The Art of Approach Podcast

Find out about Erik Landry: Instagram: @vocodojo Work with him: vocodojo.com In this podcast episode, we delve into the dynamics of relationships and the intricacies of communication between men and women. We emphasize the importance of understanding and being understood, highlighting the need for clear and open communication to avoid covert manipulation and ensure balanced interactions. We discuss the power of authenticity and the interplay of active and passive roles in building meaningful connections. We also explore the concept of pseudo-rejection and its potential to cause misunderstandings, stressing the importance of openly expressing feelings. The role of voice in influencing perceptions is examined, with a focus on the importance of relaxation and proper vocal tract space to enhance voice quality. Further, we address the challenges of approaching women in sensitive environments like gyms and the dynamics of dating multiple people, discussing the ego-driven aspects and the importance of honest intentions. Our discussion extends to the technical and emotional aspects of voice, with insights from Erik, a voice specialist with a background in singing and vocal health, and Tim, an expert in communication science. We also introduce the Vocal Dojo Voice Center, bridging speech therapy and vocal performance, and discuss the connection between emotions and vocal expression, emphasizing the influence of the limbic system and the importance of conscious breathing. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the significance of understanding personal archetypes—magician, lover, warrior, and king—to better navigate personal and professional interactions. This exploration into the authenticity and self-awareness underscores the ongoing journey of self-discovery and personal growth, reflecting on how these elements influence our approaches in communication and relationships. 00:00 Introduction to the Dynamics of Relationships 06:15 The Power of Authenticity 10:32 Creating Space for Connection 14:59 Balancing Active and Passive Forces 23:26 Improving Communication through Voice and Relaxation 25:03 The Role of Self-Awareness in Effective Communication 27:21 Building Healthy Relationships through Active Listening and Empathy 36:53 Exploring the Sensation of Space in the Voice 39:20 Navigating the Challenges of Approaching Women at the Gym 41:09 The Dynamics of Dating Multiple People 44:06 The Ego-Driven Desire to be Claimed 49:21 Passion for Vocal Health and Becoming a Voice Specialist 54:45 Bridging the Gap: The Vocal Dojo Voice Center 55:13 Understanding the Archetype of Your Voice 57:25 The Influence of Emotions on Vocal Expression 59:59 The Importance of Conscious Breathing in Exercise 01:09:05 The Interchangeable Roles of Teacher and Student in Vocal Training 01:15:00 Adapting Your Voice and Demeanor 01:19:34 Listening to Your Body's Signals 01:22:15 Adjusting Energy to Meet the Other Person 01:23:13 Genuine Connection vs. Manipulation 01:25:20 Developing Awareness and Adaptability 01:27:30 Understanding Archetypes in Communication 01:32:17 Understanding Archetypes 01:35:02 Exploring Personal Archetypes 01:37:31 The Importance of Self-Awareness 01:39:42 Adapting Your Approach for Authenticity 01:41:03 Authenticity in Interpersonal Interactions 01:45:02 Finding and Accessing Your Authentic Voice 01:46:29 Approaching with Innocent Curiosity 01:48:07 Letting Go of Pressure and Expectations

Today we are joined by Matt Ng. Matt is an approach coach here in Austin, TX. You can find out more about Matt at @mattapproachcoach on Instagram. In this podcast episode, we explore various facets of dating and personal growth, focusing on the concept of the 'nice guy syndrome' and its impact. We discuss how being overly accommodating and passive, often seen as 'nice guy' behavior, stems from insecurities and a lack of self-worth. The conversation also covers the need to embrace more assertive masculine qualities and the importance of facing fears like rejection to foster individual growth. We delve into the societal and cultural influences that shape the 'nice guy' persona, discussing the need for redefining masculinity and the importance of education in this area. Our discussion extends to the significance of stepping out of comfort zones, not only in personal development but also in innovating and trying new things. Approaching women, a key topic, is examined through the effectiveness of both direct and indirect openers, emphasizing the importance of authenticity and forming emotional connections beyond surface-level topics. We highlight the role of pursuing passions to enrich conversations and build meaningful connections. Additionally, we discuss the journey of self-discovery in dating, focusing on addressing limiting beliefs and the value of trauma healing to enhance confidence and happiness. The role of mentors in navigating these emotional challenges is also touched upon. Finally, we stress that everyone's journey is unique, and comparing oneself to others is counterproductive. The overarching theme is the importance of authenticity, emotional intelligence, and the continuous effort to understand and connect with others in dating and relationships.

Hey all. The audio on this episode is a little rough but there's lots of good stuff regardless. Listen through to the end! In this episode we cover various topics related to dating and meeting new people, discussing the challenges of gaining attention and the importance of authenticity. We debate the fine line between oversharing and being too reserved. Our conversation also touches on maintaining an abundance mindset and accepting one's current state in the dating journey. We share advice on approaching women and emphasize the importance of vulnerability in building connections. We conclude by recounting a recent experience at a meat market where the nervousness of approaching two women together was palpable. We also delve into the concept of cold approaching, the complexities of gauging interest in such situations, and the pitfalls of inorganic interactions. We stress the importance of finding someone who appreciates the approach process. The episode wraps up with our commitment to a daily practice of approaching one new person in a non-romantic way to enhance our social skills, reflecting our continuous efforts to improve and adapt in the realm of social interactions and dating.

In this episode of the Art of Approach podcast, we explore the transformative power of fashion in men's wardrobes, emphasizing the impact of a white button-up shirt and stylish shoes. We delve into the importance of self-care and expressing individuality through clothing. Our discussion also covers meeting women in real life versus using dating apps, advocating for a balanced approach. We stress the importance of safety, genuine intentions, and respect in interactions, while addressing issues like false accusations and the need for clear communication in relationships. The conversation touches on taking responsibility for one's emotions, avoiding blame, and managing jealousy to foster healthier relationships. We also highlight the significance of understanding and connecting with one's emotions in dating. Sharing personal insights, we recount advice given to our friend Abhi about taking things slow and the benefits of clear, confident communication. An observation of an awkward interaction further underscores our points about authenticity and presence in social settings. Overall, this episode emphasizes being present, authentic, and confident, whether approaching relationships or navigating the complexities of dating and personal growth. 00:00 The Power of Clothing: White Button-Up Shirts and Stylish Shoes 08:27 Meeting Women: Real Life vs. Dating Apps 12:11 Balancing Approaching and Dating Apps 14:10 The Importance of Safety and Respect in Interactions with Women 22:35 Being Authentic and Not Proving Yourself 23:42 Handling False Accusations and Assumptions 24:35 Communicating Disinterest in a Relationship 25:10 Confronting and Managing Jealousy 46:21 Overcoming Jealousy 48:29 Defining Self-Worth 50:57 The Power of Tools 54:37 Approaching Women 01:01:09 Speaking from the Diaphragm 01:08:15 Learning from Uncomfortable Approaches

This episode we are joined by Dalton Daniel, a podcaster and good friend of ours. You can find 'Don't think. Breathe' on major podcasting platforms and on Instagram @donthink.breath. In our conversation, we discuss approaching women in public, emphasizing understanding their interest and mindset. We cover the importance of genuine interest versus neediness, sharing insights from personal experiences to highlight respect and intention. We also stress appreciating every woman's beauty genuinely and approaching with authenticity. We explore dealing with rejection, emphasizing genuineness, understanding rejection's impact, and resilience strategies. We highlight the role of positive mindset, support from friends or coaches, and the importance of detachment and mindfulness in facing rejection. Furthermore, we talk about authentic self-expression, approaching interactions with kindness, and using voice messages for clearer communication. We stress facing the fear of rejection positively and the importance of embracing uniqueness. We also touch on the challenges and insights from using dating apps, including dealing with ghosting and the cultural impacts of online dating. We underline the necessity of intentionality in dating and the value of relationships in enriching life, reminding listeners that there's no perfect time to start dating. 00:00 Introduction 02:03 The Problem with Neediness 06:58 The Fine Line Between Attraction and Neediness 10:56 Approaching Women in Public 20:35 Finding Beauty in Every Woman 21:49 The Whole Foods Story 22:35 Overcoming Rejection and Staying Positive 24:41 Preparing Mentally for Approaching 29:53 Visualizing Different Outcomes 33:08 The Value of Visualizing Every Outcome 34:18 Practicing Mindfulness in Emotionally Charged Moments 34:28 Being the Narrator of Your Life 35:17 Detaching Emotions from Thoughts 36:25 Taking Control of Your Own Stories 37:05 Breathing Out Emotions 38:23 The Importance of Support 39:21 Approaching Alone vs. in a Group 40:21 Reactions to Approaching 41:28 Not Caring What Others Think 42:37 You Are What You Love 44:14 Approaching Without Setting Yourself Up for Rejection 47:13 Claiming Your Identity as a Approacher 49:22 Overcoming Anxiety in Approaching 52:06 The Importance of Genuine Kindness in Approaching 54:00 Expressing Interest and Giving Compliments 55:14 Overcoming Insecurities and Fear of Rejection 56:11 Taking Ownership of Feelings 57:07 Imagining Success and Failure 57:51 The Power of Voice Messages58:08Experiences with Dating Apps 59:13 Using Dating Apps with Intention 01:00:22 The Downside of Dating Apps 01:02:10 The Benefits of Voice Messages 01:04:32 Mixed Experiences with Dating Apps 01:05:31 The Evolution of Dating Apps 01:07:18 Avoiding Overstimulation and Entertainment 01:08:19 The Impact of Porn and Instagram 01:11:28 The Impact of Limiting Consumption 01:12:28 Struggles of Being an Entrepreneur 01:13:13 Thinking Differently About Dating 01:14:25 The Feeling of Nothing to Lose 01:15:31 The Importance of Women in Our Lives 01:17:58 Recognizing Insecurities and Making Excuses 01:18:34 Owning Your Circumstances 01:19:09 Withholding Insecurities and Expressing Self-Awareness 01:20:09 The Impact of Insecurity on Dating 01:21:06 Building a Relationship with Yourself 01:22:34 Recognizing and Addressing Validation Seeking Behavior 01:23:35 Being Your Own Advertising 01:23:53 Finding Purpose and Value in Yourself 01:24:52 Closing Remarks Where to find Dalton: Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/59wfzg0oeASIhceU0FenXR Instagram - @donthink.breathe

In this episode, we discuss various aspects of dating and the nuances of approaching women, underlining the crucial role of maintaining mystery and self-validation to keep the attraction alive. We talk about overcoming approach anxiety by advocating for incremental steps towards building self-confidence and the profound importance of engaging with and understanding our emotions, particularly in social settings. Emphasizing the significant benefits of having female friends, we explore how their insights can refine our dating strategies and help us understand the dating scene from a different perspective. Additionally, we touch upon the necessity of presenting ourselves authentically in dating profiles and seeking constructive feedback. The conversation also navigates the delicate balance between pursuing romantic interests and personal goals, underscoring the importance of self-awareness and owning one's journey through the complexities of relationships. 00:00 Introduction to Coach Corey Wayne04:01The Importance of Mystery 04:52 Understanding Mystery 06:48 Finding Certainty in Yourself07:01Recognizing Temporary Emotions 07:38 Overexplaining and Neediness08:38Creating Mystery in Dating 09:43 Certainty and Insecurity10:05Dealing with Rejection 11:23 Finding Certainty Elsewhere 12:36 Recognizing Temporary Emotions 13:05 Understanding Anger and Emotions 13:43 The Pitfalls of Overexplaining 14:48 The Dangers of Overexplaining 15:47 Keeping Some Mystery 16:37 The Thrill of Leading 17:57 Acceptable Places to Approach Women 18:58 Approaching in Grocery Stores 19:37 Approaching with Short-lived Conversations 23:03 Being Respectful and Not Creepy 24:46 Best Places to Meet Women 26:10 Approaching Women in Coffee Shops 27:34 Approaching Women in Parking Lots 28:37 Strategies to overcome approach anxiety 38:40 Will's new relationship 49:14 Importance of female friends 51:38 The Influence of Others on Dating Profiles 54:46 A Date with an Incredibly Beautiful Woman 56:28 Psychic Sexual Communication 57:43 Mixed Signals and Uncertainty 01:00:44 Struggling with Business and Dating 01:03:51 Balancing Business and Personal Life 01:08:47 Owning Your Circumstances 01:12:47 Dealing with Adversity and Maintaining Groundedness

In this episode, we discuss how qualities like emotional expression, authenticity, and leadership, often seen in musicians, can make one more attractive in dating. We emphasize the importance of connecting emotionally, being genuine, and showing vulnerability to forge authentic bonds. We highlight confidence, self-love, and the mindset of viewing dating as a path to personal growth and abundance. The conversation covers psychic sexual communication, the significance of body language, setting intentions, and the necessity of a supportive network. Ultimately, we conclude that embracing authenticity, pursuing self-improvement, and maintaining a positive mindset are key to building confidence and attracting meaningful relationships. 00:00 Introduction 01:19 Overview of the Podcast 04:07 Qualities of Musicians that Attract Women 06:52 Leadership and Confidence 09:06 Preselection and Being the Center of Attention 12:46 Bad Dating Advice: 'Be Yourself' 13:55 Expressing Flaws and Insecurities 15:55 Courage and Acting Despite Fear 24:51 Intensity in Dating 26:05 Creating a Cultivated Space 28:04 Taking Rejections as a Positive 30:01 Preparing for a Date 37:00 Advancements in Tim's Dating Life 39:31 Visualization and Psychic Sexual Communication 45:00 Believing in the Desired Outcome 48:10 Admiring Beauty and Gratitude 51:15 The Power of Silence 52:00 Eye Contact and Silence 53:23 Planning the First Date 54:59 Approaching Women 57:39 Challenges of Approaching Alone 59:09 Overcoming Resistance to Approach 01:03:13 Navigating Early Stages of Dating 01:07:07 Building a Strong Relationship 01:10:17 Defining the Ideal Relationship 01:11:12 Being Slow and Intentional

Bill Furlong's Artwork & Photos: www.billfurlong.com Insta: @furlongartwork @furlongphotos In our conversation, we delved into diverse dating topics, from rejection to personal growth. Key themes emerged, highlighting the value of genuine intentions, vulnerability, and empathy. We explored psychic sexual communication and the significance of eye contact in forging connections. Tips were shared on coping with rejection, advocating self-love, recognizing misalignment, and shifting focus away from oneself. The discussion extended to how dating experiences influence other aspects of life, notably career paths. Will shared insights into how his interactions with women have shaped his professional journey, emphasizing self-confidence and awareness gained through rejection. He stressed the importance of cultivating friendships with women and embracing feminine energy. We concluded with reflections on taking initiative and fostering clear communication in relationships. Will shared his recent dating experiences, underscoring the challenges of interpreting text messages and maintaining a balanced mindset. Despite hurdles, he remains optimistic and open to new opportunities. CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction of Bill Furlong 01:16 Bill's Natural Ease with Women 03:03 Psychic Sexual Communication 08:09 The Power of Eye Contact 17:32 Expressing Desire After a Relationship 19:00 Tips for Dealing with Rejection 25:03 Approaching Women and Its Impact on Life 31:29 Appreciating the Feminine Essence 37:21 Making Female Friends 45:34 Being Clear and Leading in Relationships 47:49 The Second Date 48:26 The Vagueness of Communication 49:57 Setting an Actual Date 50:50 The Importance of Clarity 51:19 Understanding Women's Behavior 52:40 The Challenges of Text Communication 52:49 The Age of the Woman 52:53 Mixed Signals 53:15 Choosing the Right Date Activity 54:00 The Danger of Fixating on One Woman 57:25 Approaching a Woman at a Show 01:02:24 The Importance of Being Willing to Walk Away 01:03:13 Confidence and Self-Belief 01:04:38 The Abundance Mindset 01:07:20 Final Thoughts

In this episode, we explore diverse approaches to dating, covering topics such as reviewing an Instagram reel, responding to a Reddit question, and providing insights on approaching a girl surrounded by friends. Emphasizing the crucial role of authenticity and confidence in social interactions, we share tips on navigating various situations. Our key message underscores the importance of having the courage to initiate connections and staying true to oneself when pursuing someone of interest. Discussing aspects like approaching with confidence, avoiding burnout, being selective, and the benefits of compliments, we also explore group approaches and stress the necessity of having a clear dating vision. Throughout, we highlight the theme of authenticity in different scenarios, addressing feelings of inauthenticity and emphasizing vulnerability in group conversations. We touch on the discomfort of disengaging from uninteresting interactions and stress the importance of sharing enjoyable activities with a partner. The conversation concludes with a reminder to stay true to oneself and seek date coaching if needed. CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction 00:24 Reviewing Instagram Reel 09:21 Approaching a Girl in a Group 14:41 Being Authentic About Inauthenticities 16:30 Approaching a Girl with Friends - Alternative Approaches 18:21 Approaching with Confidence 21:20 Avoiding Approach Burnout 22:06 Dealing with Picky Behavior 25:31 Approaching Less Attractive People 27:18 The Importance of Complimenting 29:23 The Benefits of Group Approaches 35:40 Having a Vision for Dating 41:09 Authenticity in Different Situations 42:06 Being Authentic in Approaches 43:37 Feeling Inauthentic in Group Settings 46:21 Vulnerability in Group Conversations 48:18 Disliking Surface-Level Group Conversations 51:45 Leaving Uninteresting Group Interactions 52:15 Leaving Social Gatherings 53:58 Feeling Awkward About Leaving 55:48 Planning Fun and Exciting Dates 59:35 Doing Activities You Enjoy with Your Partner 01:00:01 Doing Things for Yourself and Your Partner 01:01:23 Closing Remarks

In this episode, we explore various facets of dating and attraction, delving into the notion that attraction is not a choice and emphasizing the importance of authenticity. Our discussion covers topics such as dating multiple people, self-improvement in attracting a partner, and the significance of having a clear vision in dating. We navigate the challenges of workplace attraction, suggesting a cautious, slower approach outside of the workplace to mitigate potential complications. We encourage listeners to break away from conventional thinking and forge their unique paths, exploring different approaches to exchanging numbers. Throughout, we stress the vital role of authenticity, presence, and individuality in creating memorable dating experiences. The conversation also addresses ethical considerations in pursuing someone in a relationship, highlighting the importance of understanding women's fears and emphasizing ongoing consent and communication in the dating process. CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction and Overview 02:40 Attraction and Authenticity 05:42 The Myth of Universal Attraction 08:25 Self-Improvement and Authenticity 09:41 The Importance of Having a Vision 11:11 Dating Multiple People 12:36 Exploring and Getting to Know People 15:01 The Importance of Purpose 19:38 Approaching a Girl at Her Workplace 23:49 Revisiting the Debate: Giving Numbers vs Taking Numbers 25:41 Navigating Workplace Attraction 26:18 Taking a Slower Approach 27:39 The Inevitability of Attraction in the Workplace 28:05 Expressing Interest Outside of Work 29:05 Being Cautious and Respectful 30:10 Navigating the Friend Zone 32:24 Creating Memorable First Approaches and Dates 34:50 Being Authentic and Present 36:04 Listening and Getting to Know the Other Person 38:12 Being Extraordinary and Standing Out 39:08 Taking Risks and Going Where Others Won't 40:04 Choosing Your Own Path and Being Authentic 41:10 Overcoming Ordinary Thinking 44:42 Making Approaches and Dates Memorable 45:39 Receiving the Number Instead of Taking 47:12 Making a Statement Instead of Asking 48:51 Leaving the Number and Letting Them Text 50:35 The Difference Between Leaving the Number and Texting 50:46 Mistrust in Giving Out Numbers 51:46 The Power of Words and Actions 52:24 The Transition from Conversation to Texting 53:14 Agreeing to Disagree 53:44 Taking Initiative in the Dating Process 54:31 The Importance of the First Text 56:28 Group Approach Day 57:16 Approaching Conversations with Strangers 58:14 Dealing with Disappointments and Nasty Voices 59:14 Approaching a Waitress 01:00:53 Unexpected Encounters 01:03:12 Ethics of Pursuing Someone in a Relationship 01:04:19 The Unfairness of the Dating Process 01:06:06 Women's Receptiveness and Men's Approach 01:07:04 Approaching a Mother and Daughter 01:09:01 The Friendliness of Women 01:10:45 The Responsibility of Approaching Women 01:12:05 Understanding Women's Fear and Protection 01:13:56 The Importance of Consent and Ongoing Communication 01:15:28 Being Receptive to Women's Fear 01:16:50 Showing Friendliness and Reassurance

In this episode, we debunk the idea of a complex process for approaching women at the gym and emphasize the importance of authenticity and clarity in expressing desires. Our discussion delves into the difference between spraying and praying and the potential pitfalls of purely sex-driven motivations. We also provide insights on how to navigate various dating scenarios, such as ignored messages, flakes, and cancellations. We explore the concept of emotional intelligence, highlighting the significance of understanding and working with emotions in dating and personal growth. Throughout the episode, we share our recent dating experiences and the challenges we face. We discuss new romantic interests, dealing with uncertainty, and reacting to being ignored. Additionally, we delve into the topic of alcohol and its impact on dating, sharing a cautionary tale about a drunk encounter. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Overview 00:34 Critiquing Instagram Reels and Reddit Posts 02:00 Debunking the Gym Approach Process 03:15 The Importance of Authentic Connections 05:02 Understanding and Expressing Desires 06:17 The Difference Between Spraying and Praying 08:05 The Tragedy of Purely Motivated by Sex 09:12 Does Chasing Girls Work? 10:16 Interpreting Ignored Messages 13:35 Responding to Flakes and Cancellations 15:07 Navigating Physical Intimacy 16:49 Setting Up Second Dates 18:38 Accepting Friendship or Moving On 23:31 Understanding Emotional Intelligence 26:35 Recognizing and Working with Emotions 30:09 Developing Emotional Awareness 32:02 Overcoming Emotional Resistance 33:09 Personal Experiences and Growth 33:38 New Romantic Interest 38:16 Will's Dating Experience 43:33 Dealing with Uncertainty 48:51 Reacting to Being Ignored 51:25 Treating Women Equally 56:19 Alcohol and Dating 59:04 Horror Story: Drunk Encounter 01:00:01 Closing Remarks

In this episode, we shift our perspective to explore dating advice and optimal places to meet women, urging listeners to broaden interests and utilize platforms like Meetup.com. Advocating for authenticity, we debunk the myth of a perfect time for approaching women, sharing real-life examples and emphasizing empathy. Our experiences in approaching strangers in the park and group meetups are recounted, highlighting the importance of setting goals and staying focused. We delve into the dynamics of approaching women in various scenarios, caution against over-reliance on dating apps, and explore the intersection of art in society, addressing challenges faced by artists and contemplating the future of artistic expression and authenticity in shaping culture. Chapters 00:00 Introduction 01:20 Reviewing Dating Advice 02:16 Best Places to Meet Women 03:43 Opening Your Mind to New Interests 04:41 Using Meetup.com to Meet Women 05:25 Finding Women in Specific Environments 06:04 Feminine Restaurants and Coffee Shops 07:07 Social Sporting Events 08:07 Using Dating Apps as a Supplement 09:21 The Illusion of a Perfect Time 10:36 The Rules of Approaching a Woman 11:20 The Importance of Taking Action 12:20 Creating the Perfect Time 13:23 The Myth of a Perfect Time 14:16 Handling Unexpected Situations 15:07 Authenticity in Interactions 18:48 The Role of Rules and Authenticity 20:09 Creating a Space for Authenticity 23:22 Real-Life Examples of Authentic Approaches 26:46 Empathy for Women in Approaches 28:24 The Importance of Familiar Energy 29:22 Showing Your Real Self 29:54 Recap of Meetup Group 30:03 Approaching Strangers in the Park 30:33 Sharing Stories and Goals 31:28 Overcoming Resistance and Making Approaches 32:23 Making Genuine Connections 33:18 Approaching Women with Boyfriends 34:04 Approaching with Different Intentions 35:13 Stepping Out of Comfort Zones 36:15 The Exhaustion of Approaching Strangers 37:21 Navigating Approaches and Personal Boundaries 38:09 The Excitement and Vulnerability of Approaching 39:25 The Thrill of the Unknown 40:36 The Comparison to Grand Theft Auto 41:13 The Rush of Approaching 43:25 Managing Highs and Lows 45:08 Riding the Highs of Approaches 46:16 Building Sandcastles and Expectations 48:15 Being Present and Avoiding Objectification 49:25 Approaching Women on the Phone 52:42 Approaching Women Who Are Walking 56:04 Approaching Women Who Are Running 58:39 Approaching Women on the Phone 59:22 Being Mindful of Facial Expressions 05:00 The Importance of Art in Society 15:00 The Role of Artists in Shaping Culture 25:00 Challenges Faced by Artists 35:00 The Business Side of Art 45:00 Artistic Expression and Authenticity 55:00 The Future of Art 01:00:00 Closing Remarks

In our latest episode of the Art of Approach podcast, we explore the nuances of online dating, from navigating Instagram reels to setting up the first dates, emphasizing the importance of the right mindset and confidence without overemphasizing expectations. We delve into the dynamics of approaching groups, the persona contrasts between "bad boys" and "nice guys," and the significance of expressing desires authentically. Our discussion also covers the challenges of seeking validation, the importance of self-validation, and understanding one’s inner child, alongside recognizing red flags in dating. We address balancing desire with self-control, the benefits of setting boundaries, and the importance of clear and respectful communication of desires. Concluding with insights on handling nervousness and the power of humor in overcoming awkward moments, we emphasize the importance of personal integrity and the pitfalls of seeking external validation in the complex world of dating. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview 06:57 Reviewing Instagram Reels 29:13 Discussion on Talking to Groups of Girls 33:09 Approaching Groups of Girls 46:57 Dealing with Rejection and Seeking Validation 53:11 Embracing and Validating Your Inner Child 59:35 Seeking Validation from Trusted Sources 01:02:19 Approaching Dates with High Hopes and Low Expectations 01:03:02 Recognizing Red Flags and Keeping an Open Mind 01:04:02 Balancing Desire and Self-Control 01:05:01 Not Having Sex on the First Date 01:06:04 Keeping Sexual Energy Open 01:07:15 Expressing Desire and Setting Boundaries 01:08:03 Building Up the Kiss 01:09:37 Personal Interactions and Nervousness 01:10:51 Laughing Off Awkward Moments 01:11:41 Dealing with Skepticism and Misinterpretation 01:13:36 Holding onto Integrity and Ignoring External Validation 01:15:13 Conclusion

In the 8th episode of The Art of Approach Podcast, we explore the intricacies of dating and approach coaching, sharing insights and personal experiences on overcoming self-defeating thoughts, healing past wounds, and building self-belief. We discuss the importance of body language, being present, and the power of affirmations and self-forgiveness in building rapport. Our conversation also covers managing expectations when approaching women, the benefits of approaching alone versus with a wingman, and the significance of expressing feelings and respecting privacy in potential relationships. Finally, we reflect on the importance of honesty and authenticity in interactions, emphasizing overcoming fear and building confidence in the realm of dating and approaching women.

In episode seven of the Art of Approach podcast, we dive into the essence of using 'friend energy' when meeting new people. We discuss the significance of treating everyone like a friend to forge authentic and comfortable connections. Our conversation also touches on the importance of clear intentions and genuine desire in approaches, handling 'sh*t tests' with confidence, and the need to recover from negative experiences while maintaining a balanced mindset. We delve into finding equilibrium in interactions, focusing on the journey rather than the outcome in dating, and the role of texting in early stages of relationships. Sharing our own coaching and dating experiences, we highlight the challenges of missed opportunities and overcoming the fear of judgment. We emphasize the importance of confronting self-doubt, accepting the uncertainties of dating, and the idea that there's never a 'perfect time' to approach someone, encouraging our listeners to seize opportunities as they arise. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Overview 03:22 The Power of Cultivating a Friend Energy 08:10 Approaching with Friend Energy 14:12 Approaching with a Clear Purpose 18:23 Approaching in Different Situations 25:36 Building Confidence through Positive Approaches 28:37 Handling Shit Tests and Maintaining Authenticity 33:08 Bouncing Back from Negative Interactions 34:05 Finding Balance in Interactions 36:29 Texting in the Early Stages of Dating 44:05 Personal Coaching and Dating Experiences 49:14 Overcoming Fear of Judgment 57:18 Seizing Opportunities and Letting Go of Regrets 01:00:38 The Illusion of Perfect Timing