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In this episode, Julie ( @thesecurerelationship) discusses the importance of creating healthy and secure attachment styles in relationships. She explains how the modern world has led to an increase in insecure attachment and offers insights into how we can shift towards a more secure and fulfilling relationship dynamic. Julie emphasizes the importance of validation, emotional support, and empathy in creating secure attachment. She also addresses the misconception of hyper-independence and the need for validation from others. Throughout the conversation, Julie provides practical tips and skills for developing a secure attachment with oneself and one's partner.

In this episode, Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath share their personal journey of love, growth, and transformation. They discuss how they met, the challenges they faced in their relationship, and the lessons they learned along the way. Mark and Kylie delve into the importance of integrity, self-awareness, and communication in building healthy and fulfilling relationships. They also explore the concept of a "sacred pause" and how taking intentional breaks can lead to deeper self-discovery and relationship growth. Through their own experiences, Mark and Kylie offer valuable insights and practical advice for individuals seeking to create authentic and liberated love in their lives.Mark Groves is a Human Connection Specialist, founder of Create the Love and host of the Mark Groves Podcast. Mark's work bridges the academic and the human, inviting people to explore the good, the bad, the downright ugly, and the beautiful sides of connection.Kylie McBeath, also known as @beingisbeautiful to her 130K Instagram followers, shares daily guidance and teachings on relationships, spirituality, and embodied liberation. She is also a Certified Health Coach and the host of The Journey Home podcast.Preorder Liberated Love here! https://read.macmillan.com/lp/liberated-love/Website: createthelove.com + markgroves.comPodcast: markgrovespodcast.com + The Journey Home PodcastInstagram: @createthelove & @beingisbeautiful

In this episode of The Heartbeat, Eli Harwood (@attahmentnerd on IG) shares how to create a secure attachment style, what a secure attachment looks like, and how your childhood affects your attachment style

Dr. Cat Meyer is a licensed marriage and family therapist, sex therapist, and yoga instructor. She specializes in helping individuals and couples heal their relationship to sex and intimacy. Dr. Cat combines her clinical expertise with her personal experiences in tantra, BDSM, and psychedelics to provide a unique and holistic approach to sexual healing. In this episode, she discusses the similarities between sex and psychedelics. She explains that both can be psychedelic experiences that expand our consciousness and perspectives. Sex can be a space for healing and self-discovery, where we can explore and integrate different parts of ourselves. Similarly, psychedelics can bring forth hidden aspects of our psyche and allow us to face and heal our fears, shame, and trauma. Dr. Cat emphasizes the importance of mindfulness and presence in both sex and psychedelic experiences. She also explores how sex and psychedelics can dissolve boundaries and create a deep sense of interconnectedness with ourselves and our partners. Follow Dr. Cat on Instagram @sexloveyoga

Dominique D'Vita (yestantra) discusses the challenges people face in keeping their hearts open during intimacy and lovemaking. She explains that many people have been miseducated about sex and have learned to disconnect their sexual energy from their emotions and heart space. This podcast uncovers the blocks to human connection and intimacy and what to do about it0:00:00 How to connect while having sex 0:05:30 Blocks to intimacy0:08:19 Breaking free from societal conditioning 0:10:54 Sharing sexual needs0:14:37 How to receive more pleasure0:16:11 What is Tantra0:18:21 The brain on sex0:20:00 Different types of tantra0:26:00 Overcoming performance anxiety and pressure in sexual experiences0:26:33 The disempowerment of men0:30:53 Supporting men in overcoming performance issues

Jillian explores the concept of self-worth and its role in setting boundaries. Many people struggle with self-abandonment and fear of losing love, leading them to prioritize others' needs over their own. Jillian emphasizes the need to retrain our minds and beliefs about relationships, understanding that self-love and self-worth are essential for healthy connections. She encourages individuals to value themselves and their needs, while also being compassionate and understanding towards others.Jillian delves into the topic of settling for breadcrumbs in relationships and the importance of not accepting less than what you deserve. She advises individuals to seek partners who are thrilled to be with them and to avoid relationships where they are not receiving the love and attention they desire.The conversation also touches on the mirror effect in relationships, where the qualities we dislike in our partners often reflect aspects of ourselves that we have not fully embraced. Jillian encourages individuals to explore their own triggers and judgments, recognizing that they may be projecting their own insecurities onto their partners.The interview concludes with a discussion on rebuilding trust in relationships and the importance of seeking professional help, such as therapy or counseling, when dealing with betrayal or ruptured foundations. Jillian emphasizes the need for transparency, loyalty, and open communication to rebuild trust.

Lori Jean Glass, author of "Healthy Adult," discusses the topic of love addiction and fantasy in relationships. We explored the importance of understanding one's own developmental parts, how to set effective boundaries, and a deeper look at the different attachment styles. Visit Lovetopivot.com for more information on her work. 0:00:00 Love Addiction 0:01:33 Reasons why people cling in relationships 0:04:05 Importance of understanding individual experiences in relationships 0:05:28 Exploring developmental parts 0:10:24 Different attachment styles and their impact on relationships 0:14:39 Understanding and navigating different energy dynamics in relationships 0:18:46 Reparenting in relationship 0:23:59 Understanding Relational Gridlock 0:26:11 The significance of choosing oneself in relationships 0:33:21 Healthy Relationships

In this episode of The Heartbeat, Brian Withrow Reeves discusses the differences between men and women when it comes to intimacy and relationships. He explains that while men and women have the same essential needs for safety, love, and acceptance, they often approach relationships and problem-solving differently. Brian also talks about the challenges men face in today's society and the importance of connection in relationships. He shares insights from his own personal journey and offers advice for men who are seeking more fulfillment in their relationships. Key Takeaways: Men and women have the same essential needs for safety, love, and acceptance. Men and women often approach relationships and problem-solving differently, which can lead to conflict and disconnect. The culture we live in rewards men for solving problems and achieving outcomes, which can create a disconnect in relationships. Men need to learn how to be more relational and connect with their partners on a deeper level. The crisis in relationships is a crisis of connection, not of money, sex, or social media. About The Guest: Brian Reeves is a relationship coach, author, and speaker. He has been coaching couples for ten years and has worked with countless men and women to help them improve their relationships. Brian is the author of the book "Choose Her Every Day or Leave Her," which has been read by millions of people. Quotes: "Men and women tend to come at things very differently and from a different set of initial priorities and values, and that can create endless conflict or disconnect." "The real crisis in relationships is a crisis of connection, not of money or sex or social media." "Men and women are constantly experiencing a disconnect because men are problem resolution-oriented, while women are in the conversation to create connection." "We are rewarded for solving problems and achieving outcomes, but we are not rewarded for collaborative, nurturing ways of being." "Men need to learn how to be more relational and connect with their partners on a deeper level." Links: Brian Reeves' website Brian Reeves' book, "Choose Her Every Day or Leave Her" 0:00:00 Mens needs / womens needs 0:01:02 Disconnect between men and women 0:03:45 The crisis in modern dating / The crisis in modern relationships 0:04:31 Masculine culture 0:05:41 Selfish thinking vs inclusive thinking 0:08:26 How to respect needs and boundaries 0:10:28 Responsibility in relationship 0:13:39 How to be compassionate and assertive 0:17:59 Men's initiation 0:30:17 Survival mode in relationships 0:37:27 How to make inclusive choices 0:38:50 Men need to seek wise counsel and support 0:43:30 What men find attractive in a woman 0:46:14 The challenge in relationships 0:57:09 Brian Reeves' book "Choose Her Every Day or Leave Her"

In this episode, Dr. Nicole LePera AKA The Holistic Psychologist talks about her own intimate relationship, her new book, and how inner work is the gateway to healthy relationships. She has a background in couples therapy that has greatly influenced her new book - How To Be The Love You Seek. She has gained a massive following on social media for her insightful and relatable content and is passionate about helping individuals improve their relationships and find healing. Dr. Nicole LePera discusses the reasons behind her rapid rise in popularity and the universal appeal of her content. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing our past and how it shapes our choices and the growing awareness of the possibility of change. Dr. LePera also explores the shift in societal attitudes toward relationships and the importance of vulnerability and authenticity. She shares her personal journey of overcoming fear and learning to share herself honestly. Dr. LePera highlights the significance of creating safety and security within ourselves before seeking it in relationships with others. The book, "How to Be the Love You Seek," provides practical tools and prompts for self-exploration and creating change in relationships. Chapters 0:05:47 Dr. Nicole LePera's personal growth and journey in the public eye 0:08:12 The purpose of intimate relationships and the importance of safety and security 0:18:28 The balance between hyper-independence / self-reliance and interdependence in relationships 0:23:34 Dr. Nicole LePera's personal relationships and the challenges faced 0:30:04 How to have open and honest communication in relationships 0:38:40 The process of personal growth and change in relationships 0:44:14 The unique perspective of the book and the focus on self-change 0:49:19 The importance of staying true to oneself and finding like-minded individuals 0:54:58 Accepting that others may not change and finding peace within oneself 0:58:01 The challenges of trying to change others and the importance of acceptance 1:00:24 The importance of acceptance in relationships 1:00:39 Overview of Dr. Nicole LePera's book and what readers can expect 1:01:26 The structure and content of the book 1:02:09 The focus on nervous system wellness and emotional exploration 1:02:26 The inclusion of human attachment in the book 1:04:05 The possibility of change at any age 1:04:27 The emotional labor of writing a book and the importance of processing emotions 1:07:39 Information about the release date and where to learn more about the book 1:10:14 How to get over an ex if you still love them 1:11:27 Gaps in the healing space 1:12:22 How to open up to a partner about sexual needs and desires 1:13:15 How to create a safe space for communication in relationships 1:14:18 Relationships and higher levels of consciousness 1:17:00 Definind love 1:19:48 Information about Dr. Nicole LePera's new book and website 1:20:52 Final words of gratitude and appreciation for the community Quotes: "We're all struggling the same way, wondering what's wrong with us and seeking change." "As a species, we're starting to see the possibility of change and becoming more empowered." "We're expanding the definition of human and considering the role of emotions in our lives." "Creating safety and security within ourselves allows us to show up more authentically in relationships." "Relationships are a space for challenge and growth, where we can learn to be vulnerable and connected." Dr Nicole LePera Relationship The Holistic Psychologist Relationship Dr Nicole LePera Relationship Relationship Book The Holistic Psychologist New Relationship Book How To Be The Love You Seek Podcast Interview

@thejennkennedy and @patrick.kennedy__ have an amazing love story that is unconventional to societal standards. They share how they have navigated spiritual awakenings individually and as a couple that ultimately drew them closer together. I believe they are a prime example of what is possible in a relationship and what it means to navigate life changes and challenges, together.

Dr. Stan has been one of my favorite Authors on relationships for a while now, and my relationship has improved since implementing some of the tools he gives in his book Your Brain On Love.  In this episode, we talked about his story getting into his work, how he thinks about relationships, and his view of what makes relationships last!  Dr. Stan Tatkin is the developer of the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT). PACT is a polytheoretical, non-linear approach to dyadic systems that integrates developmental neuroscience, arousal regulation, and attachment theory. PACT has a reputation for effectively treating the most challenging couples.

Scott and Emily are friends of mine and it was so fun to interview them for the podcast! They have such a fantastic story AND we talked nitty gritty on:  -How to navigate triggers with your partner  -Supporting your partner in their healing -Creating Safety in relationships Scott and Emily are incredible space holders and I've seen it firsthand working alongside them. You can follow them on Instagram @journey_of_man and @the.emilyfitz

This powerhouse couple is one of the most inspiring couples I've had the pleasure of interviewing AND knowing. Not only do they have an amazing relationship and are super fun to hang with, but they are also millionaires through companies that truly serve and leave a positive impact on people's lives. I am friends with both of them and have witnessed their relationship blossom over the years - and especially seeing "behind the scenes" - they are the same off camera as they are ON camera which says A LOT.   This episode goes deep into how they manifested partnership AND everything they have done to work on their relationship to get it to where it is today. How to fight, weekly love meetings, and understanding how to collaborate as two very powerful people on their own, they shared TONS of practical guidance that can help you create the love you desire.   Follow Blair Jones - @Blair.rachel.jones on Instagram  Follow Garrain Jones - @Garrain.jones on Instagram and Garrainjones.com

This was such a fun episode! We talked about healing codependency within your relationship and what it really means to build a partnership despite what it's "supposed" to look like in the beginning and going with what feels right for YOU!  Shoutout @marissa.hamon on IG!  If you're new here, welcome to The Heartbeat podcast! 

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Chloe and Michael are an amazing couple who also help other couples find self-love and prepare for parenthood. You can find their work at Mindfullyloved.com and they have a really unique story on long distance as well as navigating working together and how that has impacted their relationship. 

What do you do when you are in love and your parents disagree with your picker? We dive deep into that and much more in this episode when it comes to truly CHOOSING your partner despite all of the odds. 

Together for 30 years, this powerful couple shares their story and the wisdom they learned along the way to not just make their relationship work, but helping others do the same! you can connect at: https://www.youtube.com/@JanandMonika https://www.janandmonika.com/

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This was a good one!  It's not often you hear of couples having this many kids AND still passionately In love with each other  I hope you get as much from this episode as I did!  Cheers to more in 2023 so be sure to subscribe if you haven't yet!