The 3L’s Podcast

We get real about emotional labour, who holds the calendar, the kids’ headspace, and all the invisible jobs, versus financial load. Why our 80/20 split works, how Dubai and house help factor in, and the difference between protecting your kids and preparing them for the real world. We unpack what “mental load” really looks like in marriage: who schedules, who soothes, who shapes the kids’ minds, and how that balances against paying the bills. We talk skill sets, seasons, redundancy, appreciation, and why “traditional” roles can still be teamwork. And of course… a spicy dilemma: he went to his ex’s baby shower without telling his wife, innocent oversight or emotional neglect? 💌 Send us your dilemmas & questions! ✨ Subscribe for more episodes on love, marriage, money & building a lasting legacy!

In this honest, funny, and tender conversation, Eman & Mimi unpack what it really looks like to find space within marriage, without drifting apart. Do couples need time alone to stay healthy, or should everything be done together? We go there: why kids sometimes act like tiny CEOs for Mum and perfect soldiers for Dad, how to take a breather without triggering insecurity, and why “space” should be intentional, not silent treatment. We tackle the solo-trip dilemma (healing reset or red flag?), patterns of behaviour and trust, and the difference between distance that refreshes vs distance that erodes connection. You’ll hear how we balance separate interests (Bake Off vs basketball), build shared experiences so we grow in the same direction, and make peace with life’s seasons, when one partner’s career needs extra oxygen and the other carries more at home. We talk practical boundaries (signal phrases, check-ins, time limits), creating quiet in a loud house with four kids, and the small systems that keep love from getting lost in logistics. Mimi shares how maturity turned “Is something wrong?” into “Enjoy your reset,” and Eman gives flowers to intentional motherhood while owning intentional fatherhood, showing up for the moments the kids remember. If you’ve ever felt guilty for needing time alone, or lonely while your partner “hustles for the family,” this episode will help you breathe, reset, and choose each other on purpose.  

When ambition eats every evening and weekend, what’s left for marriage and kids? In this raw convo, we unpack our 2015 season, late nights, Canary Wharf office life, resentment vs reality, and how we rebuilt with therapy, carved-out time, practical agreements, and intentional fatherhood. We get honest about why what looked like selfishness was actually loneliness, and share the systems that keep us balanced today: calendar carve-outs, deadlines, seasons, and bringing your partner into the dream. If you’ve ever felt alone while your partner “hustles for the family,” or you’re the grinder who thinks they’re doing it for love, this one’s for you. Share your experience in the comments. Are you the grinder or the one left behind? 💌 Send us your dilemmas & questions! ✨ Subscribe for more episodes on love, marriage, money & building a lasting legacy!

In this raw, funny and heartfelt episode of The 3L’s Podcast (Life, Love & Legacy), Eman & Mimi get real about attraction in long-term marriage, from being friends first to that unexpected “switch” moment in church, to the messy middle of post-baby body changes, confidence dips, and intimacy on pause. We unpack how personality can amplify physical attraction, why reassurance isn’t a one-off speech but a daily habit, and the small, practical things couples can do to keep choosing each other, 14 years in and counting. We also tackle a real listener dilemma: “My wife gained weight after kids, and I’m not attracted anymore, what do I do?” We don’t sugarcoat it. We talk about support vs. shaming, how to communicate without crushing her confidence, and why attraction is multi-channel (voice, kindness, presence, humour, not just bum and breast 🤭). If you’ve ever looked in the mirror and felt “not like myself,” Mimi shares her micro-routine for rebuilding confidence (dress the body you have, a touch of glam on low-energy days, and throwing out the oversized hoodies that hide your shine). Eman breaks down the exact phrases and consistent actions that helped, affirmation, patience, and celebrating effort over outcomes. We also cover health goals as a team sport, accountability without control, and remembering that respect and friendship keep desire alive when physical appearances change.   💌 Send us your dilemmas & questions! ✨ Subscribe for more episodes on love, marriage, money & building a lasting legacy! Apple Music: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-3ls-podcast/id1613116517 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2UEP7loqImW1ZtbYbFSAoT?si=7h9C7Gl6QYK_zSYx0U8ivg  

Submission is a word that evokes strong emotions. For some, it means control and silence; for others, it’s respect and partnership. In this episode of The 3L’s Podcast, we break down what submission really looks like in our marriage. Mimi opens up about why the way it was taught in church never made sense to her, while Eman explains why authentic leadership is less about titles and more about creating a sense of safety, trust, and consistency. We talk money, provision, and the hidden value of running a home, as well as how couples can challenge each other without losing respect. We also tackle a real-life dilemma: “My husband says he wants to lead spiritually and financially, but I earn more, pray more, and handle everything. Am I wrong for not respecting that?” Our take: Leadership is proven by action, not words. This episode is raw, funny, and honest, filled with stories from our own journey and lessons that every couple can take something from. 💌 Send us your dilemmas & questions!   ✨ Subscribe for more episodes on love, marriage, money & building a lasting legacy! Apple Music https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-3ls-podcast/id1613116517 Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/2UEP7loqImW1ZtbYbFSAoT?si=7h9C7Gl6QYK_zSYx0U8ivg  

Money talks without the awkwardness? Yes, please. In this episode of The 3L’s Podcast (Life, Love & Legacy), Eman (financial advisor) and Mimi get brutally honest about money and relationships, the habits they brought into marriage (budget king vs. bargain queen), how redundancy flipped their roles, and why the phrase “It’s not your money, it’s OUR money” saved their sanity (and their bank balance). We break down the real-life systems that work for us: a joint account for bills and individual “fun money” accounts, total transparency, and regular money check-ins to prevent resentment from growing. We also discuss teaching kids about money by letting them hear real conversations, such as mortgage chats, budgeting, and investing, so good habits can start early. Then it gets spicy: a viewer dilemma, “My spouse hid debt before marriage.” We unpack how to rebuild trust, create a payoff plan, and decide when secrecy crosses the line. Additionally, we share simple wealth-building strategies for UK couples, including ISAs, workplace pensions, estate planning, and why we opted for tenants in common (50/50 ownership) to safeguard our children and long-term legacy. And yes… the Petty Section delivers: Mimi confesses to hiding Amazon boxes (growth happened, okay?). 💌 Send us your dilemmas & questions! ✨ Subscribe for more episodes on love, marriage, money & building a lasting legacy! Apple Music https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-3ls-podcast/id1613116517 Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/2UEP7loqImW1ZtbYbFSAoT?si=7h9C7Gl6QYK_zSYx0U8ivg  

In this episode of The 3L’s Podcast, Eman and Mimi open up about the challenge of keeping marriage at the centre while raising children. They share how, during the early years with three young kids, much of Mimi’s attention naturally shifted to the children, leaving Eman at times feeling overlooked. They discuss how easy it is for kids to become the focus of a marriage and the strain this can create on intimacy and connection. Both agree that this is often just a season, but how couples handle it sets the tone for the future. If partners withdraw, the relationship can suffer even after the kids grow up. However, when couples remain intentional about affirming each other, supporting one another, and making time to connect, their marriage can emerge even stronger. Mimi speaks about losing confidence in herself during motherhood and how small actions, such as fitting clothes or doing her hair, helped her feel like more than just “mom.” Eman encourages men to see the sacrifices their wives make and to invest in their well-being rather than seeking attention elsewhere. Together, they emphasise that a strong marriage is the foundation of a strong family, and that when the wife is cared for, the children also thrive. They also share practical ways couples can stay connected, from short trips without the kids to breakfast dates during school hours, or simply celebrating birthdays and anniversaries with intention. They close with the reminder that marriage, not children, must remain the anchor of the home, because a thriving partnership creates the best environment for kids to flourish. 💌 Send us your dilemmas & questions! ✨ Subscribe for more episodes on love, marriage, money & building a lasting legacy! Apple Music https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-3ls-podcast/id1613116517 Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/2UEP7loqImW1ZtbYbFSAoT?si=7h9C7Gl6QYK_zSYx0U8ivg  

In this episode of The 3L’s Podcast, Eman and Mimi dive deep into one of the most delicate and relatable topics in marriage: arguments. They begin with lighthearted banter and even a prayer for peace before unpacking how their different upbringings shaped the way they handle conflict. Mimi reflects on her Nigerian household, where arguments were rarely seen in front of children, and where her immigration experience taught her to stay quiet and avoid drawing attention. Eman, on the other hand, grew up as a vocal extrovert, shaped by a speech impediment he overcame and by a mother who both protected and sheltered him. His experiences made him passionate about using his voice and sometimes leaning into confrontation. The couple honestly explores how these differences initially clashed in their marriage, from Mimi’s tolerance for silence to Eman’s tendency to shut down when upset. They recall how therapy, both individual and joint, helped them unlearn inherited family dynamics, heal past trauma, and develop their own conflict-resolution style as a couple. They emphasise that respect, communication, and the willingness to pause before things escalate are essential. Arguments, they argue, shouldn’t just be about venting but about reaching a resolution. They share personal stories, from silent treatments to learning each other’s communication styles (even Mimi once wrote letters), to show how they’ve matured in handling conflict. The conversation also touches on dilemmas many couples face, like whether it’s right to share marital problems with family or friends. They stress the importance of choosing confidants wisely, someone who supports the marriage, not someone who keeps tally or fuels division. Closing with humour, the pair discuss petty moves during disagreements, the balance of being “the bigger person,” and even how play-fighting can go wrong. Ultimately, they remind listeners that love and respect should remain at the core of every disagreement, and that arguing with purpose, for resolution, can actually strengthen a marriage. 💌 Send us your dilemmas & questions! ✨ Subscribe for more episodes on love, marriage, money & building a lasting legacy! Apple Music https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-3ls-podcast/id1613116517 Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/2UEP7loqImW1ZtbYbFSAoT?si=7h9C7Gl6QYK_zSYx0U8ivg  

Eman and Mariam tackle one of marriage’s most private and most misunderstood topics: sex. With the ease of a couple 14 years deep, they open up about how their intimacy has evolved through every season, from the electric energy of early marriage to the strategic scheduling required with four children in the house. They swap stories about their very different experiences before marriage. Mariam waited until their wedding night, while Eman came in with past relationships—and how those differences shaped their first years together. The conversation weaves through wedding night realities (spoiler: exhaustion beats romance), mismatched desire levels, pregnancy, postpartum recovery, and the creative adjustments needed when toddlers sleep in your room. Nothing is off the table: mismatched libidos, porn use, silent “knocking” to avoid waking kids, and the challenge of keeping intimacy alive when life gets hectic. They also debate a listener dilemma about a husband tracking their sex life in a spreadsheet, opening a broader discussion on scheduling versus spontaneity. What emerges is a mix of humour, vulnerability, and straight talk about communication as the foundation for a healthy sex life. Eman admits he’s cooled down with age, Mariam shares the importance of checking in regularly, and together they show that intimacy is about much more than physical connection—it’s also late-night drives, playful banter, and mutual understanding. The episode closes with a “This Week in Petty” confession from Eman, proving that even in the bedroom, marriage is equal parts love, laughter, and learning to meet in the middle.   💌 Send us your dilemmas & questions! ✨ Subscribe for more episodes on love, marriage, money & building a lasting legacy! Apple Music https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-3ls-podcast/id1613116517 Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/2UEP7loqImW1ZtbYbFSAoT?si=7h9C7Gl6QYK_zSYx0U8ivg  

In this heartfelt and humorous episode of The 3L’s Podcast, hosts Eman and Mimi open up about how finances tested, but ultimately strengthened their marriage. They revisit their early days: one income, a new baby, and the illusion that love alone would carry them through. What followed was redundancy, career shifts, and the humbling reality of rebuilding from scratch. Eman reflects on going from corporate success and luxury cars to riding the bus in a suit, while Mimi recalls turning her cake hobby into a business to help make ends meet. Through candid storytelling, the couple dives into how societal expectations of gender roles complicated their communication about money, and how they learned to reframe their marriage as a true partnership. Despite moments of tension, especially during major financial lows, they both emphasise that mutual respect, honesty, and shared goals kept them grounded. Mimi’s unwavering support during Eman’s hardest times becomes a recurring theme, one that redefines what “providing” truly means in marriage. They also discuss how they’re teaching financial literacy to their children, not just through conversations, but through real-life lessons in saving, spending, and delayed gratification. Their “legacy” segment highlights their desire to raise emotionally and financially intelligent kids. The episode ends on a lighter note with a “Petty Moments” segment, where Eman jokingly calls out Mimi’s hidden Vinted and Amazon packages, a playful reminder that in every real relationship, humour helps carry the load. At its core, this episode is a powerful message about unity: that chasing money can break a marriage if you let it, but with love, communication, and shared vision, you can build something even greater, a legacy. Apple Music https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-3ls-podcast/id1613116517 Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/2UEP7loqImW1ZtbYbFSAoT?si=7h9C7Gl6QYK_zSYx0U8ivg  

In the very first episode of The 3L’s Podcast, we’re finally back behind the mic to talk all things life, love, and legacy. After a few years away, we wanted to start by sharing our own story: 14 years of marriage, four kids, and a whole lot of lessons learned along the way. We talk about how we first met at church (Emmanuel overshared his whole life story in five minutes 😂), how friendship slowly turned into love and the family and church drama that nearly tore us apart. At one point, it felt like the whole world was against us, but we made a pact: “Us against the world.” We also dive into those early marriage years. We got married at 26, and within four years, we had three kids. It was beautiful, chaotic, and overwhelming all at once, juggling parenting, finances, and navigating how to grow up together. This episode is raw and honest. We share how friendship, faith, and constant communication have carried us through the storms and why we want to keep it honest about what marriage and family life actually look like. Welcome to our world. This is just the beginning. We’re keeping it real, raw, and unfiltered, sharing the highs, lows, and everything in between. Whether you’re single, dating, married, or just nosy 👀, you’ll laugh, relate, and maybe even learn something for your own journey. 💌 Send us your dilemmas & questions! ✨ Subscribe for more episodes on love, marriage, money & building a lasting legacy!

Our relationships with friends and others are influenced by our personalities. While some people find it easy to connect and make new friends, others find it more challenging. Regardless, it's crucial to prioritize communication, respect, and boundaries to maintain healthy relationships with friends, colleagues, and spouses. In this episode, Emmanuel and Miriam discuss their differing views on friendships and relationships, and how they don't allow these differences to affect their relationship. Emmanuel emphasizes the importance of openness, particularly as a financial advisor where building trust with clients is crucial. Meanwhile, Mimi highlights the importance of being cautious about who we allow into our lives, especially people who use others for their own benefit. Tune in to learn more! Highlights How Eman’s passion for helping others started with helping his mother Factors that affected Mimi’s relationships, especially with making friends Eman’s vibrant relationship with old friends and making new friends Good and bad sides of leveraging people Setting boundaries with friendships and relationships How Eman's open-arm personality makes it easy to connect and invest with people Links Grab the book “Get Your Money Right” by Emmanuel Asuquo Follow Eman and Mimi on social media: Emmanuel Asuquo Instagram: @theemaneffectuk Youtube: The Eman Effect Website: www.emmanuelasuquo.com Mariam Asuquo Instagram: @lifewithmimiasuquo

If you are questioning, how can you move forward in networking knowing you’re shy, you could be dealing with pressure and thoughts of leveraging your network. In this episode, Eman and Mimi discuss what should be our perspective in attending a networking meeting. They share the values of being ready, getting over shyness, and being prepared to give reciprocal favors. Listen to some tips to improve and leverage your network. Highlights Why is it better to prepare and know the audience of the gathering How transparency can generate professional conversations How can good questions lead you to discover potential networking partners What is the difference between a personal and a business email Why reciprocity is important in networking Links Grab the book “Get Your Money Right” by Emmanuel Asuquo Follow Eman and Mimi on social media: Emmanuel Asuquo Instagram: @theemaneffectuk Youtube: The Eman Effect Website: www.emmanuelasuquo.com Mariam Asuquo Instagram: @lifewithmimiasuquo  

Have you ever asked yourself, “what am I doing for me to achieve my goals and dreams? More often than not, we focus on working for other people’s dreams and forget to understand our own importance. In this episode, uncle Eman talks about why you are stuck in achieving your goals and dreams and how to start taking control of fulfilling them. He discusses the most overlooked aspects of our day-to-day life and provides some valuable tips that you can use as a guide to making the best decisions and actions toward your dream. Highlights Why does January feel so long, and you ain’t got no money How to be accountable for your goals Make the money that you work for work for you How to allocate time to develop yourself; and The role of your environment in achieving your goals Links Grab the book “Get Your Money Right” by Emmauel Asuquo Follow Eman and Mimi on social media: Emmanuel Asuquo Instagram: @theemaneffectuk  Youtube: The Eman Effect Website: www.emmanuelasuquo.com Mariam Asuquo Instagram: @lifewithmimiasuquo

The holiday season is over, and now we are back to the reality of making a living, paying our bills, and stepping into achieving the goals we set for the year. Have you set your resolutions? Maybe you want to create something, change your career, or become the best version of yourself but are you making an effort to turn it into reality? In this episode, Eman and Mimi talk about how to level up and finally achieve the goals you set for this year. They share the steps Mimi takes in successfully changing her career, how they design a work that is suitable for them and the great benefits that change brings. What we talked about... Start by making a decision for yourself Get clarity on what you want and don’t want Create a foundation of trust, joy, and support Be a constant learner; and Surround yourself with positive people that encourage you   Links Grab the book “Get Your Money Right” by Emmauel Asuquo Follow Eman and Mimi on social media: Emmanuel Asuquo Instagram: @theemaneffectuk  Youtube: The Eman Effect Website: www.emmanuelasuquo.com Mariam Asuquo Instagram: @lifewithmimiasuquo

We all know Eman and Mimi as the host of The Eman Effect podcast, and that’s it. Some of you don’t have any idea what they like as a person or what they do for a living because you just enjoy listening to them. In this episode, Eman and Mimi play another round of the Bob in UK Debate Date Card Game. They answer juicy and controversial questions about race, relationships, family, and self to understand and get to know them better.  Highlights One piece of advance for Black Own Business How important sex is in a relationship Not all things need to be shared on social media White and Black people have something to be accountable for; and The rise of the GenZ era Do you have a juicy question about relationships, family, business, and finance that you want to ask Eman and Mimi? Send them over to their Instagram DM! Links Grab the book “Get Your Money Right” by Emmauel Asuquo Follow Eman and Mimi on social media: Emmanuel Asuquo Instagram: @theemaneffectuk  Youtube: The Eman Effect Website: www.emmanuelasuquo.com Mariam Asuquo Instagram: @mariam.asuquo

2022 will come to an end, and we are going to enter a new year with new beginnings and new opportunities. But before that, let’s look back, appreciate the past year, and reflect on the things we need to let go of and take away in the upcoming 2023. In this episode, Eman and Mimi talk about how 2022 changed many aspects of their life, career, and business. They share their struggles in changing careers, making decisions, being a better version of themselves, and what they will be focusing on in 2023.  Highlights The reality of being your own boss Mimi’s experience in changing her career path Creating stability and structure in life  Eman’s new book and career progress; and Takeaway lessons from the year 2022 Links Grab the book “Get Your Money Right” by Emmauel Asuquo Follow Eman and Mimi on social media: Emmanuel Asuquo Instagram: @theemaneffectuk  Youtube: The Eman Effect Website: www.emmanuelasuquo.com Mariam Asuquo Instagram: @mariam.asuquo

It’s the season to be jolly! Everyone is busy buying gifts, preparing holiday recipes, and dancing at Christmas parties. We always celebrate Christmas but do we really understand its true meaning? Christmas is more than just a monetary gift, snowfall, and spending money. In this episode, we will tell you why. In this episode, Eman and Mimi recap their previous Christmas celebrations and what they are grateful for during the year and talk about the true meaning of Christmas. They also give last-minute Christmas gift ideas, tips, and activities families can do during the holiday season. Highlights The memories of Christmas How to control overbuying of gifts this season Creating Christmas traditions Taking time to reflect, rest, and bond with family and loved ones; and Activities that your family can do this Christmas Links Grab the book “Get Your Money Right” by Emmanuel Asuquo Follow Eman and Mimi on social media: Emmanuel Asuquo Instagram: @theemaneffectuk Youtube: The Eman Effect Website: www.emmanuelasuquo.com Mariam Asuquo Instagram: @mimitoyoucakes  

What would you do if one day you woke up and found out that you were made redundant at work?  Some will cry, some will complain about their life, and some, particularly the Asuquos' will use it as a motivation to achieve success. In this episode, Eman and Mimi walk down memory lane to share the untold stories behind their success in marriage, business, and life. They talk about the pain and challenges they face to build a legacy. So, if you want to feel inspired and are ready to create your legacy like the Asuquos', listen to this episode. Highlights The time when Eman got redundant How to prepare yourself for success Creating a goal and game plan to win Not jealous but grateful; and Learn to protect the legacy you build Links Grab the book “Get Your Money Right” by Emmauel Asuquo Follow Eman and Mimi on social media: Emmanuel Asuquo Instagram: @theemaneffectuk  Youtube: The Eman Effect Website: www.emmanuelasuquo.com   Mariam Asuquo Instagram: @mimitoyoucakes

We are back with all-new episodes and we are shaking things up. In a relationship, value systems are important but do we need them to be similar?  In this episode, Eman and Mimi play the Bob in UK Debate Date Card Game where they ask each other questions that they’ve never asked before. Join us in this episode and let your friends know we're back! Highlights  Is the relationship over after a failed marriage proposal Why Eman thinks men should propose to a woman What does loyalty mean Behaviors that are an absolute red flag Does porn ruin our sexuality Links Check out the Bob in UK Card Game  Follow Eman and Mimi on social media: Emmanuel Asuquo Instagram: @theemaneffectuk  Youtube: The Eman Effect Website: www.emmanuelasuquo.com Mariam Asuquo Instagram: @mimitoyoucakes