In this heartfelt and deeply insightful episode, Kristen introduces listeners to a few of the powerhouse coaches behind Sondera — Chuck, Dan, Karen, and Nina — some of the real MVPs walking clients through life-altering transformation work every single day.These aren’t just any coaches. They’re trauma-informed, certified in many modalities, and deeply aligned with Sondera’s core mission: helping clients step out of a life lived on autopilot and into a life of conscious design. Kristen and the team peel back the curtain on what coaching really looks like, why it's different from therapy or friendship, and how true transformation happens when safety, trust, and the right tools are in place.Whether you're curious about coaching, struggling to break old patterns, or wondering how to finally make real change stick — this episode is your behind-the-scenes look into the soul of Sondera’s approach and the humans guiding it.In This Episode:Meet four of Sondera’s expert coaches and hear their unique coaching philosophiesWhat coaching is not — and why it’s often misunderstoodThe role of adaptive personality types and nervous system responses in personal growthWhy time management issues are often deeper than just “poor planning”The critical difference between reflection vs. ruminationWhat makes the Sondera process radically different (and wildly effective)Client transformation stories that will give you chillsKey Takeaways:Coaching isn’t about “fixing” you — it’s about uncovering the truth of who you already areYour survival patterns aren’t your personality — they’re just habits your nervous system learned to stay safeSustainable change isn’t about willpower — it’s about awareness, safety, and supportMen benefit from coaching just as deeply as women, even if the starting point looks differentYou’re not “bad at follow-through” — you’re likely stuck in a subconscious survival responseChange doesn’t come from shame. It starts with self-compassion.Notable Quotes:“We’re not here to fix people — we help them realize they’re both the problem and the solution.” – Karen“If you’re waiting for your circumstances to get better, you’ll wait your whole life. Coaching helps you get better.” – Kristen“Your adaptive personality is not who you are. It’s just how you learned to stay safe.” – Nina“Leadership coaching isn’t just about work. If you’re wonky at home, you’ll bring that to work — and vice versa.” – Chuck“Coaches aren’t your friends. We’re not here to co-sign your comfort. We’re here to protect the story you’re writing with your life.” – KristenEpisode Timestamps:0:00 – Welcome + why this episode is extra special2:00 – Kristen introduces the vision behind Sondera and its team3:00 – Meet Karen: executive coach on confidence, clarity, and showing up6:45 – Meet Chuck: fighting the “default life” and coaching for design12:30 – Meet Nina: trauma-informed coach bridging mindset and nervous system work18:40 – Meet Dan: military background, leadership coaching, and redefining resilience24:00 – Common misconceptions about coaching (especially for men)33:00 – Why shame never leads to transformation38:00 – Coaching vs. friendship: why your coach won’t tell you what you want to hear44:00 – Why you don’t need to “get your ducks in a row” to start coaching51:00 – The power of assessments, self-awareness, and seeing your growth1:00:00 – Real client transformation stories from each coach1:11:00 – Coaching as your “brain trust” to help you write a better story1:15:00 – Final thoughts + how to explore coaching with SonderaWant to Explore Coaching?If you're tired of repeating...
Description:In this raw and relatable episode, Kristen invites listeners into an honest conversation about one of the most overlooked—but essential—parts of any transformation: the messy middle. From career pivots to personal growth, Kristen shares why this unglamorous phase is where true change actually happens.Using stories from her own life—unexpected setbacks, frustrating gym reps, snow days without WiFi, and even a drooping houseplant—Kristen makes a powerful case for why resilience, self-compassion, and showing up when it’s boring and hard are the keys to sustainable success.Whether you're building something new, working through a tough season, or just tired of not seeing quick results, this episode is a must-listen. Kristen gives practical mindset shifts to help you stick with your goals after the excitement wears off—and before the big wins arrive.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:Why most people quit in the messy middle—and how you can be differentHow boredom, frustration, and slow progress are actually signs you're on the right trackThe importance of building "frustration tolerance"How to retrain your brain to spot micro-wins and signs of lifeWhy downsizing your goals can help you actually follow throughHow to find purpose and pride, even when the results aren’t visible (yet)Key Takeaways:Progress is often quiet, slow, and unsexy—but it's still progress.The “messy middle” isn’t a problem; it’s the process that transforms you.You don’t need motivation to stay committed—you need consistency.Building something meaningful requires boring, repetitive reps over time.Boredom is a gateway to creativity, not something to run from.Timestamps:0:58 – Recording from the basement: Life without internet2:45 – Why we love beginnings and endings—but struggle with the middle4:44 – What Kristen’s “skyscraper year” taught her about digging deep foundations7:34 – Lessons from her daughter’s piano practice (and adult frustration tolerance)10:13 – Why high achievers struggle when they’re not good at something right away13:18 – Training your brain to look for signs of life15:21 – How to stay in the game when results are slow17:23 – 5 ways to thrive in the messy middle20:03 – Reflecting on 2025: Measuring internal wins, not just external resultsConnect with Kristen:Visit www.kristenboss.com for coaching, courses, and more resources.Loved the episode?Screenshot and share it on Instagram—tag @thekristenboss so she can shout you out!Leave a rating and review to help others discover the show.Send it to a friend who’s stuck in the messy middle and needs a dose of real talk
Today Kristen Boss pulls back the curtain on a common struggle so many high-achievers face which is being addicted to the idea of transformation rather than the actual process of it.If you’re someone who constantly finds themselves buying planners, signing up for new programs, and telling yourself, “This time will be different” only to fizzle out days later? This episode is a must-listen. Kristen introduces the concept of the “Hope Hustler”: someone hooked on the emotional high of fresh starts but who struggles to stay committed when the novelty wears off.She breaks down the psychology behind this pattern, the nervous system’s role in resistance, and how our obsession with speed and excitement keeps us from real transformation. Kristen also outlines a better way forward — one that prioritizes sustainability, nervous system regulation, and a grounded approach to growth.Key Takeaways:Why dopamine and novelty trick us into starting but not finishingHow being a “Hope Hustler” erodes self-trust over timeThe four nervous system stress responses (fight, flight, freeze, fawn) and how they show up in goal-settingWhy tolerating boredom is essential for long-term successThe true cost of chasing intensity over intentionalityHow to build a relationship with process, not just outcomesResources & Links:If you’re a Hope Hustler, you need to be at the 3-Day Success Rewire Challenge happening December 8-10th! Timestamps:0:00 – Welcome + Quick Event Announcement2:00 – The dopamine hit of fresh starts5:30 – Who is a Hope Hustler?8:00 – Why desire isn’t the problem — resistance is13:00 – How our stress responses sabotage progress19:00 – The cost of false starts and eroded self-trust25:00 – How to break the Hope Hustler cycle29:00 – Redefining success: continuity over intensity32:00 – Final thoughts + How to join the Success RewireIf this episode resonated with you, leave a quick review or share it on Instagram and tag @thekristenboss—she just might repost you! ❤️For more resources and to connect with Kristen, visit: www.kristenboss.com
Kristen Boss opens up about the difficult realities of 2025 and how she's navigating grief, loss, and uncertainty with intentional gratitude. As Thanksgiving approaches, Kristen invites listeners into a compassionate, honest conversation about finding meaning in hardship without resorting to toxic positivity.She shares personal stories from her own challenging year and instead of glossing over the pain, Kristen explores how to extract lessons, build resilience, and reclaim agency even when life feels brutally hard.If you're feeling weary, stuck, or overwhelmed heading into the holidays, this episode will feel like a deep breath and a warm hug. Kristen reminds us that we don’t have to wait for life to get better—we get to decide how we show up in the midst of it.Episode Highlights:Kristen’s deeply personal reflection on a difficult yearWhy she rejects toxic positivity and honors emotional honestyHow to find gratitude without bypassing grief or painReframing hardship as a chance to build resilience and self-compassionWhy waiting for external circumstances to change creates powerlessnessTangible advice for reclaiming agency and creating change in your lifeHoliday survival tips for navigating tricky family dynamics with graceCall to Action:Register for the 3-Day Success Rewire happening December 8–10 12pm CT each day. Join this event BEFORE you buy the pretty planner for 2026. This reset designed to help you become the consistent, empowered version of yourself in 2026—without relying on another planner or resolution.Timestamps:0:00 — Welcome + Thanksgiving reflections1:20 — A hard year and why this episode had to be different3:30 — Kristen’s personal stories: grief, health scares, and life transitions6:40 — Resilience through adversity9:20 — The myth of January 1st as a magical reset11:00 — How to be the agent of change in your own life13:00 — Holiday mindset hacks and boundary tips14:30 — Final encouragement and sign-offShare the Love:If this episode resonated with you, leave a quick review or share it on Instagram and tag @thekristenboss—she just might repost you! ❤️For more resources and to connect with Kristen, visit: www.kristenboss.com
This week Kristen Boss dives deep into a sneaky and self-sabotaging pattern that shows up in goal-setting—guilt-driven goals. As the end of the year approaches, many people fall into the trap of using shame and guilt to set overcompensating goals, only to end up feeling burned out, unmotivated, and even more disconnected from themselves.Kristen breaks down how guilt-fueled goals are rooted in shame rather than genuine desire, and why they often lead to failure, burnout, and eroded self-trust. She challenges listeners to shift their goal-setting framework from punishment to purpose, offering tangible questions and mindset shifts to help you set kinder, self-honoring goals that actually stick.Plus, Kristen shares personal anecdotes, coaching insights from inside her Sonara Signature membership, and offers a sneak peek into her upcoming 3-Day Challenge: The Success Rewire—designed to help you radically shift how you approach goals in 2026.Key Takeaways:Guilt-driven goals are reactionary and come from shame, not purpose.These goals often ignore your current season, bandwidth, and values.Guilt only creates short-term compliance—not sustainable change.Self-compassion and values-based goals create lasting motivation.Small, kind, consistent goals build self-trust and long-term success.Questions to Reflect On:Is this goal coming from shame or desire?Would I still want this goal if no one was watching?Does this goal feel kind and aligned with my current season of life?Mentioned in This Episode:🌟 The Success Rewire — Kristen’s new 3-day event to help you set meaningful goals that align with your values and create lasting results. Just $9 to join!📅 Dates: December 8–10 | Replay available | Get your ticket here.Timestamps:00:00 – Welcome + intro to guilt-driven goals01:54 – Year-end urgency and the guilt trap04:34 – Upcoming 3-day event: The Success Rewire06:18 – Real-life coaching example of a guilt-driven goal09:11 – How shame hijacks your objectivity14:56 – Guilt goals vs. kind, values-based goals22:36 – How your nervous system reacts to shame25:23 – The hidden cost: eroded self-trust29:33 – Turning guilt into sustainable change32:00 – Anchoring goals in identity and self-love35:32 – The slow and sustainable path37:53 – Kristen’s personal reflections on failure and resilience
Episode Summary:In this deeply personal and thought-provoking episode, Kristen opens up about the emotional challenges of the past year, including the unexpected loss of her beloved dog Hank. But this conversation is about much more than personal hardship—Kristen invites listeners into her raw reflections on the moral dilemma of marketing, the unhealthy patterns often baked into the personal development space, and how the industry subtly preys on people’s insecurities.She shares powerful insights from behind the scenes of entrepreneurship, including conversations with high-level business leaders who are grappling with the same ethical concerns. Kristen explores the difference between building a business from empowerment versus shame, and why she’s committed to creating sustainable, holistic success through her new venture, Sondera.You’ll walk away with a renewed sense of clarity, challenged thinking, and the motivation to pursue growth from a place of wholeness—not hustle. This is a must-listen for anyone who’s tired of burnout, tired of the same old formulas, and ready to rewire success on their own terms.What You'll Learn:Why fast fixes and dopamine-driven purchases keep us stuckThe hidden ways marketing tactics prey on fear and urgencyThe difference between empowered growth and shame-based actionWhy so many people struggle to implement what they’ve learnedKristen’s behind-the-scenes journey in building a truly holistic business modelHow to break the cycle of self-growth shame and finally experience sustainable changeKey Takeaways:Success isn't just about results—it's about how we become in the process.The personal development industry often teaches transformation from a place of lack. It’s time to shift that.You don’t need more strategy. You need better tools for implementation.Buying from panic and shame rarely leads to lasting transformation. Empowered decisions do.🎉 Special Announcement:Kristen is hosting a brand new 3-day event: 🎯 The Success Rewire 🗓️ December 8–10 💸 Just $9This event will help you stop quitting on yourself and finally follow through on the growth you’ve been chasing. No gimmicks. No shame. Just tools that work.Follow @thekristenboss on Instagram for updates and keep an eye on your email.Timestamps:00:00 – Holiday reflections and recent personal losses04:30 – The broken model of hustle-based business building09:20 – A conversation with a high-level entrepreneur on burnout12:45 – The ethical dilemma of scarcity marketing18:40 – The psychology of empowered vs. shame-based purchases23:50 – What Sonera is really about and why it matters27:00 – Announcing the 3-Day Event: The Success Rewire32:00 – Breaking the cycle of self-growth shame35:00 – Final thoughts and invitationConnect with Kristen:Instagram: @thekristenbossWebsite: www.kristenboss.com or www.sonderalife.comIf this episode moved you, inspired you, or made you rethink success—share it on Instagram and tag @thekristenboss. She might just shout you out!
In this insightful and vulnerable episode, Kristen is joined by longtime friend and author Sarah Boyd to unpack the often misunderstood world of nervous system regulation and how chronic stress shows up in parenting, entrepreneurship, and everyday life.They explore how hustle culture isn’t just a mindset—it's often a nervous system coping mechanism, and why high achievers struggle with stillness, rest, and emotional connection. Sarah shares practical tools for recognizing overstimulation, building emotional regulation, and deepening relationships at home—especially for parents who are also business owners.If you've ever felt like you're stuck in "go mode" and can’t seem to slow down without guilt or anxiety, this episode is a must-listen.What You'll Learn:What nervous system dysregulation actually is—and how to spot it in your own lifeWhy high performers often struggle with parenting and connectionHow hustle can be a trauma response masked as productivityThe hidden role of overstimulation in burnout and disconnectionTools for re-regulating your nervous system—especially during transitions between work and family lifeHow entrepreneurs can build deeper emotional awareness and healthier coping strategiesWhy rest might feel unsafe for you—and how to change thatTimestamps:[00:00] Intro and heartfelt reunion with Sarah Boyd[04:00] How Sarah's new book reframes overstimulation and parenting[08:30] The science of stress: what your nervous system is trying to tell you[13:00] What keeps high performers stuck in chronic dysregulation[17:00] Kristen’s personal story of entrepreneurial vigilance and internalized scarcity[22:00] A hard truth: many entrepreneurs are dysregulated and calling it “ADHD”[27:00] The role of parenting in nervous system awareness[30:10] Why entrepreneurs struggle to connect with their kids[35:00] How to move out of “fight or flight” and back into empathy[38:45] Reclaiming rest: learning to downshift your nervous system after work[42:00] Hustle as a flavor of dysregulation—and recovering from it[44:30] Why EQ (emotional intelligence) is the future for our kids[45:36] Final reflections + where to find Sarah’s workAbout Sarah Boyd:Sarah Boyd is a writer, child and adolescent development expert, and founder of the educational company, Resilient Little Hearts, a platform helping parents and children navigate big emotions in a chaotic world. Her book, Turn Down the Noise, helps readers understand the impact of overstimulation on the nervous system and offers practical tools to find calm, especially for parents raising children in the modern age.Follow Sarah:Instagram: @resilientlittlehearts Book: Turn Down the Noise – available now wherever books are soldLearn more about Kristen by heading to her website: www.kristenboss.comCall to Action:Loved this episode?Screenshot it and tag @thekristenboss and
Kristen peels back the glossy layers of the personal development world and gets radically honest about what real growth looks and feels like. Spoiler alert: it’s not always pretty—and it’s definitely not linear.If you've ever thought, “Why am I still dealing with this?” or felt stuck in self-help shame spirals, this conversation is your permission slip to ditch the unrealistic timelines and redefine what growth really means.Kristen dives into:Why consuming personal development content isn’t the same as doing the workThe danger of turning personal growth into a self-shaming toolWhat it means to turn in your “victim card” and reclaim radical responsibilityHow to spot when you're stuck in a pattern vs. truly evolvingThe nature-inspired reminder that nothing in life grows endlessly—and that’s okayPlus, she shares a heartfelt personal reflection about fulfillment, redefining success, and how breaking her own patterns led to unexpected transformation.Whether you’re working on your mindset, relationships, business, or just trying to become the best version of yourself—this episode will meet you where you are.Key Takeaways:Growth is not a straight line—expect spirals, setbacks, and seasons.Awareness without action is a trap. Real change requires implementation.Stop treating yourself like a never-ending project to fix.True growth happens when you love yourself through the process—not once you “arrive.”Fulfillment metrics matter more than performance metrics.Timestamps:00:58 – Welcome back + the truth about "growth drama"02:52 – Consuming vs. integrating personal development04:50 – Turning in your victim card and owning your agency07:34 – The shadow side of self-help culture12:23 – When personal growth turns into self-shaming19:24 – What nature teaches us about healthy growth patterns23:52 – Revisiting old wounds from a new level of awareness27:46 – How Kristen manages her own defaults around hustle30:19 – Why fulfillment > achievement33:21 – A new lens for your lifelong journeyMentioned in This Episode:Join Sondera Signature Membership – Weekly coaching, transformative tools, and deep work to help you break patterns and build a meaningful life. (Special offer ends November 1st—don’t miss it!)Love the podcast? Drop a quick rating and review on Apple or Spotify. It helps more people find the show—and we’d love to shout you out on Instagram. Tag @thekristenboss with a screenshot and your biggest takeaway.
In this powerful solo episode, Kristen dives deep into one of the most essential traits for success and fulfillment—emotional resilience. Far from being a vague buzzword, Kristen unpacks what resilience truly means, why it matters, and—most importantly—how you can measure and grow it.She introduces the Six Pillars of Emotional Resilience, a framework designed to help you navigate discomfort, manage stress, bounce back from setbacks, and lead with more courage and clarity in all areas of life—from business to relationships.Whether you're a business owner, a growth-minded human, or someone who just feels emotionally exhausted from trying to hold it all together, this episode offers the clarity, validation, and practical tools you've been searching for.In This Episode, You’ll Learn:Why personal growth often feels subjective—and how to make it measurableThe difference between “feeling goals” and outcome goalsHow emotional pain registers just like physical pain—and what that means for your nervous systemThe 6 measurable pillars of emotional resilience and how they apply to your lifeHow to shorten your recovery time after setbacks, stop spiraling in shame, and actually take aligned actionThe surprising power of asking for support and why hyper-independence might be silently burning you outThe Six Pillars of Emotional Resilience:Stress Adaptability – Staying emotionally regulated in real-timeCognitive Flexibility – Reframing rigid thinking and embracing nuanceEmotional Recovery Time – Bouncing back from emotional setbacks fasterSelf-Trust & Confidence – Trusting your decisions without needing external validationGrowth Actionability – Taking aligned, consistent action even when it’s hardSocial Support Utilization – Letting others in and asking for help without shamePowerful Quotes:“If we don’t have the tools to handle discomfort, we will always retreat to comfort—end of story.”“Some of you are creating aspirational action plans, betting on a perfect day that doesn’t exist. You need a dumpster day plan.”“We are not meant to do life in isolation. Sometimes, giving someone three minutes of your time can be life-changing.”Timestamps:0:00 – Introduction: What is resilience, really?2:00 – “Feelings goals” vs. outcome goals8:30 – Why discomfort feels like danger to your brain14:00 – Pillar 1: Stress adaptability19:15 – Pillar 2: Cognitive flexibility25:30 – Pillar 3: Emotional recovery time31:30 – Pillar 4: Self-trust and confidence35:00 – Pillar 5: Growth actionability40:00 – Pillar 6: Social support utilization49:00 – Real client wins and emotional resilience growth metrics53:00 – Final encouragement: Be someone who offers three minutesCall to Action:If this episode hit home, send a three-minute message to someone you care about. Let them know they're not a burden and that you’re available to listen. Want to measure your own resilience? Head to the Sondera Membership and take the Emotional Resilience Index: And REMINDER: Kristen is back in the coaching seat! Starting November, we’re offering a new membership tier called the Sondera Signature Membership and it includes LIVE weekly coaching with Kristen. If you’ve ever wanted direct guidance beyond the strategy—this is your moment.Join before November 1st to lock in the special pricing: a...
In this deeply personal and insight-packed solo episode, Kristen shares a powerful reflection on what she calls “dumpster decisions”—those all-or-nothing moves we make when we’re on the brink of burnout or buried in overwhelm. Drawing from her own journey of business pivots, personal healing, and rediscovery, Kristen opens up about how she threw away more than she needed to, only to later return and reclaim what still sparked joy.She walks listeners through the difference between rage cleaning your life and intentionally evaluating what still serves your evolving self. Along the way, she delivers relatable stories, thoughtful metaphors (hello, Marie Kondo and Harry Potter’s phoenix!), and a massive announcement that longtime listeners will love.Spoiler alert: She's officially back in the weekly coaching chair—and you’re invited.What You’ll Hear in This Episode:What “dumpster decisions” are and why we make them during burnoutHow Kristen’s business and personal life were shaped by burnout recoveryThe importance of honoring your evolution without shameHow your nervous system holds the key to better habits, performance, and joyThe birth of Sondera, Kristen’s newest company helping people regulate, realign, and riseA sneak peek into the tools, coaching, and transformation waiting inside her new membershipThe full-circle moment: Kristen’s return to live weekly coaching (and how you can join!)Key Takeaways:Burnout doesn’t always mean burning everything down.Regulating your nervous system is the missing link between knowing what to do and actually doing it.Sometimes, the things you walked away from still belong with you—you just needed space to see it.Sustainable success is rooted in self-awareness, alignment, and nervous system integration.Special Announcement 🎉Kristen is back in the coaching seat! Starting November, we’re offering a new membership tier called the Sondera Signature Membership and it includes LIVE weekly coaching with Kristen. If you’ve ever wanted direct guidance beyond the strategy—this is your moment.Join before November 1st to lock in the special pricing: Sondera Signature MembershipJust want the DIY Sondera Membership? Click here! Timestamps:00:00 – Welcome + a teaser about a big reveal02:00 – Rage cleaning, burnout, and personal “dumpster decisions”06:30 – The Marie Kondo method for life clarity11:00 – When everything you built no longer fits14:00 – The myth of business vs. life separation20:00 – The real gap: strategy vs. nervous system regulation27:00 – The story behind Sonder Era and what it helps people do34:00 – A return to coaching & why Kristen is more lit up than ever39:00 – Final encouragements + how to join before November 1st
Episode OverviewIn this powerful episode, Kristen explores a deeper layer of hustle culture—one most people never identify: hustle as a survival response. Drawing from personal experiences, trauma-informed coaching, and neuroscience, she unpacks how our nervous systems are often running the show without us even realizing it.You’ll learn why high-performers hit burnout despite consuming all the right strategies, and how unaddressed stress patterns are sabotaging our leadership, productivity, and peace. Kristen also introduces the four main survival responses (fight, flight, freeze, and fawn) and how they show up in real life, business, parenting, and more.Whether you feel stuck in cycles of burnout, perfectionism, or chronic overworking—this episode will help you understand the real driver behind those patterns and how to finally change them.What You'll Learn in This EpisodeWhy hustle is often a survival strategy, not a strategy for successThe neuroscience behind why we freeze, overwork, or people-please under stressHow early childhood experiences shaped your default stress responseThe difference between reaction and response—and why it mattersWhy information alone isn’t enough: the gap between knowledge and actionHow to begin regulating your nervous system in real-timeTimestamps00:00 – Intro: Life as a sideline sports mom02:00 – Recapping the three-part healing series03:30 – The survival response hidden inside hustle culture04:35 – Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs and how it shows up in business05:28 – The real reason we stay stuck in reactivity loops06:35 – Looking for security in external outcomes (and why it backfires)07:30 – Childhood experiences that shaped our nervous systems08:20 – Example: scarcity, chaos, and “fighting for the meat”10:00 – Why children default to shame without external narration11:00 – How childhood survival strategies bleed into adulthood12:00 – What your frontal lobe does—and why it goes offline under stress13:00 – The “infobesity epidemic” and why personal development isn’t working14:50 – The two speeds we operate in: 0 or 100 mph15:45 – Nervous system regulation is the real key to high performance16:30 – What triggers actually feel like in the body (even online)17:48 – Our brain’s obsession with certainty and black-and-white thinking19:00 – One grounding question to ask when you’re spiraling20:25 – Kristen’s own journey with chronic dysregulation and burnout21:27 – The four major nervous system stress responses explained22:30 – Fight: control as a form of safety23:34 – Freeze: perfectionism, overthinking, and inability to start24:30 – Fawn: people-pleasing as emotional self-preservation25:45 – How to create safety for others with different responses26:20 – Social media and collective dysregulation27:15 – Rear lobe vs. frontal lobe thinking28:00 – From reaction to conscious response: the real work29:10 – One simple regulation tool to start using today30:00 – Regulating ≠ never being triggered—it’s about knowing what to do31:00 – Why this conversation is the future of personal development32:03 – Take the new stress type quiz + download the full 26-page reportKey TakeawaysMost people are unknowingly operating from survival mode every dayYour nervous system is either helping or hijacking your decision-makingHigh performers are often stuck in hustle loops not from laziness, but from dysregulationTrue transformation doesn’t happen from learning more—it happens when we can apply what we know, and...
Episode OverviewIn the final installment of her vulnerable three-part series, Kristen continues to unpack the emotional, spiritual, and professional journey she’s been on over the past year. Picking up where she left off—at rock bottom—Kristen shares what happened after taking radical responsibility for her actions and stepping away from the business that made her a household name in social selling.She explores the deep healing work she’s done through therapy, a transformational retreat, and a season of radical stillness...before realizing that healing often intensifies when we start building again. Kristen discusses the creation of Sondera, her new company focused on nervous system regulation, and how the entrepreneurial process is offering her the most humbling and redemptive growth of all.This is not a polished comeback. This is the messy middle—where ego dies, faith grows, and identity is rebuilt.What You'll Learn in This EpisodeWhy healing often accelerates in the process of building something newHow nervous system dysregulation can sabotage successThe dangers of attaching self-worth to productivity and platformWhy Kristen walked away from a wildly successful businessThe origin story of Sondera and what it’s really aboutWhy your internal safety matters more than external securityKey TakeawaysHealing is not linear. Kristen thought peace would come from stillness. But it came through risk, exposure, and being seen in a new way.Burnout is more than overwork. Chronic nervous system dysregulation—not just hours worked—was what broke Kristen down.Success doesn’t mean alignment. Kristen shares how she knew she was out of alignment even though her business was thriving on the surface.Redemption is found in transparency. Instead of disappearing and re-emerging perfectly polished, Kristen invites her audience into the real-time journey.Your body tells the truth. Learning how her stress response (flight) controlled her behavior helped her take back agency and make healthier decisions.Timestamps 00:00 – Intro: “I see you with brand new eyes.” 01:20 – Recapping Part 2: Hitting bottom and coming home 03:00 – The power of bringing your story into the light 05:00 – Deep therapy and emotional healing at Onsite 06:15 – Feeling disillusioned with her former business model 07:10 – Launching “Beyond the Business” coaching calls 08:00 – The agonizing decision to shut down her signature programs 09:45 – Stewarding success well in seasons of plenty 11:00 – Letting go of external validation and facing public perception 12:30 – The fantasy of a “quiet, offline life” vs. the call to rebuild 15:00 – Discovering nervous system regulation as the missing link 17:00 – Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn: how they show up in your business 20:00 – Why she mistook her chronic stress for ambition 23:30 – Understanding burnout through the lens of dysregulation 25:10 – Building Sondera: from idea to messy execution 26:30 – Why healing happened through building, not before it 29:00 – Learning to express vulnerability to her husband 31:00 – Letting go of ego, hustle, and performance-driven identity 33:00 – Creating Sondera as a redemptive act 34:30 – Reconnecting with her story and reclaiming her voice 36:00 – An invitation to listeners: look for the growth in your own build 39:00 – Next up: nervous system regulation and what it means in daily lifeResources & MentionsKristen’s New Company: a...
Episode Overview:In this raw and unfiltered episode, Kristen shares one of the most vulnerable moments of her life—the unraveling of her personal identity, the toxicity of success addiction, and the deeply human consequences of building self-worth entirely around a business. This is the second part of her behind-the-scenes story, and it’s not easy listening. Trigger warning: This episode discusses topics such as suicidal ideation, addiction, emotional breakdown, and marital strain.Through heartbreak, pain, and brutal self-awareness, Kristen details how she reached her breaking point and the darkness that ultimately led to her healing journey. She explores what it means to lose yourself in the pursuit of achievement, the false safety of validation through external success, and the courage it takes to ask for help and be seen in your most broken state.This is not just an episode—it’s a lifeline for anyone who has ever felt like they were falling apart behind the scenes.Timestamps:00:03 – Welcome + Important trigger warning01:27 – The weight of sharing hard stories02:19 – Ignoring the warning signs and pushing through pain04:35 – The season of invincibility and missing the check engine light05:28 – How validation addiction builds unnoticed07:34 – Business as a dopamine supplier and feedback loop09:31 – “Am I loved? Am I safe? Do I matter?” – Using business to answer soul questions11:46 – When the business couldn’t answer anymore14:44 – The fragile sense of self and the beginning of the breakdown17:11 – Escaping with fiction, fantasy, and avoidance19:26 – When you justify the escape by saying “I’m not hurting anyone”21:33 – Traveling constantly and still feeling empty23:49 – Using wealth to numb pain and buy happiness26:24 – The fallout: A marriage crisis and being found out28:48 – The darkest 72 hours30:45 – Keynotes, private jets, and suicidal thoughts33:44 – The people who said “Come home”37:19 – The return: facing the consequences and fighting to rebuild41:02 – Why this wasn't the end, but the beginning43:19 – Starting a 12-step recovery program45:27 – First virtual meeting in a hotel robe—true humility48:17 – Radical grace, empathy, and the gift of being chosen despite the mess50:11 – A call for listeners to let others inKey Takeaways:Success addiction can look like high performance, but it often hides profound inner unrest.Business cannot answer the deepest questions of identity, love, safety, and belonging.Escapism—whether through work, reading, shopping, or performance—can quietly become destructive.Healing begins with brutal honesty, surrender, and letting people in.True freedom starts when you’re willing to be seen and loved at your lowest.Call to Action:If today’s episode resonated with you, don’t keep it to yourself.Screenshot and share it on Instagram, tag @thekristenboss so we can shout you out.Leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to help others discover this life-changing conversation.Visit www.kristenboss.com for coaching programs, resources, and support.Resources Mentioned:Episode: “2:00 AM Business Thoughts” – For deeper insight on Kristen’s launch-driven business model and dopamine...
In this raw and revealing episode, Kristen begins a powerful three-part series chronicling the rise, fall, and healing that reshaped everything she thought she knew about success. This first installment focuses on the grind—how she built a thriving, multi-seven-figure business from scratch—and the glory—what it felt like to be on top of the mountain.But beneath the surface of her seemingly unstoppable growth, Kristen candidly shares how deep-rooted scarcity, people-pleasing, and identity wounds quietly shaped her relationship with business. Listeners are invited into the hidden side of success: panic attacks, over-identification with validation, and the psychological fallout of rapid growth.Whether you're building something new or wondering what happens after you "make it," this episode offers a cautionary tale with depth, compassion, and honesty.Timestamps:00:00 – Intro: Behind the scenes of a “lean startup” and why Kristen is sharing this story now02:30 – A message to listeners in all seasons: grit, glory, and deferred hope04:50 – The illusion of control and invincibility in the winning season07:12 – Kristen’s early days: scarcity, student debt, and starting over09:38 – The “right offer at the right time”: how her business exploded overnight12:03 – Panic attacks and sudden success: when abundance feels like danger14:24 – The psychological cost of scaling faster than she could process16:02 – How scarcity kept driving her, even in the midst of abundance18:22 – Discovering “Sudden Wealth Syndrome” and rethinking trauma20:48 – The dopamine loop of validation, launches, and performance22:59 – The danger of feeling untouchable during a season of success25:20 – Childhood wounds and the business of belonging27:43 – Feeling like a product: how proximity and keynotes reinforced a false self29:46 – Two internal narratives that quietly drove dysfunction in her business32:13 – A forced detox from validation and income highs34:34 – A final reflection on the parts of her that were running the show36:30 – What Kristen learned from watching someone else’s public fall37:45 – A preview of Part 2: the implosion, the warning signs, and the unravelingSubscribe & Share:If this episode resonated with you, take a screenshot, tag Kristen on Instagram (@thekristenboss), and share what stood out. And don’t forget to leave a rating and review — it helps more listeners find the show.Follow Kristen on Instagram @thekristenboss
Episode Summary:In her first solo episode in nearly a year, Kristen Boss returns to the mic to share why she stepped away from her podcast, the healing journey that followed, and what led her to rebuild — not just a brand, but a new, more authentic way of showing up in business and life.Kristen reflects on the hidden burnout that came not from overworking, but from being out of alignment with her message and identity. She vulnerably shares how scaling a personal brand accidentally led to commoditizing herself - and how that impacted her sense of self-worth, joy, and purpose.This episode is raw, honest, and the beginning of a new chapter. Whether you’re in a winning season or a wilderness one, Kristen invites you to reflect, reset, and reconsider what success really means.Timestamps:00:00 – The return: why Kristen is back behind the mic01:20 – Taking a break: the original pivot and unanticipated detour02:10 – The healing journey: paint by numbers and quiet reflection03:45 – The itch to build again and what it uncovered05:16 – Realizing she commoditized herself and lost alignment06:52 – How scaling a personal brand came with unintended costs08:32 – The evolving message and the trap of being the product10:55 – Burnout from misalignment — not overwork12:43 – The quiet agreements we make to avoid pain13:32 – Swinging too far: hiding from her personal brand15:32 – From aspiration to authenticity — choosing to be relatable16:24 – Why she waited to tell the full story18:10 – The danger of leading with success instead of story19:12 – You’re never above anything — Kristen’s cautionary tale20:09 – How she still fell into hustle… after writing a book on it21:10 – The work of becoming: recovering from hustle culture22:02 – What's next: the implosion, the pivot, and the lessons23:44 – The Emerald City myth: arriving and still feeling empty25:42 – Recommitting to entrepreneurship — but doing it differently26:37 – A learning season, not a winning one — and why that matters27:28 – Warning signs she ignored and the new path forwardKey Themes:Why success without alignment leads to burnoutThe hidden cost of building a personal brand without boundariesWhat it means to pivot with integrity and without a planWhy healing must precede buildingRecovering from hustle… againSubscribe & Share:If this episode resonated with you, take a screenshot, tag Kristen on Instagram (@thekristenboss), and share what stood out. And don’t forget to leave a rating and review — it helps more listeners find the show.
Kristen knows the weight of closing a chapter. It’s not just an end, but a moment to honor everything that chapter held: the growth, the connections, and the work that shaped not only her journey but the lives of those who shared it.This is a bittersweet space to stand in, filled with gratitude for what was and the ache of saying goodbye. Kristen believes in giving each chapter a good funeral, not as a sign of loss but as a celebration of the story it tells. Too often, people shy away from endings, afraid of the uncertainty they bring. They talk themselves out of dreaming bigger or reaching for more, fearing the disappointment of things not going as planned. But Kristen sees it differently.This chapter isn’t closing because it failed or faltered. It’s closing to make space for the next one to unfold—a bittersweet goodbye, filled with deep reflection and forward hope.Kristen reminds us that goodbyes are part of the process, and each one shapes what comes next. This is not the end of the story, just a shift, a moment to pause, celebrate, and step into what’s waiting on the other side.To every listener who tuned in, shared an episode, or found a piece of themselves in these stories—thank you. Your presence has made this chapter unforgettable.
If you’ve ever wondered why some people effortlessly rise to success while others feel stuck and frustrated, this is your moment. On Monday, December 30th, Kristen is hosting the final live training of the year—an event unlike any other.Kristen isn’t holding anything back. She’ll share the patterns and practices she’s observed, laying out practical steps to help you get unstuck and move forward. No fluff, no guesswork—just a clear breakdown of what works and why.If you’ve ever asked yourself, Why can’t I create the results I want?, this training is for you. It’s completely free, and all you need to do is register.End 2024 with a new perspective and a game plan for real progress in your business. This is more than just another training—it’s an opportunity to get the clarity and tools you’ve been looking for.Save your spot now and join Kristen on Monday, December 30th. This is your moment to take the first step toward lasting success.Register for the Secrets to Success final training here: kristenboss.com/the-final-training
Kristen continues the conversation from last week, pulling back the curtain on her own pivot and exploring why making a change, even when it feels necessary, can be so terrifying. She unpacks why growth often feels like loss, why we cling to the familiar, and how the fear of letting go keeps us stuck in places we’ve outgrown.Let’s look at a few highlights:Growth and grief often go hand in hand—letting go of what’s familiar can feel like a loss, even when we know it’s time for something new.We often hold on to what we’ve already invested in, whether it’s a belief, a job, or a relationship, because the fear of abandoning that energy feels overwhelming.The fear of inconsistency or betraying others can make us shrink ourselves to protect the peace, causing us to stay in situations that no longer align with our growth.Kristen highlights that the discomfort we feel around growth is often a signal of progress. The fear of pivoting is normal, but it’s also a sign that we’re standing at the edge of something bigger. The real risk isn’t in the change itself, but in staying where we are, avoiding discomfort, and missing out on what’s possible. Pivoting takes courage—and that’s exactly what we need to move forward.Follow Kristen on Instagram @thekristenboss If you are ready to learn lead generation and cold market strategies to grow your network marketing business, get on The Social Selling Academy waitlist here: https://www.kristenboss.com/ssa-pod
It’s been a while since Kristen has given an update, and a lot has changed. She’s usually the one sharing stories of client successes and business wins, but today, she’s turning the focus inward. The past year has been a rollercoaster of highs and lows, forcing her to confront burnout, grapple with a loss of identity, and ultimately make a massive pivot.Kristen began noticing changes in her business long before she was ready to acknowledge them. She was seeing incredible transformations with her clients—families healing, individuals gaining clarity. It was the kind of impact she had dreamed of making. Yet, she found herself questioning, “Is this enough? What is this doing for my business?”What started as a quiet discomfort grew into full-blown burnout—a complete breakdown she never saw coming. For a while, Kristen did what most of us do—she kept going, pretending everything was fine. She didn’t want anyone to see that she was struggling. This pivot isn’t just about business; it’s personal. Kristen realized that the burnout, the breakdown, was her body’s way of telling her she was living out of alignment. She started focusing on her mental health, her family, and her own wellbeing. She’s learning to redefine success. If you’re feeling that pull, that sense that something needs to change, you’re not alone. Kristen’s journey is proof that it’s okay to pivot, to step back, and to realign with what truly matters. Stay tuned for part two. Follow Kristen on Instagram @thekristenboss If you are ready to learn lead generation and cold market strategies to grow your network marketing business, get on The Social Selling Academy waitlist here: https://www.kristenboss.com/ssa-pod
In the social selling industry, consistency is often the deciding factor between success and struggle. Yet, many sellers find themselves caught in a cycle of reactive habits, only springing into action during a crisis.In a recent coaching session with some of her top six and seven-figure earners, Kristen unpacked these challenges and provided actionable insights to help sellers overcome the obstacles to consistency and build a thriving business.Let’s look at a few highlights:Kristen highlighted why many sellers struggle to stay consistent, noting the tendency to only take action during a crisis, which creates a cycle of unhealthy momentum.She discussed how both activity and inactivity in this business accumulate over time, with delayed results that make it easy to fall into complacency.The conversation also covered the importance of creating and maintaining momentum, especially during sprints, and how sometimes your team needs that extra push to keep moving forward.Consistency in social selling isn't just about reacting when problems show up—it's about creating and maintaining habits that drive ongoing success. Kristen’s coaching session showed that real success comes from being proactive, simplifying your approach, and keeping your team engaged. Ask yourself what success looks like for you right now and align your actions with that vision.Discover transformative strategies for network marketers in our exclusive 90-day membership and online course. Join the waitlist now to secure your spot and learn proven methods to acquire new customers and achieve consistent income growth. Join the hub: http://kristenboss.com/thehub-podIf you are ready to learn lead generation and cold market strategies, get on The Social Selling Academy waitlist here: https://www.kristenboss.com/ssa-podJoin the Content to Conversations 7 Day Challenge for Social Sellers now and learn how to post to your followers to create awareness, curiosity, and desire---which will lead to more conversations. Join today and start immediately. See you there!Thanks for listening! Do you have a question about network marketing? Kristen can help! Drop your question here, and she just might answer it live on the podcast: https:/Kristenboss.com/question
The Goddess Tribe
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Hannah Zimmerman
o wow!!! I had crazy resistance in 2020. I was blind for three months. had my first C-section on the last baby and then a mysterious illness (I manage it now) in 2021. I am finally seeing light at the end of the tunnel. ♥️
Hannah Zimmerman
I definitely can't stand that word "hustle".