The Cocoon: A Safe Place for Victims and Survivors of Sexual Trauma

In this grounded and informative episode, trauma-informed therapists Amanda and Carol who are co-founders of the Stress & Trauma Clinic in Mittagong explore the core principles of EMDR, attachment repair, and somatic healing. With decades of experience supporting survivors of complex PTSD, early childhood trauma, and nervous system dysregulation, they offer deep insights into how therapy can truly meet people where they are.Perfect for anyone seeking clarity about trauma recovery, EMDR, or the importance of safety and trust in the healing process.Stress and Trauma Clinic Website: https://stressandtraumaclinic.com.au/TBBI Links/Enquiries:Facebook: The Blue Butterfly InstituteEmail: hello@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auWebsite: thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auIntro/Outro Theme: Breaking The Silence by Marya StarkIf in need of help during an immediate crisis:100RESPECT: 1800 737 732Interested in being a guest speaker on the podcast? We are currently on the look-out for people to share their story so if interested:Email: podcast@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.au Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Counsellor Kendra King (LPC, NCC) joins us to unpack the impact of porn and sex addiction on couples from broken trust to rebuilding intimacy. With years of experience guiding partners through infidelity recovery, Kendra shares practical steps for healing, communicating, and reconnecting after betrayal. A must-listen for anyone navigating relationship wounds in the digital age.TBBI Links/Enquiries:Facebook: The Blue Butterfly InstituteEmail: hello@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auWebsite: thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auIntro/Outro Theme: Breaking The Silence by Marya StarkIf in need of help during an immediate crisis:100RESPECT: 1800 737 732Interested in being a guest speaker on the podcast? We are currently on the look-out for people to share their story so if interested:Email: podcast@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.au Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Criminologist Dr Kathryn Whiteley returns to continue her powerful exploration of prison reform, rehabilitation, and the lived experiences of incarcerated women.In Part Two of this special episode, Dr Whiteley dives deeper into the long-term impacts of incarceration — both on the women she’s worked with and on herself. From navigating grief and vicarious trauma to witnessing moments of profound change, Kathryn shares what she's learned about listening without judgement and the transformative potential of human connection inside the justice system.This conversation challenges stigma, re frames justice, and reminds us of the power of empathy in spaces where it’s often forgotten.If this series has moved you, please share it or leave a review — it helps us reach more people and keep these stories going.Kathryn's Podcast: Self- Identities 'Conversations With Convicted Women'TBBI Links/Enquiries:Facebook: The Blue Butterfly InstituteEmail: hello@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auWebsite: thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auIntro/Outro Theme: Breaking The Silence by Marya StarkIf in need of help during an immediate crisis:100RESPECT: 1800 737 732Interested in being a guest speaker on the podcast? We are currently on the look-out for people to share their story so if interested:Email: podcast@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.au Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Australian Criminologist Dr Kathryn Whiteley shares powerful insights into prison reform, the realities of women’s prisons, and the emotional work of humanising incarcerated women in the U.S.In our first-ever two-part episode, Dr Whiteley takes us inside the walls of prison to reveal how her work with some of society’s most condemned — and most forgotten — women began.From her first encounters behind bars to the emotional weight of seeing the person beyond the crime, Kathryn explores what it means to truly listen and advocate for change in a system that often silences.If this episode resonates, please share it or leave a review on Apple Podcasts — it helps us reach more people and keep these stories going.Kathryn's Podcast: Self- Identities 'Conversations With Convicted Women'TBBI Links/Enquiries:Facebook: The Blue Butterfly InstituteEmail: hello@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auWebsite: thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auIntro/Outro Theme: Breaking The Silence by Marya StarkIf in need of help during an immediate crisis:100RESPECT: 1800 737 732Interested in being a guest speaker on the podcast? We are currently on the look-out for people to share their story so if interested:Email: podcast@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.au Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of The Cocoon, Ruby is joined by Hamish Whelan from ACON — a passionate advocate working within emergency response to create safer, more inclusive environments for LGBTQIA+ communities. Together, they explore what it means to feel safe to serve and safe to be, even in systems that weren’t built with queer people in mind. This conversation is about quiet resistance, systemic change, and the radical act of showing up as your whole self. For anyone who’s ever felt unseen in uniform, or unsafe in their truth — this one’s for you.Link to ACON website is below for all information regarding their support and programs.https://www.acon.org.au/TBBI Links/Enquiries:Facebook: The Blue Butterfly InstituteEmail: hello@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auWebsite: thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auIntro/Outro Theme: Breaking The Silence by Marya StarkIf in need of help during an immediate crisis:100RESPECT: 1800 737 732Interested in being a guest speaker on the podcast? We are currently on the look-out for people to share their story so if interested:Email: podcast@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.au Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Disclaimer: This episode contains content that could be distressing to our listeners. Listener discretion is advised.Accessing help for abuse shouldn't depend on your postcode but for many in rural areas, it does.In this episode, social worker and family violence advocate Evie Clayton joins me to discuss the challenges of supporting survivors in isolated communities, the urgent need for better counselling resources for kids and teens, and why we must push for faster rape kit results. It's a tough conversation, but one we need to have.TBBI Links/Enquiries:Facebook: The Blue Butterfly InstituteEmail: hello@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auWebsite: thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auIntro/Outro Theme: Breaking The Silence by Marya StarkIf in need of help during an immediate crisis:100RESPECT: 1800 737 732Interested in being a guest speaker on the podcast? We are currently on the look-out for people to share their story so if interested:Email: podcast@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.au Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Warning: This episode does contain themes and discussion of institutional harassment and violence, listener discretion is advised.In this episode of The Cocoon Podcast, host Ruby Mikolaitis from the Blue Butterfly Institute sits down with Nicole Bedera, a sociologist and leading researcher on sexual violence. As the podcast’s first American guest speaker, Nicole shares groundbreaking insights from her book, On the Wrong Side: How Universities Protect Perpetrators and Betray Survivors of Sexual Violence.The conversation uncovers how university policies and practices often harm survivors while shielding perpetrators, based on Nicole’s yearlong study with survivors, perpetrators, and campus administrators. Together, they discuss the cultural and institutional shifts needed to create safer, more equitable environments for students.This episode is a must-listen for anyone passionate about dismantling systemic injustice and supporting survivors of sexual violence.TBBI Links/Enquiries:Facebook: The Blue Butterfly InstituteEmail: hello@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auWebsite: thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auIntro/Outro Theme: Breaking The Silence by Marya StarkNicole Bedera Website: https://www.nicolebedera.comIf in need of help during an immediate crisis:100RESPECT: 1800 737 732Interested in being a guest speaker on the podcast? We are currently on the look-out for people to share their story so if interested:Email: podcast@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.au Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of The Cocoon, we sit down with Stacey Copas, a resilience expert who turned a devastating accident into a powerful mission to help others overcome adversity. Stacey shares her incredible journey of becoming quadriplegic at 12, the mindset shifts that shaped her success, and how we can all build resilience to face life’s challenges.This is an episode about triumph, strength, and finding opportunity in even the toughest moments. Don’t miss Stacey’s inspiring perspective on thriving beyond setbacks.TBBI Links/Enquiries:Stacey Copas: Academy Of ResilienceIntro/Outro Theme: Breaking The Silence by Marya StarkFacebook: The Blue Butterfly InstituteEmail: hello@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auWebsite: thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auIf in need of help during an immediate crisis:100RESPECT: 1800 737 732Interested in being a guest speaker on the podcast? We are currently on the look-out for people to share their story so if interested:Email: podcast@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.au Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of The Cocoon, we welcome Jackie Durnin, a seasoned EFT practitioner and counselor with over 15 years of experience transforming lives. After overcoming her own trauma and challenges, Jackie created a groundbreaking healing retreat that combines traditional therapies with cutting-edge neuro-technology to help individuals manage stress, anxiety, and PTSD.Join us as Jackie shares her journey of resilience, insights into emotional healing, and the innovative tools she uses to guide others toward lasting transformation. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking hope and practical strategies for recovery.TBBI Links/Enquiries:Hinterland Health Retreat: https://hinterlandhealthretreat.comIntro/Outro Theme: Breaking The Silence by Marya StarkFacebook: The Blue Butterfly InstituteEmail: hello@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auWebsite: thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auIf in need of help during an immediate crisis:100RESPECT: 1800 737 732Interested in being a guest speaker on the podcast? We are currently on the look-out for people to share their story so if interested:Email: podcast@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.au Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A special edition episode for the month of October with a heartfelt but inspiring journey of resilience and survival. In this episode, Rach Mack, founder of the Broken Crayons Still Colour Foundation, opens up about her journey as a survivor of domestic violence and the ongoing struggles she faces. From the traumatic effects of strangulation to her recent diagnosis of stage four metastatic cancer, Rach shares her powerful story with unflinching honesty. She discusses her organization's groundbreaking work in supporting survivors, the urgent need for medical intervention for strangulation victims, and her mission to enact meaningful change through advocacy. Tune in for an inspiring and eye-opening conversation that highlights the strength of the human spirit and the importance of community support in the fight against domestic violence.TBBI Links/Enquiries:Broken Crayons Still Colour Foundation: https://brokencrayonsstillcolour.org/Rach's GoFundMe: https://gofund.me/940c2d37Intro/Outro Theme: Breaking The Silence by Marya StarkFacebook: The Blue Butterfly InstituteEmail: hello@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auWebsite: thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auIf in need of help during an immediate crisis:100RESPECT: 1800 737 732Interested in being a guest speaker on the podcast? We are currently on the look-out for people to share their story so if interested:Email: podcast@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.au Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Caroline Brunne opens up about her journey of healing as a survivor of child sexual abuse and incest. With raw honesty, she reveals how peer support and community played a pivotal role in her recovery, especially while navigating the complexities of her migrant background. Caroline shares powerful insights on setting boundaries, advocating for oneself, and respecting personal autonomy amidst cultural pressures. She also talks about the challenges of sharing her story through a memoir, blending personal experiences with research to offer solace to others. Tune in for an inspiring conversation about resilience, the strength found in community, and the courage to embrace your own healing journey.TBBI Links/Enquiries:Caroline's Website: https://carolinebrunne.com/Intro/Outro Theme: Breaking The Silence by Marya StarkFacebook: The Blue Butterfly InstituteEmail: hello@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auWebsite: thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auIf in need of help during an immediate crisis:100RESPECT: 1800 737 732Interested in being a guest speaker on the podcast? We are currently on the look-out for people to share their story so if interested:Email: podcast@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.au Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this eye-opening episode, host Ruby Mikolaitis sits down with Jackie McMillan, Senior Project Officer of 'It Left No Marks', to explore the growing trend of erotic strangulation. Why do people engage in this risky practice, and why are younger audiences increasingly drawn to it?Together, they dive into the dangers, the psychology behind it, and most importantly, how to ensure safe practices with clear boundaries and consent. Don't miss this candid conversation about a rising, yet often misunderstood, sexual behavior.Article Links:'It Left No Marks' Sexual Choking Campaign'More than half of Australian young people are using strangulation during sex'- Heather Douglas (The Conversation)TBBI Links/Enquiries:Intro/Outro Theme: Breaking The Silence by Marya StarkFacebook: The Blue Butterfly InstituteEmail: hello@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auWebsite: thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auIf in need of help during an immediate crisis:100RESPECT: 1800 737 732Interested in being a guest speaker on the podcast? We are currently on the look-out for people to share their story so if interested:Email: podcast@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.au Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The Real Talk on Trauma: What No One Prepares You For" dives deep into the often-overlooked aspects of healing from sexual trauma.Join Ruby and founder of TBBI Tina Meyer as they pull back the curtain on the raw, unfiltered truths of recovery—the emotional hurdles, the unexpected struggles, and the silent battles that aren’t always part of the conversation.This episode is for anyone navigating their own healing journey or seeking to understand the realities that come with it.Enquiries/Contacts:Intro/Outro Theme: Breaking The Silence by Marya StarkFacebook: The Blue Butterfly InstituteEmail: hello@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auPodcast email: podcast@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auIf in need of help during an immediate crisis:100RESPECT: 1800 737 732 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Join Ruby Mikolaitis from The Blue Butterfly Institute as she interviews Paris, the voice behind 'Shits Fucked' podcast.Discover Paris's incredible journey from meth addiction to advocacy, breaking the stigma around substance abuse.Listen in as they discuss systemic flaws, share life toolkits, and reveal how Paris is using her platform to inspire real change.This episode is a must-hear for anyone looking for hope, resilience, and a fresh perspective on recovery.Enquiries/Contacts:Intro/Outro Theme: Breaking The Silence by Marya StarkFacebook: The Blue Butterfly InstituteEmail: hello@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auPodcast email: podcast@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auIf in need of help during an immediate crisis:100RESPECT: 1800 737 732 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Join us in the latest episode of The Cocoon as we sit down with Sarah Williams, the visionary creator of the 'What Were You Wearing' organization.Sarah delves into her mission to transform policies and perspectives around victim-blaming. Discover the powerful stories and ground-breaking initiatives that are reshaping the conversation on victim advocacy and justice.Don’t miss this inspiring discussion on creating a world where every voice is heard and respected.Enquiries/Contacts:WWYW Instagram: @whatwereyouwearing_Intro/Outro Theme: Breaking The Silence by Marya StarkFacebook: The Blue Butterfly InstituteEmail: hello@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auPodcast email: podcast@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auIf in need of help during an immediate crisis:100RESPECT: 1800 737 732 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Joining us in this captivating episode, we're joined by Ally Hijazi, a dynamic lawyer, compelling speaker, and passionate advocate for family rights.Ally fearlessly shares her journey from childhood trauma to self-acceptance, sprinkling humour and candour along the way. Through highs and lows, she reveals the pivotal moments that shaped her resilience and authenticity.Get ready for an inspiring ride as Ally's story reminds us of the power of embracing our true selves and rewriting our narratives.Enquiries/Contacts:Intro/Outro Theme: Breaking The Silence by Marya StarkFacebook: The Blue Butterfly InstituteWebsite: The Blue Butterfly InstituteEmail: hello@thebluebutterflyinstitute.com.auPodcast email: podcast@thebluebutterflyinstitute.com.auIf in need of help during an immediate crisis :1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Step into the captivating world of "Memory Maze," where Dr. Hayley Cullen takes us on a riveting journey through the intricate labyrinth of child abduction issues in Australia.In this episode, we delve deep into the vital role memory plays in accurately witnessing and identifying these harrowing incidents to law enforcement.Join us as we unravel the complexities of memory recall and its pivotal significance in solving cases of child abduction.Dr. Cullen, with her expertise, guides us through the maze of psychological processes that influence memory formation and retrieval, shedding light on how crucial it is for witnesses to provide accurate and detailed accounts to aid authorities in their investigations.With compelling anecdotes and expert insights, "Memory Maze" not only educates but also captivates, reminding us of the profound impact that each memory holds in the pursuit of justice. Tune in as we navigate through the twists and turns of memory, illuminating the path towards safeguarding our children and communities.Information mentioned:Hayley Cullen's article on The Conservation: Enquiries/Contact:Intro/Outro Theme: Breaking The Silence by Marya StarkFacebook: The Blue Butterfly InstituteWebsite: The Blue Butterfly InstituteEmail: hello@thebluebutterflyinstitute.com.auPodcast email: podcast@thebluebutterflyinstitute.com.auIf in need of help during an immediate crisis:1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this compelling episode of The Cocoon, host Ruby Mikolaitis delves into the intricate world of image-based sexual abuse with renowned expert Nicola Henry. Together, they unravel the complexities of this pervasive issue, discussing its definition, far-reaching impact, and the crucial steps we can take to safeguard our online presence. Through insightful analysis and practical advice, this episode sheds light on a pressing digital-age challenge, empowering listeners to navigate the virtual landscape with knowledge and resilience.Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of image-based sexual abuse and discover actionable strategies for protecting yourself and your loved ones in the digital sphere.Information mentioned:Umibot: Umibot Chat SiteESafety Website Youth Law AustraliaNon-Consensual Sexual Imagery ArticleImage-Based Sexual Abuse ProjectNicola's Article On Image-Based Sexual AbuseEnquiries and Contact:Intro/Outro Theme: Breaking The Silence by Marya Stark Facebook: The Blue Butterfly InstituteWebsite: The Blue Butterfly InstituteEmail: hello@thebluebutterflyinstitute.com.auPodcast Email: podcast@thebluebutterflyinstitute.com.auIf in need of immediate crisis:1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Disclaimer: This episode contains themes and content around sexual violence, listener discretion is advised. In this episode, we explore the Australian Law Reform Commission's inquiry into the criminal justice system's response to cases of sexual violence. Lawyer and professor Amanda-Jane George joins us to discuss the need for a more 'trauma-friendly' approach, particularly in court cases and restorative justice processes. We examine the challenges survivors face in the legal system and how reforms could lead to a more supportive and empathetic environment. Join us as we delve into this important topic and consider how these changes could humanise the legal process and better support survivors of sexual violence.Link to article discussed in episode: hereContact and Enquiries:Institute: hello@thebluebutterflyinstitute.com.auPodcast: podcast@thebluebutterflyinstitute.com.auFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auThe Blue Butterfly Institute is not a crisis helpline, for assistance with an immediate crisis, please contact:Full Stop Australia: 1800 385 578Blue Knot Helpline: 1300 657 380 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Disclaimer: This episode contains mature language and discussion of assault and harassment, listener discretion is advised. Dive into the digital dating realm with our latest episode as we unravel the secrets behind online forums where individuals share their experiences, from harassment to infidelity. Join our insightful interview with Treena Orchard, a scholar and specialist in defamation and social dating as we discuss the alarming rise in legal battles around defamation stemming from these revelations. Join us as we navigate the complexities of the online dating landscape and gain essential insights into staying safe on dating apps. From parenting tips for teaching teenagers about digital romance to anticipating future changes in dating apps, this episode is your go-to guide for a secure and informed online dating experience. Tune in for a thought-provoking exploration that will reshape the way you view the digital pursuit of love. Swipe right wisely, and let's talk about it!Contacts and Enquiries:Institute: hello@thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auPodcast: podcast@thebluebutterflyinstitute.com.auFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/thebluebutterflyinstitute.org.auThe Blue Butterfly Institute is not a crisis helpline, for assistance with an immediate crisis, please contact:Full Stop Australia: 1800 385 578Blue Knot Helpline: 1300 657 380 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.