The Inheritance

Have you ever discovered that someone you trusted was living a double life? Or realized that the person you loved had been lying for years? In this episode, we unpack the psychology of lying, why people create secret lives, and how self-preservation, shame, fear, and trauma can lead someone down a path of deception. This conversation isn’t just about the pain of betrayal, it’s about understanding why chronic lying happens, how these patterns form, and what it actually takes to break the cycle of dishonesty. I also share my personal story of living in lies for seven years, the internal psychology behind it, and the moment I realized the only way to destroy a lie is to confront it with TRUTH. If you’ve ever been: • betrayed • gaslit • manipulated by someone living a double life • or struggling with lying patterns yourself this episode will help you understand the deeper psychology behind it and how healing and accountability can begin. Because the truth is this: lies don’t stay small. They grow. And the only thing powerful enough to destroy them is truth. If this episode resonated with you, please support the podcast by: liking this video, leaving a comment down below, subscribing to the channel, and sharing with a friend who needs it. These simple actions help the show reach more people who may be struggling with the same experiences. Follow along and join the conversation on social media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamcicily/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcicily_ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@iamcicily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/cicily.ashcraft If you’re going through something similar and want to share your story or speak with me privately, you can email me at: 📧 cicily.ashcraft@gmail.com I read every message and appreciate the courage it takes to reach out. • The psychology of lying • Why people live double lives • Chronic lying and self-preservation • The emotional impact of betrayal • Understanding deception in relationships • Breaking cycles of dishonesty • Shame, fear, and identity behind lies • How truth dismantles deception • Healing after betrayal psychology of lying why people lie in relationships chronic liar psychology double life psychology why people live secret lives compulsive lying explained gaslighting in relationships betrayal trauma recovery how to stop lying pathological lying psychology relationship deception understanding dishonesty healing after betrayal self preservation psychology why people hide the truth #PsychologyOfLying #BetrayalRecovery #Gaslighting #TruthAndHealing #RelationshipPsychology #DoubleLife #CompulsiveLying #EmotionalHealing #PersonalGrowth #MentalHealthAwareness #HealingJourney #PodcastClips #SelfAwareness #TruthOverLies #BreakTheCycle

If your entire life is just vibes, trends, and whatever everyone else is doing, this episode is your wake-up call. You’re not “going with the flow”… you’re getting carried by the current. And if you never learn how to think, stand, choose, or believe for yourself, then don’t be shocked when you look around and realize you’ve built a life with no backbone, no convictions, and no real identity. This podcast confronts the hard reality that many people avoid: when everything you believe, do, wear, or chase is decided by the crowd, then nothing in your life is truly yours. This is about breaking the hive mind and reclaiming your originality before culture, trends, and social pressure swallow you whole. If you’re tired of feeling like a knockoff version of everyone around you… this one will hit hard. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: My mom’s YouTube channel, "The Wigwam Diaries" where she reviews books in different wigs and shares her personal journey with hair loss: https://www.youtube.com/@thewigwamdiaries Go support her, she’s incredible. CONNECT WITH ME: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamcicily/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcicily_ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/cicily.ashcraft If this episode challenges you, inspires you, or punches you in the gut (in the best way)… Like, share and & subscribe! Drop a comment below; I genuinely want to hear your thoughts, your experience, and what “hive mind thinking” looks like in your world. identity crisis, hive mind, groupthink, conformity culture, individuality, personal growth, mental reset, mindset transformation, stand out, authenticity, social pressure, trending culture, breaking free, original thinking, self awareness, gen z podcast, personal development podcast, modern culture commentary, identity and mindset, why people conform, critical thinking #HiveMind #ThinkForYourself #BreakTheCycle #AuthenticityOverAesthetics #IdentityShift #MindsetPodcast #PersonalGrowth #GenZPodcast #StopConforming #OriginalityMatters #WakeUpCall #CallToCourage

When life gives you death… you grow. In this powerful episode of The Inheritance Podcast, host Cicily Froehlich sits down with Bryn Valencia, co-owner of Aquaterra Water Cremation, to explore how grief, loss, and life’s unexpected detours can shape who we become. Bryn shares her deeply personal story of how both the death of loved ones and the “death” of dreams have led her down an unexpected path, becoming a funeral director and advocate for water cremation. This conversation is raw, inspiring, and full of honest reflections on mental health, resilience, and finding beauty in life’s curveballs. Whether you're walking through loss, redefining your future, or simply need a reminder that transformation often starts in the hardest places, this episode is for you. It reframes grief as a powerful catalyst for growth. Offers validation, encouragement, and perspective for anyone navigating change. Shares practical wisdom from someone who’s lived it. If you know someone going through a tough season who could use some encouragement, validation, and honest conversation, send this episode their way. Shoutout to our guest, Bryn Valencia for her vulnerability and insight. Connect with Bryn and Aquaterra Water Cremation here: Website: www.chooseaquaterra.com Instagram: @aquaterracremation TikTok: @chooseaquaterra YouTube: @chooseaquaterra Bryn’s Instagram: @bryn.mychal If this conversation resonated with you: Like this video / episode Subscribe & follow The Inheritance Podcast for more deep, honest conversations on mental health, self-betterment, and navigating life’s unexpected turns Share this episode with someone who needs it today Catch up on previous episodes for more inspiring conversations! Thank you for listening, watching, and being part of this community. #TheInheritancePodcast #CicilyFroehlich #BrynValencia #AquaterraWaterCremation #GriefAndGrowth #MentalHealthPodcast #SelfBetterment #LifeAfterLoss #PodcastInterview #PersonalGrowth #Transformation #WaterCremation #FuneralDirector #HealingJourney #PodcastCommunity #WhenLifeGivesYouDeath #Resilience #EmotionalWellness #YouTubePodcast #SubscribeNow #ShareThisEpisode

A man was killed for what he believed. On September 10, 2025, Charlie Kirk was assassinated at a “Prove Me Wrong” event in Utah. A husband, a father, a voice for free speech, and a man who loved God, his family, and his country - Charlie’s life was stolen in a moment that should shake every one of us awake. This episode is not just about politics. It’s about what happens when outrage, anger, and being “triggered” run our lives. It’s about the cost of cutting off family members, burning friendships, celebrating when others fall, and—at its most extreme—justifying violence against someone because you don’t agree with them. We’ll talk about: * The danger of being ruled by emotions and outrage. * How being chronically online and fed algorithm-driven echo chambers can dehumanize others. * Why unchecked anger and constant triggers create a culture of hate. * The emotional warning signs when frustration turns into obsession, and obsession turns into destruction. * How to heal your own wounds so you can love others, even when you disagree. This is a PLEA: steward your heart, guard your mind, and heal what’s broken inside of you so you can be a voice of love in this world—not a weapon of destruction. Our world is desperate for healing. But the only way forward is if we each take initiative and do the work within ourselves first. If this message speaks to you, please share it with someone you love; not to shame them, but to encourage them in love. To honor Charlie: may we never forget that his life was spent not in hatred, but in conversation. He chose to debate, to listen, to show kindness even to those who opposed him. His legacy is one of faith, family, country, and the unshakable belief that free speech is worth protecting, not through violence, but through courage and love. May we carry that forward. Instagram: https://instagram.com/iamcicily TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@iamcicily Website: http://www.elevatecollective.info Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@iamcicily #CharlieKirk #FreeSpeech #EmotionalHealing #TriggeredCulture #MentalHealthMatters #OvercomingAnger #HealingJourney #SelfBetterment #FaithAndFreedom #OutrageCulture #ChooseLove #PersonalGrowth #DivisionInAmerica #LoveOverHate #StopTheHate #ChristianFaith #PodcastForGrowth

Some people are just hard to love, but does that mean you have to lose yourself in the process? In this episode, we’re breaking down what it really means to love difficult people (family, friends, spouses, even grown children) without draining your soul. This conversation is for anyone who feels exhausted by walking on eggshells, stuck in relationships where love feels one-sided, or constantly forced into the role of fixer, caretaker, or peacemaker. And if YOU happen to be the “difficult person” in someone else’s story? This episode is also for you. Share this podcast with someone who might be dealing with a challenging relationship right now. It might be exactly what they need. Subscribe to my channel, hit like, and drop a comment with a topic or real-life question you’d like me to cover in a future episode. Stay tuned! Upcoming videos will dive into YOUR questions, where I’ll offer heartfelt, big-sister style advice for navigating real life situations. Connect with me online:** Instagram: https://instagram.com/iamcicily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcicily_?lang=en Website: http://www.elevatecollective.info YouTube: https://youtube.com/@iamcicily And if you’re watching this because a friend shared it with you as the “difficult person” in their life, don’t lose hope. Healing is possible. Choose to love yourself, tend to that inner child, and keep walking toward growth and restoration. The story isn’t over, and you can still write a beautiful new chapter. * how to deal with difficult people * relationships with toxic family * loving hard-to-love people * emotional boundaries in relationships * how to protect your peace * dealing with difficult spouse or partner * grown children living at home problems * toxic friendships advice * mental health and boundaries * self love and personal growth * mel robbins let them theory * setting boundaries without guilt * emotional intimacy and difficult relationships #DifficultPeople #ToxicRelationships #MentalHealth #PersonalDevelopment #SelfGrowth #Boundaries #ToxicFamily #MarriageAdvice #ParentingTeens #SelfLove #HealingJourney #MelRobbins #LetThemTheory #PodcastClip #BigSisterAdvice

You’re not “acting different.” You are different — and that’s the whole point. They just liked you better when you didn’t know your worth. In this episode I dive deep into the uncomfortable reality of what happens when you grow — and they don’t. Whether it’s a church group, workplace, family, or old friend circle, sometimes your healing journey paints you as the villain in someone else's story. But here’s the truth: growth makes people uncomfortable, especially the ones who benefitted from your smaller self. Together, we’ll explore: 🧠 Why being misunderstood is part of the transformation process 💔 How loyalty, guilt, and control are weaponized to keep you small 👀 What to do when people cling to the “old you” and reject the healed one 🧍‍♀️ Real talk for the people who choose to misunderstand you — and how they can do better 🕊️ How to find peace in walking away without needing to be liked ✨ This is your permission slip to stop defending your healing. 🔗 CONNECT WITH ME 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamcicily/ 🌐 Website + Blog: https://www.elevatecollective.info/ 🎧 Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@iamcicily 👇 Drop a comment below if this hit home — and don’t forget to subscribe for weekly episodes on personal growth, boundaries, mental health, and becoming your most aligned self. * how to set boundaries and not feel guilty * personal growth and losing friends * being misunderstood after healing * when people don't like the new you * outgrowing toxic environments * mental health and self awareness * how to protect your peace * emotional maturity podcast * self worth and healing journey * church hurt and spiritual abuse * learning to let go and move on * stop being a people pleaser — 🏷️ Hashtags: \#SelfGrowth #MentalHealthPodcast #PersonalDevelopment #Boundaries #ChurchHurt #EmotionalHealing #PeoplePleaserRecovery #InnerWork #BigSisterTalk #HealingJourney #Confidence #OutgrowingPeople #Deconstruction #SelfWorth #Misunderstood #GrowthIsLonely #WellnessPodcast #YoureNotTheVillain

Feeling constantly triggered? Offended by everything? Convinced the world is against you? Babe… it might be time to *go touch grass.* In this spicy episode, we unpack how being 'chronically online' has shrunk our worldview, inflated our sense of victimhood, and low-key robbed us of our personal power. We talk about: 💭 The victim mindset and why it *feels safe* but actually keeps you stuck 📉 How social media glorifies pain, silences progress, and keeps you emotionally dependent 🎭 The trap of being “triggered” and how that culture trains you to be controlled 🌎 Why your inputs (the people, accounts, and content you consume) shape your reality ✍🏽 And how to *take the pen back* and start writing a life you actually want to live This is your unapologetic, big-sister-style wake-up call to reclaim your mindset, stop outsourcing your emotions, and start being the author of your own story. Subscribe & follow for more real talk like this Like if you’re here for uncomfortable truths that lead to freedom Comment a topic you want me to hit next Share this with a friend who needs a gentle push—or a loving slap—out of their cycle Huge thank you to our sponsor: Elevate Collective Check out their "YouTube University Merch" for all the goal-getters who never went to college, but never stopped learning. Because just because you didn’t walk a campus doesn’t mean you’re not walking in purpose. ✨ Shop the collection here: https://www.elevatecollective.info/shop If what offends you controls you… isn’t it time you stop handing over the remote? Unplug from the noise, log off the drama, and go touch some damn grass. You’ve got a whole life to build—and it’s waiting on *you.* --- #GoTouchGrass #VictimMentality #MindsetShift #PersonalGrowthPodcast #EmotionalResilience #HealingJourney #TriggerCulture #PodcastForGrowth #SelfDevelopment #ChronicallyOnline #BreakTheCycle #MentalFitness #BigSisterEnergy #ElevateCollective #YouTubeUniversity

Are you stuck in a "waiting season" — or are you just afraid to move? This episode is for the ones who feel paralyzed by indecision, fear, or doubt… and for those who’ve been taught that waiting is a virtue, even when it becomes a prison. The truth? Waiting can become a weapon of inaction. And for many, it’s not spiritual, strategic, or wise — it’s just safe. But safe won’t get you where you’re meant to go. We also reference one of the most eye-opening books when it comes to relationships, growth, and personal accountability: 📘 The New Rules for Love, Sex & Dating by Andy Stanley — grab your copy on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/New-Rules-Love-Sex-Dating/dp/0310337682 Huge thanks to our sponsor: Elevate Collective — empowering creators and entrepreneurs through branding, marketing, and merch. Shop the official YouTube University Merch line: https://www.elevatecollective.info/shop This episode is the wake-up call you didn’t know you needed. Whether you’ve been waiting… or teaching others to wait — it’s time to question the narrative. You don’t need permission to live the life you were made for. You just need to decide you’re done waiting. 📲 CONNECT WITH ME: Instagram: @iamcicily TikTok: @‌iamcicily YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@iamcicily Website: www.elevatecollective.info Merch : www.elevatecollective.info/shop 📩 Want to work together? DM me or use the contact form on my site. #TheLieInWaiting #StopWaitingStartLiving #PersonalDevelopmentPodcast #MindsetShift #SelfLeadership #DreamChasers #GrowthSeason #NoMoreExcuses #PodcastEpisode #EntrepreneurMindset #PermissionCulture #MakeTheMove #LevelUpPodcast #MotivationTalk #DoersNotWaiters #BreakTheCycle #AndyStanley #NewRulesForLove #ElevateCollective #YouTubeUniversityMerch #LifeChangeStartsNow

Are your thoughts the reason you’re still stuck? In this episode, Cicily dives deep into the science of belief, mindset, and the quiet lies we let run our lives. From outdated self-worth to fear of failure masked as "realism," you’ll learn how your brain might be the only thing standing between you and the life you want. This is your sign to stop waiting for permission, and start rewiring your mind. 🚨 Warning: This episode might call you out — and set you free. 🔑 We cover: • Why your outdated beliefs are silently running your future • The mindset that keeps people broke, bitter, and blaming • Real-world personal & professional examples of mental self-sabotage • Scientific proof your thoughts shape your life (and your health) • How to flip false narratives into action-producing truth • What to do when someone else gets the life you wanted — and you feel resentment • Simple mindset shifts to get out of your own way — for good 💥 If you’ve ever thought “Why them, not me?”... this episode is for you. — 💡 Like what you’re hearing? Do me a favor: 👉 Subscribe & follow the show 👉 Comment below with your favorite takeaway (or hard truth) 👉 Share this episode with someone stuck in the loop 🎧 Be sure to hit the bell so you never miss an episode! — ✨ SPONSOR LOVE — ELEVATE COLLECTIVE Huge thanks to our sponsor Elevate Collective for supporting this episode! Check out their brand new merch line: The YouTube University Collection 🎓 If you’re anything like me — always learning but never got the degree — this one’s for you. 👉 Shop the line here: https://www.elevatecollective.info/shop — 🖤 LET’S STAY CONNECTED Follow me on socials & let’s keep the conversation going: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamcicily/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcicily_ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@iamcicily Website: www.elevatecollective.info Email: cicily.ashcraft@gmail.com — 📣 LAST THING — STAY PLUGGED IN! If this episode hit home, help us reach more people: LIKE, COMMENT, & SHARE! Your support makes these conversations possible! Thank you for being here. It means everything. <3 — 📈 Hashtags (for discoverability): #MindsetMatters #BreakTheCycle #SelfSabotage #VictimMentality #BeliefSystem #ThoughtWork #Neuroplasticity #MentalRewire #MotivationalPodcast #SuccessMindset #GrowthMindset #CicilyPodcast #PersonalDevelopment #EmotionalHealing #RewireYourBrain #ElevateCollective #YouTubeUniversity

Nothing exposes fake friends FASTER than self-improvement. The moment you decide to level up—whether it’s starting a business, building a brand, or simply becoming the best version of yourself—you’ll notice who’s really in your corner. Some will support you, but others will start acting different. They’ll gossip, throw shade, or even try to discourage you. Why? Because your growth forces them to confront their own insecurities. In this episode, we’re diving deep into: 🔥 Why friends, family, and even strangers may not support your journey 🔥 How to handle jealousy, gossip, and online hate without losing momentum 🔥 The truth about adult bullies and why they lash out at people chasing success 🔥 How to develop unshakable confidence and stay focused despite negativity 🔥 Why most haters secretly wish they could do what you’re doing—and how to keep going anyway 🎙️ Special thank you to @melrobbins & @lewishowes for inspiring this episode! Their wisdom has helped me overcome self-doubt and push through obstacles, and I hope to pass that same energy on to you. If you don’t already follow their content, do yourself a favor and check them out! 💡 This episode is for YOU if: ✅ You’ve ever felt unsupported or doubted while chasing your dreams ✅ People close to you seem to pull away, gossip, or downplay your success ✅ You want to stop caring what others think and focus on YOUR growth ✅ You need a reminder to keep going—no matter who’s watching 👉 Let’s connect! 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamcicily/ 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcicily_ 📩 Email: cicily.ashcraft@gmail.com 🌐 Website: (Coming soon!) If this episode helped you, help someone else! ✅ LIKE this video to boost it in the algorithm ✅ COMMENT your biggest takeaway—I read every one! ✅ SUBSCRIBE/FOLLOW for more raw, real talk on self-improvement ✅ SHARE this with someone who needs to hear it ✅ LISTENING ON A PODCAST APP? Leave a review—it helps the show grow! #SelfImprovement #HatersGonnaHate #PersonalGrowth #FakeFriends #EntrepreneurMindset #SuccessMindset #Motivation #BusinessGrowth #OvercomingObstacles #PodcastLife #ChaseYourDreams #MelRobbins #LewisHowes #MindsetShift #ConfidenceBoost #LevelUp

What if I told you that hitting rock bottom isn’t the end—it’s the beginning of everything you were meant to become? In this episode, I’m sharing the raw truth about losing my all, why it forced me to finally take action, and how it might be the best thing to ever happen to you too. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: - Why rock bottom is a wake-up call, not a death sentence - How pain forces change when comfort never will - The mindset shift that turns your lowest moment into your biggest breakthrough - My personal story of struggle, failure, and ultimate transformation - How to rebuild your life with purpose and unstoppable confidence If you’re feeling stuck, lost, or like everything is falling apart—**this episode is for you.** You’re not alone, and more importantly, this is not where your story ends! --- 📲 Let’s Stay Connected! Watch the Video Version on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@iamcicily Follow Me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamcicily/ Chat and Interact Online: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcicily_ Work With Me: cicily.ashcraft@gmail.com --- Loved this episode? Do me a favor! ⭐ **Leave a review** – It helps more people find this podcast! 📤 **Share this episode** with a friend who needs encouragement. 💬 **Drop a comment** – Did this message speak to you? What should we talk about next? Your rock bottom isn’t the end—it’s the launchpad for your greatest comeback. Let’s rebuild together. 💪🔥 #Podcast #Motivation #SelfImprovement #MindsetShift #PersonalGrowth #SuccessMindset #OvercomingObstacles #RockBottom #LifeLessons #TurningPoint #Breakthrough #Resilience #ComebackStory #RebuildYourLife

Are you missing out on higher profits, better customer satisfaction, and a thriving workplace? It all starts with Employee Experience! Like Customer Experience, where we think in terms of what the customer is looking for, desires, and enjoys, this podcast will help you understand how to do the same for your staff and team, and in return, see the benefits of it overflow into all other avenues of your business. In this podcast, we’ll break down: - What Employee Experience REALLY Means (it’s more than just perks!) - How Prioritizing EX Transforms Your Workplace Culture - The Shocking Link Between Happy Employees & Customer Satisfaction - How EX Directly Impacts Your Sales, Retention, and Profits - Simple, Actionable Steps to Improve EX & Build a More Productive Team 💡 **Why This Matters:** Companies that invest in employee experience see **higher productivity, better customer service, and more revenue**—without burning out their team. If you’re a business owner, CEO, or leader, **this is a MUST-WATCH!** 🔥 **Don’t leave money on the table—watch now and start transforming your business today!** 🔥 👉 Follow along for more business growth & leadership tips! Like this podcast if you found it valuable—it really helps! Drop a comment with your thoughts or topics you’d like to see next! Share this with a friend who needs to hear this! Leave me a review to encourage others to listen and follow along! 📲 Let’s connect on social! Follow me on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elevatecollectivemarketing/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@iamcicily https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-inheritance/id1790957821 Website: Currently under construction! #EmployeeExperience #BusinessGrowth #Leadership #CompanyCulture #CustomerSatisfaction #WorkplaceSuccess #Motivation

Are you struggling with imposter syndrome—the nagging feeling that you’re not good enough or don’t deserve your success? In this episode, we dive deep into understanding what imposter syndrome really is, why so many of us struggle with it, and, most importantly, how to overcome it. You’ll learn practical, actionable tips to silence self-doubt, build unshakable confidence, and take bold steps toward achieving your dreams. We discuss: 1. The common signs and causes of imposter syndrome. 2. Why perfectionism and comparison hold you back. 3. Simple mindset shifts to build confidence and resilience. 4. The power of taking action despite fear and self-doubt. 5. How to stop letting others’ opinions define your worth. If you’re ready to stop doubting yourself and start living the life you’ve always wanted, this episode is for you! ✨ Let’s Connect! Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamcicily/ Join the conversation on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcicily_ See more content like this on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@iamcicily If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to: 💬 Comment with your biggest takeaway or your own experience with imposter syndrome. 🔔 Subscribe to the podcast so you never miss an episode. 🌟 Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to help others discover this content. 📤 Share this episode with a friend who might need some encouragement to go after their dreams! Let’s build a community of confident, action-takers together. You’ve got this! 🚀

In this episode Cicily dives deep into what an identity crisis really is, and how embracing the process can lead to exponential personal growth. Many people fear the feeling of being "stuck" or uncertain about who they are, but what if this period of discomfort is actually the key to unlocking your true potential? In today’s episode, I’ll walk you through: What an identity crisis is and why it’s a natural part of life. How to embrace the process rather than resist it, and why it’s essential for growth. The steps to move through an identity crisis, from understanding your feelings to transforming your mindset and habits. If you're feeling lost, uncertain, or at a crossroads in life, this episode will provide you with the tools and mindset shifts needed to embrace the change and use it as a powerful catalyst for personal transformation. ✨ Want more? Connect with me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamcicily/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcicily_ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@iamcicily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/cicilyfroehlich If you found value in this episode, please share it with a friend who could benefit from this message. Don't forget to leave a review and subscribe so you never miss an episode! Your feedback helps others discover the podcast and continue their journey toward personal growth.