The CAPE Podcast

CONTENT WARNING - language warning, discussions about domestic violence and trauma In this episode, Kristi speaks with Kate Fylan who has over 20 years experience with a Diploma in Social Worker, a qualified Counsellor and Play Therapist, primarily working within in the domestic violence, childhood sexual abuse and harmful sexualised behaviours spaces and portfolios. Kate offers an interesting viewpoint around gendered based parenting, coercive control, domestic violence, how to have conversations with your kids around these topics and repair your relationships with your children when we make mistakes.  This is a great conversation for parents of children of any age about the importance of being real with them and how to have conversations with your kids around important social topics.  You can follow or connect with Kate via LinkedIn at www.linkedin.com/in/kate-fylan-41829aa2 or www.katefylan.com.au   If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor.  Lifeline - 131114 Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636 Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com. 

CONTENT WARNING - Talk of child sexual abuse, intra-familial abuse, control and manipulationIn this episode, Kristi speaks with Deb Aldrick, Author, Survivor Advocate and Lived Experience Speaker about intra-familial abuse or child sexual abuse within the family group.  Deb wrote the book, 'Circling the Wagons' about the different ways in which families hide and protect abusers with control and manipulation and how it effects survivors.  This episode breaks down the effect and impacts of child sexual abuse and why the lack of protection and belief within our families often creates greater trauma than the abuse itself.  Deb's book - Circling the Wagons by Deborah Aldrick is available via Amazon and  Barnes & Noble or via Deb's website: www.dragonflyadvocacy.com.au or via LinkedIn - linkedin.com/in/deborah-aldrick-188b4530b  If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor.  Lifeline - 131114 Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636 Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com. 

Content Warning - talk around child sexual abuse  In this episode, Kristi talks about child sexual abuse and child safety with survivor, child safety advocate and parent, John Cardamone.  John shares his own survivor story of child sexual abuse at 6 years old where his perpetrator threatened him and his family to keep it a secret. John's story highlights the importance of body safety education, believing kids and being an approachable parent.  This podcast episode underlines the 3 important steps of protecting kids and how EVERY parent can keep their kids safe.  Connect and learn more about John via his LinkedIn here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-cardamone-86632738/  If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor.  Lifeline - 131114 Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636 Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com. 

Content Warning - discussions about domestic and family violence, suicide and self-harm In this episode, Kristi talks with Shannon Miller, a disability and family violence practice leader from the Centre Against Violence, gender-based violence advocate and father about the lack of visibility for children and young people in the conversations around domestic and family violence and gendered based violence.  During this episode, Kristi and Shannon discuss the lack of consideration of the impacts of family violence on children and young people, the lack of support of children as their own victim in family violence as well as how to talk to our kids about these topics and issues.  This is a great conversation for ALL families whether family violence has impacted you or NOT.  For more information about Shannon, check out his LinkedIn here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shannon-miller1984/  Check out the Centre Against Violence here: https://centreagainstviolence.org.au    If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor.  Lifeline - 131114 Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636 Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com. 

In this episode, Kristi speaks with veteran Protective Behaviours educator Holly-ann Martin about teaching body safety education to children living with a disability or where english isn't their first language.  Holly-ann shares a wealth of knowledge on how to simplify the body safety messages to ensure our most vulnerable children understand their body safety rights and education.  This is a fantastic podcast episode in which even Kristi learnt some valuable and life saving lessons. Be sure to share this episode with your friends and family so that we can all ensure our children, especially those children living with a disability are protected from abuse.  For more information or to find Holly-ann's resources, go to her website at www.safe4kids.com.au    If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor.  Lifeline - 131114 Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636 Sexual Violence Services in WA -  Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com.   

CONTENT WARNING - Talk about sexual abuse, child sexual abuse and the death of a perpetrator. In this episode, Kristi talks with author, youth activist, sexual abuse survivor, sexual assault group facilitator and coach, Renee Simpson.  Renee is the author of the book 'I want to go home' - a book which explores and shares about her trip across the world on a sailing boat, where she sailed through storms, nearly starved from a lack of food and her journey recovering from child sexual abuse and rape. Renee now facilitates sexual assault support groups through The Survivor Hub and trauma informed coaching for sexual abuse survivors where she encourages survivors to write their own stories and heal their own lives via her 'Shake the Walls' writing course.  This is a very interesting conversation about recovering from sexual abuse, exploring trauma and the ways we process trauma and recovery.  You can find Renee via her social media @reneemariesimpson or her website here: https://www.reneemariesimpson.com  If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor.  Lifeline - 131114 Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636 Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com.   

In this episode, Kristi talks about sleepovers and school camps from her experience as a detective and police officer, as well as a parent.  There is a lot of pressure on parents from many sources about sleepovers, so it is important that we take the time to consider all risk factors of where your child may be sleeping overnight.  Kristi breaks down her latest blogs and goes through some of the risk factors, sharing stories that have made her reconsider her stance on both school camps and sleepovers.  Check out both blogs via www.cape-au.com/blog  If you want help in talking about body safety with your kids, grab a copy of the Conversation with Kids 'Body Safety' cards via www.cape-au.com/conversations-with-kids Want to deep dive into child sexual abuse prevention, grab a copy of Kristi's book, Operation KidSafe - a detective's guide to child abuse prevention from Amazon via www.cape-au.com/book   

In this episode, Kristi speaks with We are Womxn co-founder, post-graduate Sexology student and 2024 Young Australian of the Year nominee, Kate Raston.  Kate talks about her experiences as a consent and healthy relationships educator, working with young people in schools where she helps facilitates safe and open conversations around sex and consent. This conversation is a ripper for parents of school aged kids in which Kate shares many tools for parents about talking with kids of any ages about consent, healthy relationships and sexual education.  Follow We are Womxn via social media especially Instagram or check out their website at www.wearewomxn.com.au.  Other resources mentioned is the 'Talk soon, Talk often' book by WA Department of Health. Get your FREE PDF here: https://www.healthywa.wa.gov.au/articles/s_t/talk-soon-talk-often   

Content Warning -  Child Sexual Abuse, Substance Abuse, Suicide and Self-Harm - If any part of this episode causes distress, please see the resources below for support services and help.  In this episode, Kristi talks with child sexual abuse survivor and advocate Glen Fisher, author of the book Predators Paradise.  Glen shares his story of resilience through a childhood of child sexual abuse and neglect from so many predators, which left Glen to a road of self harm, violence and substance abuse. Glen's turning point was when his own children were born. It was in becoming a parent himself that he realised he needed to heal and make changes so he could be the best father to his kids.  Glen shares his journey from broken little boy to fierce fighter, advocate and father and the steps he has taken to reclaim his life, recover from addiction and bring some of his abusers to justice.  This episode is for all the survivors out there, especially men struggling with demons that haunt them, needing to know that 'YOU ARE NOT ALONE'.  Please check out Glen's Tiktok at: www.tiktok.com/tiger664life66 Glen's FB group Predators Paradise here:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/498114067677692/?ref=share&mibextid=K35XfP&rdid=rGKVHZOKQ5ZpMLz3&share_url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Fshare%2F6KGFHDBqDatS4bmA%2F%3Fmibextid%3DK35XfP%26wtsid%3Drdr_040VmOAWpiUByCJSR%26_rdr Glen's book can be purchased via Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com.au/Predators-Paradise-Journey-Survival-Resilience-ebook/dp/B07S45XYNT  If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor.  Lifeline - 131114 Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636 Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com. 

Episode 7 - Is it safe to share photos of your kids online? In this episode, Kristi answers a parents question and does a deep dive into her knowledge, thoughts and experience around the topic of sharing photos of our kids on our social media and online.  Kristi goes through 3 considerations for deciding whether to post that photo of your kids or not and 7 tips on posting photos of your kids safely based on her recent blog post.  If you have a question you want answered, you can always email Kristi via admin@cape-au.com or check out the FREE resources on the website at www.cape-au.com.   

CONTENT WARNING - This episode talks about sextortion, cyberbullying and suicide.  In this episode, Kristi speaks with Carol Todd, founder of the Amanda Todd Legacy not-for-profit organisation based in British Columbia, Canada.  Amanda was 15 years old when she took her own life by suicide due to being sexually exploited and cyber-bullied online which led to physical abuse and alienation by her peers. 5 weeks before her death, Amanda shared her story on YouTube. Since 2012, the video has been viewed over 50 million times and is used in educating children on the dangers of sextortion and cyberbullying.  You can learn more about the Amanda Todd Legacy or watch Amanda's last video via the  www.amandatoddlegacy.org.  For more information on Sextortion and how to help your child check out the Australian Centre to Counter Child Exploitation (ACCCE) at https://www.accce.gov.au/sextortionhelp  If you want any further resources on helping you keep your kids safe online, check out my FREE resources on www.cape-au.com.  If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor.  Lifeline - 131114 Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636 Sexual Violence Services in WA -  Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732

CONTENT WARNING - This episode talks about child sexual abuse, mental health and suicide. Please listen with caution. In this episode, Kristi talks with former prison guard, domestic violence and child sexual abuse survivor Mel Watson.  Mel talks about surviving childhood domestic violence, incidents of child sexual abuse by multiple perpetrators, conquering depression and suicidal ideation as an 18 year old and her experience working in the NSW prison system dealing with child sex offenders and inmates.  Mel opens up about how dangerous grooming is by both predators and prisoners, the court systems and all the things she wished her parents had done when she was a child.  Follow Mel via Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/melwatsonofficial/  Kristi's book, Operation KidSafe - a detective's guide to child abuse prevention can help parents identify the signs of grooming and child sexual abuse as well as teaching prevention strategies and lessons. Check out the website to purchase. If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor.  Lifeline - 131114 Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636 Sexual Violence Services in WA -  Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com. 

In this episode, Kristi speaks with mum Remi Fletcher about exposing her 4yo son's childcare abuser after he sexually abused him at daycare.  Remi shares how protective behaviours led to her son disclosing the abuse, the actions she took after her son's disclosure and how she captured his evidence which eventually led to his abusers conviction and imprisonment.  This is a really good podcast for parents of young children wanting to know how we can protect kids from abuse and minimise harm.  For resources mentioned in the podcast, check out Safe4Kids via www.safe4kids.com.au or my book Operation KidSafe via www.cape-au.com/book.  To support the petition Remi mentioned during the podcast, please go to https://www.change.org/DoBetterAustralia2024 before the end of May 2024. Every signature counts.  Please also consider leaving a review or sharing this podcast with your friends and family to help create further awareness.  K x     

In this episode, Kristi talks with online safety educator and founder of 'Not My Kid', Jen Hoey. Jen shares the story of her 11yo daughter being groomed online by a predator despite her hypervigilence and the impact that experience had on her daughter and family.  Jen turned her families tragedy into helping and supporting other families through her online facebook group and extremely helpful content online.  Check out Jen's website at www.notmykid.com.au or via her social media on Facebook @notmykid and Instagram at @notmykid_ever.  If you are also looking for help with managing your child's online usage, check out our website at www.cape-au.com where we have FREE guides, a device controls webinar or a jam packed self-paced online course so you can know EVERYTHING Kristi knows. Please also don't forget to subscribe and leave a review if you love this episode!

In this episode, Kristi speaks with Alison D'Vine, founder and CEO of SagencyWA, a men's behaviour change and family therapy clinic in Perth WA.  Alison and Kristi discuss the challenges that couples face when dealing with domestic violence and explore the many reasons for domestic violence including unpacking the 'man box' and societal ideas and pressures on men and families that contribute to the domestic violence cycle.  For more information about the Sagency's 22 week program, please check out their website at www.sagencywa.com.au  If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor.  Lifeline - 131114 Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636 Sexual Violence Services in WA -  Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com.   

Welcome back to Season 2 of The CAPE podcast - a child abuse prevention and education podcast.  CONTENT WARNING - This episode talks about Gloria's experience as a survivor of child sex trafficking and abuse. Listener discretion is advised.  In this episode, Kristi speaks with Gloria Masters, founder and CEO of Handing The Shame Back, a podcast and Youtube channel with resources, survivor interviews and information for Child Sexual Abuse survivors.  Gloria shares her personal story of surviving child sex trafficking as a child transforming it into her personal mission of raising awareness and helping survivors heal from their abuse.  Check out Handing the Shame Back's website at www.handingtheshameback.org or via their social media on Instagram and Youtube with the same name. If any part of the show causes distress, please seek support and help from either the following services or from your own family doctor/psychologist or counsellor.  Lifeline - 131114 Beyond Blue - 1300 224 636 Sexual Violence Services in WA -  Service Assisting Male Survivors of Sexual Assault (SAMSSA) - (02) 6287 3935 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 For more information or resources please visit the CAPE-AU website at www.cape-au.com.     

Episode 21 The impacts of pornography on our children In this episode, Kristi speaks with ex-WA Police Officer of over 20 years, Kayelene Kerr where she talks about the impacts of pornography on our children and what we as parents should be talking about with our kids.  This is a MUST listen podcast for parents of girls and boys with young children and teens especially those parents with children from 8 onwards.  Kayelene and Kristi leave the podcast with ways to talk with your kids about pornography from little people all the way up to teens and how to help our kids identify why pornography is not a safe 'sexual education' tool.  Check out Kayelene's website at www.esafekids.com.au or via esafekids on Instagram and Facebook.   

Episode 20 Navigating social media as parents with Maddie Graham In this episode Kristi speaks with Maddie Graham, co-founder of Changing the Conversation where they talk about Maddie's unique experiences with social media, stalkers, oversharing information and the effects of social media on young people.  Maddie is a third-year psychology student at the University of Wollongong and also runs Changing the Conversation. Her heart is deeply invested in community development, encompassing school workshops, community engagement, and teaching social and emotional skills. Her mission is to create spaces where authentic conversations flourish, utilising her expertise in human behaviour and social dynamics to make positive impact.  Maddie and Kristi dive into the risks with 'sharenting' and the need for more social media education and awareness.  Check out Changing the Conversation via instagram www.instagram.com/changingtheconversationn/    

Episode 19 Divorce and separation support with Becca Maxwell  In this episode, Kristi speaks with Becca Maxwell from Do Divorce Right about the struggles and challenges of separation and divorce when dealing with children and keeping them safe.  Becca is a divorce coach who coaches women through navigating the choice to separate or in the process of separation and divorce and the conversations and choices that are necessary through the process.  Kristi & Becca discuss the many aspects of separation from what to consider and managing children in two homes.  Becca can be found at www.dodivorceright.com or via her Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/dodivorceright.  For further details about Kristi and her work go to www.cape-au.com   

Episode 18 Cyberbullying solutions and prevention with Maggie Ciobanu from YooChooz In this episode, Kristi speaks with mother Maggie Ciobanu who turned her own daughters cyberbullying into an app to help prevent kids from sending abusive message and make better choices before they engage in cyberbullying.  Maggie explains her own daughters and families experiences that led her to try and help other kids from becoming a statistic and victim of abuse online through the app YooChooz.  Check out the Yoochooz app via the Apple store or via their website www.yoochooz.com.au  You can also follow Maggie and YooChooz via instagram at www.instagram.com/yoochooz/  For any further enquiries about this podcast episode, contact via our website at www.cape-au.com.  Also check out our Device Safety 101 self-paced online course for more in-depth advice and help around keeping kids safe at www.cape-au.com/device-safety-101/