The Fathers Guild

Summary In this episode, The Fathers Guild hosts Tate Wright, who shares his transformative journey over the past decade, focusing on weight loss, personal growth, and the importance of honesty and data in achieving fitness goals. Tate discusses the impact of his religious upbringing on his values and how he navigates the complexities of faith and personal development. The conversation emphasizes the significance of intentional living, the process of repentance, and the journey of becoming a better version of oneself. In this conversation, Tate Wright and The Fathers Guild delve into the complexities of repentance, judgment, and personal growth. They explore how societal perceptions of repentance can carry negative connotations, likening it to dieting, and emphasize the importance of viewing it as an opportunity for transformation. The discussion shifts to the role of judgment in personal development, highlighting that judgment can be a necessary tool for making informed decisions. They also tackle the topic of pornography, discussing personal experiences and the impact of shame and honesty on relationships. The conversation concludes with reflections on how to foster open discussions about sexuality and intimacy, aiming to break down the stigma surrounding these topics.   Keywords fitness, weight loss, personal growth, honesty, religion, self-improvement, data-driven, motivation, body composition, mental health, repentance, transformation, judgment, personal growth, pornography, shame, honesty, intimacy, relationships, self-improvement Takeaways Tate's weight loss journey has spanned over a decade, with significant changes in the last year. Tracking food intake and understanding body composition were key to Tate's success. Honesty with oneself is crucial for personal growth and fitness. The turning point for Tate was realizing he needed to take control of his health. Tate emphasizes the importance of role models in shaping values and character. Repentance is about transformation and becoming a new person, not just stopping bad habits. The journey of self-improvement requires consistent effort and introspection. Tate's religious background has influenced his values and approach to life. It's essential to merge personal beliefs with everyday life for true fulfillment. Success in fitness and life is about the process of becoming, not just the actions taken.  Repentance should be viewed as an opportunity for transformation. Judgment can be a necessary tool for personal growth. Fear of judgment often stems from a fear of truth. Shame is often taught and can create moral hierarchies. Pornography can complicate intimate relationships but is not inherently negative. Open discussions about sexuality can help break down stigma. Honesty in relationships is crucial for intimacy. Personal experiences shape our views on topics like pornography. Understanding the complexities of our desires is important for growth. Creating a safe space for discussions about sexuality is essential.  Titles Transforming Through Fitness: Tate Wright's Journey The Power of Honesty in Personal Growth Sound bites "Honesty is a huge piece of that." "The journey of becoming is the key." "Shame in any sense is taught." Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Tate Wright and His Journey 02:00 Tate's Weight Loss Journey: A Decade of Change 05:09 The Importance of Tracking and Data in Fitness 08:59 The Turning Point: From Inaction to Action 16:00 Exploring Values: The Impact of Religion on Personal Growth 21:57 Service and Self-Discovery: Lessons from a Mission Trip 26:05 The Role of Introspection and Honesty in Personal Development 28:36 The Power of Honesty in Personal Growth 32:19 Finding Your Truth: Navigating Faith and Personal Beliefs 36:45 The Journey of Repentance and Transformation 40:20 Understanding Judgment: A Necessary Tool for Growth 51:10 Exploring Relationships with Pornography and Shame 52:30 Understanding Primal Instincts and Shame 54:28 Navigating Sexuality in a Religious Context 56:55 The Complexity of Sexuality and Honesty in Relationships 01:00:50 The Impact of Pornography on Marriage 01:03:32 Transforming Perspectives on Sexuality and Intimacy 01:08:23 Reevaluating Relationships with Pornography 01:09:55 Shame, Morality, and the Complexity of Sexuality 01:15:42 The Role of Unconditional Love in Parenting

Taz Barber (my wife) hops into a chat with me and explains how she does our sons homeschooling. 

In this episode we engage in a meaningful conversation with Megan from Birds and Bees about the importance of sex education for children. We discuss the evolving role of fathers in parenting, the outdated notion of 'the talk' about sex, and the necessity of ongoing conversations about sexuality. Megan emphasizes the need for parents to create a family message regarding their values about sex, navigate their own hangups, and model healthy attitudes towards intimacy. The discussion also touches on the impact of technology on children's exposure to sexual content and the importance of fostering open communication to build trust between parents and children.  

In this episode, Kyle Meloy and Pat Barber explore the profound impact of parenting on self-discovery. They discuss how observing their own behaviors and language reflected in their children can lead to personal growth and a deeper understanding of family dynamics.   You can find Kyle on Instagram here!  https://www.instagram.com/kyle.meloy/

In this episode of the Fathers Guild podcast, Pat Barber sits down with Michael Dalton, a multifaceted creative and father. They explore Michael's journey from a kid to a successful videographer, discussing the emotional depth in his work, the impact of losing his father, and the challenges of parenthood. The conversation delves into the importance of not giving up on creative pursuits, understanding emotions like anger and sadness, and the role of counseling in personal growth. Michael shares his philosophy on joy, creativity, and the necessity of being present in the moment, all while navigating the complexities of life and fatherhood. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Michael Dalton 02:57 The Journey to Coolness 05:56 Exploring Depth and Emotion in Art 08:53 Breaking Free from Religious Constraints 11:54 The Impact of Loss and Grief 14:56 Fatherhood and Legacy 18:00 The Journey to Parenthood 20:47 Navigating Parenting Challenges 23:50 Emotional Intelligence in Parenting 28:45 Navigating Big Emotions 31:57 The Complexity of Anger 36:29 Understanding Offense and Anger 42:15 Finding Joy in Discipline 47:41 Breaking Free from Rules 50:43 Perseverance in Creative Endeavors

In this episode of the Fathers Guild podcast, Pat Barber interviews Eric Leidums, an unschooling father of three who embraces RV living and homesteading. They discuss Eric's journey from a traditional upbringing to a lifestyle centered around adventure, nature, and family. The conversation delves into the importance of fatherhood, the impact of marriage on personal growth, and the philosophy of unschooling. Eric shares insights on encouraging risky play in children, the balance of luck and choice in life, and the evolution of his social media presence through That Mountain Life. The episode concludes with a powerful message about taking action and embracing imperfection in parenting and life.

In this conversation, Sharif Colbert discusses his journey towards emotional intelligence and personal growth, emphasizing the importance of therapy and the impact of family feedback on self-reflection. He shares how his children's honesty prompted him to confront his emotional reactions and work on his temper.

In this episode of The Fathers Guild podcast, hosts Pat Barber and Rory Tolland introduce their mission to create a supportive community for fathers. They share personal stories and insights into the challenges and joys of fatherhood, emphasizing the importance of community and personal growth. Key Points: - Introduction to The Fathers Guild podcast and its mission. - Meet the hosts: Pat Barber and Rory Tolland. Discussion on the dynamics of modern fatherhood. - The concept of being "harder to kill and easier to love." - Plans for future episodes and the fatherhood quiz.   Subscribe to our channel for more episodes and join us on this journey of fatherhood. Don't forget to like, comment, and share your thoughts! Hashtags: #Fatherhood #Community #TheFathersGuild #Podcast

saying yes to life, personal growth, emotional freedom, financial health, parenting challenges, work-life balance, humor in parenting, self-reflection, capability, duality of man   Takeaways Fitness should enable you to say yes to life. Apply the principle of saying yes to all areas of life. Financial stability affects your ability to say yes. Emotional stability is crucial for saying yes to life. Effective communication is key in relationships. Mental health impacts your capacity to say yes. Parenting requires adaptability to each child's needs. Humor can be a tool for deeper conversations. Guilt is a price paid for misalignment with values. Personal growth involves understanding and navigating life's ebbs and flows. Summary In this conversation, Pat Barber and Rory Tolland explore the concept of 'saying yes to life' as a guiding principle for personal growth and fulfillment. They discuss how this principle can be applied across various aspects of life, including fitness, finances, emotional stability, and parenting. The dialogue emphasizes the importance of capability, effective communication, and the balance between work and personal life. They also delve into the role of humor in navigating serious topics and the impact of guilt on self-reflection and personal growth. Ultimately, the conversation encourages listeners to embrace life's opportunities and challenges with an open heart and mind.Titles Saying Yes to Life: A New Perspective Exploring the Freedom to Say Yes Sound Bites "Can you say yes to life?" "I want to be able to do everything." "The freedom to say yes is freeing." Chapters 00:00Saying Yes to Life: The Fitness Perspective 02:49Expanding the Concept: Finances and Emotional Stability 05:54Relationships and Communication: Saying Yes in Personal Life 08:46Work and Autonomy: The Freedom to Say Yes 11:39The Balance of Sacrifice: Freedom vs. Responsibility 14:33Getting Busy Living: Intentionality in Daily Life 17:18Physical and Mental Health: The Foundation of Capability 20:26Honesty and Self-Reflection: The Path to Growth 29:58Understanding Guilt and Personal Values 33:53The Importance of Connection in Fatherhood 38:17Navigating Different Parenting Styles 43:16The Role of Humor in Parenting 50:42Balancing Depth and Humor in Conversations

In this episode of the Father's Guild podcast, hosts Pat Barber and Rory Tolland delve into the complexities of fatherhood, content creation, and the impact of social media on personal relationships. They share their experiences and insights on navigating the challenges of modern parenting, the importance of communication and intimacy in relationships, and the need for mental space to foster personal growth. The conversation also highlights the significance of retreats for fathers, providing a space for reflection and rejuvenation. Overall, the episode emphasizes the journey of fatherhood and the continuous effort required to balance work, family, and personal well-being. titles Key Episod Points: The only way to get good at anything is by doing it. Consistency in content creation leads to improvement. Social media has shifted from personal connections to algorithm-driven content. Good content should provoke thought and reflection. Intimacy and communication are crucial in relationships. Financial pressures can impact family dynamics. Creating mental space is essential for personal growth. Retreats can provide clarity and reset for fathers. It's important to prioritize health and well-being to be present for family. Understanding one's emotional triggers can lead to better relationships.   Chapters 00:00Introduction to the Father's Guild Podcast 02:53The Journey of Content Creation 06:01The Evolution of Social Media 08:40Authenticity in Content Creation 11:26Fatherhood Credentials and Personal Background 17:25The Dynamics of Relationships 20:30Work-Life Balance and Current Struggles 25:29Navigating Financial Pressures and Moral Integrity 26:47The Balancing Act of Work and Family Life 28:55Struggles of Transitioning from Work to Family Time 31:25Understanding the Hedonic Set Point and Its Implications 42:55Creating Space for Personal Growth and Reflection 47:59The Importance of Reducing Complexity in Life