasing stored tension through breath and muscle workBrain Rewiring Through Crisis Survival - How each successful use builds long-term resilienceDBT and Distress Tolerance - Understanding the therapy approach that created these toolsTimestamp Guide[00:01:00] - The Crisis Moment: What overwhelming emotions feel like and why we need survival skills[00:03:00] - Introduction to DBT: The therapy that balances acceptance and change for real results[00:05:00] - Distress Tolerance Explained: Why these skills survive crises instead of creating happiness[00:08:00] - Temperature Technique: Using cold water to activate your biological brake pedal[00:10:00] - Intense Exercise: How 60 seconds of movement matches and burns off emotional energy[00:12:00] - Paced Breathing: The only organ you can control that connects both nervous systems[00:16:00] - Long-term Brain Rewiring: How crisis survival skills build lasting recovery strengthSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Join us for an enriching conversation with Dr. Diana Hill, a leading voice in the world of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), as she shares insights from her latest book, "Wise Effort: How to Focus Your Genius Energy on What Matters Most". Dr. Hill leads us on her personal journey from cognitive behavioral therapy to ACT, offering a fresh perspective on how shifting our relationship with thoughts can bring profound change. This episode promises to redefine your understanding of mental well-being by highlighting ACT's focus on psychological flexibility and values-driven living.Dr. Hill artfully explores the fusion of scientific analysis and human compassion in therapeutic practices. She guides us through the complex realm of shame, an emotion deeply rooted in our evolutionary past, and explains how confronting it can pave the way for healing and deeper connections. Through this lens, we consider how integrating scientific principles with personal relevance can transform mental health treatment into a relatable, effective process. This conversation is a testament to how ACT can be a powerful tool for anyone seeking to harness both heart and science in their healing journey.In this episode, you will hear:Dr. Diana Hill on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and her book "Wise Effort: How to Focus Your Genius Energy on What Matters Most."ACT's focus on psychological flexibility and values-driven living, distinct from traditional cognitive behavioral therapy.Scientific rigor with compassion to address and transform shame in therapy.Aligning talents with core values for personal growth through "wise effort."The importance of releasing outdated narratives for creativity and development.Practical strategies and questions for purposeful energy and talent direction.Follow and Review:We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.Supporting Resources:Dr. Hill's WebsiteDr. Hill's PodcastWise Effort Book NovusMindfulLife.comhttps://www.theaddictedmind.com/community Episode CreditsIf you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Download: The Worksheet ACEIn this episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, Duane and Eric Osterlind dive into the groundbreaking ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences) study. This research revealed how childhood trauma significantly impacts mental, physical, and emotional health in adulthood. By exploring the origins, findings, and implications of the study, they discuss how early experiences of abuse, neglect, and household dysfunction shape our lives. The episode also provides practical steps for recognizing and addressing these traumas, offering hope and tools for those struggling with addiction and mental health issues. Join us to understand the profound connection between childhood experiences and adult well-being.Key Topics- Introduction to the ACEs study and its significance.- Types of adverse childhood experiences (abuse, neglect, household dysfunction).- The impact of ACEs on adult mental and physical health.- Recognizing hidden forms of trauma and their long-term effects.- Practical steps for healing from childhood trauma.Timestamps1. [00:01:00] – Introduction and significance of the ACEs study.2. [00:02:28] – History and inception of the ACEs study by Dr. Vincent Felitti.3. [00:04:21] – Types of adverse childhood experiences.4. [00:06:25] – Impact of ACEs on adult health and well-being.5. [00:09:38] – Recognizing hidden forms of trauma.6. [00:13:23] – Steps to address and heal from childhood trauma.7. [00:17:11] – Summary and resources for further help.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Brad Sorte, co-founder of Sober Companion AI, shares his remarkable journey from battling addiction to harnessing the power of AI to transform recovery processes. With nearly two decades of experience under his belt, Brad provides insights into how AI is making addiction treatment more personal and accessible. By integrating compassionate care with advanced technology, AI is opening doors to treatment for more individuals and families, offering new hope and reshaping therapeutic interactions.Our conversation takes a closer look at AI's broader applications in family education and support services. With the rise of tools like ChatGPT, Brad envisions a world where conversational AI companions serve as 24-hour coaches for families, guiding them through challenges and helping manage boundaries and anxiety. These AI advancements strive to reconstruct family support structures, particularly in a post-COVID landscape, addressing the entire familial ecosystem to prevent generational issues and foster holistic healing.In this episode, you will hear:Exploration of AI's transformative role in addiction recovery, emphasizing personal and accessible treatmentInsights from Brad Sorte on integrating compassionate care with technology in mental health servicesAI's potential in democratizing family education and support, using conversational AI as 24-hour coachesEthical considerations and risks of forming dependencies on AI in mental health careUse of real-time data from mobile devices for early detection and intervention in addiction relapseFollow and Review:We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.Supporting Resources:SCAINovusMindfulLife.comhttps://www.theaddictedmind.com/community Episode CreditsIf you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Download: Thought Challenge WorksheetWhat if the harshest critic you've ever known lives inside your own head?That relentless voice telling you you're not good enough, you'll never change, you always mess things up – it's been running the show for far too long. In this eye-opening episode, hosts Duane and Eric reveal how your inner critic has been acting as judge, jury, and executioner of your self-worth, especially during addiction and trauma recovery.But here's the game-changer: you don't have to be a victim of your own thoughts anymore.Using powerful techniques from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), this episode teaches you how to become your own defense attorney. You'll learn to identify the sneaky cognitive distortions that fuel your inner critic – like all-or-nothing thinking, catastrophizing, and emotional reasoning – and discover a simple but life-changing method to challenge these automatic negative thoughts.This isn't about toxic positivity or pretending everything is fine. It's about finding truth, balance, and compassion in how you talk to yourself. Duane and Eric walk you through a practical thought-challenging exercise that you can use immediately when that critic gets loud.The hosts share real examples of how to transform thoughts like "I'm a complete failure" into more balanced perspectives that acknowledge your pain while opening doors to healing and growth. They explain why our feelings, though valid, aren't always accurate reflections of reality – and how emotional reasoning can trap us in cycles of shame and relapse.Every time you challenge a negative thought and find counter-evidence, you're literally rewiring your brain. You're building new neural pathways that are more balanced and resilient. Most importantly, you're shifting from being a passive victim of your thoughts to becoming an active participant in your emotional wellbeing.Ready to put your inner critic on trial? This episode gives you the tools to start today.Key TopicsCognitive distortions - identifying black-and-white thinking, catastrophizing, and emotional reasoning The CBT thought-challenging method - questioning evidence for and against negative thoughts Emotional reasoning trap - why feeling something doesn't make it factually true Creating balanced alternatives - reframing thoughts without toxic positivity Self-compassion techniques - asking "what would I tell a dear friend?" Neural pathway rewiring - how challenging thoughts physically changes your brain Practical worksheet tool - step-by-step guide for thought recordsTimestamps[00:01:00] - Meet your harshest critic (spoiler: it's you) [00:03:00] - The pain of living under constant internal negativity [00:06:00] - Introduction to cognitive restructuring and CBT techniques [00:07:00] - Common cognitive distortions in addiction recovery [00:10:00] - The thought-challenging courtroom method [00:13:00] - Creating balanced alternative thoughts (real examples) [00:16:00] - Free worksheet download and practical next stepsSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Melissa Fletcher Stoeltje’s story is one that resonates deeply with anyone who has experienced the hidden struggles of addiction. Imagine maintaining a successful career while secretly battling high-functioning alcoholism. Melissa opens up about her journey from denial to recovery, sharing the pivotal moments that led her to seek help. Her memoir, "Drunk Love: A Marriage Under the Influence," serves as a testament to the resilience required to overcome such a gripping hold on life. Her candid reflections offer a beacon of hope for those facing similar battles or supporting loved ones on their path to sobriety.Navigating a marriage entangled in the web of alcoholism presents its own set of challenges. Melissa and her husband share their experience of confronting the underlying issues masked by alcohol. Through therapy and recovery programs, they learned to rebuild their relationship, finding healthier ways to communicate and support each other. This episode explores themes of personal well-being, the importance of choosing the right therapeutic support, and the powerful transformation that sobriety can bring to personal and familial dynamics. Rediscovering one's identity and passions, such as Melissa's love for writing, are highlighted as key elements in the journey to recovery.In this episode, you will hear:Melissa Fletcher Stoeltje's battle with high-functioning alcoholism and the role of denial.The impact of alcoholism on Melissa's marriage and the journey to recovery and healing.Rediscovering personal identity and passions through sobriety, with a focus on Melissa's love for writing.The significance of choosing the right therapeutic support and the potential necessity of ending unhealthy relationships.Embracing radical honesty in recovery and the surprising support from colleagues.The transformative power of community and fellowship in overcoming addiction.Follow and Review:We’d love for you to follow us if you haven’t yet. Click that purple '+' in the top right corner of your Apple Podcasts app. We’d love it even more if you could drop a review or 5-star rating over on Apple Podcasts. Simply select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” then a quick line with your favorite part of the episode. It only takes a second and it helps spread the word about the podcast.Supporting Resources:Drunk Love: A Marriage under the InfluenceSobertown InterviewNovusMindfulLife.comhttps://www.theaddictedmind.com/community Episode CreditsIf you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Emerald City Productions. They helped me grow and produce the podcast you are listening to right now. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com Let them know we sent you.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Download: The ANT Catcher WorksheetHave you ever felt like your mind was invaded by a constant stream of tiny, negative whispers? Like there's an army of ants crawling through your head, each one carrying a toxic message that you're not good enough, you can't handle it, or you're going to fail?In this powerful episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, hosts Duane and Eric reveal the hidden enemy that might be sabotaging your recovery without you even knowing it. They introduce you to ANTs – Automatic Negative Thoughts – those lightning-fast, barely noticeable thoughts that create a vicious cycle of pain, triggers, and destructive behaviors.Drawing from cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), one of the most research-backed therapeutic approaches available, the hosts break down the critical connection between your thoughts, feelings, and actions. They explain how changing just one corner of this triangle can transform your entire emotional experience.But here's the game-changer: most of us try to change our behaviors through pure willpower, completely missing the thoughts that are actually driving the whole cycle. These automatic thoughts happen so fast they're almost subconscious, yet they have the power to hijack your entire day – and your recovery.Duane and Eric don't just identify the problem; they give you practical tools to fight back. They introduce the concept of "metacognition" – thinking about your thinking – and show you how to become a scientist of your own mind. By learning to spot these mental ants, you create psychological distance from them and stop seeing them as the absolute truth.The episode includes a 24-hour mission designed to help you become an "ant hunter," complete with specific steps for catching and labeling these thoughts without judgment. You'll learn why physically writing down these thoughts is so powerful and how this simple practice can be the foundation for lasting change.Whether you're in recovery, supporting someone who is, or just tired of being controlled by negative self-talk, this episode offers hope and practical strategies. The hosts provide a free worksheet to help you track your progress and emphasize the importance of being gentle with yourself as you discover these hidden patterns.This isn't about positive thinking or willpower – it's about awareness, understanding, and gradually taking back control of your mental landscape one thought at a time.Key Topics• ANTs Explained: What automatic negative thoughts are and how they operate below conscious awareness • The CBT Triangle: How thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are interconnected and influence each other • Metacognition Techniques: Learning to observe your thoughts rather than being controlled by them • The Ant Spotting Exercise: Practical 24-hour mission to catch and label negative thoughts • Why Willpower Fails: Understanding why behavior change without addressing thoughts doesn't work • Writing vs. Thinking: The power of physically recording your thoughts for lasting change • Self-Compassion in Recovery: Being gentle with yourself while developing awarenessKey Timestamps• [00:01:00] - Introduction to the "mental infestation" concept and ANTs metaphor • [00:03:00] - Real examples of how automatic negative thoughts trigger destructive behaviors • [00:06:00] - Introduction to CBT and the thoughts-feelings-behaviors triangle • [00:07:00] - Dr. Aaron Beck's research and the science behind automatic negative thoughts • [00:09:00] - The concept of "defusion" - separating yourself from your thoughts • [00:12:00] - The 24-hour ANT spotting mission explained step-by-step • [00:14:00] - Practical tips for tracking thoughts and the importance of writing them downSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.