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Author: Ashlynn Mitchell

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Have you been through an affair, or struggle with healing a shattered or disconnected relationship?

Each week we will share our 3 different perspectives on topics dealing with relationships, recovery, betrayal & addiction leaving you with HOPE for change no matter your circumstance.
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Jessica joins Ashlynn, Coby and Brannon to share her experience of hope and healing.   DON'T KNOW WHERE TO START?  Go to beyond-enough.com/step1 BEYOND BETRAYAL, the latest program from Ashlynn and Brannon so you can get it when it reopens!  Click here https://www.beyond-enough.com/beyondbetrayal  Check out our Course Shattered Trust to Thriving Intimacy here... www.shatteredtothriving.com And subscribe to the podcast here... https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Connect with us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/betrayedaddi... Connect with us on Instagram: http://Instagram.com/_beyondenough https://www.instagram.com/brannon_pat... https://www.instagram.com/ashlynnandcoby
Brannon, Ashlynn and Coby all share thier take on how essential it is to keep reality front of mind when considering where our partner is in their recovery.  This episode discusses one key piece that could get in the way of reality.   DON'T KNOW WHERE TO START?  Go to beyond-enough.com/step1 BEYOND BETRAYAL, the latest program from Ashlynn and Brannon so you can get it when it reopens!  Click here https://www.beyond-enough.com/beyondbetrayal  Check out our Course Shattered Trust to Thriving Intimacy here... www.shatteredtothriving.com And subscribe to the podcast here... https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Connect with us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/betrayedaddi... Connect with us on Instagram: http://Instagram.com/_beyondenough https://www.instagram.com/brannon_pat... https://www.instagram.com/ashlynnandcoby
Brannon, Ashlynn and Coby discuss the concept of the one who betrayed in the relationship having a voice.  This is a complicated but very important part of any relationship.  DON'T KNOW WHERE TO START?  Go to beyond-enough.com/step1 BEYOND BETRAYAL, the latest program from Ashlynn and Brannon so you can get it when it reopens!  Click here https://www.beyond-enough.com/beyondbetrayal  Check out our Course Shattered Trust to Thriving Intimacy here... www.shatteredtothriving.com And subscribe to the podcast here... https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Connect with us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/betrayedaddi... Connect with us on Instagram: http://Instagram.com/_beyondenough https://www.instagram.com/brannon_pat... https://www.instagram.com/ashlynnandcoby
Tony Overbay is an expert in Narcissism Personality Disorder and he joins Brannon, Ashlynn and Coby to talk the ins and outs of narcissism how how it comes to be.  To find more about Tony Overbay go to his website at tonyoverbay.com.    DON'T KNOW WHERE TO START?  Go to beyond-enough.com/step1 BEYOND BETRAYAL, the latest program from Ashlynn and Brannon so you can get it when it reopens!  Click here https://www.beyond-enough.com/beyondbetrayal  Check out our Course Shattered Trust to Thriving Intimacy here... www.shatteredtothriving.com And subscribe to the podcast here... https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Connect with us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/betrayedaddi... Connect with us on Instagram: http://Instagram.com/_beyondenough https://www.instagram.com/brannon_pat... https://www.instagram.com/ashlynnandcoby  
Murray Hidary is a music composer and shares how music, along with other therapy efforts, helped him heal from the biggest and most challenging trauma and trial of his life.  He discusses what his role was in his own efforts as a composer to heal as well as thousands and thousands of others on his website mindtravel.com Murray Hidary is a meditation teacher, composer and pianist.  He studied Music and Composition at NYU & sees music as a bridge connecting that which is hidden with that which is manifest. Hidary is well known for his SilentHikes where Participants wear headphones while they experience an environment such as a garden or a beach, guided by verbal and musical cues from him.   Don't Know Where to Start?  Go to beyond-enough.com/step1 BEYOND BETRAYAL, the latest program from Ashlynn and Brannon so you can get it when it reopens!  Click here https://www.beyond-enough.com/beyondbetrayal  Check out our Course Shattered Trust to Thriving Intimacy here... www.shatteredtothriving.com And subscribe to the podcast here... https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Connect with us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/betrayedaddi... Connect with us on Instagram: http://Instagram.com/_beyondenough https://www.instagram.com/brannon_pat... https://www.instagram.com/ashlynnandcoby
While Brannon is on vacation, Ashlynn and Coby address what they have learned about going on holiday while still dealing with heavy issues and still being in the throws of recovery.  They will address the following topics: - healthy compartmentalism - planning for triggers - planning around "seasons" - planning enough "recharge time"   Don't Know Where to Start?  Go to beyond-enough.com/step1 BEYOND BETRAYAL, the latest program from Ashlynn and Brannon so you can get it when it reopens!  Click here https://www.beyond-enough.com/beyondbetrayal  Check out our Course Shattered Trust to Thriving Intimacy here... www.shatteredtothriving.com And subscribe to the podcast here... https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Connect with us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/betrayedaddi... Connect with us on Instagram: http://Instagram.com/_beyondenough https://www.instagram.com/brannon_pat... https://www.instagram.com/ashlynnandcoby
Brannon, Ashlynn and Coby discuss the very tricky topic of disclosure and how it can be messed up when denial is present.   Don't Know Where to Start?  Go to beyond-enough.com/step1 BEYOND BETRAYAL, the latest program from Ashlynn and Brannon so you can get it when it reopens!  Click here https://www.beyond-enough.com/beyondbetrayal  Check out our Course Shattered Trust to Thriving Intimacy here... www.shatteredtothriving.com And subscribe to the podcast here... https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Connect with us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/betrayedaddi... Connect with us on Instagram: http://Instagram.com/_beyondenough https://www.instagram.com/brannon_pat... https://www.instagram.com/ashlynnandcoby
Dr. Robert Navarra is the guest on this episode and discusses the balanced way a couple can simultaneously work recovery while focusing on alternatives to codependency. Dr. Navarra is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Gottman Therapist and Master Trainer, and holds National Certification as a Master Addiction Counselor. He is a popular presenter at national conferences, podcasts, and webinars. He has trained counselors and therapists nationally and internationally. Dr. Navarra has co-authored several book chapters with Drs. John and Julie Gottman and co-authored articles on Gottman Therapy for the Encyclopedia of Couple and Family Therapy with Dr. John Gottman. Additionally, Dr. Navarra contributed an article on couple recovery from addiction for the Encyclopedia of Couple and Family Therapy. Based on his research at Mental Research Institute in Palo Alto California, Dr. Navarra created Roadmap for the Journey: A Path for Couple Recovery, a two-day workshop for couples in recovery from an addictive disorder. Roadmap for the Journey has been a featured workshop at Hazelden Betty Ford and has been given at treatment programs as well as in small, semi-private workshop settings. Dr. Navarra and Dr. John Gottman are currently researching the impact of Roadmap for the Journey in helping couples integrate recovery in their relationship, a missing element in most treatment programs. In collaboration with The Gottman Institute, Dr. Navarra has created a one-training workshop for counselors and therapists, called Couples and Addiction Recovery. Dr. Navarra maintains a private practice in San Carlos, CA, specializing in providing marathon therapy for couples in distress, and for couples in addiction recovery. He can be found at https://drrobertnavarra.com Don't Know Where to Start?  Go to beyond-enough.com/step1 BEYOND BETRAYAL, the latest program from Ashlynn and Brannon so you can get it when it reopens!  Click here https://www.beyond-enough.com/beyondbetrayal  Check out our Course Shattered Trust to Thriving Intimacy here... www.shatteredtothriving.com And subscribe to the podcast here... https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Connect with us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/betrayedaddi... Connect with us on Instagram: http://Instagram.com/_beyondenough https://www.instagram.com/brannon_pat... https://www.instagram.com/ashlynnandcoby
Coby shares his personal experience with letting go of his addiction and what that looked like but he also shares why he held onto it for so many decades without consciously knowing it.  Brannon and Ashlynn also share their observations and experience on this difficult and perplexing concept.   Don't Know Where to Start?  Go to beyond-enough.com/step1 BEYOND BETRAYAL, the latest program from Ashlynn and Brannon so you can get it when it reopens!  Click here https://www.beyond-enough.com/beyondbetrayal  Check out our Course Shattered Trust to Thriving Intimacy here... www.shatteredtothriving.com And subscribe to the podcast here... https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Connect with us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/betrayedaddi... Connect with us on Instagram: http://Instagram.com/_beyondenough https://www.instagram.com/brannon_pat... https://www.instagram.com/ashlynnandcoby  
With the launch of their new program called BEYOND BETRAYAL, Ashlynn and Brannon share what they have both observed and what Ashlynn has experienced first hand.  Listen as they describe what healing really feels like.   Beyond Betrayal is the newest program from BAE and in this episode, Brannon and Ashlynn outline the content.  During the launch week, starting 15 Sept 2020 and extending through Sunday 27 Sept 2020, the program will be discounted by 40% so take advantage of this unique and comprehensive content that was masterfully put together by Brannon and Ashlynn both.   Click here to get more info on Beyond Betrayal: https://www.beyond-enough.com/beyondbetrayal   Check out our Course Shattered Trust to Thriving Intimacy here... www.shatteredtothriving.com And subscribe to the podcast here... https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Connect with us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/betrayedaddi... Connect with us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/recovery_co... https://www.instagram.com/brannon_pat... https://www.instagram.com/ashlynnandcoby
This episode is focused on the topic of what to do when you find out your partner is cheating.  Brannon and Ashlynn drill down on this situation and Ashlynn shares what she did in each case when her partner Coby cheated.  Brannon also gives key insights into this situation from the perspective of the professional who has treated people for this exact situation.     Beyond Betrayal is the newest program from BAE and in this episode, Brannon and Ashlynn outline the content.  During the launch week, starting 15 Sept 2020, the program will be discounted by 40% so take advantage of this unique and comprehensive content that was masterfully put together by Brannon and Ashlynn both.   Click here to get more info on Beyond Betrayal: https://www.beyond-enough.com/beyondbetrayal   Check out our Course Shattered Trust to Thriving Intimacy here... www.shatteredtothriving.com And subscribe to the podcast here... https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Connect with us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/betrayedaddi... Connect with us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/recovery_co... https://www.instagram.com/brannon_pat... https://www.instagram.com/ashlynnandcoby
Life Beyond Betrayal

Life Beyond Betrayal

2020-09-1727:32

Beyond Betrayal is the newest program from BAE and in this episode, Brannon and Ashlynn outline the content.  During the launch week, starting 15 Sept 2020, the program will be discounted by 40% so take advantage of this unique and comprehensive content that was masterfully put together by Brannon and Ashlynn both.   Click here to get more info on Beyond Betrayal: https://www.beyond-enough.com/beyondbetrayal   Check out our Course Shattered Trust to Thriving Intimacy here... www.shatteredtothriving.com And subscribe to the podcast here... https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Connect with us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/betrayedaddi... Connect with us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/recovery_co... https://www.instagram.com/brannon_pat... https://www.instagram.com/ashlynnandcoby
Brannon, Coby and Ashlynn share their insights on 5 ways to work through betrayal triggers and discuss the launch of a new program for the betrayed called "Beyond Betrayal". Find out about the new program Beyond Betrayal by going to https://www.beyond-enough.com/beyondbetrayal   Check out our Course Shattered Trust to Thriving Intimacy here... www.shatteredtothriving.com And subscribe to the podcast here... https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Connect with us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/betrayedaddi... Connect with us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/recovery_co... https://www.instagram.com/brannon_pat... https://www.instagram.com/ashlynnandcoby
Trusting one's self following betrayal can be so challenging.  Knowing what is real and what is not, is a struggle.  Listen as Brannon and Ashlynn share insights on what this path may look like.     Don't Know Where to Start?  Go to beyond-enough.com/step1 Check out our Course Shattered Trust to Thriving Intimacy here... www.shatteredtothriving.com And subscribe to the podcast here... https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Connect with us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/betrayedaddi... Connect with us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/recovery_co... https://www.instagram.com/brannon_pat... https://www.instagram.com/ashlynnandcoby
Is there a timeline I can follow on healing from betrayal?  When will it stop hurting?  How long till life is back to normal?  Will it ever be normal?  These questions are discussed in today's episode.    Don't Know Where to Start?  Go to beyond-enough.com/step1 Check out our Course Shattered Trust to Thriving Intimacy here... www.shatteredtothriving.com And subscribe to the podcast here... https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Connect with us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/betrayedaddi... Connect with us on Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/recovery_co...https://www.instagram.com/brannon_pat...https://www.instagram.com/ashlynnandcoby
Today, we have Kim Christensen (@talkwordytome) to the show! She is a writer, reader, mother, blogger, entrepreneur and creator of Loom Journals now Promptly. She’s been a journalist, radio talk show host and magazine editor & is working on her 2nd novel. Get 15% off with discount code "Beyond Enough" on www.promptlyjournals.com   Don't Know Where to Start?  Go to beyond-enough.com/step1 Check out our Course Shattered Trust to Thriving Intimacy here... www.shatteredtothriving.com And subscribe to the podcast here... https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Connect with us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/betrayedaddi... Connect with us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/recovery_co...https://www.instagram.com/brannon_pat... https://www.instagram.com/ashlynnandcoby
Brannon is joined by Amy Andrus and three of her kids so they can share their perspective while going through their parents divorce. Amy Andrus, Coby and Ashlynn's therapist, joins the podcast to share obstacles they faced and overcame in order to get into recovery.   Amy is a licensed marriage and family therapist since 2000 & CSAT since 2013.  She’s taught courses at BYU & counseled many students at the Women’s Services and Resources Center, where her eyes were opened to the world of sexual addiction and trauma.  Amy's life has been affected by sex addiction in a personal way. She knows the struggle, shame, and guilt the addict experiences. She has found it rewarding to facilitate individual change and work with the family system to ensure long-term growth and change.  Amy's a single mom of six. Her youngest daughter has Down Syndrome, and raising her has taught her countless life lessons. Find her on Instagram at  @askamyandrus   Don't Know Where to Start?  Go to beyond-enough.com/step1 Check out our Course Shattered Trust to Thriving Intimacy here... www.shatteredtothriving.com And subscribe to the podcast here... https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Connect with us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/betrayedaddi... Connect with us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/recovery_co...https://www.instagram.com/brannon_pat... https://www.instagram.com/ashlynnandcoby
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Ashlynn, and Coby to share her work on how to discuss healthy sexuality with kids. Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is an LDS relationship and sexuality coach as well as a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in the state of Illinois. She has a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. In addition to her dissertation research on LDS women's sexuality and relationship to desire, she has taught college-level human sexuality courses. Her teaching and coaching focus on helping LDS individuals and couples achieve greater satisfaction and passion in their emotional and sexual relationships.  She offers online relationships and sexuality courses as well as live workshops and retreats for LDS couples and individuals. She can be found at finlayson-fife.com   Don't Know Where to Start?  Go to beyond-enough.com/step1 Check out our Course Shattered Trust to Thriving Intimacy here... www.shatteredtothriving.com And subscribe to the podcast here... https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Connect with us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/betrayedaddi... Connect with us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/recovery_co... https://www.instagram.com/brannon_pat... https://www.instagram.com/ashlynnandcoby
In Part 2 of this series on How Sex Addiction and Betrayal Trauma Effect Kids, Dina joins Ashlynn, Coby and Brannon to discuss the topic of empowering and educating kids on porn.   Dina Alexander is the founder and CEO of Educate and Empower Kids. She is the creator of How to Talk to Your Kids About Pornography and the "30 Days of Sex Talks" and "30 Days to a Stronger Child" programs.  You can find her at https://educateempowerkids.org.    Don't know where to start? Click here? beyond-enough.com/step1 Check out our Course Shattered Trust to Thriving Intimacy here... www.shatteredtothriving.com And subscribe to the podcast here... https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Connect with us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/betrayedaddi... Connect with us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/recovery_co... https://www.instagram.com/brannon_pat... https://www.instagram.com/ashlynnandcoby
In part 1 of 4 Stefanie Carnes join's BAE to discuss kids and talking sexuality.  Often there are many considerations for a topic like this one and Stefanie shares her perspective on the matter. Stefanie can be reached at https://stefaniecarnes.com Don't know where to start? Click here...www.beyond-enough.com/step1 Check out our Course Shattered Trust to Thriving Intimacy here... www.shatteredtothriving.com And subscribe to the podcast here... https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Connect with us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/betrayedaddi... Connect with us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/recovery_co... https://www.instagram.com/brannon_pat... https://www.instagram.com/ashlynnandcoby
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laz

I have just started listening to the podcasts and was over joyed to find one that is positive and as couple you are still together... then BOOM early on you discuss a relapse after 29 months...... this has gave me the fear..... you seemed to gloss over the relapse...im Interested how this could happen when you both seemed on such a positive path and how did you, as the betrayed partner get over this again? How did you feel? how can you still trust him? This is what i need to learn...to trust again. it scares me xx

Nov 18th
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matt desilva

I am happy to have found your content via a mention on a Gottman relationship blog post.

Apr 2nd
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Ben Woodd

I did not understand that at all. I feel frustrated because Dr Rob is obviously a really experienced guy and ashlynn and Brannon were raving about what he was saying but I feel totally confused. Brannon, please can YOU do another podcast to explain what prodepency is.

Feb 29th
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Erin Collingwood

How long was their in-house separation?

Jan 26th
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Kristin King

Is this further down the line in recovery? For example if a wife says she doesn't feel safe and the husband blows up and asks why? According to him, he is safe so now he'll just shut down since she's "not feeling safe"?

Oct 8th
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Dianna Pettrone

5:14

Sep 21st
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Afton McElroy

Hi, I am curious if you have an episodes the address how if you are not dealing with the root of the sex addiction you may infact only replace it with another addiction rather than truly recover. My husband has been through treatment for pornography addiction (he does struggle with getting deep and true understanding of himself but he is not acting out anymore). I'd say his drinking has increased to unhealthy levels over the last year's and more so since treatment. When I ask him if he could set up healthy limits for himself he gets extremely angry, defensive and goes into victim mode. He thinks because he isn't actually drunk it doesn't count as an issue, even though it's 3 days a week he often drinks 8-12 drinks over the span of the day. and also drinks 2-3 most week nights. I hope that if he hears it from somewhere else he might start to understand that he is using the same behaviors as when he was deep in his sex addiction as a result of not truly working through things with the sex addiction. The concepts you teach are applicable in changing your life no matter the addiction type. He loves your podcasts so I'm thinking I could direct him towards a specific episode if one exists? thanks 😊

Aug 31st
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Cindy Lee

this sounds like saanon

Jul 26th
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Kenice Whitaker

Where can I learn more about "daily's?"

Apr 24th
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Janette Jones

I like this podcast so much except this one. The main point is great but the message is lost at times because the experts terminology (ex: play the victim card") includes shaming of the betrayed. These terms ARE minimizing and if that person has a story that they have not been able to be healed from, saying they are "playing" is tantamount to saying they are pretending, lying, exaggerating, or whining. But then maybe I am just triggered. lol

Mar 26th
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Janette Jones

This is the 1st time I listened to you. I am amazed at the parallels that addiction and betrayal trauma have to personality disorder (narcissism) and how it destroys relationships.

Mar 19th
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platinumforChrist

what classifies as a relapse?

Jan 12th
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Dan Huff

By far the best recovery podcast. I've heard over 150 other episodes from other podcasts, but there is more useful content here than the others. especially for couples.

Jul 19th
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Perla

Thank you so much for these podcasts they are saving my lif

Jul 3rd
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Kara Bagley

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Mar 30th
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Robert Windler

love this podcast.

Nov 9th
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Josh Telecsan

where did episodes 1 & 3 go?

Oct 12th
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