The Journey Within

This week we chat about cheating, how we view it, how each person in the relationship or partnership gets impacted by it.  What can happen if we treat a relationship like a business that goes through challenges within and outside the organisation, does the business just close shop just because things are not working out? so why must a relationship end just because one party has chosen to have their needs met outside the primary relationship?Listen in and give us feedbackLove Thuli & Mandisa 

This is one of many series that we will embark on in the "unfreezing" process.We have all done some things or use some words that hurt others - the people we've hurt sometimes carry the emotion/s and words used in that encounter for days/months/years.  That is a heavy burden to carry for anyone and it's incumbent on us to make good and "unfreeze" that moment and release the people we've hurt from the burden they are carrying. In this episode we discuss using the ice cubes that we all have access to - to unfreeze ourselves and those we have hurt with our words and actions.Have a listen and tell us your viewsLove AlwaysThuli & Mandisa 

On this podcast we discuss how the language that's used by those we love and care about can influence how we respond to them.  On a positive note, responding to words that have affirm us and have a positive influence on us - words that bring out the best in us is always welcomedOn a negative note, the language that degrades us, that  drags us through the mud, that's the language we do not answer towe share our experience on the language that has been used on us or towards us and set matters straight.Love Mandisa & Thuli

Is disruption really such a bad thing?Does disruption means the end?  Or does it mean the start of something new and different?What if it signals that something is not working and there's a need to change?  What if it signals a chance to grow and evolve?Disruption is good.We discuss disruption, how we view it in relationships and life.Listen in and give your thoughts.Love Thuli & Mandisa

When we allow ourselves to ask "why" continuously, we are able to get to the root of the matter at hand.Its crucial to ask "why" especially during a period of transition; when there's so much uncertainty and when we feel out of balance.  Asking "why" somehow bring us back to centre; to what matters most, to what drives us; to the motivation behind our decisions.In this podcast we share our experiences when we asked "why?"Listen in and let us know your views.LoveMandisa & Thuli

Today, I (Mandisa) am sharing a personal experience with forgiveness.Forgiveness of the other person or self-forgiveness is a tough and difficult thing to do especially when the hurt or pain is deep.I share a method that I have come across via meditation that has helped me slowly and gently forgive myself and those who have caused me harmDo listen and let me know of your thoughts.LoveMandisa

We continue chatting about the role the environment play in our lives whether at home or work this week.We are all about taking full responsibility for our role in every scenario... even when it comes to our environment This week we ask the questions:Do we research the environment we want to work in to see if it support our values or not?Once we're already in an environment, can we change the environment or influence the environment?Do we do the exercise of what's within our control in any environment and what's outside our control and what's making it hard for us to thrive in this environment before we jump ship?Do have a listen and let us know your thoughts.LoveThuli & Mandisa

It is easy to blame things outside of us for what's happening to us or what has happened to us. The difficult thing to do is to take the journey inwards and ask ourselves what role do we or did we play in creating an environment that is detrimental to our well-being. Going inwards vital in helping us take full responsibility for our environment, our actions and inactions.This week we ask 3 important questions that can help us respond to the environment we find ourselves in:Question 1: Do I want to be here?Question 2: What are my values?Question 3: What's my current reality?  What are the values of my environment vs my personal values and can these values meet each other halfway?Listen in and let us know what you think..LoveThuli & Mandisa

Today we chat about what it's like to be the only one in a relationship seeking therapy. What no one tells you about the fact that once one person has done the work, yet the environment and the other partner has not shifted...then what?We had fun during this episode, and as usual we shared our therapy journeys.Tell us what you think?LoveThuli & Mandisa

This is not an easy podcast topic to tackle especially 'cos Thuli & I are parents and as much as we love our kids, we are also awake of the boundaries that need to be set as the kids get older. Our roles as parents are vital yet not all-inclusive - we can vouch for our kids however where do we draw the line?  Can we vouch for them as being good partners / lovers/husbands/wives to other people?Listen to our view on this.Drop a comment/suggestion LoveThuli & Mandisa 

Self-forgiveness is the hardest process that we each have had to do in our healing journey.  Sometimes we find it easy to forgive others and relish the thought of someone else forgiving us however when we have to forgive ourselves, it becomes a whole new conversation and we just do not know where to start.This week Mandisa ask a question that has helped her in her healing journey whenever she is triggered or observes a situation that stirs something in her: "What is it about my internal state that this person is bringing to my attention?"Your thoughts on self-forgiveness are always welcomed.Love Thuli & Mandisa

This week we tackle the "pleasure" topic.  How does the conversation that parents sometimes struggle to have with us as children when it comes to sex affects how we relate to sex, intimacy and pleasure as a whole?  What has your experience been?  We share our experiences and have some fun with this topic.Listen in and let us know what your thoughts are.  LoveThuli & Mandisa

In this episode we dive into three key areas:1.  The power of writing things down whether negative emotions or positive emotions2.  The power of asking "why" when facing challenging circumstances3.  The power of self-forgivenessWe share our thoughts on the key areas above and we use our experience to bring light to the small victories and the challenges that we still need to face and ultimately overcome in our healing journey.Have a listen and let us know what you think?Love Thuli & Mandisa

We recorded this podcast while on a hike - how beautiful! I informed Thuli: "you know Thuli I need to ask X what he meant when he said "What would they say?"  who are "they"?  Why should I care what they say?  How do they have access to our lives?  Who told them that their opinion has space in our lives?"Those questions inspired the podcast about who "they" are - where they feature in our lives and what boundaries if any do we need to have when it comes to "they" or "them".As always it was an eye-opening talk and we both learnt something from it as we continue to grow and evolve.Happy Listening!LoveThuli & Mandisa 

The holiday season is upon us and with it brings different feelings for us in our relationships as couples and in our relationships with our extended families.The end of the year is a great time to reflect on the year that has been and of planning ahead for the new ahead.  However its never that simple as we have to navigate how we spend the time and how we communicate with our loved ones our wishes, needs and expectations.As a communicator we need to be aware that its our responsibility to check how the information landed at the head level (by communicating the facts); at the heart level (by communicating our emotions); at the stomach level (what's in it for you and the other person); at the feet level (what must happen next?)Listen in and let us know what you think.Love Thuli & Mandisa