The Dildorks

This week Billy talks with his partner Dee Darkholme about some of the unusual kinks and dynamics that have emerged in their relationship. Feet | Future Relationships | Intimacy & Demisexuality | Need vs. Occasional Want | Curiosity & Non-Judgment | Feet, Again | Piss | Squirting | Testosterone | Bringing Up New Kinks Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re chatting with the brilliant author and podcaster Tina Horn about her new book, Why Are People Into That?: A Cultural Investigation of Kink! Fisting | Circlusion | Citing Sources | CNC | Bad Tweets | Footnotes | Connoisseurs | Glasses Fetish | Sex & the City | Bimbos | Gender Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Here's the first episode of Kate's podcast miniseries on the Magic Wand, Making Magic!The Magic Wand is a cult-favorite sex toy, beloved by vibrator connoisseurs around the world – but is it worthy of the hype? In this episode, we seek to answer that question, by examining the Wand’s reputation, first-time users’ reactions when they try it, and how it can help us close the orgasm gap.Guests this episode:Good Vibrations staff sexologist & Antique Vibrator Museum curator Dr. Carol Queen (she/they)Sex toy historian & author Hallie Lieberman (she/her)Sex educator & host/creator of the Sex Ed With DB podcast Danielle Bezalel (she/her)Software designer & developer (& Kate’s spouse) mb bischoff (they/them)Author, sex therapist, & psychology professor Dr. Laurie Mintz (she/her)Making Magic is hosted and created by Kate Sloan, edited and co-produced by Jamie Pityinger, and made possible by the generous support of Vibratex. Our podcast art is by Addison Finch. Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Kate’s about to launch a project she’s been working on for a year, a podcast miniseries about the Magic Wand called Making Magic: How the Magic Wand Became the World’s Most Famous Vibrator. This week, we talk about the series and how it all happened! Why? | Feature Story | Magic Wand Tattoo | Book vs. Podcast | Sex-Positive Feminism | Interviews | Hitachi | Interview Wishlist | Magic Wand Menorah | Art & Tattoos | Style/Format Inspiration | New Discoveries | Changes in Opinion | Other Toys | Favorite Episode | Takeaways Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Changes in your kinky power dynamic can be scary and destabilizing, but they can also be exciting, healing, and necessary. This week, we discuss shifts in power we’ve experienced within our own relationships, and how we navigate them. Are We Switches? | Empathy & POV | Learning to Dominate | Receiving Caretaking | Somatics & Self-Esteem | Not Having All the Answers | Switching Within Relationships | Motivations | Kinky Flirting | What Do You Want? | People-Pleasing & Boundaries | Deciding to Change | Making Changes Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy Masturbation Month! We’re celebrating by answering listener questions about jerking off. Cum Socks, Cum Box | Pruney Fingers | Jerking Off to Oneself | Perspective in Fantasy | Stroker Newbie Tips | Fleshlight Quickshot | Tenga Egg | Porn Addiction | Masturbating Before Bed | Unexpected Additions | Museum of Sex Event Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

What do sex, kink, Michelin-star restaurants, Disney World, and Dungeons & Dragons have in common? This week we’re talking about the concept of immersiveness, and what we can learn about sex and kink from studying immersive experiences. “What is Sex Like?” | Flow State | Internal vs. External Factors | Social Anxiety | Sleep No More | Attention | Moments | Hospitality | Disney | Ambiance & Headspace | D&D Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

What’s the best lesson you’ve ever learned about sex, dating, or masturbating? This week we’re celebrating Kate’s birthday by distilling some key pieces of wisdom we’ve learned on several of our favorite topics. Birthdays | First Dates | Masturbation | New Relationship Energy | Long-Term Relationships | Friendship | No Sleep | Fantasy | Re-Watching | Sadomasochism | Orgasms | Jealousy in Non-Monogamy | Codependency | Flirting | Metacommunication Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Traveling with a partner can be magical, or it can be stressful as hell. This week, we’re discussing the pitfalls and best practices of taking trips with someone you’re dating. Hotel Sex | Different Version of Yourself | Compatibility Test | Travel & Polyamory | How Soon? | Stress & Arguments | Time Apart | Early Trips | Overstimulation vs. Calm | Conferences & Camp Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

What does it mean to have “high standards” or to be “too picky” in the realms of dating and sex? This week we’re talking about standards, boundaries, “leagues,” dealbreakers, and more. Male Attention | Horrors of Singledom | Self-Judgment | Gender Differences | “Leagues” | Rejection | Insecurities | Chemistry | Wanting vs. Being Wanted | Monogamy vs. Polyamory | Friend of a Friend Matchmaking | Bad Standards | What ARE “Standards”? | Attractions Changing | Good Standards | Setting Standards | Preference vs. Fetishization Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

There are a ton of ways that size differences can be eroticized, from age play to giantess porn to vore fantasies. This week, we share our thoughts and feelings on various forms of size kink. Littleness vs. Age Play | Vore | Eating & Swallowing | Cannibalism (7:52–11:40) | Giantesses | Tinies | Toy Story | Human Size Variations | Kissing | Height Preferences | Gender | CNC | How to Emphasize Size Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re joined by Addison Finch, the artist who created our new logo! We talk with him about how the art came together, plus his work as a tattoo artist. Dildo Nerds | New Logo | Listened to Every Episode | Fifty Shades | Favorite Part | Separate Personas | Piercing | Tattooing | Alt Culture | Traditions vs. Colonialism | Flash Art | Kinky Tattooing Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Definition | Deciding to Get Married | Hierarchical vs. Non-Hierarchical | Polysecure by Jessica Fern | Escalator Without Hierarchy | Polywise by Jessica Fern | Differing Compatibilities | Friendships vs. Romance | Dean Spade Essay | Building Your Own Escalator | Professional & Creative Partnerships | Social Media | Collars | Money Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Is porn addiction real? Is the NoFap community just a bunch of chastity fetishists? Are men okay? This week Kate chats with Kris Taylor, an academic from New Zealand who has studied porn addiction discourse and the NoFap movement, about all of the above and more. Origin Story | Masculinity | New or Old? | NoFap Research | Homoeroticism in NoFap | Women on NoFap | Giving Pleasure | Eroticizing Self-Denial | Dust Breeding | Barriers & Tension | Sexual Fantasy | Male Pleasure | Flure App | Porn Dependency | “No Porn” Rule | Fantastical Fantasies | Vibrators | A Cyborg Manifesto | Solitary Sex | Making Sex | Female Orgasm | Queer & Trans People | Future Research Directions Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Humor is a big component of our sex and kink, but it’s not always appropriate during scenes. This week we talk about how and when to deploy humor to improve your flirting, domming, or subbing. Vibrators Dying | Improv Crushes | Take an Improv Class | The Excitement of Humor | Collaboration | Repetition | Tension & Release | Too Much Laughing? | Read the Room | Nothosaur Toys | Breath Play | Nerves & Anxiety | Aftercare | On the Same Page | Making a Top Laugh | Humiliation Play | Funny Kink Scenes | Commit to the Bit Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Watching porn while in a relationship can be more contentious than watching it while single; this week, we theorize on why that is, and answer listener questions about watching porn with partners. Is OnlyFans Cheating? | Economics | Insecurities & Anxieties | What Porn is For | Extreme Tastes | Watching Porn During Oral | Nothosaur Toys | Sharing Passwords | Porn Stars’ Appearance | Queer Porn with Straight Partners Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

With Valentine’s Day having just passed, this week we tried to figure out what “romance” actually is. Consistency | Autism & Aromanticism | Love, Inc. | Romantic Attraction | Friendship | New Relationship Energy | Media Love | Nothosaur Toys | What’s Romantic To You? | Reciprocity | Examples of Romance | Surprise | Spontaneous Kisses | Thinking of You | Vulnerability | Sex Games | Remembering Preferences Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

What happens when a sex toy reviewer quits using vibrators? This week Kate and her spouse mb discuss her recent break from using vibes, the reasons for it, and the results of the experiment. Why? | Vibrator Habituation | Research Questions | Sensitivity | Orgasm Threshold | Orgasm Intensity | Tools | Quitting? | Slowing Down | Sex Ed | How Long It Takes | Manual Stimulation | Hand Weakness | Mental Aspect | Flure | Readjusting | Withdrawal | Polyamory Clause | Natural/Intimate | Alcohol | Internal Spots | Libido & Satisfaction | New Techniques | Mood | Big Nut Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re answering listener questions on sex toys this week – and sharing some of our snarky takes about certain sex toy brands. Meeting People Where They’re At | Butt Plugs for Long-Term Wear | Njoy Pure Plug | Fun Factory Bootie | Lube for Silicone Anal Toys | Sliquid Silk | Sliquid Sassy | Sutil Rich | Sliquid Organics Gel | Should I Buy More Toys? | Magic Wand Rechargeable | Njoy Pure Wand | VixSkin Toys | Best Orgasms | VixSkin Outlaw | Eroscillator | Fucking Sculptures Double Trouble | Pressure-Wave Toys | Lelo Sila | Womanizer Premium 2 | Satisfyer Pro 2 | Toys for AMAB People | Lovense Edge 2 | Trans Affirming Wear | Ana Valens Article | Fun Factory Manta | Hot Octopuss Pulse | Micropenis Dildo | Uberrime Dildo Tip | Toy Cleaner | DivaWash | Songs About Sex Toys | Rachel Lark Song | “Bad Sex” Song | Lelo | Dick Tux | Owning a Sex Shop Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Watersports is a wet, wild, and wonderful kink! This week, we’re discussing piss play: what we find hot about it (and what we don’t), how we’ve incorporated it into scenes, and how to do it safely and with minimal mess. Why Is It Hot? | Comparison to Scat | Taboo | Intimate | Messy | Pissing on Command | STPs | Peeing Inside Someone | Bladder Control | Not Fresh From the Tap | Piss Cocktails | Roleplays | In the Bedroom | Age Play | Hydration Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.