The Better Man Podcast

From a young age, you've learned how to don various masks for different people. The problem with this is these masks aren't the real you.    But somewhere along the way, whether due to societal pressures, parenting, religious upbringing, or any other variable, you learn that it's safer to be someone else instead of you.    This strategy can work for a while. It's how both Dr. Zac from Movember and I have gotten through life. But it always fails in the long-run because stacking up achievements (personal, professional, or fitness) can't give you the unbridled joy you're desperately seeking.    The good news is that there's a solution. But the bad news is that it's difficult and takes a long time.    The solution?    Learning how to stop overthinking and underfeeling. This is particularly hard for men because we've been conditioned to think instead of feel.    But learning to feel is perhaps the single most important skill you can hone.    In this episode, Dr. Zac and I share the messy story of how we're both trying to feel more and think less - and we invite you to join us.    We also discuss:   How to take off the masks you're wearing that undermine your growth  The overthinking and underfeeling crisis that's affecting men  How the term "toxic masculinity" is unhelpful and harmful to men    Other highlights from the show include:    How men who do both theater or music and sports in high school don a mask that hinders their personal growth later in life (2:19)  The insidious way fear discusses itself as freedom of choice (and why this wrecks your relationship, including the one with yourself) (7:20)  The disorienting "generational trauma" trap that nearly every guy falls into (and how to realize these feelings were never even yours) (15:58)  Why men are so much better at thinking about their emotions rather than feeling about them - including Dr. Zac and myself (22:15)  The "feeling is the solution" skill that can help you stop overthinking and underfeeling (22:59)  How unleashing the grief monster gives you catharsis without drowning in your sadness (40:53)  Why "toxic masculinity" has morphed into a meaningless catch-all term for bad behavior (and how this undermines men across society)  (47:25)    Listen now!   Guest bio:   Dr. Zac Seidler is a clinical psychologist, researcher and leading men's mental health expert. He currently holds dual roles as Global Director of Men's Health Research at Movember and Associate Professor with Orygen at the University of Melbourne. Zac has dedicated his academic and professional career towards further understanding men's mental health and masculinity. His ultimate goal is to help reduce the staggering rates of male suicide and domestic violence worldwide. Through his research, Zac has advocated for a change in the way we think about treating men's distress. As part of his research, he has uniquely focused on creating mental health services that account for masculinity. This has evolved into a fully funded project, Men in Mind, the world's first training program for mental health clinicians, to help them better understand and respond to men's distress and suicidality.   Resources mentioned in this episode:    1. Download Movember's Report, The Real Face of Men's Health here: https://us.movember.com/the-real-face-of-mens-health    2. Follow Dr Zac Seider:   Website: https://www.zacseidler.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/zacseidler/    3. Man Flow Yoga - Start your 7-day free trial here: https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7   

The difference between success and failure with any fitness plan usually comes down to how consistent you are. But today's guest, David, had nearly all the odds stacked against him when it came to his consistency...    He admitted he's a chronic starter and stopper: In fact, it took him years to build up his consistency muscles and finish his first Man Flow Yoga Program.   He's a cook at a nursing home, and his shift begins at 4:30 am - adding another obstacle blocking his consistency.    And, because he's forced to wear non-stick shoes, his feet have overpronated and led to immense back pain.    But you know what?   Despite all of this, David never gave up. He learned to stop beating himself up (even when he wasn't as consistent as he wanted to be). And best of all, just this year, he's finally figured out how to be consistent.    Since then, he's managed his back pain, dropped 10 lbs, and changed his body composition.    Here's what David and I discuss in today's show:    How attending an in-person event created a snowball effect of consistency  Why standing all day for work is almost as bad as sitting all day  The unique challenges that come from having a wildly different sleep schedule than most of the world    And more, including these highlights:    How David's overpronated feet caused him immense back pain (and how he's made the pain manageable) (2:39)  Why kids in the family is a literal cheat code for consistently working out (even if you've struggled to be consistent for years like David has) (12:16)  How to trick your brain into working out even when you're exhausted and unmotivated (14:51)  David's favorite stress relief pose that he does whenever stress rears its ugly head (17:10)  The weird "dancing while standing" secret for eliminating back pain caused by standing all day (18:11)  How a tiny change like swapping processed sugar for natural sugar can help you take back control of your cravings (22:36)    Listen now!   Resources mentioned in this episode:    1. Man Flow Yoga Events: David attending the January 2025 event in Austin laid the groundwork for his consistency. We're bringing Man Flow Yoga to Denver, CO on February, 28. Get your ticket here: https://shop.manflowyoga.com/collections/in-person-events/products/mfy-workshop-denver-february-2026-02-28    2. Strength Foundations Challenge: Follow in David's footsteps by joining the 6-week Strength Foundations Challenge here: https://manflowyoga.com/sfc    3. Man Flow Yoga - Start your 7-day free trial here: https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7   

You have been sold a lie, and if you believe it, you'll end up in a grave much sooner than you otherwise would've. It's not your fault you fell for this lie. I have too. In fact, almost every man has fallen for it.    The lie?   That in order to be a "real man," you have to tough everything out on your own. This lie has lethal consequences: it makes you feel unworthy of your own health, it forces you to avoid intimacy with other men, and it makes vulnerability impossible.    The result?    You fall into the deep abyss of loneliness… and don't know how to get out.    That's one of the reasons why men commit more than 75% of the suicides in America. And it's why I invited Dr. Zac Seidler, Global Director of Men's Health Research at Movember, onto today's show.    One of the problems with men's health is that disconnection and loneliness are discussed in a vague way. Well, Movember's recent report, "The Real Face of Men's Health" finally puts actual data to this vague description.   And the data trends are alarming: Isolation is the single biggest threat to your physical health. It will put you in a grave sooner.    The good news is, Dr. Zac shares a bunch of ways to stop living your life around this lie all men have been sold.    Here's what Dr. Zac and I discuss in today's show:    What's getting in the way of men having more meaningful connections - other than being physically healthy?  The insidious, borderline lethal effects of silence (and why a fear of rejection and vulnerability cause it)  How to change how you think about yourself to be happier, stronger, more vulnerable, and a better version of yourself    Other highlights from the show include:    Why the life expectancy gap between American men and women is actually going backwards for men (and how to prevent dying sooner than previous generations) (3:02)  The 2 biggest reasons behind the alarming suicide rates among men of all ages (worst part? it has only a small connection to complex mental health history) (6:04)  The potentially lethal consequences of "toughing it out" by delaying a doctor's appointment and putting your family or career before yourself (11:04)  Why your fear of boredom and silence will put you in your grave faster (and how pooping without your phone is the first step towards being comfortable with boredom and silence) (19:50)  The Harvard Longitudinal Survey, the longest running study on human health and happiness, has discovered one metric that's more important for living a long life than how much you exercise, your nutrition habits, and even whether or not you smoke (24:55)  The 5 areas of holistic health (and why most men only do a couple and completely neglect the others) (27:05)  How the silencing of your emotional needs leads you down a road of poor physical health (32:38)  The "WMQ" secret for not only sustaining male friendships but thriving and connecting with other men on a deeper level and actually living longer (52:23)    Listen now!   Guest bio:   Dr. Zac Seidler is a clinical psychologist, researcher and leading men's mental health expert. He currently holds dual roles as Global Director of Men's Health Research at Movember and Associate Professor with Orygen at the University of Melbourne. Zac has dedicated his academic and professional career towards further understanding men's mental health and masculinity. His ultimate goal is to help reduce the staggering rates of male suicide and domestic violence worldwide. Through his research, Zac has advocated for a change in the way we think about treating men's distress. As part of his research, he has uniquely focused on creating mental health services that account for masculinity. This has evolved into a fully funded project, Men in Mind, the world's first training program for mental health clinicians, to help them better understand and respond to men's distress and suicidality.   Resources mentioned in this episode:    1. Download Movember's Report, The Real Face of Men's Health here: https://us.movember.com/the-real-face-of-mens-health    2. Follow Dr Zac Seider:   Website: https://www.zacseidler.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/zacseidler/    3. Man Flow Yoga - Start your 7-day free trial here: https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7   

It's easy to overcomplicate your fitness journey, then get overwhelmed and give up. That's why taking baby steps and building momentum helps.    But there's another way it helps too…   It helps you unlock the compound effect of fitness, where you grow fitter with each day. That's what today's guest, Oscar, did after seeing a picture of himself that betrayed his weight.    First, he started eating healthier by focusing on portion control. Next, he started walking, then running, then competing in 5k races. Then, he continued to build on his momentum and started strength training, high intensity interval training, and finally yoga.    Oscar's results?   When I ran into Oscar at an Austin event I hosted, he showed me he has only 17% body fat and built almost 100 pounds of lean muscle mass!   Best part?   Oscar got started on his fitness journey late in life and still accomplished these feats!   Here's what Oscar and I discuss in this episode:    Why a desire to enjoy your life helps you commit to your fitness journey The importance of having support structures around your fitness journey (especially in the beginning)  How to keep building momentum and improving your health as time ticks on    And more, including these highlights:   Here's irrefutable proof that you don't need to be a lifelong athlete to build 100 pounds of lean muscle mass or drop to 17% body fat (1:29)  How to unlock the compound effect of fitness by only taking baby steps on your fitness journey (3:18)  Why having your spouse invested in fitness is a cheat code for accountability (and how to use the "ease of life" argument to get your partner on board) (6:42)  How to learn to listen to your body before suffering a gruesome injury that sets you back (12:45)  Why external validation can cause injuries (13:45)  How complementing a strength training routine with evening yoga improves your recovery, boosts your mind-muscle connection, and increases your gains (25:47)  Why pushing yourself too hard with running devastates your knees (and why Man Flow Yoga is the best solution) (30:22)  The "motion is lotion" secret for continuing to exercise even when you're nagged by aches and pains (31:16)    Listen now!   Resources mentioned in this episode:    Start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga here: https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7   

Your mindset can either be your biggest supporter or your biggest detractor of your fitness journey. But sometimes simple mindset shifts don't work because there's a deeper, subconscious belief that wrecks your consistency before you even start.    Like, for example, imagine you were always picked last in gym class growing up. This creates a subconscious belief that you're in danger, emotionally, when you exercise.    It doesn't matter how much willpower or motivation you have. It's impossible to become more consistent without addressing this deeper, emotional belief.    That's why I'm excited to invite Dr. Anthony Balduzzi, founder of Fit Father Project and Fit Mother Project, back onto the podcast. Dr. A's coached over 60,000 families through the emotional traps that keep them inconsistent.    In addition to sharing a few strategies to address the heavier, subconscious stuff, we also share some of our favorite practical tips to make being consistent easier.     Dr. A and I also reveal:   How to address the deeper emotional stuff that's holding you back  Tactical tips for becoming more consistent that you can use for your workout today  Hidden traps you fall into that make you inconsistent    Other highlights from the show include:    3 insidious ways your subconscious beliefs sabotage your fitness regimen (4:48)  How having too much flexibility in your workout regimen backfires and makes it easier to skip exercise (8:43)  A few ways to design your visual environment to make it easier to exercise consistently (it might sound weird or too simplistic, but it works) (13:30)  The "Press Play" habit building secret that stops your inner voice from undermining your next workout (15:51)  Why your subconscious mind might not like exercise (and how to address these underlying consistency saboteurs) (17:40)  The scientific explanation behind why late-night exercise can actually worsen your health (19:49)  How to neurologically condition your life to become easier as you age instead of harder (24:35)  This mindset shift can make every workout you do a healing experience (30:46)  How to use shame-based motivation to start a new fitness habit (and why you must switch motivation sources once your started) (37:39)  Why doom scrolling on social media during work will make your workout later in the day harder (and sometimes, impossible) (42:33)    Listen now!   Guest bio:   Dr. Anthony Balduzzi is a health and weight loss expert and the founder of Fit Father Project and Fit Mother Project - leading health & weight loss programs for busy men and women over 40. Dr. Balduzzi holds dual degrees in Nutrition & Neuroscience from the University of Pennsylvania, a Doctorate in Naturopathic Medicine, and is a former national champion bodybuilder. Dr. Balduzzi is most proud of the fact that he's helped over 60,000 families in over 100 countries lose weight and get healthy through his Fit Father and Fit Mother Programs.   Resources mentioned in this episode:    1. Fit Father, Fit Mother LIVE! - This episode was recorded before the 2025 event… but there's a 2026 version coming if you're interested! More info (including super early-bird tickets) here: https://www.fitfatherproject.com/live-event-2026/    2. Follow Fit Father Project on social media:    Website: https://www.fitfatherproject.com/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/fitfatherproject  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fitfatherproject/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fitfatherproject  X: https://twitter.com/fitfatherproj  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/fit-father-project  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fitfatherprojectofficial    3. Man Flow Yoga - Start your 7-day free trial here: https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7   

The vast majority of men with back pain, hip pain, and joint pain sit far too much on a daily basis. While sitting all day terrorizes your joints, there's another potential cause of stiffness:   Repetitive and constant movement.    Today's guest and Man Flow Yoga Member, John, works the night shift at H-E-B. His job requires him to move constantly (he gets 18,000 steps a day when he's working). And the constant, repetitive movements have unleashed pain, tightness, and stiffness on his back, hips, and joints.    John's big problem (which he didn't realize until after he joined Man Flow Yoga and dialed in his consistency) was that he never engaged his core prior to Man Flow Yoga.    But now?   Not only is nearly all his bodily pain gone completely, but he even helps his coworkers eliminate their pain - something he credits to my instructions when doing a Man Flow Yoga workout.    John's story proves that moving too much (but in the wrong ways) can also be as bad on your body as not moving at all.    Here's what else he shares in this episode:    How John motivates himself to workout even though he's a father of five who works the night shift  Why trying other types of yoga (that aren't Man Flow Yoga) can cause you to injure yourself  How community can improve your consistency more than perhaps anything else Other highlights from the show include:    How moving constantly for work is almost as bad for your back as sitting all day (1:20)  Why does Man Flow Yoga consistently outperform other styles of yoga for bodily pains? John explains at (12:07)  The absolute best Man Flow Yoga program for moving your body in all the ways you should move your body but don't (17:54)  Simple ways to incorporate your core into daily movements (and how this staves off back pain) (19:19)  How being consistent with Man Flow Yoga helps you eliminate pain for your family, friends, and coworkers (34:47)    Listen now!   Resources mentioned in this episode:    To quote John, "the best piece of advice I have for men who want to be healthier is to join Man Flow Yoga."    Start your 7-day free trial here: https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7   

Figuring out which alternative therapies to fit into your already busy day, if any at all, can be overwhelming and confusing. Especially when marketing claims overexaggerate the benefits of alternative therapies and biohacking tools.    That's why I invited human performance specialist, Brian Mackenzie, back onto the show to help make sense of two strategies that are exploding in popularity:    Cold immersion & heat therapy.    While both benefit the human body, you only have a limited amount of time each day.    So, which one should you pick, if any at all?   In today's episode, Brian gives you the beginner's guide to cold immersion and heat therapy, answers which therapy is superior for your body, and  reminds you that fundamental things like sleep and movement are always more important than weird biohacks.    Brian also shares:    How both cold immersion & heat therapy benefit the body (and which one is superior if you're crunched on time)  Why it's easy to "dip your toes" into cold immersion & heat therapy without buying any external stuff  Why you should never use ice to heal an injury    Other highlights from the show include:    Why a human performance specialist doesn't recommend cold plunging to most people who already work out (2:34)  How ice actually inhibits the natural healing process, not accelerates it (this means that the RICE method to healing an injury is outdated too) (4:28)  How to start practicing cold immersion without buying a giant cold plunging tub or traveling anywhere other than your shower (14:22)  Why sleep quality is the anabolic steroid of non-anabolic steroid use (and how cold immersion helps with sleep more than any other benefit) (17:20)  What's more beneficial to the human body: Cold immersion or heat therapy? A human performance specialist answers here (31:53)  The weird way heat therapy mimics altitude training inside your body (33:27)  The best time to hop in a sauna to get the maximum performance benefits for your body (37:09)  Why movement is the most effective medicine for the healing process (and here's what that means in the context of rolling your ankle) (47:47)  Why the Marc Pro Electrical Muscle Stimulator plays a crucial role in recovering from a hip surgery (49:28)    Listen now!   Resources mentioned in this episode:    Your breath is the best indicator of how well you handle stress. By handling your stress better, everything becomes easier and conquerable. If you want to improve your breathing, go to Brian's website here: https://shiftadapt.com    Sign up for Man Flow Yoga below:    Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7   

BMP-Ep140: Getting To Yes (Member Interview with Scott)  Years ago, today's guest Scott was overweight, crushed by so much pain that he had to "drink" painkillers doing construction work, and was never invited by his friends for fitness-related activities like backpacking.    But then, he had a few scary blood panel tests in a row… and completely changed his life.    First, he dialed in his nutrition and lost about 60 pounds. Then, he started using an Elliptical and doing Man Flow Yoga. And that quickly snowballed into weight lifting, running ultra races, doing obstacle course races, and rock climbing.   Today, Scott gets to say "yes" to almost any fitness-related activity he wants to do. He's currently trying to qualify for the Chicago Marathon, and he eventually wants to race a 100 miler.    And he's chock-full of wisdom whether you're just starting your fitness journey or you're looking for your next big challenge.    Here's what Scott shares in today's show:   How to conquer your fear of failure that can wreck your fitness goals before you even start Why it's so hard to make your mind see the current you instead of the past you  How to let go of feeling selfish when you make time for fitness    Other highlights from the show include:    The bulletproof "A for B" weight loss plan that creates better nutrition habits without starving yourself (and helped Scott lose 1-2 lbs per week over 6 months) (3:40)  How working in construction destroyed Scott's joints and shredded his knees… and how Man Flow Yoga helped him tie his shoes without a gameplan (7:30)  The weird psychological reason why spending money on your fitness automatically makes you more committed (11:24)  How a consistent yoga practice snowballed into weight training, running ultra races, obstacle course races, and rock climbing for Scott (even though he wasn't "into fitness" before he started yoga) (13:42)  Why Scott recommends every yoga beginner to record their early yoga workouts (especially if you struggle with motivation) (19:18)  How yoga helped Scott significantly reduce the amount of painkillers he took while working (24:52)  Why being an a calorie deficit can increase your injury risk (27:44)  The "failure is positive" mindset shift for celebrating your failures and growing from them (42:30)    Listen now!   Sign up for Man Flow Yoga below:    Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7   

All humans have a psychological glitch that's detrimental to your health. It speeds up aging, makes the number on your scale tick up, and causes you to overlook the fundamental health truths that result in 90% of your health.    The glitch?    The complexity bias, which means that humans prefer the complex to the simple.    When it comes to your health, this explains you're naturally attracted to the latest biohacking technique instead of the "boring" fundamentals. Your brain is wired that way.    That's why I invited Dr. Steven Gabriel onto today's show. He spent 20 years working as an ER doctor and did his fellowship in anti-aging and regenerative medicine. Not only has he seen what disobeying the fundamental health truths does to your body and health, but he also talks in a way that makes simple and even obvious concepts actually "stick" in your psyche.     Or, in other words, he bypasses the complexity bias that makes health harder to achieve.     Dr. Gabriel and I cover a ton of bases in this episode including exercise, sleep, and nutrition. And he reveals the simplest ways to make aging optional by focusing on the few fundamental health truths.    Dr. Steven also shares:   How to improve your health today and tomorrow by acting more like a child  Why approaching your body like it's a car makes it easier to live healthier  Dr. Gabriel's almost-too-simple strategies for anti-aging (don't let the "complexity bias glitch" make you overlook and ignore the simplicity)    Other highlights from the show include:    An ER doctor explains how disease spreads its tentacles in your body decades before it manifests as symptoms (even for serious ones like heart attacks and dementia) (2:56)  The 6 "Elements of Life" that, once optimized, help you feel like you're 20 years old again (4:25)  How the natural isolation that happens as you grow older makes you age faster (6:22)  Have you been confused by the phrase "cellular optimization?" A doctor breaks down what this REALLY means at (9:36)  9 specific causes of aging for the human body and what you can do to slow it down (11:48)  The #1 healthiest thing you can do according to a physician with 20 years experience in an ER and who did his fellowship in anti-aging and regenerative medicine (23:48)  Why becoming breathless makes your body do everything better (28:14)  The scientific reason why the type of exercise you do does NOT matter (32:53)  The weird way eating every few hours stresses the body out (and why taking a break from eating, a la intermittent fasting, improves health in ways you might not realize) (37:09)  How to eat fewer lab-designed foods that hijack your taste buds and satiety signals by doing nothing other than listening to Dr. Garbiel speak at (41:02)  Why things grown in the ground like berries and veggies are the best foods to repair the body (they decrease oxidation, inflammation, the formation of cancers, and even help unclog arteries) (42:43)  The 4 Staples of Health according to an anti-aging doctor (48:51)    Listen now!   Resources mentioned on this episode:    1. If you'd like to learn more about Dr. Gabriel's "Make Aging Optional" approach, visit his website: https://drsg.co/   2. Or, you can follow him on Instagram @drstevengabriel    Other important links:    Want to improve your sexual wellness, get stronger erections, and last longer in bed? Then join the FREE 7-Day Sexual Wellness Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/uA27H    Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7   

Today's guest, Man Flow Yoga Member Andy, is also a physical therapist who was cursed with genetic bad luck:    His family has a history of high cholesterol. Despite eating right and exercising consistently, Andy's cholesterol levels have been over 200 for the past decade. And since Andy's only in his 30s, getting on a statin which is often a lifelong medication, wasn't an option for him.    But you know what?   Andy proved that even though genetics load the gun, lifestyle pulls the trigger. For example, about 3 months after joining Man Flow Yoga (and adding yoga to his fitness regimen of Pilates, physical therapy exercises, and something called Animal Flow), his cholesterol dropped by over 100 points!   Andy's also chock-full of tips and tricks to help you avoid injuries (and what you can do after injuring yourself to speed up recovery).    Here's what Andy shares in this episode:    How some of his PT clients injured themselves with traditional yoga  He explains the difference between Pilates and yoga (and why they complement each other more than you'd think)  Why diversifying your movement is the best way to free yourself of pain as you age    And more!   Other highlights from the show include:    How to pick up exercise later in life (especially if you never considered yourself an athlete growing up) (4:19)  Why you don't have to compete in sports to think of yourself as a "fitness guy" (and how this identity shift inspires consistency) (5:00)  The physical therapist's secret for forever eliminating your lower back pain (7:34)  Why holistic fitness modalities like Pilates and Man Flow Yoga are often more effective than physical therapy alone (8:06)  Injured during yoga: Physical therapist shares how traditional yoga has led to injuries for his clients (12:28)  The 5 biomotor skills you must protect as you age (or else they'll deteriorate) (14:31)  Physical therapist explains the stark, yet sometimes unrecognizable difference between Pilates and yoga (16:36)  How Andy lowered his cholesterol, which had been above 200 for over a decade due to genetic bad luck, by 100 points in only 3 months (without using statins) (33:01)  The single most effective way to exercise without causing an injury - straight from a physical therapist's mouth (41:27)    Listen now!   Resources mentioned on this episode:    1. Need a physical therapist in Austin, TX? Andy would love to see you! You can learn more about Andy's unique approach to physical therapy and Pilates on his website here: https://therapyandpilates.com/    2. Group Coaching with MFY Coach Patrick: Or, if you prefer a group setting where you're surrounded by other like-minded men who are struggling through similar problems as you, Coach Patrick also does group coaching. You can learn more about group coaching and sign up for group coaching with Coach Patrick here: https://manflowyoga.com/mfy-12-week/    Other important links:    Want to improve your sexual wellness, get stronger erections, and last longer in bed? Then join the FREE 7-Day Sexual Wellness Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/uA27H    Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7   

External motivation is a tricky and fickle thing that can make you consistent one week, only to feel defeated and deflated the next 3 weeks.    Why?   Because external motivation is a short-term band-aid that's not only unsustainable over time, but actually makes it harder to be consistent with any goal you're trying to achieve.    There's a better source to fuel your energy in pursuit of your goals: Yourself.    Problem is, we've never been more disconnected from our true selves than ever before thanks in large part to social media. But something magical happens when you reconnect with yourself:   Your brain joins your team instead of constantly criticizing you.    This journey of self-connection isn't always puppies and rainbows… but it's possible. And today's guest, MFY Coach Patrick, LCPC (who has 25+ years of experience as a mental health professional) understands this better than anyone, especially as it relates to your consistency with fitness.    Patrick battled depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem first hand, which led him to become a mental health specialist in the first place. And as the Motivation & Consistency Coach at Man Flow Yoga, he has a sixth sense for helping you understand how you hold yourself back on an emotional level. He also understands how to talk to your "inner world" in a way that reconnects you to yourself, and allows you to be consistent without relying on motivation.  Here's what Coach Patrick shares in this episode:   How to give yourself permission to stop beating yourself up The "Monster in the Basement" trap of negative self-talk that flies under most guys' radars  How to be kinder with yourself even when you're not in a good place    And more, including these highlights:    Why advice that only tells you what to do falls flat (even if it's good advice, it doesn't empower you like Coach Patrick's "Empowerment Therapy" coaching style) (4:46)  The weird way celebrating your wins, even if they're small, prevents you from falling into the trap of self-sabotage (5:54)  How motivational YouTube videos can actually make you feel defeated and deflated (and the trick to stop relying on motivation completely without sacrificing your fitness goals) (10:12)  2 reasons why more men are unhappy today than we've ever been (13:02)  Do you feel disconnected from yourself? Here are 3 techniques that help you tune out the noise and understand yourself on a deeper level (17:09)  How to actually convince your brain to join your team instead of being your biggest critic (21:37)  How to point out your flaws and faults and failures in a kind way (31:01)  Why focusing your intrusive thoughts, anxieties, and insecurities to a specific body part can help you "digest" the emotion without spiraling (47:48)  The counterintuitive reason trying to ignore negative thoughts, emotions, and stories give them more power of you (49:41)  Listen now!   Resources mentioned on this episode:    1. 1-on-1 Coaching with MFY Coach Patrick: If you're struggling with motivation and consistency, negative self-talk and self-sabotage, or another mental health problem, Coach Patrick has 1-on-1 coaching spots open. You can learn more about being coached by Patrick and sign up for 1-on-1 coaching here: https://manflowyoga.com/man-flow-yoga-one-on-one-coaching/    2. Group Coaching with MFY Coach Patrick: Or, if you prefer a group setting where you're surrounded by other like-minded men who are struggling through similar problems as you, Coach Patrick also does group coaching. You can learn more about group coaching and sign up for group coaching with Coach Patrick here: https://manflowyoga.com/mfy-12-week/    Other important links:    Want to improve your sexual wellness, get stronger erections, and last longer in bed? Then join the FREE 7-Day Sexual Wellness Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/uA27H    Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7   

Red light therapy has been scientifically verified to help against at least 500 health conditions… and this number keeps steadily growing each time a new research study gets published.    I bought my first red light therapy device in 2016, and if I'm being honest, I was left highly disappointed. Marketing claims around red light therapy position it as a panacea that can remedy all disease.    But the technology wasn't advanced or sophisticated enough to back up those panacea claims in 2016.    While red light therapy still isn't a true panacea that can remedy all disease, the technology has gone through incredible advancements in the last 9 years. For example, it's been scientifically proven to help with 500 various health conditions.    But it's more effective as a proactive way to prevent serious health conditions (including age-related brain decline like Alzheimer's and Parkinson's, age-related testosterone decline, and even stress-induced prostate inflammation) than it is as a reactionary tool against the 500 conditions it helps with.    In other words, red light therapy, when treatments begin early enough, unlocks the healing powers the body had in youth that deteriorate with age.    Recently, when I went searching for the best red light therapy devices on the market, I came across RLT Home. They had the best reviews, the best customer service, and the best devices. So I bought one at full price, and started using it at my office daily. (If you want a red light therapy device without paying full price like I did… click on this link and use code "ManFlowYoga" at checkout.)    That's why I reached out to Amit and Arjun, the founders of RLT Home to share the various proven benefits of red light therapy with you.    This episode is chock-full of the impressive and almost unbelievable benefits of a regular red light therapy practice.    Here's what Arjun shares in this episode:   Why not all wavelengths are created equal (and which specific wavelengths you need to conquer specific health problems)  How to tell the difference between proven red light benefits and the marketing myths surrounding them 3 reasons why all men over 40 should consider red light therapy    And more.    Other highlights include:   5 major reasons why people over 40 use red light therapy to look younger, curb their pain and inflammation, eliminate brain fog, improve their sleep, and even aid their weight loss journey (4:22)  The specific red light wavelength that's brilliant for "transcranial healing" and protecting against future age-related brain conditions like Alzheimer's and Parkinson's (6:44)  Why NASA uses red light therapy to grow plants and to fix astronaut's wounds quicker in outer space (9:42)  Here is your cheat sheet for understanding the unique benefits offered at various red light wavelengths (10:55)  The weird "Mitochondrial Activation" mechanism behind near infrared rays that scientifically help your body produce energy (11:08)  Red light therapy has been studied for over 500 conditions: Here are the conditions it's been proven to help with (13:03)  Why does almost everyone report wildly different benefits of using red light therapy? (15:59)  How red light therapy may be able to save your hairline if you start it early (and why it can't completely regrow your hair once the follicles have died) (19:40)  Why red light therapy is the ultimate proactive health tool (and why it's not nearly as effective as a reactionary technology) (22:09)  Why your body absorbs red light rays easier than it absorbs sun rays (27:25)  How red light therapy increases testosterone production, makes your Johson firmer and stronger, increases your libido, and skyrockets your sperm count (36:46)  Why RLT Home builds a free, highly personalized, one-to-one plan for all of their customers based on your unique goals (and it's always free - no matter how many protocols you want built for you or your family) (42:30)  2 things you must know about a specific red light therapy device before you buy it (and why RLT Home is the most transparent red light therapy company in regards to these 2 crucial things) (45:06)  How red light therapy paves the way for your body to heal as quickly as it did in childhood (this also explains why using red light therapy to heal is very condition-specific) (49:33)    Listen now!   Resources mentioned on this episode:    1. Get a red light therapy device & a personalized protocol from RLT Home (and save up to 10% on your order with code "ManFlowYoga") here: https://redlighttherapyhome.com/mfy    2. Get access to RLT Home's free "Which Wavelength" spreadsheet, which contains 2650+ human studies and shows you the best wavelength for the specific health condition you're trying to treat here: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1sit8qzZXOnU_AMAtYBINDdP2jvmme_LskqlTx-erS9U/edit?gid=622452041#gid=622452041      Other important links:    Want to improve your sexual wellness, get stronger erections, and last longer in bed? Then join the FREE 7-Day Sexual Wellness Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/uA27H    Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7   

Tough conversations are one of the hardest things to navigate in relationships. Especially when everyone carries some kind of emotional baggage that's waiting to erupt without notice.    For example, a conversation about your health and fitness could be interpreted as a threat by your partner. They're thrown into flight-or-flight. You feel like your needs are being neglected. A fight takes place. And you're both left wondering what happened.    If this pattern keeps happening, you'll drift apart.    So, what can you do?   I invited Dr. Corey Allen, co-host of Sexy Marriage Radio, to share how you can break destructive patterns, how to be okay with discomfort during conflict, and why you might not always need your partner's agreement to get your needs met.   Here's what Dr. Corey Allen shares in this episode:   How to have tough conversations with your spouse in a way that's productive and brings you closer together  Why avoiding conflict makes it bubble beneath the surface  How to claim time for exercise and living a healthier lifestyle even when your partner isn't 100% on board    And more.    Other highlights include:   How to be able to open the door to uncomfortable, but important conversations with your spouse in a less messy way (9:23)  Why you don't always need your partner's agreement when it comes to your fitness needs (17:23)  How to reframe a conversation about your needs when your spouse doesn't agree (and why this happens more often than you might think) (21:00)  Why old wounds can be poked by new conversations with your spouse (and how to better navigate these troubled waters) (31:19)  The "Completed Conversation" mistake men make during conflict with loved ones that undermines healthy communication (32:42)  Do stories from your head (or your partner's head) keep derailing conflict and causing intense outbursts? This book helps you talk about your emotions without the story attached (35:17)  How being too solution-focused in conflict can backfire on your marriage and make you grow further apart (42:45)      Listen now!   Resources mentioned on this episode:    1. Want more from Dr. Corey Allen? Listen to his show, Sexy Marriage Radio, wherever you listen to podcasts.    2. Buy Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships by Marshall B. Rosenberg, PhD (the book mentioned in this episode) on Amazon here: https://a.co/d/da58pfF    Other important links:    Want to improve your sexual wellness, get stronger erections, and last longer in bed? Then join the FREE 7-Day Sexual Wellness Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/uA27H  Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7

Some people don't need any kind of external motivation to exercise. They're in a routine, and their day feels chaotic when they don't do physical activity.    But the vast majority of men, especially men over the age of 40, need a little pick-me-up from an outside source every now and then. And that's where having a fitness community can be the difference between achieving your goals and giving up.    And you know what?   The external motivation provided by a fitness community is only one benefit… and it might not even be the most important benefit either.    In this week's show, MFY Coach & Community Manager, Jesse Lee, joins me to share some of the other overlooked benefits a fitness community can have. Jesse's been "in the trenches" of the Man Flow Yoga Community Facebook Group since 2019 - so he's seen it all.    Here's what Jesse and I share in this episode:    The weird way a fitness community improves your "limbic system motivation"  Common mistakes men make when communicating with other men that can derail your fitness momentum  The most overlooked benefits of community particularly for men    And more.    Other highlights include:   The incredibly helpful, but severely neglected "Normalization" technique that helps men alleviate stress and overcome tough problems (5:46)  How to outsource some of the burden of working out to other people (and the weird way this makes you more consistent) (10:17)  Coach Patrick's Jedi mindset trick that instantly helps you reframe negativity into an empowering sense of positivity (16:17)  The "limbic system motivation" secret of fitness communities (21:13)  Why creating distance from your emotions instead of talking through them can actually help you recover faster from ruminating thoughts (26:21) The most refreshing sentence you can tell yourself when you're dealing with tough emotions (29:23)  Simple ways to incorporate more exercise into your morning (and why this is a cheat code for consistency) (38:11)    Listen now!   Resources mentioned on this episode:    1. Subscribe to the We Got Balls Podcast hosted by Scott and Chris on YouTube here: https://www.youtube.com/@WeGotBallsPod    2. Buy Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing by Jay Stringer (the book mentioned in this episode) on Amazon here: https://amzn.to/3QRkif2     Other important links:    Want to improve your sexual wellness, get stronger erections, and last longer in bed? Then join the FREE 7-Day Sexual Wellness Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/uA27H    Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7   

When you want to be a better man, there are an endless number of routes you can go down: Exercise, relationships, personal development, mental health, and the list goes on.    And yet, there's one route that's so dark and gloomy and lonely that it never even crosses the minds of most men: Your sexual story.    That's why I invited Scott and Chris from the We Got Balls Podcast back onto today's episode.    Thinking about, addressing, and then owning your sexual story is not easy. In fact, it's one of the most difficult challenges you'll ever face.    But you know what?   We all have sexual stories. Some are wicked and involve sexual abuse. Others are mild and involve more silence than anything. But all of them create shame. And this shame, while you may be able to handle it most of the time, can disrupt your relationships, butcher your confidence, and blossom into addiction. Especially when it's stacked upon the stresses of everyday life.    This is not an easy episode to listen to. Scott in particular shares the ins and outs of his dark sexual story (spoiler: it involves sexual abuse).    But if you're struggling with addressing and owning (or even remembering) your sexual story, I encourage you to listen to the entire show. You're not alone. And every man deals with their own sexual story which creates the shame cycle many find themselves trapped in without understanding why.    Here's what Scott and Chris share in this episode:    Why you must engage your story if you want to get rid of the shame  How your family dynamics create the script for your sexual story  How to heal your sexual brokeness    And more.    Other highlights include:   Why do men have so much shame around their sexual story (and how to overcome it) (2:16)  How being open about your sexual story can prevent an affair, divorce, and heartbreak (4:05)  The weird way sexual abuse and emotional disruption gets passed down through generations (even if you don't have any personal experience with it) (6:15)  The "Engage Your Story" secret for changing the meaning you've ascribed to traumatic situations so they don't haunt you anymore (14:08)  How to have healthy sexuality that you can sustain long-term (and why it's such a hard conversation for men) (18:28)  Here's why 38% of sexual abuse victims don't remember it (even if it's been documented by third parties) (23:13)  Why addiction, no matter what kind of addiction, is the go-to solution for men to cover up deep, subconscious pain (26:21)  How recovery groups pile on shame instead of alleviating it (and why having a kind friend can make recovery easier and more effective) (29:17)    Listen now!   Resources mentioned on this episode:    1. Subscribe to the We Got Balls Podcast hosted by Scott and Chris on YouTube here: https://www.youtube.com/@WeGotBallsPod    2. Buy Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing by Jay Stringer (the book mentioned in this episode) on Amazon here: https://amzn.to/3QRkif2     Other important links:    Want to improve your sexual wellness, get stronger erections, and last longer in bed? Then join the FREE 7-Day Sexual Wellness Challenge here: https://shrtlnk.co/uA27H    Tired of doing a form of yoga that causes more injuries than it helps prevent? The cold, hard truth is men need yoga specifically designed for them. Well, here's some good news: You can start your 7-day free trial to Man Flow Yoga by visiting https://shrtlnk.co/kP8M7