A lot of people think if you argue in your relationship it means something is wrong, but relationship therapist and sexologist Lucille Shackleton says it’s actually a good thing - it just depends on how you fight.In this ep Dee Salmin gets all the advice from Lucille on how to deal with conflict with your partner in a healthy way. SHOW NOTES: Lucille's InstagramLucille's book All InGottman Institute research on conflict DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
‘Micro cheating’ is the new trend online, and everyone’s got a hot take on what it looks like. So what do you consider ‘micro cheating’? And is it worth ending a relationship over?DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
A lot of the time if we’re struggling in our love lives, whether that’s attracting the wrong people, or ending up in bad relationships, we usually blame the other person/people. But sometimes it has a lot to do with ourselves. In this episode relationship therapist and sexologist Lucille Shackleton chats to Dee about the ways we can unpack our bad dating habits and create the safe and healthy love we deserve. SHOW NOTES: Lucille Shackleton Instagram: @lucille.shackleton DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
From moaning names and describing your hottest fantasies, we ask you what you think about dirty talk - what you love about it, what you hate about it, and how you reckon you can level up your vernacular in and out of the bedroom.SHOW NOTES:Articles on audio erotica: https://www.allure.com/story/sensual-auralism-dirty-talkhttps://www.dazeddigital.com/life-culture/article/58354/1/why-so-many-women-are-turning-to-audio-erotica-frolicme-dipseaDirty talk research: https://bigthink.com/the-present/dirty-talk/https://getmaude.com/blogs/themaudern/the-science-behind-dirty-talkDO OUR SURVEY!!!!! → https://forms.office.com/r/0UPDsRsaZ6DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
We’re back and we have a LOT to discuss - from debriefing our debauchery to hearing all about your summer secrets. ALSO!!! Pls pls pls fill out our survey!! We want your feedback on the pod - what you’re loving, what you want to hear more of and what we can do to make it better. It only takes a few minutes and you can find it here —> SURVEYDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
A lot of you told us that you think you either have sexual chemistry with someone from the beginning or you don’t. So if you’re dating/sleeping with someone and you feel like the spark just isn’t there, is it worth sticking around? Sex coach Georgia Grace has A LOT to tell you.Plus, he gives us a spicy hot take and sings some original songs for you. cs, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
Comedian Morgan Jay comes through the Hook Up studios to give us the sweet sweet sounds of autotune. Dee and Pip get the goss on his tour, dms, dirty talk and his open relationship. Plus, he gives us a spicy hot take and sings some original songs for you. cs, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
Content creator Evelyn Miller was born with complete uterus didelphys, a medical condition which means she has two vaginas. She has to use two tampons, can have two babies from two different guys at the same time and can have double the fun in her sex life.We chat to her about what her vulva looks like, how sex feels and what it's been like being an Only Fans creator with her husband.DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
Tradwives are women who believe in traditional gender roles - they’re full time homemakers, living to serve their husbands and children. Now they’re going viral on tiktok, alongside their aesthetic carefree cottagecore lives. We deep dive into the world of tradwives with author, content creator and kinky historian Esme Louise James to find out whether this trend is a dangerous fantasy that no one can live up to.Find out more about Let's Get Explicit here.DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
Loneliness, trust issues, cheating, and casual hook ups with colleagues - these are just a few of your experiences dating FIFO workers. For this episode, Dave Marchese from the Hack podcast brings us your stories.DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
We catch up with the world’s biggest porn stars Angela White and she answers your questions about the adult industry, how to give good head, feminism in porn and whether bigger is better.DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
Feel like your sex life is kinda meh? Sex and relationship professor Dr Tara is here to help!With 2 million followers, you’ve probably seen her in your TikTok feed, with her snappy sex tips. In this ep, she jumps on with Dee to give advice on how to build your sexual confidence. Notes:@luvbites.co (TikTok)https://www.luvbites.co/DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
Going boy/girl sober, dating with ADHD, talking about tradwives and being brat - we wrap all the sex, dating and relationship trends you went through this year, plus some make some 2025 predictions of our own.DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
It’s hard to know when a relationship has run it’s course - so when there’s nothing really wrong or really right, how can you trust your gut on what to do? We get some advice from psychologist and couples therapist Elizabeth Neale.DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
From waffle stomping and ewok kinks, to reusing a housemate’s sex toy and having a SWAT team investigate your nudes - we round up the most cooked secrets spilled by you this year.DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
What does the research show when it comes to relationships with big age gaps? How likely are they to be successful? And when is an age gap problematic? Professor of Psychology from Deakin University Gery Karantzas weighs in on the age gap debate in dating.DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
Bimini’s legacy started on season 2 of UK Drag Race, throwing them into the limelight to figure out fame, their sexuality and how to express their punk and politics through drag. We caught up with the dancing DJing vegan diva to chat about their journey with being non-binary, believing the universe has a plan and rant about queer trauma on screen.SHOW NOTES:Bimini’s tiktokBimini’s new song - Take It AllDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
Ever felt like all your problems would be solved if you were able to change your attachment type? In this ep we have the incredible relationship expert Thais Gibson to explain and unpack attachment theory for us! Thais breaks down what it means to be anxious avoidant, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant and secure and how each type impacts the way you date - plus how to change from an insecure attachment style to a more secure one.Ever felt like all your problems would be solved if you were able to change your attachment type? In this ep we have the incredible relationship expert Thais Gibson to explain and unpack attachment theory for us! Thais breaks down what it means to be anxious avoidant, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant and secure and how each type impacts the way you date - plus how to change from an insecure attachment style to a more secure one.SHOW NOTES:Personal Development School Attachment QuizPersonal Development School YouTubeDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
How to deal with sexual harassment in the dms? Well comedian and podcaster Chloe Maddren decided to make money off of it. We chat to her about how she got back at trolls with her OnlyFans and hear her hot take on how sex positivity may have gone too far. Content warning: this episode discusses sexual assault, trauma, and sexual harassment. SHOW NOTES:Chloe Maddren InstagramDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
We ask TikTok famous therapist Jeff Guenther what he really thinks about the therapy boom on social media - plus he answers your dating questions, from settling for the slow burn to how to listen to your partner, not react.SHOW NOTES:TherapyJeff on tiktokDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.
Mahya Bayat
I enjoyed this talk like other talks of wonderful Esther Perel! “Dating apps are for love stories not life stories” 👏🏻
Darcy MC
How can you have a fragile ego from an immutable characteristic? Women with shit takes like that unironically cause blackpilled incels.
Laurie
I have a new boyfriend of 7 months, we’re long time friends so because we’re in a long distance relationship (6 hours to travel to him or the opposite, longer with bus, but not much) and I’m 42, he’s in his 40s too. I can’t sleep in the same bed, I have insomnia and nightmares from trauma so sleep is hard, he’s fine with us cuddling before sleep and for intimacy we can be in any beds. It would also be triggering to sleep with someone... I’m in Canada, I wish I could call in but Australia , is there a way to call in the show from an online platform? I love your show and discussions.
Laurie
I’m incontinent and have been for years, I’m early 40s, my issues are medically linked to the decades of violence from my parents. I haven’t told my boyfriend yet, I want to talk about it in person
Laurie
That was amazing to be able to talk more cleatly with my boyfriend of 7 months, friend of 8 years, long distance and pandemic so we haven’t kissed or hold each other. This was a good episode, I subscribed to the podcast, thanks for starting a discussion that as a 42 yrs old young woman. 😉