The Heart of Jacks Podcast

Conversations about sex—mostly between men—that might surprise you. Host Paul Rosenberg, writer, community organizer, and sex-positive activist in Seattle, talks with bloggers, writers, scientists, sexologists, artists, teachers, and regular folks about the “ordinary magic” of authentic human sexuality and everything that gets stirred up by it. Listen in and join the conversation.

The Myth of Sex Addiction

The Heart of Jacks PodcastEpisode #23 (S02E01) - The Myth of Sex AddictionGuest: Dr. David LeyReleased January 19, 2025Grappling with the big questions like:Is being an army brat as effective as witness protection?If you're late for work because you are enjoying porn, do you need a 12 step program or a different job?And Dr David Ley on the myth of sex addiction.Segment 1: Paul returns with questions about sex addiction, plus a very niche pet peeve about "addicted" masturbators.Segment 2: Introduction to Dr. David Ley, clinical psychologist and author, known for his critical stance regarding sex addiction. His first book, Insatiable Wives, won a Silver Medal in the Foreword Magazine Book of the Year in 2009. A Publishers Weekly review said that his book The Myth of Sex Addiction "makes a thoughtful and persuasive argument, using case studies and ample references to the work of other psychologists to flesh out his case. While serving as an excellent resource on sex addiction, Ley's study also sheds light on the myriad cultural and sociological factors that influence relationships." [Wikipedia]Dr. Ley Links:WebsitePsychology TodayNew Mexico SolutionsDr David Ley on BlueskyBooks by Dr. David LeyThe Myth of Sex AddictionInsatiable WivesEthical Porn for DicksAlso mentioned in this podcast:Coffee, Tea or Me by Trudy Baker & Rachel Jones (archive.org link)The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet HardyPractice Outside the Lines Podcast by Heather McPhersonDan SavageSavage LovecastGeorge MichaelDeborah AnopolBrazilian Jiu-Jitsu (BJJ U website)Purity Culture Support The Heart of Jacks PodcastPatreon for subscriptions and premium benefits.Ko-Fi for one-time support options.Email the showCall the show: 206-580-3120The Heart of Jacks on BlueskyThe Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul Rosenberg Theme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford SharpMusic licensed through ARTLIST.IOPodcast distribution by Simplecast

01-19
01:09:16

Call for Feedback: Sex-Positivity

The Heart of Jacks Podcast is returning soon with new episodes. Here's the complete transcript of this teaser:Hey! It's been a minute! I'm reaching out to ask for your input for an upcoming episode of The Heart of Jacks Podcast.I'm currently editing a multi-episode piece on “sex positivity” that started over a year ago and was put on a shelf (with the rest of the pod) when my club restarted operations and I got a new job and my music group began live performances again. Those three big things interrupted the HOJ project in a big way… which… you might have noticed.AAAAAnyway, I'm now circling back to The Heart of Jacks and this particular episode and it would benefit from a few more voices and that’s where your input comes in.Here’s what I’d like you to do, if you’re up for it. I’m going to give you a conversation starter—a few short questions and I’d like you to call The Heart of Jacks phone line and simply respond with your thoughts in a voicemail. You don’t have to answer every question like it’s a quiz. Just listen, mull it over a little and call with your response. If you write it out before you call, that’s fine but absolutely not required. I’d like your feedback to sound spontaneous, honest, just your take on the subject, and it can be just one or two sentences.If you were one of the fine folks who contributed to this in the past, you don't need to do it again.Now, please don't worry about being perfect. Just consider the questions for a few seconds or a few minutes and then send me your response. Here goes!Are you familiar with the term, “sex positive?” Does it mean anything to you? Have you never encountered it or is it a term you or somebody you know uses? Do you have any particular thoughts about what “sex positive” is or isn’t? Is it just jargon or a trend or is it an important idea? How about this: do you have any… feelings or judgements about somebody who casually uses the term, “sex positive?” What does it bring up for you?Again, consider all of that as a conversation starter, not the fucking SAT or a job application. Nothing is on the line here and your input is anonymous. I’m going to edit responses to be pretty short, so don’t think about it too much and don’t worry about being perfect. I just want your honest take. Simply consider the subject and send me your thoughts.When you’re ready, call The Heart of Jacks phone line at (206) 580-3120. You can also record a voice memo with your smart phone and email that to paul@theheartofjacks.com - And if you really want to contribute but you’re just super shy about using your voice, you can email me your response too. It’s just more likely that I’ll actually use it if you call in and leave voicemail or send me a voice memo.If you mess something up, just repeat it. I’ll make you sound good. I really just want to know what YOU think about this thing called “sex positivity.”Thank you so much for helping me out with this and for listening to The Heart of Jacks Podcast. I can’t wait to serve up all the good stuff that’s been cooking over the past year… or so.I’m Paul Rosenberg. Support The Heart of Jacks PodcastPatreon for subscriptions and premium benefits.Ko-Fi for one-time support options.Email the showCall the show: 206-580-3120The Heart of Jacks on BlueskyThe Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul Rosenberg Theme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford SharpMusic licensed through ARTLIST.IOPodcast distribution by Simplecast

05-31
03:49

What is Sex?

The Heart of Jacks PodcastEpisode #22 - What is "Sex?"Guest: Dr. Eric SprankleReleased November 29, 2021Supported by Patreon at https://patreon.com/theheartofjacks/Celery, Soccer and SolosexCharacter limitations,And getting back to basicsSegment 1: Paul connects the dots between vegetables, sports and masturbation… but not how you might think.Segment 2: Dr. Eric Sprankle returns for a deep dive into the fundamentals of sex. “Fundamentals” as in, what the hell is it? He is an Associate Professor of Clinical Psychology and Co-Director of the Sexuality Studies program at Minnesota State University, Mankato, as well as a licensed clinical psychologist and an AASECT-certified sex therapist affiliated with the Minnesota Sexual Health Institute. After we chew on what sex gets to be thought of as “sex,” we look at sexual health.Email the show: podcast@theheartofjacks.comCall the show: 206-580-3120The Heart of Jacks on Twitter: https://twitter.com/theheartofjacksSend your questions and they might be included in future episodes.The Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul RosenbergTheme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford Sharp https://www.jakebradford-sharp.comPodcast distribution by Simplecast at https://simplecast.comDr. Sprankle Links:Website: https://www.drsprankle.comScarlet Letters: https://www.drsprankle.com/scarletlettersTwitter: https://twitter.com/DrSprankleInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drsprankle/Minnesota State University: https://sbs.mnsu.edu/academics/psychology/about-psychology/faculty-and-staff/eric-sprankle/Mentioned in this podcast:3TƎETH (Soundcloud) https://soundcloud.com/3teethHoward Stern interview with Chris Rock https://www.howardstern.com/news/2020/09/28/chris-rock-on-forgiving-bullies-flaunting-his-abs-and-how-he-and-dave-chappelle-are-the-jay-z-and-kanye-west-of-comedy/Seeking men with experience at JO clubs for interviews!If you have a significant experience of masturbation groups, consider being interviewed on The Heart of Jacks Podcast. Just complete this short survey to be considered: https://theheartofjacks.com/jacksinterview Support The Heart of Jacks PodcastPatreon for subscriptions and premium benefits.Ko-Fi for one-time support options.Email the showCall the show: 206-580-3120The Heart of Jacks on BlueskyThe Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul Rosenberg Theme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford SharpMusic licensed through ARTLIST.IOPodcast distribution by Simplecast

11-29
01:07:23

Coming Out with Jallen Rix

The Heart of Jacks PodcastEpisode #21 - Coming OutGuest: Jallen RixReleased July 5, 2021 Supported by Patreon at https://patreon.com/theheartofjacks A six and a half year promiseThe common ground of all LGBT peopleAnd Jallen Rix on coming out- - - - -Email the show: podcast@theheartofjacks.comCall the show: 206-580-3120The Heart of Jacks on Twitter: @theheartofjacksSend your questions and they might be included in future episodes. The Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul RosenbergTheme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford Sharp Podcast distribution by Simplecast - - - - -Jallen Rix Links:Jallen’s website Jallen’s OnlyFans page (NSFW) Jallen on Youtube Jallen on Twitter Facilitator of Angel City Jacks  Book: Ex-Gay No Way: Survival and Recovery from Religious Abuse Film: Lewd & Lascivious Theater: Stake in the Ground Music: The Sacred & The Queer by Jallen Rix (1997-10-21)  Mentioned in this podcast:Derek DelGaudio’s In & Of Itself (Hulu)  “Sometimes I Wonder if I’m a Mistake” (Daniel Striped Bear & Lady Aberlin)Mister Rogers Neighborhood, episode 1578 (May 6, 1987)- - - - -Seeking men with experience at JO clubs for interviews!If you have a significant experience of masturbation groups, consider being interviewed on The Heart of Jacks Podcast. Just complete this short survey to be considered: https://theheartofjacks.com/jacksinterview Support The Heart of Jacks PodcastPatreon for subscriptions and premium benefits.Ko-Fi for one-time support options.Email the showCall the show: 206-580-3120The Heart of Jacks on BlueskyThe Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul Rosenberg Theme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford SharpMusic licensed through ARTLIST.IOPodcast distribution by Simplecast

07-05
51:40

Brian McNaught | The Hero’s Journey

The Heart of Jacks PodcastEpisode #20 - The Hero’s JourneyGuest: Brian McNaughtReleased June 21, 2021 Supported by Patreon at https://patreon.com/theheartofjacks/ The mellowing of an atheist,The best little boy in the world,and the hero’s journey Brian McNaught has been a pioneering educator on LGBTQ issues since he was fired by the Catholic Church in 1974 for being gay. He’s the author of 11 books, the best known of which are the groundbreaking On Being Gay, Gay Issues in the Workplace, which is now in the Library of Congress, and Sex Camp, required reading in some graduate classes. He’s a columnist, has hosted radio and television programs in Provincetown, has a podcast, has spoken to corporate senior executives around the world AND, he received a lengthy standing ovation from the NSA. Brian now offers most of his books and DVDs free. He’s certified as a sexuality educator, and is in a 45-year relationship with his husband, Ray.Paul mentions the Michael Shermer book, "The Believing Brain" - - - - -Email the show: podcast@theheartofjacks.comCall the show: 206-580-3120Tweet at the show: @theheartofjacksSend your questions and they might be included in future episodes. The Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul RosenbergTheme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford Sharp Podcast distribution by Simplecast - - - - -Mentioned in this podcast:Brian McNaught website Brian on YouTube Brian on Facebook  BooksOn Being Gay Gay Issues in the Workplace (Library of Congress) A Disturbed Peace — Selected Writings of an Irish Catholic Homosexual Sex Camp The Brian McNaught Resources page (books and videos)  References:“Why Do Young Gay Men Try to Be the Best?” article in Psychology Today Study Says Brains of Gay Men and Women Are Similar (Scientific American) Two Guys and a Dog | Sexual Pleasuring in Our Senior Years (Brian’s column in South Florida Gay News)  Inspiration:Remembering Jesuit Priest And Anti-War Activist Daniel Berrigan (example of resistance to the Vietnam War by members of the Catholic clergy  |  NPR - Fresh Air)Malcolm Boyd (Wikipedia) Are You Running with Me, Jesus? by Malcom Boyd Michael McConnell and Jack Baker (Wikipedia) Thich Nhat Hanh (Plum Village website) Pema Chödrön (Pema Chödrön Foundation website) Martin Luther King (The King Center) Robert Kennedy (Robert F. Kennedy Human Rights website) Harvey Milk (The Official Biography - Milk Foundation) Rev. Elder Troy Perry | Profile (LGBTQ Religious Archives Network)Francis of Assisi (Wikipedia) - - - - -Seeking men with experience at JO clubs for interviews!If you have a significant experience of masturbation groups, consider being interviewed on The Heart of Jacks Podcast. Just complete this short survey to be considered! Support The Heart of Jacks PodcastPatreon for subscriptions and premium benefits.Ko-Fi for one-time support options.Email the showCall the show: 206-580-3120The Heart of Jacks on BlueskyThe Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul Rosenberg Theme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford SharpMusic licensed through ARTLIST.IOPodcast distribution by Simplecast

06-21
01:05:50

Going Under - Daniel McGlothlen (part 2)

The Heart of Jacks PodcastEpisode #19 - Going UnderGuest: Daniel McGlothlen (part 2)Released June 2, 2021 Listener supported! Find out more and add your support at Patreon.  Ethics of a 12-year-old boySticking with the wizardsAnd Going Under with Daniel McGlothlen Daniel McGlothlen is a bondage performer and photographer, a рornographer, an erotic hypnotist, a sex educator, a sex-positive community organizer and a multi-year Seattle Erotic Art Festival juror.  He is the proprietor of visiblerestraint.com, the web platform for his homemade amateur bondage рorn. He lives in Seattle with his husband and their cats.This episode is final half of a 2-part interview. In this show, Daniel tells the story of his interest in hypnosis, a skill he came by honestly, and his exploration and development of his current expertise in erotic hypnosis, taking Paul on a tour via an exhibition of “guided gooning” conducted via private Discord server, as well as a demonstration of a pre-installed trigger connecting horniness with math impairment.Listen to part 1, The Spicy Factor - - - - -Email: podcast@theheartofjacks.comTwitter: @theheartofjacksCall: 206-580-3120Send your questions and they might be included in future episodes. The Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul RosenbergTheme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford Sharp Podcast distribution by Simplecast - - - - -Mentioned in this podcast:Mind Play: A Guide to Erotic Hypnosis by Mark Wiseman The Mind Play Study Guide by Mark Wiseman Two Hyp Chicks podcast Brainwashing by Kathleen Taylor  Support The Heart of Jacks PodcastPatreon for subscriptions and premium benefits.Ko-Fi for one-time support options.Email the showCall the show: 206-580-3120The Heart of Jacks on BlueskyThe Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul Rosenberg Theme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford SharpMusic licensed through ARTLIST.IOPodcast distribution by Simplecast

06-02
43:49

The Spicy Factor - Daniel McGlothlen (part 1)

The Heart of Jacks PodcastEpisode #18 - The Spicy FactorGuest: Daniel McGlothlen (part 1)Released May 31, 2021 Supported by Patreon at https://patreon.com/theheartofjacks/ Bursting the vanilla bubbleFinding your spicy star-levelAnd talking kink with Daniel McGlothlen Daniel McGlothlen. Daniel is a bondage performer and photographer, a рornographer, an erotic hypnotist, a sex educator, a sex-positive community organizer and a multi-year Seattle Erotic Art Festival juror.  He is the proprietor of visiblerestraint.com, the web platform for his homemade amateur bondage рorn. He lives in Seattle with his husband and their cats.This episode is part 1 of a 2-show interview. In this installment, Paul and Daniel discuss kink, levels  of spiciness, the “hot sauce effect” and Rain City Jacks.Part two, Going Under, will be posted June 2, 2021.- - - - -Email the show: podcast@theheartofjacks.comDM the show on Twitter @theheartofjacksCall the show: 206-580-3120Send your questions and they might be included in future episodes. The Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul RosenbergTheme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford Sharp Podcast distribution by Simplecast - - - - -Mentioned in this podcast:Bridey Murphy (Wikipedia) Past Life Regression Therapy: Encouraging Fantasy Rain City Jacks   Support The Heart of Jacks PodcastPatreon for subscriptions and premium benefits.Ko-Fi for one-time support options.Email the showCall the show: 206-580-3120The Heart of Jacks on BlueskyThe Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul Rosenberg Theme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford SharpMusic licensed through ARTLIST.IOPodcast distribution by Simplecast

05-31
42:57

Fourth Monday, May 2021

The Heart of Jacks PodcastEpisode #17 - Fourth Monday, May 2021Released May 24, 2021Supported by Patreon - - - - -Email the show: podcast@theheartofjacks.comCall the show: 206-580-3120The Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul RosenbergPodcast distribution by Simplecast - - - - -Mentioned in this podcast:Simplify Podcast Simplify Podcast Episode 5, Christopher Ryan: Don’t Take Sex So Seriously Sex at Dawn, by Christopher Ryan & Cacilda Jetha Rain City JacksNew York Jacks Music from this EpisodeMonday Again, Frankie Lane with Carl Fischers Orchestra (1948)I Could Write a Book, Guy Lombardo and his Royal Canadians (1941)Please Tell Me Now, Billie Holiday (1949)Tell Me More, Billie Holiday (1940)Memories, Harry Horlick and his Orchestra (1941) Support The Heart of Jacks PodcastPatreon for subscriptions and premium benefits.Ko-Fi for one-time support options.Email the showCall the show: 206-580-3120The Heart of Jacks on BlueskyThe Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul Rosenberg Theme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford SharpMusic licensed through ARTLIST.IOPodcast distribution by Simplecast

05-24
34:37

Placeholder: A Brief, Personal History

There’s a reason why the podcast has taken an occasional hiatus since it’s launch in the fall, and it’s not vacations. I’ve been cagey about it but I’ve decided that it’s time to come clean. Here’s a short, personal history of the last couple of years to serve as a placeholder until the next full episode. Please send your feedback to podcast@theheartofjacks.com.Support The Heart of Jacks Podcast Patreon for subscriptions and premium benefits. Ko-Fi for one-time support options. Email the show Call the show: 206-580-3120 The Heart of Jacks on Bluesky The Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul Rosenberg Theme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford Sharp Music licensed through ARTLIST.IO Podcast distribution by Simplecast

05-03
13:13

James goes to the Jacks

The Heart of Jacks PodcastEpisode #16 - James Goes to the JacksGuest: JamesReleased April 5, 2021 Supported by listeners like you, patrons through Patreon  Sorting out the sorting outAppearances can be deceivingand James goes to the JacksSegment 1: Age is an issue in many places and in some ways, it’s less of an issue in jack-off clubs than in many other places, but it still presents challenges for the members and managers of the Jacks everywhere. Paul has some thoughts.Segment 2: James was 24 when he first attended Rain City Jacks. It was also only his second experience having sex with men and remarkably, that was the night he met his current boyfriend, some 5 years ago. At 29, both he and his boyfriend still attend Jacks events regularly. His experience isn’t wildly different from other Jacks members, but it is uniquely his and we get into it together.- - - - -Email the show: podcast@theheartofjacks.comCall the show: 206-580-3120Send your questions and they might be included in future episodes. The Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul Rosenberg Theme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford Sharp Podcast distribution by Simplecast - - - - -Mentioned in this podcast:Rain City Jacks New York Jacks Der Boiler, Berlin Gay City, Seattle’s LGBTQ Center  Inspiration:Hamilton Morris  Recommendations:Hamilton’s Pharmacopeia Standard Ebooks  Support The Heart of Jacks PodcastPatreon for subscriptions and premium benefits.Ko-Fi for one-time support options.Email the showCall the show: 206-580-3120The Heart of Jacks on BlueskyThe Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul Rosenberg Theme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford SharpMusic licensed through ARTLIST.IOPodcast distribution by Simplecast

04-06
46:53

Fourth Monday - March 2021

Fourth Monday is a once-monthly alternative to The Heart of Jacks Podcast’s interview format. Fourth Monday will be all Paul shows (no interviews) with a few unique features:No AdsLess Editing (more raw, “live” feeling production)Feedback from ListenersShoutouts to SupportersBook Report! (The state of The Heart of Jacks, The History and Culture of Jack-Off Clubs)Coming Up (previews of what’s coming in future episodes)All music for Fourth Monday is from public domain recordings of 78 rpm discs.Theme music for Fourth Monday is Monday Again, sung by Frankie Lane with Carl Fischer’s Orchestra, recorded in 1948.Podcast distribution by SimplecastSupport The Heart of Jacks Project! Visit patreon.com/theheartofjacks Support The Heart of Jacks PodcastPatreon for subscriptions and premium benefits.Ko-Fi for one-time support options.Email the showCall the show: 206-580-3120The Heart of Jacks on BlueskyThe Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul Rosenberg Theme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford SharpMusic licensed through ARTLIST.IOPodcast distribution by Simplecast

03-23
25:27

A Tantra Primer with Rick Laska

The Heart of Jacks PodcastEpisode #14 - A Tantra Primer with Rick LaskaGuest: Rick LaskaReleased March 15, 2021 Sponsored by Woodhull Freedom Foundation at https://woodhullfoundation.orgSupported by Patreon at https://patreon.com/theheartofjacks/ Barking dogs and garage doorsPursuing the bate-life balanceAnd a mindful talk about tantra with Rick Laska Segment 1: Paul wants to talk to you about your "Bate/Life Balance," how adults who masturbate frequently balance this part of their lives with everything else being a grownup requires of us. It may sound strange, but the extension of our cultural reticence with regard to masturbation can leave people in a "denial/release" cycle of cutting out self-pleasure followed by periods of sacrificing everything else. Paul is looking for guest suggestions to chew on this topic of making healthy self-pleasuring a balanced part of our adult lives. Segment 2: Rick Laska is a clinical social worker and certified sex therapist in the Twin Cities Metro Area in Minnesota. He has been involved in the field of sexual health and wellness for over 2 decades. He is passionate about pleasure, intimacy, and connection as well as overcoming the oppressive forces trying to stifle those things. Paul and Rick talk about his path to social work and sex therapy, and dive into the fundamentals of sexual mindfulness and tantra.- - - - -Email the show: podcast@theheartofjacks.comCall the show: 206-580-3120Send your questions and they might be included in future episodes. The Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul RosenbergTheme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford SharpPodcast distribution by Simplecast- - - - -Rick Laska (AASECT profile) Rick Laska (Director of Clinical Services, JustUs Health, St. Paul Minnesota)  Mentioned in this podcast: Inspiration:Diana Fosha, PhDAbout Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP) Esther Perel"Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel" (podcast) "How’s Work?" (podcast) "Rethinking infidelity… a talk for anyone who has ever loved" Esther Perel at TED2015  Recommendations:"Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century" by Barbara Carrellas "Tantra for Gay Men" by Bruce Anderson "It's Not Always Depression: Working the Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to Your Authentic Self" by Hilary Jacobs Hendel Sex Education on Netflix  Support The Heart of Jacks PodcastPatreon for subscriptions and premium benefits.Ko-Fi for one-time support options.Email the showCall the show: 206-580-3120The Heart of Jacks on BlueskyThe Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul Rosenberg Theme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford SharpMusic licensed through ARTLIST.IOPodcast distribution by Simplecast

03-15
45:25

True Stories & Sex Clubs with David Quantic

The Heart of Jacks PodcastEpisode #13 - True Stories & Sex Clubs with David QuanticGuest: David QuanticReleased March 8, 2021Sponsored by Woodhull Freedom Foundation at https://woodhullfoundation.orgSupported by Patreon at https://patreon.com/theheartofjacks/Fanboying all over the placepodcasters interviewing podcasters interviewing podcasters…And dipping into true stories and sex clubs with David QuanticOriginally from Kansas, David Quantic has lived in Texas, New York and in 1999 he moved to L.A. to attend UCLA’s MFA Film Production/Directing program, graduating in 2004. He worked freelance in the L.A. film industry in production and post-production until 2016 when he moved to Seattle to work for the Queer Film Festival. He has been producing the Fruitbowl documentary and podcast series since 2018. Fruitbowl is an oral history of queer sex. Each episode of the podcast features one person describing their coming of age and how they discovered their sexual preferences.In this interview, we talk about Fruitbowl Podcast; its accidental genesis and its uniquely real and human take on queer sex. We also talk about Rain City Jacks (where we met), me being on his podcast and about the differences between jack-off clubs and (other) sex clubs.Email the show: podcast@theheartofjacks.comCall the show: 206-580-3120Send your questions and they might be included in future episodes.The Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul RosenbergTheme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford Sharp Podcast distribution by Simplecast Fruitbowl Website Fruitbowl on Patreon Fruitbowl on Twitter Fruitbowl Podcast on Apple (leave him a sweet review!) Paul’s Fruitbowl interview Mentioned in this podcast:HUMP (Dan Savage’s HUMP Film Festival) Rain City Jacks (NSFW)Inspiration:Paris is Burning Jennie Livingston Grey Gardens (1975)Albert and David Maysles Frederick Wiseman David Lynch NPR  Terry Gross Fresh Air Recommendations:Cary Grant Bringing Up Baby (1938) Holiday (1938) The Philadelphia Story (1940) 42nd Street (1933) Grand Hotel (1932) Top Hat (1935) Gypsy (1962)Paul butts in: Guy Maddin Support The Heart of Jacks PodcastPatreon for subscriptions and premium benefits.Ko-Fi for one-time support options.Email the showCall the show: 206-580-3120The Heart of Jacks on BlueskyThe Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul Rosenberg Theme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford SharpMusic licensed through ARTLIST.IOPodcast distribution by Simplecast

03-09
50:10

Talking Shame with Dr. Eric Sprankle

The Heart of Jacks PodcastEpisode #12 - Talking Shame with Dr. Eric SprankleGuest: Dr. Eric SprankleReleased March 1, 2021 Sponsored by Woodhull Freedom Foundation at https://woodhullfoundation.orgSupported by Patreon at https://patreon.com/theheartofjacks/ Important lessons for a nine-year-old snoopMissing lessons in mid-century schoolAnd talking shame with Dr. Eric Sprankle Segment 1: Paul talks about how he learned about sex before most of his friends did (hint: It wasn’t from his parents or school) and about the ways that queer kids learn nothing at all about sex or relationships and are still left to kludge their lives together without guidance, a monologue inspired by his conversation with today’s guest.Segment 2: Dr. Eric Sprankle is an Associate Professor of Clinical Psychology and Co-Director of the Sexuality Studies program at Minnesota State University, Mankato, as well as a licensed clinical psychologist and an AASECT-certified sex therapist affiliated with the Minnesota Sexual Health Institute. He joins Paul to talk about shame and sexual shame.Questions that we chewed on:What is shame?Is sexual shame unique from other kinds of shame?Where does sexual shame and overall sex negativity come from?Is shame ever a good thing?What’s a good alternative focus?What's behind the cultural pressure to feel shame?Is the rise of secularism alone a solution to sexual shame?- - - - -Email the show: podcast@theheartofjacks.comCall the show: 206-580-3120Send your questions and they might be included in future episodes. The Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul RosenbergTheme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford Sharp Podcast distribution by Simplecast - - - - -Dr. Sprankle Links:Website, Scarlet Letters, Twitter, Instagram Dr. Sprankle at Minnesota State University Mentioned in this podcast: Inspiration:Jerry Seinfeld Howard Stern Rob Zombie  Recommendations:Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving, Betty Dodson The Myth of Sex Addiction, Dr. David Ley  Books by Mary Roach Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Science and Sex Spook: Science Tackles the Afterlife Stiff: The Curious Lives of Human Cadavers  Support The Heart of Jacks PodcastPatreon for subscriptions and premium benefits.Ko-Fi for one-time support options.Email the showCall the show: 206-580-3120The Heart of Jacks on BlueskyThe Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul Rosenberg Theme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford SharpMusic licensed through ARTLIST.IOPodcast distribution by Simplecast

03-01
56:49

Tim Goes to the Jacks

The Heart of Jacks PodcastEpisode #11 - Tim Goes to the JacksGuest: TimReleased February 15, 2021 Sponsored by Woodhull Freedom Foundation Supported by Patreon  Painting a Picture with StoriesPlaying an orchestra of oneAnd Tim Goes to the Jacks Segment 1: Why interview men who go to jack-off clubs? Paul makes the case for how multiple individual conversations help paint a singular big picture.Segment 2: Tim is a member and volunteer at Rain City Jacks and he offers up his story of finding the Jacks and discovering all that's unique, erotic, surprising and inspiring about the experience, and then going off on a delicious tangent about an actual video store and enjoying art house movie screenings at home.- - - - -Email the show: podcast@theheartofjacks.comCall the show: 206-580-3120Send your questions and they might be included in future episodes.The Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul RosenbergTheme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford SharpPodcast distribution by Simplecast - - - - -Mentioned in this podcast:Rain City Jacks (NSFW)Angel City Jacks (site under construction)Healthy Friction (NSFW)BateWorld (NSFW)Scarecrow Video (Seattle)Gloria Grahame Peter Bagdanovich TCM: The Plot Thickens Targets Guy Maddin The Saddest Music in the WorldKeyhole My Winnipeg  Support The Heart of Jacks PodcastPatreon for subscriptions and premium benefits.Ko-Fi for one-time support options.Email the showCall the show: 206-580-3120The Heart of Jacks on BlueskyThe Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul Rosenberg Theme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford SharpMusic licensed through ARTLIST.IOPodcast distribution by Simplecast

02-15
55:11

Doctor Joe Kort

The Heart of Jacks PodcastEpisode #10 - Dr. Joe KortGuest: Dr. Joe KortReleased January 18, 2021 Mining for material on social mediaMaking your own happiness chemicalsAnd choosing sides with Doctor Joe Kort Sponsor: The Woodhull Freedom FoundationSupported by Patreon at https://patreon.com/theheartofjacks/ Segment 1: Paul returns with a little inspiration from a friend’s FB feed and a little advice about making your own “happiness chemicals” the easy way.Segments 2 & 3: Paul is joined by Dr. Joe Kort, Licensed Sex and Relationship Therapist, to talk about coming out kinky, “side guys” and our perennial favorite topic, straight guys into penis play… with other guys’ penises. Email the show: podcast@theheartofjacks.comCall the show: 206-580-3120 The Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul RosenbergTheme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford SharpPodcast distribution by Simplecast- - - - -Mentioned in this podcast:Dr. Kort's Links (Hint: "drjoekort")Web Site: http://www.joekort.com/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drjoekortTwitter: https://twitter.com/drjoekortInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drjoekort/ Books by Dr. Joe Kort:10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Find Real LoveLGBTQ Clients in Therapy: Clinical Issues and Treatment StrategiesIs My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi?: A Guide for Women Concerned about Their Men Dr. Joe Kort on Psychology TodayThe Center for Relationship and Sexual HealthModern Sex Therapy InstitutesSmart Sex Smart Love podcastGuys on the ‘Side’: Looking Beyond Gay Tops and Bottoms (Huffington Post article about “Side Guys”) by Dr. Joe KortBateWorld (NSFW)Garfunkel and Oates The LoopholeBrian McNaughtEsther Perel Support The Heart of Jacks PodcastPatreon for subscriptions and premium benefits.Ko-Fi for one-time support options.Email the showCall the show: 206-580-3120The Heart of Jacks on BlueskyThe Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul Rosenberg Theme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford SharpMusic licensed through ARTLIST.IOPodcast distribution by Simplecast

01-18
36:09

Sophia Sky

The Heart of Jacks PodcastEpisode #9 - Sophia SkyGuest: Sophia IannicelliReleased December 28, 2020 The activism of the eroticI’ll be comin’ down the mountainAnd talking about sex and art with Sophia SkySupported by patrons through PatreonSegment 0: This will be the last full episode of The Heart of Jacks Podcast for a few weeks. Medical hinderances are why. I will be back "soon" and in the meantime, you can reach me on Twitter @theheartofjacksSegment 1: Reading from the 2015 welcome letter of the Seattle Erotic Art Festival, written by Sophia Iannicelli (Sophia Sky), Paul draws parallels between her vision of the power of erotic art, and his own reason for doing this podcast.Segment 2: Sophia Sky, executive director of the Pan Eros Foundation, discusses sex, erotic art, the Seattle Erotic Art Festival, Elfquest and true crime podcasts!Email the show: podcast@theheartofjacks.comCall the show: 206-580-3120Send your questions and they might be included in future episodes.The Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul RosenbergTheme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford SharpPodcast distribution by Simplecast- - - - -Mentioned in this podcast:Pan Eros FoundationSeattle Erotic Art FestivalConsent AcademyGallery Erato  309 1st Ave S., Seattle, WA 98104Center for Sex Positive CultureElfquestJoycelyn EldersRae AkinoReclaiming Ourselves (Work by Rae Akino)Remembering Allena Gabosch (CSPC site page)Criminalia (True Crime/History podcast)Rate and Review The Heart of Jacks Podcast! Support The Heart of Jacks PodcastPatreon for subscriptions and premium benefits.Ko-Fi for one-time support options.Email the showCall the show: 206-580-3120The Heart of Jacks on BlueskyThe Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul Rosenberg Theme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford SharpMusic licensed through ARTLIST.IOPodcast distribution by Simplecast

12-29
35:16

Tingling Toes

[Not a full episode. Let’s call this a bonus!]Before the bupivacaine wears off and the first dose of painkillers kick in, just after that first post-op cup of coffee, there’s a sweet window of opportunity to knock out a quick non-episode so your ears aren’t lonely on Solstice morning.Rather than post an oh-so-close-but-as-yet-unfinished episode of the podcast, I made this End of 2020 support pitch on the fly, a standalone semi-show to remind you that I love you, that I’m really doing just fine (even if I did just have my third orthopedic surgery of the year just this morning) and to highlight three important things I need for the health of this podcast:You really should listen to the episodes you missed.I need more Patreon patrons and there’s a sneaky way to make just one payment.I urgently need more ratings and reviews on Apple Podcasts.If you’re enjoying the show but not yet a patron, please consider supporting the project by going to patreon.com/theheartofjacks and contributing what you can either monthly or annually. New subscribers get two free months with an *annual* subscription through February 2021.Really, the best thing you can do for any podcaster is to help increase their visibility on Apple Podcasts! Please take a minute to find The Heart of Jacks Podcast on Apple Podcasts, rate and review the show. In fact, consider doing that for every podcast you love. If you can’t contribute your hard-earned cash to the cause, you can help other listeners hear the shows you love and that is the Holy Grail for every podcaster.Thank you for all you’ve done already to put The Heart of Jacks Podcast into more than 2,500 sets of ears in just three months. That’s over 5,000 ears! Support The Heart of Jacks PodcastPatreon for subscriptions and premium benefits.Ko-Fi for one-time support options.Email the showCall the show: 206-580-3120The Heart of Jacks on BlueskyThe Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul Rosenberg Theme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford SharpMusic licensed through ARTLIST.IOPodcast distribution by Simplecast

12-21
11:19

Tyler The Bad Wolf

The Heart of Jacks PodcastEpisode #8 - Tyler the Bad WolfGuest: Tyler Darlig UlvReleased December 14, 2020 Looking for sponsors in all the right placesAsking an expert about straight JacksAnd talking sex work and the awesomeness of masturbation with Tyler The Bad Wolf Supported by Patreon Segment 1a: Hey sponsors! I’m looking to sell some ad space on the show. If you have a product or service you'd like my listeners to know about, shoot me an email at sponsor@theheartofjacks.com or call 206-580-3120. Segment 1b: Michael, a listener in San Francisco wants to know how I know who the straight members of the Jacks are. I give him my take on it and reason for approaching member sexual orientation the way I do, and then I call in a lifeline in the form of Dr. David Ley, clinical psychologist and sex therapist (you may have seen him on TV or heard him on radio or other podcasts before) and Dr. Ley shares his take… "It's complicated." Segment 2: Tyler The Bad Wolf. Guest, Tyler Darlig Ulv's last name literally translates from the Norwegian as "bad wolf." Tyler is a professional sex worker living in Berlin, a writer, designer and blogger and an ex-New Yorker who I met at NY Jacks. He made an impression and we became friends. I'm thrilled to share our conversation with you. We talk about sex work, NY Jacks, the awesomeness of masturbation and Kylie Minogue! Email the show: podcast@theheartofjacks.comSponsor the show: sponsor@theheartofjacks.comCall the show: 206-580-3120 The Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul RosenbergTheme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford SharpPodcast distribution by Simplecast- - - - -Mentioned in this podcast: Tyler's Links (NSFW)Main site: https://tylerthebadwolf.com/Blog: https://badwolf.blog/Insta: https://www.instagram.com/tylerdarligulv/Twitter: https://twitter.com/tylerthebadwolf Dr. David Ley (web site)Dr. David Ley on Twitter-----Books by Dr. David Ley:Insatiable Wives (2009)The Myth of Sex Addiction (2012)Ethical Porn for Dicks: A Man’s Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure (2016)-----NY Jacks (NSFW)Handobs Magazine (NSFW)Tales From The City, Armisted MaupinTyler Interviews Dad, Creator of Handjobs Magazine (NSFW)Masturbation is Amazing (NSFW)Cockrings: Every Day (NSFW blog entry)Kylie Minogue, DISCOThe CrownThe FavouriteThe Four Agreements Support The Heart of Jacks PodcastPatreon for subscriptions and premium benefits.Ko-Fi for one-time support options.Email the showCall the show: 206-580-3120The Heart of Jacks on BlueskyThe Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul Rosenberg Theme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford SharpMusic licensed through ARTLIST.IOPodcast distribution by Simplecast

12-14
01:03:30

Hezekiah Goes to the Jacks

The Heart of Jacks PodcastEpisode #7 - Hezekiah Goes to the JacksGuest: HezekiahReleased December 7, 2020 Back in the Saddle AgainSecure your own oxygen mask firstAnd Hezekiah Goes to the Jacks Sponsored by The Seattle Erotic Art Festival presenting SEAF 2020: The Pandemic EditionSupported by Patreon at https://patreon.com/theheartofjacks/ Segment 1: Has it really been four weeks? Wow. I'm back in the podcast saddle after four weeks of recovery from surgery and ready to talk Shakespeare, the gift of LGBTQ+ people to the world and, more than anything, the importance of being honest. Segments 2 & 3: Hezekiah Goes to the JacksHezekiah has been to JO clubs all over the world and has a lot to share about body image, nudity, authenticity and masturbation as a primary source of sexual satisfaction. Segment 4: A tribute to Allena Gabosch who died on November 25, 2020. She was a friend, a mentor and the very first guest on The Heart of Jacks Podcast, episode #1. Email the show: podcast@theheartofjacks.comCall the show: 206-580-3120Send your questions and they might be included in future episodes. The Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul RosenbergTheme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford SharpPodcast distribution by Simplecast at https://simplecast.com- - - - -Mentioned in this podcast:Hamlet, by William Shakespeare, Act I, Scene III (lines 78–80)Rain City Jacks (NSFW)Philadelphia Jacks (NSFW)Melbourne Wankers (NSFW)BateWorld (NSFW) Allena Gabosch - In Memoriam (by Sophia Sky Iannicelli)Allena Gabosch - Obituary (by Mac McGregor)Sex Positive Now: Everything you need to know about sex positivity, by Jeremy Shub (Editor), Gabosch Allena (Editor)The Heart of Jacks Podcast, Episode #1, Talking about Talking About Sex with Allena Gabosch Support The Heart of Jacks PodcastPatreon for subscriptions and premium benefits.Ko-Fi for one-time support options.Email the showCall the show: 206-580-3120The Heart of Jacks on BlueskyThe Heart of Jacks Podcast, written and produced by Paul Rosenberg Theme Music is Carouselophane by Jake Bradford SharpMusic licensed through ARTLIST.IOPodcast distribution by Simplecast

12-07
39:44

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