The Angry Therapist Podcast

In this episode, John discusses the importance of finding someone with a fire in their belly when investing in a relationship. He emphasizes the need to know where you're going before asking who's going with you, and shares his personal journey of self-discovery and finding purpose. He also highlights the significance of having a passion, but to be cautious about dating someone who is solely focused on work and lacks balance in other areas of their life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John discusses the importance of taking ownership in relationships. He explains that someone who takes ownership is willing to accept responsibility for their actions and behaviors, rather than being defensive or blaming others. He shares personal experiences and client stories to illustrate how defensiveness can poison a relationship, and emphasizes that taking ownership is a key ingredient in resolving conflict and building trust. He ends with encouraging his listeners to reflect on their own defensiveness and patterns of behavior in arguments, and to consider the role of ownership in their relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John discusses the process of turning a breakup into a breakthrough. He emphasizes the importance of reframing the story of a breakup, swimming past the breakers, healing emotional triggers, breaking up with oneself, letting go of attachments, and embracing rebirth. He shares personal insights and practical advice for navigating the emotional journey of a breakup and using it as a catalyst for personal growth. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John brings on Shaun (The Love Drive) to talk about how hurtful ghosting can be, what "mommy issues" look like in relationships, whether long distance relationships can work or not, the inability to say "I love you," why you keep attracting unavailable partners, if watching pornography is cheating, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John reflects things he's currently struggling with. He shares insights on finding joy in simple moments, the importance of self-awareness and self-acceptance, the struggle with sleep and the impact it has on daily life, challenges of parenting and the need for self-compassion, exploring and expanding sexuality later in life, the impact of career-related stress, the need for patience and trust in the process, and much more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John discusses the four pillars of a healthy relationship, embracing the realities of a relationship, and the beauty in the struggle. He emphasizes the importance of chemistry, maintaining separate identities, aligning on a common vision, and building a connection in a relationship. He also highlights the significance of navigating challenges, learning from failed relationships, and finding beauty in the day-to-day struggles of a relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John reads a story, "My P*ssy Knows Things," that explores the impact of past relationships on present behavior and emotional well-being. He also dives into the concept of grieving the loss of a relationship, the importance of accepting and processing associated emotions, being resistant to therapy, the transformation that occurs when individuals confront their past, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John talks to Shaun Galanos (The Love Drive) about various topics including fear of missing out (FOMO), polyamory, dating rejection, and attachment styles. They highlight the importance of communication, emotional regulation, coping with dating rejection, and redefining what rejection means. They also touch on the current obsession with attachment styles and the danger of using labels and judgments. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John debriefs with Sarah and Meredith about the most recent TAT retreat on the drive home. They all talk about what their role is, their revelations running the retreats, the lessons they've learned in each retreat, the importance of breath work, how therapeutic cooking is, how to calm down your nervous system, and much more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John talks about love. He defines what his definition of love used to be, and what it is now. He also talks about ways to know if you love someone, feelings to look for, how real love is about embracing conflict - not jumping ship the second things start to feel hard, and much more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John interviews Todd Baratz, a male sex therapist, about love and intimacy. They discuss the concept of 'losing your mind' when falling in love and the challenges that arise in relationships. They also touch on the importance of therapy and how childhood experiences shape our relationships. Todd shares his personal journey about how he became a therapist, talks about the changing attitudes towards sex and the stigma that still exists, emphasizes the importance of understanding one's own trauma and how it can impact relationships, and promotes his book 'How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind.' Todd Baratz is a renowned psychotherapist and sex therapist whose innovative approach to mental health and relationships has established him as a leading figure in his field. In addition to his clinical practice, Baratz is a prolific writer and speaker. His insights are regularly featured in various media outlets, where he discusses topics ranging from romantic relationships to individual mental wellness. He lives in New York City and Los Angeles. Learn more on Instagram under his handle YourDiagnonsense. Follow Todd on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourdiagnonsense/?hl=en Check out his website: https://www.toddsbaratz.com/ Buy Todd's book: 'How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind.' https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/723331/how-to-love-someone-without-losing-your-mind-by-todd-baratz-lmhc/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this bonus episode, John has an encouraging message for those going through a break up. He opens up about break ups he's been through, lessons he's learned from each, and gives tips on how to break through your break up if you're currently going through one. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John starts with a list of "Johnisms" before answering listener's questions. John gives advice on what to do if you have feelings for a friend, how to rebuild trust in a marriage after it's been broken, and how to handle finding your significant other's secret Tinder account. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John talks about poor habits, how we all have them, and how taking small steps towards breaking the habits is more successful than stopping the habits cold turkey. He also talks about being depressed when life feels "boring," and how to that leads to feelings of wanting to escape. He dives into how those feelings can be linked more to wanting to run away from yourself rather than just needing a break, and how to tell the difference. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John talks about how doing a life audit on yourself will help strengthen the relationship you have with your partner and others. He explains how the more you focus on yourself, the more you'll be able to bring to the table with others, and walks through the process of what giving yourself a life audit looks like. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John brings on Dr. MC McDonald to discuss the concept of awe and the science behind joy. They explore the importance of finding joy in small moments, activating the hope circuit in the brain, and also debunk some misconceptions about what brings joy, such as affirmations. They emphasize that joy is not a silly or frivolous emotion, but a hardcore and gritty force. The conversation also touches on topics like trauma, imagination, flow states, the power of finding beauty in contrast, and accepting people for who they are. You can buy MC's book, Unbroken, HERE Follow MC on Instagram HERE  or TikTok HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John answers a listener's question after they've emailed him for advice about their current relationship. He dives into avoidant attachment styles, and gives advice on how to know if you're attachment style is to blame for feeling "suffocated" in the relationship, or if you're only feeling this way because deep down you know that your partner isn't right for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John Kim and Luci Lampe discuss the concept of conscious self-pleasure and its impact on personal growth and relationships. They explore how shame and societal conditioning can hinder sexual expression and the importance of approaching self-pleasure with presence and mindfulness. They also touch on the differences between male and female sexual energy and the potential for sexual practices to expand into other areas of life. Luci Lampe is a mom of 4, trauma-informed sex & relationship coach, award-winning singer and songwriter, commercial actress & print model, and 3X author. Her writing has been featured on the Huffington Post, Forbes, Entrepreneur.com, CBS, and Fox. After overcoming an autoimmune disorder and embarking on a deep healing journey and spiritual awakening during her former husband’s 2-year disability and depression, Luci’s work shifted deeper into the realms of erotic liberation and spiritual reclamation. Now, after her journey of conscious uncoupling after a 17-year marriage, she  brings a new depth to the message of open-Hearted living + relating for couples, women, and men. You can find out more about Luci HERE or follow her on Instagram HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John explores the importance of redefining our definitions of love as we grow and change. He shares his old definition of love from his twenties and contrasts it with his current definition. He also highlights how our definitions of love are always changing, the challenges and beauty of love, and the importance of aligning definitions with our partners. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, John talks about how to express your needs, and show up in your relationship when you're fighting. He discusses the importance of knowing what is healthy vs unhealthy ways of showing up during conflict, and gives examples of what each looks like. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices