The Divorce Course Podcast

Are you freaking out about your divorce proceedings? At some point during everyone's divorce there may be a moment of panic or a feeling of hopelessness. This is the episode to listen to if you are worried. Let Lyn, a family law specialist of over 35 years experience explain the legal things she explains to her clients to calm them down when they are panicking. And some great tips you can use to eliminate more worry later down the track. Divorce and court isn't as scary as you think it is. We've got your back. Press play and feel better today. Sign up here for our next free online webinar  Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement  You Don't Want to Miss Out On Five points to remember when freaking out in divorce proceedings Your ex isn't special, the family court has seen it all before Why keeping notes of your divorce proceedings can help calm you in a moments of panic of your divorce What happens if mediation fails? How long it takes from initial application to final trial What are the new family court directives How to stop your ex from freaking you out. How to be proactive in your divorce proceedings instead of reactive. How to make plans before you ask for a response to something so you don't have to worry about what their response will be, if any. How to speed up your divorce process. Consequences and how to use them to help progress the matter forward. Drafting letters as your next response as a way to calm yourself Why setting your own divorce goals are important Why creating a action plan of steps needed is important Why you need a plan a, plan b and plan c to eliminate the panic How not to let the new year make you upset about your divorce. Divorce songs and how they can help you get the confidence to face the legal stuff. Why do you need to focus forward and live your life during the divorce process? How what you focus on can affect how you cope with your divorce process. How to reclaim your power after separation. You don't need your ex to do a thing to get your divorce finalised Why threats don't always end up in reality Why getting a psychologist can really help your mental health during your divorce proceedings.   If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different. 

We discuss what happens when you separate. Who should get the pets in a divorce? How the family court views pets and what they can do. And also what you can do to make sure the pet is taken care of in your divorce.  We look at other pet owners' solutions and how you can apply these yourself. We also discuss pets in domestic violence situations and where you can go to for help. Sign up here for our next free online webinar  Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement  You Don't Want to Miss Out On How your pet is viewed in the family court.  Is there anything in the family law act that refers to pets? Whats the difference between livestock and pets and how does the court deal with this? Can you work out an arrangement yourself to share the custody of the pets?  Can a family court judge make an order on the custody of a pet? How pet possession can be proven by registration papers?  Show dogs and divorce. What happens if your ex takes your pet? What should you do before separation with your pet? Why you should never leave pets with a person who has committed DV. T Domestic Violence and Pet Care Disability Pet or Support Animals and Divorce Property Settlement and Pets are they included as assets? Consent orders and financial agreements and pets. If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different. 

REGISTER for our next free online webinar  ACCESS THE DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Checklist for your divorce and property settlement Today's Listener Divorce Questions:   This podcast is general advice only How can you change existing parenting orders? Can you change your parenting orders after a few years? What is the main aim of the practice direction for the federal circuit and family court of australia? What is the case of the Rice & Asplin case of 1978 and how to relate to wanting to change parenting orders. Centrelink payments and your property settlement, what you need to know The family law act and what it says about money from the government in property settlement and divorce. Post separation savings and in the property settlement. What happens to your bank account savings you've saved after separation in the divorce proceedings. Can you keep the money for yourself in property settlement? Send your questions to thedivorcecoursepodcast@gmail.com  Follow us on Instagram Join us on Facebook Find out more about the divorce course podcast If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you. 

Sign up here for our next free online webinar  Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Click here for our free checklist for your divorce and property settlement Part 1 of our property settlement and divorce series.  This episode covers the factors and assets that are considered when thinking about contribution before marriage or cohabitation and who gets what after divorce. We discuss: How the length of Marriage can make a difference to the outcome? How the size of the Property Pool can affect the outcome? How can it matter what you and your partner do with the assets during the marriage? How superannuation before cohabitation is considered in property settlement.  Stay tuned for PART 2 contributions during the marriage and PART 3 contributions after the marriage and how it could affect your property settlement during divorce?  You Don't Want to Miss Out On   Why the length of your marriage matters in property settlement in divorce. How does what you bring into the marriage get sorted out when you get divorce? What is a contribution? The difference in a property settlement for a 30 year marriage to a 10 year marriage? If you bring in a house or shares it doesn't automatically be given back to you at separation.  What is considered a short marriage? How do children factor into property settlement percentage?  A case of gold bars under the waterbed Why furniture and pianos don't count as contributions at the beginning of the marriage What things are considered contributions at the beginning of a marriage? How to get proof that you bought a house before marriage Superannuation. If you have not brought anything into the marriage at all can you end up with some property in your divorce settlement? How future needs are considered in a property settlement.  If you helped pay child support for your ex's kids can you get the money back after divorce? What do you do if your contributions before marriage are not being acknowledged by the other side? When might it be not a great idea to fight for initial contributions to be acknowledged in court? Why it is important to put in the effort and do the work to get the evidence before mediation. How to negotiate with a narcissist during property settlement. If your ex changes everything into their mothers name can it still be included in the property pool?  Does it matter if your ex changes their assets into someone else's name?   If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different. 

REGISTER for our next free online webinar  ACCESS THE DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT Checklist for your divorce and property settlement Today's Divorce Listener Questions:   What happens to the money from your house sale after it is sold but you are still in divorce proceedings? What happens after you and your ex have signed a property agreement or have property settlement? Can you file another affidavit after your initial affidavit to the court? What can you do if an affidavit filed in your case is full of lies?  How the family court is streamlining their system What is the new Family law practice management aiming to streamline the court processes for separation and divorce proceedings? What are the new case practice management directions of the Family  court and how does it change things? General advice only Send your questions tothedivorcecoursepodcast@gmail.com    Follow us on Instagram Join us on Facebook Find out more about the divorce course podcast   If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womenslineon 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Menslineon 1800 600 636 National DV lineon 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732  Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone's situation is different.

Over Lyns many years of Family Law experience she has found that there are typically four different types of divorces. The strategies and outcomes you use can change based on what type of divorce you are facing. If you intend on following through with each step that the divorce course podcast intends to lay out, it is important to identify your type. The mother daughter duo Lyn and Laura will be referring to each stage and referring to what is best to do based on the type of divorce you determine from this episode.  Lyn aims to talk to people like she talks to people in consultation, with her daughter Laura, asking the questions you would most likely ask during the visit.    You don't want to miss: Knowing your type of divorce An overall summary of what to expect in these types of separations. A basic summary of the steps in the divorvce process Some simple basic 101 rules to start following in your communication with your ex partner. !  Lyns plainly put divorce tips.   Links and resources: Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcecourse Join us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thedivorcecoursepodcast 1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss out on the next steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon.  And, if you've found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review. Thank you. 

Listen to this episode if… You're thinking about dating before your divorce, property or children's matters are final Your ex has a new partner and you're worried about parenting or property issues You're unsure how the court sees new relationships in family law matters You want to know what's okay, what's risky, and what doesn't matter at all Wondering if it's okay to date while your divorce is still in progress? You're not alone. In this episode, we unpack the legal, emotional, and strategic impacts of dating during divorce especially when children, property settlements, or court appearances are involved. Whether you've just met someone new, or your ex is already flaunting their next relationship, we break down how new partners can influence family law outcomes in both parenting and property matters. We cover the risks, realities, and misconceptions about what the court actually looks at and how to protect your position without putting your future on hold. 📌 Please remember this episode is for general information only and does not replace individual legal or safety advice. For immediate support in Australia, contact 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732.     🔑 Episode Timeline: [00:00] Introduction: How New Relationships Can Impact Your Divorce Case [01:13] Important Legal Disclaimer and Emotional Trigger Warnings [02:02] Can a New Partner Affect Your Property Settlement in Divorce? [09:35] Understanding No-Fault Divorce and How History Shaped Today's Rules [15:11] Spousal Maintenance: Does Repartnering Change Eligibility? [19:50] Child Support Implications When a New Partner Has Money [22:11] Parenting Orders and Custody: What Role Do New Partners Play? [25:25] How the Court Prioritizes Children's Welfare Over Relationship Status [26:03] When (and How) to Introduce Your Kids to a New Partner [28:13] Coercive Control, Repartnering, and Family Court Considerations [30:05] What Are New Partners Responsible for in a Family Law Context? [31:46] Red Flags: What Family Court Looks for in New Relationships [33:34] Raising Concerns About New Partners Without Going to Court [39:43] How to Document and Present Concerns the Right Way [42:51] Does the Court Judge You for Repartnering During Divorce? [45:16] Final Takeaways: Moving Forward with Caution and Clarity   🔗 Links & Resources: 1800RESPECT – 24/7 Support Service Daisy App – Connect to Local Services Technology and Safety Guide Before you go Checklist - https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/opt-in   Example Safety plans template - https://yourtoolkit.com/resource/safety-plan-template/   Family Court Safety Plan information https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/pubs/fl/fvbpp#intro   The Purple Book https://domesticviolence.com.au/resources/the-purple-book/ Episode Links   Separated under one roof do's and don'ts https://open.spotify.com/episode/2IXSOZ8vVadbcrq10DuxG0?si=RXwC_koDSD2foKqOEIENBQ   Stuck under one roof what are your options https://open.spotify.com/episode/1i5baNjrk3XwbD1KrHC8hb?si=s-umof6ATtWWhdm893idUg   Reporting Family Violence or Coercive Control to Police https://open.spotify.com/episode/3EZwSuK51JNZjHT8r4Wzz9?si=p5MmpiUKSmC9UqHLyfMAvw 🚨 Support Services: Safe Beds RSPCA - check your state for details https://www.rspcaqld.org.au/what-we-do/save-animals/Pets%20in%20Crisis%20Program   1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support – Australia) Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support – Australia) 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. This discussion is based in Australia. Warning discussions for Family Violence occur in this episode.   📲 Don't forget to follow, rate & review the podcast if you found this episode helpful. Share it with someone who might need it too!   ⚠️ Legal Disclaimer & Trigger Warning: This episode is for general education and discussion only. It is not legal advice. Always seek guidance from a qualified legal professional for your specific situation. Discussions of Family Violence and Coercive Control.  

 Listen to this episode if… You're in a relationship or home where you feel unsafe You've left but still don't feel secure You're not ready to leave yet but want to prepare You're supporting someone who may be experiencing abuse You want to understand how to help a friend or loved one stay safe You have a court or mediation event you need to attend with an unsafe ex 📌 Please remember this episode is for general information only and does not replace individual legal or safety advice. For immediate support in Australia, contact 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732. When things feel uncertain or even unsafe it's not being paranoid to think ahead. It's being prepared. In this important episode, we break down what a safety plan actually is, why it matters, and how to build one tailored to your situation. Whether you're living with abuse, planning to leave, or simply want to feel more secure going through the Family Court, we talk through the key steps and considerations from protecting your children to securing your documents and digital life. You'll learn how safety planning can be a quiet, empowering way to take back control and set up the support you need. I also share resources, tools, and who to call if you want help doing it safely and confidentially. 🔑 Episode Timeline: From Fear to Freedom: Creating a Safety Plan Before You Need One Safety Plans — What They Are & How to Make One 00:00 – Introduction: What is a Safety Plan and Why It Matters Overview of safety planning and who needs one. 02:06 – Why You Might Need a Safety Plan for Domestic Violence Signs, risks, and when it's time to prepare. 03:41 – Recognising Coercive Control and Hidden Danger Signals How emotional and behavioural control can put you at risk. 07:55 – Step‑by‑Step Guide to Creating Your Safety Plan Essential steps to start planning your safety today. 09:04 – Safety at Home: Preparing for a Potential Escape Practical tips for making your environment safer. 16:33 – Safety Technology: Real‑Time Tracking and Digital Risk Understanding digital abuse and how it affects your plan. 16:57 – Important Documents You Should Have Ready Checklist of documents to keep handy for safety or sudden departure. 17:33 – Leaving Without Explanation: When It's Necessary How to plan a quiet departure without alerting an abuser. 18:10 – The Power of Code Words and Communication Safety Using discreet signals to reach out for help. 19:20 – Planning Your Escape Route: Fast and Safe Exits How to map out the quickest way out when it's unsafe to stay. 20:11 – Handling Vehicle Safety and Transport During Escape Car strategies and avoiding being blocked in. 23:29 – Keeping Your Pets Safe During an Escape Plan Options and programs that support pets in family violence situations. 24:22 – Work, Online and Tech Safety Measures Protecting your devices, social media, and work life from monitoring or abuse. 27:00 – Staying Safe After Leaving a Violent Situation Changes to routines, communication, and personal security. 27:56 – Legal Steps to Support Your Safety Plan Protection orders, police involvement, and legal safety mechanisms. 30:58 – Final Thoughts: You Are Not Alone — Support Is Available Encouragement and next steps with reminder resources.   🔗 Links & Resources: 1800RESPECT – 24/7 Support Service Daisy App – Connect to Local Services Technology and Safety Guide Before you go Checklist - https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/opt-in   Example Safety plans template - https://yourtoolkit.com/resource/safety-plan-template/   Family Court Safety Plan information https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/pubs/fl/fvbpp#intro   The Purple Book https://domesticviolence.com.au/resources/the-purple-book/   Episode Links Who gets the Car in the long and short term https://open.spotify.com/episode/7CmoF5nrBhVfDlJgVyXlGp?si=uXtMvH1dRoG74CSd-7pD9w Separated under one roof do's and don'ts https://open.spotify.com/episode/2IXSOZ8vVadbcrq10DuxG0?si=RXwC_koDSD2foKqOEIENBQ Stuck under one roof what are your options https://open.spotify.com/episode/1i5baNjrk3XwbD1KrHC8hb?si=s-umof6ATtWWhdm893idUg Reporting Family Violence or Coercive Control to Police https://open.spotify.com/episode/3EZwSuK51JNZjHT8r4Wzz9?si=p5MmpiUKSmC9UqHLyfMAvw 🚨 Support Services: Safe Beds RSPCA - check your state for details https://www.rspcaqld.org.au/what-we-do/save-animals/Pets%20in%20Crisis%20Program 1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support – Australia) Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support – Australia) 📲 Don't forget to follow, rate & review the podcast if you found this episode helpful. Share it with someone who might need it too! ⚠️ Legal Disclaimer & Trigger Warning: This episode is for general education and discussion only. It is not legal advice. Always seek guidance from a qualified legal professional for your specific situation. Discussions of Family Violence and Coercive Control.

💡 Listen to this episode if... You're navigating Christmas while going through separation or divorce You're co-parenting and worried about holiday arrangements or conflict You feel pressure from family and don't know how to handle it You're confused about what to expect from lawyers or the courts over the break You're worried about an emotional or legal crisis over the holidays ⚠️ Legal Disclaimer & Trigger Warning: This episode is for general education and discussion only. It is not legal advice. Always seek guidance from a qualified legal professional for your specific situation. Discussions of Family Violence and Coercive Control. Holidays can bring joy, but during separation or divorce, it can also bring stress, confusion, and conflict. If you're dreading the tough conversations this holiday season, you're not alone and this episode is here to help. Mum and I walk through how to manage communication with all the key players during the festive period: your co-parent, your lawyer, your kids, extended family, and even the courts or police. Whether you're trying to set healthy boundaries, stuck living under one roof, or bracing for something to blow up we've got practical strategies to get you through it. ⏱️ Episode Timeline:  00:00 – Introduction: Navigating the Holidays During Divorce 01:52 – Communication Challenges for Divorcing Couples During the Holidays 03:10 – Should You Talk to Your Divorce Lawyer Over the Holiday Break? 06:00 – Co-Parenting Holiday Conflicts & Practical Solutions 13:19 – Managing Property Settlements During the Holiday Season 18:33 – Living Together While Separated: How to Handle the Holidays 22:55 – How to Communicate Holiday Plans with Your Kids During Divorce 26:44 – When to Reach Out to the Court During Holiday Disputes 26:57 – Understanding Court Closures & Delays Over the Holidays 28:06 – Urgent Divorce Matters: Emergency Contacts & What to Do 28:41 – How to Document Incidents for Court During the Holidays 29:16 – Handling Non-Emergency Divorce or Co-Parenting Issues 33:26 – When to Contact the Police During Divorce or Custody Conflicts 37:46 – Setting Boundaries with Family During a Holiday Divorce 39:16 – Creating Emergency Plans & Safety Measures 44:47 – Mental Health Tips for Coping with Divorce During the Holidays 47:04 – Engaging with Your Community for Support 48:07 – Final Thoughts & Holiday Farewell   Resources Central Practice Directions https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd   Free Disclosure Checklist https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist Episode Links   From no no no to Ho Ho ho in your divorce  https://open.spotify.com/episode/3K7q02MlJr1VRteK7uJyTe?si=C1dm9sHMTV2NUuagpYllWw   Christmas & CoParenting https://open.spotify.com/episode/3fcY2B7N0lDo8U1WAqozVz?si=i_RzkSgMSPSbMT4ZeZqDVA Separated for the Holidays How to deal with it emotionally https://open.spotify.com/episode/4zzVKOc0LJY3uZhnLXfiJC?si=LT0sg7wMT3OACnFHOER8AA   CoParenting without Court Orders https://open.spotify.com/episode/05BC7rliGHpKcQ58JJzZej?si=iKR82uY6S2G-SF_XHeltQA   Handover Hell https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Pskjns3vZkLyv9FCefvxm?si=v8ILJ4p3Qi6dycn4WhEv4g   Separated under one roof do's and don'ts https://open.spotify.com/episode/2IXSOZ8vVadbcrq10DuxG0?si=RXwC_koDSD2foKqOEIENBQ   Stuck under one roof what are your options https://open.spotify.com/episode/1i5baNjrk3XwbD1KrHC8hb?si=s-umof6ATtWWhdm893idUg   Reporting Family Violence or Coercive Control to Police https://open.spotify.com/episode/3EZwSuK51JNZjHT8r4Wzz9?si=p5MmpiUKSmC9UqHLyfMAvw 🚨 Support Services: 1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support – Australia) Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support – Australia) 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. This discussion is based in Australia. Warning discussions for Family Violence occur in this episode. 📲 Don't forget to follow, rate & review the podcast if you found this episode helpful. Share it with someone who might need it too!  

💡 Listen to this episode if... You're preparing for mediation or trying to negotiate privately What to learn the potential  do's and don'ts of negotiations in divorce You feel like your ex is "sitting pretty" and not engaging You want to know the difference between reasonable and risky offers You've made concessions early on and don't know how to recover You want to avoid court, but still get a fair deal You are in court and want it over ⚠️ Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general education and discussion only. It is not legal advice. Always seek guidance from a qualified legal professional for your specific situation. ⏱️ Episode Timeline: Smart Divorce Negotiation Strategies That Actually Work 00:00 – Introduction to Divorce Negotiation Strategies Why negotiation matters and how to approach it with confidence. 00:33 – Meet the Hosts + Legal Disclaimer Who we are and a reminder this episode is for educational purposes only. 01:15 – Understanding the 3 Stages of Divorce Negotiation How strategy shifts between early separation, mediation, and court prep. 03:40 – Early Stage Negotiation Tips: Don't Rush, Repackage Your Offer Using smart presentations to make your offer sound more appealing. 07:54 – Mediation Tactics: Window Dressing and Framing Percentages How to reshape your proposal to match your ex's language and values. 20:04 – Mid-Stage Negotiation: When to Turn Up the Heat Signs it's time to get firmer and more structured in your approach. 22:05 – Using Real Court Cases to Support Your Offer Legal precedents and examples that make your proposal more persuasive. 26:09 – Common Myths and Mistakes in Divorce Negotiation Misunderstandings around legal advice and negotiation timelines. 27:29 – The Risk of Delaying Legal Action Too Long What happens when you wait too long to formalize your agreement? 28:01 – Understanding Pre-Action Procedure Letters and Legal Guidelines What they are, why they matter, and how they shape negotiation. 28:58 – Using Legal Costs as a Leverage Tool How to show what delays or refusals could cost in real terms. 29:23 – Should You Mention Court in Negotiation? When and Why Using the "threat of court" wisely to re-engage a stalled process. 33:02 – Smart Strategies for Writing Pre-Action Letters How to set the tone and expectations before heading to court. 34:53 – Court Door Negotiation Tactics: Calderbank Offers and Timing Last-minute strategies that could settle your case without trial. 38:53 – Do's and Don'ts of Divorce Negotiation The best and worst moves people make—and how to avoid mistakes. 51:21 – Final Thoughts: Confidence, Control, and Long-Term Focus Why the goal is clarity, closure, and fairness—not "winning."    📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. This discussion is based in Australia. Warning discussions for Family Violence occur in this episode   Resources Central Practice Directions https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd   Free Disclosure Checklist https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist   FCFCOA Judgements - Cases https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/judgments Episode Links   Pitfalls of percentages in Negotiations Early On https://open.spotify.com/episode/6bxTgrdymCeW16Q7z5njUe?si=RWmY0i9eTuyWdUNQIuKNQg https://youtu.be/o1n16TyarUo?si=hdxY73U3ZZ4gJ3Uj Boundaries in Divorce https://youtu.be/5KSMYe6ctVE?si=KyJGKYneiBek41fe Costs and Calderbank Offers https://open.spotify.com/episode/2B2Se7hTIBAOg5f5YJ5wqE?si=EUOrEmeAQCWr6BOFt3RtuQ https://youtu.be/0OKhDB8s3As?si=Vub2ujv1mapniv8L Divorce Dynamic, balancing power with progress https://open.spotify.com/episode/5I3WfPNkXncss2EI5jJwD1?si=YsTIkKDXTiqFIyDN7Qwn-g From no no no to Ho Ho ho in your divorce  https://open.spotify.com/episode/3K7q02MlJr1VRteK7uJyTe?si=C1dm9sHMTV2NUuagpYllWw 🚨 Support Services: 1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support – Australia) Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support – Australia) 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.   📲 Don't forget to follow, rate & review the podcast if you found this episode helpful. Share it with someone who might need it too!

Listen to this episode if… You're feeling emotionally overloaded Everyone around you has an opinion and it's stressing you out You're being pushed to make decisions faster than you're ready for You're not sure what's a legal deadline vs. emotional urgency You're feeling pressure from all sides to get things sorted You are overwhelmed    📌 Legal Disclaimer & Trigger Warning: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. This discussion is based in Australia. Warning discussions for Family Violence occur in this episode. Are you feeling completely overwhelmed by your separation or divorce? Like everything is urgent, everyone needs something from you You are not alone and this episode is here to help. In this conversation, Mum and I walk through 8 practical ways to calm the chaos, slow things down, and take back control of your divorce journey. We cover emotional overwhelm, confusing legal pressure, and the early survival strategies that can make all the difference. Whether you're still in shock or already knee-deep in logistics, this episode is your gentle reminder that you don't have to do it all at once and you shouldn't.   ⏱️ Episode Timeline: Divorce Overwhelm – 8 Ways to Stay Sane When Everything Feels Urgent 00:00 – Introduction: Overcoming Divorce Overwhelm Why everything feels urgent—and how this episode can help you breathe again. 00:21 – Feeling Pressured to Make Fast Decisions During Divorce How panic can lead to poor choices and what to do instead. 00:28 – 8 Practical Strategies to Regain Control in Separation Overview of what you'll learn and how to use these tips right away. 00:51 – Welcome and What This Episode Covers Who this episode is for and why this conversation matters. 01:08 – The Stress of Divorce Deadlines and Decision Fatigue How urgency from lawyers, family, or your ex can overwhelm you. 03:17 – Legal vs. Emotional Deadlines: Know the Difference Understanding what's truly urgent and what can wait. 06:50 – The Emotional Shock of a Breakup Why you're not functioning "normally" and that's okay. 13:48 – Setting Boundaries with Family and Friends During Divorce How to protect your peace from well-meaning (but draining) input. 19:48 – Prioritizing Safety, Shelter, and Stability First Triage your needs: food, housing, money, transport before anything else. 23:34 – Recognizing and Responding to Financial Abuse What financial control looks like—and how to get support. 24:09 – Why Self-Care Is Essential, Not Optional Simple ways to take care of yourself when everything feels like too much. 28:10 – Making Space for Grief and Emotional Recovery Letting yourself feel, cry, and heal without guilt. 30:41 – How Learning the Process Can Help You Feel Empowered Education as a tool to reduce panic and increase confidence. 34:32 – Creating a New Divorce Routine That Works for You Using structure and small steps to take back control of your life. 39:29 – Final Thoughts: You've Got This, One Step at a Time Encouragement, next steps, and reminding you—you're not alone. Resources Central Practice Directions https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd   Free Disclosure Checklist https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist Episode Links Boundaries in Divorce https://youtu.be/5KSMYe6ctVE?si=KyJGKYneiBek41fe   🚨 Support Services: 1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support – Australia) Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support – Australia) 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. 📲 Don't forget to follow, rate & review the podcast if you found this episode helpful. Share it with someone who might need it too!  

Listen to this episode if… You're in the middle of a separation and unsure what advice to follow Friends, family, or Facebook have told you "what to do" You've heard you can't leave the house without losing everything You feel pressured not to bring up domestic violence You're confused about disclosure, super splitting, or property rights  📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. This discussion is based in Australia. ALSO TRIGGER WARNING Discussions of Family Violence Have you been told that if you leave the house, you lose everything? Or that you shouldn't mention domestic violence in family court? These are just a few examples of the harmful myths in Australia we hear all too often in separation and divorce. In this episode, Laura & Lyn expose some of the worst legal advice circulating in family law and explain why it can derail your case, delay your outcome, or damage your safety and rights. They break down five of the most common (and dangerous) misconceptions, share what the law really says, and help you feel more confident about asking the right questions of your lawyer and making informed decisions.  ⏱️ Episode Timeline: Episode 221 Family Law Myths Don't Fall for These 5 During Separation 00:00 – Introduction: Debunking Common Family Law Myths Why bad legal advice is everywhere—and how it can derail your case. 01:42 – The Real Impact of Misinformation in Separation and Divorce What happens when you follow outdated or incorrect legal advice. 05:37 – Myth #1: "If You Leave the House, You Lose Your Property Rights" Why leaving the family home doesn't mean forfeiting your share. 12:48 – Myth #2: "You Must Have Every Document Before You Can Settle" The truth about financial disclosure and realistic expectations. 19:40 – Myth #3: "Don't Mention Domestic Violence in Court" How this dangerous myth puts safety and outcomes at risk. 24:19 – Understanding Family Violence and Property Entitlements How abuse can affect how assets are divided. 25:19 – Should You Mention Domestic Violence in Family Court? Legal perspectives on disclosure and protection. 25:50 – Spousal Maintenance: Know When and How to Ask Why it's often overlooked—and how to advocate for yourself. 26:43 – Myth Busting: Are Addbacks Still Used in Property Settlements? Clarifying a misunderstood financial concept in family law. 28:57 – Myth #5: "Superannuation Must Be Split 50/50" Exploring how super splitting really works under Australian law. 32:16 – How to Educate Yourself and Work Better with Your Lawyer Tips for being informed, assertive, and legally empowered. 35:32 – Final Thoughts and How to Enrol in the Divorce Course Practical next steps and how to get more support. 41:53 – Listener Reviews and Community Shoutouts Sharing your feedback and how to get involved. Resources Central Practice Directions https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd   Free Disclosure Checklist https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist Episode Links   Superannuation and Equalising super https://youtu.be/2BQEHmIwjio?si=kWg9F8c8rh4X8HqB 🚨 Support Services: 1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support – Australia) Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support – Australia) 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.   📲 Don't forget to follow, rate & review the podcast if you found this episode helpful. Share it with someone who might need it too!  

Listen to this episode if... You've been offered child inclusive mediation and don't know what to expect You're worried about how separation is affecting your child You're in a high-conflict co-parenting situation or dealing with coercive control You've been told that involving your child in mediation will "help" You want to make informed, child-centered decisions in your family law journey  📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. This discussion is based in Australia. In this powerful episode, Mum and I dive into a topic that's being promoted more and more in family law: Child Inclusive Mediation. On the surface, it sounds like a child-focused solution. But is it really in the best interest of your child? We break down what child inclusive mediation actually involves, why it's not always as neutral or helpful as it's made out to be, and the serious emotional and legal implications it can have especially in high-conflict separations or situations involving coercive control. From personal reflections to legal insights, we share why we're concerned about this process and what you need to consider before agreeing to include your child in any mediation setting. What You'll Learn What child inclusive mediation really means in practice The difference between therapeutic support vs. pressure on children to speak up When this process might backfire emotionally or legally Why family reports may be a safer and more protective alternative Red flags and questions to ask before you say yes ⏱️ Episode Timeline: Is Child Inclusive Mediation Helpful or Harmful? 00:00 – Introduction: What Is Child Inclusive Mediation? An overview of this growing mediation trend in family law and why it's controversial. 01:29 – How the Mediation Process Works in Parenting Disputes Understanding how mediation fits into separation and custody discussions. 03:44 – Defining Child Inclusive Mediation in Australian Family Law Breaking down what actually happens when children are included in mediation. 05:52 – The Risks and Red Flags of Child Inclusive Mediation Emotional pressure, manipulation, and when this process may do more harm than good. 08:00 – Confidentiality Issues and the Emotional Toll on Children What children are told, how their information is used, and the psychological impact. 13:42 – The Problem with Over-Interviewing Children in Family Law Why repeated interviews can traumatize kids and undermine the process. 20:00 – Real Concerns About Child Inclusive Mediation in Practice Legal and ethical questions raised by lawyers, parents, and professionals. 21:07 – How Child Inclusive Mediation Affects Older Children Teen-specific concerns, autonomy, and the danger of putting kids in the middle. 23:42 – Family Reports vs. Child Inclusive Mediation A safer alternative? What to expect from a court-ordered family report. 24:41 – DIY Divorce Blueprint: Free Resource Mentioned How to get practical tools to guide you through separation and co-parenting. 28:27 – Key Questions to Ask Before Agreeing to Child Inclusive Mediation What to consider if this process has been suggested to you. 32:49 – Final Thoughts: Protecting Your Child's Voice and Mental Health Wrapping up with a parent-first, child-protective perspective. Resources Central Practice Directions https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd Free Disclosure Checklist https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist   🚨 Support Services: 1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support – Australia) Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support – Australia) 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.   📲 Don't forget to follow, rate & review the podcast if you found this episode helpful. Share it with someone who might need it too!  

Listen to this episode if... You're newly separated and trying to figure out parenting arrangements. You don't have court orders yet and things are already getting tense. Your ex is unreliable, manipulative, or emotionally unpredictable. You're feeling pressured to agree to arrangements that feel unsafe or unfair. You want to avoid court but don't want to be taken advantage of. Trying to co-parent after separation without court orders? This episode offers a general discussion that may help you better understand the common challenges many face during this stage. Mum and I talk through the confusion, conflict, and emotional chaos that often arise when parenting without formal agreements in place. We explore how co-parenting typically unfolds in the early days post-separation, the general differences between parenting plans and court orders, and what can happen when one parent starts making sudden changes like; withholding time with the kids, shifting pick-up arrangements, or insisting on "rules" that were never agreed upon. If you're feeling unsure about whether to formalize your arrangements, being pressured into something that feels unfair, or just don't know where to start, this episode provides a helpful overview, insights, and discussion points to consider. Please remember this is not legal advice. Always speak with a qualified professional for advice on your specific situation.  📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. This discussion is based in Australia. Co-Parenting Without Court Orders: The Real Rules and Red Flags You Need to Know Episode Timeline Summary:  00:00 – Introduction: Co-Parenting After Separation Setting the stage for co-parenting challenges in the early days of separation. 01:23 – Myths and Misunderstandings About Separation Rules What many parents get wrong after they separate—and what's important to know. 03:42 – How to Decide Where the Kids Live After Separation Living arrangements, routines, and initial decisions—without court orders. 07:48 – Co-Parenting with a Manipulative or Controlling Ex Recognizing red flags and what to consider if you're being pressured or gaslit. 13:46 – Strategies for Co-Parenting with an Avoidant Ex When your ex won't engage or avoids parenting responsibilities. 18:40 – Managing High-Conflict Co-Parenting Situations What to do when emotions run high and agreements fall apart. 20:45 – Parenting Plans vs Court Orders: What's the Difference? Legal strength, enforceability, and when each option makes sense. 24:02 – Making Parenting Agreements Without Going to Court What to include, how to approach it, and setting healthy boundaries. 24:31 – Signs You're Dealing with a Manipulative Co-Parent Control tactics, emotional abuse, and maintaining your parenting role. 25:40 – Do You Need Court Orders or Is a Parenting Plan Enough? Legal protections and risks of informal arrangements. 28:38 – What to Do When Your Ex Avoids All Responsibility How to respond when you're carrying the full parenting load alone. 31:31 – High-Conflict Parenting Post-Separation Tips for managing ongoing disputes and protecting the kids. 33:51 – When Your Ex Ignores the Parenting Agreement Understanding your rights and the next steps if the agreement isn't followed. 35:02 – When to Consider Court Orders: Timing and Triggers Knowing the signs that it's time to formalize your parenting arrangement. 40:04 – Family Violence, Supervised Contact & Legal Protections When safety becomes an issue—and what support is available. 47:43 – Final Thoughts: Stay Grounded and Protect Your Peace Encouragement, next steps, and key reminders moving forward. Resources Central Practice Directions https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd   Free Disclosure Checklist https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist   Episode Links   The Hidden Connection between Property and Parenting in Divorce https://youtu.be/w0-TnEjMmhs?si=_y1n3i0fejy04W2L   10 Essential Boundaries in Divorce https://youtu.be/5KSMYe6ctVE?si=nqq4fmavJGu25Z2X 🚨 Support Services: 1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support – Australia) Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support – Australia) 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.   📲 Don't forget to follow, rate & review the podcast if you found this episode helpful. Share it with someone who might need it too!  

Listen to this episode if... You're divorcing  or separating from someone who owns or runs a business. You're in a family business with your ex and things are getting murky. You suspect your ex is hiding assets or undervaluing the business. You're overwhelmed by the complexity of business valuations in divorce. You're preparing for mediation or court and want to understand your options.  📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances. Divorcing a business owner or running a business with your soon-to-be ex? You must hear this. In this eye-opening episode, Mum and I dive into the most common and sneaky tricks business owners use during separation and how to stay one step ahead. From manipulating business valuations to hiding assets in clone companies, refusing disclosure, and even dragging staff into the mess, we break down each tactic with real-world examples and strategies you can use. Whether you're preparing for mediation or already deep in the property settlement process, this is a must-listen for anyone who suspects their ex isn't playing fair when a business is involved.   Episode Timeline Summary: Business Tricks in Divorce: 10 Sneaky Tactics to Watch Out For and Outsmart! 00:00 – Intro: Divorce and Business Ownership Understanding why divorcing a business owner is uniquely challenging. 01:06 – Real-Life Divorce Scenarios with a Business Involved What happens when you're in business with your ex—or they own one. 03:02 – Trick #1: Making the Business Seem Worthless How business owners hide value before property settlement. 08:12 – Trick #2: Starting a New Business to Hide Assets The "mirror business" strategy and how to uncover it. 09:26 – Trick #3: Issuing New Shares to Dilute Ownership What to do when your share of the business suddenly shrinks. 12:41 – Trick #4: Hiding Income and Creating Fake Tax Debts How income manipulation affects child support and property division. 17:58 – Trick #5: Refusing to Allow a Business Valuation Steps to take when your ex delays or avoids business valuation. 19:58 – Legal Disclaimer: General Education Only Reminder to seek personal legal advice for your situation. 20:39 – How Courts Handle Business Valuation & Disclosure Why you don't need full financial disclosure to move forward. 21:31 – Trick #6: Cooking the Books & Cash Deals Spotting hidden income, second books, and cash-based deception. 26:39 – Trick #7: Financial Abuse via Job Loss or Sacking What to do when your ex cuts your income post-separation. 32:01 – Trick #8: Superannuation and Self-Managed Funds Risks of SMSFs and how assets may be hidden or misused. 36:39 – Court Penalties for Business-Related Divorce Tricks When shady business tactics backfire in property settlements. 40:36 – Listener Review & Free Coaching Call Giveaway Shoutout to a listener + how to win a free call with Mum. Resources Central Practice Directions https://www.fcfcoa.gov.au/fl/pd/fam-cpd Free Disclosure Checklist https://www.thedivorcecourse.com.au/disclosurechecklist Shinohara & Shinohara [2025] FedCFamC1A 126 (23 July 2025) https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FedCFamC1A/2025/126.html Shamon & Shamon [2025] FedCFamC1A 150 (8 September 2025) https://www.austlii.edu.au/cgi-bin/viewdoc/au/cases/cth/FedCFamC1A/2025/150.html   Episode Links Your Business and Divorce (old episode) https://open.spotify.com/episode/0CwIeW1ZHTphzvhPdlq2Bf?si=JCtAHG7NTom5YSceqdSJ2Q Weapons of Tax Destruction  https://open.spotify.com/episode/1Bvc2JFmgcLMpIZLIXEwVR?si=KT3UdjZRQAWjDRp3EMXhiw DIY Disclosure https://open.spotify.com/episode/49yOIB1GLDmXgeZCXkfyJS?si=nhgq3QQlQge-CSYLkMGKBg 🚨 Support Services: 1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support – Australia) Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support – Australia) 📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.