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The Art of Charm is where self-motivated people, just like you, come to learn from the company’s coaches about to how to master human dynamics, relationships, and becoming your best self with the help of Johnny and AJ, the company’s founders. Johnny and AJ bring their 11 years of coaching experience from their famous Bootcamps, where they host clients in Los Angeles from all over the world and they share their stories, best practices and themselves on this weekly podcast. Not only does The Art of Charm help everyday people, including active members of the military, learn how to become higher performers, better spouses, partners, and coworkers, they dig deep into human behavior, the science behind it, and demystify what we do and why we do it.

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In today’s episode, we cover with Keith Ferrazzi what it means to lead without authority. Keith is an American entrepreneur, recognized global thought leader in the relational and collaborative sciences, and NYT best selling author of Leading Without Authority and Never Eat Alone.There is more to leadership than telling other people what to do, so what does it mean to lead without authority, what can you do today to become a better leader, and how can you inspire vulnerability and empathy in the people around you?What to Listen ForWhat can you do as a leader to create a great space for people to be vulnerable, therefore allowing stronger bonds to form?Why are intimacy and empathy crucial to forming strong bonds with the people around you and what can you do to foster such an environment?How much vulnerability is too much when you’re in a position of leadership?What does co-elevation mean and why is it important to have co-elevating relationships with the people around us?How do you set boundaries for your generosity so you don’t get taken advantage of?What is the Blue Flame in all of us and why is it important to see it in others and nurture it so it can bloom?Being a leader doesn’t mean you tell other people what to do. It means you inspire those around you who then choose to follow you. When you are a leader, people should trust you to provide guidance for them and make the best decisions given the circumstances. You do not need to have authority over other humans in order to do any of that - but you do need trust and respect. Work on building strong relationships with the people around you and you will become a better leader.A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Resources from this EpisodeLeading Without Authority by Keith FerrazziNever Eat Alone by Keith FerrazziKeith Ferrazzi’s websiteCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube
In today’s episode, we cover the 7 steps to unshakable confidence with David Nurse. David is an NBA life and optimization coach, future bestselling author, and worldwide motivational speaker.Confidence can be developed with consistent practice like any other skill, but what concrete steps can you take everyday to achieve the confidence you’ve always wanted?What to Listen ForWhat is the common denominator of professional athletes that lead to success?Can you compare yourself to others in a healthy and positive way?How do you get people to be good teammates if they’re more concerned about themselves or their ego?What are the 7 steps you can take to achieve unshakable confidence? What does it mean to vote for yourself and why should you start voting for yourself now?What can you do to remind yourself of your potential to keep you from wasting time and falling into stagnation?What tips can you use to make your mornings and evenings effective parts of your day?How do you rewire your brain for the behavior you want, so your behavior doesn’t sabotage your relationships, your work, and your life?Confidence is not something we are born with, but a skill we develop over time. That means no matter your circumstances, you have a certain level of confidence and you can apply consistent practice over time to increase it. In fact, you can take small steps every day, and after enough small steps, you’ll have made leaps in progress. But you must be consistent and keep reminding yourself that no matter how confident you are, there is always room for improvement, so arrogance is never acceptable, as arrogance implies you already know everything you need to know.A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Resources from this EpisodeDavid Nurse’s websitePivot & Go: The 29-Day Blueprint to Redefine and Achieve YOUR SuccessDavid Nurse on TwitterDavid Nurse on InstagramCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube
In today’s episode, we answer your questions and cover FOMO with the person who coined the term, Patrick McGinnis. Patrick is a venture capitalist, writer, and speaker who coined the term FOMO, which was added to the Oxford English Dictionary in 2013.FOMO is nothing new but it seems worse now that we have endless options at our fingertips via the internet and social media, so how can we minimize the negative impacts of it and even turn it around and use it to help us make better decisions?What to Listen ForWhat is FOMO and how does it challenge you when it comes to making small and big decisions?Does FOMO subside as we age?How has the COVID pandemic impacted our FOMO and will it be better or worse after pandemic passes?What does FOBO mean and how is it different from FOMO?Why is FOMO good for us and how do you prevent it from ruining your ability to enjoy life?When faced with a big decision and heavy FOMO, what can you do to make the best decision for your future without regretting the other options?What can you do to make time for self-development if you feel your days are consumed by other responsibilities and obligations?What is FOGO and why is it so relevant right now?The fear of missing out is nothing new, but with the evolution of the internet and social media, it can be crippling to many people who don’t live an intentional life inline with their values. If you’re always on the lookout for “THE BEST THING” then your life will be a constant cycle of dipping your toes in the water without committing to jumping in, and while dipping your toes in water can be refreshing, you are missing out on actually being in the water, getting better at swimming, making long lasting friendships, so on and so forth. The key is to figure out what you stand for and what you want out of life, so you can make simple and complex decisions without stressing too much over whether or not it’s “THE BEST” decision.A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Whether you’re a professional working at a traditional, home or remote office our new sponsor, Fully, is here to transform your workplace with furniture designed for health, flow and balance. And right now, you can save $50 off the Jarvis standing desk when you visit fully.com/CHARM. Fully—everything you need to make your workflow.Resources from this EpisodePatrick McGinnis’s websiteFomosapiens - podcast hosted by Patrick McGinnisThe 10% Entrepreneur - by Patrick McGinnisFear of Missing Out - by Patrick McGinnisCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube
Do you want to have control over your mentality and reactions?On today’s episode of the Art of Charm podcast, AJ Harbinger and Johnny Dzubak are joined by Dan Harris, the co-anchor of ABC News' Nightline and author of the bestselling book 10% Happier. Dan discusses his work with 10% Happier, the importance of meditation, and it's functionality.Tune in to get in tune with your mental wellbeing. Episode Resources:Check out Dan's books,10% Happier and Meditation For Fidgety SkepticsListen to the 10% Happier Podcast Try the 10% Happier AppWhat you’ll learn:[00:01:17] What is the benefit of living in a big city during the pandemicIt’s a gamble to be in cities during the pandemic with high population density as it’s easier to pass illness where more people are gathered.[00:06:55] How do you get out of the loop of uncertainty in goal orientation and accountability towards future planning and eventsFocusing on mental health and doing activities like meditation to assist those efforts.[00:13:39]  How did Dan’s mind become open to working with meditationThere was a lot of evidence that strongly suggests that there's a lot of health benefits to meditation.[00:18:55] What are the benefits of meditationMindfulness, calming the mind, concentration, being able to act and feel consciously, slowing your blood pressure, boosting your immune system, rewiring key parts of your brain associated with stress, self-awareness, and focus in this era of distraction.[00:28:15] Why are we in this fight or flight system currently, and why is it running so high? It’s a human design flaw where we are inappropriately triggered by smaller confrontations.[00:31:42]  What are guaranteed method for stress reduction when you're feeling lonely, uncertain, despondent about the state of the worldIt’s useful to be informed but not drowning in constant updates and drama. Also giving and helping others can help make you feel validated.[00:47:18] Why does it feel so contradictory to practice mindfulness and compassion in giving you an edge in this neverending competition of lifeWe misinterpret happiness and make assumptions. There’s a correlation to zen and passiveness. Having structure and focus in mind helps you win.[00:55:21] How can we balance being nice for selfish reasonsUse wise selfishness and orient your life around service to be more successful. Boosting self-compassion can lead to compassion towards others.[01:07:56] Where do you progress once you get basic meditation down?There is no next level but to consistently work out the brain, and is effective in letting meditation keep your behavior and mindset healthy.Check-in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTubeSend us your questions
On this special episode of the Art of Charm podcast, we're digging into 5 values and how they relate to the current issues that we're facing, 5 things that we think everyone should be doing to become more informed to start taking action, and finally 5 of our favorite charities to help start pushing the social needle in the right direction.Episode Resources:Donate to the ACLUHelp Fuel the Fight - NAACPDonate to Mutual AidSupport EmbraceRaceSupport the Equal Justice InitiativeSend Us Your QuestionsThe Art of Charm NetworkA Word From Our SponsorsStop the stress and anxiety your debt is causing. Find out how you can talk to a freedom debt solutions expert and get your free personalized debt consultation today. Go to FreedomDebtSolutions.com/CHARMCheck-in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTubeSend us your questions
In today’s episode, we cover what it means to change someone’s mind with Jonah Berger. Jonah is a marketing professor at the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania and internationally bestselling author of Contagious, Invisible Influence, and The Catalyst: How to Change Anyone’s Mind.The art of persuading others goes back as far as humans have had ideas we wanted to convey to others, but what does it mean to change someone’s mind, how do we persuade people to change, and how can your understanding of persuasion save you from getting sold on bad ideas?What to Listen ForWhy are we as humans so resistant to changing our minds?What are the 5 roadblocks to change and how can we remove them so we and those around us can grow?What strategies can we use to get people to buy into an idea rather than trying to push the idea onto them?How can you ask the right questions to allow people to make better decisions?What can we do to create a catalyst for other people to change?Why is DropBox a great example of removing roadblocks that enable more people to try your product?Why is it important for people to feel they have a sense of agency when you’re trying to persuade them to make a change or purchase?Has it become harder to persuade people of good ideas in the age of information?How should you deal with awkward pauses in conversation?How important is body language when persuading someone and how do you take that into consideration when you’re on a phone call or Zoom meeting?Persuading others is not so much about changing people’s minds as it is conveying information and allowing people to process it to arrive at the same conclusion you have. We as humans do not like feeling as if our behavior or choices are dictated to us by someone else, so if you want to convince someone that something is a good idea, you can’t just tell them it’s a good idea and they should believe it - you have to be able to show them the same information you have and let them make up their mind about it.A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Resources from this EpisodeCatalyst: How to Change Anyone’s Mind by Jonah BergerJonah Berger’s websiteCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube
Technology has had an undeniable impact on our society, in good and bad ways, so what are the bad ways, how can we mitigate the damage they cause, and what can we do to use these tools for good in our lives and those around us?What to Listen ForWhat is the ICAN acronym and how can it help you achieve a social flow state and help you be your most authentic self?What questions can you ask yourself to stay mindful as we continue integrating technology into our daily lives?What is passive browsing versus active browsing and why does one have a negative impact on your well being?What can you do if you feel your team is missing the energy and motivation you were hoping for?How can you make Zoom meetings fun and engaging when everyone seems preoccupied with what’s going on around them?What simple, free technique can you implement as a leader to improve your team’s effectiveness as well as your well being and effectiveness?What is social flow, why do you need to understand it, and how can you tap into it to be your best self?What follow up questions can you ask the men in your life when they answer with “Good” or “I’m fine”?How can we build our curiosity muscle if we find ourselves not being that curious?What things typically hold men back from emotional mastery and what can you do to work toward emotional mastery?What can you do to improve the toxic relationships in your life that always lead to arguments?We live in a state of constant experimentation to understand ourselves, each other, and the world around us. As a result, we create things with the intention of doing good, only to find out later that the results are a mixed bag. Social media and communication are great examples as they have connected the world, but led to mental health issues springing up all over the place. As we move forward, it becomes increasingly important to be mindful of what we are putting out into the world for millions or billions of people to use, and how it can impact our society as a whole. No one will be able to take everything into consideration, but it’s better than not trying and seeing what happens.A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Even with a balanced diet, it’s difficult to cover all of your nutritional bases. Developed from a complex blend of 75 vitamins, minerals and whole food sourced ingredients, Athletic Greens is a greens superfood powder designed to help fill the nutritional gaps in your diet. Visit AthleticGreens.com/CHARM to claim OUR special offer of 20 FREE daily travel packs with your first purchase, a $79 added value, and get Athletic Greens delivered straight to your door. Resources from this EpisodeAndrew Horn’s websiteWhat’s the Big Idea - Andrew Horn’s podcastTribute.coCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube
Many of us have heard the phrase, “Happiness is a choice” - but what does a happiness expert think about that and what can you do if you feel like you’re unable to make that choice?What to Listen ForWhat are the Four Tendencies and how do they determine how you respond to expectations and your ability to be happy?What’s the alternative if you feel you can’t just choose to be happy?What steps can you take in your environment that will make it easier to be happy?What does it mean for emotions to be contagious and how can your understanding of it help prevent you from feeling down?How do novelty and challenge contribute so significantly to your ability to be happy?What can you do to raise your self-awareness?What can you do if you find yourself being the victim of analysis paralysis so you don’t waste too much time thinking about a decision?Once you understand your tendency, how do you recognize the Four Tendencies in others and what is the best way to work with them or help them reach their potential on a team?We cannot make ourselves happy by focusing on our external environment, but it can help to minimize the work we have to do to be happy. Our personalities are made up of the tendencies and habits we have formed over the years, so the more aware you are of your tendencies and habits, the easier it can be for you to make the decisions which will lead to you being less miserable and more happy. Happiness is a choice, but certain things in your life can make the difference between that choice feeling easy, and that choice feeling impossible, and the more you understand yourself, your environment, and the people you spend time with, the easier that choice can be.A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!The anxiety and stress caused by debt is overwhelming. Especially now. But there is a way out, and you don’t have to go through it alone. Freedom Debt Solutions has more than 400 debt experts standing by to recommend the right solution for your specific situation. Go to FreedomDebtSolutions.com/charm and get your FREE personalized debt consultation today!Resources from this EpisodeOuter Order, Inner Calm by Gretchen RubinThe Four Tendencies QuizGretchen Rubin’s websiteHappier with Gretchen RubinCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube
It’s no surprise that many of us can be overwhelmed with the day-to-day events of our lives, so how are we supposed to plan for so many unforeseen events like the COVID-19 pandemic, what is upstream thinking and why is it relevant today more than ever?What to Listen ForWhat is the difference between upstream and downstream thinking and why can one lead you to a life of cyclical misery?What is unique about the American healthcare system that has led to us only focusing downstream?What is quiet competence and why does it make us less attentive to potential catastrophes?How can we get people to think more upstream so we are not impacted so negatively by crises?What is psychological standing and how does it prevent you from doing the right thing in a wide range of situations we find ourselves in regularly?What are the 7 questions leaders need to ask themselves if they don’t want to fail miserably at handling the next upstream problem?What can you do to unite the right people to handle a complicated problem like the COVID-19 pandemic?Being able to think clearly about the future and contemplate solutions to problems likely to arise is becoming more and more important as society and technology continue evolving faster than we can keep up. This is why upstream thinking is so important - many of us are caught up in the rush of everyday life and we count on our leaders to know what to do when problems arise, but it seems our leaders are also forgetting to think far enough ahead, leading us to find ourselves in the predicam we’re in now with COVID-19.A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Flowers are blooming, the grass is growing, and it’s time to mow your lawn and trim the hedges below the belt safely and efficiently. Manscaped is the only men’s brand dedicated to below the waist grooming, with precision engineered tools for your family jewels. If you subscribe to the Perfect Package soon, subscribers get TWO FREE GIFTS for a limited time! Get 20% off and FREE SHIPPING with the special discount code CHARM at Manscaped.com. Even with a balanced diet, it’s difficult to cover all of your nutritional bases. Developed from a complex blend of 75 vitamins, minerals and whole food sourced ingredients, Athletic Greens is a greens superfood powder designed to help fill the nutritional gaps in your diet. Visit AthleticGreens.com/CHARM to claim OUR special offer of 20 FREE daily travel packs with your first purchase, a $79 added value, and get Athletic Greens delivered straight to your door. Is there something interfering with your happiness, or preventing you from achieving your goals? BetterHelp will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist AND you can start communicating in less than 24 hours! Visit betterhelp.com/CHARM to get 10% off your first month and join the over 700,000 people taking charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional.Resources from this EpisodeUpstream: The Quest to Solve Problems Before They Happen by Dan HeathDan Heath’s websiteCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube
In today’s episode, we cover dealing with uncertainty and stress with Dr. Domenick Sportelli. Dr. Domenick is a board certified physician in adult general psychiatry and child & adolescent psychiatry, and is widely sought-after for his expertise on the latest in medical behavioral health, child/family psychiatry, and neuropharmacology.IntroductionThis is an era of uncertainty we haven’t faced in this generation and it’s wreaking havoc on many of us psychologically, so what can you do to better cope with the stress and loneliness you might be feeling and what should you be doing as a parent to be a good role model for your kids?What to Listen ForHow do we deal with uncertainty and stress many of us are dealing with in isolation?How much of a psychological toll is the pandemic taking on medical professionals?What kind of psychological fallout will we be facing as we recover from the COVID-19 pandemic and what can we do to prepare ourselves?What should we tell our kids about COVID-19 and how do we talk to them about what’s going on?How do you find the silver lining during this crazy time of uncertainty? Why are gratitude and resilience so important during this pandemic? What rules can you set up to foster creativity in your kids so they don’t just resort to sitting in front of devices all day?How do we deal with the loneliness epidemic while we’re practicing social distancing?Why is having a schedule more important than ever and how should we schedule time for socializing?How do we manage all of the emotions we’re feeling just from the uncertainty of not knowing how long this pandemic will last?How do we deal with rise in tension in our relationships stemming from being isolated with each other all the time?What 3 questions can you ask yourself everyday to make your life better?Humans excel psychologically when following a consistent routine, and when the certainty of a routine is taken away it can lead to significant stress. The COVID-19 pandemic resulted in many of our routines being upended with no clear end in sight, so it’s important now more than ever to take it upon ourselves to determine our own routines. This is especially true for those of us with kids because kids need structure the most. A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Resources from this EpisodeDr. Domenick Sportelli on InstagramCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube
Being stuck at home right now can feel like you’re putting your life on pause, but it doesn’t have to - so what can you do to keep working on yourself especially when it comes to being social or stretching your comfort zone?What to Listen ForHow did Yes Theory get their start and what can you learn from them that could enable you to achieve your dreams so faster than you thought possible?Why is it important to try things that scare you?How do you know when you’ve done enough planning before doing?When was the tipping point for the Art of Charm?How do you improve your social skills if you’re scared to go out and talk to strangers?When can you take advantage of practicing small talk with minimal effort to improve your social skills?What’s the first step you can take to build a growth mindset during or after the quarantine period?How do you stay motivated in the dating world when regular rejection is an integral part of the process?If you want to achieve great things for yourself, it’s important to cultivate a growth mindset, and a growth mindset is more important now than ever. Those with a growth mindset and determination will use this pandemic as an opportunity to push themselves while others are scared or putting their lives on pause to see what happens next. And if you feel like you don’t have a growth mindset, have no fear, it’s never too late to adopt one.A Word From Our SponsorsTalk to a Freedom Debt Solutions expert and get your FREE, personalized debt consultation today go to FreedomDebtSolutions.com/CHARMJoin the over 800,000 people taking charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional listeners get 10% off your first month at BetterHelp.com/CharmShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Resources from this EpisodeYes Theory websiteYes Theory on YouTubeYes Theory on TwitterCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube
This is a trying time for the restaurant industry and any business that relies on social gathering, so what can business owners do to not only survive this pandemic, but thrive in it and after it?What to Listen ForWhat does the future of the restaurant industry look like in a post COVID world and how might restaurants need to evolve in order to survive?Why do we have to motivate and communicate differently at work during this pandemic, and what is the best way to do both?How can this pandemic have a disastrous lingering effect on our ability to move forward as a society and what can we do to save ourselves from the aftermath?What should restaurants do to adapt during this pandemic so they can survive until things are normal again?What can we do to support the restaurant industry during this incredibly difficult time when people are avoiding going out?How do you view a crisis as an opportunity so you can come out ahead when so many people are complaining and just treading water or giving up?What can you do to help someone realize they need to hold themselves accountable for their own failure?Why can conflict be a great thing on a personal level and what can we do to view conflict in a more positive light so we can get better at handling it rather than retreating from it and going against our own values?What can you do to isolate the troublemaker on the team so they don’t cause anymore trouble for the rest?While crises are an unfortunate inevitability in life, you don’t have to let them kick you to the ground and keep you there. Every crisis is an opportunity but you must be willing to view it as an opportunity in order to take advantage of it. What are you going to do to stop playing the victim and take charge of your circumstances to help you succeed and thrive?A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Even with a balanced diet, it’s difficult to cover all of your nutritional bases. Developed from a complex blend of 75 vitamins, minerals and whole food sourced ingredients, Athletic Greens is a greens superfood powder designed to help fill the nutritional gaps in your diet. Visit AthleticGreens.com/CHARM to claim OUR special offer of 20 FREE daily travel packs with your first purchase, a $79 added value, and get Athletic Greens delivered straight to your door. Resources from this EpisodeJon Taffer’s websiteThe Jon Taffer PodcastCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube
It can be difficult to get ahead at work when someone else is always taking credit for what the team does, but what can you do to deal with selfish individuals in a professional manner, how can you be a giver and not get taken advantage of, and how do matchers balance givers and takers?What to Listen ForWhat are 5 minute favors and how can you use them to build a powerful network?How do you deal with selfish personalities who always try to take credit for the success of the team?What can you do if you’re a giver (versus a taker) and you’re struggling to show your value in the workplace?What are matchers and why are they important to balance givers and takers?What would Adam Grant change about “Give and Take” if he were to rewrite it today?What question should you ask a hiring manager to get an actual understanding of a company’s culture?Are extroverts better leaders than introverts?While it’s frowned upon to be a taker, it’s also not great for your own well being to be too much of a giver, especially if you’re not great at setting and maintaining boundaries. Being generous is a great thing, but if you’re not taking care of yourself and if you don’t have a strong sense of self-worth, it can be easy to feel like you are getting taken advantage of by people.A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Resources from this EpisodePodcast Episode: The Art of Overcoming Procrastination with Adam GrantAdam Grant’s websiteGive and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success by Adam GrantCore ConfidenceWorklife - a podcast hosted by Adam GrantCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube
Procrastination is associated with laziness by many, but the science shows us otherwise - so if procrastinators aren’t lazy then why do we assume they are, what can you do about your procrastination if you want to change it, and why is now the best time to overcome your procrastination habit?  What to Listen ForWhat can you do today to overcome your procrastination habits?How do we redesign jobs that now have to operate from a distance?Why is it more challenging to work remotely and what can you do to overcome them so you don’t lose your job?What questions can you ask someone to help them figure out what motivates them so you can help them become a happier and more productive employee?What can we do as leaders to help our coworkers and employees grapple with the loneliness that accompanies working from home for many people?What is one of the most powerful antidotes to loneliness that we can give people any time?What simple exercise can you go through with your employees or coworkers to immediately improve their creativity and productivity?What can you do to immediately win the battle over procrastination while you’re working from home?How can you break down your procrastination into understandable chunks so you can easily overcome them?What does the science say about the ideal workplace environment so you can make your office more conducive to your work?What should we be most concerned about as we come out of this quarantine and will we be able to return to normal?If you find yourself procrastinating, it’s not necessarily a problem with your work ethic, but can certainly be a problem with your ability to regulate your emotions. When confronted with a task that makes you feel uncomfortable (angry, uncertainty, frustrated, annoyed, anxious, etc), procrastination can kick in to help you avoid feeling those things. So what can you do to mitigate these responses and overcome your procrastination before it costs you an awesome opportunity? Tune in to find out!A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Whether you’re a professional working at a traditional, home or remote office our new sponsor, Fully, is here to transform your workplace with furniture designed for health, flow and balance. And right now, you can save $50 off the Jarvis standing desk when you visit fully.com/CHARM. Fully—everything you need to make your work flow.Is there something interfering with your happiness, or preventing you from achieving your goals? BetterHelp will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist AND you can start communicating in less than 24 hours! Visit betterhelp.com/CHARM to get 10% off your first month and join the over 700,000 people taking charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional.Resources from this EpisodeAdam Grant’s websiteGive and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success by Adam GrantCore ConfidenceWorklife - a podcast hosted by Adam GrantCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube
If you are now working remotely and socially distancing yourself, it doesn’t mean you have to stop being social or let your productivity slide, but what can you do to work on your social skills, grow your network, and knock your productivity out of the park so you can come out the other side of this with countless opportunities?What to Listen ForWhat can you do to work on your social skills when we’re trying to socially isolate ourselves?How do you stay social when going out and meeting people isn’t an option?What can you do to stay focused and energized when working from home?How do you work on building your professional network when more and more conferences and networking events are being cancelled as people embrace social distancing?What can you say when you’re trying to reach out to people you’ve never met but wanted to?How can you be productive when working from home and why is it so important to maintain the same routine you use when at the office?What should you focus on when establishing a remote work environment and routine?What can you do to completely upgrade your productivity at home if you’re not used to working at home?Why does physical exercise play such a positive role in your daily routine, especially when you’re working from home?What can you do to turn this remote working situation into a long term opportunity so you won’t have to go into the office as much once the pandemic is over?If you want to relax during this pandemic and enjoy the time you have away from work and with your family, by all means, do the thing that is going to bring you security and fulfillment during these chaotic times. However, if you want to take this amazing opportunity to improve yourself personally, socially, and professionally, there are a number of things you can do everyday to practice your social skills, develop your network, and show your boss you can be more productive at home and build the trust necessary to allow you to work remotely even when the dust has settled.A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Resources from this EpisodeLeadership & Productivity in a Remote Workplace with Kevin KruseThe Art of Charm Accelerator ProgramCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on TwitterThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube
You don’t need to be in a leadership position in order to be a leader, but what does it mean to be a leader no matter where you are and how can you develop your leadership skills in today’s world?What to Listen ForWhat can we do to become the leaders that are needed during this pandemic?How should we approach the creation of rules and standards in a professional setting and why can it be detrimental if just one person is responsible for such things?Why is it important to live a value-driven life both professionally and personally, and why are values more important than rules?How can an open-door policy in companies be detrimental to productivity and what should you implement in place of it that still allows for open communication?What are the 3 parts we should divide our days into and why can the structure have such a profound impact on our fulfillment and productivity?How can living by a calendar make you more productive than making to-do lists to accomplish the same tasks?What can you do to be more productive if you’re struggling to work from home during this pandemic?What are the 3 agreements remote workers can discuss in order for remote workers to come up with a healthy, productive routine when everyone is used to being in the same office together? What can you do to work on building a network while we are emphasizing social distancing?Is it too late to start an online business as we enter this recession amidst a pandemic?What can you do to be more social when everyone is trying to socially distance themselves?Leadership is a set of skills anyone can develop no matter where you are because being a leader doesn’t mean you are in charge of employees or ordering people around. Leadership can be asking a coworker what they think about a relevant topic during a meeting, or organizing a group Skype call with family members around the country. Leadership can be as simple as taking the initiative to do something and inviting others to join you. A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Resources from this EpisodeLEADx websiteGreat Leaders Have No Rules by Kevin Kruse15 Secrets Successful People Know About Time Management by Kevin KruseCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube
Social anxiety has an impact that goes far beyond a discomfort interacting with people and can lead to substance abuse, depression, and suicidal ideation, so what can you do to overcome your social anxiety, how do your diet and physical health impact it, and how is technology playing a significant role in all of this?What to Listen ForWhat is social anxiety and how do we deal with it during COVID-19 when social distancing is important?How do we deal with social anxiety now that social distancing is becoming a normal part of our daily lives?How did Mark Metry overcome his social anxiety and what can you learn from his journey so you can overcome your social anxiety before it ruins your life?How does your gut microbiome influence your social anxiety and mental wellbeing?How can looking at yourself in terms of hardware and software with regards to your self-development journey blow open your perspective on your overall health?Why is it important to tackle social anxiety after you’ve established a strong physical and mental foundation with a healthy diet and regular exercise?What can you do to make sure you’re using technology and it’s not using you?How is social anxiety tied to substance abuse, depression, and suicide and what can you do to overcome your social anxiety so you can live a more fulfilling life?Many of us deal with social anxiety in varying degrees and in different situations. Someone might experience social anxiety talking to a group of people but be perfectly comfortable saying hi to a stranger. Someone else might experience social anxiety talking to their boss at work, but feel right at home at networking events. For some of us, it’s a mild obstacle we force ourselves through when we need to, but for others it can be a serious concern and have long lasting effects on your potential and happiness, not to mention your lifespan if it leads you down a path of self-isolation and depression. Social anxiety can feel overwhelming, but you can overcome it. You can bounce back and become the best version of yourself that you want to be. But you have to be willing to take that first step and start living a healthy life - your mental and emotional well being are directly influenced by the food you put in your mouth and how often you exercise the only body you get.A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Hiring used to be hard. Multiple job sites, stacks of resumes, a confusing review process. But today, hiring can be easy and you only have to go to one place to get it done: ziprecruiter.com/CHARM. ZipRecruiter is so effective that 4 out of 5 of employers who post on ZipRecruiter get a quality candidate through the site within the first day.Resources from this EpisodeMark Metry’s WebsiteHumans 2.0 Podcast hosted by Mark MetryMark Metry on TwitterScrew Being Shy by Mark MetryCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube
Rituals are powerful tools cultures have used for all of recorded history to strengthen group bonds, so how do rituals bring us closer, why are rituals so commonly associated with religion, and what can you do to develop your own rituals to bring you and your family and friends closer together?What to Listen ForWhy is it so important to encourage curiosity in children and what can you do to impart a sense of curiosity in your kids?Why is a tolerance for ambiguity difficult but crucial in the scientific search for knowledge and understanding of the world around us?What was it like growing up as the child of Carl Sagan and Ann Druyan?How do we use rituals to deal with change and how can you use rituals to minimize the suffering you will experience throughout life?What should you say to someone who has just lost a loved one and doesn’t necessarily hold religious beliefs about an afterlife?What rituals can we use to help us cope with painful events in life and why can not having a ritual amplify the intensity and duration of the pain?How can having a simple regular ritual strengthen your relationships and what fun easy ritual can you start using today?What is the difference between a routine and a ritual?How can you get children involved in building family rituals so everyone is involved and the family grows stronger?What can you do to remix old traditions or even create new ones you can use to build meaning in the big and small moments of your life?How do you tell the difference between cynicism and skepticism, and why can that understanding completely change your view of people?The word ritual is on many occasions associated with religion. That’s a logical jump to make considering how ritualistic many religions are. But rituals can be any kind of practice or routine you use on a regular basis to be present and share a moment or event with yourself or other people. We can create and use rituals in our lives to help us celebrate certain moments. We don’t have to use religious holidays to celebrate certain times of the year, as cultures have been creating their own holidays and celebrations since the dawn of man. And no one’s stopping you from celebrating the rituals of your faith(s) and creating some rituals of your own to celebrate your family or friends or even just yourself. A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Resources from this EpisodeValue Driven Success Video Training by The Art of CharmFor Small Creatures Such as We by Sasha SaganThe Art of Charm BootcampSasha Sagan’s websiteSasha Sagan on TwitterSasha Sagan on InstagramCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube
The Art of Charisma Toolbox

The Art of Charisma Toolbox

2020-03-0901:13:5914

Charisma is not something you are born with, so what can you do to develop your own charisma, what does it even mean to have charisma, and what does the science say about this seemingly abstract human quality?What to Listen ForWhat is charisma and why is it important?What are the three factors that go into being charismatic and what can you do to become more charismatic?Are you born with charisma or is it something you can teach and learn?Why are we drawn to charismatic individuals?How can you stay true to yourself and be charismatic if you don’t feel you’re a charismatic person?How do presence, enthusiasm, and confidence play a role in your natural charisma?What questions can you ask yourself to know exactly what to work on to become more charismatic?Why is active listening integral to being charismatic, and what can you do to improve your ability to listen?Why are people drawn more toward optimists than pessimists, and how can you become more optimistic?Why does it make you more charismatic if you don’t care what other people think about you?What can you do to become more confident?How does being assertive contribute to your confidence and charisma?Charisma is one of those human qualities many people refer to as if it’s some mysterious genetic gift a few people are born with. But what if I told you that you can develop your own charisma in the same way you can develop a skill - like painting, running, or even chess. Once you understand the three components that factor into your own charisma, you’ll be able to see just how straightforward it can be to become the most charismatic version of who you want to be. A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Is there something interfering with your happiness, or preventing you from achieving your goals? BetterHelp will assess your needs and match you with your own licensed professional therapist AND you can start communicating in less than 24 hours! Visit betterhelp.com/CHARM to get 10% off your first month and join the over 700,000 people taking charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional.Whether you’re a professional working at a traditional, home or remote office our new sponsor, Fully, is here to transform your workplace with furniture designed for health, flow and balance. And right now, you can save $50 off the Jarvis standing desk when you visit fully.com/CHARM. Fully—everything you need to make your work flow.Resources from this EpisodeCharisma: An Ill-Defined and Ill-Measured GiftEpisode 725 - Boost Your Emotional Intelligence w/ Michael VenturaCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube
Authenticity is a powerful concept because many of us are scared of what other people might think of us if we were to be as weird as we know we are all the time, and consequently many of us hide the fun and interesting bits that make us who we are - so why do we care, why should we stop putting so much emphasis on what we think others want us to be, and what can you do when every social platform is signaling to you that the only parts worth living are the ones that get the most likes?What to Listen ForWhat does it mean to be a disruptive innovator?How do you educate people without being preachy?What can you do to build up a tolerance for rejection so you don’t miss out on countless opportunities just because you walked away at “no”?If you have perfectionist tendencies, what can you do to make sure it doesn’t stop you from completing something or just moving on without it?What can you do if you feel like you are trying to fit yourself into a box that society wants for you rather than what YOU want for you?What does it mean to be more authentic in today’s world where so many people are encouraged to instead put on a show to get other people’s attention?How can you flip negative emotions on their heads with one simple trick?What can you do to encourage others to tell their stories without resorting to 1-2 sentence responses?How can you ask questions that evoke thoughtful responses instead of 1-2 words?What mental exercise can you do before any important thing or event you have coming up in your life to make sure you’re genuinely present and relaxed?What can you do to come across as open and friendly without making people think you’re inviting them to ask you out?How do you politely reject someone who asks you out, especially in a work environment?What’s the best way to make a career change when you realize you’re not happy with the job you thought would bring you happiness?How do you handle the argumentative person who constantly questions others’ beliefs?What are you supposed to do when people are telling you you should always strive to be genuine while society clearly shows us we’ll be rewarded if we present a curated image of ourselves to everyone on social media? We live in a tricky time with technology developing as quickly as it is. The tools we are inventing are beginning to control us and highlight our weaknesses as human beings, but will we overcome these weaknesses or implode because of them? A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Resources from this EpisodeMiki Agrawal’s websiteDisrupt-Her: A Manifesto for the Modern Woman by Miki AgrawalHello TushyBe Here Now by Ram DassCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube
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doich mcskrim

we all strive for approval acceptance and attention low value seeks out rewards before giving...with long term problems (just a fix) high value profiles seek others likes.... suplative is begging for attention and becoming invisible it's to make themselves smaller so they can sneek under and you need a high-value individual to say stop or will repeat the same low value behavior. always blaming others giving people too much positive body language it's also supplicative you cannot reward bad behavior.... victim mentality) becoming to agreeable in fear others taking the spotlight (imposter syndrome) everyone falls victim some has to win and gained high-value behaviors. why does victim mean low value... by pointing the finger and give up responsibility resisting change. the pedestal should be earned not givin attention want attention with unattractive behaviors and a lot of the time they don't realize it. with combative mentality is taking acceptance attention approval the trolls putting others down with a big bad fluffy attitude but in times of crisis the behavior switch without us even knowing it. endless stream of negativity worrying about others rather than yourself verbally combativeness lashes back and steals the vibe. combativeness is miserable misery loves company. with competitiveness comes through physical do females competitiveness comes through personal or emotional external value scarcity mindset competition for what I have focusing on externals is an endless run superlative mindset is begging for attention. the victim mentality is to agreeable combative mentality is combative mentalities asking for acceptance with blowing up males show through physical females usually through mental

Jul 9th
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Una Ruffley

Great show! 👍

Jun 18th
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Brandon Nelson

15 minutes of ads is ridiculous

May 22nd
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Rachel Atis

The podcast dedicates this for guys, while the description says it can "help everyday people". So can this apply to females?

Apr 23rd
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Teresa Wilkinson

not at toolbox but a bunch of tools

Mar 29th
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Alf Ehrlund

lyssna

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designconsortium2003@yahoo.com

Not worth the Time . Just 3 guys blabbering on and on . It's all a big Mutual Masterbation on how wonderful each guy is .

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Isaac Broberg

Worst podcast I've ever listened to, full of commercials, boring nonsense to make it really long so they can plug more commercials.

Dec 10th
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First Name

I really like this guy

Nov 25th
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First Name

i really like this month's topic, keep the great work!

Oct 23rd
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Reyna Elizabeth

My favorite episode so far 👍🏻

Oct 20th
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First Name

I love this topic

Oct 16th
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Mike

is it just me or does anyone else think Eric Weinstein has terrible social skills? it seems to me like he is interrupting, not listening properly, patronising and condescending the guys. It's funny to see the contrast between AJ and Johnny and him.

Aug 15th
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blues and browns

after this interview, I'm not a fan of Bill Nye. narcissist & obsessed with Fame & himself

Jul 31st
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Wisly Michel

:-$(^^)

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Patrick Blake

Im

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anil dhage

amazing!. .. these are the things that needs to be talked about.

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Mark

sounds like Jonny is getting sick of AJ's digs

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Daniel

yeah, this is a very good episode. It made me understand how my own habits work. The reward system is great for a motivator to build a habit

May 1st
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podperson

one of these dudes sounds like he drinks gravel. He might be saying the wisest shit in the world but i cant lisen to him until he gets that cheese grater out of his throat. try drinking some warm water mixed with some lemon and honey before going on the air, jesus christ man.

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