The Break Up Break Down

When True Love feels more like a True Crime Story....Abby is ready to investigate! Breaking Up is hard to do (obviously) but it's even harder when social media is involved. If your relationship is on display, people are noticing...especially when it ends. We talk to couples and individuals about their break ups. What went wrong? What things did they work through to try and make it work? We'll learn from them and take valuable lessons from their experience while sharing a laugh (or cry) along the way.<hr /><p style="color: grey; font-size: 0.75em;"> Hosted on Acast. See <a href="https://acast.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer" style="color: grey;" target="_blank">acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>

When her friend erased herself from the wedding plans.... - S8E16

The week we're raising awareness for Family Violence Prevention services in San Antonio Texas: https://fvps.org/-If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, text BEGIN to 88788.-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

11-18
41:53

When her nighttime routine tipped him off to the affair.... - S8E15

The week we're raising awareness for YWCA in Cincinnati, OH: https://ywcacincinnati.org/who-we-are-If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, text BEGIN to 88788.-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

11-11
46:39

When she ended up with her ex's boss.... - S8E14

The week we're raising awareness for Cornerstone Minneapolis: https://cornerstonemn.org/-If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, text BEGIN to 88788.-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

11-04
45:03

When their love went 'overboard' after a cruise gone wrong.... - S8E13

The week we're raising awareness for Women's Resource Center to End DV in ATL: https://www.wrcdv.org/about-If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, text BEGIN to 88788.-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Check out author Jaclyn Michelle Smith: www.jaclynmichellesmith.com-Her Book, I'm sorry I Cremated You: https://www.amazon.com/Im-Sorry-Cremated-You-Finding/dp/1642259497-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

10-21
33:09

When his mom called and exposed a dark secret.... - S8E12

[SCROLL FOR CW]-The week we're raising awareness for Away in West Virginia: https://www.awaywv.org/contact-us/-If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, text BEGIN to 88788.-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-[CW: Intimate partner violence, incest] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

10-14
37:53

Why do men care so much about your body count? | Break Down Bonus

Check out the Personality Hires podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/7ddda6wKZg7n5sT9oaLSTJ-Follow the podcast!-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

10-09
18:44

When one question from him said it all.... - S8E11

The week we're raising awareness for the Crisis Line & Safe House in Central GA: https://cl-sh.org-If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, text BEGIN to 88788.-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

10-07
45:44

When work wasn't the only thing he was bringing home.... - S8E10

The week we're raising awareness for the Family Rescue in Chicago: https://familyrescueinc.org/-If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, text BEGIN to 88788.-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-[CW: Intimate partner violence] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

09-30
51:23

When he knew The Bachelorette was sending him home.... - S8E9

The week we're raising awareness for the The Nest in Lexington, KY: https://www.thenestlexington.org/-If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, text BEGIN to 88788.-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-(00:00): Episode Intro-(04:18): How they met- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

09-23
38:40

Recognizing power dynamics in your relationships w/ Coworker Jackson | Break Down Bonus

Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-National Domestic Violence Support: https://www.thehotline.org/-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

09-22
16:22

When both her 'ex's' were taken.... - S8E8

She thought she’d found love, but both relationships were built on lies. She says she was manipulated by two older, taken men. How does her story reveal how emotional cheating can blur the line between romance and control? We'll find out when we break down this week's break up.-The week we're raising awareness for the Family Justice Center in New Orleans: https://www.nofjc.org/-If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, text BEGIN to 88788.-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-(00:00): Episode Intro-(04:18): How they met-[CW: Sexual Harassment] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

09-16
32:54

When "the other woman's" housewarming gift exposed his infidelity.... - S8E7

She thought she was just hooking up with a friend...until his girlfriend confronted her on social media. Suddenly, she realized she was the other woman without even knowing it. But instead of walking away quietly, she plotted the ultimate goodbye: a gift at his housewarming party that exposed his cheating to everyone.-The week we're raising awareness for Cornerstone in Minneapolis: https://dayoneservices.org/-If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, text BEGIN to 88788.-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-(00:00): Episode Intro-(02:56): How they met Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

09-02
25:49

When an avocado exposed his infidelity.... - S8E6

What seemed like a clean, amicable breakup takes a shocking turn when a single avocado in the kitchen reveals a hidden betrayal. How did one small fruit uncover a much bigger secret? We'll find out when we break down this week's break up.-The week we're raising awareness for WCA in Boise, ID: https://wcaboise.org/-If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, text BEGIN to 88788.-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-(00:00): Episode Intro-(02:37): How they met Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

08-26
31:46

He's 'quiet-quitting' the relationship?! | Break Down Bonus

Follow the podcast!-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

08-14
17:38

When Her Roommate Turned Out to Be The Other Woman.... - S8E5

She thought it was just a fun getaway with her her friend group (including...uh...her ex), but halfway through the trip, she learned the girl sharing her bed had been sharing something else with her… her boyfriend.-The week we're raising awareness for Harbor House in Appleton, WI: https://harborhousewi.org/-If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, text BEGIN to 88788.-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-(00:00): Episode Intro-(03:11): How they met Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

08-12
53:31

He injured himself in the name of love!!!! | Break Down Bonus

Check out the Personality Hires podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/7ddda6wKZg7n5sT9oaLSTJ-Follow the podcast!-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

08-07
18:44

When the 'block' button couldn't hide his post-break up betrayal....

[SCROLL FOR CW]-She uprooted her life and moved across the country for love, only to have her fiancé abruptly break up with her and call the cops on her. She was already blindsided...until the 'block' button couldn't hide the betrayal she never saw coming. We'll hear the full story when we break down this week's break up!-The week we're raising awareness for The Coburn Place in Indianapolis: https://coburnplace.org/-If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, text BEGIN to 88788.-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-[CONTENT WARNINGS: Intimate partner violence] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

08-05
52:05

Break Down Bonus: She broke up with him during a MASSAGE?! w/ The Personality Hires

Check out the Personality Hires podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/7ddda6wKZg7n5sT9oaLSTJ-Follow the podcast!-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

07-31
16:48

When her bakery exposed her boyfriend's secret family....

She thought she was baking a sweet surprise for her boyfriend....but she had no idea who else would be tasting it. When his wife walked into her bakery and asked for that exact same cake, everything unraveled. We'll hear the full story when we break down this week's break up!-The week we're raising awareness for Women in Transition in Philly: https://helpwomen.org/-If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, text BEGIN to 88788.-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-(00:00): Episode Intro-(03:53): How they met-(12:08): The cake-(16:47): Reacting to the wife reaching out-(19:45): How the infidelity affected her healing-(21:25): The aftermath-(31:46): Reflecting/advice-(38:09): Teaser Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

07-29
37:09

Break Down Bonus: How do I leave a manipulative relationship? w/ Vernique Esther, LMSW (Replay)

[SCROLL FOR CW] -This episode originally aired in season 3. -Have you ever felt manipulated by your partner? Did you try to break up with them, but they kept luring you back in? Abby brings on LMSW Vernique Esther to talk about how to recognize manipulation, set boundaries, and leave if necessary. -Check out Vernique Esther's:-Website: https://www.verniqueesther.com/-The Wholeness Academy: https://www.thewholenessacademy.com/-Books: https://www.verniqueesther.com/shop-Follow the podcast-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Introducing Vernique-(00:56): How do I know I'm getting manipulated?-(04:06): Why do people manipulate?-(07:07): Why do I feel bad for setting up boundaries?-(09:18): How do I handle religious manipulation?-(12:10): What if my partner threatens me w/ self-harm to keep us from breaking up?-(14:04): How do I leave a manipulative relationship?-(15:00): Can you ever work through manipulation?-(18:24): How to set boundaries in a relationship with someone who has manipulative tendencies?-(20:55): Why do I want to go back to someone who manipulated me?-(23:08): How do I convince myself I deserve better?-[CW: This episode briefly discusses: self-harm/suicide, domestic violence, religious trauma] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

07-24
30:09

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