DiscoverThe Empowered Wife Podcast
The Empowered Wife Podcast
Claim Ownership

The Empowered Wife Podcast

Author: Laura Doyle

Subscribed: 619Played: 15,289


The Empowered Wife Podcast is all about fixing your relationship without your man's conscious effort, even if it seems completely hopeless.

Guests share how they fixed their marriages to men with anger issues, narcissism, alcohol abuse, verbal abuse, midlife crisis, affairs, physical abuse and more using the Connection Framework and the 6 Intimacy Skills.

Every show highlights the worst relationship advice of the week, reveals the very common mistakes that everybody seems to be making and shows you exactly what to do instead to have a playful, passionate relationship--like over 15,000 women who have already transformed their relationships and become Empowered Wives.

Listen and subscribe to the Empowered Wife podcast with New York Times bestselling author Laura Doyle, the world's most trusted relationship expert, so you can stop feeling lonely, exhausted and unloved and start feeling desired, taken care of and special again.
90 Episodes
If you’re anything like me, you love having deep conversations with your husband. They’re probably part of what made you fall in love with him. If they’ve gone missing, you may have wondered how to get those started again at your house. And there are two common tactics that you’ve probably been told are healthy but that may actually be backfiring on you. On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we’re talking about two things that wives with lasting marriages don't say. I’ll share why they’re not working and what to do instead. My guest Jessica had big communication problems, and then even bigger problems when she found out that her intuition was correct and her husband had been having an affair for two years. She was crushed and felt like she couldn’t breathe. But she got her husband back and now her marriage is better than ever. She’s going to share what she did that made her marriage last. The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week, which started as a Facebook post telling tired moms what they should do if there’s a labor imbalance at their house, was amplified by a major magazine as “excellent work.” See if you’re as horrified as I am with what they suggest.
You’ve been working really hard on your relationship. The bad news is you may have been working on fixing the wrong things. The good news is that, no matter how bad it seems now, it’s not too late to save the relationship—and get the fulfilling one you set out to have when you first fell in love. So how do you restore the peace, passion and connection you once shared? On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we’re talking about 3 genius marriage hacks. My guest Rivkah felt like she’d married the wrong person. She and her husband just couldn’t connect, and she constantly felt criticized and defensive. After 36 years of marriage, she felt like she was just going through the motions but not feeling loved like she’d always wanted to be. But she started a practice that changed her experience completely. Her husband is no longer critical and he tells her he has the wife of his dreams! And she has the husband of her dreams. How did she do it? She’s going to tell us. The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week is something a counselor actually charged money to tell a struggling couple. Wait until you hear this one!  
Having your best relationship may feel impossible if your marriage is struggling. You might think, like I once did, that you’d need to start over with someone new in order to have a good relationship. When you’re in a lot of pain because of fighting or feeling abandoned, it’s easy to dread the future, hard to picture your marriage becoming its best. Yet here you are, and I admire that. On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re talking about 3 things that might be getting in the way of having your best marriage and what you can do to get unstuck. My guest Kathy’s husband was depressed, drinking daily and had been having an emotional affair for six years. Her marriage had so many problems and cold wars that she believed it was a lost cause. But she not only attracted her husband back, he put the wedding ring back on her finger in a moving, heartfelt way that made them both cry. They enjoy laughter and peace in their home and he sends her sweet videos throughout the day. She’s going to tell us what she did so you can do it too. The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week Award is something I’ve already tried and I bet you have too, but it only makes your marriage more hostile, distant and lonely. 
Today we’ll talk about three ways you can help end world divorce and get advanced self-help for your own marriage at the same time. My guest Magenta was still a newlywed when she started wondering what had happened to the wonderful guy she married! Instead of talking to her, texting her and video chatting, he just was not paying attention to her and she didn’t know why. He also refused to join their finances even though she’d done all the paperwork for him at the bank and all he had to do was sign it. But today he handles all the money and bills, and greets her with a big hug and kiss every day when he comes home. What happened? She’s going to tell us what she did so you can do it too.  The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week offers an explanation for why men stop being romantic that is both dopey AND offensive.
If you’ve never had a coach except in school sports, then counseling is probably your point of reference for what you think of when you picture any conversation with a professional for help with your relationship. That’s all any of us had for a long time. Whether it was through your place of worship or a professional counselor who had a particular education, marriage counseling was all there was for decades.  Today, both relationship coaching and relationship counseling are presented as options for improving your life and your relationship. So how different could they be?  If you’ve already been to marriage counseling as so many people have, and that didn’t work, why would coaching be any better? But relationship coaching is very, very different. Today I’m sharing 3 myths that women are surprised to find are just not true when they get relationship coaching on our campus.
Last week you heard Part 1. This week, I’m sharing the rest of the Empowered Wife Session on “How to RSVP ‘Not Attending’ When you’re invited to an Argument” from my paid program. If you missed What is a Ridiculously Happy Wife Part 1 last week (episode #83), check that out first to get the most value from hearing the students in my programs share how they’re applying the skill in their unique situation. You can listen in as we workshop it together to get her the best, fastest improvement in her relationship. You’ll gain insight for your relationship too.
What is a Ridiculously Happy Wife and how do you become one? One of the things that feels nearly impossible to do when you’re really struggling in your marriage and feeling like it’s hopeless, is to make yourself happy.    Unless…Unless you have the thing that I stumbled on early on in my own marriage journey. Words alone couldn’t explain what I want to share with you. You have to experience it for yourself. I’ll show you what I mean in today's episode, which is part one of a two-part series.That’s why instead of an interview, today I’m sharing the recording from a live Empowered Wife session from my paid programs, where we focus on practicing a specific skill, and students share how they’re applying the skill in their unique situation and we workshop it together to get her the best, fastest improvement in her relationship.    The Empowered Wife session that I’m sharing with you today is on “How to RSVP ‘Not Attending’ When You’re Invited to an Argument.”
Being part of a group of women who are all committed to making their marriages last, sharing authentically and standing for each other’s marriages is the most powerful way I know to quickly get the transformation that I experienced, and that now tens of thousands of students have also experienced. That’s why group coaching is a critical part of all of the programs on our campus--The Ridiculously Happy Wife, Diamond Private Coaching, and Relationship Coach Training. On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast you’re going to get to eavesdrop on a Master Relationship Coach at work. Instead of an interview, my guest Karen gave us permission to share a recording of a group coaching call where she brought the challenge of feeling unloved to Master Coach Kathy, one of the best relationship coaches in the world. If you’ve never been in any of our programs, this is your opportunity to hear first-hand what it’s like to be coached. The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week tries to offer help but isn’t actually helpful at all.
Maybe your marriage is painful right now, and you have a hunch that training to become a coach would put it right again. Or maybe your marriage is doing better than it has in a long time, and you just want to keep it that way. Maybe you’re like me and you just want to stay in the fascinating conversation with women like you who make marriage a priority. But what does the process look like? On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we’re talking about how to become a relationship coach. My guest Anne’s husband said he wanted a divorce, AND HE MEANT IT, because 5 months later, they were legally, officially divorced. The main reason being their marriage was failing, but also because he started a relationship with another woman once he said he wanted the divorce. But Anne didn’t give up on her marriage, and they ended up reconciling in the SAME month that their divorce was finalized, and re-married 3 months to the day later. They even started a family. Now she says their relationship is amazing, fun and loving. She’s going to describe what she did so you can have the same results. The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week offers a bossy and authoritative suggestion.
If you’ve ever wondered if your husband even loves you anymore, then you’ve experienced him being distant and cold, or more interested in his phone or the TV than spending time with you, like my husband was. How can get your husband’s attention and fix your marriage for good? On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we’re talking about 4 steps for making your cold marriage hot. My guest Kaylee’s marriage suffered from a lack of connection and was filled with fighting. She was so tired because she felt like the only adult. But not anymore. Today she says her relationship is wonderful, that they are happy and they play, giggle and flirt a lot. She’s going to share the steps she took to make her marriage so connected again so you can have that too. The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week paints a popular illusion when it comes to marriage.
Sometimes your marriage looks bleak. You wish it were the way you imagined when you said your vows, but you didn’t imagine having cold wars, without speaking for days. When his latest hurtful words and neglect are still stinging, you can feel like a sucker for falling for a man who isn’t who you thought he was. But that doesn’t mean you have to either be miserable-ever-after or get divorced. On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we’re talking about the one thing you need to fix your marriage. My guest Dawn and her husband had been to four marriage counselors, but still they were so angry with each other that they would yell and fight so much that one counselor wouldn’t even see them at the same time. Her husband frequently slept on the couch but she was shocked when he roared at her that he wanted a divorce. But today her husband takes her on dates, kisses her good-bye, pats her butt, and even bought her a fabulous convertible. There are no more nights on the sofa and their sex life is ridiculously steamy! She’s going to tell us how she turned it all around. The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week perpetuates a myth that is often repeated by women who are just about to get divorced.
When your husband lets you down again and again, it’s discouraging. You don’t want to feel so resentful, but how can you help it when you can’t count on him to do what you know would make things so much better for your marriage. What if it’s been years that you’ve felt resentful toward him? How are you going to just wash that away? On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we’re talking about how to stop resenting your husband in 3 simple steps. My guest AnneMarie resented that her husband could dip in and out of home life while she was left with all the responsibility of it falling apart if she didn’t manage it. They were so disconnected they only communicated about practical things. She told him very seriously that they should split up. But instead, she made some changes that resulted in her husband delighting in making her happy and wanting to talk to her again. Today her marriage is supportive, fun, warm, peaceful. She’s going to describe the steps she took to transform her marriage for the better so you can do the same thing. The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week suggests that you solve problems together but ends up backfiring more often than not.
Ending your marriage is a huge decision, and if it’s a question you’re considering, it’s probably weighed heavily on you for a long time. And that’s very tiring. Nobody considers divorce unless they’re really hurting and hopeless that things will ever get better. You’d like answers. What’s the best path? Which choice will make you happier in the long run? On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we’re talking about 3 questions to ask before you divorce. My guest Lucia was tired of being lonely when her husband came home late and drunk so many nights, but she knew something really had to change when she found a flirty note from another woman in her husband’s pants pockets when she was 8 months pregnant. Today, her husband comes home to his wife early and sober. They laugh and chat easily every day and spend a lot of time cuddling. What happened? She’s going to describe exactly what she did to get a much better response from her husband, so you can do it too. The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week points to a popular myth that’s believed to be true all too often.
When your man is making bad decisions, it drags you down. It’s like he’s broken, and since your fates are tied together by matrimony, that’s a lot of weight you’re pulling when your hands are already full. You probably think there isn’t anything you can do, right? On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we’re talking about 3 secrets for fixing your husband. My guest Janice had been married almost 30 years and the spark was diminishing. The kids had flown the nest. As they were getting older, she was afraid she was less attractive to her husband. He didn’t even want to plan a weekend trip with her. But today she knows she’s attractive to her husband that he is planning adventures for the two of them all over the globe, just to make her happy. She’s going to describe the steps she took to change her husband without his conscious effort. The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week just might be the worst advice of the entire year!
When you’re fighting, bickering and snapping at each other, you just want it to stop. You want him to understand where you’re coming from and make him realize that it’s ridiculous to keep arguing. Most of all, you want a peaceful house. But how? On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we’re talking about 3 ways to resolve conflicts quickly. My guest Clara didn’t feel loved or appreciated at home. Her husband was cold, sharp and distant. She was so frustrated that he had plenty of time for gaming, but none for chores. She tried using The 6 Intimacy Skills, but found they didn’t work on her husband! Finally she had an “a-ha!” moment, and now her marriage is sweet and tender, and her man helps with everything in the house! He initiates conversations as he knows she loves to talk, and he appreciates her for everything she does. She’s going to share what she realized and how she changed everything in her marriage for the better. The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week encourages you to find evidence that your marriage is doomed.
When you’re falling in love, it’s like you’re temporarily insane, but over time you may lose sight of whatever it was you saw in your man. You wish you could admire your husband and feel excited about your relationship. But how can you if you’re feeling repulsed? On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we’re talking about 2 steps to bring back the sizzle even if you’re not feeling it. Almost every conversation my guest Erika had with her husband was an argument that included threats, name-calling, swearing and even occasional physical altercations. They separated. But today, he has moved back and they are happier together than they’ve ever been. They laugh together and she gets huge hugs from her man. She’s going to describe exactly what she did to save her marriage and make it terrific, along with her best tip for wives who want to fix their marriages too. The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week can quickly create drama out of a friendly situation.
If your man says things that are subtly insulting and hurtful but then acts like you’re the one who is overreacting, it can be crazy making. At times you wonder how you can ever win when he mopes around and won’t say what’s wrong. If all you’re getting is the silent treatment, how do you respond to that? On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we’re talking about 3 ways to solve a passive aggressive husband problem. My guest Lucy often joked that her husband was like one of her kids or one of her social work clients. She couldn’t trust him to be a responsible adult or parent because before he became a stepdad to her kids, he had abused opiates and moved into his mom’s basement. But Lucy worried that she was going to ruin her second marriage, so she did something completely different from anything she’d been doing before. Today, her relationship is peaceful, with lots of laughter and she feels desired. Also, she never worries about money. She’s going to share her best secrets for keeping the same man but getting a much better husband. The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week suggests that you can fix being unhappy with one unique strategy.
If your husband criticizes you, it hurts. You’re doing so much, yet somehow it’s not enough. No matter how hard you try, your parenting, your housekeeping, or your work just don’t measure up–or so he would have you think. How can you fix your marriage when you’re in this lonely place? On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we’re talking about how to deal with disrespect in marriage. One year into their 18-year marriage, my guest Gabi already wanted a divorce. Her husband was always cranky and blamed her for being a bad parent of their five kids even though he was the one abusing alcohol. He lied, he flirted with female co-workers, he didn’t get along with her family, and made her feel like she wanted to die. But today her marriage is exactly what she dreamed about, and she has no doubt that her husband loves her and wants to be her hero. She’s going to share her secrets for creating your own loving story even if your relationship seems hopeless. The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week seems to promote honesty but actually encourages you to be critical of your husband.
When you work with your spouse, it can be too much togetherness. Plus, if you don’t see things the same way, it often creates tension both at work and at home. How can you revitalize your marriage while improving your bottom line? On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we’re talking about 3 secrets to succeeding in business and love with the same person. My guest Deb was giving and doing so much to get her husband’s appreciation, but he was the grumpiest man ever and ignored her as much as he could get away with. She suspected he was a dry drunk, but she encouraged him to drink beer anyway so he would at least talk to her. When his son slapped her across the face, and he didn’t lift a finger to defend her, she brought up divorce, and insisted they go to counseling. But just two weeks in, the counselor happily declared they no longer needed counseling! Today she says her marriage is fantastic and she feels like the passenger while her husband is the chauffeur. She’s going to describe exactly how she changed it for the better.  The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week creates problems in your relationship where there were none.
Being constantly disappointed in your marriage can wear you down and make you hopeless about the future. But what if you didn’t have to just suck it up and continue to hurt endlessly? On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we’re talking about 5 ways to inspire him to be a better man. My guest Rachel’s husband checked every box for Narcissistic Personality Disorder which she knew meant he would NEVER change his selfish ways. Their weekly marriage counseling sessions were ugly fights, so she got a divorce attorney and started making plans to leave him. But instead she went on a getaway that changed her life. Today she says her husband loves, honors and respects her and they have an amazing life together. Same husband! She’s going to tell us how she did this. The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week is so ridiculous that it’s had my husband John and I laughing non-stop.
Comments (4)

Selena Hatton

There podcasts are so inspirational. listening to them helps me learn so much about how to show up in my relationship. I always thought that communicating what I wanted meant moaning and wrong was I??

Jul 22nd

Lalo Joy Poll

the audio quality of the recorded call is very poor and difficult to hear. I couldn't understand most of it.

Jun 25th

Fatima Dewedar

got the courage to say to my husband I'm grateful to you for going to work and coming home to me and our family

Feb 1st

Fatima Dewedar

these skills are life changing in my marriage

Jan 28th
Download from Google Play
Download from App Store