This call is about the importance of self-trust and acceptance in a relationship. Today’s caller, Don, recently reunited with his partner after a seven-month break from their long-distance relationship and would like guidance on how to make sure he gets what he needs from the relationship during the ‘do-over.’ [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode150] So many of us go into the compensatory strategy of over-achieving whenever we feel ‘less than’ in any way. Whenever we feel less than our ego has to come up with a way to compensate for it. It only serves to distance ourselves from who we truly are. When we are out there consistently trying to prove ourselves we are unconsciously running with the belief that we are never enough. We look for external validation through the acknowledgment of others. Many people who believe they have ‘good’ childhoods often minimize something that happened that impacts the rest of their life. Issues in relationships CAN be resolved through communication. Create agreements in your relationship rather than expectations. Don’t expect the other person to read your mind and don’t think that just because you say something it’s ‘message sent, message received.’ Be sensitive about your partner’s needs; make agreements about how you can reassure them and how you can meet their needs. If you meet the agreements and it still isn’t working then it’s time to reevaluate the relationship to ensure it’s a value match. And, my 2019 Signature Retreat for women will be in San Diego in March. This event always fills up quickly to enroll click Christine’s Spring Retreat to secure your spot. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you giving a relationship a second chance? Are you in a do-over? ? Have you ever been in a long-distance relationship? ? Growing up, did you feel like you were in the shadow of a sibling? ? Have you ever felt invisible? Do you have to try extra hard to get noticed? Don’s Question: Don wants to know Christine’s thoughts about the ‘do-over’ in his current relationship. Don’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? He is in a two-year, long-distance relationship. ? They took a seven-month break. ? There were trust issues in the relationship. ? He feels limited by his partner’s insecurities. ? He grew up in the shadow of his older sister. ? He overcompensates to get attention. ? His relationship choices are based on safety. ? He doesn’t know true intimacy. ? He wants to be appreciated for just being him. ? He has trust issues. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? He needs to get clear about what he values and what he deserves from a relationship. ? He needs to express his needs and make clear agreements. ? He needs to fall in love with himself. ? He needs to be in gratitude to himself. Assignments For You: ? No relationship with others is bulletproof. So, don’t put pressure on it to be. ? Evaluate your relationship with yourself. Is it a healthy relationship? ? Identify your compensatory strategies. ? Give from your energy overflow. Don’t empty yourself out. ? Write down your top five core values for a relationship. ? Practice self-acknowledgment. Sponsors: Freshbooks is an easy-to-use cloud accounting software for self-employed professionals. Freshbooks helps you master your business with online payments and project management options. Receive an unrestricted 30-day free trial, just in time for tax time by using OVERITANDONWITHIT in the how did you hear about us section. HP — Do you need serious-performance from your laptop? 8th generation Intel-powered HP PCs offer better performance and longer battery life. And, they come with 24/7 dedicated support from US-based specialists. To get high-computing power and enhanced security features go to HP.com/overit for an extra 10% off (until Sept. 17, 2018). Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Watch this Coaching...
This is a juicy one! Meet the man in my life and listen in as we talk about what being a “conscious man” means and requires. Learn about his new program which begins August 8th that I HIGHLY endorse: Reclaim Your Kingdom. http://reclaimyourkingdom.com/ A little more about Stef Sifandos. He is a Relational Alchemist, Community Builder and Change Maker who facilitates transformational growth through neuro-empowerment practices, mindfulness, an integration of Eastern wisdom, diverse spiritual praxis and western psychology to improve, evolves end enhance the quality of your relationships.
This call is about setting a balance between caretaking and nurturing, loving and empowering children. Today’s caller, Alexis, is feeling overwhelmed and guilty about how she deals with her daughter’s physical and emotional state. We talk through the tools that will help her navigate through the natural overwhelm. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode149] Whenever we are faced with something that feels overwhelming or confusing, we may feel helpless. When it’s our stuff it’s hard, but when our child is suffering the helplessness is intensified. As a parent, we feel we are supposed to know how to take care of our children but when we are not sure what to do, it can be incredibly overwhelming. When you address your child with compassion instead of taking on their suffering you go with them. This is where spiritual altitude comes in handy. It may feel like our children belong to us but they really belong to God, to the universe. They are souls having their own unique human experience. On some level, your child chose you to be the perfect person to guide their experience and to help them with their soul curriculum. When you see them as a child of light you can shift your perspective to not see them as a victim. If you go too much into caretaking it disempowers them from using their own inner resources. The healthier you are as an adult the healthier children you will raise. My one-day Over It and On With It workshop for men and women in London on July 21st only has 2 spots left. Visit Christine Hassler in London or Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information. And, my 2019 Signature Retreat for women will be in San Diego in March. This event always fills up quickly to enroll click Christine’s Spring Retreat to secure your spot. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? As a parent do you feel a bit guilty about not being a good enough parent or about thoughts you have about your kids or yourself? ? Do you sometimes want to run away from being a parent and then beat yourself up about it? ? Do you have a child that is suffering from something physical or emotional? Is that suffering wearing you down? ? How do you parent yourself? Are you critical of yourself? If you were raising yourself right now, how are you doing? ? Do you relate to the things in your life as a victim or as a spiritual seeker? Alexis’s Question: Alexis wants guidance on how to be the best caretaker for her daughter who has a chronic condition. Alexis’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? Her daughter’s condition requires a lot of financial support. ? She wants to be more available for her daughter. ? She wants to protect everyone’s emotions. ? She struggles with guilt and overwhelm. ? She reads to her daughter. ? Her children make her feel valuable. ? Her daughter is emotionally mature. ? She is not comfortable in dealing with negative emotions. ? She knows that guilt is useless. ? She realized she doesn’t need to have the answers. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She needs to forgive herself for guilty feelings and remind herself she is doing the best that she can. ? She needs to write out her feelings and then tear it up. ? She should teach her daughter to express her emotions. ? When she feels the guilt, she should ask herself if it is a good use of her energy. ? She should stop seeing her daughter as a victim and nurture her courageous spirit. Assignments For You: ? When something challenging is happening in your or your child’s life, take the big deal factor out of it. ? Allow yourself to feel your feelings. Have a temper tantrum or write a big ‘FU’ letter. ? Move into acceptance of your challenges and be a seeker and look for the lessons. ? As a parent, make sure you have your own release system for your emotions. ? Read empowering stories about people who have overcome similar challenges. Sponsors: Freshbooks is an easy-to-use cloud accounting software...
Listen in as Christine talks about why when things start going really well in your life or you make a positive change, anxiety, doubt or sabotaging behaviors emerge. It is called an "Upper Limits" issue and Christine explains how to deal with it in a way that keeps you moving onward and upward.
This call demonstrates how strong vulnerability can be. Today’s caller, Nicholas, wants to know how he can be more connected in his life. During our conversation, we uncover a core wound from when, as an infant, he was separated from his mother. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode148] Whenever we have core wounding with our mother or father we have to find the divine parent inside of us. We need to find our innate nurturing, soothing and compassionate qualities. Feelings of abandonment trigger the amygdala in our brain. It triggers a fight or flight fear-based response. The truth is none of us can ever be abandoned. We are all one. We are all connected, even when physical people leave our lives. The more we have the internal connection to ourselves and to our higher power the more we realize we can never truly be abandoned. It takes a lot of energy to hold it all together and to not be weak. When we allow ourselves to be vulnerable it can provide insights into our core issues. Through our vulnerability, we find true strength. My one-day Over It and On With It workshop for men and women in London on July 21st only has 10 spots left. Visit Christine Hassler in London or Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information. And, my 2019 Signature Retreat for women will be in San Diego in March. This event always fills up quickly to enroll click Christine’s Spring Retreat to secure your spot. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Have you lived your life with a pattern of abandonment? ? Are you someone who likes to have it all figured out? Do you like being someone everyone can depend on? ? Do you often use self-deprecating humor? ? How are you at receiving compliments? ? Would you like to have more intimate, vulnerable relationships with people you feel close too? Nicholas’s Question: Nicholas wants guidance on how to have deeper connections in his life. Nicholas’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? He feels disconnected from the people in his life. ? He felt like a hand-me-down kid. ? He was separated from his mother at a young age. ? He always feels like an outsider. ? He gets easily triggered to anger. ? He doesn’t feel connected to himself. ? He finds it difficult to trust people. ? He doesn’t feel emotionally safe. ? He is extremely loyal to others. ? He uses self-deprecating humor. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? He needs to find a sense of home and belonging within himself. ? He needs to find a specialist trained in infant trauma. ? He needs to work through his anger and forgive his mother. ? He needs to allow himself to be loved. ? He needs to embrace compassion and vulnerability. ? He needs to trust his impulses. Assignments For You: ? Get out of your own way and be open to someone else’s perspective and insights. ? When the student is ready the teacher appears. ? Know that you have masculine and feminine inside of you. ? Ask the people in your life for what you need. ? Trust your impulses. Sponsors: Daily Harvest delivers frozen, one-step prep, plant-based eats right to your door. Use promo code OVERIT to get 3 free Daily Harvest cups added to your first box. Freshbooks is an easy-to-use cloud accounting software for self-employed professionals. Freshbooks helps you master your business with online payments and project management options. Receive an unrestricted 30-day free trial, just in time for tax time by using OVERITANDONWITHIT in the how did you hear about us section. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine Hassler on Youtube Christine on Facebook Episode 148 Video Christine’s Books @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For those interested in being on the show
Lauren Handel Zander is the Co-Founder and Chairwoman of Handel Group, an international corporate consulting and life coaching company dedicated to teaching people how to realize their personal and professional visions. She has spent over 20 years coaching thousands of private and corporate clients and hasbeen a featured expert in The New York Times, BBC, Forbes, Women’s Health, Dr. Oz, and Marie Claire and she is a regular contributor to Businessweek and the Huffington Post. In this episode we talk about the dangers of lying and Lauren’s new book, Maybe It’s You which walks readers through the innovative step-by-step process that has transformed the lives of tens of thousands of HG clients, and explains how anyone can achieve amazing things when we stop lying and finally start keeping the promises we make to ourselves. This is a no-nonsense, funny, and proven approach that teaches people how to reset their lives. Find out which areas of life you may need to work on with the free coaching tool from Lauren Zander and Handel Group, The Current Reality Quiz. It's an easy (and fun!) way to self assess. http://bit.ly/OverOnWithItCRQ Inner.U is the digital coaching course from Lauren Zander and Handel Group - 14+ hours of audio coaching, 50+ written assignments, community chat, and much more. Use code OVERITANDONWITHIT75 for $75 off a subscription level at checkout! InnerU.Coach
This call is about changing your perception of a difficult memory from the past. Today’s caller, Sam, has a perception of a past event that is clouding the way she sees herself and her life. She doesn’t feel comfortable in her own skin and doesn’t want to truly be seen. This session is a beautiful demonstration of a miracle. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode147] The spiritual definition of a miracle is a change in perception. And often it’s a change in perception from fear to love. I encourage you to look back on how you are holding certain memories. If you continue to hold certain memories as the victim you will continue to feel like the victim and it will continue to show up in your life. I am conducting a one-day workshop for men and women in London on July 21st. Visit Christine Hassler in London or Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information. And, my 2019 Signature Retreat for women will be in San Diego in March. This event always fills up quickly to enroll click Christine’s Spring Retreat to secure your spot. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Is there a significant life event that has impacted you but you can’t seem to shift? ? Do you feel comfortable in your own skin? ? Do you hold yourself back? ? Are you overly concerned about what people think of you? ? Are you more comfortable being a caretaker or providing for others than getting attention because you are concerned about being judged? ? How connected to your sexuality are you? Do you carry any shame around it or feel inhibited? Sam’s Question: Sam wants to know how she can step into her light, allow herself to be seen and to feel comfortable in her skin. Sam’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? She feels disconnected. ? She is depressed and feels sad. ? She feels blocked. ? She fears being seen. ? She was publicly shamed. ? Her parents were critical of her. ? She is a free spirit at her core. ? She was searching for validation and approval. ? She doesn’t trust her impulses. ? She feels disconnected from her body. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She needs to forgive herself. ? She needs to reframe her situation. ? She needs to let go of her shame. ? She should have more fun. Assignments For You: ? Know you are desirable, feel safe in your body and allow the people you want into your life. You are not prey. You are desirable. ? Consider how you can reawaken your sexual energy and desires through dance, tantra, or other creative outlets. ? Write out the worst thing people could say or think about you. ? Look for the positive projections in your life. Sponsors: Wander Beauty — is a line of multi-tasking beauty essentials that are easy to use, cruelty-free and travel-friendly. Make-up should give you maximum impact with minimum effort. So, make the most out of your beauty routine. Get 20% off your purchase at Wanderbeauty.com/OVERIT or click the link above. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine Hassler on Youtube Christine on Facebook Episode 147 Video Christine’s Books @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For those interested in being on the show
Listen to a fun an informative conversation with “The Goddess of Skin” and my personal Esthetician as we talk skin care, advise on anti-aging treatments, products and DIY treatments. Dayle is a certified “Skin Geek” and have lived, breathed, and cared for her client’s skin for almost thirty years as an Esthetician. Her philosophy goes beyond skin deep; she believes we need to have a greater appreciation for our skin, more of a spiritual connection. Her skin care practice evolved into a product line after years of research, and creating and testing natural ingredient combinations. What was once a dream is a now a reality: the Goddess of Skin line combines rich, yummy, natural butters, essential oils and cosmeceuticals together to create skin care products which not only protect our bodies from damaging chemicals, but our environment as well. The Goddess of Skin line is comprised of a base of three proprietary blended organic oils. These oils have a very small molecular structure, so they penetrate deeply and are not comedogenic. In this base, Dayle adds many different cosmeceuticals that will support, nourish, and feed the skin. Her ingredients are Cruelty Free and sustainable. Learn more and shop at https://www.goddessofskin.com/
This call is about clearing up the past to see the future more clearly. Today’s caller, Summer, wants to gain clarity about her future but we focus on things in her past that are blocking her view and keeping her stuck. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode146] When we engage in unhealthy patterns it’s like being in quicksand. It’s a slow sinking process that makes us feel stuck. It’s not like falling into a big hole where it is obvious that we need to get out quick. It’s the patterns we can stay with for a while. But, if you stay sinking for too long, part of you will go under and you will feel trapped permanently. How you get clear on your vision and how you keep moving forward is to stop doing things in the present that are direct contradictions to what you want. It is nearly impossible to have a vision for our future when the past gets in the way. You don’t have to inspect every aspect of your past but if you are still in patterns that originated in old wounding and limiting beliefs, your vision is probably more reactive than authentic. It keeps you wanting things in your future to compensate for your past wounds. You will want money to fill a self-worth void, you will want fame to fill a lack of validation, or you will crave relationships and attention to fill an old hurt from feeling like you didn’t belong. I am conducting a one-day workshop for men and women in London on July 21st. Visit Christine Hassler in London or Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information. And, my 2019 Signature Retreat will be in San Diego in March. This event always fills up quickly so go to Christine’s Spring Retreat to secure your spot. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you having trouble gaining clarity on your vision for the future? ? Are you stuck in old patterns? ? Are you experiencing physical symptoms or have you been diagnosed with some label or a disorder you can’t seem to get relief from? Summer’s Question: Summer wants to know how to get clarity on her vision. Summer’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? She feels stuck in her career and relationship. ? She has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. ? She is scared of ending things. ? She was bullied growing up. ? She was rebellious as a teen. ? She has an identity crisis based on her culture. ? Her first period was a traumatic experience. ? She has an anxious attachment style. ? She wants to be single. ? She needs validation. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She needs to communicate with her eleven-year-old self about her first menstruation. ? She needs to pay attention to what she wants to heal. ? She needs to create a self-care plan including a healer and a support team. Assignments For You: ? Consider the things you may be currently doing that are in direct contradiction to what you want. ? If you are ready to get out of the quicksand, make an empowering self-care plan. ? When looking for healers, find someone with a mind-body connection — especially if you are dealing with a physical ailment. Sponsors: Daily Burn — is the world’s leading provider of online fitness programs. They provide a personalized workout plan including cardio, yoga, dance, kickboxing, and more. The daily live workout is great for travelers. Get your FREE 30-day trial at the link above. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For those interested in being on the show Aubrey Marcus Podcast — The Purpose of Pain with Christine Hassler
Listen in to this healing and uplifting conversation about loss, transition, and love with Christine’s dear friend Kristine Carlson. Kristine Carlson is a New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and leader in the field of transformation. After collaborating with her late husband Dr. Richard Carlson to create a publishing industry phenomenon with the Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff series—selling more than 25 million copies worldwide—today, Kris is emerging as a profound teacher in the areas that matter most to the human heart: how to heal and how to love. Kris has captivated readers around the world with her previous six books, her latest being From Heartbreak to Wholeness: The Hero’s Journey to Joy. In this book, she offers a process for healing that goes beyond common prescriptions for getting through the pain of heartbreak of all kinds. She takes readers by the hand, giving them a life-altering map for navigating the journey from loss to joy—one that can awaken them to a deep love affair with life.
This call is about depression and suicidal thoughts. Today’s caller, Natasha, has gone to a very dark place and is searching for the point of her life. One of the reasons so many people feel depressed is because they feel alone — like they don't belong and that they don't matter. It's not true. You are not alone, you do belong and you do matter. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode145] When you are in a dark place, you feel hopeless, that you are a burden, or like people won't understand you, you must talk about it. You do not have to go through it on your own. If you feel like there is no one to reach out to and you have had suicidal thoughts call the Suicide Prevention Hotline (800-273-8255). When a person feels separate from everyone else and in a dark place, they truly believe they won't be missed and they are a burden. Suicide sounds like a selfish act and it's not something that can be made sense of. If you hold resentment to anyone who has attempted to or been successful at taking their own life, it doesn't serve you. Let it go and stop trying to make sense of it. The recipe for depression is feeling alone and suppressed feelings. If you feel your entire existence is a burden to others you may be questioning the purpose of your life. If you relate to this, I encourage you to get more connected. It involves reaching out, asking for help, and connecting to a higher power. It is important to develop a spiritual practice. All of us have access to love from the universe. Love yourself enough to explore and deepen the connection. Join me in San Diego June 30 & July 1st to fast-track the success of your health or life coaching business. If you have a service-based business, visit Christine’s Master Class for more information or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com to sign up. I am conducting a one-day workshop for men and women in London on July 21st. Visit Christine Hassler in London or Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Have you ever questioned the point of your life? ? Have you ever had suicidal thoughts even for a fleeting moment? ? Do you struggle with depression? If you do, do you hide it from others and feel maybe feel guilty because your life looks good from the outside? ? Do you feel like you belong? ? Do you feel connected to yourself, to others or to the universe? Natasha’s Question: Natasha battles with seeing the point of her life and is asking for help. Natasha’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? She has attempted to hurt herself. ? She was scared and asked for help. ? She can get to a really dark place. ? She doesn’t feel useful to the people around her. ? She feels like a burden. ? She suppresses her thoughts and feelings. ? She feels separate from everyone. ? She lacks self-love. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She needs to express everything she has held inside for decades. ? She should do the emotional release tools from Expectation Hangover. ? She needs to connect to a higher power. ? She needs to ask the universe for help, love, and support. ? She needs to drop the pressure and guilt she places on herself. ? She should see a somatic therapist. Assignments For You: ? Reach out for help and let go of any shame you feel about it. ? Drop the pressure of having it all together. Don’t feel bad about reaching out for help when you feel sad. ? Ask the universe for help and for connection. ? Go find joy in living your life. Sponsors: Havenly — helps you create beautifully designed spaces with an interior designer based on your unique style. Take the freestyle quiz and get the guaranteed best prices when you order direct from Havenly. Use the link above for 25% off your first design package. Fabletics — offers premium activewear at a great value. They have the world's best leggings. Fabletics delivers on performance and style. Use the link to take the style quiz...
This call is about depression and suicidal thoughts. Today’s caller, Natasha, has gone to a very dark place and is searching for the point of her life. One of the reasons so many people feel depressed is because they feel alone — like they don't belong and that they don't matter. It's not true. You are not alone, you do belong and you do matter. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode145] When you are in a dark place, you feel hopeless, that you are a burden, or like people won't understand you, you must talk about it. You do not have to go through it on your own. If you feel like there is no one to reach out to and you have had suicidal thoughts call the Suicide Prevention Hotline (800-273-8255). When a person feels separate from everyone else and in a dark place, they truly believe they won't be missed and they are a burden. Suicide sounds like a selfish act and it's not something that can be made sense of. If you hold resentment to anyone who has attempted to or been successful at taking their own life, it doesn't serve you. Let it go and stop trying to make sense of it. The recipe for depression is feeling alone and suppressed feelings. If you feel your entire existence is a burden to others you may be questioning the purpose of your life. If you relate to this, I encourage you to get more connected. It involves reaching out, asking for help, and connecting to a higher power. It is important to develop a spiritual practice. All of us have access to love from the universe. Love yourself enough to explore and deepen the connection. Join me in San Diego June 30 & July 1st to fast-track the success of your health or life coaching business. If you have a service-based business, visit Christine’s Master Class for more information or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com to sign up. I am conducting a one-day workshop for men and women in London on July 21st. Visit Christine Hassler in London or Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Have you ever questioned the point of your life? ? Have you ever had suicidal thoughts even for a fleeting moment? ? Do you struggle with depression? If you do, do you hide it from others and feel maybe feel guilty because your life looks good from the outside? ? Do you feel like you belong? ? Do you feel connected to yourself, to others or to the universe? Natasha’s Question: Natasha battles with seeing the point of her life and is asking for help. Natasha’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? She has attempted to hurt herself. ? She was scared and asked for help. ? She can get to a really dark place. ? She doesn’t feel useful to the people around her. ? She feels like a burden. ? She suppresses her thoughts and feelings. ? She feels separate from everyone. ? She lacks self-love. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She needs to express everything she has held inside for decades. ? She should do the emotional release tools from Expectation Hangover. ? She needs to connect to a higher power. ? She needs to ask the universe for help, love, and support. ? She needs to drop the pressure and guilt she places on herself. ? She should see a somatic therapist. Assignments For You: ? Reach out for help and let go of any shame you feel about it. ? Drop the pressure of having it all together. Don’t feel bad about reaching out for help when you feel sad. ? Ask the universe for help and for connection. ? Go find joy in living your life. Sponsors: Havenly — helps you create beautifully designed spaces with an interior designer based on your unique style. Take the freestyle quiz and get the guaranteed best prices when you order direct from Havenly. Use the link above for 25% off your first design package. Fabletics — offers premium activewear at a great value. They have the world's best leggings. Fabletics delivers on performance and style. Use the link to take the style quiz...
In this timely and important episode, Christine talks to Dr. Gail Saltz, a leading psychiatrist and mental health advocate, about a myriad of mental health challenges and how we can treat them and help those we love who may be suffering. Dr. Saltz is best known for her work as a relationship, family, emotional wellbeing, and mental health/wellness contributor in the media and frequently shares her expertise and advice in print, online, on television and radio. Her newest book, The Power of Different: The Link Between Disorder and Genius examines brain differences (i.e. ADD, learning disabilities, Bipolar, Autism, etc.) and the connection between the potential for great talent and conditions commonly thought to be disabilities. She reveals how the source of struggle can be the origin of greatest strengths, and shares inspiring stories of remarkable individuals whose very conditions that caused them to experience difficulty at school, in social situations, at home, or at work, are inextricably bound to creative, disciplinary, artistic, empathetic and cognitive abilities (including bestselling author John Irving, Albert Einstein, astrophysicist Mario Livio, David Sedaris, ABC News Anchor Dan Harris, Andrew Solomon, and more.) Dr. Saltz is an Associate Professor of Psychiatry at the NY Presbyterian Hospital Weill-Cornell School of medicine, a psychoanalyst with the New York Psychoanalytic Institute and has a private practice in Manhattan. Connect with her here: https://drgailsaltz.com/
This call is about creating your future instead of reliving your past. Today’s caller, Rachel, has a deep fear of loss. When her husband cheated on her, she felt as though she forgave him but she is having trouble getting over it and on with the life she wants. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode144] Usually when there is cheating the person who has been cheated on blames themselves or wonders what they did wrong. Anyone who has been cheated on has done nothing wrong. Choose to let go, accept that it happened, let it go, heal the past and create the future you desire. Anything you are thinking about SO much that you feel payoff just from thinking about it, I encourage you to get the payoff in a different, more supportive way. Instead, think about a goal or experience that lights you up. Choose to let it go so you can enjoy the present and create your future rather than reliving your past. For example, If you keep thinking about a mistake you made instead of beating yourself up over and over again think about how you will apply the lessons you learned to a future event. Not allowing ourselves to go backward requires conscious discipline. We cannot just feel our feelings and forget about it. We have to be committed to shifting our thoughts. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Is there something from your past you feel have forgiven and gotten over but you continue to think about it? ? Are there things from your past you haven’t dealt with so they haunt your present? ? Have you ever cheated or been cheated on? ? Have people in your life died or abandoned you in some way that you fear loss so much it impacts your ability to open your heart to love? Rachel’s Question: Rachel wants to get over the pain of adultery and on with her relationship. Rachel’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? Her husband cheated. ? She hasn’t forgiven herself. ? She sweeps things under the rug. ? She lost many people in her life. ? She’s comfortable being sad and scared. ? She had a codependent relationship with her mother. ? She lacks a sense of self. ? She was in denial about her mother’s death. ? She projects her issues on to her girls. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She needs to work with a professional or coach to work through her issues. ? She should attend my Signature Retreat in the Spring of 2019. ? She should read Expectation Hangover. ? She needs to love and forgive herself. Assignments For You: ? If there is something you are stuck on write in your journal using the sentence starter ‘This reminds me of…’ and ‘I’ve felt like this before’ to see what memories come up. ? If you have a lot of emotion coming up that you are having a hard time managing get some help. Don’t let money be the reason you don’t get help. ? If you are feeling triggered or can’t get over something, Expectation Hangover is the holistic way to get over any type of disappointment. ? If you are in the sadness or victim zone, bring more fun and pleasure into your life. Sponsors: Daily Harvest — delivers frozen, one-step prep, plant-based eats, and refreshing drinks right to your door. Use promo code OVERIT to get 3 free Daily Harvest cups added to your first box. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For those interested in being on the show Suicide Prevention Lifeline — 800-273-TALK (8255)
Listen in as Christine discusses why growth can be so painful, why the pain is not “bad”, ways to decrease the pain, and why the pain is NOT necessary for growth. Link to blog/podcast she mentions: https://christinehassler.com/2018/03/do-you-have-enough-pleasure-in-your-life/ Please help this show by taking the podcast one survey: www.Podcastone.com/mysurvey
This call is about struggling with a decision and breaking free of unhealthy patterns. Today’s caller, Sandie, knows what she should do but needs validation that the choice is the right one for her. My coaching to her covers codependency, overcoming addictions and breaking generational patterns. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode143] Until we heal what has hurt us in our childhoods we look for people who remind us of the parent that hurt us the most. We keep going to the same well, with a different face, hoping that finally there will be water in it instead of healing our core issues, loving ourselves and breaking the pattern. And, sometimes when a child grows up with a single parent the child grows up more quickly and becomes a kind of surrogate spouse to the single parent. Then, part of the child’s identity is to be in a relationship as a caretaker which can lead to codependency. A lot of us struggle with accepting the good things that come to us. The universe opens a door but walking through it means leaving something or someone else behind. When you are delivering the truth with love, if the receiving person gets upset, it is their responsibility. Oftentimes, the most loving choice is the honest choice. Loving someone doesn’t mean placating them. Loving someone doesn’t mean staying in a situation that is not good for you because you don’t want to hurt the other person. Often, the decisions that hurt people the most truly help them the most. Would you like to become a masterful, profitable coach? Join me in San Diego June 30 & July 1st to fast-track the success of your health or life coaching business. There are only 9 spaces left. If you have a service-based business, visit Christine’s Master Class for more information or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com to sign up. I am conducting a one-day workshop for men and women in London on July 21st. Visit Christine Hassler in London or Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Are you at a crossroads? Are there decisions you are struggling with? ? Do you not want to repeat the lives of your parents but you see yourself going down a similar path? ? Can you identify with being a little codependent? Where you enmeshed with one of your parents? ? Was one of your parents an addict? ? Are you currently in a relationship with an addict? Sandie’s Question: Sandie feels that she is at a crossroads in her life and would like to know if she should follow a job opportunity. Sandie’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? She is in a relationship with an older man who is an addict. ? Her father is a severe alcoholic. ? She never felt loved by her father. ? She has an offer for a new job. ? She doesn’t want to follow in her mother’s footsteps. ? She feels responsible for other people’s feelings. ? She’s codependent. ? She always wanted her dad to change. ? She knew the right thing for her all along. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She should say yes to the opportunity to get out of her current situation. ? She should go to Al-Anon. ? She needs to get a counselor. ? She should take a break from dating for one year. ? She needs to write out what her life will look like if she continues down her current path. Assignments For You: ? If you have been or are currently in a relationship with an addict I recommend Al-Anon. ? If you are coming out of a relationship I encourage you not to date for a while. Get to know yourself. ? If you have a big decision don’t wait until you feel ready. ? If you are scared about something imagine a worst-case future scenario. ? If you are at a crossroads and you don’t know what to do, seek the advice of a professional. ? If someone in your life says they will change but never do, it might be time for you to make some changes. Sponsors: Phlur — is World Class Perfumers who create sustainable, award-winning scents at an honest...
Listen in as Christine chats with fellow entrepreneur Joel Brown about how to achieve lasting and fulfilling success. Joel drops lots of tips in this Coaches Corner and takes you through a very powerful visioning process so grab your pen and journal for this episode! More about Joel . . . With heart and hunger, Joel Brown built addicted2success.com from scratch to be the #1 motivation site in the world. With over 100 million views and over 50 Million Unique website views from his world wide audience, Joel has insights and analytics on Personal Development like no other in his industry. His Addicted2Success podcast has reached over 1.2 million podcast plays and downloads to date and his Social Media following is at 2 Million+. Joel is making his mark on the world through his online and offline contributions, recently raising over $50,000 in 2 weeks with his Addicted2Success community to build a school in Laos with Pencils of Promise for children living in poverty.
This call is about is about shifting your perspective and living the life you want to live. Today’s caller, Mickey, feels she can never quite reach success. She has done a bit of self-development work but is still bumping up against low self-worth issues and the belief that she is not good enough. Sometimes, the bigger the consumer of personal growth the bigger the critic of one’s progress. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode142] It helps to get some altitude on our past and on our life so we can get a different, more expansive view of things. Our soul evolves in many lifetimes. We come back each time with a certain curriculum of what we are here to learn. The only way to learn what we need is to experience the contrast. Look at your life as a school. We are all here to learn and grow. Everything that happens, happens for us because it sets up the soul lesson that is helpful to our evolution. It is incredibly common that when we are ready to know about and face an issue, the right information, teachers, and healers show up. And, being an Empath is a gift, but taking on people’s things and wanting to fix them, save them, or solve something is not empathic. It’s the ego part of us that wants to feel like we are helping people. The empath part of us feels, is sensitive, and has compassion. Don’t confuse empathy with your ego’s desires. You are not here to save the world. We can’t save ourselves by helping others. We have to become students and apply the same guidance, support, and insight we give to others, to ourselves. Often, people who have done a lot of personal development work believe they should know better. Would you like to become a masterful, profitable coach? Join me in San Diego June 30 & July 1st to fast-track the success of your health or life coaching business. There are only 9 spaces left. If you have a service-based business, visit Christine’s Master Class for more information or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com to sign up. I will be in Estonia at Mindvalley U on July 17th and I am conducting a one day workshop in London on July 21st. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you experience an ongoing sense of looking at other peoples lives that seem to be working out brilliantly and are wondering what you are doing “wrong”? ? Is low self-worth something you can relate to? ? Are you good at teaching self-love and personal development but you find embodying the principles challenging? ? Have you ever or are you now in a relationship with a narcissist? Mickey’s Question: Mickey wants to know how to get over her feeling of being held back from success. Mickey’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? She has done a lot of personal growth work. ? Her parents considered abortion before she was born. ? She feels not good enough. ? She is a coach. ? She hides her heart from other people. ? She sources her self-worth through others. ? She collects evidence that she is not worthy. ? She needs to change her perspective about her worth. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She needs to get rid of the story that she is not good enough. ? She needs to get a little more selfish. ? She needs to write out her belief systems and reframe them. ? She needs to change her perception from fear to love. Assignments For You: ? If you have issues tied to pre-birth or infancy, put out to the universe that you are ready for a skilled specialist to help you with it. ? When it comes to your soul curriculum, upgrade your perspective and create a miracle by shifting your perception. ? Have a beginner’s mind. Re-read one of your favorite personal growth books. Listen to my previous podcasts again. ? Get congruent with your work and your finances. If you are always giving more of what you preach to others than to yourself find balance. Sponsors: Havenly — helps you create beautifully designed spaces...
Listen in as Christine talks to her friend and fellow podcast host Jordan Harbinger about overcoming career expectation hangover and the power of your network. Jordan shares his system for how to build and nurture the kind of relationships that are key to your successs Jordan is referred to as “The Larry King of podcasting,” is a Wall Street lawyer turned talk show host, social dynamics expert, and entrepreneur. After hosting a top 50 iTunes podcast for over a decade that enjoyed nearly four million downloads a month at its zenith, Jordan has embarked on a new adventure: The Jordan Harbinger Show, where he deconstructs the playbooks of the most successful people on earth and shares their strategies, perspectives, and insights with the rest of us. Jordan’s business sense, extensive knowledge of the industry, and contemporary approach to teaching make him one of the best and most sought-after coaches in the world. Jordan Harbinger has always had an affinity for social influence, interpersonal dynamics, and social engineering, helping private companies test the security of their communications systems and working with law enforcement agencies before he was even old enough to drive. Jordan spent several years abroad in Europe and the developing world, including South America, Eastern Europe, and the Middle East, and he speaks five languages. He has also worked for various governments and NGOs overseas, traveled through war zones, and been kidnapped — twice. He’ll tell you the only reason he’s still alive and kicking is because of his ability to talk his way into (and out of) just about any type of situation. Listen to Jordan’s podcast here: https://www.jordanharbinger.com/podcast/
This call is about is about how to use your anxiety as an alarm system. Today’s caller, Lorin, asks how she can start thriving instead of surviving at work but what we discover together is that her ability to thrive has more to do with her ability to trust and listen to herself. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode141] If you suffer from any type of anxiety this call will be helpful because I teach Lorin not to minimize her feelings and to use them as her personal alarm system. We all start out being internally referenced — being totally connected to our own intuition — and then something pulls us out. We become externally referenced and that becomes what we are fluent in, which is what other people think of us and our desire to please others. We need to relearn how to become fluent in being internally referenced and trusting ourselves. People-pleasing is over-caring about what others think, lacking a sense of self and a lack of self-trust. Along with a loss of sense of self, comes anxiety and trouble with making decisions. And, when you are in a relationship with God or Spirit, it’s more than just praying for things and being grateful. Having that relationship makes it easier to trust yourself. It's easier to become internally referenced when you have the universe to turn to for the answers. *Coaches — It is important to ask a lot of questions before you start offering any kind of guidance or solution, or to pull out any tool you have to work with the client on the problem they are presenting. Too many coaches put pressure on themselves to fix a problem before getting enough information. Would you like to become a masterful, profitable coach? Join me in San Diego June 30 & July 1st to fast-track the success of your health or life coaching business. There are only 10 spaces left. If you have a service-based business, visit Christine’s Master Class for more information or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com to sign up. I have one personal coaching spot available this year. If you would like me as your personal coach email Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information. Consider/Ask Yourself: ? Do you feel like you are merely surviving rather than thriving? ? Can you relate to being a people-pleaser? ? Is feeling anxious on a REGULAR basis something you struggle with? ? Do often run to others for their advice because you have trouble making decisions on your own? Lorin’s Question: Lorin wants to know how she can start thriving, instead of surviving in her career. Lorin’s Key Insights and Ahas: ? She has dealt with anxiety through much of her life. ? She lost a sister early in her life. ? She thinks she’s codependent. ? She puts a lot of labels on herself. ? She’s a people-pleaser. ? Her anxiety is an internal alarm. ? She gives her power away. ? She’s been trying to get rid of her anxiety instead of using it. ? She is missing a connection to spirit [God]. How to Get Over It and On With It: ? She needs to give herself permission to start looking for another job. ? She needs to start working with her anxiety. ? She needs to start taking action without asking other people first. ? She needs to find her connection or reconnect with God. Assignments For You: ? If you experience anxiety use it as your alert system. ? If you are externally referenced, use a meditation to pull your energy back inward. ? If you are dealing with a job you don’t like, give yourself permission to look for something more aligned and do your best to get in acceptance of your current job. ? If you are a people-pleaser, use your intuition toward yourself rather than others and be more selfish. ? Flex your decision-making muscle. Make decisions 100% on your own and trust yourself. Sponsors: THIRDLOVE — What if you could take the away the hassle of bra shopping and find the perfect fitting bra in minutes? Take the fit finder quiz to find...