The Art of Charm

In today’s episode, we explore the importance of community spaces and their role in fostering connection and resilience with Aaron Greiner, a pioneering voice in urban design and social infrastructure. As the executive director of CultureHouse, Aaron has transformed underutilized spaces into vibrant “third places” that bring people together, encourage social interaction, and strengthen community ties. With hands-on experience in urban planning and a passion for creating welcoming, inclusive environments, Aaron has been at the forefront of redefining how we view public spaces in urban areas.  Join us for an insightful conversation with Aaron Greiner as he explores the vital role of “third places” in reconnecting our communities and fostering genuine human interaction in a world increasingly dominated by digital connections. How can we reclaim public spaces as hubs for social connection? What are the hidden health and societal benefits of accessible community spaces? Aaron shares his experience transforming vacant storefronts into vibrant pop-ups, discusses the urgent need for social infrastructure, and reveals why gathering spaces are more crucial than ever for individual and collective resilience. Discover actionable ideas to create your own third place, connect with neighbors, and foster a stronger, more supportive community. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What inspired Aaron Greiner to focus on third places and create CultureHouse? How do third spaces differ from traditional public spaces, and why are they essential for community well-being? What challenges did Aaron face when starting CultureHouse, and how has the organization evolved over time? The Role of Third Places in Society – 00:03:14 What are “third places,” and how do they foster social connection and community? Why have traditional third places, like dive bars and cafes, declined, and what does it mean for social infrastructure? How does the setup of a third place affect how people interact and connect? The Importance of Social Infrastructure – 00:07:28 How does Aaron define social infrastructure, and why is it vital to society? Why did Aaron choose a popup model for CultureHouse’s third places, and what benefits does this approach provide? What impact do third places have on local communities, especially those with limited access to public spaces? The Pandemic’s Impact on Community Spaces – 00:08:50 How did COVID-19 exacerbate issues with social isolation and third places? What role did commercial spaces play in social infrastructure before the pandemic, and how has that shifted? How do communities with strong social infrastructure fare better during crises? Research and Evidence Supporting Third Places – 00:10:20 What research highlights the life-and-death impact of social infrastructure in times of crisis? How does the decline in social clubs and organizations contribute to societal division? What can we learn from urban design in cities like Copenhagen to improve third spaces in the U.S.? Suburbanization and Its Effects on Connection – 00:13:41 How has suburbanization and car dependency impacted Americans' ability to connect with each other? What challenges do suburban layouts present for building social infrastructure? How does urban design in Europe foster a greater sense of community compared to the U.S.? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode, we explore the transformative power of psychological flexibility with Dr. Ross White, an award-winning clinical psychologist and a leader in mental resilience and high-performance coaching. Currently a professor of clinical psychology at Queen’s University Belfast and founder of Strive to Thrive, Dr. White specializes in helping individuals and organizations unlock their potential while safeguarding mental well-being. His latest book, The Tree That Bends: How a Flexible Mind Can Help You Thrive, challenges the relentless “no-limits” mindset and presents a balanced approach to personal growth, integrating acceptance, commitment therapy, and mindfulness. Join us for a compelling conversation with Dr. Ross White as we explore the power of psychological flexibility in achieving true resilience and mental well-being. How can we balance the grit needed for high performance with the adaptability essential for sustainable growth? Dr. White discusses the “get, threat, and reset” modes that guide our energy and performance, revealing how psychological flexibility can protect us from burnout while enhancing success. Discover actionable insights into balancing ambition with rest, redefining mental toughness, and navigating the social pressures that drive relentless striving. This episode offers a new approach to thriving under pressure, helping you to achieve both performance and well-being in your personal and professional life. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What are the “get, threat, and reset” modes that drive our mental energy and resilience? How does Dr. Ross White’s background in clinical psychology influence his approach to high performance and mental well-being? What can listeners expect from Dr. White’s latest book, The Tree That Bends, on balancing ambition with self-care? Redefining Resilience: Beyond Grit – 00:04:28 Why can grit sometimes be a barrier rather than a strength in high-stress environments? What does “thriving” truly mean according to Dr. White, and how does it balance both well-being and performance? How can persistence become counterproductive, and what role does adaptability play in reaching our goals? The Power of Psychological Flexibility in High-Performance Settings – 00:07:49 What is the importance of adaptability for executives, athletes, and other high achievers in preventing burnout? How can the “get, threat, and reset” framework help maintain peak performance while prioritizing mental health? Why should high performers balance drive with self-awareness and adaptability? Embracing Limits and Building Purpose – 00:13:00 What are “when-then” traps, and how can they hinder long-term fulfillment? How does Dr. White recommend redefining success to include well-being and self-care? Why is it vital to build purpose that aligns with personal values, rather than societal expectations? Harnessing Psychological Flexibility to Reduce Stress – 00:19:28 What is “psychological flexibility,” and how can it help us handle life’s stressors with greater resilience? How does comparing oneself to social media “highlight reels” fuel burnout, and what are healthier alternatives? Why is cultivating personal values a cornerstone of thriving under pressure? Techniques for Emotional Awareness and Anchoring – 00:33:41 How can techniques like the “roving reporter” exercise help us detach from negative thought patterns? What is “anchoring,” and why is it essential for managing challenging emotions? Why is emotional awareness crucial for navigating stress and making effective decisions? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, we discuss anxiety and worry with Ben Eckstein, a leading expert in the treatment of anxiety and rumination. As the owner and director of Bull City Anxiety and OCD Treatment Center, Ben specializes in helping individuals break free from cycles of overthinking and distress. He brings a wealth of clinical experience and knowledge as a therapist, speaker, and author of Worrying is Optional: Break the Cycle of Anxiety and Rumination That Keeps You Stuck, where he explores practical strategies for managing anxiety and reclaiming peace of mind. Through his work, Ben aims to empower others to build balanced lives that align with their values, offering actionable insights for anyone struggling with anxiety. Join us for an insightful conversation with Ben Eckstein as we explore the nature of anxiety, worry, and the mental traps that keep us stuck in cycles of rumination. What drives our constant need to overthink, and how can we shift our relationship with worry to regain control of our lives? Ben shares his expertise on distinguishing between helpful and unhelpful thoughts, the factors that contribute to anxiety, and practical approaches for managing it effectively. Discover actionable strategies to break free from overthinking, cultivate a balanced mindset, and build a life aligned with your values. Learn how to transform worry from a barrier into a tool for growth and resilience in both your personal and professional life. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What is worry, and how can you tell when it becomes a problem in your life? Why do some people worry more than others, and what role do genetics and environment play in anxiety? How can you differentiate between worrying as a habit and worrying as a productive response? Controlling Worry vs. Accepting It – 00:05:26 Why is it important to distinguish between “worry” as a noun and “worrying” as a verb? What aspects of worry are within our control, and when is it best to let go? How can identifying whether a problem is solvable or unsolvable help reduce anxiety? Building a Healthier Relationship with Worry – 00:11:10 What does it mean to have a relationship with worry, and how can you assess whether yours is healthy? Why might some positive beliefs about worry actually perpetuate anxiety? How can reframing your thoughts about worry lead to greater mental freedom? Tools and Techniques to Manage Worry – 00:18:04 What strategies can help you become more aware of your worry patterns? How can scheduling “worry time” or saying worries out loud help diminish their power? Why is practicing attention control essential for breaking the cycle of rumination? Accepting Uncertainty – 00:30:03 How can you develop a “good enough” threshold when seeking certainty? Why is embracing uncertainty an important skill, and what role does acceptance play in managing anxiety? What exercises can help you practice accepting uncertainty in daily life? Helping Others Who Worry – 00:42:55 How can you support a friend or family member who struggles with chronic worry? Why does offering reassurance often fall short, and what are more effective alternatives? What can you do to validate someone’s feelings while encouraging them to build resilience? Replacing Worry with Productive Actions – 00:53:55 What should you replace worry with, and how can you identify healthier coping mechanisms? How can perspective-taking and looking back at past worries help reduce current anxiety? Why is it crucial to find constructive activities that fulfill the same needs that worrying addresses? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode, we cover overcoming procrastination and loneliness at work with Adam Grant. Adam is a top-rated professor at the Wharton School, the host of the awesome Worklife podcast, and is the author of “Give and Take”, one of his four New York Times bestselling books. Procrastination is associated with laziness by many, but the science shows us otherwise - so if procrastinators aren’t lazy then why do we assume they are, what can you do about your procrastination if you want to change it, and why is now the best time to overcome your procrastination habit?   What to Listen For What can you do today to overcome your procrastination habits? How do we redesign jobs that now have to operate from a distance? Why is it more challenging to work remotely and what can you do to overcome them so you don’t lose your job? What questions can you ask someone to help them figure out what motivates them so you can help them become a happier and more productive employee? What can we do as leaders to help our coworkers and employees grapple with the loneliness that accompanies working from home for many people? What is one of the most powerful antidotes to loneliness that we can give people any time? What simple exercise can you go through with your employees or coworkers to immediately improve their creativity and productivity? What can you do to immediately win the battle over procrastination while you’re working from home? How can you break down your procrastination into understandable chunks so you can easily overcome them? What does the science say about the ideal workplace environment so you can make your office more conducive to your work? What should we be most concerned about as we come out of this quarantine and will we be able to return to normal? If you find yourself procrastinating, it’s not necessarily a problem with your work ethic, but can certainly be a problem with your ability to regulate your emotions. When confronted with a task that makes you feel uncomfortable (angry, uncertainty, frustrated, annoyed, anxious, etc), procrastination can kick in to help you avoid feeling those things. So what can you do to mitigate these responses and overcome your procrastination before it costs you an awesome opportunity? Tune in to find out! A Word From Our Sponsors Share your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here! Whether you’re a professional working at a traditional, home or remote office our new sponsor, Fully, is here to transform your workplace with furniture designed for health, flow and balance. And right now, you can save $50 off the Jarvis standing desk when you visit fully.com/CHARM. Fully—everything you need to make your work flow. Resources from this Episode Adam Grant’s website Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success by Adam Grant Core Confidence Worklife - a podcast hosted by Adam Grant Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, we discuss the dynamics of relationships, empathy, and conflict resolution with Dr. Warren Farrell, a renowned thought leader in gender studies and communication. As the author of multiple bestselling books, including The Boy Crisis and his latest, Role Mate to Soul Mate: The 7 Secrets to Lifelong Love, Dr. Farrell has spent over 30 years teaching couples the art of effective communication. Named one of the world’s top 100 thought leaders by the Financial Times, he specializes in helping couples build lasting relationships through empathy, appreciation, and conflict-free communication.  Join us for a compelling conversation with Dr. Warren Farrell as he unpacks the emotional dynamics that define our relationships and the steps we can take to nurture lifelong love. How can we resolve conflicts without escalating defensiveness? What’s the secret to creating a conflict-free zone in your relationship? Dr. Farrell shares his deep expertise on how appreciation, empathy, and his transformative 4-step apology can reshape even the most strained relationships. Discover actionable strategies to enhance communication, build deeper emotional connections, and foster a resilient partnership that can weather any storm. Whether you're looking to improve your romantic relationship or strengthen bonds with those closest to you, this episode is packed with practical tips to help you succeed. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What inspired Dr. Warren Farrell to write Role Mate to Soul Mate? How does Dr. Farrell define the difference between a “role mate” and a “soul mate”? What are the common challenges couples face as they transition from passion to routine, and how can they overcome them? Creating a Conflict-Free Zone – 00:06:24 Why is it essential to establish a conflict-free zone in relationships? How does this practice help couples avoid walking on eggshells and promote honest communication? What are the steps involved in the caring and sharing practice that Dr. Farrell recommends? Family Dynamics and Parenting – 00:11:17 How do different parenting philosophies create tension between partners? What is “checks and balance” parenting, and why is it crucial for long-term harmony? How does Dr. Farrell suggest couples manage conflicts regarding child-rearing? The Importance of Regular Appreciation – 00:13:37 Why does regular appreciation help maintain strong relationships? What are the five levels of specificity in appreciation, and how do they deepen emotional connections? How can couples create routines, like weekly date nights, to build appreciation and gratitude into their relationship? The Impact of Modernity on Family Structures – 00:23:01 How does modern society challenge the traditional family structure? What role does the absence of fathers play in the development of boys and girls? Why is the rising rate of single-parent households a product of modern societal shifts? Balancing Career Success with Love – 00:28:21 How do the skills that make you successful at work hinder success in love? What can high-performing professionals do to shift their mindset and improve communication at home? Why is listening, rather than problem-solving, key to strengthening emotional connections? The Importance of Regular Appreciation – 00:35:38 Why does regular appreciation help maintain strong relationships? What are the five levels of specificity in appreciation, and how do they deepen emotional connections? How can couples create routines, like weekly date nights, to build appreciation and gratitude into their relationship? The 4-Step Apology Framework – 00:49:42 What are the four critical components of an effective apology? How can this apology method transform conflict resolution in relationships? Why is tone of voice just as important as the words used in an apology? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, we review the greatest hits around building resilience and leveraging social skills to get you closer to your goals, drawing on our insightful conversations with Angela Duckworth, Laura Huang, John Livesay, and Steven Hayes. Life gets rough. It’s important to develop good habits while things are going smoothly so when the seas get rough, you have a strong baseline to fall back on. Grit and resilience are integral to your success in life because they make the tough times easier to push through without feeling like the world is collapsing around you. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What is the difference between talent and effort? What is the foundation for reaching your goals and how do you make it strong? What are the two P’s you need to push toward your goals? This always beats talent alone – 00:09:48 What should you focus on if you want to be the best and you weren’t “born with talent?” How do you maintain your passion in something when you keep failing at it? Breaking down goals to make them easy – 00:14:48 How can you break down goals and objectives in a way that makes them feel easier while also motivating you to stick with them? What can you do to stop getting caught up in the past and focus on the future? How to trust your gut – 00:24:05 What can you do to develop your intuition and learn when to rely on it? What will always outperform hard work in the world we live in now? Why is “just be yourself” terrible advice even though there is a kernel of truth embedded in it? Overcome your fear of rejection today – 00:34:46 What one exercise can you do today to overcome your fear of rejection so you can push forward after every “no” without missing a beat? What is the secret to not taking rejection personally so you can maintain your focus and mood in the face of overwhelming rejection? Stop letting your inner critic dictate your life – 00:41:42 What can you do to release the death grip that your inner critic has on your life so you take risks and chase your big goals without fear of failure? Why do you need to develop competence? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, we explore money and investing with Mark Matson. Mark is an American entrepreneur, author, and innovator in the science of investing and financial education. He creates educational experiences, platforms, and tools that make investing research accessible to investors and transform their relationship with money. His new book, “Experiencing the American Dream: How to Invest Your Time, Energy, and Money to Create an Extraordinary Life” is out now. Mark challenges the traditional definition of the American dream and what many of us get wrong when defining it. Join us for an insightful conversation with Mark Matson as we discuss why money doesn’t equal happiness and how more money leads to more stress, why you need to understand academic investment principles to save yourself from gambling your retirement away, how to overcome the scarcity mindset to build your American dream, and what it takes to find your purpose and live an extraordinary life. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:28 How does Mark Matson define the American dream differently? What problems does money NOT solve? Identify Your Blindspots with Money – 00:09:03 How do you identify your blindspots with money and then fix them so they don’t hinder your success in life? What can you focus on to make ANY amount of money feel like enough? Intelligent Investing vs Stock Gambling – 00:16:15 What behaviors in the stock market make you a gambler vs an investor? Are big investing firms actually great at investing your money or just lucky over the long term? Why is the investing industry broken and can it be fixed? What are the 3 academic investing principles you can apply to mitigate the biggest risks associated with investing? Why Investing Solo Will Lose You Money – 00:27:34 What natural human tendencies make it an uphill battle to succeed as a solo investor and what value does a coach bring to the table? How do you apply the 3 academic investing principles when you’re just starting out? The Investing Roadmap to Prosperity– 00:39:01 What is the secret to creating life changing wealth? How do you build financial security and freedom if you don’t want to be an entrepreneur?  5 Discoveries That Will Change How You Think About Money – 00:48:22 What 5 facts about investing will change the way you think about money and help prevent you from making huge mistakes? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, we explore the world of accelerated learning and skill mastery with Scott Young, a leading expert on self-directed learning and productivity. As the best-selling author of Ultralearning and Get Better at Anything: 12 Maxims for Mastery, Scott has transformed the way people approach acquiring new skills, pushing the boundaries of what’s possible through deliberate practice and innovative techniques. Known for his ambitious project of learning MIT's 4-year computer science curriculum in just one year without attending any classes, Scott has dedicated his career to understanding how we can learn faster, overcome our fears, and achieve mastery in any field.  Join us for an insightful conversation with Scott Young as he shares with us the art and science of ultra learning—how we can master new skills at an accelerated pace and break through the barriers that hold us back. What are the most effective ways to learn quickly and efficiently? How can we overcome the fear of failure and the anxiety that often accompanies new challenges? Scott shares his expert insights into the principles of deliberate practice, the importance of feedback, and the myths that often cloud our understanding of talent and ability. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:28 How did Scott Young become a leading expert in self-directed learning and skill mastery? What inspired Scott to tackle the challenge of learning MIT’s 4-year computer science curriculum in just one year without attending any classes? What are the core ideas behind Scott's books Ultra Learning and Get Better at Anything, and how can they help you master new skills faster? The Three Pillars of Learning – 00:02:34 What are the three essential steps to mastering any skill? What examples demonstrate that talent often appears effortless due to extensive practice and refinement? How can you apply these insights to push past the limits of what you believe is possible for yourself? Overcoming Fear and Embracing Exposure – 00:10:49 Why is exposure to what you're afraid of critical for overcoming fear and anxiety in learning? How can gradual exposure to challenging situations, like public speaking or cold calling, help reduce fear over time? What are some practical strategies to start applying exposure therapy in your personal and professional life? Unlearning Bad Habits – 00:18:42 What challenges come with unlearning ingrained habits, and how can you effectively replace them with better techniques? How did AJ’s experience with unlearning a golf swing illustrate the difficulties and importance of relearning a skill the right way? Why is it sometimes necessary to learn completely new approaches when trying to unlearn bad habits? The Importance of Simplification in Early Learning – 00:22:21 How does starting with simplified versions of a skill help accelerate the learning process? What can we learn from flight simulators about the benefits of practicing in a controlled, simplified environment before facing real-world challenges? Why does beginning with the basics lay a stronger foundation for mastering more complex skills later on? The Value of Variable Practice – 00:28:04 How does variable practice, or mixing up different types of practice, enhance learning and adaptability? Why is practicing in varied conditions more effective than repetitive practice, and how can this approach be applied to everyday learning? What are some examples of variable practice that can be used for skills like language learning, sports, or public speaking? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode, we cover emotions and empathy with Karla McLaren, a renowned expert in emotional intelligence and empathy development. As an award-winning author, educator, and social science researcher, Karla dedicated her career to helping individuals and organizations understand and harness the power of emotions. She developed the "Six Essential Aspects of Empathy" model, which breaks down empathy into accessible and actionable steps, making it possible for everyone to enhance their emotional skills. Karla's books, including "The Language of Emotions," "The Power of Emotions at Work," and "Embracing Anxiety," offer transformative insights into revaluing even the most challenging emotions, turning them into pathways for self-awareness, effective communication, and healthier relationships.  Join us for an enlightening conversation with Karla McLaren as she unpacks the intricate language of emotions and the vital role they play in our daily lives. Ever wondered why certain emotions feel so overpowering or why we struggle to articulate what we're feeling? Karla breaks down the complexities of emotional intelligence and empathy, offering practical tools to expand your emotional vocabulary and improve your communication skills. We explore how emotions are not the enemies of rationality but essential allies in decision-making and relationship-building. Discover how to manage challenging emotions like anger and jealousy, set healthy boundaries, and develop a deeper connection with yourself and others.  What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 Why do we often feel strong negative emotions even in our most loving relationships? How does vulnerability play a crucial role in the intensity of emotions experienced in close relationships? Introduction to Karla McLaren and her journey into exploring the language of emotions and empathy. Understanding Emotions – 00:02:46 What are emotions, and why are they essential to our rationality and decision-making? Why is it unhelpful to label emotions as simply ‘good’ or ‘bad’? How does expanding your emotional vocabulary improve your self-awareness and emotional regulation? Building an Emotional Vocabulary – 00:05:28 What are the benefits of having a broader emotional vocabulary? How can identifying the intensity of emotions help you manage them more effectively? Practical steps to enhance your emotional vocabulary and how it can lead to better communication. Anger and Boundaries – 00:16:01 What is the true purpose of anger, and how does it relate to setting boundaries? Common misconceptions about anger and how they can lead to unhealthy expressions or repression. Strategies for managing anger constructively to maintain and reinforce personal boundaries. Resist Emotional Manipulation – 00:27:20 What easy questions can you ask yourself to figure out if/how someone is trying to convince you to do something or think a certain way? The Role of Jealousy – 00:32:36 What triggers jealousy, and why is it considered a crucial social emotion? How to differentiate between healthy jealousy that sets boundaries and unhealthy reactions driven by insecurity. Tips on addressing jealousy in relationships through clear communication and understanding personal needs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, we dive into the psychology of influence and brand growth with Leslie Zane, a pioneer in the field of behavioral science and marketing. As the founder and CEO of Triggers Brand Consulting, Leslie has been at the forefront of helping top brands like Coca-Cola, McDonald’s, and Nike accelerate their growth by understanding the subconscious drivers of consumer behavior. With a background that spans behavioral science, marketing, and brand strategy, she is also the author of “The Power of Instinct: The New Rules of Persuasion in Business and Life”, where she reveals how tapping into the instinctive mind can lead to unparalleled success in business and personal branding.  Join us for an eye-opening conversation with Leslie Zane as she reveals the power of the instinctive mind in shaping our decisions and brand preferences. Have you ever wondered why some brands stand out effortlessly while others struggle to make an impact? Leslie uncovers the subconscious drivers that influence our choices and explains how businesses—and individuals—can leverage these insights to gain a competitive edge. Leslie also shares practical tips for crafting a compelling personal brand that resonates on a deeper level. Discover how to tap into the instinctive mind to enhance your influence, master persuasion, and set yourself apart in both your professional and personal life. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What drove Leslie Zane to pioneer the field of brand connectomes and behavioral science in marketing? How did Leslie’s early career experiences shape her understanding of consumer behavior and influence her approach to brand consulting? What are the key principles behind Leslie’s book, The Power of Instinct, and how can they be applied to both personal and business growth? The Instinctive Mind and Brand Connectome – 00:01:55 What is the instinctive mind, and why does it play a more significant role in decision-making than the conscious mind? How does the brand connectome influence consumer choices, and why is it crucial for brands to expand their connectome in consumers' minds? Why do brands need to stand for multiple associations rather than a single attribute to be successful? Building a Personal Brand with Subconscious Triggers – 00:07:22 How can individuals apply the principles of the brand connectome to develop a strong personal brand? What are growth triggers, and how can they be used to build positive associations quickly and effectively? Why is it important to create a holistic personal brand that connects with various aspects of people’s subconscious? Overcoming Legacy Brand Challenges – 00:11:49 Why do legacy brands have an inherent advantage, and how can new brands compete effectively? What are some examples of small brands overtaking legacy brands by using strategic triggers and targeted messaging? How can legacy brands continuously evolve their connectome to stay relevant and combat negative associations? Actionable Advice for Personal and Professional Growth – 00:21:55 How can listeners apply Leslie’s insights on brand connectomes and subconscious triggers to accelerate their careers and personal growth? What are the critical steps in building a personal brand that resonates with employers, clients, and networks? Why is it essential to control your narrative and make strategic connections between your brand and your target audience? Navigating Negative Associations and Competitive Strategies – 00:29:21 Why are negative associations so powerful, and how can they become significant barriers to brand growth? How can brands effectively address and replace negative associations with positive triggers? What competitive strategies can brands use to leverage the relativity principle and contrast against competitors? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, we discuss the hidden forces that shape human behavior and global challenges with Kristian Rönn, a leading thinker in sustainability and evolutionary psychology. As the CEO and cofounder of Normative, Kristian revolutionized how businesses approach sustainability accounting, helping large enterprises achieve their net zero targets. With a rich background in mathematics, philosophy, computer science, and artificial intelligence, he is also the author of "The Darwinian Trap: The Hidden Evolutionary Forces That Explain Our World (and Threaten Our Future)", where he unpacks the evolutionary pitfalls that hinder long-term success and offers insights into how cooperation and high-value behaviors can lead to better decision-making and a brighter future for all. Join us for a thought-provoking conversation with Kristian Rönn as he uncovers the evolutionary forces that silently shape our world and the challenges we face in both personal and global contexts. How do these hidden forces drive human conflict and short-term thinking? What can we do to avoid the Darwinian traps that hinder long-term success? Kristian shares his deep insights into the psychological underpinnings of our behavior, the impact of competitive pressures on society, and the importance of fostering cooperation to create a better future. Discover actionable strategies to navigate these evolutionary pitfalls, enhance your decision-making, and become a more high-value, cooperative leader in your career and beyond. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What sparked Kristian Rönn’s passion for understanding the evolutionary forces behind human behavior and global challenges? How did Kristian’s journey from Oxford’s Future of Humanity Institute to founding Normative shape his perspective on sustainability and global risks? What is the central thesis of Kristian’s book, The Darwinian Trap, and why is it crucial for our future? The Darwinian Trap: Evolutionary Forces in Action – 00:06:13 What is the Darwinian Trap, and how does it explain the short-term thinking and conflicts we see in society? How do evolutionary pressures influence everything from nation-state conflicts to personal career competition? What are the "Darwinian demons" we must be aware of, and how can they impact decision-making on both a personal and global level? The Hidden Costs of Short-Term Thinking – 00:24:26 How can short-term evolutionary strategies be both beneficial and harmful in different contexts? What are some real-world examples of how short-term thinking has led to long-term problems, and how can we avoid these pitfalls? Why is it easier to destroy than to build, and how does this concept relate to the challenges we face today? Navigating the Complexities of Modern Society – 00:36:20 How has globalization and the interdependence of nations both helped and hindered global cooperation? Why is decentralized power important in creating a more equitable and cooperative future? Building a Better Future: Cooperation and Governance – 00:45:27 How can we overcome the cooperation failures that drive global conflicts and environmental degradation? What role can reputational markets and decentralized governance play in solving these complex problems? What are the potential dangers of technological advancements, particularly in AI, and how can we manage these risks responsibly? What actionable steps can individuals take to contribute to a more collaborative and sustainable world? Concluding Thoughts and Optimism for the Future – 00:56:23 Despite the challenges, what gives Kristian optimism about the future of humanity and our ability to overcome the Darwinian Trap? How can meditation and introspection help individuals maintain a positive outlook in the face of global challenges? Where can listeners learn more about The Darwinian Trap and Kristian Rönn’s work on sustainability and global risks? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, we explore the crucial mindset shift from doing the work to winning the work with Mo Bunnell, a renowned business growth expert and founder of the Bunnell Idea Group. With decades of experience helping organizations scale and thrive, Mo has dedicated his career to teaching professionals how to elevate their approach to relationship-building and business development. As the author of "The Snowball System: How to Win More Business and Turn Clients into Raving Fans" and host of the "Real Relationships, Real Revenue" podcast, Mo brings a wealth of knowledge on how small, consistent actions can lead to exponential growth in your career and business.  Join us for an engaging conversation with Mo Bunnell, where he reveals the secrets to shifting from simply doing the work to winning the work in your career. How can you overcome the internal obstacles that hold you back from building meaningful relationships and growing your business? What are the small, consistent habits that can lead to exponential success over time? Mo shares his expert strategies on developing a winning mindset, the art of giving to grow, and the critical shifts in communication that can help you move from being a good performer to a top performer. Discover actionable insights to elevate your career, deepen your professional relationships, and unlock new opportunities in both your business and personal life. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What inspired Mo Bunnell to focus on the mindset shift from doing the work to winning the work? How has Mo’s extensive experience in business growth shaped his approach to relationship building and business development? What key principles from "Give to Grow" can help you elevate your career and business relationships? The Mindset Shift: Doing the Work vs. Winning the Work – 00:02:16 What is the crucial difference between doing the work and winning the work, and why is it essential for career growth? How can you start thinking 10x, not 1x, to overcome internal fears and embrace opportunities? What are the key habits that successful professionals use to transition from a delivery-focused mindset to a growth-oriented one? Overcoming the Lies That Hold You Back – 00:13:47 What are the five common lies we tell ourselves that hinder our success in relationship building? How can you identify and counteract these lies to maintain momentum in your career? Why is it important to act through discomfort and rejection to achieve long-term success? Integrating Relationship Development with Daily Work – 00:19:47 How can you seamlessly integrate relationship building into your daily tasks without feeling overwhelmed? What are practical examples of small, consistent actions that can lead to significant career growth? How can face-to-face interactions dramatically increase your chances of success in building relationships? The Power of Giving to Grow – 00:31:39 What does it mean to “give to grow,” and how can this mindset transform your professional relationships? How can you provide value even when you feel you have nothing to give? What are the four types of gifts you can offer to deepen relationships and create opportunities? Strategic Giving and Setting Boundaries – 00:43:38 How can you be a strategic giver without getting taken advantage of? What are the boundaries you need to set to ensure that your giving leads to mutual growth? How can asking for small commitments from others help you identify who’s worth investing in? Building Habits for Long-Term Success – 00:51:47 How can you create routines and habits that naturally lead to winning the work? What is the importance of maintaining a list of key opportunities and relationships, and how can this practice drive your success? How can focusing on three most important things (MITs) each week create unstoppable momentum in your career? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, we dive into the art of productive discourse, the challenges posed by modern technology, and the 10 essential habits of a peacemaker with Steven T. Collis, a distinguished law professor and expert in First Amendment rights. As a scholar dedicated to understanding and navigating the complexities of free speech and religious liberty, Steven has spent years engaging in some of the most contentious topics of our time. His insightful perspectives have been shared across North America, where he educates audiences on the sophisticated tactics used by social media companies to keep us addicted and the importance of intellectual humility in today's polarized world. In this episode, we explore key insights from his upcoming book, "Habits of a Peacemaker," available this September. Join us for an insightful conversation with Steven T. Collis, where he discusses the challenges of modern communication and the critical role of peacemaking in today's polarized society. How can we break free from the habits that social media companies have engineered to keep us addicted and instead foster more productive and meaningful discourse? What are the essential habits that can help us navigate difficult conversations and bridge divides? Steven shares his expert insights on cultivating intellectual humility, the power of real learning, and the surprising ways humor can be a tool for connection. Discover practical strategies to become a more effective peacemaker, enhance your relationships, and contribute to a more respectful and understanding world both online and offline. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What inspired Steven T. Collis to write "Habits of a Peacemaker" and why is peacemaking more important than ever? How does Steven’s background in First Amendment law influence his approach to productive discourse? What challenges do modern technologies, especially social media, pose to our ability to engage in meaningful conversations? The Art of Productive Discourse – 00:03:00 What habits can help you engage in more productive and respectful conversations? How can you overcome the addictive nature of social media to focus on real learning and intellectual humility? Why is it important to seek out differing viewpoints, and how can this practice improve your understanding of complex issues? Social Media's Impact on Communication – 00:10:45 How do social media platforms use psychological techniques from the gambling industry to keep users engaged? What are the dangers of echo chambers and how can they hinder productive discourse? What strategies can you use to protect yourself from the negative effects of social media on your communication habits? Developing Intellectual Humility – 00:16:14 What does it mean to have intellectual humility, and why is it crucial for productive dialogue? How can you reframe conversations to focus on learning rather than debating? Why is it important to recognize the limits of your knowledge, especially when discussing complex topics? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, we explore the rise of cynicism, strategies to cultivate hope, and the crucial difference between skepticism and cynicism with Dr. Jamil Zaki, a distinguished professor of psychology at Stanford University and director of the Stanford Social Neuroscience Laboratory. Dr. Zaki has spent nearly two decades studying how people connect with each other, how these connections benefit us, and how we can improve our ability to connect. His groundbreaking research has been featured in top-tier publications such as The New York Times, The Atlantic, and Scientific American. In this episode, we explore insights from his upcoming book, "Hope for Cynics: The Surprising Science of Human Goodness," available this September. Join us for an engaging conversation with Dr. Jamil Zaki, where he unpacks the rise of cynicism and offers practical strategies to foster hope and trust. How can you recognize and combat your own cynical tendencies in a world that often feels increasingly distrustful? What are the key differences between healthy skepticism and detrimental cynicism? Dr. Zaki shares his expert insights on cultivating a more positive outlook, drawing from his extensive research and groundbreaking work. Discover effective strategies to nurture hope, improve your relationships, and create a more trusting and cooperative environment both personally and professionally. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 How does Dr. Jamil Zaki's extensive background in psychology and social neuroscience inform his approach to combating cynicism? What personal experiences inspired Dr. Zaki to focus on the rise of cynicism in his research? How does Dr. Zaki define cynicism and its impact on both personal and professional relationships? Recognizing and Combating Personal Cynicism – 00:06:28 What are the key differences between healthy skepticism and harmful cynicism? What strategies can you use to cultivate a more hopeful and trusting mindset? The Contagion of Cynicism – 00:13:45 In what ways is cynicism contagious, and how does it spread through groups and organizations? How can you counteract the spread of cynicism within your own social and professional networks? How does organizational cynicism from leaders affect employees and company culture? What are the consequences of micromanagement and lack of trust in a work environment? Strategies to Foster Hope and Trust – 00:18:04 How can you build trust and positivity within your immediate team or social circle? Demographic Trends in Cynicism – 00:24:27 How can you identify your own cynical tendencies? What demographic groups are experiencing the highest rise in cynicism, and why? How do generational differences impact levels of trust and cynicism? What are the implications of increasing cynicism among younger generations for the future of society? What factors contribute to the increasing levels of cynicism in today's society? How have historical trends and recent events, such as the pandemic, influenced collective trust and cynicism? Cultivating Hope and Trust – 00:34:14 How does Dr. Zaki differentiate between hope and optimism? What are practical steps to foster hope and maintain a positive outlook? How can you support friends and family members who are struggling with cynicism? What is the concept of "trusting loudly," and how can it enhance your relationships? How can collecting more social data help you challenge and overcome negative assumptions about others? Final Thoughts and Resources – 00:45:34 Where can listeners learn more about Dr. Jamil Zaki's research and his new book, "Hope for Cynics"? What additional resources are available for those looking to improve their social and emotional health? How can listeners apply the insights from this episode to their own lives and relationships? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, we explore the vital importance of social health, strategies to foster meaningful connections, and the transformative power of relationships with Kasley Killam, a renowned expert in social health and connection. Kasley has dedicated over a decade to advancing global well-being through her work with organizations like Google, the US Department of Health and Human Services, and the World Economic Forum. Her insights have been featured in prestigious publications such as The New York Times, Scientific American, and Psychology Today. In this episode, we uncover key takeaways from her book, "The Art and Science of Connection: Why Social Health is the Missing Key to Living Longer, Healthier, and Happier," available now. Join us for an insightful conversation with Kasley Killam, where she explores the essential components of social health and the art of building meaningful connections. How can you enhance your social well-being in a world increasingly driven by technology and individualism? What are the fundamental practices to nurture quality relationships that truly enrich your life? Kasley shares her expert strategies for assessing and improving your social health, drawing from her extensive research and impactful work. Discover the transformative 531 guideline for social connection and the steps to integrate diverse, fulfilling relationships into your daily life. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:27 How does Kasley Killam's extensive background in social health and public health shape her approach to building meaningful connections? What inspired Kasley to focus on social health and connection in her career? How does Kasley define the concept of social health and its significance in today’s society? How Can You Understand and Improve Your Social Health? – 00:02:15 Why does Kasley believe that social health is as important as physical and mental health? How can you accurately assess your own social health? What are the three core characteristics of being socially healthy? How Does Technology Impact Your Social Health? – 00:10:28 How does technology influence our social health, both positively and negatively? What are the pitfalls of relying too much on technology for social connections? How can you use technology thoughtfully to enhance your social health? What is the 531 Guideline and How Can It Transform Your Life? – 00:19:22 What is the 531 guideline and how can it help improve your social health? How can you implement the 531 guideline in your daily life? What are some practical examples of connecting with five different people each week? How do you bring connection back into your life if you feel isolated? What are the signs that the relationships you are in are not mutually beneficial and holding you back? Why Should You Cultivate Diverse Relationships? – 00:36:18 Why is it important to have a diverse social portfolio? How do connections with people from different backgrounds and cultures benefit your social health? What steps can you take to build and maintain diverse relationships? How Can You Prioritize Connection in a Busy Life? – 00:41:14 What small steps can you take to weave connection into your busy schedule? How can you be present and prioritize quality over quantity in your interactions? Why is it essential to balance alone time and social time, especially for introverts? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, we explore the art of conflict resolution, negotiation strategies, and transforming challenging relationships with Dr. William Ury, a distinguished expert in the field of negotiation and conflict mediation. Dr. Ury is the co-founder of Harvard's Program on Negotiation and has nearly 50 years of experience in resolving some of the world's toughest conflicts. His seminal works include the bestsellers "Getting to Yes" and "Getting Past No," which have sold over 5 million copies worldwide. In this episode, we explore insights from his latest book, "Possible: How We Survive (and Thrive) in an Age of Conflict," available now. Join us for an enlightening discussion with Dr. William Ury, where he unravels the nuances of conflict resolution and high-stakes negotiation. How can you turn a seemingly insurmountable conflict into a collaborative opportunity? What are the key techniques to prepare yourself mentally and emotionally for tough negotiations? Dr. Ury shares his top strategies for avoiding common negotiation pitfalls and engaging constructively, drawing from his vast experience and groundbreaking work. Discover how to build a "golden bridge" in negotiations and the essential steps to transforming difficult relationships into productive partnerships. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00 How does Dr. William Ury's extensive background in negotiation and anthropology shape his approach to conflict resolution? What drew Dr. Ury to the field of negotiation and conflict mediation early in his career? How does Dr. Ury define the concept of a "possibilist" and its significance in today's world? Understanding Conflict – 05:02 Why does Dr. Ury believe that more conflict is necessary for growth and change? How does he differentiate between destructive and constructive conflict? What is the importance of "going to the balcony" in managing conflict effectively? The Power of Pausing – 13:04 What role does pausing play in reducing emotional reactivity during negotiations? How can the simple act of pausing transform a negotiation's outcome? What is the magic question you can use to find the best compromise in a negotiation? Building the Golden Bridge – 25:15 What is the "golden bridge" strategy and how can it facilitate successful negotiations? How does listening actively help in building a golden bridge for the other side? Why is it crucial to understand your own objectives and the underlying interests behind them? How can you prepare effectively for a negotiation by considering the other side’s perspective? What You Must Avoid in Negotiations – 30:14 What are the three common pitfalls in negotiation and how can you avoid them? What steps can you take to create a collaborative atmosphere in negotiations? Leveraging Curiosity and Creativity – 33:21 How does curiosity drive creativity in finding solutions during negotiations? What are some effective "what if" questions to ask that open up new possibilities? How can separating evaluation from creation enhance the brainstorming process in negotiations? Transforming Relationships through Conflict – 39:31 How does engaging in conflict with curiosity and respect transform relationships? Why is focusing on long-term relationship building more beneficial than seeking short-term wins? How can understanding and articulating mutual interests lead to successful conflict resolution? The Victory Speech Exercise – 52:23 What is the "victory speech" exercise and how can it shift the negotiation dynamic? How did Dr. Ury use this exercise to help de-escalate tensions between Donald Trump and Kim Jong Un? Why is envisioning the other side’s victory speech a powerful tool in negotiation? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, we dive into the intricacies of workplace dynamics, career satisfaction, and professional growth with Tessa West, a leading expert in the science of interpersonal communication. Tessa is a professor of psychology at New York University and one of the world's top researchers on social perception. Her acclaimed work includes the books "Jerks at Work: Toxic Coworkers and What to Do About Them" and her latest release, "Job Therapy: Finding Work That Works for You" available July 23, 2024.  Join us for an insightful conversation with Tessa West, where she unpacks the complexities of workplace dynamics and career satisfaction. How can you turn a difficult coworker into an ally? What are the exact questions to ask when networking to ensure you land the best job offers? Tessa shares her top strategies for identifying the top 5 career frustrations and navigating them effectively, drawing from her extensive research and personal experiences. Discover how to leverage your network in salary negotiations and the critical steps to finding work that truly fulfills you. What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 How does Tessa West's background in social perception and psychology inform her insights on workplace dynamics? What are the psychological tensions people experience at work that Tessa identifies in her book? How can fear of uncertainty and status loss impact career decisions? The Five Key Drivers of Career Frustration – [00:11:59] What are the top sources of career frustration that Tessa outlines in "Job Therapy"? How can understanding these drivers help in navigating career satisfaction? Balancing Fulfillment and Compensation – [00:17:14] What are the common trade-offs between career fulfillment and financial security? How does being embedded at work complicate career changes and personal fulfillment? How can strong team cohesion negatively impact individual recognition and promotion prospects? Strategic Networking for Career Growth – [00:26:45] What specific questions should you ask when networking to explore career fit? How can you create a coherent and compelling narrative of your career journey? What are the risks of taking on non-promotion-relevant roles in search of fulfillment? Articulating Your Contribution to Company Outcomes – [00:38:02] Why is it crucial to understand and articulate how your work contributes to broader company goals? How can you effectively communicate your role in achieving company outcomes? What is the importance of having a broad network beyond your immediate workplace? How can networking outside your organization enhance your career prospects? Asking Tough Questions During Networking – [00:45:15] Why should you ask tough questions about status and promotion prospects when networking? How can feedback from former colleagues provide insights into your career advancement? Effective Networking Strategies – [00:51:27] What practical advice does Tessa give for effective networking? How can you approach potential contacts and ask the right questions to build meaningful connections? Insightful Questions During Job Interviews – [00:56:07] Why insightful questions should you ask during a job interview? What specific questions can help you ensure a good fit with a potential employer? How can embracing awkwardness and having tough conversations lead to finding fulfilling work? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode, we explore the complex intersections of military service, intelligence work, and mental health with Dave Fielding, a decorated US Army Green Beret turned intelligence officer and mental health advocate. David's distinguished career includes service in high-stakes operations such as Operation Inherent Resolve and Operation Enduring Freedom, earning him a Bronze Star. As the author of Into the Darkness: A Journey of Love, War, and Emotional Freedom, David brings a unique perspective on emotional intelligence, the struggles of returning to civilian life, and the silent battles faced by veterans.  Join us for an enlightening conversation with Dave Fielding, where he unveils powerful strategies for navigating the challenges of military life and transitioning to civilian life. How can emotional intelligence transform your relationships and leadership skills? What are the secrets to building rapid rapport across diverse cultures? David shares his personal battle with suicidal thoughts and how he overcame them, offering invaluable insights for those struggling with similar issues. Discover the significance of understanding motivations and learn practical advice that can help you foster stronger connections. Don't miss this episode, filled with heartfelt stories and actionable tips. What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 How does David Fielding's unique background shape his perspective on emotional intelligence and mental health? What pivotal moments in David's career as a Green Beret and intelligence officer define his journey? The Green Beret Secret to Building Rapid Rapport – 12:40 How can understanding motivations help you build instant connections with others? What techniques does David use to create deep connections across diverse cultures? How to Overcome Your Darkest Struggles – 17:40 Why did Dave go from Special Forces to mental health advocacy and what was that shift like? What strategies did David employ to overcome his suicidal thoughts? How can others facing similar struggles find their way out of the darkness? How to Reframe Challenges into Life Changing Opportunities – 33:13 How can reframing your perspective help you tackle seemingly insurmountable challenges? What practical steps can you take to reframe and find meaning in difficult situations? The Power of Understanding Motivations – 43:16 How can understanding the motivations of others improve your leadership and relationships? David discusses the significance of asking “why” in conversations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode, we delve into the fascinating world of behavior design with BJ Fogg, a renowned behavior scientist and founder of the Behavior Design Lab at Stanford University. BJ’s pioneering work focuses on understanding and influencing human behavior through innovative models and methods. His groundbreaking research, including the widely acclaimed Fogg Behavior Model and the Tiny Habits method, has been featured in prominent publications such as The New York Times and Forbes. BJ shares his insights on how tiny changes can lead to significant transformations, debunks common myths about habit formation, and offers practical strategies for creating lasting positive behaviors. Join us for an insightful conversation with BJ Fogg, where he reveals the secrets to designing behaviors that lead to lasting change. Discover how tiny habits can transform your life, why common myths about habit formation are misleading, and how to create positive habits effortlessly. Plus, explore the importance of celebration and positive emotions in reinforcing new behaviors. Don't miss this episode packed with practical tips and strategies to help you build habits that stick and achieve your goals! What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 What are the most common myths about habit formation and why they are misleading? What are tiny habits and how can they lead to significant changes? Practical examples of tiny habits you can implement in your daily life. How can you leverage your emotions to rapidly create great habits – 10:57 Why are positive emotions crucial for habit formation? The concept of celebration and how it accelerates habit development. Practical Application of Tiny Habits – 16:01 How do you design tiny habits into your existing routines? Real-life examples of how tiny habits can transform your behavior. The Secret to Breaking Bad Habits – 32:30 Strategies for untangling bad habits and creating lasting change. The three phases of the Behavior Change Master Plan. Technology and Behavior Change – 43:01 How does technology positively and negatively impact your habits? Practical tips for managing screen time and fostering positive behaviors. Tiny Habits for Kids – 49:20 How parents can use tiny habits to instill good behaviors in children. The importance of creating an environment that celebrates and reinforces positive change. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode, we explore high-value dating with Liesel Sharabi, an associate professor and Director of the Relationships and Technology Lab at Arizona State University. Liesel’s research delves into the impact of communication technologies on romantic relationships, particularly through online dating and mobile apps. Her work, featured in top journals and media outlets like The Wall Street Journal and NPR, examines how AI and virtual reality are reshaping modern romance. Liesel shares her expertise on creating authentic online profiles, managing choice overload, setting realistic expectations, and using AI to find meaningful connections. Join us for an insightful conversation with Liesel Sharabi, where she reveals the secrets to creating an authentic online dating profile that ignites meaningful connections. Discover how to navigate the overwhelming choices on dating apps to make better decisions, manage your expectations, and find serious relationships in the digital world. Plus, explore the game-changing role of AI in modern dating. Don't miss this episode packed with tips and strategies to enhance your online dating experience! What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 Who is Liesel Sharabi, and how did she get involved in the world of dating at an academic level? How did online dating change the way we perceive dating and what we look for in potential partners? The Hidden Impact of Dating Apps on Long Term Relationships – 13:51 How are dating apps hurting your ability to connect on a deeper level with potential partners? What mindset should you adopt if you actually want to find a partner on dating apps and not get stuck in an endless loop of matches that don’t go anywhere? Is more technology really the solution to the dating hellscape – 23:45 What are companies in the dating “industry” doing to solve the problems many people are encountering around loneliness and how are those “solutions” making things worse? Should you use AI to improve your results on dating apps? Are people still meeting other people in real life? – 31:14 What is easier about starting relationships with people you meet in real life and what is harder about starting relationships with people you meet online? How have dating apps changed cultural norms and expectations for each gender? The effects of dating apps on marriage/divorce rates – 41:39 How have dating apps changed the landscape of marriage and long term commitment? What does the future of dating and dating apps look like, and how can you prepare for it? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices