The DR & the DJ

This week on the The DR & DJ Podcast we chat with our first guest for the Season, Latoya Denique! Latoya Denique is the CEO of Scar Alchemy, Atlanta’s premier medical and cosmetic tattoo salon. With over a decade of experience as an Oncology Nurse Practitioner, dual degrees from Emory University and a degree from the University of Georgia,  Latoya transitioned from the healthcare field to permanent makeup in 2020.  From Latoya: We hold a lot of shame in our skin and you probably can imagine if you have a scar anywhere on your body, you literally can go right back to that place, remember everything that happened and you remember all of those memories. And for some people, it's like falling down with your cousins playing football. But for some people, it's an abusive relationship. For some people, it's a trauma like a car accident. For some people, it's cancer. For some people, you know, it's like... they went to go get some random cosmetic thing repaired and then they had a jacked up surgery and they're living with that. So it's not always nice happy things that people remember, a lot of times it's trauma. And so I basically create custom blend ink to match their skin tones to cover up and it's essentially like permanent makeup. And I tell people, it's not so you can forget the scar, it's just so that's not the first thing you see when you look at yourself in the morning. Listen wherever you get your podcasts! Each Wednesday, Pacific Noon you can also watch LIVE on YouTube or at The DR & THE DJ Instagram. You are not alone, John, Amy and the whole DR & DJ Team *Reminder: Nothing in this podcast is a substitute for medical or professional advice. Please always consult your doctor.

This week on The DR & The DJ, Amy and John discuss what Amy calls the “language of the nervous system.” So many of us know about love language, but do we know the language of the nervous system? Getting to know yours and the people you are in a relationship with (partner, lover, spouse, children, boss, coworkers, clients, etc) will help you in one of the most important and impactful ways. Access to getting what you need is through understanding the language of your nervous system. Amy & John also get real about their need for a break. From their domestic lives and even from each other. They discuss the phenomenon of couples “scorekeeping” which builds resentment, vs how to have a healthy balance of each person doing what they love. What happens when you run away from grief and learn, there is no escape from facing it? How do you resolve conflict when your nervous system demands you have to run away from it?  Listen and learn more at the drandthedj.com. Listen to more music podcasts at ruinousmedia.com John, Amy and the whole DR & DJ Team *Reminder: Nothing in this podcast is a substitute for medical or professional advice. Please always consult your doctor.

We made it through our first episode of Season 3! We are excited to have pulled this off in the new format- live! In the episode, we talked a lot about the mythological animal called “work-life balance” and got real about some of our sacrifices, SNAFUs and the shitshow that is our household much of the time. While recording this podcast live, our producer was hunkered down in Florida during a hurricane and our dog was in a cone recovering from surgery. We mean it when we say the shitshow is real. We also talked a lot about these life rules we all seem to live by. Whether they are inherited by family of origin, pressured from society at large, or something we made up at some point in our lives, we continue to follow them, yet we are miserable. Let’s interrupt this! Start questioning your rules and make new ones. We also spoke very candidly about some of their “divorceable conversations” where we have broken the terror barriers and are just as honest as can be with each other and continue to allow the evolution of our marriage and sex life, including changing rules every once in a while. Mark your calendars for noon PT on Wednesdays. There will be live episodes or IG lives to look out for, and we are excited about our Season 3 lineup of guests.  We really appreciate you and all of your support. You are not alone, Amy & John & the DR & the DJ Crew PS. Did you catch the news that we have an upcoming Retreat this Fall? We are going to Desert Hot Springs near Palms Springs for 4 days and 3 nights, with a little Joshua Tree in there. More info and to reserve your spot HERE. *Reminder: Nothing in this podcast is a substitute for medical or professional advice. Please always consult your doctor.

This week, we revist John & Amy's talk with Barrett Martin. Barrett is a percussionist, a writer, a composer & a producer. He has a masters degree in ethnomusicology, received a Latin Grammy for production & is producing a film celebrating the life of Cedell Davis. Barrett was an integral player in the 90's Seattle rock scene & continues to collaborate & operate in the rock n roll world. Barrett's newest book, Stillpoint, is accompanied by a studio record that serves as a soundtrack to a collection of short stories from his youth & world travels. John, Amy & Barrett not only discuss the process of making Stillpoint,  but the parallels of craniosacral practice & the Zen view on the concept of stillpoint. Barrett shares his experience & perspective on the Seattle grunge scene & why current “scenes” may be different, for better or worse. Amy & Barrett talk about the universal healing properties of music & John shares a few life changing moments in which Barrett was unknowingly present. Join Dr. Amy’s community and get her libido boosting recipes and more midlife health tips at Craft & Clinic. Get on John’s Record Club List for all the best vinyl recommendations and community events.

In this week's B-side, John & Amy check back in about grief since the last time they spoke soon after his sister's death. They are there to remind you that you are not alone, grief never ends & to treat others with kindness...including yourself. You are not alone. Tag us on IG at @thedrandthedj. The DR & The DJ *Reminder: Nothing in this podcast is a substitute for medical or professional advice. Please always consult your doctor. Join Dr. Amy’s community and get her libido boosting recipes and more midlife health tips at Craft & Clinic. Get on John’s Record Club List for all the best vinyl recommendations and community events.

This week's guests are Brad/Pearl Jam guitarist Stone Gossard & Brad drummer Regan Hagar. The two founded Loosegroove records in 1994 where they signed up & coming artists & celebrated a multi-genre roster with a slant to Hip Hop & Rock. Today Loosegroove is still lively & diverse with new releases from the long awaited Painted Shield, Duff Mckagan's The Living, Britney Davis, & Tiger Cub. In this episode, the four discuss why Loosegroove is not just a record label for Stone & Regan, but a vehicle for two friends to share ideas, bond & do something they truly believe in together. We hear why & how Loosegroove operates the way they do & how it lends to their longevity. Stone & Regan give us some insight into Brad's writing process & we learn why working with Shawn Smith has left a lasting impression on them.  John & Amy open the episode with a discussion on disruption. Why are we subconsciously committed to homogeneity in our personal & group behavior? Amy explains why having a novel approach typically fuels empathy & why it is so important to rethink how we do things both socially & in our professional lives. Theme music by Michael Lerner. Listen to more podcasts at Ruinous Media. Check out all the Loosegroove artists here. Loosegroove.This episode’s featured music is by Tiger Cub. As always, John & Amy remind us that We're Not Alone. The DR & the DJ  Join Dr. Amy’s community and get her libido boosting recipes and more midlife health tips at Craft & Clinic. Get on John’s Record Club List for all the best vinyl recommendations and community events.

In this Bside Dr Amy & John talk about why we may be feeling more anxious & disoriented in our post/late Pandemic return to "normal." Dr Amy offers a few ideas how to navigate this transition & as always John & Amy remind us we are not alone. Tag us on IG at @thedrandthedj. The DR & The DJ *Reminder: Nothing in this podcast is a substitute for medical or professional advice. Please always consult your doctor. Theme music by Michael Lerner. Explore more podcasts at Ruinous Media Join Dr. Amy’s community and get her libido boosting recipes and more midlife health tips at Craft & Clinic. Get on John’s Record Club List for all the best vinyl recommendations and community events.

We had such a great response from our Nicole McNichols episode, we’re posting again! Tell your friends! Tell your loved ones! Tell your lovers! This week's guest is Nicole McNichols, Ph.D., Associate Professor at the University of Washington Department of Psychology where she teaches The Diversity of Human Sexuality. Nicole tells us why & how she found herself teaching one of the universities most popular courses & why sex education is important for all stages of life. John Amy & Nicole discuss the significance of touch & physical connection & why it may be more important than ever. They also talk about the role that pornography & BDSM can play in sexual health & how sexual stereotypes permeate purity & pop culture. Amy tells us how masturbation is a healthy facet to a relationship, how stress can reduce our libido. This weeks featured music is by Spirit Award from their record Lunatic House. As always, John & Amy remind us that We're Not Alone. The DR & the DJ  Join Dr. Amy’s community and get her libido boosting recipes and more midlife health tips at Craft & Clinic. Get on John’s Record Club List for all the best vinyl recommendations and community events.

In this week's B-side, Dr. Amy & DJ John discuss what it means to forgive. John tells a story about his father & when he learned how to accept him for who he was. Amy tells a story about her recent journey around the events of a Parole Hearing for her sister's murderer & the breakthroughs she had with forgiveness. Tag us on IG at @thedrandthedj. The DR & The DJ *Reminder: Nothing in this podcast is a substitute for medical or professional advice. Please always consult your doctor. Theme music by Michael Lerner. Explore more podcasts at Ruinous Media. Join Dr. Amy’s community and get her libido boosting recipes and more midlife health tips at Craft & Clinic. Get on John’s Record Club List for all the best vinyl recommendations and community events.

This week, John & Amy speak with Chana Ross. Chana is a Pelvic Physiotherapist & Clinic Director at Vital Physiotherapy & Wellness in Toronto, ON. She is also a mother of 4 & host of She Has The Audacity, a podcast about women who are entrepreneurs, leaders & mothers that want to leave their mark on the world. In this episode John, Amy & Chana discuss the connection that is created in postpartum between physical & mental health & the struggles women have that are not outwardly addressed in our culture. Chana & Amy illustrate the direct relationship between the pelvic floor & the nervous system & how that influences life outside of motherhood. Chana shares her strategy for managing a very busy life & she tells us why she prefers the word “birth” over “delivery”. Amy & John start this episode with a story about John neglecting a minor health issue even after 2 doctors (Amy & his therapist) told him to have it looked at. John shares his experience when the issue is finally treated & Amy explains how a minor health problem gone unchecked can lead to a major problem. John’s drama continues when, immediately after his treatment, he has to pick up his soaking wet child at daycare, stop by the pharmacy for his prescription & suffers the side effects of the medication.  This week's featured music is by F!RES. Theme music by Michael Lerner. Listen to more podcasts at Ruinous Media.  As always, John & Amy remind us that We’re Not Alone. The DR & The DJ Join Dr. Amy’s community and get her libido boosting recipes and more midlife health tips at Craft & Clinic. Get on John’s Record Club List for all the best vinyl recommendations and community events.

This week on The DR & The DJ B-side, Amy & John dive into the wonderful world of self-love, sexual fantasies & demystify the outdated myths surrounding each. Listen & find out why your health might be tied to your fantasies & whether or not you masturbate. Tag us on IG at @thedrandthedj. The DR & The DJ *Reminder: Nothing in this podcast is a substitute for medical or professional advice. Please always consult your doctor. Join Dr. Amy’s community and get her libido boosting recipes and more midlife health tips at Craft & Clinic. Get on John’s Record Club List for all the best vinyl recommendations and community events.

This week, John & Amy talk to Seattle rock n roll luminary Kim Warnick. Kim is a founding member, bass player & singer for The Fastbacks & Visqueen. Kim has consistently been a part of the Seattle music scene from the late 70’s to present, opening local shows for Joan Jett & The Ramones & touring globally with Seaweed & Pearl Jam. In this episode she shares her experiences growing up in the early Seattle music scene, the relationship to her own drug & alcohol issues & what finally triggered her to get sober. John, Amy & Kim discuss how the loss of a sibling disconnects them from the past & the ways in which they’ve chosen to move forward from that loss. Kim updates us on The Fastbacks, how Duff Makagen wound up in the band & explains how she keeps her overall positive outlook alive.  We open the episode with John’s most recent visit to his therapist. He shares why he’s feeling overwhelmed & why his therapist's recommendation was simply to take a nap. Amy explains why maneuvering the fine line of self sabotage & self-care is both tricky & important in our day to day living.  This week's featured music is by The Black Tones. Theme music by Michael Lerner. Listen to more podcasts at Ruinous Media.  As always, John & Amy remind us that We’re Not Alone. The DR & The DJ Join Dr. Amy’s community and get her libido boosting recipes and more midlife health tips at Craft & Clinic. Get on John’s Record Club List for all the best vinyl recommendations and community events.

On this week's B-side, John & Amy discuss their new found super power of grief: Clarity. John talks about how much the few weeks surrounding his sister's death have brought profound clarity to his life & encouraged him to stop tolerating the bullshit. Dr. Amy talks about why this is as we face mortality as our nervous system calibrates to the loss of a loved one & what is the best thing to do with this super power & how to use it.  The DR & The DJ *Reminder: Nothing in this podcast is a substitute for medical or professional advice. Please always consult your doctor. Theme music by Michael Lerner. Explore more podcasts at Ruinous Media. Join Dr. Amy’s community and get her libido boosting recipes and more midlife health tips at Craft & Clinic. Get on John’s Record Club List for all the best vinyl recommendations and community events.

Our friend Ben Gibbard was on the show 1 year ago. We’d like to celebrate this anniversary by sharing this wonderful interview. Ben tells us how, as an ultra runner, he copes with injury, both physically & mentally. We hear about Ben’s connection between addiction, fitness & sobriety, & Ben shares his view on the future of live shows & touring. We also hear Proxima B from Ben’s 2020 solo release. Be sure to check out Ben's newest endeavor, both curating and performing on Ocean Child, Songs of Yoko Ono (out now).   As always, John & Amy remind us that We’re Not Alone. The DR & The DJ Join Dr. Amy’s community and get her libido boosting recipes and more midlife health tips at Craft & Clinic. Get on John’s Record Club List for all the best vinyl recommendations and community events.

This week’s guest is Nick Firchau, producer & host of Paternal, a podcast that explores & shares new paths to fatherhood. Nick, Amy & John consider the consequence of not having a positive paternal figure in man’s life & how those models are passed down to their own parenting. Amy shares her experience growing up with 13 siblings, the differences between her mothers & fathers parenting workload & how her relationship with her father changed after puberty. They discuss the normalization of therapy, the power of putting ego aside & why the goal of Paternal is to make better, less toxic people.  We open the show with Amy’s childhood experience of playing basketball with her brothers & how her shirtless mimicry got her in confusing trouble. Are our dreams death premonitions? Amy shares her dreams prior to both her siblings deaths & John recounts his dreams following his mother, father & sisters death.  This week’s featured music is by Blushing from their newest record Possessions on Kanine Records. Theme music by Michael Lerner. Listen to more podcasts at Ruinous Media  As always, John & Amy remind us that We’re Not Alone. The DR & The DJ Join Dr. Amy’s community and get her libido boosting recipes and more midlife health tips at Craft & Clinic. Get on John’s Record Club List for all the best vinyl recommendations and community events.

On this week's The DR & The DJ B-Side, John & Amy talk about the recent death of John's sister just a few days ahead of recording this podcast. John tells the story of her struggle with alcohol & an eating disorder. They go over the dos & don'ts of helping someone going through the grieving process or struggling with a loved one dealing with addiction. The DR & The DJ *Reminder: Nothing in this podcast is a substitute for medical or professional advice. Please always consult your doctor. Theme music by Michael Lerner. Explore more podcasts at Ruinous Media. Join Dr. Amy’s community and get her libido boosting recipes and more midlife health tips at Craft & Clinic. Get on John’s Record Club List for all the best vinyl recommendations and community events.

This week John & Amy talk with Dr. Erika Bonilla, a Chiropractor, triathlete, ultra-marathoner & a specialist in menstruating endurance athletes. She is also a proud homeschool mom, self-taught knitter, salsa dancer & tequila drinker. Dr Erika shares her experience running a 55 kilometer race, her upcoming 50 MILE race & how logistics & adventure play a role in her drive to run long distance races. She tells us why she looks at her athleticism as a privilege & not something she “should” do. John, Amy & Erika discuss the influence of self-worth & accountability on their physical health & why letting go of certain fitness strengths opens opportunities for new physical challenges. Dr. Erika explains how a menstrual cycle can guide fitness success & shows us a few practical ways she consistently keeps fitness a fundamental part of her life. We open with a story of how John’s oldest friend predicted the future of his previous marriage & why John appreciates his honesty & loyalty over the span of their long relationship. Amy shares her teenage friendship experiences, why life felt dark & a little unsafe, & how she came to have fewer friends than her peers. John &Amy talk about what their social relationships are like as adults & how they maneuver with kids & jobs.  This week’s featured music is by La Luz from their record newest record on Hardley Art. Theme music by Michael Lerner. Listen to more podcasts at Ruinous Media  As always, John & Amy remind us that We’re Not Alone Join Dr. Amy’s community and get her libido boosting recipes and more midlife health tips at Craft & Clinic. Get on John’s Record Club List for all the best vinyl recommendations and community events.

This week on The DR & The DJ Bsides, Amy and John get real about arguing and navigating your relationship, especially when one of them is ADHD. They discuss how the solution is to understand what your partner needs and understand not the language of love but the language of the nervous system. Tag us on IG at @thedrandthedj. The DR & The DJ *Reminder: Nothing in this podcast is a substitute for medical or professional advice. Please always consult your doctor. Theme music by Michael Lerner. Explore more podcasts at Ruinous Media. Join Dr. Amy’s community and get her libido boosting recipes and more midlife health tips at Craft & Clinic. Get on John’s Record Club List for all the best vinyl recommendations and community events.

This week's guest is Johnny Marr. Since co-founding The Smiths, Johnny has gone on to perform, write & play guitar with a long list of luminary bands & projects that include Modest Mouse, The The, The Pretenders, Blondie, The Cribs & Talking Heads. Johnny has contributed & worked closely with Hans Zimmer on film scores for Inception, The Amazing Spider-Man 2 & most recently No Time To Die, the newest James Bond film. In addition, Johnny has consistently released & supported solo records, with the newest release Fever Dreams Pts 1-4, out February 25th. John, Amy & Johnny discuss the role that perception takes in his song writing, the sense of community between him & his audience & why he’s more comfortable fronting a band than solely playing guitar. Amy & John share their views on human “vibration,” it’s relation to health, & Johnny describes its presence in the “How Soon Is Now'' riff. Johnny tells why he doesn’t tout the puritanical version of sobriety & of course, John & Johnny talk about their shared obsession, running. Our episode opens with John & Amy’s reflection on the similarities between the human species. Amy questions her age appropriateness of body piercing & they both share their own experiences of having various body parts pierced. They also discuss how human struggle can shape our similarities.  This week’s featured music is by Johnny Marr, from his new record Fever Dreams Pts 1-4, out February 25th. Theme music by Michael Lerner. Listen to more podcasts at Ruinous Media  As always, John & Amy remind us that We’re Not Alone. The DR & The DJ Join Dr. Amy’s community and get her libido boosting recipes and more midlife health tips at Craft & Clinic. Get on John’s Record Club List for all the best vinyl recommendations and community events.

This week on The DR & The DJ Bsides, DR Amy & DJ John discuss WTF "Mindful Drinking" is. Mindful drinking is a lifestyle & a movement for those who are mild to moderate drinkers who want to practice a sense of ritual & mindfulness around alcohol consumption. Mindful Drinking would not be suitable for anyone in recovery or who may need a recovery/ sobriety program. Dr Amy discusses the various stages of alcohol use from beneficial, to casual/ non-harmful, to problematic use & then to chronic dependence. Both Dr Amy & DJ John share personal stories of drinking mindfully.... or not. Tune in for a new way to think about how & why we drink & what questions to ask ourselves. Tag us on IG at @thedrandthedj The DR & The DJ *Reminder: Nothing in this podcast is a substitute for medical or professional advice. Please always consult your doctor. Theme music by Michael Lerner. Explore more podcasts at Ruinous Media. Join Dr. Amy’s community and get her libido boosting recipes and more midlife health tips at Craft & Clinic. Get on John’s Record Club List for all the best vinyl recommendations and community events.