The Divorce Course Podcast

Are you currently going through your property settlement or about to go through who gets what in your divorce process then this episode is perfect for you. This is part three of a series of episodes that covers Sorting your Property Settlement in Divorce. This episode covers how the court may consider your future needs and how it may change your property settlement outcome. Listen to this episode to know what you might be entitled to and to make sure you don’t make the mistake of glossing over the property settlement process and leaving yourself high and dry in the future. Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement  Sign up here for our next free online webinar    Click below to listen to the other episodes we refer to in the episode Sorting your property settlement in divorce: Financial Contributions before cohabitation and how it affects your property settlement Sorting your property settlement in divorce: Part 2 Non financial & financial contributions during & after marriage. Spousal Maintenance - are you eligible?   FAMILY LAW ACT 1975 - SECT 75 Matters to be taken into consideration in relation to spousal maintenance You Don’t Want to Miss Out On 75(2) factors of the family law act What future needs are considered when negotiating property settlement How can age affect your property settlement? How can your health affect your property settlement? What happens if you are married for a short time in property settlement? What happens if you’ve never worked a paid job and you are getting divorced? What happens if you need to upgrade your skills to get back into the workforce and you are getting divorced? How taking care of the children can affect your property settlement Children with special needs and your property settlement  What are the factors considered for future needs? Does your ex’s girlfriend or boyfriend gets considered in your property settlement? Superannuation and how it is calculated in future needs for your divorce? What happens if your ex has superannuation that cannot be split? How are overseas pensions taken into account during property settlement? What happens with a trust and property settlement?  Did you support your ex while they were studying for a degree? Learn how this can affect your property settlement in your divorce. What you should raise with your lawyer when discussing property settlement How to help property settlement in mediation How to find the family law act and how to read it to help you. How child support is considered  If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Are you about to hire a lawyer or do you currently have a lawyer and are starting to wonder if they are a good fit for your case. In this episode we cover what you should be looking for when hiring a lawyer and the red flags to keep an eye out with your current family or domestic violence lawyer. We discuss what type of lawyer you need based on what divorce personality you are facing and why. We also cover what the process is if you decide to change lawyers. Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement  Sign up here for our next free online webinar  You Don’t Want to Miss Out On How to choose the right lawyer Why do you need to check your lawyer's experience?  Why some children’s matter lawyers are not that great at property matters. Why are some domestic violence lawyers not great family lawyers?  Why is it important to choose the right lawyer for the kind of work you need? Why it is important to choose a certain type of lawyer based on your divorce course personality prism. Why it’s important to have a lawyer that will tell you the things you sometimes probably don’t want to hear during your case but need to. Why is it helpful for your lawyer to have appeared in front of your  judge before? Why should you be concerned if your lawyer doesn’t want to put your case to the judge because they seem scared? Why it’s important to have a lawyer who is upfront about costs and billing. Family law and domestic violence legal billing and the best way to do it.  Why it’s a good idea to check LinkedIn when choosing a family lawyer or domestic violence lawyer. How often should you expect to hear from your lawyer? How to make sure you avoid unnecessary billing from your family lawyer. Why it’s important you trust your lawyer and what to do if you don’t. The process involved if you want to change lawyers. Can you change lawyers midway through your case? What kind of lawyer do you need if you are divorcing a narcissist? What kind of lawyer do you need if your divorce is amicable? What lawyer to look for if you have a high conflict case? If your ex is controlling and manipulative what lawyer would work best for your case.   If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different.   

Are you suffering from Post Separation Abuse? Are you finding yourself being kept under coercive control, isolated, harassed, stalked, subjected to legal abuse, financial abuse, counter parenting, alienation allegations or neglectful coparenting? We discuss what post separation abuse can look like and how you can counter it. We examine the One Mom’s Battles Post Separation Abuse Wheel and Lyn, a family lawyer of 35 years gives tips and advice that you can follow if you find yourself in any of these situations.   Sign up here for our next free online webinar  Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement  One Moms Battle - Post Separation Abuse Wheel You Don’t Want to Miss Out On What is coercive control? What is post separation abuse? How can you be isolated after separating from an abusive ex? What to do if you feel like you are being harassed and stalked? How to approach a police officer refusing to take your statement about domestic violence.  Why it is still important to report your concerns and incidents each time.  How to try prove abuse of legal services How the children are used in post separation abuse Counter parenting and what to do about it. Alienation allegations and what to do about it. Neglectful parenting and what to do about it What is an unfriendly parent in the eyes of the court? Abuse vs alienation What is an ICL independent children’s lawyers What is a contact centre?   If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

If you are worried about what happens to your money after separation or divorce and how it will be split between your ex and yourself this episode is for you. We discuss non financial and financial contributions during the marriage and after cohabitation and how it affects your property settlement in the family court. Did you get a lump sum of money during your marriage? Did you get an inheritance, or have you been saving money after separation and are now facing a property settlement and wondering if your money should be a part of the property pool. Even if you have a family lawyer this is a good episode for you to listen to so that you know how the property settlement is decided and how what you’ve contributed during the marriage and after you’ve separated can affect the property split.  Sign up here for our next free online webinar  Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement    Episodes you might want to listen to as well Podcast Episode Part 1: Property Settlement: property before cohabitation and how it affects your property settlement Podcast Episode: DIY Property Pool Discover and Disclosure    You Don’t Want to Miss Out On How your inheritance is treated in property settlement How money made and spent during the marriage or cohabitation is looked at for property settlement What is a non financial contribution What is a financial contribution What is matrimonial property  Is there such a thing as non matrimonial property How the length of the marriage affects the property settlement Exceptions for during cohabitation that don’t normally gets considered 50/50  inheritance and windfalls and lump sums What the case law says about contributions How percentages are used in property settlement  What happens with your money after separation. How is it included in the property settlement in the family court?  Does the money you save after separation get included in the property pool. How does caring for the kids affect the property pool in your property settlement.  What are non-financial contributions that go towards the property pool? Documenting post separation contributions  What are financial contributions after separation? What are negative contributions post separation? How is credit card debt treated in post separation property settlement? Does the waiting time get included into the judgement on property?  What is the difference between consent orders and judge ordered court orders? What are the risks of property settlement What are future needs and why are they considered in the property settlement? If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Are you about to go to trial or worried what your trial would be like in your family court. We will break it down in a really easy to understand way so you know what you will be facing and you won't have any surprises. Break up the fear of the unknown and be prepared for your day in family court for your divorce, children’s or property settlement. Sign up here for our next free online webinar  Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement  You Don’t Want to Miss Out On How knowing what goes on in a trial will help you face your fear. How keeping a mindfulness approach to your trial day can really keep you focused and achieve better outcomes for you on the day. The theatre of a trial and what to expect Who will be in the trial room with you. What the trial room will look like. What to expect from the judge How to speak to a judge What a judges associate is and what to expect from them on the day of the trial  How to know where to stand when you go into court The layout of the courtroom What is a bar table and why is it called one? When do witnesses come into the trial Where do witnesses wait during the trial proceedings Can you take a support person with you? How does the judge enter? How does the trial start What kind of housekeeping does the judge do at the beginning What is the point of the witness box What do you have to do in the witness box What kind of questions do they ask in the witness box How can you prepare for a trial What does the affidavit have to do with the trial Why it’s important to refresh your memory Why it’s important to eat breakfast the day of court Top strategy for the witness box What is going on in the head of the barrister or the lawyer How long can you be in the witness box How to ask to go to the bathroom if you’re in the witness box What should you do when a judge asks you a direct question How should you address the judge during your family court trial What are closing submissions What's the difference between written and spoken submissions What do you find out the outcome of your family court trial How long does it take to get a judgement Can you cross examine your ex in the witness box yourself? How to prepare for trial and cross examine if you are doing it yourself If you are self representing What happens if your trial is via zoom? What's the difference between a divorce trial with zoom as opposed to in the court room? How many support people should you bring to a trial Objections during court, how does it happen, why and who can do it. Can you object yourself to questions asked of you in the witness box? How to take care of yourself after the trial What happens if you cry in the witness box Why do lots of people settle on the day of the trial? How to avoid being done for costs? What happens if the judgement matches the offer you or your ex offered a year ago or months ago?   If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different.   

Are you freaking out about your divorce proceedings? At some point during everyone’s divorce there may be a moment of panic or a feeling of hopelessness. This is the episode to listen to if you are worried. Let Lyn, a family law specialist of over 35 years experience explain the legal things she explains to her clients to calm them down when they are panicking. And some great tips you can use to eliminate more worry later down the track. Divorce and court isn’t as scary as you think it is. We’ve got your back. Press play and feel better today. Sign up here for our next free online webinar  Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement  You Don’t Want to Miss Out On Five points to remember when freaking out in divorce proceedings Your ex isn’t special, the family court has seen it all before Why keeping notes of your divorce proceedings can help calm you in a moments of panic of your divorce What happens if mediation fails? How long it takes from initial application to final trial What are the new family court directives How to stop your ex from freaking you out. How to be proactive in your divorce proceedings instead of reactive. How to make plans before you ask for a response to something so you don’t have to worry about what their response will be, if any. How to speed up your divorce process. Consequences and how to use them to help progress the matter forward. Drafting letters as your next response as a way to calm yourself Why setting your own divorce goals are important Why creating a action plan of steps needed is important Why you need a plan a, plan b and plan c to eliminate the panic How not to let the new year make you upset about your divorce. Divorce songs and how they can help you get the confidence to face the legal stuff. Why do you need to focus forward and live your life during the divorce process? How what you focus on can affect how you cope with your divorce process. How to reclaim your power after separation. You don’t need your ex to do a thing to get your divorce finalised Why threats don’t always end up in reality Why getting a psychologist can really help your mental health during your divorce proceedings.   If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

We discuss what happens when you separate. Who should get the pets in a divorce? How the family court views pets and what they can do. And also what you can do to make sure the pet is taken care of in your divorce.  We look at other pet owners' solutions and how you can apply these yourself. We also discuss pets in domestic violence situations and where you can go to for help. Sign up here for our next free online webinar  Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement  You Don’t Want to Miss Out On How your pet is viewed in the family court.  Is there anything in the family law act that refers to pets? Whats the difference between livestock and pets and how does the court deal with this? Can you work out an arrangement yourself to share the custody of the pets?  Can a family court judge make an order on the custody of a pet? How pet possession can be proven by registration papers?  Show dogs and divorce. What happens if your ex takes your pet? What should you do before separation with your pet? Why you should never leave pets with a person who has committed DV. T Domestic Violence and Pet Care Disability Pet or Support Animals and Divorce Property Settlement and Pets are they included as assets? Consent orders and financial agreements and pets. If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

REGISTER for our next free online webinar  ACCESS THE DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Checklist for your divorce and property settlement Today’s Listener Divorce Questions:   This podcast is general advice only How can you change existing parenting orders? Can you change your parenting orders after a few years? What is the main aim of the practice direction for the federal circuit and family court of australia? What is the case of the Rice & Asplin case of 1978 and how to relate to wanting to change parenting orders. Centrelink payments and your property settlement, what you need to know The family law act and what it says about money from the government in property settlement and divorce. Post separation savings and in the property settlement. What happens to your bank account savings you’ve saved after separation in the divorce proceedings. Can you keep the money for yourself in property settlement? Send your questions to thedivorcecoursepodcast@gmail.com  Follow us on Instagram Join us on Facebook Find out more about the divorce course podcast If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Sign up here for our next free online webinar  Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement Part 1 of our property settlement and divorce series.  This episode covers the factors and assets that are considered when thinking about contribution before marriage or cohabitation and who gets what after divorce. We discuss: How the length of Marriage can make a difference to the outcome? How the size of the Property Pool can affect the outcome? How can it matter what you and your partner do with the assets during the marriage? How superannuation before cohabitation is considered in property settlement.  Stay tuned for PART 2 contributions during the marriage and PART 3 contributions after the marriage and how it could affect your property settlement during divorce?  You Don’t Want to Miss Out On   Why the length of your marriage matters in property settlement in divorce. How does what you bring into the marriage get sorted out when you get divorce? What is a contribution? The difference in a property settlement for a 30 year marriage to a 10 year marriage? If you bring in a house or shares it doesn’t automatically be given back to you at separation.  What is considered a short marriage? How do children factor into property settlement percentage?  A case of gold bars under the waterbed Why furniture and pianos don’t count as contributions at the beginning of the marriage What things are considered contributions at the beginning of a marriage? How to get proof that you bought a house before marriage Superannuation. If you have not brought anything into the marriage at all can you end up with some property in your divorce settlement? How future needs are considered in a property settlement.  If you helped pay child support for your ex’s kids can you get the money back after divorce? What do you do if your contributions before marriage are not being acknowledged by the other side? When might it be not a great idea to fight for initial contributions to be acknowledged in court? Why it is important to put in the effort and do the work to get the evidence before mediation. How to negotiate with a narcissist during property settlement. If your ex changes everything into their mothers name can it still be included in the property pool?  Does it matter if your ex changes their assets into someone else's name?   If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

REGISTER for our next free online webinar  ACCESS THE DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Checklist for your divorce and property settlement Today’s Divorce Listener Questions:   What happens to the money from your house sale after it is sold but you are still in divorce proceedings? What happens after you and your ex have signed a property agreement or have property settlement? Can you file another affidavit after your initial affidavit to the court? What can you do if an affidavit filed in your case is full of lies?  How the family court is streamlining their system What is the new Family law practice management aiming to streamline the court processes for separation and divorce proceedings? What are the new case practice management directions of the Family  court and how does it change things? General advice only Send your questions tothedivorcecoursepodcast@gmail.com    Follow us on Instagram Join us on Facebook Find out more about the divorce course podcast   If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womenslineon 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Menslineon 1800 600 636 National DV lineon 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732  Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different.

Over Lyns many years of Family Law experience she has found that there are typically four different types of divorces. The strategies and outcomes you use can change based on what type of divorce you are facing. If you intend on following through with each step that the divorce course podcast intends to lay out, it is important to identify your type. The mother daughter duo Lyn and Laura will be referring to each stage and referring to what is best to do based on the type of divorce you determine from this episode.  Lyn aims to talk to people like she talks to people in consultation, with her daughter Laura, asking the questions you would most likely ask during the visit.    You don’t want to miss: Knowing your type of divorce An overall summary of what to expect in these types of separations. A basic summary of the steps in the divorvce process Some simple basic 101 rules to start following in your communication with your ex partner. !  Lyns plainly put divorce tips.   Links and resources: Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast 1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon.  And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review. Thank you. 

Listen to This Episode If You: 🎄 Are navigating the holiday season post-separation or divorce. ❓ Need guidance on legal deadlines and court closures during Christmas. 💡 Want tips for co-parenting and managing handovers with minimal stress. 🛡 Are concerned about manipulative or high-conflict behavior during the holidays. 🌟 Are looking for ideas to create new traditions and move forward emotionally. 🎄Trying to figure out how to manage Christmas under the same roof this year. Trigger warning: Domestic and Family Violence is discussed in this episode.  Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for personalized legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your circumstances. Separated for the Holidays? How to Manage Legal and Emotional Challenges   The holiday season can be particularly challenging for those navigating separation or divorce. In this episode, we offer practical tips and emotional support for managing legal matters, co-parenting, and the unique pressures of this time of year. We discuss everything from court closures and legal deadlines to handling difficult exes and creating new traditions with your kids. Whether you’re under the same roof with your ex, facing your first holiday alone, or co-parenting through conflict, this episode provides strategies to help you cope and thrive. Key Topics Discussed: Legal Matters During the Holidays: Court closures in the Australian Family Court and deadlines during the Christmas and New Year period. What to consider doing if you receive unexpected legal documents from your ex. Emergency contacts for urgent legal applications. Making plans with your lawyer over the Christmas break. Co-Parenting Challenges: Managing Christmas handovers and shared custody arrangements. Shielding kids from parental conflict and ensuring their joy during the holidays. Tips for planning and communicating with your ex to reduce misunderstandings. Living Under One Roof: Strategies for surviving the holiday period with your ex in the same house. Emotional and practical tips to maintain peace for yourself and your children. Safety Planning: Recognizing heightened risks of family violence during the holidays. Developing a safety plan and resources for immediate help. Building New Traditions: Overcoming the emotional challenges of changing family dynamics. Ideas for creating meaningful and joyful new traditions with your kids. How to embrace "adult Christmas" and find happiness in new experiences. Self-Care and Support: Managing loneliness and isolation during the holidays. Connecting with friends, family, or community groups for support. Planning your day to stay busy and emotionally grounded.   Final Thoughts: The holidays can be a difficult time, but with the right strategies and support, you can navigate them successfully. Whether you’re dealing with a challenging ex, managing legal deadlines, or starting new traditions, remember: this season is temporary, and brighter days lie ahead. Disclaimer: This podcast provides general legal education and is not a substitute for personalized legal advice. Always consult a qualified lawyer for guidance tailored to your circumstances. Happy holidays from all of us at the Divorce Course Podcast. ❤️   Links & Resources Mentioned: Episodes Mentioned in this The Do’s and Don’ts  of being separated under one roof https://youtu.be/jdi4snqP_I4?si=6zmQS1XAYZPkm_gG Handover Hell: how to deal handover https://youtu.be/YphzOPZmC3k?si=YSOHinsBvaxvLlX5 Co Parenting & Navigating the School Holidays with the Four Divorce Personality Types / Ep. 79 https://youtu.be/vnUo5oEGQRo?si=sB49DNfdTYHPqGPo No No No to Ho Ho Ho Divorce During Christmas https://youtu.be/DoO7aNw9ja0?si=8lgyHLtPdsnimn91 10 essential boundaries in divorce https://youtu.be/5KSMYe6ctVE?si=yfH4diXg8GWBd6ba   Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)     Thank you for tuning in to this episode. We hope these strategies empower you to handle mediation with confidence and clarity. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Every share helps others find support during difficult times. Stay strong—you’ve got this. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, so seek personalized legal advice tailored to your circumstances. 00:00 Introduction and Overview 01:30 Legal Matters During the Holidays 03:44 Challenges of Living Under One Roof 07:49 Co-Parenting and Custody Issues 18:02 Dealing with Manipulative Ex-Partners 22:54 Navigating Custody Without Court Orders 23:11 Creating New Traditions After Separation 27:59 Handling Emotional Challenges During Holidays 29:16 Legal Tips for Holiday Custody Arrangements 30:26 Planning and Self-Care for a Better Holiday 34:41 Dealing with High-Conflict Exes 37:21 Final Thoughts and Encouragement  

Does Family Violence and Post Separation Abuse factor into Property Settlement? This is now answered in The Family Law Amendment Bill 2024 which introduces some of the most significant reforms in the Australia Family Court in decades, addressing key issues like financial abuse, property disputes, and the treatment of family violence in court. In this episode, We are going to break down the changes, and try to explain what they mean for you, and share practical tips on how to prepare if you're navigating the family court system. These updates aim to create a fairer, safer process for families in transition.   Disclaimer: Always talk to your own lawyer before making any decisions or actions on your own case and situation. This discussion is general in nature and should not be considered legal advice.   Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are dealing with financial or economical abuse and want to understand how it’s recognized in the new laws. ❓ Are curious about how any type of  family violence impacts property settlements. 🐾 Want to know how pets are treated in property settlements under the new reforms. 💡 Need to understand the regulatory changes to Children’s Contact Services. 🛡 Want to stay informed on how the latest family law changes could affect your case.     Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Expanded Definition of Family Violence: Includes economic and financial abuse (e.g., controlling finances or withholding support). Courts will now explicitly consider these behaviors in property settlements. Family Violence and Contributions: Courts must evaluate how family violence impacts financial and non-financial contributions. Adjustments to property settlements may favor victims of abuse. Pets in Property Settlements: New provisions address disputes over companion animals, focusing on exclusive ownership or sale. Recognizes the role pets play in family dynamics and safety concerns. Children’s Contact Services (CCS): Establishes accreditation and compliance requirements for CCS providers. Introduces protections for sensitive safety information shared within CCS. Protected Confidences: Enhances safeguards for therapeutic notes and children’s statements, ensuring privacy in court proceedings.   Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Supplementary explanatory memorandum  Family Law Amendment Bill https://www.aph.gov.au/Parliamentary_Business/Bills_Legislation/bd/bd2425/25bd013 https://parlinfo.aph.gov.au/parlInfo/search/display/display.w3p;query=Id%3A%22legislation%2Fems%2Fr7234_ems_d9233ec7-832e-4627-88c2-6970f86eb262%22 ARC App https://download.arc-app.org.au/ Empower You App - https://www.police.nsw.gov.au/safety_and_prevention/policing_in_the_community/empower_you_app   Episodes for More Information: Communicating Coercive Control in Your Affidavit https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Ci0M4DqznBf1L1kcZM3vY?si=wVsGQ4wcSViYDeBJZr8Puw Post-Separation Abuse: Strategies to Protect Yourself https://open.spotify.com/episode/1ccm01eMpJ3TMZa2uMaUMN?si=FvU_ux2ATBuiBL5IW2g8gQ       Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE: Call 1800 811 811  LEGAL AID:https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au/Home Access free or low-cost legal advice tailored to your situation. Lifeline: Call 13 11 14 for 24/7 crisis support and counseling. Mensline Australia: Call 1300 789 978 for confidential support tailored for men. Kids Help Line: Call 1800 551 800 for counseling services for children and young people. Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 019 123 for culturally sensitive support. Relationships Australia: Access resources and counseling for relationship and family issues. Emergency Services: Call 000 in an emergency for immediate assistance. DVConnect Womensline: Call 1800 811 811 for support, 24/7. DV Connect Mensline: Call 1800 600 636 for advice and assistance for men. National Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) for 24/7 counseling and support. These resources are here to help you. Please don’t hesitate to reach out for support—you are not alone.     Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, so seek personalized legal advice tailored to your circumstances. 00:00 Introduction to Family Law Changes 01:09 Significant Changes in Family Law Act 03:35 Economic and Financial Abuse 06:48 Impact of Family Violence on Contributions 10:46 Wastage and Financial Misconduct 15:47 Pets and Family Law 19:12 Children Contact Centers 20:50 Accreditation and Safety in Contact Centers 22:01 Understanding Protected Confidences 25:15 Implications of New Legislation on Counseling 27:25 Property Reforms and Family Violence 31:26 Practical Steps for Ongoing Cases 36:32 Documenting Family Violence 38:44 Future Impacts and Final Thoughts  

Mediation is meant to be a pathway to resolution, but what happens when one party has no intention of settling? In this episode we explore the troubles and solutions of mediation, offering practical tips on how to navigate manipulative tactics and protect your mental health. Whether it’s property or parenting arrangements, this is an informative guide on what you can potentially expect before, during, and after mediation to stay one step ahead. If you’ve ever worried about being stuck in a mediation that feels like a game rather than a genuine effort to resolve issues, this episode is for you. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, so seek personalised legal advice tailored to your circumstances. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Want to prepare for an upcoming mediation session. ❓ Are unsure how to handle a manipulative ex during mediation. 💡 Need strategies to make mediation as productive as possible. 🛡 Are concerned about wasting time and money in mediation.  📚 Want tips to protect your legal and emotional boundaries. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: The Purpose of Mediation: Understanding its role in the divorce process and when it works best.  Manipulative Tactics to Watch For: Recognising red flags during mediation. Preparation Tips: How to gather evidence and set boundaries before mediation.  Strategies During Mediation: Getting small wins, staying focused, and not falling into traps. Post-Mediation Steps: Following up with offers and using mediation outcomes in court, even if no agreement is reached.  Common Pitfalls:  “Don’t be surprised if” scenarios, including last-minute walkouts and wild demands.  Emotional Management: How to stay calm and avoid frustration when things don’t go as planned. Links & Resources Mentioned: Course Enrolment: Join our Divorce Blueprint Course www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol before the deadline to get personalised guidance, legal education, and emotional support from Laura and Lynette. Platinum spots are limited—sign up now to secure your place. 4VOICES https://www.4voices.org.au/ Christmas Appeal https://4voiceschristmasappeal.raiselysite.com/  Episodes Mentioned in this 8 Ways to Protect yourself from DARVO and your Narcissistic Ex during Family Court https://youtu.be/pRMOfozwBKs?si=tDmJwHO3ch-uYhTg Mediation and negotiation tips for divorcing an ex with narcissistic behaviors / Ep. 99 https://youtu.be/JYqqDyWa5ns?si=k7G6OfpMwPP1Hqgg Costs, Family Court and Calderbank Offers / Ep. 65 https://youtu.be/0OKhDB8s3As?si=54omWq46LHn_Eb6R Do I really need a lawyer for divorce mediation or family dispute resolution? https://youtu.be/GB2lJftxdh4?si=BgdkYJrQTeokTlSK Master Your Divorce Negotiations: The Iron Fist Within the Velvet Glove Technique / Ep. 109 https://youtu.be/JSYc-yun-jM?si=VCefzLZb-ie-f1m9   Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)   Thank you for tuning in to this episode. We hope these strategies empower you to handle mediation with confidence and clarity. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Every share helps others find support during difficult times. Stay strong—you’ve got this.   Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, so seek personalized legal advice tailored to your circumstances. 00:00 Introduction and Overview 01:06 The Importance of Mediation in Divorce 02:23 Recognising Manipulative Tactics during divorce 03:53 Pre-Mediation Strategies for mediating with a narcissist or manipulative type 06:23 During Mediation: What to Expect 10:08 What can you do Post-Mediation 20:23 Making the Most of a Failed Mediation 25:41 What about Unrealistic Demands in Mediation 26:34 Preparing for Mediation Roadblocks 28:51 Handling Unexpected Settlement Outcomes 30:23 How to Deal with Manipulative Tactics 36:55 The Importance of Legal Representation 38:56 Lowering Expectations and Emotional Preparation for Mediation 43:41 Final Thoughts and Additional Resources #familycourt #familylaw #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #divorcinganarcissist #divorcesettlement #divorceplanning #familylawattorney #divorcesupport #mediation #divorcelawyer #divorcepodcast #childsupport #custodybattle

Facing the journey from separation to settlement can feel overwhelming and uncertain, but you’re not alone. In this episode, Laura and Lynette take you through the seven essential stages of the divorce process, from making the initial decision to separate, all the way to moving forward after your settlement. They share practical tips, emotional insights, and legal education to help you make empowered choices at every step. Whether you're at the beginning of this journey or somewhere in the middle, this episode offers a roadmap to guide you through. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are just starting your divorce journey and don’t know what comes next. ❓ Need help understanding the steps from separation to settlement. 💡 Want tips on managing property settlements, parenting plans, and legal agreements. 🛡 Are facing challenges with a high-conflict or manipulative ex. 📚 Want to learn how to move forward emotionally and financially after the settlement is done. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Deciding to Separate: Understanding the importance of making the decision and how to document it for legal purposes. Living Under One Roof: Strategies for managing separation when you’re still sharing a home due to financial or housing constraints. Understanding Your Legal Rights: Why seeking legal education or advice early is critical to protect yourself. Property and Financial Settlements: The steps involved in dividing assets, debts, and managing disclosure obligations. Parenting Plans and Agreements: How to create effective parenting arrangements that prioritise the best interests of your children. Finalising Legal Documents: What you need to know about consent orders, mediation, and navigating the court system if necessary. Moving Forward After Divorce: Tips for reclaiming your independence, managing finances, and building a new life. RESOURCES Course Enrolment: Join our Divorce Blueprint Course www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/enrol before the deadline to get personalised guidance, legal education, and emotional support from Laura and Lynette. Platinum spots are limited—sign up now to secure your place. Emergency Contacts: LEGAL AID https://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au/ Lifeline: 13 11 14 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia 1300 364 277 Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978     Thank you for tuning in to this episode. We hope it gives you clarity and confidence to take the next steps in your journey. Don’t forget to check out our course for step-by-step guidance and support through every stage of your divorce. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Stay strong, and remember—you’ve got this. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, and it’s important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your circumstances. 00:00 Introduction to the 7 Steps from Separation to Settlement 01:34 How to Make the Decision to Separate 03:36 Can you Be Separated Under One Roof in Divorce 06:51 How to find out Your Legal Rights and Obligations in Divorce 10:46 How to Divide Assets, Property, and Debt in Divorce 14:44 How to Create Parenting Plans and Arrangements 19:24 How to Navigate Legal Paperwork and Mediation in Divorce 20:57 How to learn about Divorce Applications and Time Limits 22:35 How to avoid the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce 23:48 How to get Empowerment Through Knowledge and Support in Divorce 27:28 How to Move Forward After Divorce 33:29 How to Join Our Supportive Divorce Community  

BONUS mini episode: Divorce is a challenging journey, and there are so many things we wish we’d known before starting out. In this special episode, I share three key insights I learned along the way—insights that could save you time, stress, and money. From setting firm boundaries to creating a clear plan and building a strong support system, these lessons are invaluable for anyone facing separation or divorce. And there’s more! Next week, we’re hosting a free, live webinar designed to support you wherever you are in your divorce journey. This session will cover everything from practical advice on setting boundaries and protecting your finances to tips for handling high-conflict communication. Join us for actionable insights and a live Q&A session with my mum, a family law expert. Webinar registration link https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/divorcewebinarregistration Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are beginning your divorce journey and need a roadmap to help guide your decisions. ❓ Want to hear practical, first-hand tips from someone who’s been through it. 💡 Need insights on handling emotional and financial boundaries during divorce. 🛡 Are curious about what our free webinar will cover and how it can help you. 📚 Want to learn how to build a strong support system to get through challenging times. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Setting Firm Boundaries: The importance of defining clear emotional and practical boundaries. Creating a Plan: How having a roadmap can help you feel more in control and prepared. Building a Support System: Why having friends, family, or a professional by your side is invaluable. DIVORCE Webinar Details: What to expect from our upcoming live webinar, including actionable insights and a live Q&A with a family law specialist. Webinar Highlights: Topics Covered: Boundaries, financial protection, handling high-conflict communication, and more. Live Q&A: Ask your specific questions and receive advice from a family law expert. Privacy Guaranteed: Participate as much or as little as you like in a safe, confidential space. Limited Spots: Click the link in our show notes or visit thedivorcecourse.com.au to save your seat! Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)     Thank you for tuning in to this episode! We hope these insights make your journey a little easier and empower you to take control of the process. And remember, don’t miss out on our final free webinar of the year next week—it’s an incredible opportunity to learn, ask questions, and find support. See you there! Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is unique, and it’s important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your circumstances. 00:00 Introduction and Setting Expectations 00:03 Three Things I Wish I Knew Before Divorce 00:17 Importance of Setting Boundaries with your ex 00:31 Having a Plan when going through the divorce process 00:52 Power of a Support System when facing divorce 01:08 Exciting Divorce Webinar Announcement 01:15 Webinar Details and Benefits 02:05 Addressing Concerns and Privacy 03:07 Final Thoughts and How to Register  

If you’ve ever felt that your ex is using the legal system to keep you trapped or that you’re facing ongoing harassment, this episode provides the support and strategies you need.  Divorce may mean separation, but sometimes, for those dealing with high-conflict exes, the abuse continues well after the split. In this episode, we discuss five key strategies to manage and escape post-separation abuse purgatory. From court misuse to constant control tactics, this episode offers crucial help for protecting yourself legally, emotionally, and financially.  Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are experiencing legal harassment or ongoing control tactics post-divorce. ❓ Want to know how to protect yourself from manipulative use of the court system. 💡 Need strategies for setting firm boundaries against a high-conflict ex. 🛡 Are navigating the court process with an ex who refuses to cooperate on settlements. 📚 Want insights on how recent Family Law changes impact post-separation dynamics. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Understanding Post-Separation Abuse: What it is, how it manifests, and why it’s so pervasive. Central Practice Directions: How this court directive aims to reduce misuse of the legal system. Section 117C Offers: Leveraging financial penalties to discourage frivolous court actions. Legal Documentation: Keeping a record of your ex’s actions and the importance of filing timelines. Emotional Boundaries: Techniques to mentally distance yourself from ongoing harassment. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general discussion for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice in any way at all. Every situation is unique, and it’s important to seek personalised legal advice tailored to your circumstances. When Divorce isn't the End: Handling Legal & Post-Separation Abuse Related Episodes that may be helpful: Post Separation Abuse Wheel Episode https://youtu.be/YALj5wsoe6k?si=OZp5WhOwyR7Omkyf How to divorce a statue https://youtu.be/tM75QvgjM_0?si=9tAnY9EXLu7JjcOS Family Court Vs Settling https://youtu.be/gYpW3znoY28?si=NvrUKsGVIlMt8WNC When your ex files in court - response to initiating application https://youtu.be/qTHDgWTjF1A?si=rETvrOrpMKf_IwzZ Navigating Community Legal Services https://youtu.be/4sEUhu6r07Q?si=Qjla_vk0NAZ2eS_U Decoding a word salad letter like a lawyer https://youtu.be/k0AhA3MIjM0?si=onpRY7wU7DTeC63Q Free Resources & Links: CENTRAL PRACTICE DIRECTIONS https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd Section 117c  of the Family Law Act https://classic.austlii.edu.au/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/s117c.html Free Webinar registration link https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/divorcewebinarregistration Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)     Thank you for tuning in to this episode on managing post-separation abuse. We hope these strategies offer you the tools and confidence to protect yourself and find peace beyond the courtroom. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Every rating helps others find support during difficult transitions. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general discussion for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice in any way at all. Every situation is unique, and it’s important to seek personalised legal advice tailored to your circumstances. 00:00 Introduction to Post Separation Abuse 00:23 Trigger Warnings and Support Resources 01:06 Podcast Introduction and Goals 01:26 Understanding Post Separation Abuse 03:26 Legal Protections: Central Practice Direction 11:56 Legal Protections: Section 117C 16:40 Taking Legal Action: Going to Court 22:41 New Legal Measures: Harmful Proceedings 23:12 Register Today! 23:22 Understanding Harmful Proceedings 24:20 Court's Role in Handling Harmful Litigants 27:56 Strategies for Dealing with Legal Abuse 33:04 Building Emotional Resilience 37:55 Support and Resources 38:52 Listener Feedback and Conclusion  

When going through a divorce or de facto separation, one of the biggest questions you’ll face is: Should I settle, or should I go to court? In this episode, we take an in depth look into the reasons why people choose to settle and why others decide to hold out for court. We discuss the risks, costs, and personal factors that play into this decision, while also highlighting potential pitfalls and traps that could influence you to settle too early or too late. Whether you’re in the early stages of property settlement or nearing mediation, this episode will help you think critically about your own situation. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Wish you could speak to others about their decisions to settle or go to court. ❓ Want to understand the risks and costs involved in going to court versus settling. 💡 Need insights on how to others have avoided settling for a bad offers or been pressured into an agreements. 🛡 Are navigating a high-conflict divorce and worried about making the right financial decisions and want to listen to what others have done in the past. 📚 Want to better understand how lawyers play a role in helping you decide when to settle. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Reasons to Settle: When taking your lawyer’s advice, financial risks, and emotional well-being make settling the best option. Risks of Going to Court: The potential for additional costs, including paying for your ex’s legal fees, and how this can impact your decision. Understanding Costs: How court costs and lawyer fees add up, and why it’s crucial to factor in these expenses when making your decision. Section 117 Offers: What they are, how they work, and why you should think carefully before rejecting a reasonable offer. Emotional Factors: How guilt, pressure, or anger can cloud judgement and lead to poor settlement decisions. Disclosure Issues: Why it’s essential to have financial disclosure before settling and how to handle situations where your ex isn't sharing all the information. Post-Separation Abuse: How ongoing manipulation and control can affect your or their decision to settle, and strategies to protect yourself from further harm. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Related Episodes: Understanding Legal Costs and Risks COSTS & CALDERBANK OFFERS https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/blog/costscourtcalderbankoffer Divorce Myths https://open.spotify.com/episode/33mBdotbKK4yLH586ZaWko?si=czer_l9VRIOVWxWxGSiJjg   The Premature Pitfalls of Percentage Negotiations ​​https://open.spotify.com/episode/6bxTgrdymCeW16Q7z5njUe?si=UPG5F5vtSNuHWCKwWWg32g Choosing your lawyer https://open.spotify.com/episode/0XQOMoxqaSpf5YrxTc50eR?si=KUq4BzFPQaeIndch9p-3QA   Red Flags when choosing a lawyer https://open.spotify.com/episode/6fR3jP75Z4amMlRCsEOAhJ?si=66f50b888bb44784 Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT)     Thank you for listening to this episode. We hope it helps you think critically about when to settle and when to go to court, while also providing the knowledge you need to protect yourself during your divorce journey. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances. 00:00 Introduction to Settling in Divorce 01:43 Understanding the Role of Lawyers in Settling 06:00 Cost-Benefit Analysis in Court Cases 10:21 Risks of Going to Family Court 16:25 Bad Reasons for Settling  19:52 Navigating Emotional Decisions in Divorce 20:30 Reasons People Settle in Divorce 21:34 Understanding the Family Law Act in your Divorce 22:49 Challenges with Disclosure in Property Settlement and Divorce 25:27 Unrealistic Expectations in Divorce outcomes 29:24 Dealing with Anger and Abuse during the divorce process 32:05 Denial and Acceptance in Divorce 34:26 Final Thoughts

This is a legal and emotional boundary check episode for you where we discuss 10 critical legal and emotional boundaries that are essential to maintain during this process. From communication and financial boundaries to setting clear limits on social media and handling high-conflict exes, this episode is packed with practical tips to help protect your emotional well-being and legal standing. Whether you're in the early stages of divorce or deep into the process, setting boundaries is crucial for navigating the journey with more clarity and peace of mind. Listen to This Episode If You: 🌟 Are dealing with communication challenges with your ex and need to set boundaries. ❓ Want to understand the importance of legal boundaries, such as avoiding pressure to sign documents. 💡 Are struggling with emotional boundaries and need tips on protecting your mental health. 🛡 Are co-parenting and need strategies for managing handovers or avoiding conflict. 📚 Want to learn how to set clear financial boundaries to protect your income and assets. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances and your country. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Communication Boundaries: How to manage communication with your ex, especially in high-conflict situations. Task Boundaries: Why it's important to divide responsibilities post-separation and avoid falling into old habits. Digital Boundaries: Protecting your privacy online, managing social media, and securing your email and iCloud accounts. Living Boundaries: Setting clear rules if you're still living under the same roof or need to protect your space post-separation. Financial Boundaries: The importance of separating accounts, handling child support, and protecting your finances from coercive control. Legal Boundaries: How to avoid being pressured into signing agreements and managing legal deadlines. Emotional Boundaries: Finding ways to protect your mental health and limiting the emotional toll of the divorce process. Physical Boundaries: Strategies for handling custody handovers and protecting your safety with restraining orders, if necessary. Family and Friend Boundaries: Setting limits on how involved your family and friends are in your divorce, while maintaining support. Children’s Boundaries: Keeping your kids out of adult matters and ensuring they are not used as messengers or spies. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast: Related Episodes: The Pitfalls of Percentage Arguements https://open.spotify.com/episode/6bxTgrdymCeW16Q7z5njUe?si=Bl0w1opYQHKk6UVHSZr6Qg Co-Parenting & Communication with Our Children Creator https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Nz2etsYgdMVym8BdcaLwE?si=O7mqw42aT6GZVF58tBopBw Separated Under One Roof Do’s & Don’ts  https://open.spotify.com/episode/2IXSOZ8vVadbcrq10DuxG0?si=_bVJyhtBS5edyJhjf10H1A What about their stuff dealing with your ex’s belongings in Divorce https://open.spotify.com/episode/2bPd3wWLQh3pzQmL2KCR0v?si=nqVtorlkTxq39fRZbm0L1g Overcoming Sleep Struggles during divorce https://open.spotify.com/episode/6klNAJWd2vMAl0LWJq8XCC?si=o0seCI1IQK-od5eAevRXcA When amicable goes wrong https://open.spotify.com/episode/1aK3dni8maqPLOx9vKQDG4?si=IFa7dV5yTkyw76LUXFf0Aw Power Dynamics Balancing Power and Progress https://open.spotify.com/episode/5I3WfPNkXncss2EI5jJwD1?si=S-8buOZNRa2wu2DW--0-JQ Financial Fairness in Divorce  https://open.spotify.com/episode/3S73M140m759WcOrrKms2k?si=YzpyqEpPT4iJ8EWeLbyuXg Disclosure  https://open.spotify.com/episode/07olqt4NN0MQQ0Y5KiHkP2?si=ojEdwxpgSWyg2pBb3EhWRA Handover Hell https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Pskjns3vZkLyv9FCefvxm?si=pfZ4ctZbS1CsjWJdoHifgw Navigating Parental Trash Talk https://open.spotify.com/episode/7bxqn5I6B1HCzO9r0zKnxY?si=kP__OnksRxivMCK8k8bMbw Links to other things https://www.ourfamilywizard.com.au/ https://www.ourchildren.com.au/ Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for tuning in to this episode about managing your income, expenses, and savings during the separation period. We hope this episode provides the knowledge and tools you need to protect yourself during the often tricky period before property settlement. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.   00:00 Introduction to Divorce Boundaries 02:41 Communication Boundaries 06:55 Task Boundaries 09:25 Digital Boundaries 15:28 Living Boundaries 18:59 Financial Boundaries 25:06 Managing Child Support and Private Agreements 26:51 Setting Legal Boundaries 30:20 Creating Emotional Boundaries 33:12 Establishing Custody and Restraining Orders 36:48 Navigating Family and Friendship Boundaries 43:29 Summary and Final Thoughts

What happens to your income, expenses and savings in the time between breaking up and official separation and getting final property orders? In this episode we take a look into what happens to your income, expenses, and savings during this in-between period. We discuss how the Family Court of Australia usually treats savings, the importance of documenting expenses, and how your wages may be considered. Whether you’re squirrelling away savings, managing a joint account, or figuring out how to navigate expenses after separation, this episode provides crucial insights to help you protect yourself during property settlements. They also tackle the concept of "ad backs" and when they might apply. Please note that this is a general discussion and everyone’s situation is different so please do not make any legal decisions based on this podcast discussion, always see a lawyer who knows the full facts of your case before making any decisions. Listen to This Episode If You:  🌟 Are confused about how savings are treated during the divorce process. ❓ Want to know how to manage expenses and income between separation and property settlement. 💡 Need to understand what happens to wages after separation. 🛡 Are unsure about how to protect yourself from your ex draining joint accounts or going on spending sprees. 📚 Want to learn how to document expenses and safeguard your assets in case of high-conflict situations. Key Ideas Discussed in This Episode: Savings and Property Settlements: How savings accumulated between separation and final property orders are sometimes handled. Income and Wages Post-Separation: What can happen to your wages after separation and why it’s sometimes crucial to separate your accounts. Reasonable Expenses: What the family court may consider as reasonable expenses during this period, from bills to childcare and beyond. Ad Backs Explained: Understanding what an "ad back" is and how it might affect your settlement if your ex has spent joint money. Documentation Is Key: The importance of tracking and documenting all financial transactions during the divorce process. Handling Joint Accounts: Ways to protect yourself from joint accounts being drained and what you can do if this happens. High-Conflict Tips: Strategies for protecting yourself financially when your ex is manipulative or controlling. Links & Resources Mentioned in the Podcast:  Related Episodes: Navigating the Mortgage Minefield in Divorce https://open.spotify.com/episode/4wPp... Help My Ex is spending all the money https://open.spotify.com/episode/32WS... Record Keeping: Protecting Yourself https://open.spotify.com/episode/4tNr... Protecting yourself from Darvo https://open.spotify.com/episode/0Jyf... Debt Episode https://open.spotify.com/episode/074h... Free Resources: Go to www.thedivorcecourse.com.au   Emergency Contacts: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE LEGAL AID Lifeline: 13 11 14 Mensline Australia: 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line: 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline: 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia Police: 000 DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) DV Connect Mensline: 1800 600 636 National DV line: 1800 737 732 (1800 RESPECT) Thank you for tuning in to this episode about managing your income, expenses, and savings during the separation period. We hope this episode provides the knowledge and tools you need to protect yourself during the often tricky period before property settlement. If you found this episode helpful, please rate, review, and subscribe. Your support helps others find the guidance they need. Stay strong and take care. Disclaimer: This podcast episode provides general legal education for Australians and is not a substitute for legal advice. Every situation is different, and it is important to seek independent legal advice tailored to your specific circumstances.  00:00 Introduction to Divorce & Money 01:31 Understanding Savings During Separation 03:08 Expenses and Their Impact on Property Settlement 06:04 The Concept of Ad Backs in Divorce 16:27 Managing Wages and Income Post-Separation 20:46 Understanding Financial Responsibilities Post-Separation 22:34 The Importance of Documentation and Mediation 24:21 Strategies for Managing Financial Manipulation 29:28 Navigating Government Support and Property Pools 32:45 The Role of Reasonable Living Expenses in Settlements 34:54 Proactive Steps for Financial Security 38:50 Final Thoughts