The Adult Chair

Lately, there’s been something stirring in my soul.   I don’t know exactly what it is yet, but I feel like it’s going to be BIG – like something new is coming, and I need to go inward and listen for what it is.    Have you ever felt this way? When this happens, I believe it’s our soul tugging at us, trying to tell us something about our mission and purpose on the planet.   And I have made it my intention to always listen when the soul calls.   It’s something I like to call “soul alignment” — a practice of going within and listening to the soul to get clarity on who we are and our illuminated path.   In this episode, I’m teaching you how to tune into the voice of your soul (the part of you that is seated squarely in the Adult Chair), why this is so important and how to clear the blocks that stand between us and our souls.   The five simple practices I share in today’s podcast will help you hear your soul’s whispers and nudges, know and feel the next steps on your path and take aligned action — not from the Adolescent Chair but from the Adult Chair.   Listen to discover: The power of “soul alignment” The importance of “deep listening” How the ego gets in the way of listening 5 steps to listen to your soul How to unlock greater passion, purpose and peace The ego is rooted in fear, lives in the past and future and often screams at us in a loud voice. The soul lives in the present moment and speaks to us in a whisper, which is why we have to get still to hear it.    This episode will help you get out of your mind and into your heart, go inward and listen deeply to find your true purpose and guidance from within.   “When we align with our soul, we are guided.” - Michelle Chalfant   "When you're aligned with your soul, even the things that feel – to the ego – bad, what we find is that these things are the most beautiful gifts that we could have ever received." - Michelle Chalfant   “What your soul has in store for you is unlike anyone else on the entire planet.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Meditation is simply a practice that brings you into the present moment.” - Michelle Chalfant   “You’re going to feel nudges or feel pulled or moved to do things. That’s your soul. Pay attention.” - Michelle Chalfant    “Your soul’s not going to talk to you from your head. Your soul’s going to talk to you through your heart.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Ego lives in past and future only. Soul lives in present moment only.” - Michelle Chalfant    MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

What if the secret to better sleep, less inflammation and reduced pain was as simple as walking barefoot in the grass?   Both the earth and our bodies have an electrical charge, and “grounding” (or “earthing”) refers to the practice of connecting our bodies to the earth – keeping the body’s charge at an optimal balance and unlocking tremendous health benefits.   If you think this sounds like something made up by a crunchy tree hugger, think again: the father of grounding, Clint Ober, is actually a cable guy.   Clint had a strong connection with nature from growing up on a ranch out West and great knowledge about how electrical currents work from his career in the cable industry.    One day, he saw a group of tourists all wearing thick rubber-soled shoes (a non-conductive material), and it hit him:   Could our modern lifestyle be keeping us from grounding into the earth?   This has led to a new frontier of health research, with very promising findings about the impact of grounding on inflammation, stress, autoimmune disease and more. It’s the real deal!    I had the chance to talk to the man himself, Clint Ober, about how grounding works in the body, why our society is so ungrounded, the many, many health benefits of grounding and how anyone can start grounding – for FREE and today.   Listen to discover: What earthing and grounding is Why our bodies need to be connected to the earth's electrical charge How grounding works in our immune system The positive effect grounding can have on pain and chronic disease  How you can start grounding today Grounding is so simple – it literally just requires going outside with bare feet (or conductive shoes).   And unlike so many health hacks or miracle cures on the market, this isn’t something to be added to your health…instead, it’s a return.    A return to nature, our design and the natural harmony that occurs when we’re connected to our bodies and the earth.    "The earth is basically electrical." - Clint Ober   "We can heal these illnesses we're walking around with by grounding." - Michelle Chalfant    "We've totally insulated ourselves from the earth when we're wearing shoes." - Clint Ober    "You can't have inflammation in a grounded object." - Clint Ober   "As soon as you get grounded, then you have the earth's energy all around your body, and it pushes away all of this environmental stuff." - Clint Ober   "If you want to take 10 years off your [age], just go outdoors and stick your bare feet on the grass." - Clint Ober   "The body is always striving to heal itself. Always. We are in the way." - Michelle Chalfant   LINKS & RESOURCES    Clint Ober Earthing and Grounding Products https://www.earthing.com/   Earthing Studies https://earthinginstitute.net/    Earthing Movie https://www.earthingmovie.com/   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

Have you ever gotten a “gut feeling” that something was going to happen…and then it did? Or sensed that someone wasn’t trustworthy or that you shouldn’t move forward with a decision?    This is your intuition at work!   Intuition is something we all possess, and something we’ve all undeniably experienced, but how it works remains largely a mystery. Is it something spiritual? Psychological? Biological?    Laura Day grew up feeling like her brain was “different” in some way. She knew she had ADD and a number of head injuries, but she didn’t know she had an uncanny intuition until one day, she saw a television program about ESP research. She immediately related to it, picked up the phone, called the researchers and said, “I can do that.” For years, she participated in research studies about intuition and how it works.   Since then, Laura has built a high-profile career using her intuition for large companies and organizations and teaching others how to develop and tap into their innate intuition. A math, science and data nerd, Laura had no preconceived notions about intuition, which has given her a practical, grounded approach to learning and teaching about this ability.   In this episode, Laura shares her insights into what intuition actually is, how to tell the difference between intuition and fear, how to enhance your intuition and why intuition alone isn’t enough – we must direct it towards action.    If you’ve ever been curious about how those gut feelings and seemingly “sixth senses” work, you’re going to love this episode!    Listen to discover: Whether or not we’re all born intuitive How to tell the difference between intuition and fear Why we all need to learn how to use our intuition  How to enhance and direct your intuition  The power of moving from intuition to action  Laura believes intuition is less a sixth sense and more an extension of the five senses we already have. But like a muscle, we have to exercise it and develop it.   When we learn to connect more deeply with ourselves and pay attention to what’s going on around us using all five senses, it’s amazing what we can uncover – and how that can help us direct our lives and relationships towards greater wisdom and wellbeing.   “We are all born intuitive.” - Laura Day   "If it's a persistent fear, it's not intuition. Intuition is accurate, immediate and actionable." - Laura Day   "It's a misnomer that intuition is a sixth sense. It's not. It's an extension of all of your senses in time and in space." - Laura Day   “So many people stay stuck, and they don’t realize that they are powerful creators and that they can get their way out of it.” - Michelle Chalfant    "The first thing you do to open your intuition or direct it effectively is you have goals." - Laura Day   "Intuition will show it to you, but it won't fix it for you." - Laura Day   LINKS & RESOURCES    Laura Day Website https://lauraday.com/    Laura Day Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lauradayintuit/    MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

2023 is behind us, and 2024 is here! The new year represents a clean slate and new chapter where you can begin manifesting the year – the life – you want.    I believe that, as creative beings, we are always in “creation mode.” Like gravity, we can’t turn the laws of manifestation on and off – they just are.    So, then the question becomes: What do you really want? And what is it that you are creating with every thought you have and word you speak?   In this episode, I’m giving you everything you need to get more intentional with your creations this year, whether you have a dream you’re finally ready to manifest or there’s something you want to change in your current reality, beginning with the words you’re telling yourself.   We’re covering four keys for POWERFUL manifestation, how to tune your “energetic dial” into the “radio frequency” of your deepest desires and a 10-step process to help you clear the unconscious beliefs that are blocking your creations…this is the missing piece to manifestation that no one talks about but makes ALL the difference!   Listen to discover: How manifestation works Getting clear on what it is you truly want Why things aren’t manifesting in your life The missing piece of manifestation that no one talks about  A 10-step process to clear blocks and barriers to manifesting Four powerful keys to manifestation  You’re going to want to get pen and paper out for this one, because I’m giving you all the details, all the nuances and all the secrets to manifestation that I’ve learned over the years – with real-life examples to help you begin applying these principles today.   Whatever it is you want in 2024 (and even if you’re still figuring that out), this episode is step 1 to finding freedom from limiting beliefs, clearing unconscious blocks and changing the trajectory of your life this year.   “We are beings that are able to create. And we create our reality with every thought we have.” - Michelle Chalfant   "Once you clear your unconscious blocks, then you can attract in your creation." - Michelle Chalfant   "We have to have what I call a 'consistent manifesting mindset.'" - Michelle Chalfant   "Everything is possible – everything and anything. You just have to line up with it." - Michelle Chalfant   "The more you focus and expect and live as if this creation is coming in and already here, the faster it will come to you." - Michelle Chalfant   "I promise you can get and create the life that you want. Your thoughts and your spoken words are powerful. So, be really mindful of what you're saying." - Michelle Chalfant   "We're always in creation mode. It does not turn itself on and off, just like gravity. So, if you don't like your reality, you do have the power to change it with your thoughts." - Michelle Chalfant   LINKS & RESOURCES    2024 The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification -  Doors Close January 5! https://theadultchair.com/certification   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

Kute Blackson is no stranger to miracles. Growing up the son of a spiritual leader in Ghana, Africa, Kute witnessed healings and transformation that were nothing short of awe-inspiring.   But when he realized it wasn’t his calling to take over his father’s ministry in the way his family expected, it led him on a challenging and transformational journey of his own: one in which he discovered the magic of surrender and how it can heal our lives.   In this episode, Kute delivers so much wisdom about what surrender really is (it’s not passive like you might think), the role of the ego in our lives, why the challenges we face are an essential part of our soul’s journey and how to let go and live open to the possibilities – the miracles – life holds for us.   Listen to discover: Kute’s story of courageously following his calling even in the face of adversity Why challenging experiences are essential to our soul’s growth What surrender actually is and why it’s so powerful How to tell when we’re in the flow What to do when you feel stuck and are struggling to surrender Where resistance comes from Why surrender requires grieving what we think we know and how it opens us up to more love and joy Each of us is here with a purpose, and even the difficult moments in our lives hold something important for our growth. When we can relinquish control and what we think our lives should look like, we discover that there are divine possibilities beyond what our mind can even think of or dream up…and what a truly exciting, miraculous journey that is!  “Those challenges [don’t] mean you’re on the wrong path. It sometimes means you’re on the right path; you just have to go through, on a human level, the soul test.” - Kute Blackson   “Forgiveness frees you.” - Michelle Chalfant   “It doesn’t mean that when something difficult is in your path, it’s not God-inspired, soul-inspired.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Life is a university for our soul’s evolution…We’re always succeeding when we’re learning the lessons, even if it’s difficult.” - Kute Blackson   “In our culture, we have this misconception that surrender is weak.” - Kute Blackson   “In true surrender and letting go, what if you actually got more than you could have intended and planned with the limited concept of your own mind?” - Kute Blackson   “Surrender is when we stop trying to force life to fit into our limited idea of what we think it should look like.” - Kute Blackson   “Many of our goals are often projections of unmet needs from our childhood.” - Kute Blackson   “The mind is constantly seeking to understand why…which is another form of control.” - Kute Blackson   “It’s the journey that brings us the happiness.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Many times people think that they’re feeling the feeling, but they’re actually thinking about the feeling.” - Kute Blackson   “To truly surrender requires the willingness to move through the portal of grieving.” - Kute Blackson   LINKS & RESOURCES    Kute Blackson Website https://kuteblackson.com/    Kute Blackson Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kuteblackson/    “The Magic of Surrender” (Kute Blackson Book) https://www.amazon.com/Magic-Surrender-Finding-Courage-Let/dp/0593189094    2024 The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification -  Doors Close January 5! https://theadultchair.com/certification   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Whether it’s eating healthier, getting exercise, starting a meditation practice or staying socially connected, figuring out what to do to be happy might be simple – but actually doing these things and living in a way that lets us experience happiness is much harder. When we know there are things we can do that will make us healthier and happier, why do we struggle to actually do them? Why do we get caught in a cycle of chasing happiness instead of choosing joy, even when we know better? This is what Gretchen Rubin wanted to understand when she began studying happiness and why people form the habits they do.  It turns out that it has everything to do with how we relate to expectations.  Gretchen discovered that there are four different “tendencies” that tell us how different people approach habits and expectations – whether we question expectations, comply with expectations, rebel against expectations or uphold them from within.  We are born with our tendency and there’s no right or wrong way to be, but our ability to pursue happiness and form habits is directly connected to which tendency we’re wired with. In this episode, Gretchen describes each of the four tendencies in detail and ways to work with your type to go after the life you want. She also talks about habit formation and the different approaches to starting a new habit, so you can figure out which one works best for you!  This is so fascinating and has major implications for how we structure our lives, how we work with each other in business and relationships and so much more! Listen to discover: Concrete steps we can take to start boosting our happiness The "four tendencies" personality framework The Upholder, The Obliger, The Questioner and The Rebel – four different ways we all respond to inner and outer expectations How your tendency impacts how you form habits How to overcome resistance and work with your tendency to be as successful and happy as possible Misconceptions about happiness and techniques to form better habits Though it's true that everyone is different in terms of what makes us happy, we're also all different in how we get to the things that make us happy.  When we understand our wiring, we can overcome resistance and set ourselves up to achieve the life we want, in a way that is uniquely ours. "Our physical experience is always going to color our emotional experience." - Gretchen Rubin   "The key to happiness is relationships." - Gretchen Rubin   "Don't suit other people. Suit yourself." - Gretchen Rubin   "I'm a big believer in the genetic roots of personality." - Gretchen Rubin   "We can work with each other to help us all achieve our aims, but sometimes we have to provide a different way from what would work for us." - Gretchen Rubin   "Your communication style would change once you know this."  - Michelle Chalfant    "Happier people are more interested in the problems of the world." - Gretchen Rubin   "You have to take care of yourself. You have to put yourself first." - Michelle Chalfant    "When you're not indulging in a temptation, it goes away." - Gretchen Rubin   LINKS & RESOURCES    Gretchen Rubin Website https://gretchenrubin.com/    Happier Podcast (Gretchen Rubin podcast) https://gretchenrubin.com/podcasts/    Gretchen Rubin Books https://gretchenrubin.com/books/   The Four Tendencies Quiz https://gretchenrubin.com/fourtendencies    The Happier App https://the-happiness-project.com/pages/happier-app    Gretchen Rubin Facebook https://www.facebook.com/GretchenRubin    Gretchen Rubin Instagram https://www.instagram.com/gretchenrubin/   Gretchen Rubin LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/gretchenrubin    2024 The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Doors Close January 5! https://theadultchair.com/certification   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification    Tanasi  https://tanasi.com/  Code ADULT to get 25% off your first order   STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

For too many years, mental health came with a stigma.    It was treated as something “wrong” in the mind, with the psychological and physical looked at entirely separately.    It’s almost as if we forgot that the brain is part of the body – a physical organ that needs care just like our heart, our gut or any other part of our body.    And when we support our brain health, it can have BIG impacts on our mental and emotional health.   Dr. Bisleen Attli is a Cognitive Behavioral Therapy-certified naturopath, which is a fancy way of saying she bridges the world of psychology and physiology to promote mental health and brain health.   She is a wealth of knowledge on how our physical health and our brains are connected, and she digs down to find the root causes of common mental health challenges like depression and anxiety.   In this episode, Dr. Attli breaks down the science behind how food, sleep and even limiting beliefs affect our brain health, why mental health symptoms are often our bodies warning us about a physical imbalance and what you can do to feel better fast.   Listen to discover:   The #1 negative mindset that can affect brain health The common physiological roots of disease How blood sugar is related to brain health and the symptoms of blood sugar dysregulation  Why the gut is considered “the second brain”  How the liver, your hormones, inflammation and even your mitochondria can affect your mental health   There are certainly times where we need more support, and medication might be the right treatment for depression, anxiety or other mental health symptoms.   But when you see your brain as more than just your mind, but also part of your body – something that you listen to, care for and support – you will be able to make informed choices to support both your physical and mental health.    Because you are more than a diagnosis. You are a whole, connected being – mind, body and spirit – and you have more power over how you feel than you might have ever realized.   "A lot of people don't realize how they feel in their bodies has a direct impact on how they feel and think." - Dr. Bisleen Attli   "Your body and your mental health can truly be changed with effort." - Michelle Chalfant   "Something that I'm really big on emphasizing is addressing the root cause of brain health challenges...My big thing is, 'What the heck is happening in your body that is causing you to feel this way?'" - Dr. Bisleen Attli   "When it comes to the mindset piece of things, the number one thing I work on helping women uncover are their limiting beliefs." - Dr. Bisleen Attli   "I cannot tell you how many people have gone to therapists and then come to one of my coaches, and they're like, ‘I got more out of this one session than in my therapy for 10 years'" - Michelle Chalfant   "Whether someone comes to me for anxiety, depression, whatever it is, not only is there stuff happening in the mind, but we also have to understand that there are dysfunctions happening in the body that are causing you to feel how you feel. It's not all in your head." - Dr. Bisleen Attli   "If your blood sugar is all over the place, guess what's following? Your emotions." - Dr. Bisleen Attli   "Eating in a certain way affects your mood. You will find that you are less anxious, you're less moody, less depressed, less sad when you monitor blood sugar." - Michelle Chalfant   "Your gut impacts everything." - Dr. Bisleen Attli   "Good health isn't magical. It's just doing the simple things consistently on a daily basis and making sure you are prioritizing them." - Dr. Bisleen Attli   "It's not selfish to put yourself first. It's actually self-loving...You're going to be a better person if you're healthier – mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually – first. You can help so many more people. You can connect with more people." - Michelle Chalfant     LINKS & RESOURCES   Dr. Bisleen Attli Website https://www.wbhclinic.ca/    Dr. Bisleen Attli Instagram https://www.instagram.com/holisticbraindoctor/    Free 3-Day Adult Chair® Coach Fest https://theadultchair.com/lifecoaching    2024 The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Doors Now Open! https://theadultchair.com/certification   Tanasi  https://tanasi.com/  Code ADULT to get 25% off your first order   Green Chef http://greenchef.com/60adult   Use code 60Adult to get 60% off + 20% off next two months   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

As you think about your life, do you ever wish your story was different? You wish you more of this, less of that, that an event had never happened, that you had done the thing you will always regret not doing.  But what if the story you tell yourself about your life is just as important as the story of what happened to you?  And what if you could change your entire life by consciously changing how you think about your past? LaShonda Walker is a Certified Adult Chair® Coach who has created an incredible healing process called “A New Life Story,” inspired by her training in The Adult Chair® model.  Based on the idea that the challenges we face in our present reality are always connected to something from our past, LaShonda helps people identify the limiting beliefs they carry with them, edit the stories they tell themselves using fact and truth and, as a result, rewrite their entire future…and the futures of the people around them.   Using this process, LaShonda has seen clients get unstuck and make HUGE life changes in just 20 minutes, and I can’t get over how powerful it is. In fact, I asked LaShonda to coach me using her process on air, and she dropped an insight about my life so mind-blowing that it left me speechless!   In this episode, LaShonda breaks down her process step-by-step so you can try this powerful work and begin writing a new story for yourself and your family today. Listen to discover: TAC Coach LaShonda Walker's "A New Life Story" process Why your past determines your present How to replace old stories and limiting beliefs with fact and truth How to edit and rewrite your life story based on who you are today 5 "W" questions to ask yourself when rewriting your story Why doing your work transforms generations  A huge takeaway from what LaShonda shared is that we aren’t just products of our pasts; we’re products of our entire family’s pasts. Sometimes the limiting beliefs and challenges we struggle with aren’t even ours…but they are ours to heal. When we step up and do this work, we can change the legacy of our family for generations to come.  You are the author of your own story, no matter what has happened in your life. What new story do you want to write for yourself today? "I'm finding with my clients that when things are coming up in their present, it is connected to the past. And as we begin to look at that, we discover limiting beliefs that are there." - LaShonda Walker "We don't realize how much we bring from our past." - LaShonda Walker "As you're doing that work of healing the present – your emotions, your triggers, working with those Adolescent stories – as you heal, that healing then begins to transform your legacy." - LaShonda Walker "It's all limiting beliefs from childhood. They're just sitting in there, inside of us. That's why we get so triggered." - Michelle Chalfant "The work is worth it." - LaShonda Walker "You are absolutely asking the right questions and cracking them open for fast transformation and relief from their pain, their emotional disturbance, their limiting beliefs, all of these things." - Michelle Chalfant  "When you are in your power, I truly believe you are in overflow. And when you are in overflow, you are able to then feed and provide and share and help build up others." - LaShonda Walker "We don't just heal as individuals. We heal in community." - LaShonda Walker   LINKS & RESOURCES LaShonda Walker Website https://www.anewlifestorycoaching.com/    LaShonda Walker Instagram https://www.instagram.com/anewlifestorycoach/   A New Life Story Podcast (LaShonda Walker Podcast) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-new-life-story-consciously-uncovering-your/id1701481844    Free 3-Day Adult Chair® Coach Fest https://theadultchair.com/lifecoaching    2024 The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Doors Open December 11  https://theadultchair.com/certification   Tanasi  https://tanasi.com/  Use code ADULT to get 25% off your first order   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

‘Tis the season…for triggers!   At the holidays, stress, drinking, spending money and spending time with others all increase. And with that, comes a decrease in patience, sleep, time for self and all the things that make us more resilient to stress.   Add in the fact that we tend to be around people we aren’t normally around for longer periods of time, and it’s a landmine for triggers.    But as you know, I love triggers because they are such a powerful opportunity to look at and work on our limiting beliefs.    So, I invite you to view this year’s triggers as a holiday gift…a chance to not only learn about yourself but eradicate triggers for good.   Don’t worry: I’m not sending you out there without a plan. I’m giving you 10 steps to work with a trigger so you can be prepared for whatever comes your way this holiday season.    The first four steps will help you regulate your nervous system, calm down and come back into balance when triggered. These are a lifesaver if you’re at a gathering where you need to keep your cool until you can work on the trigger!   Then the last six steps will teach you exactly how to work with your triggers so you can heal the limiting beliefs beneath them, get unstuck and get triggered a whole lot less in the future.   Listen to discover: Why the holidays are a prime time for triggers What a trigger is and where they come from  Why triggers are an amazing opportunity to work with limiting beliefs The difference between a trigger and a true emotion 10 steps to work with a trigger Sure, maybe triggers are like finding a pair of socks wrapped up under the tree – not what you wanted, but what you needed. They’re still a gift!  I hope you discover so much about yourself this holiday season and transform those triggers so you can live with more peace all year long!  “That is what a trigger is: it is a belief that I have about myself.” - Michelle Chalfant    “Triggers are a way to help us to find and identify limiting beliefs that we have about ourselves.” - Michelle Chalfant    "A trigger is something that we carry with us…When you can move on from something, it's not a trigger.” - Michelle Chalfant    “More than likely, most of these beliefs – crazy enough – are from the age of zero to six. And Carl Jung says the average age is actually three, where these beliefs have been planted into the unconscious mind.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Your breath is your savior because it will help you to stay present. It helps to keep you slow. It helps to rebalance the nervous system.” - Michelle Chalfant   “The way out of our pain, the way out of our triggers is to go through.” - Michelle Chalfant   “​​Energy does not stay constant, my friends. So, if you allow it to do whatever it needs to do, it will start to move through you.” - Michelle Chalfant   “You will find [with] this tool [that] you're gonna be able to use it not just at the holidays but the rest of your life. It is empowering.” - Michelle Chalfant   LINKS & RESOURCES Join The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification Waitlist - Doors Open December 1!  https://theadultchair.com/certification   Tanasi  https://tanasi.com/  Use code ADULT to get 25% off your first order   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

The holidays are a time where it feels like everything is a bit magnified: there is so much joy and brightness in the world but also space for sadness, loneliness and grief to be amplified.   It’s a touchy time of year where whatever we’re feeling gets underscored by parties, gatherings and traditions.   But the holidays don’t create these feelings. In fact, according to my guest on the podcast today, WE don’t even create most of these feelings. Rather, we pick them up from our parents and the world around us, and the key to overcoming loneliness and sadness is to understand where it all began.   In this episode, I’m bringing back one of my favorite people, Dr. Dain Heer, to talk about loneliness, how to identify what is ours and what is not, how to clear what’s not ours, how to get out of victim and so many more important, empowering topics!    Dr. Dain also shares tools and techniques you can use immediately to start clearing negative emotions – one of the reasons I love his work so much!  Listen to discover: What loneliness is and where it comes from Why 98% of our thoughts and feeling aren’t actually ours – and where they come from How to get out of negative emotions What to do if you’re experiencing loneliness in life The true root of victimhood The “clearing statement” for fast transformation Dr. Dain’s work with Access Consciousness is all about realizing the power you have within you to change. When you’re able to get rid of what is not yours, it gives you the space and energy to work on what IS yours and create your life instead of falling victim to it. I hope the tools in this episode help you find your inner power, no matter what you’re feeling this holiday season – or any time of the year!    “Your point of view creates your reality. Your reality doesn’t create your point of view.” - Dr. Dain Heer   “It’s as simple as redirecting that energy out of your energy field.” - Michelle Chalfant   “It starts to undo the foundation of limitation.” - Dr. Dain Heer   “We don’t have to be limited by the world around us.” - Dr. Dain Heer   “When we open the door for possibilities, it makes that available to everybody else on the planet.” - Dr. Dain Heer   “People who do victim have learned it.” - Dr. Dain Heer   “Victims are actually victimizing others and controlling them with their victimhood.” - Dr. Dain Heer   “If we can just sit in someone else’s energy field that’s healthy, we become more like them.” - Michelle Chalfant   LINKS & RESOURCES    Dr. Dain Heer Website https://drdainheer.com/    Dr. Dain Heer YouTube https://www.youtube.com/user/drdainheer    Dr. Dain Heer Facebook https://www.facebook.com/DrDainHeer    Dr. Dain Heer Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dainheer/    Who Does This Belong To App https://www.accessconsciousness.com/en/shop-catalog/apps/who-does-this-belong-to-app/    The Clearing Statement https://theclearingstatement.com/    “Body Whispering” (Dr. Dain Heer Book) https://www.amazon.com/Body-Whispering-Dr-Heer/dp/1634934873    Join The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification Waitlist - Doors Open December 1!  https://theadultchair.com/certification   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

What image comes to mind when you think about self-care?   A massage or bubble bath? A fancy dinner? Being all zenned out in lotus pose?   Though these things can be wonderful, I also think they can give self-care a bad name by portraying it as something fun, frivolous and even a little selfish.   In reality, true self-care – or what I like to call “therapeutic self-care” – is absolutely essential to our well-being and our ability to show up for those around us.   Therapeutic self-care is about meeting your core needs as a human – mental, physical, emotional and spiritual. It’s an inside job first and foremost, and it doesn't have to be time-consuming or expensive to do WONDERS for your nervous system, stress levels and overall balance in life.   As we go into the holidays where schedules are extra packed and stress is high, we need to become even more mindful of our self-care. To send you into this season with empowering self-care practices, I tapped Adult Chair® Master Coach and self-care guru, Theresa Steighner, to share her advice for self-care at the holidays (and year round!) with us.   Theresa shares the four pillars of true self-care, plus five fast and free things you can do daily to keep your nervous system in balance…this is self-care like you’ve never heard it talked about before!   Listen to discover: ●     Why self-care is so important ●     What "therapeutic self-care" is ●     The four pillars of true self-care ●     5 quick ways to regulate your nervous system ●     How to prioritize yourself and your self-care I promise you, if you do what Theresa recommends in this episode, you’ll feel less stress, less overwhelm, more presence and more peace this holiday season. Tidings of comfort and joy, indeed.   "Our self-care is more than the bubble baths, the massages, the getting the pedicures. Self-care is really about taking care of our needs on that physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level." - Theresa Steighner   "A big part of self-care is being able to set those boundaries, but we really have to know who we are first." - Theresa Steighner   "When somebody compliments you, it's a reflection of you back to you." - Theresa Steighner   "Awareness is key. We cannot change what we are not aware of." - Theresa Steighner   "You can't grab what's happening in the moment and raise your self-awareness if you're constantly in the future or the past. Make sure you're slowing down." - Michelle Chalfant   "Women have a really hard time putting ourselves first." - Michelle Chalfant   "Nature regulates our nervous system." - Theresa Steighner   "Yoga helps us to repattern those habitual response patterns and brings awareness so that we can show up in a healthier way, in that healthy adult." - Theresa Steighner   "You've got to make sure you're asking for what you need. You're worth it." - Michelle Chalfant   LINKS & RESOURCES   Theresa Steighner Website https://www.peacefulwellbeing.com/   Join The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification Waitlist - Doors Open December 1! https://theadultchair.com/certification   Green Chef http://greenchef.com/adult250  Use code ADULT250 to get $250 off   Tanasi https://tanasi.com/ Use code ADULT to get 25% off your first order   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com     The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification   STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/   The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Have you ever felt stuck in life, like you dislike where you are but think you have no other options?   This is one of my least favorite places to be (and I’ve been there many times). Being unhappy feels bad enough…but what truly feels terrible is thinking there’s no way out.   And when we believe there’s no way out, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.    That’s because it’s not our circumstances that keep us stuck, but our thoughts and beliefs. Stuck thoughts lead to stuck energy, which paralyzes us.    To get unstuck, we have to interrupt this thought pattern and shift our energy so we can move forward!   In this episode, I’m giving you six of my favorite ways to do that. These are the tools I turn to when I’m feeling stuck…and if you know me, you know I like things that I can start applying right away. So, if you’re ready to get unstuck and start seeing transformation TODAY, this is the show for you!   Listen to discover: 6 practical tools to get unstuck The power of acceptance How to manifest your future reality today Why complaining keeps us stuck How to practice gratitude for true transformation Why journaling is such a powerful tool for moving energy The #1 way to change your life I’ve realized over the years that the way we change our lives is through the small choices we make every day.   These small steps – things like gratitude, watching our thoughts, being honest with ourselves – done with consistency transform us over time.   If you’re feeling stuck and discouraged, I’ve been there, and I get it.   But I KNOW you can change your life, because I’ve changed mine using the tools in this episode…and if I can do it, you can too!    Which of these tools will you choose today to start moving toward the life you want?   ​​“You’ve got to own what’s in your life.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Acceptance starts to move our energy out of a stuck place.” - Michelle Chalfant   “In order to really get unstuck and create change, you’ve got to get really, really clear about what you want instead.” - Michelle Chalfant   “We can manifest anything – anything at all. But you’ve got to use your mind…to get out of the place that you are in.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Your thoughts are very powerful, but the spoken word is even more powerful. When you speak about your limitations, you’re anchoring into your current reality your limitations.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Think about how much energy you’re giving the thing that you don’t want anymore…We want to talk about what’s coming.” - Michelle Chalfant   "Many studies have even shown that journaling can be similar or feel similar to going to a therapist or coach. Because what happens is, when we're journaling, we're purging." - Michelle Chalfant   "Life, my friends, is a choice. What are you going to choose for yourself? Are you going to choose to go into that victim seat or are you going to choose to feel more empowered?" - Michelle Chalfant   "The way we change our lives is to be intentional with all of our choices." - Michelle Chalfant    "You're the only one that can transform your life. You just have to take time and choose to put yourself first and get unstuck and change your life. You can do this." - Michelle Chalfant     LINKS & RESOURCES   Share the Love - Review The Adult Chair® Podcast  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-adult-chair/id941317634   Join The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification Waitlist - Doors Open December 1!  https://theadultchair.com/certification    Tanasi  https://tanasi.com/  Use code ADULT to get 25% off your first order   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

We all have a “true self” – the essence of who we were before the world told us who to be.    We’re born with this essence, but over time, we start reacting to the world around us and create a false self out of our wounds, our experiences and our attempts to get our needs met.    The false self isn’t bad, but it isn’t who we really are – and a lot of the challenges we experience in life, like anxiety and depression, come from living out of alignment with our true self.   Any sort of healing work must begin with cracking open the false self and discovering who we really are.   This all might sound very philosophical, but the good news is that accessing our true selves is shockingly practical.    By using simple tools that we all have access to, we can begin to reconnect with who we really are and live with the peace, balance, happiness and fulfillment that comes from showing up authentically in the world.   In this episode, I’m giving you five simple ways to start living more from your true self. These are all tools that are totally free and available right now, wherever you are!    Listen to discover: What we mean when we talk about the “true self” Why we develop a “false self” 5 ways to connect with and live from your true self How to feel your emotions Practical self-care ideas How journaling can help you tap into a deeper part of self This is a process, but make sure you’re taking time to notice even the little wins. As you experiment with these tools, really sit with that wonderful feeling of rediscovering a tiny piece of yourself. Start paying attention and validating yourself for who you really are.   Over time, I think you're going to be really surprised (in a lovely way) when you begin to not only rediscover aspects of your true self, but also start claiming those aspects and living from that place more each day.   “Some of us have a much thicker layer of the false self, and some of us have a thinner layer of the false self. The good news is [that] anyone can learn how to penetrate that false self and rediscover and live from their true self.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Getting in touch with our emotions is such a magical thing.” - Michelle Chalfant   “We have a lot more emotions than happy, sad, mad, ashamed and glad.” - Michelle Chalfant   “When we put ourselves first and practice what we need as far as taking care of ourselves, it's really, really healthy.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Self-care is tuning in and asking, ‘What do I need right now in order to make myself feel more comfortable, safe, relaxed and de-stressed?’” - Michelle Chalfant   “Self-care activities will promote and help with self-love and self-worth.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Breathwork takes you deeper into yourself. It can truly crack you open and help you to get in touch with some emotions that have been trapped or stuck.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Journaling takes you on a journey to the depths of your soul.” - Michelle Chalfant   LINKS & RESOURCES   Join the 30-Day Journaling Challenge  https://theadultchair.com/30days    Share the Love - Review The Adult Chair® Podcast  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-adult-chair/id941317634   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist!  https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

Everyone seems to have an opinion about psychedelics these days.   Doctors and therapists see them as potential treatments for things like anxiety, depression and PTSD. Spiritual communities believe they open us up to the divine. Politicians debate whether they should be legal or illegal.    I have to admit that when I first heard people talking about them, I was scared.   I’m not a big fan of substance use of any kind, and the idea of a “drug” becoming mainstream concerned me.   But when some respected psychologists and colleagues of mine started talking about the healing power of psychedelics — people who were far from the 1960s “Summer of Love” stereotype — I knew the topic at least deserved my honest research.   As I dug deeper into the science behind psychedelics and understood how they worked in the mind, I began to realize they weren’t about escaping but about going deeper into oneself by quieting the ego and opening the door to new parts of our consciousness.    But, I wanted to make sure my opinion was backed up by accurate, science-based, factual research. And there are few people who I’ve found better informed on this topic than Matt Zemon.   Matt was once a fellow skeptic like me who also became convinced through research and experience that psychedelics can play a positive role in therapeutic and medical settings.   He is one of the most grounded, scientific voices I’ve heard on this topic — perfect for anyone who simply wants to learn more and see what you think for yourself — and I am thrilled to have him share his wealth of knowledge in this episode.   Listen to discover: Matt’s story of opening his mind to psychedelics – and how they changed his life Safety considerations for psychedelic use  Whether or not psychedelics are addictive (and how they can help treat addiction) The different types of psychedelics and how they work in the mind How and why psychedelics can help us change our thought patterns The importance of therapeutic integration after a psychedelic experience Resources for doing your own research and safe psychedelic use The choice to have a psychedelic experience is very personal, and I would never tell someone they should or should not try a powerful substance like these.    But I do think we should all do our due diligence to research new breakthroughs in healing with an open mind — which I hope this episode helps you do.    Because whether you get there through a psychedelic or not, allowing yourself to see new perspectives and change your mind is how you grow as a human…and that’s always a path worth pursuing.   "In that first six- or seven-hour [psychedelic] journey, the entire way I look and interact with the world shifted." - Matt Zemon   "Physically, these substances are relatively safe." - Matt Zemon   "Not all psychedelics are the same, and you don't want to be on certain medications and taking a psychedelic." - Matt Zemon   "The psychedelic process can help us remember a way that we used to think, maybe before we had adopted those behaviors...and from that rememberance, we can then start to take the steps to change our life." - Matt Zemon   "It's not so much that [psychedelics are] a cure...they're really catalysts for change." - Matt Zemon   "It's not a magic pill. None of them are a magic pill." - Michelle Chalfant   "I felt like I was sitting with God each and every time. It was the most beautiful thing I've ever done." - Michelle Chalfant   "The most important thing was the integration. What do you do after you've had this experience and then how do you integrate that into your life?" - Michelle Chalfant   "In the psychedelic experience, a few things are going to happen. Your default mode network...is going to quiet down...Neurons fire together that haven't fired together in a long time...In this process, it's common that you will then feel connected to all things and all people. You'll feel loved. You'll feel enough. And that is, in my opinion, the reclaiming of your true self." - Matt Zemon   "When you know you're enough and you know you're loved, you're starting to take away the masks you've put on and have been put on you." - Matt Zemon   LINKS & RESOURCES   Join the 30-Day Journaling Challenge  https://theadultchair.com/30days    Tanasi  https://tanasi.com/  Use code ADULT to get 25% off your first order   Matt Zemon Website https://mattzemon.com/   "Psychedelics for Everyone" (Matt Zemon Book) https://www.amazon.com/Psychedelics-Everyone-Beginners-Depression-Consciousness/dp/B0BCS7NM9H    Matt Zemon Instagram https://www.instagram.com/matt.zemon/    "How to Change Your Mind" Book https://www.amazon.com/Change-Your-Mind-Consciousness-Transcendence/dp/0735224153    Spirit Pharmacist Psychedelic Consultations/Education https://www.spiritpharmacist.com/    "A Really Good Day" Book https://www.amazon.com/Really-Good-Day-Microdosing-Difference-ebook/dp/B01FPH0IUO/    Safe Drug Testing https://drugsdata.org/  https://dancesafe.org/    MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist!  https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

Triggers are a gift.   Yes, you heard that right (and if you’ve been here for a while, you’ve heard me say it before) – I LOVE being triggered!    That’s not to say it’s fun being triggered, but working with triggers has led to some of the most transformational moments of my life.    See, triggers reveal unknown, unconscious beliefs we hold about ourselves – limiting beliefs that cause us pain and hold back in life.    When these beliefs rise to the surface in the form of a trigger, we get the beautiful opportunity to work with them and transform them…not only healing the trigger but helping us get unstuck and change our lives.   One of my Adult Chair® Coaches, Angela, recently had an experience working with a trigger that was so transformational that even she has jumped on the “triggers are a gift” bandwagon.   A tiff with her husband led to a HUGE moment of self-discovery and deeper connection in their relationship, thanks to the trigger tools Angela learned through The Adult Chair®.   I was so proud of the work she did that I invited her to come on the show and share exactly how she took ownership of the trigger (instead of blaming her husband) and then worked with the trigger to discover and heal the surprising belief underneath it — one she would have never recognized without the trigger    Listen to discover: How Angela used The Adult Chair (TAC) to work through a trigger and repair a relationship The surprising root of Angela's trigger that she was able to uncover How TAC has completely changed the way Angela responds when triggered Why triggers are the gateway to freedom How triggers work through the lens of the Child, Adolescent and Adult Chairs Steps for working through a trigger Why doing our work and healing can make us less vulnerable to triggers When we work on our triggers, it is true freedom.    We not only heal the limiting beliefs that hold us back but also find that we get triggered less with time.    This is one of my favorite conversations because it shows this work in action and breaks it down for you in a powerful way. You will discover exactly how triggers work through the lens of The Adult Chair, how to stay regulated and grounded next time you’re triggered and steps to work through and heal your triggers for good.   “When we work with ourselves and work on our own healing of our old wounds…it affects so many people around us.” - Michelle Chalfant    "Like you said, triggers are a gift. You say it. I don't want it to be true. But I'm learning that it is." - Angela Johnson   "[Triggers] are a gift...You will learn something about a part of you that's been buried for a very long time. And it is an opportunity to look at that and actually transform and bring that part into the light, and then it doesn't trigger you anymore." - Michelle Chalfant   "What we don't understand about this work sometimes, because it feels scary, is that on the other side of it is freedom." - Angela Johnson   "I've lived in that space of letting [triggers] disrupt my life and relationships for long enough that I just don't want to live that way anymore." - Angela Johnson   "When we're in our Adult Chair...we remember that life is a choice, and everything in life is a choice. And we get to choose, "Do I want to stay in victim seat?" or, "Do I want to reach over and be in my empowerment seat?'" - Michelle Chalfant   "Our perspective when we're triggered shrinks way down...what we want to do is broaden your perspective, and then you have all these different choices and options." - Michelle Chalfant   "In the Adult, we live in the moment. We don't drag things from the past into the moment." - Michelle Chalfant   "Freedom is not a quick little pill. It does take a little bit of work. But it's long lasting. This is not a band-aid approach." - Michelle Chalfant   "You don't get activated the same way after you do that work. That's the miracle." - Angela Johnson   LINKS & RESOURCES   Angela Johnson Website https://openhandscoaching.com/   Use code TRIGGER for $25 off a session   Find an Adult Chair® Coach  https://theadultchair.com/coaches/    Join the 30-Day Journaling Challenge  https://theadultchair.com/30days    Tanasi  https://tanasi.com/  Code ADULT to get 25% off your first order   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Events  https://theadultchair.com/events/    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist!  https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Do you ever wonder why you do what you do…and if it’s just you who does it?   Your gifts, your life’s mission, how much energy you have, what you need in relationships, how you view money – these are all unique to you.    And according to Human Design, you are the way you are for a special reason.   Unlike personality typing systems based on mental or behavioral patterns, Human Design is a system based on energy and what was going on in the universe when you were born. Though there are five main “types” within Human Design, it’s a very dynamic system that will help you understand what makes you you and what you need to thrive.   I’ve been hearing tons of buzz about Human Design recently, and in this episode, I talk with Human Design coach (and overall delightful human), Emma Dunwoody, about what Human Design is and how it can help us better embrace our true selves.   Not only does Emma answer all my questions about Human Design, but she also helped me decode my chart, and let me tell you – I felt so seen, validated and free to be myself once I understood I’m exactly who I’m meant to be (and you are too!).   Listen to discover: What Human Design is  The difference between Human Design and other personality systems  How Human Design can change your life How to decode your own Human Design chart  The five Human Design types  What "functional burnout" is  How Human Design can help us in dating and relationships  What Human Design teaches us about money As you know from The Adult Chair®, we are all a kaleidoscope of parts, talents and experiences.    Human Design is a fun, insightful tool to help us understand a little bit more about who we are — not to put us in a box but to give us permission to embrace and be our true selves.   Because all those things that only you do? They make you uniquely lovable YOU, and the world wouldn’t be the same without you.    "With Human Design, we don't go via the mind. We actually go via the energy…It gives us this energetic blueprint. I love to think of it as a treasure map to our authenticity." - Emma Dunwoody   "You don't go into future with this at all. It really is just about who I am today." - Michelle Chalfant   "So many people spend all this time trying to change themselves...With Human Design, it ultimately gives you a permission slip to be you." - Emma Dunwoody   "We think we need to become who other people tell us that we should become...but with Human Design, you really help people to touch their true self." - Michelle Chalfant   "Human Design teaches us that there are actually two different types of burnout...but what we don't talk about is this 'functional burnout.'" - Emma Dunwoody   "There's so many ways that Human Design can really amplify and improve relationships." - Emma Dunwoody   "Actually, what money is all about is being in alignment to your authenticity…When we are free to be ourselves, then we can't help but make money." - Emma Dunwoody   "Our profile really helps us understand how we do life, what people want from us, how we learn." - Emma Dunwoody   "Human Design is basically the science of being unique." - Emma Dunwoody   LINKS & RESOURCES   Emma Dunwoody Website (Get a Free Human Design Chart) https://www.emmadunwoody.com/    "The Human Design Podcast" (Emma Dunwoody Podcast) https://www.emmadunwoody.com/the-human-design-podcast    Emma Dunwoody Instagram https://www.instagram.com/the_human_design_coach/   Tanasi  https://tanasi.com/  Code ADULT to get 25% off your first order   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Events  https://theadultchair.com/events/    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist!  https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

When we think of trust in a relationship, most of us think of broken trust and big betrayals – things like infidelity, addiction and secrets.   But true trust is about the small actions that we take every day. Trust isn’t something we have by default unless it’s broken; it's something we have to build.   With every interaction, we’re either building or whittling away trust – and sometimes the things that break trust are so subtle, we don’t even know we’re doing them!    In this episode, I’m giving you six ways to build trust so you can grow your relationship with your partner. These are small, simple actions, but they require awareness, intention and being in your Adult Chair to do consistently.    If you want a long-lasting, deeper connection with your partner, this episode is a must listen!    Listen to discover: What trust in a relationship is and why it's so important  How trust deepens the bond in a committed relationship  6 steps to build trust today The importance of being true to your word How to own and apologize for mistakes and move forward  How to show up with presence and prioritize your relationship  Without trust, we can’t have healthy, connected relationships. Trust is an energetic bond that creates safety and allows us to open up, be vulnerable and grow together.    The good news is that it’s not about perfection. All of us – including myself – don’t get these right all the time.   What’s important is what we do when we mess up.    Honesty, presence and the ability to own our mistakes are the ways we as imperfect humans create deep bonds with other imperfect humans and the key to getting the love you want – not the perfect fairy tale, but a beautiful journey of learning and growing together.    “Trust is one of the essential components to a healthy, committed relationship.” - Michelle Chalfant   “If we’re going to speak something and promise something to our partner, we want to make sure that we are able to line up behind what we’re saying.” - Michelle Chalfant    “If you are going to speak something into existence, you have to speak it with your full energy and with you behind it…Your actions need to match your words.” - Michelle Chalfant   “Owning it does not mean that you’re a bad person. You’re a human person, and mistakes are gonna happen.” - Michelle Chalfant   “If you want to build trust and you’re in a committed relationship, apologizing is powerful. It helps to build a connection.” - Michelle Chalfant   "When we have important people in our lives, we need to put the phone down, not look at the television, not get distracted by the dog or the cat or the animal in your house. We want to make sure that we're prioritizing our person and giving them our full attention." - Michelle Chalfant   “We need to give our person eye contact when we’re listening. Because then they’re going to feel seen and they’re gonna feel heard, they feel important.”  - Michelle Chalfant   "You can't put the relationship on the back burner and your person on the back burner and expect [the relationship] to grow and flourish." - Michelle Chalfant    "If you've got friends that are...acting in a way that's disrespectful to your partner, it's your job to defend your partner." - Michelle Chalfant    "Even if the truth hurts, it's better than lying." - Michelle Chalfant   "It feels so good to know that your person has you and you've got them. That's that bond of trust. Trust is like this energetic bond that we form with our partner." - Michelle Chalfant   LINKS & RESOURCES   DOORS OPEN: “The Relationship Reset” Course https://resources.michellechalfant.com/relationships/   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Events  https://theadultchair.com/events/    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist!  https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

For millennia, cultures around the globe have known that there’s more to us than meets the eye and that our family trees really are a map to ourselves — an energetic portrait of our lives.   Today, epigenetics has proven that what our ancestors experienced can imprint on our genes and impact our lives today in unexpected ways.    That depression, anxiety, stress or limiting belief? It might be from long ago.   And the field of psychology is finally catching up with this.    A new methodology I just discovered (and got the chance to try as a client) is called Family Constellation work.    In this method, we find unconscious experiences and beliefs that we’re carrying from our ancestors — including those who we never knew — and work to transform them through awareness and compassion.   On the podcast this week, I talked with my Family Constellation practitioner, Emily Blefeld, about what Family Constellation work is, how our family history affects our lives today and how we can clear blocks and dismantle generational cycles by being bold and brave enough to look at what happened before we were even here.   It’s not that different from what we do with parts work in The Adult Chair®, except instead of working with parts of ourselves we’re working with parts of our family tree! It’s SO freaking cool!   Listen to discover: How our family history impacts our present reality The way our ancestors' patterns create patterns for us today What Family Constellation work is and how it works How to heal trauma and clear blocks through Family Constellation work Using Family Constellation work for business, non-biological relatives and more The cool thing about epigenetics is that it describes a tendency, not a fate. These experiences don’t change our DNA; they change the way our genes express themselves.   That means we get a choice in how these generational traumas will manifest in our lives.   We don’t have to agree with the beliefs and experiences of our ancestors. We can look them in the face and decide they stop with us.    And there’s no transformation more powerful than that – for ourselves and generations to come.   “We are victim to our lineage.” - Michelle Chalfant    “What’s unconscious will continue to permeate our lives until it’s made conscious.” - Emily Blefeld   “We actually carry the victims and the perpetrators in our inherited lineage.” - Emily Blefeld   “[Family Constellation work] is predominantly a therapy that looks at the system that we walk around with.” - Emily Blefeld   “Constellation work is less interested in what is causing the symptom, and they’re more interested in who is the symptom.” - Emily Blefeld   "I like to think of it as a family soul on some level." - Emily Blefeld   "There's so much more to us than meets the eye." - Michelle Chalfant   "There are so many different ways to clear our blocks. There's so many different ways to relieve anxiety, depression, feeling not good enough, our inner fraud, all of those things." - Michelle Chalfant   "You'll feel the generations behind heal and the generations following." - Emily Blefeld   "What an awesome thing to hear as a parent, your child thanking you for doing your work. Because it can stop with you." - Emily Blefeld   LINKS & RESOURCES   Emily Blefeld Website https://seeingwithyourheart.com/    FREE MASTERCLASS: How To Heal Your Relationship To Get the Love You Want https://theadultchair.com/healing     MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Events  https://theadultchair.com/events/    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist!  https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

What if everything you do in your life is actually driven by one question – a question that is unconscious to you but acts as the command center for how you show up in the world?   That question is what Mike Foster calls your “primal question,” and let me tell you, when I discovered mine, it was like my whole life made sense.    Mike developed The Seven Primal Questions system based on his research and work as a coach.   The idea is that we all have a question – like, “Am I safe?” or, “Am I loved?” – that we didn’t get answered in childhood and that we continue to ask as adults.   When the answer to this question is “yes,” we feel good and become our best selves.   When it’s “no,” we start scrambling. Our emotional reactions, compulsions, unhelpful behaviors and survival strategies (things like perfectionism and people pleasing) are all attempts to get this question answered in the way we want.   The cool thing? When we understand our primal question and the question of our loved ones, we can change everything about our relationships by healing our wounds, connecting to our gifts and intentionally answering each others’ question with a “yes!”   I LOVE this system, and I’m thrilled to have Mike on this show giving us a crash course in it as he breaks down the seven questions, their corresponding “primal truths” and “primal gifts” and how these questions can show up in our lives in different ways.   Listen to discover: The Seven Primal Questions and what they mean for your life How to replace your primal question with a primal truth Why the flipside of your primal question is your superpower How you can stop letting your child self run your life and live from your healthy adult self How to apply your primal question in business and relationships  I have a feeling you’ll have some lightbulb moments during this show. I also have a link below to help you find your primal question if you’re having trouble figuring it out.   This tool is a GAME CHANGER for more consciously relating to ourselves and others, and I’m thrilled to share it with you! It gets down to the core of what makes us tick and shows us how to love ourselves and the people in our life better…and who doesn’t want that?   “In our early childhood, we get imprinted with a primal question…The primal question just represents our highest...emotional need.” - Mike Foster   “‘Am I safe?’ is really about survival…where security is really about, ‘Am I resourced appropriately to be able to protect myself and sustain myself?’” - Mike Foster   “[That’s] what children do, we perceive the world we’re in and then we make conclusions about it.” - Mike Foster   “The other side of the question is what I call your primal gift, and it’s this superpower that every question has.” - Mike Foster   "[During the first six years of life] we don't have discernment...we take it on as, 'It's my fault. I did something wrong.'" - Michelle Chalfant   "When we start attuning to our team members' primal question, we can really become a very effective leader with them." - Mike Foster   "What we need the most is what we want to give away to others." - Mike Foster   "Under every behavior is an emotional or feeling driving that behavior. But under every emotion and feeling is an unmet need driving that emotion or feeling." - Mike Foster   "A question being imprinted by trauma is just gonna carry a lot more weight to it than a question just imprinted through confusion." - Mike Foster   "I just see this as such an empowering tool that can help any relationship." - Michelle Chalfant   "I need to be really aware of how my question is showing up in my life." - Michelle Chalfant   LINKS & RESOURCES   Mike Foster Website https://www.mikefoster.tv/    Seven Primal Questions Assessment  https://mikefostercoaching.outgrow.us/mikefostercoaching-2   "The Seven Primal Questions" (Mike Foster Book) https://shop.mikefoster.tv/products/seven-primal-questions-book    Mike Foster Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mikefoster2000/    FREE DOWNLOAD: 5 Healthy Relationship Myths https://theadultchair.com/myths    Green Chef https://www.greenchef.com/60adult Use code 60ADULT for 60% off + free shipping   MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Events  https://theadultchair.com/events/    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist!  https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant  

Grief is a messy, complicated emotion, and very few of us know what to do with it.   We don’t want to (or know how to) feel it, and when we’re around others who are grieving, most of us freeze.   We feel uncomfortable, so we say nothing or say the wrong thing or stay away, all of which just adds to the pain.    That was me in my 20s and 30s. But when I lost my father, I could no longer avoid grief. He taught me how to grieve…and I found that grief, as painful as it was, connected me to the deeper parts of my soul and made me a more whole-hearted person.    In this episode, I was fortunate to connect with a new soul sister, Kris Carr, about her own journey with grief following the loss of her father.    She experienced a lot of loss — including 20 years of living with Stage 4 cancer — but like me, she had spent her life shoving grief down until her dad passed away.   As she walked with him from diagnosis until his death, she experienced heartbreaking moments, precious moments, joyful moments and spiritual moments that taught her more about being human and opened her up to life.   We talk about how grief can show up in many different ways (not just death), what happens in our bodies when we don’t process it, how to support each other through this universal human experience and how to find joy even in a world where pain is part of our reality.   Listen to discover: Kris's story of learning to live with both grief and hope What to say and not say to someone who is grieving What happens when we don't process grief Healthy ways to process grief  Taking a "joy inventory" of your life   This conversation is raw, real and beautiful — it’s wisdom earned by being in the trenches, and I hope it helps you get a little more comfortable with the discomfort of grief.    There is no formula for grief. It’s something we simply have to be there with.    And when we learn to be there with each other and hold space for it, it can become a sacred moment of deeper connection to ourselves and to each other.     "Grief is such a touchy topic, and sometimes it can be hard to even approach the idea of learning more about it." - Kris Carr   "In many ways, grief is a master healer." - Kris Carr   "I couldn't hold [grief] in any longer and expect to be whole." - Kris Carr   "We don't want to feel [grief]. We don't want to go into the negative emotion zone. If emotions are on that spectrum of love to fear, we don't want to go on that side of the spectrum at all. And grief is sitting right there glaring at all of us." - Michelle Chalfant    "None of us are going to get out this life scratch free and stain resistant." - Kris Carr   "I want to welcome all the parts of me and all the emotions to the table." - Kris Carr   "I don't think the [stages of grief] were ever intended to be linear." - Kris Carr   "There's nothing you can do to make my pain go away. So, it's not your responsibility to fix it. It's your responsibility to be present." - Kris Carr   "There's nothing anybody can say or do to make the grief go away...but showing up with presence is one the best things we can do...As a human being, to feel witnessed is such a healing experience for us." - Michelle Chalfant   "Not only are [our emotions] information, but they're energy. [Crying] is just letting that energy out." - Kris Carr   "While you have the chance to be alive, how can you live as fully as possible, even though you've experienced enormous heartache?" - Kris Carr   LINKS & RESOURCES   Kris Carr Website https://kriscarr.com/   "I'm Not a Mourning Person" (Kris Carr Book) https://www.amazon.com/dp/1401970060    FREE DOWNLOAD: 5 Healthy Relationship Myths https://theadultchair.com/myths    MORE ADULT CHAIR   The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com      The Adult Chair® Events  https://theadultchair.com/events/    The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the 2024 Waitlist!  https://theadultchair.com/certification    STAY CONNECTED   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/    The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/   YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant