The Breakup Debrief Podcast

In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly opens Season Three by tackling one of the most gut-wrenching parts of heartbreak: when your ex moves on before you.Whether you found out through social media, mutual friends, or pure accident, that moment hits like a punch to the chest. Kelly breaks down why this triggers panic, intrusive thoughts, comparison spirals, and the sudden fear that “I’ve been replaced.”Rather than focusing on the other person, this episode helps you understand your nervous system, your emotions, and why this moment does not mean you’ve lost, failed, or fallen behind.Kelly explains:💛 Why your brain spirals into “what does this mean?”💛 Why your ex moving on isn’t evidence that they’re happier💛 How avoidant or unhealed partners often jump into something new as a distraction💛 Why the person who sits with their pain actually heals deeper💛 How to avoid making their new relationship about you💛 And how to re-centre yourself when your confidence is shakenThis episode is your reminder that your healing isn’t a race, your worth hasn’t been touched, and someone else’s relationship is not a reflection of your value.Links & Resources📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree

In this powerful episode, Kelly sits down with Orla Foster — therapist, coach & specialist in helping women recover from toxic and narcissistic relationships.Orla opens up about her own journey through toxic dynamics and how it shaped her mission to support women rebuilding their self-worth. Together, Kelly and Orla unpack:The subtle signs of toxic relationshipsWhat narcissistic traits actually look like in real lifeHow emotional abuse erodes confidence and identityWhy shame belongs to the abuser, not the survivorHow to stop repeating patterns with emotionally unavailable partnersThe role of therapy, coaching, meditation, and support systems in long-term healingThis episode is a reminder that healing is possible, support is available & nobody has to navigate toxic relationship recovery alone.Links & Resources📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree✨ Connect with Orla Foster:Instagram: Orla_Foster_Podcast: Because I Loved Myself First📚 Resources for Support:• Women’s Aid (Ireland) — https://www.womensaid.ie• Samaritans — https://www.samaritans.org• Therapy Directory — https://www.psychologytoday.com

In Episode 21 of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly dives deep into one of the messiest — but most transformative — parts of healing after a breakup:the post-breakup clear out.From physical belongings to photos, social media, and the sentimental bits that keep you emotionally tied to your ex, Kelly breaks down exactly how to navigate the clear-out stage without spiraling… or sobbing over a hoodie.Kelly shares her own experiences from the end of her marriage and her most recent relationship — the anger, the awkwardness, the redecorating, the archiving, the box-in-the-storage-room era — and the strategies she used to reclaim her space and identity.You’ll learn why clearing out your ex’s belongings isn’t erasing your past — it’s creating space for your future. She also breaks down why archiving photos is better than keeping them visible, how social media prolongs heartache, why blocking is a form of self-respect, and how your algorithm can either help you heal or keep you stuck.The episode ends with a powerful Where Is She Now? listener story — a woman blindsided by a breakup who rebuilt her life, found peace, and realised she was never the problem.This episode is a must-listen if you’re heartbroken, stuck, or procrastinating the clear-out that you know you need to do.Links & Resources📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree

In this episode, Kelly dives into the viral Vogue article titled “Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now?” and unpacks what this cultural shift really means for women navigating modern dating and healing.Kelly explores why being in a relationship, something once seen as a badge of honour, now feels complicated or even “uncool” in certain spaces. From social media “soft launches” to the fear of losing your independence, she breaks down how culture, healing, and self-worth intersect when it comes to love.This episode challenges listeners to question why they want a relationship, whether they’re choosing love from wholeness or from fear, and how to avoid performing relationships for social media validation. Because at the end of the day- wanting love isn’t embarrassing. Losing yourself for it is.📖 Read the original Vogue article: Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now? (Vogue)Links & Resources📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: LinktreeTakeaways💬 The Vogue article explores how “being partnered” no longer defines women the way it once did.💬 Some women now hide or “soft launch” their relationships due to cultural shifts in how we see commitment.💬 There’s a fine line between empowerment and emotional avoidance when it comes to staying single.💬 Being single isn’t automatically “healed” — and being partnered isn’t automatically “lost.”💬 You can want love and still prioritise self-awareness, boundaries, and growth.KeywordsVogue, relationships, dating, single, breakup healing, attachment styles, modern love, self-worth, emotional growth, identity, feminism, independence, social media, self-discovery, dating culture

In this solo episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly dives deep into one of the biggest post-breakup traps; putting your ex on a pedestal.If you’ve been replaying every memory, romanticising the good moments or secretly wondering if you’ll ever feel that spark again- this conversation is for you. Kelly breaks down why we idealise our exes, how attachment styles (especially avoidant dynamics) can distort our perspective & what it actually takes to see them clearly again.Through honesty and humor, she reminds listeners that healing starts when you stop worshipping the fantasy and start reclaiming your power. Because the truth is, you don’t miss them, you miss the version of them in your mind.This episode also features a Where Is She Now story from a listener who finally walked away from a four-year on-again, off-again relationship, cut contact & built a brand-new life abroad, proof that peace really is on the other side of letting go.Why “knocking your ex off the pedestal” is essential for healingHow to separate the fantasy from the reality of who they wereWhy we confuse potential for love (and how to stop)The power of no contact and creating emotional distanceHow to rebuild your self-worth and confidence after heartbreakWhat avoidant attachment can teach you about the cycle of chasing unavailable love💌 Got a story for the Where Is She Now segment? Email ⁠info@kellyskoaching.com⁠✨ Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok ⁠@kellyskoaching⁠🔗 All links: ⁠linktr.ee/kellys_koaching⁠

In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly dives into a viral topic inspired by a video from Therapy Jeff.If you’ve ever felt completely disillusioned with dating, this one’s for you. Kelly unpacks the frustration of navigating modern relationships for a woman who’s self-aware, healing and tired of the same emotional patterns- yet still wants to believe in love again.She explores how to separate the system from the individual (yes, patriarchy is real but not every man is your ex), how to spot emotionally intelligent men & how to date with hope & self-respect instead of fear or resentment.This is a real, grounded & empowering conversation about keeping your standards high without closing your heart.In this episode, you’ll learn:💭 How to stop projecting past pain onto new people💭 Why expanding your “evidence file” of good men matters💭 What to do about the emotional intelligence gap💭 How to balance accountability with compassion💭 Why you don’t need to choose between awareness & optimismBecause you can call out the patriarchy and still believe in love- without lowering your standards or losing yourself.Listen for: real talk, humor & healing perspective on modern dating, inspired by the viral wisdom of Therapy Jeff.💌 Got a story for the Where Is She Now segment? Email info@kellyskoaching.com✨ Connect on Instagram & TikTok @kellyskoaching🔗 All links: linktr.ee/kellys_koaching

What do you do when your husband cheats, your next boyfriend dumps you before your big Europe trip & life completely implodes?If you’re Gabrielle Stone, you buy a plane ticket, grab your journal & write a book about it that becomes a global phenomenon!In this week’s episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly sits down with actress, author & queen of heartbreak-to-healing, Gabrielle Stone, to talk about everything from betrayal & love bombing to solo travel & the infamous Self-Love Cocktail.Together, they dive into:✨ The messy truth about healing (spoiler: it’s not linear)✨ How to stop confusing love bombing for real connection✨ Why solo travel is the ultimate breakup glow-up✨ The importance of self-awareness and owning your patterns✨ How to turn rejection into redirection & pain into purposeThis episode is equal parts therapy session and girls’ night- complete with laughter, brutal honesty & the reminder that the person you really need to fall in love with is you.So grab your matcha (or a cocktail) & get ready to feel seen, empowered & maybe even inspired to book that solo trip!🔗 Links & ResourcesTry the Cutting the Cord Meditation (bonus episode)Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoachingFollow Gabrielle on Instagram @gabriellestoneShare your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.comExplore more tools & resources: Kelly’s Linktree

In this episode, Kelly shares her personal journey through relationships, focusing on the lessons learned from her past mistakes. She discusses the importance of self-awareness, taking responsibility for one's actions & the need for personal growth after breakups. Kelly reflects on her experiences with anxiety, trust issues & the challenges of maintaining a sense of self-worth in relationships. She emphasises the significance of setting boundaries, recognising red flags & the journey towards healing & independence. Ultimately, Kelly encourages listeners to reflect on their own experiences & to embrace the lessons learned from their past.🔗 Links & ResourcesTry the Cutting the Cord MeditationFollow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok:⁠ @kellyskoaching⁠Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.comExplore more tools & resources:⁠ Kelly’s Linktree⁠ Takeaways Kelly reflects on her past relationships and the lessons learned.Self-awareness and taking responsibility are crucial for growth.Anxious attachment styles can impact relationships significantly.Trust issues often stem from insecurity and paranoia.Reassurance should come from within, not solely from partners.Avoiding conflict can lead to unresolved issues in relationships.Having an identity outside of a relationship is essential.Recognising red flags is important for future relationships.Shame can be transformed into valuable lessons for personal growth.Healing involves compassion for oneself and understanding past behaviours.

In this episode of the Breakup Debrief, Kelly discusses the often-taboo subject of divorce in Ireland, sharing her personal experiences and insights. She explores the stigma surrounding divorce, the legal processes involved, & the differences between legal separation and divorce. Kelly also highlights the benefits of a DIY divorce, emphasising the importance of mindset and self-empowerment in moving forward. Additionally, she addresses the challenges of dating after divorce and encourages listeners to celebrate new beginnings with a divorce party. The episode concludes with a listener's inspiring story of resilience and personal growth after leaving an abusive relationship.🔗 Links & ResourcesTry the Cutting the Cord MeditationFollow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoachingShare your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.comExplore more tools & resources: Kelly’s LinktreeTakeawaysDivorce is still stigmatized in Ireland, affecting many people's decisions.Choosing happiness over an unhealthy marriage is essential.Legal separation and divorce are two different processes with distinct implications.DIY divorce can be a cost-effective option for amicable separations.The divorce process in Ireland can be lengthy and confusing.Mindset plays a crucial role in healing after a divorce.Dating after divorce can be daunting, but honesty is key.Celebrating a divorce can be empowering and liberating.It's important to acknowledge the emotional journey of divorce.Sharing personal stories can help others feel less alone in their experiences.

In this episode of the Breakup Debrief, Kelly & Dating Coach Lisa-Marie discuss the complexities of dating, healing from breakups & the importance of setting standards in relationships. Lisa shares her personal journey through heartbreak & how it led her to become a coach, emphasising the significance of self-worth & belief in love. They explore the process of manifesting love, raising standards & the value of investing in personal growth through coaching or therapy. The conversation highlights the transformative power of breakups & the opportunities they present for self-discovery and growth. In this conversation, Kelly & Lisa-Marie discuss the nuances of dating, the importance of a supportive dating environment & the work required before entering a new relationship. They emphasise the significance of healing & self-awareness in recognising readiness for dating, navigating breakup phases & the necessity of surrendering to the process of finding love. The discussion also touches on the value of investing in oneself & the idea that there are multiple soulmates in life, each serving a purpose in personal growth🔗 Links & ResourcesTry the Cutting the Cord Meditation Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoachingShare your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.comExplore more tools & resources: Kelly’s Linktree

Welcome to Season 2 of The Breakup Debrief! In this first episode, Kelly is breaking down the most common breakup myths that keep women stuck in heartbreak, anxious attachment, and situationships & and replacing them with the truths you actually need to heal.From the lie that “time heals all wounds” to the fantasy that “closure comes from your ex”, these myths might sound familiar… but believing them is exactly what keeps you spiralling, waiting or holding on to someone who isn’t choosing you.✨ In this episode, Kelly debunks myths like:Why “time heals all wounds” keeps you passive (and what really creates healing)The truth about closure (and why it never actually comes from your ex)Why “staying friends” isn’t maturity The danger of “maybe one day” & exes who circle backWhy “getting under someone else” doesn’t actually help you get over your exThe myth that healing has a timeline (“half the time you were together”)& why walking away from the wrong relationship isn’t failure, it’s freedom💡 Key takeaway: Breakup healing doesn’t come from myths, distractions or waiting. It comes from self-awareness, no contact & the choice to start choosing you.🔗 Links & ResourcesFollow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoachingShare your story for the Where Is She Now? segment: info@kellyskoaching.comExplore more tools & meditations: Kelly’s Linktree

In this special bonus episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly guides you through a powerful Cutting the Cord Meditation, designed to help you release lingering emotional ties with an ex (or anyone you’re struggling to let go of!)Whether you’re stuck in breakup limbo, still checking their socials or replaying old conversations in your head, this practice will help you:✨ Energetically release the connection that’s keeping you feeling stuck✨ Calm your nervous system and return to a sense of safety✨ Reclaim your energy so you can move forward feeling lighter and freerThis isn’t about pretending the relationship never happened, it’s about acknowledging what was & then choosing to let go so you can step into your next chapter.Find a quiet space, put your phone on airplane mode & let Kelly guide you through a gentle but deeply transformative process.💡 Remember: healing doesn’t come from waiting for someone to choose you, it comes from choosing yourself, right here, right now.🔗 Links & ResourcesFollow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoachingShare your story for the Where Is She Now? segment: info@kellyskoaching.comExplore Kelly’s offerings: Kelly’s Linktree

Welcome to the final episode of Season 1 of The Breakup Debrief! In this solo episode, Kelly unpacks a painful but common stage of heartbreak: The Breakup Limbo.Breakup limbo is when you’ve technically ended the relationship, but you’re still:Texting your exHooking up “one last time” (again and again)Holding on to a “maybe in the future” promiseThis stage is especially difficult for women with anxious attachment styles, who cling to breadcrumbs of hope while avoiding the reality of the breakup.In this episode, Kelly shares:What breakup limbo is and why it keeps you stuckHow avoidant partners use “maybe one day” to stall commitmentThe emotional cost of staying in contact with an exWhy no contact is the fastest path to healing after a breakupHow to take your power back and start building self-worth again💡 Key takeaway: If he doesn’t want you right now, that is your answer. Don’t wait for the future version of him- choose yourself today.👉 Bonus: Kelly also introduces her brand-new Cutting the Cord Meditation, a guided practice to help you release your ex & finally let go of lingering emotional ties.🔗 Links & ResourcesTry the Cutting the Cord Meditation (bonus episode dropping soon)Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoachingShare your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.comExplore more tools & resources: Kelly’s Linktree

In Part 2 of this powerful conversation with Molly Smith from The Healing Gals Podcast, we dive even deeper into the realities of heartbreak, growth & reclaiming your self-worth.Molly opens up about the transformation that happens when you stop chasing love in others & start pouring that energy back into yourself. We talk about the messy but beautiful process of healing, the lessons learned from heartbreak & the thriving, empowered place she’s found herself in today.✨ What you’ll hear in this episode:How Molly’s perspective on love and self-worth has shifted since her breakupsThe turning point that helped her rebuild confidence and identityWhy heartbreak can be a catalyst for personal growthEncouragement for women to know they deserve so much more than settlingThe importance of sharing our stories honestly to empower othersThis episode is a reminder that while heartbreak can feel like the end, it often becomes the beginning of a whole new chapter- one where you’re thriving, flourishing & no longer settling for less than you deserve.🔗 Links & ResourcesConnect with Kelly: Instagram / TikTok @kellyskoachingEmail your story for the Where Is She Now? segment: info@kellyskoaching.comJoin the community + offerings: Kelly’s LinktreeListen to Molly’s work: @healinggalspodcast

In this special two-part conversation, Kelly sits down with Molly, founder of The Healing Gals Podcast & women’s circle facilitator.Molly shares her own journey of navigating difficult life experiences & how they inspired her to create safe spaces for women to heal, connect & grow together. From the importance of shared storytelling to the unique energy of women’s circles, this episode explores how collective healing can transform the way we move through heartbreak & life transitions.✨ In Part 1, we discuss:Molly’s personal story and how she came to this workThe importance of community in healing after hard timesHow sharing your story can be a catalyst for self-discoveryThis conversation is raw, real & deeply inspiring & we can’t wait for you to hear it!📩 Want to share your own “Where Is She Now?” story? Email info@kellyskoaching.com to be featured on a future episode.📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching📲 Follow Molly on Instagram & TikTok: @healinggalspodcast🌐 Explore Kelly’s resources: linktr.ee/kellys_koaching

In this week’s episode, Kelly dives into one of her most transformative healing practices: solo travelFrom someone who once thought she could never travel alone, to now calling it the practice that changed her life more than any other- Kelly shares why packing a bag and heading off on your own is about so much more than airports and Airbnbs.You’ll hear:✨ Why solo travel is one of the fastest ways to build confidence & independence after heartbreak✨ The surprising lessons you learn when you spend time with yourself in a new place✨ How being alone abroad differs from being “lonely” at home✨ Why creating new experiences matters so much when you’re rebuilding after a breakupWhether the thought of booking a solo trip excites you or terrifies you, this episode will inspire you to rethink what’s possible when you stop waiting for someone else to join you & choose yourself instead.Links & Resources:📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree

In this raw & honest solo episode, Kelly dives deep into one of the most challenging parts of healing after heartbreak- the loneliness that sets in when the distractions fade.She breaks down why feeling alone after a breakup isn’t just about missing your ex- it’s about missing being known, the daily check-ins & the sense of being chosen. Kelly shares why this loneliness often feels louder for those with anxious attachment styles, how it can trigger old abandonment wounds & why it’s tempting to rush into distractions that only delay real healing.You’ll hear practical, compassionate strategies to move through the quiet moments, create new rituals of connection & reframe what “alone” really means. Whether you’re in the early days of a breakup or months down the line but still feeling that ache, this episode will remind you: loneliness is not proof that you’re unlovable- it’s an invitation to reconnect with yourself.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:Why loneliness after a breakup hits harder than you expectHow to tell the difference between missing them & missing feeling chosenGentle ways to sit with loneliness without spirallingHow to turn this season into a time of self-reconnection & emotional safetyLinks & Resources:📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching🔗 Explore resources & events: Linktree

In this heartfelt episode of the Breakup Debrief,  Kelly sits down with Nadine Selina to explore the intricate journey of navigating a breakup while trying to create a successful business. Nadine shares her transformative experiences, from the challenges of long-distance relationships to the empowering realisation of self-worth and independence. Together, they delve into the importance of building a fulfilling life post-breakup, the role of supportive friendships, and the power of focusing on personal and professional aspirations. Tune in for an inspiring conversation that offers hope and guidance for anyone on the path to healing and self-discovery.🔗 Links & Resources:💬 Follow along on Instagram + TikTok: @kellyskoaching💌 Submit your “Where Is She Now?” story or questions: info@kellyskoaching.com💬 Follow Nadine: @nadineselinacoaching

🎙️ Episode 4- The Fear of Being Behind After a BreakupBreakups don’t just break your heart- they shatter your timeline.In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, I’m talking about one of the biggest fears I see after heartbreak: the fear of being behind. Behind on your plan. Behind your friends. Behind the version of your life you thought you’d be living by now.This isn’t a pep talk about “you’re exactly where you’re meant to be.” This is an honest conversation about fear, comparison & embracing your own timeline- even if it looks nothing like what you imagined.📩 Want to be featured in the “Where Is She Now?” segment? Email your story to info@kellyskoaching.com - I’d love to hear how you rose after the heartbreak.🔗 Come say hi: Instagram & TikTok → @kellyskoaching Healing tools & podcast links → https://linktr.ee/kellys_koaching

🎙️ Episode 3: When You Break Up With Someone You Still LoveIn this episode, I sit down with Breathwork & Nervous System Mentor Aideen Litter to talk about a breakup story that isn’t spoken about enough- the kind where no one cheats, no one lies… but you still know you have to leave.We unpack what it’s like to walk away from a good relationship because something inside you says there’s more. From energetic disconnection to identity loss, grief, loneliness & the pressure to perform “healed,” Aideen shares what really happens behind the scenes when your whole life was so intertwined with your partner & you choose yourself anyway.We talk nervous system regulation, healing through somatics, and the not-so-aesthetic parts of self-growth. This episode is raw, emotional & powerful. You’ll want to listen to every second.💬 What We Talk About:What it’s like to end a long-term relationship without dramaWhy grief hits harder when there’s no anger or betrayalThe surprising moment Aideen knew her ex had moved onHow energy cords can keep us tied to people long after it endsWhy somatic healing is deeper than “self-care Sundays”The loneliness of choosing yourself & how to move through itThe truth about “support systems” (and what to do when they fall away)🔥 Listener Quote:“I had to break up with my safety net- and trust that I could hold myself instead.”📨 Want to be featured on the pod?Have your own “Where Is She Now?” story of rising after heartbreak?Email me at info@kellyskoaching.com to be featured in an upcoming episode.🔗 Let’s Stay Connected:📲 Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching🌐 More support, freebies & links: https://linktr.ee/kellys_koaching