The Catholic Gentleman

Most men want to succeed in life, but could never explain how it’s truly done. We chase goals, work harder, and push ourselves, yet still feel like something is missing. The world promises success, comfort, and freedom, but delivers noise, confusion, emptiness, and disappointment. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt reveal 7 Rules Only the Best Men Know, a framework that works 100% of the time. These rules cut through the noise and give men the clarity and strength they’ve been missing. With Scripture, Catholic wisdom, and lived experience, they challenge men to stop drifting, stop doubting, and start living with purpose. COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 👉 Devin Schadt’s book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule FREE ROSARY the Month of October 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 31 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://catholicgentlemanplus.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most husbands love their wives and are trying to do their best, yet many still make hidden mistakes that quietly convince her she isn’t loved. These aren’t failures of bad men, but blind spots of good men who don’t realize how their actions (or inactions) land. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt expose the unseen ways husbands lose their wives’ hearts and reveal a path toward lasting love and trust. With Scripture, Catholic wisdom, and real experience, they challenge men to grow into the husbands they are called to be. If you’ve ever wondered why your wife doesn’t always feel cherished, even when you’re trying, this conversation is for you. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 30 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: ⁠https://catholicgentlemanplus.com⁠ 👉 Devin Schadt’s new book on THE RULE: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is it lust or love? Many men are looking for a cure for lust and often think that marriage will cure it, only to discover the struggle follows them into married life. The truth is, marriage doesn’t magically cure lust. If you battled it before, you’ll still battle it after. Marriage doesn’t change the interior dispositions and temptations of man. Love does. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen and Devin Schadt expose one of the most misunderstood realities in marriage: the difference between lust and love. Wives know the difference, and they can feel when they are cherished and when they are being used. And if men don’t learn this distinction, it erodes trust, poisons communication, and slowly kills intimacy. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 30 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 👉 Devin Schadt’s new book on The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Exorcisms have been around for millennia within the Church. No one outside the Catholic Church has the authority to cast out demons. In this episode, John Heinen sits down with Charles Fraune to talk about the spiritual war most men never see, and the unexpected allies exorcists call on to help them win it. These aren’t tricks or hacks within their toolkit. These are real accounts from modern-day spiritual battles, where demons rage at the names of certain saints and physical relics cause real torment. Charles shares what he’s learned from working with exorcists, what the Church teaches about the saints’ ongoing mission, and why every man needs to claim spiritual warriors to fight for him and with him. You don’t need to be possessed to need a saint. You just need to be in the battle, and we all are. Get the book: The Most Powerful Saints in ExorcismsUse code Gentleman20 for 20% off at checkout. 🟢 Support The Catholic Gentleman and join 100s of men united in changing themselves and changing the world. Whatever your struggle, whatever your need, there is something for you: ⁠https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Men underestimate the war being waged against them. The Devil doesn’t just tempt from a distance; he enters your home, seeking to pull you off your vocation as a husband and father, drown out the voice of God, and divide your marriage. Scripture, the saints, and even modern exorcists confirm it: this is how the enemy works. Yet the vast majority of men are unarmed and frankly unaware. Only 5–10% of Catholic men are even praying daily. Is it any wonder the family is crumbling? In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt break open The Rule to expose three subtle but devastating ways demons attack men. We’ll name what’s really happening, why it matters for husbands and fathers, and how you can resist. Get Devin’s new book The Rule: Coupon Code for 20% off: Gentleman20 https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ 🟢 Support The Catholic Gentleman and join 100s of men united in changing themselves and changing the world. Whatever your struggle, whatever your need, there is something for you: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

He was a successful trial lawyer, fighting every day in the courtroom and climbing the ladder of prestige, until God spoke two simple words to him: “Just leave.” God also spoke to his wife as well! In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen sits down with Mike Pacer to uncover the No. 1 lesson every husband needs to hear. From leaving behind worldly success, to praying daily for his wife, to finding strength in weakness, Mike shares the raw story of how a man becomes more than a provider. His lived experience is a lesson for us all. And it will change the way you listen to God, the way you love your wife, and the way you lead your family. Find Out More from Mike Pacer Books by Mike Pacer Prayers for Catholic Men Mercy and Hope⁠ The Three Comings of Christ - Daily Meditations for Advent 5 Stones weare5stones.com Get Devin’s new book The Rule — use coupon code Gentleman20 for 20% off - https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ 🟢 Support The Catholic Gentleman and join 100s of men united in changing themselves and changing the world. Whatever your struggle, whatever your need, there is something for you: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When words don’t work, agreements seem impossible, and distance grows, there are practices every man can begin today, hidden ways that rebuild trust, create clarity, and change the way you lead in every relationship. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John and Devin reveal four hidden ways to win your wife’s heart every time. These principles apply to friendships, family, and work, but they work best where it matters most: in your marriage. They’re not gimmicks or tricks, but the kind of invisible leadership Christ Himself modeled. They never teach this… but it works. 📖 Get Devin’s new book The Rule — use coupon code Gentleman20 for 20% off - https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ 🟢 Support The Catholic Gentleman and join 100s of men united in changing themselves and changing the world. Whatever your struggle, whatever your need, there is something for you: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Many husbands confuse authority with control, and it’s slowly killing trust in their marriages. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt unpack why your wife resists your leadership, how control is a counterfeit of true authority, and why authority, rightly lived, is a God-given responsibility that blesses and gives life. You’ll hear practical examples of the appropriate use of authority versus control over your spouse in spiritual life, finances, and parenting, along with the deeper fears that drive men to dominate or withdraw. Most importantly, you’ll learn how to lead with sacrificial love, preserve your wife’s dignity and free will, and rebuild trust even when your leadership has been rejected. QUESTION FOR US: We love to answer your questions on the show so send them our way to ⁠⁠podcast@catholicgentleman.com⁠⁠ 🔴 Join Catholic Gentleman+ – 30 SESSIONS AVAILABLE Enjoy 30 unique sessions for men, access exclusive weekly content, ebooks, guest series, and our live Q and A at Catholic Gentleman Plus: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, John and Sam are excited to announce a new host to our show, Devin Schadt. He will be joining us weekly to answer the tough questions that men face and add to the depth of knowledge and discussion. This week we talk about warning signs that your wife is not feeling loved. We open up about what we have each learned about truly loving our wives and the many ways that we have failed. We then go into the importance of this topic and how by understanding the nature of women, we can be the husbands they need and the husband God is calling us to be.  Finally, each week we are going to answer one of your questions during the podcast. This week we have a question from a father about how to be present to his kids after a long and exhausting day at work. If you have any questions, please, record yourself on your phone and send us the audio clip to ⁠podcast@catholicgentleman.com⁠. Or just send us your question and we will read it on air.  Warning Signs - https://catholicgentleman.com/2023/01/your-wife-doesnt-feel-loved-8-warning-signs Watch all 1h 40mins of episode 130 on Catholic Gentleman Plus: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 🔴 FREE HANDMADE ROSARY THIS MONTH ONLY (This in addition to the book, leather keychain, and incredible content) Catholic Gentleman+ - https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 🔴 🔴 Help Support the Catholic Gentleman - https://catholicgentleman.com/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Many men think staying in the marriage is enough. They don't cheat, they provide, they avoid conflict, but is this all there is to marriage? In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt expose the silent drift that leads so many marriages to die long before anyone leaves. They unpack what 73% of divorcing couples identify as the root issue, and redefine it in light of Scripture, covenant commitment, and the honest purpose of marriage. The conversation dives deep into what it truly means to lead, to suffer with, and to sanctify through your vocation as a husband. If your marriage feels stunted, strained, or disconnected, let's discuss how marriage can be your ultimate glory. Join Catholic Gentleman+ for exclusive access to 29 sessions on marriage, fatherhood, prayer, and spiritual warfare:https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do you do when every conversation with your wife seems to go sideways, even when you're trying to do the right thing? John Heinen and Devin Schadt sit down to expose the hidden habits that slowly destroy communication within marriages. With spiritual clarity and lived experience, they unpack how small patterns, like avoidance, assumptions, or rushed “fixes/hacks", can consistently unravel trust between husband and wife. Instead of playing defense, this episode shows men 5 ways to take responsibility for the tone, clarity, and direction of the most important conversations in their home. We discuss how resentment breeds in the silent darkness of unmet needs. Because a Catholic husband doesn’t just talk, he leads. And that starts with the next conversation. QUESTION FOR US: We love to answer your questions on the show so send them our way to ⁠⁠podcast@catholicgentleman.com⁠⁠ 🔴 CATHOLIC GENTLEMAN PLUS – 29 SESSIONS AVAILABLE Enjoy 29 unique sessions for men, access exclusive weekly content, ebooks, guest series, and our live Q and A at Catholic Gentleman Plus: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the biggest threat to your family isn’t outside your home? John Heinen sits down with Andrew Laubacher, musician, speaker, and Executive Director of Humanality, to expose how your smartphone has been reshaping your attention, your memory, and your children’s brains. With billions of dollars behind it, Big Tech wasn’t designed to serve you and your family. It was built to capture your time, shape your habits, and replace real relationships with curated digital ones. In addition to helping you protect your family from these devices, we also discuss how to protect them from your own temptations (distraction, pornography, passivity, and escape). Instead of giving in, Andrew offers a path to reclaim attention, rebuild you and your home’s culture, and start living again. From flip phones and dopamine detoxes to tech-free dinners and digital plans of life, this episode challenges every man to lead his family out of this trap and into reality. Explore Andrew’s mission – https://www.humanality.org QUESTION FOR US: We love to answer your questions on the show so send them our way to ⁠⁠podcast@catholicgentleman.com⁠⁠ 🔴 Join us inside of Catholic Gentleman Plus – 29 SESSIONS AVAILABLE Enjoy 29 unique sessions for men, access exclusive weekly content, ebooks, guest series, and our live Q and A at Catholic Gentleman Plus: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why are 85% of Catholic children walking away from the Faith, even after years of weekly Mass, sacraments, and for many, Catholic school and youth group? John Heinen sits down with Devin Schadt to expose what parents today have been missing and why the solution is found inside the home. With wisdom drawn from recent studies, Church teaching, and personal experience, they reveal the one secret that thriving Catholic families have that others miss entirely. These families do not have children leaving the Faith when they go off to college, and actually, the reverse is happening. Instead of just doing more religious practices, this episode invites men to build something deeper: a Catholic family culture rooted in warmth, tenderness, and order. Devin and John break down how your family’s core values, a family personality, and devotional life can become the shield that protects your children from spiritual collapse. And they share practical steps, beginning with one conversation with your wife that needs to happen immediately. QUESTION FOR US: We love to answer your questions on the show so send them our way to ⁠⁠podcast@catholicgentleman.com⁠⁠ 🔴 Join us inside of Catholic Gentleman Plus – 29 SESSIONS AVAILABLE Enjoy 29 unique sessions for men, access exclusive weekly content, ebooks, guest series, and our live Q and A at Catholic Gentleman Plus: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when your wife begins to pull away, and you can't figure out why? What's more is that everything you do to help fix the situation seems to fall short. John Heinen and Devin Schadt discuss the hidden physical, spiritual, and emotional forces that quietly fracture Catholic marriages. Drawing on Scripture, theology, and hard-won experience, they reveal how isolation, resentment, and the demons can slowly unravel trust and intimacy. Instead of ignoring the drift, they unpack five subtle dynamics that sabotage unity and show how to reclaim authentic headship rooted in sacrifice, courage, and clarity. If you’ve felt the distance and wondered how to bridge it, this conversation will equip you to lead with confidence and rediscover the peace, trust, and communion God intends for your marriage. QUESTION FOR US: We love to answer your questions on the show so send them our way to ⁠⁠podcast@catholicgentleman.com⁠⁠ 🔴 CATHOLIC GENTLEMAN PLUS – 27 SESSIONS AVAILABLE Enjoy 27 unique sessions for men, access exclusive weekly content, ebooks, guest series, and our live Q and A at Catholic Gentleman Plus: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the most important spiritual formation in your child’s life isn’t happening at church—but at your dinner table? Today, John Heinen and Devin Schadt discuss how family dinner has quietly lost its soul—and how fathers must bring it back, not just as a routine, but as a call and obligation. The culture has shaped the dinner table into what we commonly see today on TV. It is failing at its core mission to be a cornerstone of a thriving family. This isn’t about Pinterest-perfect meals or polite conversation. It’s about forming identity, memory, and virtue in the chaos of real life. John and Devin share how their own families bring structure and meaning to mealtime—from the nightly “Good Thing, Difficult Thing, Random Thing” ritual to coaching kids through cleanup as a form of love and responsibility. Books for the Journey: LEAD – ⁠⁠https://shop.stewardshipmission.com/products/lead-daily-devontions-for-every-man QUESTION FOR US: We love to answer your questions on the show so send them our way to ⁠⁠podcast@catholicgentleman.com⁠⁠ 🔴 CATHOLIC GENTLEMAN PLUS – 27 SESSIONS AVAILABLE Enjoy 27 unique sessions for men, access exclusive weekly content, ebooks, guest series, and our live Q and A at Catholic Gentleman Plus: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when the child you love won’t speak to you anymore? When the hurt runs deep—and it’s your fault? John Heinen and Devin Schadt go deep into one of the hardest realities a Catholic father can face: seeking forgiveness from a child who’s been wounded by your failure. Drawing from personal experience, they walk through the steps of Recognize, Repair, and Rebuild—offering practical and spiritual insight for men who want to restore trust without forcing the outcome. This truth works for children from 18 months to adulthood. This isn’t a quick fix. It’s a call to live with humility, pursue the heart of your child, and become the kind of father they can one day forgive—even if they never say the words. Books for the Journey: LEAD – ⁠⁠https://shop.stewardshipmission.com/products/lead-daily-devontions-for-every-man QUESTION FOR US: We love to answer your questions on the show so send them our way to ⁠⁠podcast@catholicgentleman.com⁠⁠ 🔴 CATHOLIC GENTLEMAN PLUS – 27 SESSIONS AVAILABLEEnjoy 27 unique sessions for men, access exclusive weekly content, ebooks, guest series, and our live Q and A at Catholic Gentleman Plus: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when your money helps build the very culture you're trying to protect your soul—and your family—from? John Heinen sits down with Chris McMahon—Catholic entrepreneur, father of five, and founder of two financial firms, including Aquinas Wealth Advisors—to expose what’s broken in modern investing and how faithful men can do better. With over 35 years of experience and appearances on Fox News and the Wall Street Journal, Chris has seen firsthand how mainstream portfolios often fund abortion providers like Planned Parenthood, adult entertainment empires, and false ideologies that corrupt the dignity of the human person. Instead of looking away, he built a firm that offers clarity, conviction, and Catholic-aligned investment strategies. Alongside his wife Molly, Chris co-founded Mary’s Place, a home for struggling mothers, and continues to serve the Sisters of Life and Sisters of Mary with bold generosity. His story is one of quiet defiance—against greed, cultural compromise, and moral indifference. This conversation challenges men not only to steward their wealth wisely but to do so with eternal impact in mind. 🟢 SPONSOR – https://holyhabits.app/gentleman/ Get your FREE Faith and Financing Score as well as Explore Chris McMahon’s firm – https://aquinaswealth.com/Catholics at the Shore – https://www.catholicsattheshore.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does it take to become a man of clarity, courage, and spiritual fire in a world that wants you passive, distracted, and numb? Today, John Heinen welcomes Fr. Boniface Hicks—Benedictine monk, spiritual director, and author. For over 20 years, Fr. Boniface has guided men through spiritual warfare, identity crises, and the hidden wounds that keep them from living as sons of God. In this powerful conversation, he exposes why so many men today are stuck in fear and confusion—and how the ancient Rule of St. Benedict offers a blueprint for order, purpose, and peace. He goes into the misunderstood power of anger, the role of Marian devotion in masculine healing, and what it actually means to “earn” headship in your family and vocation. Fr. Boniface shares hard-won wisdom from the monastery, the confessional, and the battlefield of the soul. 🔥 FREE ROSARY $125 Rosary this month – catholicgentlemanplus.com 🟢 SONSOR: - http://holyhabits.app/gentleman 🔗 Explore Fr. Boniface’s work – fatherboniface.org THANK YOU! Catholics At the Shore – https://www.catholicsattheshore.com QUESTION FOR US: We love to answer your questions on the show so send them our way to ⁠⁠podcast@catholicgentleman.com⁠⁠ 🔴 FREE ROSARY | CATHOLIC GENTLEMAN PLUS Enjoy 24 unique sessions for men, access exclusive weekly content, ebooks, guest series, and our live Q and A at Catholic Gentleman Plus: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Every man fights invisible battles—fear, self-doubt, shame, and the lies he tells himself over and over about who he is and what he is good at. In this episode, John Heinen sits down with Devin Schadt to expose the real front line of spiritual warfare and personal growth: your thoughts. Together, they unpack how negative thinking becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, why social media magnifies feelings of inadequacy, and how unchecked mental habits shrink your brain and strangle your soul. With raw honesty and practical wisdom, John and Devin walk through a three-step battle plan rooted in Scripture and backed by neuroscience-to help you take control of your thoughts, hold them captive, and experience the freedom, success, and joy God intends for your life. As Devin says, “The very fact that those thoughts make you feel bad… is proof that you’re good.” This episode will equip you to stop living in fear and start thinking with clarity, truth, and power. 🟢 FREE ROSARY this month – catholicgentlemanplus.com 🔥 Explore Devin’s work – fathersofstjoseph.org Books for the Journey: LEAD - ⁠Click Here⁠ QUESTION FOR US: We love to answer your questions on the show so send them our way to ⁠podcast@catholicgentleman.com⁠ Follow Us On Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@TheCatholicGentleman 🔴 CATHOLIC GENTLEMAN PLUS - 24 SESSIONS AVAILABLE Enjoy 24 unique sessions for men, access exclusive weekly content, ebooks, guest series, and our live Q and A at Catholic Gentleman Plus: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Help Support the Catholic Gentleman by either signing up for CG+ https://catholicgentlemanplus.com or https://catholicgentleman.com/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Men grow up with emotions they can't understand or explain—impatience, anger, frustration, even loneliness or sadness—and because they lack the framework for how to work with these emotions they are ultimately controlled by them. In this episode, John Heinen sits down with T.K. Coleman—top 100 podcaster (The Minimalists) and author of Emotional Clutter—to expose the quiet war within: a spiritual battle fought not with swords, but with unprocessed emotions and buried beliefs. Together they unpack why suppressing emotion doesn’t make you strong—it makes you weak and immature. Learn why reclaiming your inner life is essential to leading your outer one. This isn’t self-help fluff. It’s a battle plan for men who want clarity, freedom, and spiritual firepower in a distracted world. We also discuss our thoughts on Pope Leo XIV. 🟢 FREE ROSARY this month - ⁠https://catholicgentlemanplus.com⁠ 🔥 Get TK’s Book for FREE: Emotional Clutter🔥 Follow TK: ⁠Instagram | ⁠LinkedIn🔥 Explore The Minimalists Podcast: theminimalists.com/podcast QUESTION FOR US: We love to answer your questions on the show so send them our way to ⁠⁠podcast@catholicgentleman.com⁠⁠ 🔴 FREE ROSARY | CATHOLIC GENTLEMAN PLUS Enjoy 24 unique sessions for men, access exclusive weekly content, ebooks, guest series, and our live Q and A at Catholic Gentleman Plus: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Help Support the Catholic Gentleman by either signing up for CG+ https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices