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The Art of Charm is where self-motivated people, just like you, come to learn from the company’s coaches about to how to master human dynamics, relationships, and becoming your best self with the help of Johnny and AJ, the company’s founders. Johnny and AJ bring their 11 years of coaching experience from their famous Bootcamps, where they host clients in Los Angeles from all over the world and they share their stories, best practices and themselves on this weekly podcast. Not only does The Art of Charm help everyday people, including active members of the military, learn how to become higher performers, better spouses, partners, and coworkers, they dig deep into human behavior, the science behind it, and demystify what we do and why we do it.

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Kindness costs you nothing but can change someone’s life forever, even your own - but how do we even define kindness, what does it mean to be genuinely kind, and how can a simple act of kindness have such lasting effects on the people around us?What to Listen ForHow do you deal with possible regrets when you make major life-changing decisions?What is the Kindness Diaries and what inspired Leon Logothetis to start his quest for kindness?How do you deal with the pushback that comes from close friends and family when you decide to leave a stable job to pursue your dreams?What was it like for Leon Logothetis to approach a stranger for the first time and how has his approach evolved over time?How can you use body language to allow strangers to feel comfortable talking to you when approaching them in the middle of the day?How does Leon Logothetis choose who he’s going to approach and who he wants to avoid?Are kindness and generosity universal or does it vary by culture?What was Leon Logothetis’s favorite life-changing moment from the show and what did it teach him?How does Leon Logothetis define kindness and what advice does he have for those of us struggling to be kinder in our day to day lives?How can you work on being kind if you’ve been taken advantage of in the past?How can you be kind and strong at the same time so you don’t get taken advantage of?As Leon Logothetis put it, “Kindness is helping someone else feel less alone.” Loneliness is a feeling we can all relate to, as we have all felt it at one time or another, and many of us feel it regularly in a world where people are feeling increasingly isolated and disconnected from one another and their communities. Kindness can help to rectify that, even if it means one small act of kindness each day. A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Before you go dropping hundreds of dollars on a pair, you need to check out the wireless earbuds from Raycon! Unlike some of your other wireless options, Raycon earbuds are both stylish and discreet, with no dangling wires or stems. And of course, they don’t just look great. They sound great, too. Go to BuyRaycon.com/CHARM to get 15% off your order!Did you know your teeth move as you get older? Candid - the clear alternative to braces - costs 65% less than braces! Candid has an orthodontist licensed in your state create a treatment plan for you (and Candid only uses experienced orthodontists). You can save thousands of dollars and have straighter, brighter teeth in an average of just six months! Learn more at CandidCo.com/CHARM and use discount code CHARM to get $75 off!Sun Basket works with the best farms and suppliers to bring you fresh, organic produce and responsibly-sourced meats and seafood. Go to sunbasket.com/artofcharm to get up to $80 off.Resources from this EpisodeEpisode 769: Laura Heck: avoid these 4 behaviors in any relationshipThe Kindness Diaries on NetflixGo Be Kind by Leon LogothetisCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube
The majority of issues we face in relationships can be boiled down to 4 types of behaviors we exhibit. So what are they? How do you identify which ones you exhibit, and what can you do to deal with them in yourself, your partner, friends, family members, and coworkers before they fall apart?What to Listen ForHow did the Gottman Institute get started?How much overlap is there between the issues married couples face versus friends, coworkers, and family members and what can we learn from the overlap?What are the biggest issues typically seen in newlyweds and couples first moving in together?What is implied when you stand up at the altar to say, “I do” and what should a conversation about those implications revolve around?What 3 questions should you ask yourself before entering into a couples therapy situation and how do you use these questions to make sure both of you are on the same page when it comes to expectations?What are the 4 problem behaviors that come up in relationships and why is it important to identify YOUR problem behavior before calling out your partner’s?Why is it a bad idea to see a therapist without your partner if you’re having relationship issues?How do relationship problems express themselves through our emotional, mental, and physical well being?How do you deal with criticism whether it’s coming from yourself or your partner?What is the difference between complaining and blaming, and why is one ok and the other is not?How do you deal with defensiveness in a relationship?How can you develop patience when it comes to your partner’s development since we all grow at different speeds?What questions can you ask your partner to show your support for their development and assist in it (if they want you to)?Relationships are a two-way street, so the issues we face while in relationships are a result of one person’s actions and the other’s reactions. This is not to say that one person is always acting and the other is reacting, but when attempting to tackle issues you have in your relationships, you must acknowledge your role in that issue. The responsibility does not fall 100% on you or the other person, but is shared between the two of you. This applies to romantic relationships, platonic relationships, professional relationships, and familial relationships.A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!SAXX Underwear’s patented BallPark Pouch is a game-changer! They have internal mesh panels that keep everything in place, and they're made with super-soft, moisture-wicking fabrics, allowing our boys to breathe and even repel B.O.! Go to SAXX Underwear at SAXXunderwear.com and use the discount code CHARM at checkout to get $5 off – PLUS free shipping on your first purchase!Blinkist gives you access to key insights from 2,500+ bestselling nonfiction books, transformed into powerful packs you can read or listen to in just 15 minutes. Go to Blinkist.com/AOC to start your free trial or get three months off your yearly plan when you join today.Hiring used to be hard. Multiple job sites, stacks of resumes, a confusing review process. But today, hiring can be easy and you only have to go to one place to get it done: ziprecruiter.com/charm. ZipRecruiter is so effective that 4 out of 5 of employers who post on ZipRecruiter get a quality candidate through the site within the first day.Resources from this EpisodeYouTube: Making Relationships Work | Dr. GottmanThe Gottman InstituteMarriage Therapy Radio PodcastCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube
Establishing boundaries can feel intimidating if you’ve never successfully set them before, so why are they so important when it comes to maintaining healthy relationships? Why does a lack of boundaries often lead to undesirable outcomes? What formula can you follow to start setting boundaries today? We’ll answer all those questions this episode.What to Listen ForWhat is causing most of the problems in your communication and how can you become more aware of them?Why is it important to set boundaries early on and how do you set boundaries respectfully?How can you be more proactive in dealing with conflict?Who is more likely to win in arguments and why does it not matter in the way you might think it does?What is the best way to approach someone who refuses to acknowledge clearly defined boundaries?Why does a lack of boundaries lead to resentment?How does too much freedom in a relationship lead to you feeling miserable?Why is it important to have clearly defined boundaries between home and work if you don’t have a dedicated work space and how can a lack of boundaries be detrimental to your productivity and your personal relationships?How can you be assertive without coming across as disrespectful?What formula can you follow to establish clear boundaries in your relationships and how can you make it a respectful cooperative effort?Setting boundaries in a relationship can feel like you are telling someone how to act - but in reality, setting and enforcing healthy boundaries allows you to be comfortable being yourself while communicating who you are and who you want to be to the people you care about. We all have different definitions of what it means to treat someone well and respect their time, so if you don’t communicate YOUR definition of what that is, don’t assume people can read it directly from your mind.A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!SAXX Underwear’s patented BallPark Pouch is a game-changer! They have internal mesh panels that keep everything in place, and they're made with super-soft, moisture-wicking fabrics, allowing our boys to breathe and even repel B.O.! Go to SAXX Underwear at SAXXunderwear.com and use the discount code CHARM at checkout to get $5 off – PLUS free shipping on your first purchase!Sun Basket works with the best farms and suppliers to bring you fresh, organic produce and responsibly-sourced meats and seafood. Go to sunbasket.com/artofcharm to get up to $80 off.Resources from this EpisodeEpisode 767: How to master communication in a relationshipEpisode 725: Boost Your Emotional Intelligence w/ Michael VenturaCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube
Relationships are a two-way street, but when it comes to communication it’s important to understand people have a variety of preferences when it comes to how love and affection are given and received, so what are those preferences, how can you identify what someone’s preferences are, and how can you implement all of this information to build new relationships and strengthen existing ones?What to Listen ForWhat can you do to strengthen the relationships in your life?What can you do if you think you’re a great listener but people around you keep complaining about you not listening?Why is it a recipe for disaster to look for someone to complete you and what should you be looking for instead?What are the Five Languages of Appreciation and how can you pick the best one for each of your relationships?What are the three parts of communication and how does your awareness of each part help to mitigate miscommunication?How do you identify the love languages of family, friends, and coworkers?Why are openness and vulnerability mandatory when it comes to figuring out the love languages of the people in your life?What little signals can you pay attention to so you can get an idea for how your loved ones communicate?In order to deepen the connections we have with the people around us, it’s important to understand how the people around us prefer to be treated. Just because you view the giving and receiving of affection one way, doesn’t mean everyone else does as well. Some people prefer to show their appreciation through words, some prefer to show it through gifts, and some prefer the spending of quality time together - and that’s just to name a few.A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Hiring used to be hard. Multiple job sites, stacks of resumes, a confusing review process. But today, hiring can be easy and you only have to go to one place to get it done: ziprecruiter.com/charm. ZipRecruiter is so effective that 4 out of 5 of employers who post on ZipRecruiter get a quality candidate through the site within the first day.Lumen5 is empowering everyone with the ability to create short-form videos in a matter of minutes. You can transform an article, blog post, or text message into a video. Enter your text and the Lumen5 A.I. will help you summarize your content, and automatically match it with videos and photos. Right now Lumen Five has a special offer just for you! Go to lumen5.com/charm and you’ll get 50 percent off your first month.Resources from this EpisodeEpisode 719 Why Emotional Connection Makes or Breaks a RelationshipThe Five Love Languages by Gary ChapmanThe 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace by Gary ChapmanThe 5 Love Languages of Children by Gary ChapmanLearn Your Love Language with this QuizCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube
Personal transformation is a long and arduous process, but we all have to start somewhere, so how do you know when it’s time to make such a drastic change, what can you do to stop from feeling overwhelmed in the beginning, and how do you know when it’s time to graduate from one step to the next?What to Listen ForWhy is making a list important in accomplishing your goals?What can you do to deal with the fear of public speaking?What simple exercises can you do right now to expand your comfort zone?How did Michael Herold get his start as a public speaker and coach?What steps should you take when starting out as a public speaker to make sure you feel ready on stage?Where can you get practice as a public speaker if you don’t have a coach and you’re not taking classes?How can you be more appreciative of your significant other after you two settle into the comfort stage of the relationship?How important is it to set aside time for one another when you’re in a relationship?What steps can you take to alleviate feeling overwhelmed when you embark on a journey of self-improvement?How are confidence and competence related when you’re working on your social skills?If your social skills feel rusty, what simple step can you take today to start improving?What can you do to overcome feeling burned out?For many, embarking on a journey of personal transformation comes after life punches you in the face - that could mean getting fired from a job, getting kicked out of school, going through the end of a relationship, or losing a loved one, just to name a few.But why does it take such a jarring event to motivate us to improve?Because transformation is difficult and painful, so to be willing to make a drastic change in yourself means the pain of staying the same must outweigh the pain of change. If you don’t feel the pain of your current situation, then what are the chances you’re going to choose to endure significant pain over a long period of time to change the situation you’re in?A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Manscaped is #1 in men’s below the belt grooming.  Manscaped offers precision engineered tools for manscaping with the right tool for the job. Get 20% Off, Free Shipping, and a free travel bag with the discount code CHARM at Manscaped.com. Your balls will thank you!Vistaprint wants you to be able to “Own the Now” in any situation, which is why our listeners will get 500 high-quality, custom business cards starting at $9.99. Use discount code CHARM at Vistaprint.com.Sun Basket works with the best farms and suppliers to bring you fresh, organic produce and responsibly-sourced meats and seafood. Go to sunbasket.com/artofcharm to get up to $80 off.Resources from this EpisodeMichael Herold - Speaker and CoachMichael Herold on Facebook762: 3 Signs That it’s Time for Change | Transformation Toolbox 1763: Had Enough Pain, Yet? | Toolbox 2764: Brett Bartholomew on why drive matters more than motivation and secrets to peak performance765: Parents, Part 2: Warren Farrell on The Boy Crisis and Dad DeprivationCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube
The role of the father in raising children is often downplayed in society, but what do fathers bring to the table that mothers do not, why does the absence of a father have such long-lasting effects, and what steps can we take today to be there for our children?What to Listen ForWhat is dad deprivation and what role does it play as a child is growing up?What is the purpose void and why is it more important now that more children are growing up without a father?What are the two primary purposes in a man’s life and how has the development of society made it more difficult for men to feel fulfilled in either one?How does porn become addictive to young men and how does it shift the way men view women, sex, and relationships?What are the primary differences between mom-style parenting and dad-style parenting?What is the single biggest predictor of success and how do you teach it to children?How do you teach postponement of gratification to children and why is it so important to building the life you want?What is the difference between being aggressive and being assertive?What can you do to reverse ADHD?What role do family dinner nights have in a child’s development and what 5 things can you do to make those family dinners constructive rather than destructive?What steps can we take today to improve as parents?The father in many shows and movies seems to be there just for comic relief by being a hardass or totally incompetent while the mother is portrayed as “the real parent.” But the father’s role in raising kids is significantly more important than we tend to give it credit for.As Warren Farrell stated, “Children who have father involvement are far less likely to be obese, far less likely to have ADHD, far less likely to do worse in every single academic area, and far less likely to be depressed or commit suicide.”And those are just a few of the effects that a good father has on his kids.It’s crucial there be a balance of masculine and feminine influence in a child’s life in order for that child to grow into a well-rounded human being able to handle the ups and downs and twists and turns of life. It is the tension created by the difference between the parents that allows their children to find a happy medium that works for who they are.A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!SAXX Underwear’s patented BallPark Pouch is a game-changer! They have internal mesh panels that keep everything in place, and they're made with super-soft, moisture-wicking fabrics, allowing our boys to breathe and even repel B.O.! Go to SAXX Underwear at SAXXunderwear.com and use the discount code CHARM at checkout to get $5 off – PLUS free shipping on your first purchase!Resources from this EpisodeWarren Farrell’s websiteWhy Men Are the Way They Are by Warren FarrellThe Myth of Male Power by Warren FarrellThe Boy Crisis by Warren FarrellCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube
Coaching athletes, or anyone for that matter, does not come with a simple one-size-fits-all approach, so what does effective coaching look like, what do you need to know about those you’re coaching, and who do coaches get coached by?What to Listen ForHow did Brett Bartholomew get started in the world of strength training and coaching?How do you get buy-in with athletes you’re coaching to make sure they follow your program without getting distracted by all the other information they’re bombarded with?What do you need to know about your athletes in order to best coach them and how do you tie it in with a responsible message?What is the Harvard 4 Drive Model and how can you start using it today to teach or coach more effectively?What 3 steps can you use to better relate to other people and build better relationships with coworkers, students, and athletes?How do you develop self-awareness and what should you look for in your own life to start with?What are the 3 stages of internal identification and how does it relate to the development of self-awareness?What is imposter syndrome and how do you deal with it so you don’t sabotage your career or relationships?What kind of coaches do coaches get coached by?What is the difference between being responsive and being reactive?How can you be more responsive without being reactive?How do you find your own motivation and help others find theirs?How do you stay motivated as a coach?There are a variety of factors that influence your ability to coach someone effectively. First and foremost, your athlete (or student) must trust and respect you, otherwise, she won’t believe you know what you’re doing. So you must build a working relationship with your athletes, and that means understanding their self-awareness levels, working together to identify their strengths and weaknesses, what drives them and what their ambitions are, and getting a feel for how each one learns best.A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Access a World of Knowledge! Unlimited video learning with the World's Greatest Professors at The Great Courses Plus. Start your Free Month trial now by going to thegreatcoursesplus.com/charm.Sun Basket works with the best farms and suppliers to bring you fresh, organic produce and responsibly-sourced meats and seafood. Go to sunbasket.com/artofcharm to get up to $80 off.Resources from this EpisodeThe Art of Coaching with Brett BartholomewHarvard 4-Drive Model - Harvard Business ReviewCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube
We all know change can be hard, so embarking on a journey of self-development and transformation means there will be pain involved - but is it possible to endure pain without also suffering? Why is it important to have a larger overarching goal throughout your journey, and what actionable steps can you take today to reduce the time and energy it might take to reach your transformation goals?What to Listen ForWhy is pain an unavoidable part of personal transformation, and what is the best way to approach such pain?What is the difference between pain and suffering?How do you figure out your values and why are they important when it comes to pursuing a fulfilling life?Why is it important to have a larger overarching goal on your journey toward self-actualization?Why is a reactive mindset counterproductive to happiness and fulfillment in life, and what steps can you take to turn your reactive mindset into a proactive one?What one question can you ask yourself to take back power and control over your life?How do you find meaning in terrible situations so you can thrive?What signs can you be on the lookout for to identify if you are struggling with resistance on your path to transformation?What 3 questions should you ask yourself in order to put your transformation goals into achievable steps?When you work out or train for an event, it’s important to push your body to its limits at various times so those limits can grow and you can improve as an athlete. You know when you are approaching those limits because of the pain you feel in your muscles, but if you stop when your muscles start to burn, you will not achieve the same results as someone who pushes through the pain to run the extra mile or get one more rep in.When confronting resistance or pain on your journey to self-actualization, you can choose to suffer in response, or you can recognize the value of the pain and push through it.A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Access a World of Knowledge! Unlimited video learning with the World's Greatest Professors at The Great Courses Plus. Start your Free Month trial now by going to thegreatcoursesplus.com/charm.Need a stylish, lightweight, and durable suitcase with a 100-day money back guarantee? Away creates thoughtful products designed to change how you see the world. For $20 off a suitcase, visit awaytravel.com/CHARM20 and use discount promo code CHARM20 during checkout!Resources from this EpisodeEpisode 762: 3 Signs That it’s Time for ChangeImplementation Intentions: Strong Effects of Simple PlansHow to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale CarnegieThink and Grow Rich by Napoleon HillEpisode 740: How Defined Values Lead to Long-term Happiness | w/ Russ HarrisEpisode 729: Self-esteem is Bullshit | w/ Steven HayesCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on InstagramThe Art of Charm on YouTube
Transformation can be accidental or intentional, but if you are going to change and grow as a person, wouldn’t you want to have a say in how you grow and who you become?What to Listen ForWhy are only the courageous drawn to self-development?How do you turn envy into a motivator rather than trying to hide it or eliminate it?What question can you ask yourself to make feelings of envy work for you?What is experiential avoidance and how is it correlated with low levels of life satisfaction?What are “doomers” and “bloomers” and how do doomers become bloomers?What should be your next move if you reach a point in your life and realize you haven’t accomplished anything?Why might procrastination be doing more damage to your future than you think, and what can you do about it?If you want to change your future, where is the best place to start and why might it not be the place you think?What is the difference between living life on the offense and living life on the defense, and why does one of the two make it far more difficult to achieve your goals?How does the pursuit of self-actualization lead to a snowball effect?What is the 5-5-5 technique and how can it prevent you from falling into a powerless state of mind?Self-development is only for the courageous. You must have the courage to face yourself and be honest about who you are and what you want. You must have the courage to identify your weaknesses and ask for help so you know where to start and what to work on. You must have the courage to live life on the offense so you can take intentional steps every single day toward who you want to become, even if it means falling and getting back on the horse.A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!SAXX Underwear’s patented BallPark Pouch is a game-changer! They have internal mesh panels that keep everything in place, and they're made with super-soft, moisture-wicking fabrics, allowing our boys to breathe and even repel B.O.! Go to SAXX Underwear at SAXXunderwear.com and use the discount code CHARM at checkout to get $5 off – PLUS free shipping on your first purchase!Access a World of Knowledge! Unlimited video learning with the World's Greatest Professors at The Great Courses Plus. Start your Free Month trial now by going to thegreatcoursesplus.com/charm.Get $100 off the ‘eero base unit and 2 beacons package,’ and 1 year of eero Plus. The new eero (2nd generation) and eero Beacon allow a customer to build a WiFi system that’s more perfectly tailored to their home than ever before! Visit eero.com/charm and at checkout enter discount code CHARMSun Basket works with the best farms and suppliers to bring you fresh, organic produce and responsibly-sourced meats and seafood. Go to sunbasket.com/artofcharm to get up to $80 off.Resources from this EpisodeThus Spoke ZarathustraProcrastination and the priority of short-term mood regulationEpisode 718 with Chris “Drama” Pfaff - Overcoming Social Anxiety in Your CareerPower affects performance when the pressure is on: evidence for low-power threat and high-power liftCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on Instagram
Where do you even begin if you want to get better at meeting people? Improving your communication skills is an excellent place to start. Communication is important in relationships, and even more important when dating. We’ll dig into best practices, tips and strategies for dating and meeting new people with Dr Laura Berman.What to Listen ForWhat drew Dr. Laura Berman to relationship and sex therapy?What is the current state of sex ed in schools and why is it so inadequate?How does porn affect the way you get aroused and why is it doing more harm than good?What is the fundamental problem with the paradox of choice when it comes to dating and dating apps?Why is it so important to think about how you want someone to make you feel and how does clarifying that make dating easier?Can you use DNA to find your perfect match?What is the best way for you to approach dating in the #MeToo era?How quickly should you move from dating app to meeting and why is it risky to draw it out?Where can you practice conversational skills in low-risk areas and what happens if you don’t practice these skills?How should you go into dating as a parent and why is it so different?If you are dating as a parent, when is the best time to bring up that you have a child?What can I do if my mind goes blank every time I try to talk to someone I’m interested in?How do you keep the intimacy going in a long term relationship?What is the biggest behavioral predictor of sexual health in a relationship?What is the “want” underlying the desire to “spice it up” in the bedroom?What do you do if you realize your partner is no longer attracted to you?How do you rewrite your story so you can break out of dating the same type of people?Remember: A big part of having good communication is being honest with yourself. If you are honest with yourself, you know what you like and don’t like, you know what you’re good at and what you’re not. That automatically filters out potential dates or relationships that come racing in from your dating app. And if you are honest with other people about who you are and what you want, it makes it easier for them to decide whether or not they want to keep spending time together.Being honest with yourself and with other people saves you headaches, confusion, and time - and time is the most valuable thing we have as human beings. A Word From Our SponsorsShare your vulnerabilities, victories, and questions in our 17,000-member private Facebook group at theartofcharm.com/challenge. This is a unique opportunity where everyone — both men and women — celebrate your accountability on the way to becoming the best version of yourself. Register today here!Vistaprint wants you to be able to “Own the Now” in any situation, which is why our listeners will get 500 high-quality, custom business cards starting at $9.99. Use discount code CHARM at Vistaprint.com.SAXX Underwear’s patented BallPark Pouch is a game-changer! They have internal mesh panels that keep everything in place, and they're made with super-soft, moisture-wicking fabrics, allowing our boys to breathe and even repel B.O.! Go to SAXX Underwear at SAXXunderwear.com and use the discount code CHARM at checkout to get $5 off – PLUS free shipping on your first purchase!Manscaped is #1 in men’s below the belt grooming.  Manscaped offers precision engineered tools for manscaping with the right tool for the job. Get 20% Off, Free Shipping, and a free travel bag with the discount code CHARM at Manscaped.com. Your balls will thank you!Resources from this EpisodeDr Laura BermanQuantum Love by Dr Laura BermanDr Laura Berman on FacebookDr Laura Berman on TwitterDr Laura Berman on InstagramDr Laura Berman on YouTubeUncovered Podcast with Dr Laura BermanCheck in with AJ and Johnny!AJ on InstagramJohnny on InstagramThe Art of Charm on Instagram
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Wisly Michel

:-$(^^)

Jul 15th
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Patrick Blake

Im

Jun 9th
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anil dhage

amazing!. .. these are the things that needs to be talked about.

Jun 9th
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Mark

sounds like Jonny is getting sick of AJ's digs

May 9th
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Jordan Harbinger

Mark Do you also listen to The Jordan Harbinger Show? That’s where the original host of this show went after leaving The Art of Charm.

Jul 6th
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Daniel

yeah, this is a very good episode. It made me understand how my own habits work. The reward system is great for a motivator to build a habit

May 1st
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Jordan Harbinger

Daniel This was an interview that I did. I’m now at The Jordan Harbinger Show. You can find more like this one on that other show.

Jul 6th
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podperson

one of these dudes sounds like he drinks gravel. He might be saying the wisest shit in the world but i cant lisen to him until he gets that cheese grater out of his throat. try drinking some warm water mixed with some lemon and honey before going on the air, jesus christ man.

Apr 24th
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Jordan Harbinger

podperson Do you also listen to The Jordan Harbinger Show? That’s where the original host of this podcast went after leaving The Art of Charm

Jul 6th
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En Red

brilliant.

Apr 15th
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Nuage Laboratoire

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Mar 13th
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Lauren Henry

Hell. Yes. More of this myth dispelling! I generally get more happy by sharing some time with a friend who's feeling sad or "negative", because I can help them and feel purposeful with a deeper connection with them.

Jan 21st
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Jordan Harbinger

Lauren Henry Do you also listen to The Jordan Harbinger Show? It has the original host of this show and the content is more in-depth

Apr 1st
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Xavier Thompson

I've only, at this point, listened to about 30%of this cast and am already feeling the results of the shaking after identifying my contracted feelings and attacking them with the shaking.

Jan 15th
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Jordan Harbinger

Xavier Thompson Do you also listen to The Jordan Harbinger Show? It has the original host of this podcast and the interviews are more in-depth

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Daniel

Xavier Thompson Yeah, sounds like T.R.E which is nice

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Leonardo Saggiomo

Thank you guys! I really enjoyed this podcast :) thanks for the insights!

Jan 11th
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Jordan Harbinger

Leonardo Saggiomo Right on Leo- Do you also listen to The Jordan Harbinger Show? If you like The Art of Charm you’ll love this new show from the original host.

Jan 13th
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Shishir Arse

amazing episode.

Jan 10th
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Jordan Harbinger

Shishir Arse Do you also listen to The Jordan Harbinger Show? If you like The Art of Charm you’ll love this new show from the original host.

Jan 13th
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Glenda Dixon

this is a great one to share

Dec 17th
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Jordan Harbinger

Glenda Dixon Try The Jordan Harbinger Show as well. That show has the original host who did all the interviews for this one.

Dec 19th
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WFD

Wow these guys teaching confidence! Take your own course... Brutal stubbling on words not good

Dec 12th
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Jordan Harbinger

WFD Try The Jordan Harbinger Show. Includes the original host who did all the interviews for this one that didn’t include unclear articulation ;)

Dec 19th
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Jaya Vohra

Dr

Dec 11th
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Andrew Lombardo

Absolute garbage. "In our role, as men, as leaders, and in women's roll to follow leaders..."- Episode 236

Dec 8th
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Jordan Harbinger

Andrew Lombardo I agree with you there. I might even have said more than one inaccurate thing in the past 12 years of broadcasting, but hopefully the good outweighs the bad. You might try listening to something more recent than a decade old. That should help with the white-knighting issue / outrage addiction. You’re welcome! Glad you’re enjoying the show!

Jan 6th
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Andrew Lombardo

Jordan Harbinger You were on the show when the above quote was said. It was wrong then and it is wrong now.

Jan 3rd
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Alexandre Yasuda

Jordan Harbinger Show is much better than AOC.

Nov 15th
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J WIGHTMAN

Alexandre Yasuda agreed

Dec 9th
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Emerson Jongeling

where is the Jason capital episode

Nov 7th
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Jennifer Liao

Emerson Jongeling JASON CAPITAL is on The Jordan Harbinger Show. Full video up on YouTube at THEJORDANHARBINGERSHOW

Nov 15th
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Richard Ilsley

8:15 before this show starts. seriously.

Oct 31st
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Madhav Krishna

Richard Ilsley bahut hard

Jun 12th
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Jordan Harbinger

Richard Ilsley Have you checked out The Jordan Harbinger Show as well?

Nov 5th
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Tammy Lynn

wow! loved this!

Oct 30th
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Jordan Harbinger

Tammy Lynn Do you also listen to The Jordan Harbinger Show? Quality content from the original host.

Nov 5th
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