The Bright Morning Podcast with Elena Aguilar

If you want to be a Transformational Coach, you must be able to coach emotions. If you want to coach for equity, you must be able to coach emotions. The first step to coaching emotions is to acknowledge and normalize them. In today’s episode, Elena shares five ways to do so in your coaching conversations. Opportunities for continued learning: Episode 37: How to ACE Your Coaching Conversations  Episode 158: What do we mean by "every conversation is an equity conversation?" Webinar on WednesdayAttend an upcoming Coaching for Equity workshop Read Coaching for Equity Visit https://brightmorningteam.com/podcasts/ for links to everything we mention on the show. Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, InstagramReceive weekly wisdom and tools from Elena delivered to your inbox! Sign up at https://brightmorningteam.com/newsletter/ Support us 

Episode Description  | At Bright Morning, we believe every conversation is an equity conversation (or at least it should be). But what does that mean? In this episode, Elena shares the three things you can do to make this a reality. Mentioned in this episode: Ladder of InferenceThe Art of Coaching Workbook, Exploring Identity Markers & Reflecting on Identity Markers exercises (pp.16-19)Opportunities for continued learning: The Art of Coaching WorkshopCoaching for Equity Workshop The Art of Coaching (book by Elena) Visit https://brightmorningteam.com/podcasts/ for links to everything we mention on the show. Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, InstagramReceive weekly wisdom and tools from Elena delivered to your inbox! Sign up at https://brightmorningteam.com/newsletter/ Support us 

“Can I coach if I’m the boss?” The short answer is yes. But only if you are clear, intentional, and capable. If you are an administrator, a supervisor, or anyone who is responsible for evaluation who also wants to take a coaching stance, this is an episode you don’t want to miss. Mentioned in this episode: The Art of Coaching Workshop The Art of Coaching Teams WorkshopOpportunities for continued learning: The Art of Coaching Teams WorkshopArtful Design and Facilitation Workshop Are You a Manager Looking to Coach? Start Here. (blog post) Evaluation, Feedback and Coaching: What You Need to Know (blog post) Visit https://brightmorningteam.com/podcasts/ for links to everything we mention on the show. Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, InstagramReceive weekly wisdom and tools from Elena delivered to your inbox! Sign up at https://brightmorningteam.com/newsletter/ Support us 

You’re in the middle of a team meeting or a work conversation and someone says something that sets you off. How do you respond? In today’s episode, Elena provides the background information that you need to be able to understand what’s driving your response in those moments, gives you a three-step method to use to respond with intention, and shares an activity you can start using today to increase your self-awareness. If you’re looking to increase your EQ, this episode is for you! Mentioned in this episode: The Myth of Normal, by Gabor MatéThe Body Keeps the Score, Bessel van der KolkThe Art of Coaching Teams (book by Elena) The Art of Coaching Workbook (book by Elena) The Things that Get Under My Skin (exercise from The Art of Coaching Workbook) Opportunities for continued learning: The Art of Coaching Teams Workshop Visit https://brightmorningteam.com/podcasts/ for links to everything we mention on the show. Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, InstagramReceive weekly wisdom and tools from Elena delivered to your inbox! Sign up at https://brightmorningteam.com/newsletter/ Support us 

If you want a team that can engage in healthy conflict, one that experiences high levels of investment and low levels of resistance, you need to focus on emotional intelligence (EQ). The first step to doing so is to grow the awareness of your own emotional landscape.  Today’s episode provides you with the knowledge and tools to get started. Mentioned in this episode: The Art of Coaching Teams(book by Elena) Core emotions (free tool) Opportunities for continued learning: The Art of Coaching Emotions workshopThe Art of Coaching Teams workshopVisit https://brightmorningteam.com/podcasts/ for links to everything we mention on the show. Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, InstagramReceive weekly wisdom and tools from Elena delivered to your inbox! Sign up at https://brightmorningteam.com/newsletter/ Support us 

What do you do when a coaching client doesn’t know what to focus on during your time together? If you want to feel confident in answering that question, this is an episode you won’t want to miss! Elena shares four tips for guiding the conversation when your client has many priorities, maybe even competing priorities that will not only help them figure out where to start, but will also build their decision-making capacity in the long term. If you’re a coach, leader, parent, or anyone who wants to take a coaching stance, this episode is for you! Mentioned in this episode: Sentence stems The Art of Coaching Workshop Opportunities for continued learning: Listening to Your Own Listening The Art of Coaching (book by Elena) The Art of Coaching Workshop Visit https://brightmorningteam.com/podcasts/ for links to everything we mention on the show. Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, InstagramReceive weekly wisdom and tools from Elena delivered to your inbox! Sign up at https://brightmorningteam.com/newsletter/ Support us 

Have you ever faced resistance while facilitating? Us too! In this final episode of our Transformational PD mini-series, Elena is joined by Bright Morning teammate, Maria Dyslin, to discuss and demonstrate how you can navigate resistance as a facilitator before, during, and after your meetings and PD sessions. Mentioned in this episode: The PD Book (Book by Elena)Artful Design and Facilitation (Bright Morning workshop)The Art of Coaching Teams (Bright Morning workshop)Art of Coaching Teams (book by Elena) Mind the Gap (free tool)Resistance mini-series (Bright Morning Podcast)Visit https://brightmorningteam.com/podcasts/ for links to everything we mention on the show. Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, InstagramReceive weekly wisdom and tools from Elena delivered to your inbox! Sign up at https://brightmorningteam.com/newsletter/ Support us 

What do I do when an activity I planned just isn’t working? How do I respond to a question that I don’t know how to respond to? My agenda is too full but everything is essential! What do I cut?The answer to these questions and many more are answered in this second episode of our 3-part Transformational PD mini-series. Elena shares 6 Transformational Tips that she’ll pulling on in her practice these days that we bet you haven’t heard before.  Mentioned in this episode: The PD Book (Book by Elena)Artful Design and Facilitation (Bright Morning workshop)Awe: The New Science of Everyday Wonder and How It Can Transform Your Life, Dascher KeltnerVisit https://brightmorningteam.com/podcasts/ for links to everything we mention on the show. Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, InstagramReceive weekly wisdom and tools from Elena delivered to your inbox! Sign up at https://brightmorningteam.com/newsletter/ Support us

What is “transformational PD?” How do we make PD joyful?What are important considerations for one-time vs. ongoing PD?How do we center equity in all of our PD sessions? What is Elena’s favorite tool from The PD Book? Today Elena is joined by Bright Morning teammate, Becky Barstein, to explore these questions and many more in Part 1 of our three-part Transformational PD mini-series. If you design or facilitate adult learning, this is an episode you won’t want to miss!  Mentioned in this episode: The PD BookArtful Design and Facilitation (Bright Morning workshop)The Art of Coaching (Bright Morning workshop)Mind the Gap (free tool)BIPOC Spaces Opportunities for continued learning: Artful Design and Facilitation (Bright Morning workshop)Visit https://brightmorningteam.com/podcasts/ for links to everything we mention on the show. Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, InstagramReceive weekly wisdom and tools from Elena delivered to your inbox! Sign up at https://brightmorningteam.com/newsletter/ Support us 

It’s been two months and the teacher you’re coaching still hasn’t implemented the strategies they agreed to. What do you do? In today’s episode, Elena demonstrates her approach to coaching this type of “resistance” and then pulls back the curtain to explain her coaching moves.  Mentioned in this episode: Episode 68: Coaching Tool: Taking a Confrontational Stance Opportunities for continued learning: “The Art of Coaching” Workshop“The Art of Coaching Emotions” WorkshopVisit https://brightmorningteam.com/podcasts/ for links to everything we mention on the show. Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Instagram Receive weekly wisdom and tools from Elena delivered to your inbox! Sign up at https://brightmorningteam.com/newsletter/  Support us 

Did you know a childhood photo or a lunch date can help you coach resistance? On today’s episode, Elena and Bright Morning teammate, Nick Cains, discuss what they do to prepare themselves to coach resistant clients, and how they tend to themselves as coaches of color who often coach across lines of racial difference. Listen in for concrete strategies and several stories that help bring them to life. Mentioned on the podcast: Core human needs (Bright Morning handout) Opportunities for continued learning: “The Art of Coaching” Workshop“The Art of Coaching Emotions” WorkshopVisit https://brightmorningteam.com/podcasts/ for links to everything we mention on the show.  Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, InstagramReceive weekly wisdom and tools from Elena delivered to your inbox! Sign up at https://brightmorningteam.com/newsletter/  Support us 

Elena hasn’t experienced resistance in her coaching conversations in over a decade. In this episode, she shares her five step process to eliminate resistance in your coaching conversations (...and really, in any conversation). This is the first in a three-part Coaching Resistance mini-series you won’t want to miss! Mentioned in this episode: What to Say When podcast series and free listening guide Episode 146: How to ACE Your Coaching Conversations “The Art of Coaching Emotions” workshop Opportunities for continued learning: Listen to Elena’s What to Say When You Hear Something Racist podcast series and expand your learning with our free listening guide Attend “The Art of Coaching Emotions” workshop Listen to Episode 87: Coaching Strong Emotions Visit https://brightmorningteam.com/podcasts/ for links to everything we mention on the show. Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, InstagramReceive weekly wisdom and tools from Elena delivered to your inbox! Sign up at https://brightmorningteam.com/newsletter/ Support us 

Resolutions don’t work for the overwhelming number of people, but we know what does! In this episode, Elena shares the simple, research-based, strategy she’s using to support her in making 2023 one of the best years yet. Listen in, grab your free resource, and take the first step in making 2023 a great year.  Mentioned in this episode: Core Human Needs downloadable resource Art of Coaching WorkbookEpisode 105: Morning RitualsBright Morning InstagramBecome a Friend of the PodcastVisit https://brightmorningteam.com/podcasts/ for links to everything we mention on the show. Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Instagram Receive weekly wisdom and tools from Elena delivered to your inbox! Sign up at https://brightmorningteam.com/newsletter/  Support us 

We’re hard at work preparing amazing episodes for you in 2023, starting with a series on resistance in early January (get excited!). So today we’re coming to you with an ask to help make all that’s to come possible. Help make the podcast happen: Become a sustaining member! Visit https://brightmorningteam.com/podcasts/ for links to everything we mention on the show. Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, InstagramReceive weekly wisdom and tools from Elena delivered to your inbox! Sign up at https://subscriber.brightmorningteam.com/resources Support us 

In today’s episode replay, Elena once again becomes the coach in your ear, providing some guidance for how you can think about winter break to ensure it serves you and your needs. Visit https://brightmorningteam.com/podcasts/ for links to everything we mention on the show. Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Instagram Receive weekly wisdom and tools from Elena delivered to your inbox! Sign up at https://subscriber.brightmorningteam.com/resources Support us 

How can we bring some creativity and levity to our coaching conversations? What about helping our clients access their needs? Or connecting them to their power?   In this replay of our First 5 Minutes series, Elena will walk you through how to do just that with one question that opens up your next coaching conversation. In addition to providing you with a new question each week, Elena also walks through how to introduce this new type of question, models what that might look like, pulls back the curtain on why this question works and shares some wisdom on how to artfully put this into action. This episode is for you if: Your conversations are feeling a little flat Your coachee is more compliant than actively engaged  You’d like to learn a new way to open your coaching conversations You like concrete coaching tools!  Opportunities for continued learning: The Art of Coaching (Book)The Art of Coaching 101 (Workshop)The Art of Coaching Emotions (Online course) Visit https://brightmorningteam.com/podcasts/ for links to everything we mention on the show.  Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Instagram Receive weekly wisdom and tools from Elena delivered to your inbox! Sign up at https://subscriber.brightmorningteam.com/resources  Support us 

Today we’re replaying an episode from our First 5 Minutes series. These short episodes provided you with all you need to know to incorporate one resilience-boosting question in your conversations. Listen in and consider adding these to both your work and home conversations. This episode is for you if: Your coachees are drained and/or overwhelmed and working from limited resilience reserves You’d like to learn a new way to open your coaching conversations You like concrete coaching tools! Opportunities for continued learning: The Art of Coaching (Book)The Art of Coaching 101 (Workshop)The Art of Coaching Emotions (Online course) 12 Ways to Boost Resilience in New Teachers (Blog post) Visit https://brightmorningteam.com/podcasts/ for links to everything we mention on the show. Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, InstagramReceive weekly wisdom and tools from Elena delivered to your inbox! Sign up at https://subscriber.brightmorningteam.com/resources  Support us 

Dr. Dena Simmons, the founder of LiberatED, a collective focused on developing school-based resources at the intersection of social and emotional learning, racial justice, and healing joins Elena in an uplifting conversation about healing, authenticity, imposter syndrome, hope and play. This is an episode for BIPOC educators who have been made to feel like they don’t belong.  Mentioned in this episode: The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture, Gabor MatéDena’s TED Talks The Ways of White Folks, Langston HughesAtlantaAbbot Elementary Dena’s forthcoming book, White Rules for Black People Visit https://brightmorningteam.com/podcasts/ for links to everything we mention on the show. Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Instagram Receive weekly wisdom and tools from Elena delivered to your inbox! Sign up at https://brightmorningteam.com/newsletter/  Support us 

The winter holidays can include many things: time with family, a break from work…and maybe some casual racism over dinner. In today’s episode, Elena provides a quick overview of her What to Say When You Hear Something Racist framework. This is the content you need for the most essential holiday prep: preparing to disrupt racism. Mentioned in this episode: All My Relations (podcast) Opportunities for continued learning: What to Say When You Hear Something Racist (Podcast series + companion guide)Coaching for Equity (book by Elena Aguilar) Coaching for Equity (Bright Morning workshop) Visit https://brightmorningteam.com/podcasts/ for links to everything we mention on the show. Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, InstagramReceive weekly wisdom and tools from Elena delivered to your inbox! Sign up at https://brightmorningteam.com/newsletter/ Support us 

“Why don't you disrupt racist behavior more immediately? Our kids needed change yesterday…”  We get asked a version of this question frequently, so today Bright Morning teammate, Nick Cains, joins Elena to explore how we center transformation (and our own humanity) when disrupting racism in our coaching conversations.  Mentioned in this episode: What to Say When You Hear Something Racist (Podcast series + companion guide)Coaching for Equity (book by Elena Aguilar) Coaching for Equity (Bright Morning workshop)  Visit https://brightmorningteam.com/podcasts/ for links to everything we mention on the show.  Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Instagram Receive weekly wisdom and tools from Elena delivered to your inbox! Sign up at https://brightmorningteam.com/newsletter/  Support us