The Divorce Planner

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Why Expecting Your Spouse to Change During Divorce Is Keeping You Stuck, And What to Do Instead

2026-09-3016:02

The most damaging mistake I see people make during divorce isn't a legal or financial one. It's expecting their spouse to suddenly behave differently than they always have. And every time they don't, the shock and fury pulls you back into the same loop — one that can outlast your marriage by decades if you don't address it now. In this episode I'm sharing the concept of radical acceptance, specifically what it actually is, what it isn't, and why it's the only thing that genuinely gets you out...

Divorce Grief and Shame: How to Move Through the Pain with Kim Polinder

2026-09-2323:02

Divorce brings up two of the hardest emotions to talk about: grief and shame. Grief for the life you thought you'd have, the future you planned together, and the identity you're losing. And shame because even though divorce is common, there's still a stigma attached to it that can make you feel like you've failed. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Kim Polinder, associate therapist and author of Why We Fight (HarperOne), for an honest conversation about how to actually process these di...

Navigating Divorce as a Mom: Self-Care, Boundaries & Building Your New Life with Leah Marie Mazur

2026-09-1618:11

Divorce brings up a tsunami of emotions, and as a mom, you're not just navigating your own feelings, you're holding space for your children's too. Carving out time for yourself can feel impossible. Or worse, it can feel selfish. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Leah Marie Mazur, an empowerment coach and founder of Mindfully Ready, for a conversation about how moms can prioritize their own well-being without guilt—because you can't pour from an empty cup. What we cover: Why self-care ...

Divorcing a Narcissist: What You Need to Know with Narc Recovery Specialist Allison Adamovic

2026-09-0933:42

If you're divorcing a narcissist—or think you might be—this episode is exactly what you need. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Allison Adamovic, a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) and narcissistic abuse recovery specialist, for an expert conversation about how to recognize narcissism and protect yourself during divorce. Allison brings clinical expertise to help you understand the real difference between typical divorce conflict and actual narcissistic abuse—and wha...

Quiet Quitting Your Marriage: How To Take Control And Move Forward with Betsy Pake

2026-09-0230:02

If you've been emotionally checked out of your marriage for months or even years but haven't actually left, you're not alone. You might be what The Cut called "quiet quitting your marriage" or what I call being in "the slow fade"—still in the house, still married on paper, but emotionally you left a long time ago. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Betsy Pake, a midlife change expert and host of "The Art of Living Big" podcast, for an honest conversation about what's really happening w...

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