The Jerry Wise Show

Join my free training ‘Build the real self you were never allowed to have’- https://jerrywise.ewebinar.com/webinar/free-training-10027?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=free+training&utm_content=B27 In this video, I discuss the unacceptable abuse narcissistic parents trained you to tolerate. Understanding this will help you recognize the damaging behaviors you've been conditioned to accept, set higher standards for yourself, and become your true self, regardless of whether others like it or not. HERE'S HOW I CAN HELP YOU👇🏼 🆓 [START HERE] Join my free training ‘Build the real self you were never allowed to have’- https://jerrywise.ewebinar.com/webinar/free-training-10027?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=free+training&utm_content=B27 🔥🔥🔥 ‘Road to Self’ Program: Join 10,000+ people who have transformed their life!- https://www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com/road-to-self//?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=YNRTS&utm_content=B27 🔥🔥🔥 Coaching packages- https://www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com/book-online?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=coaching&utm_content=B27 ➡️ RECOMMENDED PLAYLISTS: ** Break Free from Narcissistic Parents & Families- https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLoYQTW09i3W172vXggx0taH1_eHfNDq2a ** Escape family roles (Scapegoat, hero, golden child, black sheep)- https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLoYQTW09i3W2e89zejB1KyZHTxk5yUAW0&si=BnHUZfkHW6jGO1GB ** Overcome Toxic Guilt & Shame - https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLoYQTW09i3W3uf_7bfMAT0WXigH1YIMDn&si=-Y0Xxp7QmkAzxc9P ** Going No/Low Contact with Narcissistic Family- https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLoYQTW09i3W3NwueDfL2n7nDetlOQOSRP&si=whB2JLvwgR7N6IKV ** Build Your True Self- https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLoYQTW09i3W12E61oiI1NvYkIyoXMgc3u&si=qZG4oO6IyWEJgs4o 🌐 More free resources available on my website: https://www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com/ ➡️ FOLLOW ME: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jerrytwise/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Jerrytwise Twitter: https://twitter.com/Jerrytwise Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3DKjGLpV4bBB2oCZpetM82?si=4a5987b4b8064a39 Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC, has helped 10,000s of people heal from family dysfunction and become the true self they were never allowed to be. As a family systems and self-differentiation coach, he leverages 45 years of experience to help clients permanently break free from family-of-origin dysfunction, cultivate healthy relationships, and build a strong sense of self. ****DISCLAIMER: THIS VIDEO IS NOT INTENDED TO SUBSTITUTE FOR PROFESSIONAL COUNSELING. BE SURE TO CONSULT A PROFESSIONAL TO HELP YOU INTEGRATE AND UTILIZE THESE CONCEPTS.****

Join my free training ‘Build the real self you were never allowed to have’- https://jerrywise.ewebinar.com/webinar/free-training-10027?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=free+training&utm_content=B27 In this video, I discuss the unacceptable abuse narcissistic parents trained you to tolerate. Understanding this will help you recognize the damaging behaviors you've been conditioned to accept, set higher standards for yourself, and become your true self, regardless of whether others like it or not. HERE'S HOW I CAN HELP YOU👇🏼 🆓 [START HERE] Join my free training ‘Build the real self you were never allowed to have’- https://jerrywise.ewebinar.com/webinar/free-training-10027?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=free+training&utm_content=B27 🔥🔥🔥 ‘Road to Self’ Program: Join 10,000+ people who have transformed their life!- https://www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com/road-to-self//?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=YNRTS&utm_content=B27 🔥🔥🔥 Coaching packages- https://www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com/book-online?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=coaching&utm_content=B27 ➡️ RECOMMENDED PLAYLISTS: ** Break Free from Narcissistic Parents & Families- https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLoYQTW09i3W172vXggx0taH1_eHfNDq2a ** Escape family roles (Scapegoat, hero, golden child, black sheep)- https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLoYQTW09i3W2e89zejB1KyZHTxk5yUAW0&si=BnHUZfkHW6jGO1GB ** Overcome Toxic Guilt & Shame - https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLoYQTW09i3W3uf_7bfMAT0WXigH1YIMDn&si=-Y0Xxp7QmkAzxc9P ** Going No/Low Contact with Narcissistic Family- https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLoYQTW09i3W3NwueDfL2n7nDetlOQOSRP&si=whB2JLvwgR7N6IKV ** Build Your True Self- https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLoYQTW09i3W12E61oiI1NvYkIyoXMgc3u&si=qZG4oO6IyWEJgs4o 🌐 More free resources available on my website: https://www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com/ ➡️ FOLLOW ME: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jerrytwise/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Jerrytwise Twitter: https://twitter.com/Jerrytwise Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3DKjGLpV4bBB2oCZpetM82?si=4a5987b4b8064a39 Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC, has helped 10,000s of people heal from family dysfunction and become the true self they were never allowed to be. As a family systems and self-differentiation coach, he leverages 45 years of experience to help clients permanently break free from family-of-origin dysfunction, cultivate healthy relationships, and build a strong sense of self. ****DISCLAIMER: THIS VIDEO IS NOT INTENDED TO SUBSTITUTE FOR PROFESSIONAL COUNSELING. BE SURE TO CONSULT A PROFESSIONAL TO HELP YOU INTEGRATE AND UTILIZE THESE CONCEPTS.****

-What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy mature inner adult?   Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home.     KEY POINT: "Resists the forces to fit in with the group ethos when it contradicts their values"  Number 6 of the 7 part series  Our aim is to resist group think, group feel, the family superself, the workplace superself, and following the herd.  Stating I-positions without reactivity, with calmness, and focusing on Self when dealing with others and the group ethos (values, morals, opinions).  Staying in contact means we do not retreat nor do we attack or become reactive in relationships in which we disagree with others.     Jerry Wise is presenting a seven part series of videos on the 7 Characteristics of a Healthy Inner Adult listed in the book by Jenny Brown, "Growing Yourself Up".  He explains each one.  Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has been a family therapist and life and life and relationship coach.  He and his team work with individuals, couples, and families and businesses to become strong self-differentiating people and leaders.   To work with Jerry Wise contact him at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264 jerrywise5@gmail.com Join Jerry's YouTube Channel,   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JerryWiseConsulting/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/JerryWiseRS Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jerrywise.rs/   Also all of his videos are on Spotify and Anchor.fm for online and offline listening. You can take them with you in your car or at work.  "Not How but When" by Jerry Wise  https://open.spotify.com/show/3DKjGLpV4bBB2oCZpetM82

-What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy inner adult?    Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home.    KEY POINT: "Doesn't Expect to be Rescued by Others and Refrains from Taking Over for Others."  Number 5 of 7 part series  Jerry Wise Life and Relationship Coach explains what it means to be rescued by others and taking over for others.  Using Bowen Family Systems Theory he describes the sharing of Self with others.  Giving and taking of self is common in dysfunctional relationships.  He explains how we can identify and avoid this so we can be self-differentiated.       Jerry Wise is presenting a seven part series of videos on the 7 Characteristics of a Healthy Inner Adult listed in the book by Jenny Brown, "Growing Yourself Up".  He explains each one.  Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has been a family therapist and life and relationship coach. To work with Jerry Wise contact him at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264 jerrywise5@gmail.com   Join Jerry's YouTube Channel,   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JerryWiseConsulting/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/JerryWiseRS Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jerrywise.rs/   Also all of his videos are on Spotify and Anchor.fm for online and offline listening. You can take them with you in your car or at work.  "Not How but When" by Jerry Wise  https://open.spotify.com/show/3DKjGLpV4bBB2oCZpetM82

-What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy inner adult?   Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home.     KEY POINT: "Stays in Contact with Those Who are Upset"  Number 4 of the 7 Part Series  Staying in contact means we do not retreat nor do we attack or become reactive in relationships in which others are upset or are upset with us.     Jerry Wise is presenting a seven part series of videos on the 7 Characteristics of a Healthy Inner Adult listed in the book by Jenny Brown, "Growing Yourself Up".  He explains each one.  Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has been a family therapist and life and relationship coach. To work with Jerry Wise contact him at  www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264 jerrywise5@gmail.com

-What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy inner adult?   Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home.   KEY POINT: "Improves themselves without blaming others". This is Number 3 in the Seven Part Series Focusing on ourselves and how we function in the troubled relationships.  Blaming keeps the focus on others and will keep us stuck. Jerry offers helps to resist SELF-blame and OTHER-blame.   Jerry Wise is presenting a seven part series of videos on the 7 Characteristics of a Healthy Inner Adult listed in the book by Jenny Brown, Growing Yourself Up.  He explains each one.  Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has been a family therapist and life and relationship coach. To work with Jerry Wise contact him at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264 jerrywise5@gmail.com Join Jerry's You Tube channel, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram

-What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy inner adult?   Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home.   KEY POINT: "Staying on Task Even When Experiencing Discomfort" Number 2 of the Seven Part Series Identifying and resolving systems feelings can get our true feelings in line with our values.   Jerry Wise is presenting a seven part series of videos on the 7 Characteristics of a Healthy Inner Adult listed in the book by Jenny Brown, Growing Yourself Up.  He explains each one.  Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has been a family therapist and life and relationship coach. To work with Jerry Wise contact him at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264 jerrywise5@gmail.com Join Jerry's You Tube channel, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram

-What are the healthy characteristics of a healthy inner adult?   Many have never learn what is normal for a healthy adult self, especially growing up in a dysfunctional home.   KEY POINT: Identifying and resolving systems feelings can get our true feelings in line with our values.   Jerry Wise is presenting a seven part series of videos on the 7 Characteristics of a Healthy Inner Adult listed in the book by Jenny Brown, Growing Yourself Up.  He explains each one.   To work with Jerry Wise contact him at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com 317-919-6264 jerrywise5@gmail.com Join Jerry's You Tube channel, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram

Self differentiation expert Jerry Wise explains how over-seriousness is a way to maintain enmeshment and emotional fusion.  To break free we need more playfulness, more flexibility in our emotional responses, and less over-seriousness.   When others make things heavier, we must make things lighter.  The world will thank us for this.  (The exception when there is a grief or loss or tragedy), most things people get over-serious about are over nothing or small things.  For more help contact Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC at jerrywise5@gmail.com or 317-919-6264 www.jerrywiserelationsystems.com

Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC is an international relationship coach and self-differentiation specialist and teaches family systems approach to healing and recovery.  In this video Jerry presents a family systems perspective of relationship problems.  Problems are symptoms of deeper problems.  Often we use the same thinking that got us into the problem.  Jerry Wise offers the viewer a way to think 'outside the box' and zoom out to see the deeper sources of our problems.   Listen to his podcasts on Spotify, Itunes, and all the major streaming apps.  Sign up for his May 30, 2020 workshop on his website.  You can contact or work with Jerry Wise by reaching him at www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com or 1-317-919-6264 (USA) or jerrywise5@gmail.com   Jerry Wise has clients all over the world, if you are looking for a new kind of help contact him.

Jerry Wise, MA, MS is a relationship expert, self-specialist, life coach. He as been helping people for 37 years. He was a marriage and family therapist, pastoral  counselor, pastor, speaker, and trainer. Contact Jerry Wise at 317-919-6264 | jerrywise5@gmail.com | jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com Jerry Wise works with clients one-on-one, couples, families, leaders, therapists.

Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC has been a self expert for 40 years.  He offers 12 steps to allowing other people to grow up.  Over-functioning is a serious problem along with Codependency resulting in supporting the immaturity of others.  Jerry Wise stresses the importance of allowing others to grow up we have to get out of their way.  This builds self-differentiation as well as maturely placing the responsibility on others to grow themselves up.  To work with Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC, Self Expert contact him at jerrywise5@gmail.com | 317-919-6264 (US) | jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com

Jerry Wise, Relationship Expert, Life Coach - In dysfunctional families ENMESHMENT or over-closeness is a overabundance of a good thing.  Just like cancer it is an overgrowth of togetherness and closeness.  This enmeshment process is very damaging, emotionally disabling, painful, and pervasive in the lives of those who suffer in enmeshed families.  Jerry Wise, MA, MS, CLC explains the problems faced by those who are still enmeshed in their family-of-origin and uses his 39+ years of experience to show them the way out and the way to maturity and freedom.  For professional help in office or through Skype or Facetime contact Jerry Wise at 317-919-6264 | jerrywise5@gmail.com | www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com

Watch this video and you will understand the emotional system and it works in a much better way!  Systems feelings control so many people's lives.  These are not the true us or the true state of our feelings.  True feelings are pushed out or overwhelmed by these "systems feelings" which arise from our past and our current functioning in relationships.  Jerry Wise is a 40 year veteran of helping people to quiet and resolve these systems feelings.  As a self-differentiation/family systems expert he coaches people to discover their true selves.  Contact Jerry Wise at jerrywise5@gmail.com | 317-919-6264 | www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com

So you think you are ready to stand up for yourself. This video helps you prepare for those self defining events with your family of origin, spouses and friends by Jerry Wise, Relationship Expert, Life Coach. Being assertive and standing up for yourself is a science. Jerry Wise explains the dynamics of the family systems concept of "declaring self" which is self assertiveness from a systems perspective. For more help contact Jerry T. Wise, MA, MS, CLC at  317-919-6264 | jerrywise5@gmail.com | https://www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com