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In this episode Charles delivers a list of things sons need to hear their fathers say or do. Some of these actions and words need to be executed in the context of an intimate relationship while others require sons see men beyond intimate partnerships. These tips will undoubtedly help boys boost their emotional intelligence, emotional regulation, and treatment of others.

Today cohost Jamiere Abney, Associate Dean of Admissions at Colgate University and Coordinator of Outreach for Opportunity & Inclusion speaks with Ben Schneider, University of Milwaukee grad, sales professional, and an avid follower of The Barbershop Group about his professional efforts to change how corporate America engages people of color and about his own desire to understand more about mental health and illness. Ben is a Diversity and Inclusion Facilitator for a company in Wisconsin. He and his team have been challenged to lead in efforts to retool D&I processes. It sounds like a mammoth task considering some of the obstacles and goals of the organization but he is definitely up for it. On one of his recent walks through his neighborhood saw a Take a Book /Leave a Book box. Knowing Elm Grove is a 90%+ white community, he wasn't surprised to see any books celebrating diversity or on the concepts of anti-racism. Ben wanted to make sure that changed, so he dropped off some books he felt almost every White man needs to read. Ben says White men like him need to feel uncomfortable.And he isn’t just speaking about random men. He has found himself at the forefront of discussions about race with many of his close family members, former schoolmates, and colleagues. Thoughts? Comments? Likes/Dislikes? Let us know! You can email us at: info@thebarbershopgroup.org. Also, if you or someone you know would like to be on the podcast, you can email us with the subject line: ’Co-host’ or ‘Guest’ Don’t forget to follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram @TheBarberShopGrp. You can also follow Jamiere on Instagram @jamabney26.

Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Gary "Trey" Taylor received a Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology from Virginia Commonwealth University. He then received his Master’s Degree from George Mason University in Social Work with a concentration in Policy and Advocacy in 2015.  Trey is the owner of Uphold 31:8, a consulting business dedicated towards providing education, awareness, and resources to the world about Mental Health, with a specialty in the African-American community. Through his business, he is also passionate about community initiatives and created an event called Stop The Violence Movement now named U.I.E. (Unify, Illuminate, Empower), aimed at unifying the community via the school system, community leaders and elected officials through dialogue, workshops and solution focused goals to ensure a safer community. He is also the author of “You Good Fam? An Analysis of Mental Health in the Black Community” and “Mental Health Keys”, a manual for managing your Mental Health. You can also purchase his book here. In his spare time, he enjoys collecting sneakers, customizing his car, writing and playing/watching/coaching basketball. He is also the creator of The Backwoodz Podcast, in which he, his wife and two family members speak about black millennial content, social issues and sports. Follow Trey on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter. Want to help us reach more men? Donate today!

Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup As a Licensed Psychotherapist, Relationship & Sexuality Expert, Owner & Founder of The Relationship & Sexual Wellness Center, the Flow & Ease Healing Center and Co-Founder of Melanin & Mental Health, LLC Eliza Boquin works with couples and individuals to overcome any traumas, pain, or destructive patterns that keep them from enjoying healthy, satisfying, and pleasure-filled lives.  By working with clients in her office, online, and in workshops Eliza helps people gain the skills necessary to get closer to their life and relationship goals. She believes that pleasure is our birthright and shame is the greatest blocks to enjoying healthy, balanced lives. Eliza's journey of overcoming the messages of shame that were passed onto her and finding self-compassion along the way drives her mission to help others free themselves from shame and a embrace a more holistic mind, body, and spirit balance.  Topics of discussion she frequently comments on include: Unapologetic Self-Care, Healthy Sexuality, Pleasure-Focused Sexual Experiences, and Mutually Satisfying Healthy Relationships.  Her advice has also appeared in Bustle, ThriveWorks, Good Therapy, Stylecaster, and Business Insider, and various local radio stations in Houston, TX including Amazing 102.5. You can follow Eliza on Twitter, Instagram and on Facebook. You can help us reach more men with a donation today!

Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup In this episode, Riley and Charles kick back for some Superbowl banter and a deep discussion about the success of Tom Brady, P.K Subban, the Manning brothers and just what it takes to replicate this in our own lives. Is there a formula? There just has to be one. Is it the money? If so, like us, you're probably doomed! Or could it be something much simpler yet hard to do? Find out! And while you're listening, head over to our page to donate to The Barbershop Group today!

Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup Whitney Hawkins is a licensed psychotherapist and marriage & family therapist. She is the owner of The Collaborative Counseling Center in Miami, FL. Whitney provides “Modern Therapy to Make Life More Manageable.” We'll discuss why men prefer to avoid arguing and choose emotional disengagement during conflicts and arguments with significant others. We hear it in countless reports from women as well as from gay men, that their partners often prefer complete withdrawal when and where tensions ride high. Avoidance seems to reign supreme where men can't win and where they feel there is a loss of traditional dominance. We'll dig in on this episode with Whitney. We'll also get her qualified take on the gun vs. mental health/mental illness debate U.S. media and pundits seem to be making so prevalent. https://www.facebook.com/TheCollaborativeCounselingCenter Email: whitney@collabcounseling.com Website: www.collabcounseling.com Phone: 305-382-7525 150 SE 2nd Ave Miami, FL 33131

Today we'll talk to Dr. Reginald Cunningham about vulnerability and the struggle for personhood through the eyes of a Black male therapist. We'll also discuss some of the thoughts former Duke and NBA basketball star Jason Williams expressed regarding success after a great failure. Tune in and share Dr. Cunningham's wisdom with your family and friends. For more information or a consultation, can contact Dr. Cunningham at (410)961-7192 or visit http://www.rvccounseling.com/. Please visit www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup to make a contribution to our show today! As always, thank you for your continued support!

Please support the show at https://www.patreon.com/thebarbershopgroup We'll discuss the culture and processes of bullying and its impact on young people with a bit of a look into the life of bullied boys who become men. Natalie is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Anger Management Specialist in Sherman Oaks, CA, working in private practice. Natalie works with individuals, families, children, teens and adults including but not limited to relationship issues, divorce, anger, anxiety, depression, trauma, and the impact of bullying. Natalie is currently a certified Anger Management specialist who works with both court-ordered individuals and volunteers in her practice. In addition, Natalie has worked in the entertainment industry for several years, her experience has led her to understand the fast-paced environment and the challenges the industry can bring to an individual. For more information or a consultation, visit www.therapywithnatalie.org/ or call 818 334-8786. You can also follow Natalie on Instagram at @natalie_therapy.

Today we're talking with Eliza Boquin, LMFT of The Relationship & Sexual Wellness Center in Houston, Texas about the barriers to self-care for men. How have men managed to get away from the practice of self-care in the 21st century and the millennium? There was a time in history when men took a break from the harrows of life to recharge and reinvigorate their minds, bodies and souls whether it was through the arts and literature, manual hobbies like glass-blowing, iron-working, wood-working, writing, etc. Has trauma and unstable families of origin and toxic families impacted many men’s abilities to learn and practice self-care?. We'll cover this and more! Enjoy! For more information visit http://www.trswc.com or call (281) 849-9914.

Enjoy this mono-cast with Charles as he reflects on the fallacy of his own vision.

Justyn Smith is the founder of The Queer Center (www.thequeercenter.com) and a therapist that specializes in providing counseling services for Gay Men and the Queer Community. His work as a therapist, trainer, consultant, advocate, educator, and researcher are all connected to his desire to support and make a positive impact on the mental health of the Queer Community. What are men in the hetero-world doing wrong with regard to understanding mental health in the gay community? How are biases impacting health? There are countless ways for straight men to meet potential partners and spouses and it's still difficult to find suitable people. We'll talk about the psychological difficulty of dating as a gay man. How should we address gay men who may be experiencing self-loathing or who are engaging in unhealthy habits looking for external validation? And Justyn will answer so much more! Join us! Justyn can be contacted at 713-868-1232 or by email at justyn@thequeercenter.com.

Barbershops have represented a safe-haven for men, and especially those who have historically found themselves locked out of opportunities to be served by the status-quo. Today we've invited several panelists to discuss the impact of barbershop culture on these men and how we might integrate models of health and healing without recreating places of machismo, false bravado and toxic masculinist ideologies. Join Lennie Carter of My Tru Circle (www.mytrucircle.com), Dr. O'Shan Gadsden Ph.D. of Gadsden Consulting & Evaluation (www.oshangadsdenphd.com), Gary Taylor MSW of Uphold 31:8 (www.yougoodbro.squarespace.com) and Seanathan Polidore- Masters in Psychology and author of "What's Your Kick: The Guide to Unlocking Your Passion" as we discuss a healthy past, present and future for barbers and their clients.

Entrepreneur and veteran James Johnson speaks with Charles about being a CODA(Child Of a Drug Addict), and overcoming some traumatic experiences to lead a healthy life and give back to others. James has worked in the financial sector for a number of years and grew passionate about helping people rid themselves of debt and venture into home ownership. You can visit www.MyCreditRepairNow.com or call (404) 429-4952 for more information.

The impact of parenting on men's relationships; Struggling to overcome infidelity; Sexual incompatibility; Male emotional intelligence? Please visit www.vidatherapy.co or @vidatherapy on Facebook and Instagram for more information! Zeahlot Lopez is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a Licensed Cosmetologist helping humans rebuild their spirit. Guided by her intuition, clinical training, and life experience…and some luck….she currently helps individuals and families lead a happier life! Aside from providing mental health services to better the lives of her clients, she enjoys providing coaching services to entrepreneurs and those looking to increase their emotional intelligence. She enjoys comedy, singing in her shower, and cooking new dishes.

We're interviewing Robbie Shaw, an Addictions Recovery Coach and public speaker in North Carolina about his quest into addictions counseling, his own recovery and the winding road into the dynamics of families and codependent consciences.

Maine-based rock-climbing instructor and life coach Ryan Howes of Northern Vertical and Ryan Howes Health speaks with us about overcoming neglect, abuse and negative self-images and finding his inner peace through climbing.

Knowledge Manager and self-help enthusiast Reginald Louis Adams discusses how to keep information overload from derailing our personal and professional lives. He also offers some helpful tools and resources to add to our smartphones and calendars. Its a good dose of stress relief.

Ex-football player, personal fitness instructor & founder of AIP Fitness, Rick Lewis discusses what it takes to be his own boss, remain committed to his family, encourages guys to go get a check-up and lose the egos.

We recently spoke with Chad Dennis about the practice of mindfulness and what led him to the brink of losing his sanity. Chad is full of energy and is passionate about sharing his personal experience with others. Dealing with stress, anxiety or situational hypertension? Check out the latest talk with us!

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